The Rise Of City Boy Culture
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the difference between men and women when it comes to dating and sex. We also talk about women and sex in the past and present, and how things have changed since the days of the shotgun wedding.
Transcript
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I've heard this story from so many guys where they say, oh, I was so nice to these girls and I realized they don't like that.
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And so I stopped doing it and then I got more girls.
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But don't you think it's like what women, I guess like what women are used to now.
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So like how, yeah, so like our generation now, like they don't care about really,
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it doesn't seem like they care about taking girls out to eat anymore and doing like those kind things.
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And so they're so used to like guys not doing anything or talking to them.
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So when you do it, they're just like, what the hell is going on?
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No, I think it's that we're all going for the same men.
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And so those guys don't have the time to take us out on dates because we're picking the guys that everyone wants.
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Because I'm saying it's a chicken and the egg situation.
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The guys kind of not treating the girls as nicely as they did prior to because the girls didn't want it?
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If taking us on dates and being chivalrous got them, do you think guys would do it?
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I think if girls required chivalry, guys would be chivalrous.
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Well, way back in the day, the housewives, the love that, weren't they more chivalrous?
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In 1965, when they developed birth control, that was the beginning of modern women.
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Because then girls got the opportunity just to screw the guys, like the alpha fucks, where before they had to pick a beta guy.
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And because they didn't have anything to compare it to, they were pretty happy.
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And their dads would maybe help them a little bit, vet the guys so they could say that guy would be a good long-term partner.
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Because, you know, a lot of girls were virgins back then.
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But so now, girls get ran through throughout their 20s, screwing all the bad boys, and then expect a beta guy to pick up the pieces at 30.
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That's why girls argue so hard for abortion and for birth control.
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And I feel like this should be a phrase for me.
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Just, like, for example, as you said, a beta guy getting a wrong woman and a good woman getting the wrong guy.
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Well, I think, no, good women make poor choices and those are the consequences.
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And so, like, we chose to be on birth control, you know?
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So, you know, in a way, I think women ruin the dating market more than men because I think men will jump through hoops.
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I think men just adapt to what it takes to get all that sex.
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I think men just adapt to what, like, if it was, if in the 1950s it was being shiverish and whatnot, I'll be the most shiverish gentleman ever.
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Nowadays, it doesn't take much, you know, you just have to sweet talk or have some swag about you.
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Because there is a greater cost, like, before birth control, you could get pregnant by the guy.
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So you couldn't risk screwing the alpha fuck because you might have a child because there's no birth control.
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And how many shotgun weddings did they have back then?
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Yeah, I don't even know what the statistics are.
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But even the shotgun weddings worked out still.
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A lot of those, like, grandparents or grandparents, great-grandparents, even if it was a shotgun wedding, they would stay together.
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Because those girls didn't get ran through because they couldn't.
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And people will say, oh, like, girls were just as sexual then.
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But they couldn't do it because there was a consequence.
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And the consequence was that girls are sluttier.
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And there's more single mothers and single childless women over 30 because they're all reproducing and sleeping with the same men.
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And a bunch of angry men that are like, what is this bullshit?
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Because the middle, like, the middle 70% are in a weird limbo.
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But the bottom 30%, I feel really bad for them.
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I mean, the guys in the top 10%, they're living a dream.
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They can get them pregnant and the girls will still get an abortion, maybe.
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I mean, the only downside for those guys is the...
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Coming back to, like, a point we said earlier, I just remembered this.
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Are we forgetting that Blac Chyna really had a kid with Rob to try and get the Kardashian name?
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She went and tried to sue the Kardashians for their name after.
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And wasn't she trying to get child support, too?
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But he was taking care of her more than she was?
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She had the baby most days of the week, and she was asking for child support from him.
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Another way women aren't, like, they're not punished for bad choices is if you pick the wrong guy.
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Like, before, there was a – you were – it was really bad if you picked the wrong guy because you have a kid with that person.
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But then they add in child support and no-fault divorce that they can get pregnant by the wrong guy, get a check from him,
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and then marry the beta later and take half his stuff, too.
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And then the laws – I've heard of if a man's name is on a birth certificate and he doesn't contest it,
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he still owes the woman child support even if later they prove that it's not his kid.
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And women oftentimes will use kids as pawns against men, and there's no punishment for this.
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It takes months to get back in court and, like, fight for the kid, and by then you're missing the kid's life.
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Like, I've had two guys on here the other day that both said they didn't see their kid for a year because the mom wouldn't let them see him.
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You don't go to jail for withholding the children.
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Yeah, they just do it out of spite just because they're mad at you or whatever the situation.
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And they feed the kid lies about the dad behind the doors.
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And the kid goes up thinking the dad wasn't being there because the dad didn't want to be there.
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Meanwhile, he was really trying to be there the whole time.
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And it's hard to tell those kids in today's day and age, your mom is actually the bad guy here.
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Because saying that makes you a bad guy for bringing it up.
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And I think most men won't speak poorly about the mother of their kids.
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I mean, even we had this girl on the podcast the other day that's airing all of her family's business on the internet.
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I think it's just the day and age that we're in.
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Women don't feel no way to talk about men in any way.
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It doesn't matter if that's the father of your child.
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Because I think there's a sense, especially in the internet, there's a sense of, you know,
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There's other girls that's going to understand where she's coming from.
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So it's like, it's like they're almost free to say whatever.
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You will rarely see if a woman is bad talking a man, a woman like Stefan be like,
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They'll be like, yeah, girl, I look the same way.
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Don't call you a pick me if you try to back up.
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But no one would say that, yeah, you made the wrong choice.
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Like, how dare you say I made the wrong choice.
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But how do they, I mean, how do the girls look at me when I tell them that?
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When I say, look at you, I mean, you should pick better.
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And I don't come from a place of, oh, I've never picked the wrong guy.
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But you can either learn from it and blame yourself or you can blame everyone else for
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Yeah, saying that vicious cycle of just blaming everyone.
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So if you keep attracting toxic people, that you're toxic.
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And I think that's important to understand that and pass on to that, especially the next
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generation of girls, like that it's important to really take accountability of the choices
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Because no one, no one can tell you to open your legs.
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So, like, it's about taking, you know, accountability of the people that you sleep with, the people
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People can't even take accountability for bringing jackets.
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No one can't take accountability for bringing clothing to a nightclub when it might rain.
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Like, why would you not bring an umbrella with you if you know that we're in the winter
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But it's because we grew up in a society that doesn't hold women accountable.
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If you keep getting cheated on, like, it's your own damn fault.
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I mean, but girls will pick cheater after cheater after cheater, cry on the internet, say, oh,
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They'll be the side chick of a dude and be like, oh, he'll never do that to me.
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It's like, he's cheating on his girlfriend with you.
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What makes you think that he won't do that to you?
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Do you remember that little time frame where, like, girls on TikTok were trying to get famous
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He tries to get big because you slept with five famous people.
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Because, again, like Pearl said, if you switch the genders, if a guy starts posting all the
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girls of high caliber that he slept with, all of a sudden, he's a misogynist guy that
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But, like, all these girls are saying, oh, I slept with this celebrity, this celebrity,
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But I think with that, the only thing I would say is guys would praise him for that, though.
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I would think, like, girls would still get shamed by other girls for that because they
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would think, like, oh, like, you slept with this many people and you're just giving that
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Yeah, but it's because we're biologically different.
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It's just, like, there's some, there's a million double standards that benefit women.
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That's just, that's, like, the one that doesn't benefit us is don't sleep with too many people.
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And I think the girls, the girls that you're saying, you said girls get shamed.
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Like, they'll get shamed by girls, but not other guys.
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But then there's slut shaming, but that's the thing.
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Like, when I say slut shaming, everyone knows what that is, right?
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With the girls that shame, I think they'll shame you in private, but in public, they'll
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kind of, like, oh, they'll big you up, oh, she's doing whatever she wants, kind of thing.
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I don't think girls will shame another girl in, like, in her face or publicly.
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So, I don't think, girls don't really lack confrontation.
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It's, like, not as likely, yeah, not as likely.
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It's not as, it's not as confront, like, girls are not confrontational.
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So, like, you know, you might, you might tell your friend, oh, she's a little slut.
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But for you to go and actually tell her to her face that, you know, you're behaving like a slut.
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But on the guy's side, like, you know, if my boy is behaving like a waistband or he's
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behaving like a simp, I'll be like, bro, pan up, man.
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Like, you know, you're doing too much for the skill a little bit.
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And I think that's the difference between the men and the women.
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Do you think women, like, this is a question for everybody, do you think women, when they shame
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somebody, there's, like, a little bit of, like, jealousy?
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Because, like, for example, I don't think Paul's jealous of any of these girls that she
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I don't think, you know, you get jealous of it.
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And I do understand where you're coming from, though.
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Like, because if maybe a girl, maybe you like the guy that she likes and maybe you will
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shame her to that guy or shame her, you know, shame her name or character to that so that
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That's how females show aggression, character assassination.
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Men, men, men will fight, but women, we don't, we're not, we're not wired the same
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And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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