JustPearlyThings - April 30, 2023


The Panel Was Asked The Weirdest Question


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

218.30592

Word count

1,951

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

6

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode we talk about emotions and how to deal with them in our society. We discuss the importance of emotional expression and how it can help us deal with our emotions in a healthy way. We also talk about emotional expression in relationships and what it means to be a masculine man.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 what percent what percent of women are really like learning how like let's just 1.00
00:00:03.480 say cook because that like that's something that men tend to like yeah 1.00
00:00:06.960 yeah you want a girl who can make you a home cooked meal what percent of women are saying you 1.00
00:00:10.680 know what I'm gonna really learn how to like cook how to I'm gonna spend time
00:00:15.720 with married couples to see what that girl's doing right I think every girl 1.00
00:00:20.340 can be submissive to the right guy I think a girl could learn to cook if she's 1.00
00:00:23.880 in love with the guy yeah I think so too
00:00:27.000 no I think there's some that are too far gone but yeah some are too far gone but
00:00:33.360 if a girl's not really feeding the guy she'll be submissive with lunch you want to 1.00
00:00:36.420 do stuff for him like cook yeah you know do like his laundry no and I hear this all
00:00:40.740 the time from girls it's like I gave him everything I did too much I did so much
00:00:44.400 but it's kind of sad because it's like a lot of times when that happens like
00:00:48.220 they'll make the men of the future pay for the mistakes of their past yeah so
00:00:51.540 it's like like like oh I gave everything to him so I can't give everything to the
00:00:55.000 next guy it's like well what did he do that tends to happen in a lot of
00:00:58.900 relationships with people the girls being heartbroken from previous and they
00:01:04.260 choose to bring that same energy into the new one and then not realize their
00:01:08.320 trauma from the loss instead of learning from it yeah letting it go yeah but again
00:01:13.580 this is just in society these people don't want to let things go yeah and come
00:01:17.560 back neutral because a therapy man therapy plays a big part man everyone
00:01:21.460 everyone everyone like I feel that society meets everyone feel they need a
00:01:24.820 therapist Jones Angie to heal when that jump and a therapy is important don't get me
00:01:29.500 wrong but I feel in certain situations you can heal alone and life can teach you
00:01:34.040 certain things I'm saying that's what I'm saying and it comes back to like when he
00:01:37.840 was talking about emotions yeah like I've been a I'll be real up it out there like I've been a
00:01:42.580 person yeah all my life like man's just been angry for what reason I don't know
00:01:47.260 man because my dad weren't around might be because how things were going back in
00:01:51.580 the day or how I grew up with air I was in but I realized being not not saying I
00:01:56.980 should just be upset and be crying all the time on and I but when I did cry from
00:02:02.080 being the angry person I was it released so much negative it made me feel more like raw
00:02:09.160 yeah I can breathe you know I'm saying and that's why I said men don't cry but
00:02:14.380 they don't realize how much is boiling up inside but you leveled up though after
00:02:17.540 that in it you learn from a situation that's the problem though that's what I
00:02:20.860 know why I understand myself do I mean you've got to know yourself yeah Bush
00:02:25.060 knows himself and see how where he's coming from what he's talking about is in
00:02:28.480 a different realm do you get me but I get it because over the years you've had to
00:02:32.920 teach yourself these things don't you think it's better men express their
00:02:48.360 emotions to other men as opposed to something like I just don't think women 1.00
00:02:52.560 are built from a specific person I was just saying in general in life but don't
00:02:57.780 get upset and don't let it out you're gonna keep it in well and bottling it up
00:03:02.040 turns into anger sometimes yeah well I'm not saying never cry but I just you know
00:03:07.440 it's like when we think of our strong like the strongest most masculine men like
00:03:11.700 the archetypes like rock like a rocky Balboa I've actually never seen the movie
00:03:16.020 but I know he's like a masculine arc it was he crying in the movie we've been this is
00:03:21.000 what the site is done so the programming is about like it's there to make you
00:03:25.880 think that oh if he does that it means is we are if he does did but we all have
00:03:29.620 emotions we have feelings I mean and there's gonna be a time in life where we
00:03:32.940 were gonna shed a tear or to or talk about something very I think society's gone the
00:03:37.500 other way though I think society is like encouraging men to cry more and be more 0.91
00:03:41.520 emotion well no what I'm seeing no yeah I'm seeing man they're trying to push it they
00:03:45.840 are pushing that most pushing that most agenda way too much I think it's probably what I'm what
00:03:50.220 I'm seeing then and that's why that's why you know there's a whole agenda of men being soft
00:03:53.820 and like way too soft and not having the work effort like a guy had like 20 30 years ago
00:03:59.100 wait I know I can speak to my uncles and dad and they'll tell me like oh that people generation 1.00
00:04:04.020 are lazy like they haven't got no work effort no drive like you can't even do this basic job
00:04:09.260 you know what I'm saying too the grinding was more harder back then than now yeah
00:04:12.860 yeah I mean it's this media it is it's always going to come back to social media yeah I mean
00:04:17.420 because that is what it is but I personally see the youths they're not balling because they're
00:04:21.740 always on crud but it just might be just the circle of what I see you know I mean I don't know I don't
00:04:27.020 look into the statistics and the numbers they turn the upset into anger yeah I see more violence yeah
00:04:34.140 then upset it is yeah I see more people crying because the kids are dead then then man balling
00:04:39.900 and being more emotional and feminine is it so I don't I don't know maybe the area I grew up in or
00:04:45.020 where I'm in is why I'm seeing these things because I really don't know the research side of it's gone
00:04:49.980 feminine I haven't clocked that yet I think it's gone way too feminine man definitely way too much for 0.91
00:04:54.380 I haven't seen that yeah so even the emotions of getting angry in years and it's still emotions
00:05:01.340 you know and if it's disproportional and it's not that cool for you know then it's still it's still
00:05:07.420 emotions and whether you're crying you know or whether you're screaming with happiness and joy
00:05:12.220 you know it's and it's still emotions you know and it's that all I'm saying is just kind of have
00:05:17.100 it in a balance and be able to manage the situation you know and over the years that's what I had to do
00:05:21.260 yeah and I was keeping I always said that when I went and done anger management when I was at school
00:05:26.460 I realized that why am I always angry I don't even want to be angry and I'm angry you get me but
00:05:31.740 it's just I was always I can always snap because I was a loose screw like that I just didn't think
00:05:36.300 what to piss me off but as the years have gone on and I've grown up to deal with my emotions so like
00:05:41.260 if something upsets me I'll go into a room quietly and have my deal with my shit but then I'll come back
00:05:47.020 because who you saw but you learn from that lesson yeah I feel a lot of guys get into a deep hole they
00:05:54.220 don't learn from that no you know what I'm saying they cry and then it's like they get worse and
00:05:57.660 they cry and they get worse and they feel their lives over and they think do you know what yeah
00:06:00.700 that's depression that's that's what I'm trying to say but now you're in another place but that's
00:06:04.700 what that's what's going on though yeah that's what's going on with mental health it's about it
00:06:08.060 I think I'm not a guru guy or no fucking um what are they called again the the therapist people then
00:06:14.380 but what I will say from my point of view with how I dealt with that situation because I was always
00:06:19.980 on a vex team um the the crying helped me in a way where it made me understand that like what I'm
00:06:26.700 crying about and why I'm crying and who I cry around do you get me that I don't cry around no any
00:06:31.980 person but like I'm crying around my circle and crying with people who love me that's going to
00:06:36.220 control the emotions yeah see what I'm saying so I've learned a way of how to do with it instead
00:06:40.540 of just keeping it all bowled up because I can touch road and if that's bowled up blood it's peak
00:06:45.020 yeah it's big but you know what I mean you've learned to control your emotions
00:06:48.860 again you learn food for experience yeah that's what I'm saying and I hear what you man are saying
00:06:53.020 when you're saying the crying too much can make can look a bit like my girl saying it's a weakling
00:06:57.340 I don't think you're strong but that's because that brothers let it get on tops do you understand
00:07:02.060 there's a level of barling and who you're crying around and what how you're carrying yourself do
00:07:07.020 I mean you can cry and be on the floor but that's what you said you just said something very important
00:07:10.700 you got to cry around certain people that you know that love you that's going to be have your
00:07:13.660 best interest a lot of guys won't cry around and they'll laugh at you won't cry around yeah because
00:07:18.860 exactly because they're going to look at that and think oh yeah they're used to manipulate you
00:07:22.700 someone submitted a question for the guys um if a random woman accused your dad of grape
00:07:29.180 would he be okay mine would definitely
00:07:37.340 that's a wild wild wild wild wild question to ask me because do you mean would he be okay the
00:07:43.180 accusation yeah with the idea no like would he be mentally okay I don't know why he asked that
00:07:46.860 I don't know it's a good question but again it's again it's controlling emotion again if you
00:07:52.220 again it comes to knowing yourself if you know yourself I can speak for my dad he's very
00:07:57.820 set to set in a way and he knows again if he knows he hasn't raped someone yes he's going to be
00:08:03.180 okay great great great great great yeah yeah that's why I didn't want to say the words don't talk to
00:08:18.300 you guys answer with your dad oh yeah I think I think it'll be okay as well I think because
00:08:21.740 of my dad's traditional so I think it's like you have traditional beliefs core values you're strong
00:08:25.740 minded you know I let some any random person what they're going to say affect you so I think it'll be
00:08:30.460 different if it's someone like you know maybe mid-30s or younger or something that'll be different
00:08:36.940 okay um I'm gonna read super chats really quick I think you know I was just banned on tick tock and
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