The Real PROBLEMS With RELATIONSHIPS
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Summary
In this episode, I am joined by my best friend and long-term partner, Pippa, as we talk about what it's like dating in your 30s and 40s. We talk about our own experiences of dating in our 20s and 30s, what we wish we knew at the time and what we would have learnt if we were younger.
Transcript
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That's like statistically kind of the average for women in the western nations
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Like and so you're kind of going well as long as she's kind of average which is you know
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I mean obviously there's going to be some variances because people lie whatever but on the grand scale it's probably not off by more than one
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The one I read was higher than that it was like 8 I think
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That might have been like Sweden or something like a really like egalitarian sort of open society that could happen
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No it's more western world it's more like England America Canada you know like sort of like the G20 whatever you want to call it
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So there could be you know some variance in that but
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It's a it's such a it's such an interesting thing let me tell you guys this like here's a question I would ask right
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And here's like a legitimate statistical question I'm interested in this right
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As a man's income and options go up options meaning more women are willing to sleep with him
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Therefore he gets to choose who he wants to commit to because that's what a man does at the end of high value
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He chooses who he commits to right he's the one that controls the commitment the woman controls the sex right
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As a man's options go up does that number change
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Well the the body count for a girl that's acceptable to him to form a long-term relationship like I know a dude
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We actually both know a dude with henry that like
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Is with a chick right now and like you can tell she's been with a lot of dudes
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But the guy's so inexperienced and naive he's just happy to have a woman
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He's like yeah i have a woman is he well off or no no no no not at all
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But i'm thinking like but i'm thinking like if this guy was like as this guy right he's young
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But as he rises through life, he's like, you know, it's more money more money more so whatever that metric you use for value
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Whatever whatever, you know gains more opportunity more more social value
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He might look at that chick and be like, you know what I can do better
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You know be it's like the same that your friend is picking up a 300 pound chick
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It's like most of the guys that go for that by the way, there's actual studies on this as well, right?
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And they say that poor men prefer fatter women and I look at that study go
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It's not that they prefer it's just so who they can get
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It's just like the market has a certain equilibrium, right? There's a surplus of that there's way too many chicks that are oversized
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There's way too many lazy broke-ass dudes and then the market surplus adjusts itself
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But that's funny because this lady in the green dress here was saying like yeah
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And I had some guys living with me that never really thought they were gonna marry me and my first thought was like
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Yeah, because they're comfortable being in an imperfect situation
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What happens is in this young gentleman here in front of me in the matching suit he was saying earlier
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He's like I want a girl that that pushes me to and motivates me and i'm like, no, you don't
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If a woman has to motivate you if oh no, you don't if a woman has to
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If a woman has to motivate you in a relationship, you will both be bitter and resentful
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Like like my woman is like hey, do you need to travel on that trip? Do you do this?
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Like I I told my girlfriend who became my wife. I was like i'm really really ambitious gonna be working all the time
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You have to deal with that if you don't that's okay
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But that's gonna be me and so and I find that her attraction for me
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Stabilizes and even goes up because I am achieving new things all the time and and she won't deny that
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I agree with that completely. I work six days seven days a week and you have to put up with it
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It's just that's what I do and i'm not gonna stop doing what i'm doing because i'm able to provide what I need to provide
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You're still happy with what i'm doing because it shows that i'm doing what i need to do
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I would ask an interesting question anybody here girl as many of you know
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I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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