JustPearlyThings - March 21, 2023


The Rise Of City Boy Culture


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15 minutes

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2,902

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269

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47

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In this episode, we talk about the difference between men and women when it comes to dating and sex. We also talk about women and sex in the past and present, and how things have changed since the days of the shotgun wedding.

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00:00:00.280 I've heard this story from so many guys where they say, oh, I was so nice to these girls and I realized they don't like that. 0.80
00:00:08.720 And so I stopped doing it and then I got more girls. 0.99
00:00:12.200 But don't you think it's like what women, I guess like what women are used to now.
00:00:19.160 So like how, yeah, so like our generation now, like they don't care about really,
00:00:24.280 it doesn't seem like they care about taking girls out to eat anymore and doing like those kind things.
00:00:29.420 And so they're so used to like guys not doing anything or talking to them.
00:00:34.020 So when you do it, they're just like, what the hell is going on?
00:00:36.280 Yeah, like why are you doing this?
00:00:37.580 Why are you doing it?
00:00:38.300 What's the reason behind that?
00:00:39.760 Is it not a chicken and the egg situation?
00:00:41.400 No, I think it's that we're all going for the same men.
00:00:44.940 And so those guys don't have the time to take us out on dates because we're picking the guys that everyone wants.
00:00:52.360 Because I'm saying it's a chicken and the egg situation.
00:00:54.800 What do you think came first?
00:00:56.840 The guys kind of not treating the girls as nicely as they did prior to because the girls didn't want it?
00:01:03.320 Or the girls having the bad in this day?
00:01:06.800 Which do you think came first?
00:01:09.720 Men will do anything to get laid. 1.00
00:01:12.780 If taking us on dates and being chivalrous got them, do you think guys would do it?
00:01:17.780 Yeah.
00:01:18.760 I think if girls required chivalry, guys would be chivalrous. 0.92
00:01:23.740 Well, way back in the day, the housewives, the love that, weren't they more chivalrous?
00:01:33.840 Oh, I'll tell you why.
00:01:34.820 Birth control changed the game.
00:01:36.220 In 1965, when they developed birth control, that was the beginning of modern women. 0.99
00:01:41.060 Because then girls got the opportunity just to screw the guys, like the alpha fucks, where before they had to pick a beta guy. 1.00
00:01:52.020 And because they didn't have anything to compare it to, they were pretty happy.
00:01:56.060 And their dads would maybe help them a little bit, vet the guys so they could say that guy would be a good long-term partner.
00:02:01.240 Because, you know, a lot of girls were virgins back then. 0.62
00:02:04.240 But so now, girls get ran through throughout their 20s, screwing all the bad boys, and then expect a beta guy to pick up the pieces at 30. 1.00
00:02:15.280 Wow.
00:02:16.280 So it fulfills both mating strategies.
00:02:18.720 That's why girls argue so hard for abortion and for birth control. 1.00
00:02:22.960 Wow.
00:02:23.860 Because they want the best of both worlds.
00:02:27.400 You want that?
00:02:28.520 That's crazy.
00:02:29.820 Mad.
00:02:30.360 It's a lot.
00:02:30.920 Yeah, it's just a lot.
00:02:32.780 It's a lot.
00:02:34.020 It's so unfair.
00:02:35.180 And I feel like this should be a phrase for me.
00:02:36.360 Why do you think it's unfair?
00:02:37.960 Just, like, for example, as you said, a beta guy getting a wrong woman and a good woman getting the wrong guy.
00:02:45.000 It's just, you know, it's very unfair.
00:02:47.240 Well, I think, no, good women make poor choices and those are the consequences. 1.00
00:02:49.900 Yeah, exactly.
00:02:50.200 Yeah.
00:02:51.320 And so, like, we chose to be on birth control, you know?
00:02:56.640 So, you know, in a way, I think women ruin the dating market more than men because I think men will jump through hoops. 1.00
00:03:06.640 Yeah.
00:03:07.000 I think men just adapt to what it takes to get all that sex.
00:03:12.420 I think men just adapt to what, like, if it was, if in the 1950s it was being shiverish and whatnot, I'll be the most shiverish gentleman ever.
00:03:22.200 Okay.
00:03:22.440 Do you understand?
00:03:22.920 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:23.480 Like, that was what was in.
00:03:25.760 Nowadays, it doesn't take much, you know, you just have to sweet talk or have some swag about you.
00:03:30.540 And...
00:03:30.940 That makes a lot of sense.
00:03:32.120 That makes a lot of sense.
00:03:32.840 And then you'll get the cooch. 0.99
00:03:34.000 Because there is a greater cost, like, before birth control, you could get pregnant by the guy.
00:03:40.040 So you couldn't risk screwing the alpha fuck because you might have a child because there's no birth control. 1.00
00:03:47.440 Yeah.
00:03:47.620 And how many shotgun weddings did they have back then?
00:03:51.180 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:52.660 Yeah, I don't even know what the statistics are.
00:03:56.740 But even the shotgun weddings worked out still.
00:04:00.120 A lot of those, like, grandparents or grandparents, great-grandparents, even if it was a shotgun wedding, they would stay together.
00:04:05.580 Why?
00:04:06.180 Because those girls didn't get ran through because they couldn't. 0.98
00:04:09.480 And people will say, oh, like, girls were just as sexual then.
00:04:14.060 But they couldn't do it because there was a consequence.
00:04:17.620 So in 1965, that changed the world forever.
00:04:21.940 And the consequence was that girls are sluttier. 1.00
00:04:25.460 Men do less to get laid. 0.94
00:04:27.640 But it's a very small percentage of men.
00:04:29.300 There's an increase of virgins.
00:04:31.620 And there's more single mothers and single childless women over 30 because they're all reproducing and sleeping with the same men. 0.98
00:04:39.820 That's not...
00:04:40.820 And a bunch of angry men that are like, what is this bullshit?
00:04:45.100 Sorry, bottom 30%.
00:04:46.660 Because the middle, like, the middle 70% are in a weird limbo.
00:04:54.940 But the bottom 30%, I feel really bad for them.
00:04:58.720 I mean, like, the top 10% are the top 10%.
00:05:00.920 I don't feel bad for them.
00:05:01.860 They live life.
00:05:02.480 Like, do your thing.
00:05:03.040 Yeah, and the people that benefits is the...
00:05:05.500 I mean, the guys in the top 10%, they're living a dream.
00:05:08.380 Yeah, meme life.
00:05:09.040 Like, they get bitches on demand. 1.00
00:05:12.260 They can get them pregnant and the girls will still get an abortion, maybe. 1.00
00:05:16.480 I mean, minus the...
00:05:17.500 There's a difference.
00:05:19.040 But girls are on birth control now, right? 1.00
00:05:21.380 Yeah.
00:05:22.180 I mean, the only downside for those guys is the...
00:05:25.060 Is the, like, the Drakes of the world.
00:05:27.380 Yeah.
00:05:27.660 You know, catching a kid.
00:05:29.340 Coming back to, like, a point we said earlier, I just remembered this.
00:05:34.260 Are we forgetting that Blac Chyna really had a kid with Rob to try and get the Kardashian name?
00:05:38.280 Yeah.
00:05:38.900 Oh, yeah.
00:05:40.040 I didn't even call that.
00:05:40.960 And then, yeah.
00:05:42.520 Blac Chyna.
00:05:42.840 Like, let's really sit back and digest.
00:05:47.800 She went and tried to sue the Kardashians for their name after.
00:05:51.100 And wasn't she trying to get child support, too? 0.89
00:05:53.200 But he was taking care of her more than she was?
00:05:55.840 She had the baby most days of the week, and she was asking for child support from him.
00:05:59.800 That's crazy to me.
00:06:00.940 Did she get it?
00:06:01.900 No.
00:06:02.180 I don't think so.
00:06:03.060 Well, that's the other thing.
00:06:05.260 Another way women aren't, like, they're not punished for bad choices is if you pick the wrong guy. 1.00
00:06:10.880 Like, before, there was a – you were – it was really bad if you picked the wrong guy because you have a kid with that person.
00:06:18.980 There was no child support and stuff.
00:06:20.320 But then they add in child support and no-fault divorce that they can get pregnant by the wrong guy, get a check from him,
00:06:29.720 and then marry the beta later and take half his stuff, too. 0.72
00:06:33.300 And still get the check from the dad.
00:06:35.120 Yeah.
00:06:36.180 That's smart.
00:06:37.020 And then the laws – I've heard of if a man's name is on a birth certificate and he doesn't contest it,
00:06:45.420 he still owes the woman child support even if later they prove that it's not his kid.
00:06:50.940 Oh, I didn't know that.
00:06:52.140 And women oftentimes will use kids as pawns against men, and there's no punishment for this. 1.00
00:07:00.240 That's crazy.
00:07:00.820 And it takes them months.
00:07:01.900 It takes months to get back in court and, like, fight for the kid, and by then you're missing the kid's life.
00:07:07.120 Like, I've had two guys on here the other day that both said they didn't see their kid for a year because the mom wouldn't let them see him.
00:07:12.020 Oh, but that's true.
00:07:12.660 And this happens all the time.
00:07:13.980 There's no punishment.
00:07:14.780 You don't go to jail for withholding the children.
00:07:16.840 Yeah, they just do it out of spite just because they're mad at you or whatever the situation.
00:07:22.520 And they feed the kid lies about the dad behind the doors.
00:07:25.080 And the kid goes up thinking the dad wasn't being there because the dad didn't want to be there.
00:07:30.500 Meanwhile, he was really trying to be there the whole time.
00:07:33.420 It's just your mom made it really hard.
00:07:35.320 And it's hard to tell those kids in today's day and age, your mom is actually the bad guy here.
00:07:39.920 Because saying that makes you a bad guy for bringing it up.
00:07:45.000 And I think most men won't speak poorly about the mother of their kids.
00:07:48.760 Yeah, that's true.
00:07:49.620 And women, you break her heart. 1.00
00:07:52.020 I mean, even we had this girl on the podcast the other day that's airing all of her family's business on the internet.
00:07:58.380 But that's still their kid's dad.
00:07:59.960 Yeah.
00:08:00.460 Yeah.
00:08:01.200 That's crazy.
00:08:03.260 I think it's just the day and age that we're in.
00:08:06.000 Women don't feel no way to talk about men in any way. 0.99
00:08:10.680 It doesn't matter if that's the father of your child.
00:08:12.520 It doesn't matter if that's your brother.
00:08:14.160 That's your whoever.
00:08:15.440 They will feel like.
00:08:16.660 Because I think there's a sense, especially in the internet, there's a sense of, you know,
00:08:21.760 a girl can say anything about a guy. 1.00
00:08:23.480 There's other girls that's going to understand where she's coming from.
00:08:27.000 So it's like, it's like they're almost free to say whatever.
00:08:31.620 I'm going back to women agreeing with women. 0.99
00:08:36.460 You will rarely see if a woman is bad talking a man, a woman like Stefan be like,
00:08:41.220 no, no, no, you shouldn't say that about him.
00:08:42.760 They'll be like, yeah, girl, I look the same way.
00:08:45.480 Don't call you a pick me if you try to back up.
00:08:49.000 But no one would say that, yeah, you made the wrong choice.
00:08:51.700 You chose the wrong guy.
00:08:52.800 Yeah.
00:08:53.340 No one would say that.
00:08:54.100 They'll look at you like you're crazy.
00:08:55.340 Like, how dare you say I made the wrong choice.
00:08:57.820 But I love him.
00:08:58.700 Yeah.
00:08:59.260 But how do they, I mean, how do the girls look at me when I tell them that? 1.00
00:09:02.360 When I say, look at you, I mean, you should pick better.
00:09:04.560 What the fuck?
00:09:05.840 Exactly.
00:09:06.660 And I don't come from a place of, oh, I've never picked the wrong guy.
00:09:09.400 I have.
00:09:09.980 But you can either learn from it and blame yourself or you can blame everyone else for
00:09:14.240 your problems.
00:09:14.920 Yeah, saying that vicious cycle of just blaming everyone.
00:09:16.680 You attract who you are.
00:09:18.080 So if you keep attracting toxic people, that you're toxic.
00:09:21.540 And I think that's important to understand that and pass on to that, especially the next
00:09:26.380 generation of girls, like that it's important to really take accountability of the choices 0.97
00:09:32.340 that you make.
00:09:33.640 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:34.100 Because no one, no one can tell you to open your legs.
00:09:38.500 Like, no one can force you to open your legs.
00:09:40.360 No one can force you to do anything.
00:09:42.080 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:42.400 If they do, they get in jail.
00:09:44.140 So, like, it's about taking, you know, accountability of the people that you sleep with, the people
00:09:48.940 that you let into your life.
00:09:50.720 Accountability is how to come by.
00:09:51.880 People can't even take accountability for bringing jackets.
00:09:56.120 Wait, for what?
00:09:57.840 No one can't take accountability for bringing clothing to a nightclub when it might rain.
00:10:03.960 You know what I mean?
00:10:06.720 Like, why would you not bring an umbrella with you if you know that we're in the winter
00:10:12.220 and it might rain?
00:10:13.340 People or women? 0.93
00:10:15.000 Women. 0.81
00:10:15.520 Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
00:10:16.720 I think men take accountability.
00:10:18.320 Women don't. 1.00
00:10:19.280 But it's because we grew up in a society that doesn't hold women accountable.
00:10:23.140 Because there's always an excuse.
00:10:25.560 If you keep getting cheated on, like, it's your own damn fault.
00:10:28.940 You keep picking cheaters.
00:10:29.920 You can't just make the mistake twice, thrice.
00:10:32.720 Yeah.
00:10:33.140 I mean, but girls will pick cheater after cheater after cheater, cry on the internet, say, oh, 1.00
00:10:38.900 poor me.
00:10:39.560 I'm always getting cheated on.
00:10:41.220 And girls will still back her. 1.00
00:10:42.800 Yeah, you're after the cheater.
00:10:44.960 No one else you do.
00:10:45.800 They'll be the side chick of a dude and be like, oh, he'll never do that to me.
00:10:51.280 It's like, he's cheating on his girlfriend with you.
00:10:54.720 What makes you think that he won't do that to you?
00:10:57.480 Exactly.
00:10:58.400 Yeah.
00:10:58.760 Do you remember that little time frame where, like, girls on TikTok were trying to get famous
00:11:02.720 with the celebrity guys that they slept with?
00:11:05.500 Oh, yeah.
00:11:06.240 I remember that.
00:11:07.000 Crazy.
00:11:07.440 Let's bring back slut shaming. 1.00
00:11:11.520 He tries to get big because you slept with five famous people.
00:11:14.820 Like, how disgusting is it?
00:11:16.020 Like, how is that your kind of fame?
00:11:16.920 How is that fame, though?
00:11:18.480 Like, you're just bringing your, I don't know.
00:11:20.880 It's just disgusting.
00:11:21.500 But nowadays, anybody can be famous.
00:11:25.100 It's free anyways.
00:11:25.860 Yep.
00:11:26.840 It's crazy.
00:11:28.140 Because when I saw those videos, I'm like, ew.
00:11:30.520 Like, what do you mean?
00:11:32.340 Because, again, like Pearl said, if you switch the genders, if a guy starts posting all the 0.99
00:11:38.360 girls of high caliber that he slept with, all of a sudden, he's a misogynist guy that
00:11:44.120 treats women badly and looks down on women.
00:11:46.320 But, like, all these girls are saying, oh, I slept with this celebrity, this celebrity, 1.00
00:11:49.920 this celebrity.
00:11:50.320 And it's like, I was on the same thing.
00:11:52.140 But I think with that, the only thing I would say is guys would praise him for that, though.
00:11:56.920 And girls will get shamed. 1.00
00:11:58.700 Girls praise the girls.
00:12:00.420 Girls will get shamed. 1.00
00:12:01.700 I would think, like, girls would still get shamed by other girls for that because they 1.00
00:12:04.800 would think, like, oh, like, you slept with this many people and you're just giving that
00:12:08.440 for class.
00:12:08.740 And guys would say the same thing.
00:12:10.300 Yeah, but it's because we're biologically different.
00:12:12.860 Yeah.
00:12:13.700 It's just, like, there's some, there's a million double standards that benefit women.
00:12:17.280 Like, we get into bars for free.
00:12:18.340 We get free drinks.
00:12:19.180 Yeah.
00:12:19.520 There's women-only grants. 1.00
00:12:21.180 That's just, that's, like, the one that doesn't benefit us is don't sleep with too many people.
00:12:25.520 Yeah.
00:12:25.920 And I think the girls, the girls that you're saying, you said girls get shamed.
00:12:31.020 I mean, guys, guys don't get shamed.
00:12:33.260 Yeah, not by other guys.
00:12:34.500 Like, they'll get shamed by girls, but not other guys.
00:12:36.980 But then there's slut shaming, but that's the thing. 0.76
00:12:38.640 Like, when I say slut shaming, everyone knows what that is, right?
00:12:41.180 Yeah.
00:12:41.520 But there's no broke shaming.
00:12:43.900 Short shaming.
00:12:44.600 That's true.
00:12:44.960 That's true.
00:12:45.900 That's true.
00:12:46.840 And I was going to say that.
00:12:49.560 Men don't complain. 1.00
00:12:50.460 Go ahead.
00:12:50.800 With the girls that shame, I think they'll shame you in private, but in public, they'll 0.95
00:13:01.680 kind of, like, oh, they'll big you up, oh, she's doing whatever she wants, kind of thing.
00:13:05.600 I don't think girls will shame another girl in, like, in her face or publicly.
00:13:10.960 Yeah, yeah.
00:13:11.440 I get what you mean.
00:13:11.760 So, I don't think, girls don't really lack confrontation. 1.00
00:13:14.540 It's, like, not as likely, yeah, not as likely.
00:13:16.140 It's not as, it's not as confront, like, girls are not confrontational.
00:13:19.580 So, like, you know, you might, you might tell your friend, oh, she's a little slut. 1.00
00:13:24.000 You get me?
00:13:24.420 But for you to go and actually tell her to her face that, you know, you're behaving like a slut. 1.00
00:13:29.640 Oh, yeah, that's really happened.
00:13:30.820 Exactly.
00:13:31.940 You get me?
00:13:32.320 But on the guy's side, like, you know, if my boy is behaving like a waistband or he's
00:13:38.480 behaving like a simp, I'll be like, bro, pan up, man.
00:13:40.980 Like, you know, you're doing too much for the skill a little bit.
00:13:43.780 Yeah.
00:13:44.080 Do you understand?
00:13:44.520 Like, you're doing too much.
00:13:45.460 Like, calm down and do you understand that?
00:13:47.440 You'll tell the guy in it.
00:13:49.420 And I think that's the difference between the men and the women. 1.00
00:13:52.000 Okay.
00:13:52.280 Do you think women, like, this is a question for everybody, do you think women, when they shame
00:13:58.520 somebody, there's, like, a little bit of, like, jealousy?
00:14:02.700 It depends.
00:14:03.660 It depends.
00:14:04.080 It depends on the topic.
00:14:05.120 It depends on the topic.
00:14:06.300 Because, like, for example, I don't think Paul's jealous of any of these girls that she
00:14:11.940 calls out.
00:14:12.480 Like, if the girl's a slut, she's a slut. 1.00
00:14:15.700 You know what I'm saying?
00:14:16.100 I don't think you're jealous.
00:14:18.080 I don't think, you know, you get jealous of it.
00:14:20.160 I just think you call out things.
00:14:22.060 And I do understand where you're coming from, though.
00:14:24.440 Like, because if maybe a girl, maybe you like the guy that she likes and maybe you will
00:14:31.780 shame her to that guy or shame her, you know, shame her name or character to that so that 0.93
00:14:37.240 you can, you know, get the better up.
00:14:39.320 That's how females show aggression, character assassination. 1.00
00:14:44.860 Men, men, men will fight, but women, we don't, we're not, we're not wired the same
00:14:49.800 way.
00:14:50.000 It's character assassination.
00:14:51.320 That's, like, you're right.
00:14:52.940 Is that attractive to men? 0.93
00:14:54.460 Well, character, no, it's not.
00:14:58.060 You know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:15:01.640 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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