JustPearlyThings - The Real PROBLEMS With RELATIONSHIPS

00:00:00.000 I actually agree with him

00:00:02.140 Because women leave more 1.00

00:00:03.220 We leave like 80% of the time

00:00:04.640 I don't mean leaving

00:00:05.540 I just mean that a man

00:00:06.880 Have you not had boyfriends

00:00:08.420 That now you look back

00:00:09.600 And you think

00:00:10.000 Actually I thought

00:00:11.340 I broke up with him

00:00:12.200 But he was never

00:00:14.120 Going to marry me 0.98

00:00:14.860 You weren't

00:00:15.260 You weren't

00:00:15.780 You weren't his girlfriend 1.00

00:00:16.680 You just learned that

00:00:17.520 They weren't your boyfriend

00:00:18.820 Oh

00:00:19.320 You know what I mean

00:00:21.540 What do you mean

00:00:22.040 No but what

00:00:22.440 Well it's like

00:00:23.480 If a woman is giving

00:00:24.600 I'm like oh we're dating

00:00:25.340 But it's like

00:00:25.860 Well are you dating

00:00:26.740 Or are you

00:00:27.340 Right

00:00:27.700 No I've only ever had

00:00:28.720 Like relationship

00:00:29.480 Well I've had a situationship

00:00:30.800 But you know

00:00:31.140 What I mean is

00:00:32.300 You might think

00:00:34.560 As a girl

00:00:35.140 That you're dating this guy

00:00:36.360 And you may even

00:00:37.140 Live together

00:00:37.660 But that still doesn't mean

00:00:40.700 He has any intention

00:00:41.760 Of actually marrying you

00:00:43.220 And you don't know that

00:00:44.260 So has that happened to you

00:00:45.720 Not

00:00:47.180 Like the dating someone

00:00:49.200 For a long time

00:00:49.880 And he had no intention

00:00:50.560 I've had several relationships

00:00:51.820 That now I look back

00:00:53.900 I think actually

00:00:54.600 That was never going anywhere

00:00:56.140 Either I always thought

00:00:57.340 It was me deciding that

00:00:58.960 But then you think

00:00:59.540 Actually he never

00:01:00.920 Was going to propose

00:01:01.640 It was time wasting

00:01:02.860 Men can waste time 1.00

00:01:03.700 Did he end up

00:01:05.040 Like marrying someone else

00:01:06.020 Right after

00:01:06.580 Or did they never get married

00:01:07.840 A couple of my exes

00:01:09.740 I think are married

00:01:10.320 Yeah

00:01:10.580 Oh

00:01:10.860 Because sometimes

00:01:12.680 I think it's like

00:01:13.340 Girls will try to make 1.00

00:01:14.380 A guy that doesn't want 0.99

00:01:15.300 To be a husband

00:01:15.880 A husband

00:01:16.380 Yeah

00:01:16.760 I mean he's just not a husband

00:01:18.160 So I was just curious

00:01:18.920 If the guys

00:01:19.420 Were they not husbands

00:01:20.460 Or like they were never

00:01:21.220 Going to marry you 0.98

00:01:21.940 To me

00:01:22.460 They weren't

00:01:23.080 I don't actually think

00:01:24.220 They were husbands

00:01:25.020 I wasn't happy

00:01:26.160 But they may well be now

00:01:28.580 This was obviously

00:01:29.300 I'm 35

00:01:29.900 This was in my 20s

00:01:31.260 Early 20s

00:01:32.580 I think that

00:01:36.440 Women date potential 0.97

00:01:37.520 So me dating someone

00:01:38.780 At my own age

00:01:39.580 At that point

00:01:40.180 Might have been the problem

00:01:41.640 I've not really

00:01:43.180 Dated older

00:01:44.040 I've not really

00:01:44.760 I've been a bit weird

00:01:46.060 About it

00:01:46.440 But actually

00:01:46.980 Maybe that's a better idea

00:01:48.200 Not now

00:01:49.220 My fiance's younger

00:01:50.920 But I'm just saying

00:01:53.320 That

00:01:53.680 I've lost my

00:01:56.020 Trying to feel

00:01:56.840 Do you know

00:01:57.180 If a guy

00:01:57.660 Doesn't get married

00:01:58.380 After the age of 35

00:01:59.440 He only has a 15% chance

00:02:01.000 Of ever getting married

00:02:01.740 Isn't that crazy

00:02:02.560 That is not

00:02:03.260 For women

00:02:04.780 It's like 0%

00:02:05.980 Oh wow

00:02:06.480 I think

00:02:06.960 What is it

00:02:07.340 If a woman 0.96

00:02:08.080 Doesn't have a child

00:02:09.380 By 35

00:02:10.200 The chances of her

00:02:11.080 Having a child

00:02:11.640 Drop to about 0

00:02:12.480 Well if she's single 0.61

00:02:13.360 By 30

00:02:13.980 The chance of her

00:02:15.040 If she's single

00:02:16.160 At 30

00:02:16.560 The chance of her

00:02:17.220 Ever having like

00:02:18.080 A kid

00:02:18.440 Drops below 50%

00:02:19.880 So you're like

00:02:20.420 She's more likely 0.98

00:02:21.080 To not have a kid

00:02:21.800 Than have one

00:02:22.320 What does that tell you

00:02:22.900 About sexual market value

00:02:23.820 Of a woman

00:02:24.140 That's a scary statistic

00:02:25.260 Right

00:02:25.540 That's a harsh reality

00:02:26.760 For me

00:02:27.100 I'm getting married

00:02:27.680 I would like to have kids

00:02:28.660 My partner would like

00:02:29.360 To have kids

00:02:29.820 But I am 35

00:02:30.700 And the chances

00:02:31.660 And I think

00:02:32.460 That should be taught

00:02:33.100 To girls

00:02:34.820 Because at the moment

00:02:36.060 You see a lot of celebrities

00:02:37.020 They've paid for IVF

00:02:38.600 They've had their expos

00:02:39.180 And they're doing it older

00:02:40.260 But they've got millions

00:02:41.520 Of pounds

00:02:41.940 To achieve things

00:02:42.960 That isn't actually

00:02:43.580 Easy to achieve

00:02:44.380 In the real world

00:02:45.980 What do you wish

00:02:46.680 You knew at 25

00:02:47.580 Not to date anybody

00:02:49.780 For their potential

00:02:51.240 Because the chances

00:02:52.160 Of them fulfilling

00:02:53.800 That potential

00:02:54.340 Are quite slim

00:02:55.180 That actually

00:02:56.620 A man who is

00:02:57.400 A go-getter

00:02:57.940 A man that is 0.75

00:02:58.560 A hard worker

00:02:59.220 Driven

00:03:00.000 They already are

00:03:01.020 And it's not going

00:03:01.680 To come from me

00:03:02.380 Pushing them

00:03:03.080 They already are

00:03:04.080 That person

00:03:04.620 And then

00:03:05.500 Yeah

00:03:05.980 Would you say

00:03:06.680 You dated more

00:03:07.240 For like looks

00:03:07.960 In your 20s

00:03:08.720 Not based on my

00:03:11.120 Exes no

00:03:11.940 But I do think

00:03:13.640 That that's what

00:03:15.540 You look for

00:03:16.120 Definitely

00:03:16.620 But I've

00:03:18.720 I've

00:03:20.100 Sort of

00:03:21.740 Oh sorry

00:03:23.380 Me

00:03:24.140 This way

00:03:25.960 Sorry it's because

00:03:27.140 I'm looking at

00:03:27.620 Pearl that's why

00:03:28.300 Oh goodness me

00:03:31.540 I've lost where

00:03:33.520 I was again

00:03:34.020 I asked if you

00:03:34.740 You dated for looks

00:03:36.240 In your 20s

00:03:37.520 Yeah

00:03:37.800 Not based on my

00:03:38.720 Exes no

00:03:39.300 But I do think

00:03:40.200 That

00:03:40.680 Charisma I'd say

00:03:43.220 I went for

00:03:44.340 The funny one

00:03:45.420 The loud one

00:03:46.080 The confident one

00:03:46.980 You know

00:03:47.340 They weren't always

00:03:48.260 The best looking one

00:03:48.980 But

00:03:49.240 But I think

00:03:50.520 That that comes off

00:03:51.240 As like a masculinity

00:03:52.120 In a way

00:03:53.180 So I think

00:03:54.040 That's what I was

00:03:54.540 Attracted to

00:03:55.180 And then I'd get

00:03:56.860 In the relationship

00:03:57.380 And realize actually

00:03:58.180 They weren't doing

00:03:58.920 Anything else

00:03:59.680 And I still

00:04:00.800 You're hooked

00:04:01.280 So you can't

00:04:02.080 They had a lot

00:04:02.840 Of practice

00:04:03.380 To get that funny

00:04:04.340 They had a lot

00:04:04.780 Of free time

00:04:05.400 Exactly

00:04:06.140 Talk to women

00:04:07.260 Yeah yeah yeah

00:04:07.920 Okay

00:04:09.320 What did you think

00:04:10.120 Of the body count

00:04:10.840 When is high value

00:04:12.480 Off the table

00:04:13.160 For a woman

00:04:13.700 I think it is

00:04:15.060 Slightly age related

00:04:16.820 As well

00:04:17.280 I think

00:04:18.980 That if I had

00:04:19.800 A kid or a niece

00:04:20.740 Or I do have a niece

00:04:21.560 I would say

00:04:22.100 Just hold on to

00:04:22.820 Your virginity 0.83

00:04:23.360 For as long as you can

00:04:24.320 But I think

00:04:27.040 That early

00:04:28.020 18

00:04:29.160 If you start

00:04:30.760 Having sex

00:04:31.220 When you're 16 0.97

00:04:31.800 Maybe you slept

00:04:32.580 With one person

00:04:33.180 And then 20

00:04:34.820 Maybe two

00:04:35.380 You know

00:04:35.980 And then if you're 35

00:04:36.940 And you've had a few

00:04:37.620 Relationships

00:04:38.220 Then it would be

00:04:38.600 A little bit above

00:04:39.180 But I think

00:04:40.700 That there's no need

00:04:41.720 To go out

00:04:42.380 Yeah

00:04:43.780 I think it matters

00:04:44.820 What's the number

00:04:45.680 Oh sorry

00:04:46.180 Yeah sorry

00:04:46.820 So

00:04:49.700 Early 20s

00:04:52.120 I'd say like 5

00:04:53.120 Okay

00:04:53.760 What age

00:04:54.880 Is high value

00:04:55.440 Off the table

00:04:56.080 For a woman

00:04:57.280 Probably 25

00:04:58.200 Okay

00:04:58.820 So

00:04:59.300 So

00:04:59.800 So 5 then

00:05:00.740 Okay

00:05:01.100 Roughly 5

00:05:01.820 5, 25

00:05:02.460 5

00:05:02.820 Yeah I know

00:05:05.120 You got it

00:05:05.680 I agree

00:05:06.140 I agree

00:05:06.480 What do you think

00:05:07.780 Yeah I think 5

00:05:08.540 5

00:05:08.940 Yeah 5

00:05:09.440 After 5

00:05:10.060 High values

00:05:10.520 Off the table

00:05:11.000 After 5

00:05:11.280 It's finished

00:05:11.960 That's a yoga 0.61

00:05:12.900 Sorry

00:05:13.900 Sorry

00:05:14.580 Sorry

00:05:15.180 I would say below

00:05:17.580 Double digits

00:05:18.180 To be honest

00:05:19.180 Below

00:05:19.820 Yeah

00:05:20.280 Below

00:05:20.640 You're kind

00:05:21.940 And you'll give them up to 10

00:05:23.060 Yeah

00:05:23.620 That's the most common answer I get

00:05:27.180 I get like

00:05:27.960 Yeah 10 is

00:05:29.160 Well I get when I ask

00:05:30.940 How many bodies

00:05:31.640 Is too many bodies

00:05:32.580 It's always

00:05:33.060 Prefer 5

00:05:34.380 I'll deal with 10

00:05:35.700 15 maybe

00:05:37.060 Maybe if she's hot 1.00

00:05:37.780 What do you think

00:05:41.100 Well it's funny that a lot of people land on 5

00:05:44.940 That's like statistically kind of the average for women in the western nations 1.00

00:05:50.080 Like and so you're kind of going well as long as she's kind of average which is you know

00:05:53.620 I think it's a fair standard

00:05:54.720 Is that average now?

00:05:55.820 That is about the average yeah reported

00:05:57.460 I mean obviously there's going to be some variances because people lie whatever but on the grand scale it's probably not off by more than one

00:06:03.500 The one I read was higher than that it was like 8 I think

00:06:08.100 That might have been like Sweden or something like a really like egalitarian sort of open society that could happen

00:06:13.180 For men you know so and

00:06:14.680 Oh were you doing like world?

00:06:16.320 Yeah

00:06:16.560 Oh okay

00:06:17.000 No it's more western world it's more like England America Canada you know like sort of like the G20 whatever you want to call it

00:06:21.980 So there could be you know some variance in that but

00:06:25.300 That's good though it's an average is 5

00:06:28.460 It's a it's such a it's such an interesting thing let me tell you guys this like here's a question I would ask right

00:06:33.020 And here's like a legitimate statistical question I'm interested in this right

00:06:36.800 As a man's income and options go up options meaning more women are willing to sleep with him 1.00

00:06:42.940 Therefore he gets to choose who he wants to commit to because that's what a man does at the end of high value

00:06:47.240 He chooses who he commits to right he's the one that controls the commitment the woman controls the sex right 1.00

00:06:51.280 As a man's options go up does that number change 0.65

00:06:54.980 An interesting question because like

00:06:58.060 Well the the body count for a girl that's acceptable to him to form a long-term relationship like I know a dude

00:07:03.560 We actually both know a dude with henry that like

00:07:05.520 Is with a chick right now and like you can tell she's been with a lot of dudes

00:07:09.540 But the guy's so inexperienced and naive he's just happy to have a woman 1.00

00:07:12.640 He's like yeah i have a woman is he well off or no no no no not at all

00:07:17.220 But i'm thinking like but i'm thinking like if this guy was like as this guy right he's young

00:07:21.240 But as he rises through life, he's like, you know, it's more money more money more so whatever that metric you use for value

00:07:26.200 Whatever whatever, you know gains more opportunity more more social value

00:07:30.740 He might look at that chick and be like, you know what I can do better

00:07:34.160 You know be it's like the same that your friend is picking up a 300 pound chick 0.99

00:07:38.120 It's like most of the guys that go for that by the way, there's actual studies on this as well, right?

00:07:42.320 And they say that poor men prefer fatter women and I look at that study go

00:07:46.040 It's not that they prefer it's just so who they can get

00:07:47.740 It's just like the market has a certain equilibrium, right? There's a surplus of that there's way too many chicks that are oversized 1.00

00:07:52.700 There's way too many lazy broke-ass dudes and then the market surplus adjusts itself 0.63

00:07:57.020 They're really a match made in heaven 0.98

00:07:59.020 Heaven's a strong word

00:08:01.020 Heaven's a strong word

00:08:02.620 But that's funny because this lady in the green dress here was saying like yeah

00:08:05.260 And I had some guys living with me that never really thought they were gonna marry me and my first thought was like

00:08:09.420 I wonder if they're very low ambition men

00:08:11.420 Oh, right

00:08:12.460 Yeah, because they're comfortable being in an imperfect situation

00:08:15.740 What happens is in this young gentleman here in front of me in the matching suit he was saying earlier

00:08:19.740 He's like I want a girl that that pushes me to and motivates me and i'm like, no, you don't

00:08:23.740 If a woman has to motivate you if oh no, you don't if a woman has to 1.00

00:08:27.500 That encourages you then

00:08:28.460 If a woman has to motivate you in a relationship, you will both be bitter and resentful 1.00

00:08:33.020 I agree with that completely

00:08:34.220 Like like my woman is like hey, do you need to travel on that trip? Do you do this? 0.82

00:08:37.660 I'm like, yeah, like, you know

00:08:38.780 Like I I told my girlfriend who became my wife. I was like i'm really really ambitious gonna be working all the time

00:08:43.900 You have to deal with that if you don't that's okay

00:08:45.820 But that's gonna be me and so and I find that her attraction for me

00:08:50.060 Stabilizes and even goes up because I am achieving new things all the time and and she won't deny that

00:08:55.180 I agree with that completely. I work six days seven days a week and you have to put up with it

00:08:59.260 It's just that's what I do and i'm not gonna stop doing what i'm doing because i'm able to provide what I need to provide

00:09:05.020 And no matter what arguments happen

00:09:07.820 You're still happy with what i'm doing because it shows that i'm doing what i need to do

00:09:11.180 I would ask an interesting question anybody here girl as many of you know

00:09:13.900 I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform

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JustPearlyThings - May 16, 2023

The Real PROBLEMS With RELATIONSHIPS

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