JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


The REASON Men Get SIDE-CHICKS


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13 minutes

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2,151

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196

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Have you ever had a "side chick" in your life? Do you think a side chick should be promoted to a "main chick"? Should women compete with each other for a man's affections?

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00:00:00.000 Today's topic is, should modern women compete for a man? 0.85
00:00:04.860 Now, I'll tell you why I was inspired by this this week.
00:00:07.720 We had a girl come on the show Tuesday. 1.00
00:00:10.040 Now, this girl was a proud side chick. 0.93
00:00:12.840 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:13.280 She came on. 0.93
00:00:14.680 She had a man, but she knew he had a girlfriend, and she's a side chick. 1.00
00:00:19.900 And it really had me beg the question.
00:00:25.220 Actually, I'm going to get to that later.
00:00:26.680 I'm going to get to that later.
00:00:27.320 So, to start, have you guys ever had a side chick or been a side chick?
00:00:32.700 Yeah, I've had a side chick.
00:00:34.400 Okay, so you have?
00:00:35.620 Yeah, I've been a side chick.
00:00:37.100 You've been a side chick?
00:00:38.360 Yeah, I have.
00:00:40.720 Well, I did not plan this at all.
00:00:43.720 Wow, okay, okay, okay, go ahead.
00:00:45.860 No, not an official side chick, but I chuckled with multiple tings at the same time.
00:00:50.800 Okay.
00:00:51.440 Unofficial.
00:00:53.080 Yeah, no, I've never had a side chick, per se.
00:00:55.940 Okay, but juggling, yeah, but not side chick.
00:01:00.520 I would say yes.
00:01:01.600 So, when you guys hear side chick, because when I think of side chick, I think there's
00:01:05.960 like a main chick, and then, like, you know.
00:01:08.700 Exactly.
00:01:09.320 Because I don't think it's a side chick if you juggle multiple, wouldn't that be?
00:01:13.100 I actually have a question.
00:01:14.240 Do you guys think, what's the difference between a side chick, a mistress, and a sneaky link?
00:01:17.800 A side chick, a mistress, and a sneaky link, you said.
00:01:22.740 What's the difference?
00:01:23.400 Yeah.
00:01:23.960 A side chick is when you've got a girl, and then you've got another girl as well on the 0.99
00:01:28.440 side that doesn't necessarily know about the, yeah, they don't know about each other.
00:01:33.740 Okay.
00:01:34.580 Mysteries is more for married people.
00:01:35.800 If you're married and you've got a side chick, it's a mistress. 1.00
00:01:38.440 Okay.
00:01:38.760 Kind of upgraded side chick. 0.98
00:01:42.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:43.260 And it's, because when I think of a sneaky link, like, that is, they're not in a relationship.
00:01:47.480 It's just like a sneaky link.
00:01:48.640 Yeah, that's just somebody you sneak around with late nights.
00:01:51.220 Past 11 o'clock.
00:01:52.180 Booty calls.
00:01:53.540 Booty calls.
00:01:55.300 Okay, so question for the guys that said yes to having a side chick.
00:01:58.580 What made you want to get a side chick? 0.98
00:02:07.720 Was your girlfriend not doing something?
00:02:10.680 That's usually the reason for a side chick, because, you know, like, if you get into a
00:02:16.220 relationship with a girl, she kind of gives you, like, a terms and conditions list, like,
00:02:20.220 without even saying it, really.
00:02:21.700 So you know what you can kind of get from your main girl, because, you know, in return,
00:02:28.580 you're taking her out in public, whereas your side chick, she doesn't really care about 1.00
00:02:33.500 being out in public, and she might do the things that your main girl might not. 0.99
00:02:37.420 So that's kind of how she might have crept into, you know, being my side chick by doing 0.97
00:02:42.320 the stuff my main thing wasn't doing.
00:02:44.240 Can I have an example of something?
00:02:52.360 Learning when to be quiet.
00:02:56.840 Okay.
00:02:57.240 Like, just accepting something and just being like, all right, cool.
00:03:00.400 So your main girl was always arguing with you? 0.99
00:03:03.140 Yeah.
00:03:03.600 And so, like, that just got tiring.
00:03:05.080 So then you were like, I need to find someone who gives me peace.
00:03:07.820 Some peace and quiet.
00:03:09.480 And so why did you not promote the side chick to main?
00:03:13.360 Because being a side chick, you can't really promote. 0.97
00:03:19.360 So once you come in as a side chick.
00:03:22.120 You're never coming out.
00:03:22.960 Nah, you're never coming out.
00:03:24.100 You're never coming out the side.
00:03:25.400 You're staying in that.
00:03:26.260 It's like the friend zone.
00:03:26.800 Absolutely.
00:03:27.660 Men, we have that. 0.90
00:03:29.240 I'll be putting them in the side chick friend zone, too.
00:03:31.480 Once you're in there, you come in that gate, you leave in that gate.
00:03:35.000 You know what I mean?
00:03:35.820 So what do you guys think?
00:03:37.680 Can a side chick be promoted to main chick? 1.00
00:03:42.480 Absolutely not.
00:03:44.040 I know your answer.
00:03:46.080 It's a respect thing.
00:03:47.400 So you just won't ever respect them in that way.
00:03:49.920 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:50.540 Go ahead.
00:03:52.660 Nah.
00:03:53.720 Simple.
00:03:54.480 As simple as that.
00:03:55.220 I don't think so.
00:03:56.360 Nah.
00:03:56.660 Side chicks. 0.59
00:03:57.040 If it's a girl that you don't necessarily respect enough to be your actual wife, then that's
00:04:05.140 not what she's for.
00:04:06.460 She serves a purpose.
00:04:08.660 They're usually not as good looking as well.
00:04:10.680 It's like usually a Walmart version of your girlfriend. 1.00
00:04:13.540 B-Tech version.
00:04:14.800 Little version.
00:04:15.720 If your main girl leaves you and you splurge with your missus, the side chick is going to 1.00
00:04:21.480 become your main girl anyway. 0.94
00:04:22.920 That turns into a situation.
00:04:24.100 Yeah, that turns into a sneaky link.
00:04:29.640 She gets demoted from side chick to sneaky link. 1.00
00:04:32.860 And then you go and wife someone else.
00:04:34.240 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:35.420 And then she's still a side chick. 1.00
00:04:38.020 What about you guys?
00:04:39.100 So being on the other end of that, what was it like being a side chick?
00:04:42.980 Horrendous.
00:04:43.960 Horrendous.
00:04:44.900 I think being a side chick, you still class yourself as even though you know you're side
00:04:50.400 chick, you still like to think that you're their main girl or you're the person bringing 1.00
00:04:55.620 all the fun to them.
00:04:57.400 So it still feels like you're their main girl.
00:04:59.740 But then you know it's never going anywhere.
00:05:02.940 You're never stepping out of that zone because you let yourself come into that zone.
00:05:06.100 That's always the problem.
00:05:07.660 Why do you stay?
00:05:08.200 Because it's fun.
00:05:11.780 Yeah.
00:05:12.200 And I think a part of you still hopes that you might, they might promote you to their
00:05:17.060 main chick, but that never happens ever. 0.99
00:05:21.160 So.
00:05:21.960 Absolutely.
00:05:22.400 For me, it was, it was fine because I knew what I was getting into.
00:05:29.880 I knew I was the side chick and I didn't want nothing else.
00:05:33.440 And it was what it was.
00:05:34.660 So for me, it was fine.
00:05:36.080 But I think if you understand going in that you're not going to be upgraded and you're not
00:05:42.640 emotionally attached to the person, like try not to get emotionally attached, then you
00:05:48.120 can do it successfully.
00:05:49.680 Yeah.
00:05:50.900 Okay.
00:05:51.460 Blessing.
00:05:51.940 I know you're fixing the camera, but I need you to pull the, yeah.
00:05:55.700 So we have a video we're going to react to.
00:05:58.360 And I just want to see everyone's.
00:06:00.260 It's called, um, side chicks have high self-esteem. 1.00
00:06:05.520 Yeah.
00:06:06.640 They definitely do.
00:06:10.440 What up, you two?
00:06:12.320 It's your big homie, AP.
00:06:13.860 And this is for all the women that think that side chicks have low self-esteem. 1.00
00:06:24.500 Okay.
00:06:24.900 I've heard that shit so many times in my life or when I talk about the women I've dated and
00:06:32.220 shit and women say, I mean, that's that type of woman. 1.00
00:06:35.380 I mean, you, you know, those women have low self-esteem to fuck with somebody like you and 1.00
00:06:40.060 this, that, and the other.
00:06:40.880 Let me explain this shit so y'all can finally get an understanding and understand that these
00:06:47.800 women have the highest self-esteem.
00:06:50.340 Okay.
00:06:52.800 First of all, a woman that is a quote unquote side chick, she doesn't go into this situation 1.00
00:07:02.480 like, oh man, I can't get a man for myself.
00:07:06.200 So, uh, I might as well latch on to somebody else shit or, uh, you know, uh, you know, I
00:07:14.220 don't deserve a man of my own.
00:07:15.860 So I might as well deal with whoever will fuck with me.
00:07:18.820 That's not their motherfucking attitude.
00:07:21.180 All right.
00:07:22.140 They attitude is like, well, shit, if he talking to me, if he giving me time and attention,
00:07:28.840 if he willing to take me out, if he willing to spend money on me, somebody ain't handling
00:07:36.120 their fucking business at home. 0.82
00:07:37.880 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:39.460 And that might not be true, but this is how they think.
00:07:43.100 This is how a woman feels. 1.00
00:07:44.180 She might feel like, or you know what?
00:07:47.780 Shit.
00:07:48.220 He might got a chick now. 1.00
00:07:50.200 He might like his chick, but when he get some of this pussy, you know what I'm saying? 1.00
00:07:56.540 Or when, or when, when he get, when he get a dose of me, man, he ain't going home.
00:08:01.620 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:02.360 He gonna, he gonna call her up like on Harlem nights.
00:08:04.860 It's like, like, like, yeah, baby, I ain't coming home.
00:08:08.460 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:09.580 So that's the, that's the mentality of a side chick. 1.00
00:08:14.040 Not no, uh, ooh, I, I, I can't get a man of my own or, you know, all that kind of dumb
00:08:19.920 shit.
00:08:20.120 These women go in like, or shit. 1.00
00:08:22.920 He can't, he can't be too happy.
00:08:25.140 If he barking up my tree, you know, he calling my phone all the fucking time.
00:08:29.000 He seemed to be always available for me.
00:08:31.740 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:32.640 They damn near start feeling like, man, that can't be serious.
00:08:35.320 What they got.
00:08:36.000 You know, if he, if he coming at me this hard, they can't be straight, but never are these
00:08:43.040 women all down and out feeling like they can't get another man or get a man of they 1.00
00:08:47.540 own.
00:08:48.260 Most of them have options.
00:08:50.520 Most of these women could, could deal with whoever they want to deal with, but not every 1.00
00:08:56.200 man is qualified.
00:08:57.960 Okay.
00:08:58.980 And not only are, do a side chicks have high self-esteem, they're real good at math. 1.00
00:09:06.000 Let me explain why side chicks are so good at math. 1.00
00:09:11.520 Okay.
00:09:12.680 I should have did the real numbers, but let's, let's just assume there's so many million men
00:09:20.020 in the United States and so many million women. 0.99
00:09:25.060 Now out of those millions of men, subtract the men that are married.
00:09:33.320 Okay.
00:09:33.800 Now, now subtract the men that are gay. 0.66
00:09:40.320 Now, subtract the men that are under five foot five.
00:09:48.620 Then subtract the men that are attractive or unattractive.
00:09:55.440 Subtract the ugly niggas. 1.00
00:09:56.840 Then subtract the people with disabilities, the males that are, you know, the disabled men. 0.97
00:10:06.000 Then subtract the men that are, you know, either crazy or, you know, mentally disabled. 0.98
00:10:14.940 So, now subtract all the men or males that are under, under 20, under, under 18, I should say.
00:10:27.200 Now subtract the men that got jobs or, or, you know, the men that don't got jobs.
00:10:33.220 Subtract the men who, subtract the men who, subtract the men who know how to talk to women.
00:10:44.820 Okay.
00:10:45.820 Then subtract the men who, uh, have an education, a high school diploma or a job. 0.80
00:10:55.260 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:55.880 The point I'm trying to make is by the time you subtract all of these undesirable men, y'all have an extremely small pool.
00:11:09.240 And then I ain't getting to the niggas in jail. 1.00
00:11:11.280 So, y'all have the smallest pool of men to choose from.
00:11:18.080 Just off top.
00:11:19.540 Men that you will actually want and be happy with are very, very limited in the United States.
00:11:25.820 Really all over the world, but we're talking about here.
00:11:28.100 Okay.
00:11:29.700 So, now you're saying this woman that's a side chick, she got low self-esteem. 1.00
00:11:37.120 I think she's just good at math.
00:11:39.060 I think she realized there is a limited amount of quality men.
00:11:43.700 And if she's going to want one for herself, she's going to have to get out there and compete for him. 0.99
00:11:51.800 And the women that say stupid shit, like, see, that's why I don't need no man. 1.00
00:11:56.800 I'm just, I'm just be by myself.
00:11:59.060 Didn't do all that.
00:12:00.060 You know what that tell me?
00:12:01.280 You got low self-esteem.
00:12:03.520 Because if you had high self-esteem, you wouldn't be afraid to get out here and compete.
00:12:08.000 You wouldn't be afraid to get your hair done and your nails done and put on some clothes
00:12:13.340 and go out here and take you a nigga. 1.00
00:12:14.920 You know what I'm saying?
00:12:16.220 You got low self-esteem.
00:12:18.660 That's what the fuck I heard when you said, I just be by myself then.
00:12:23.040 Because you don't think you got what it take to get a man.
00:12:25.880 You don't think you got what it take to out-compete another woman. 0.99
00:12:30.000 You know what I'm saying?
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