JustPearlyThings - July 26, 2023


The Sad Reality Of Marriage Today


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8 minutes

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Word count

1,323

Sentence count

93

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Misogyny

20

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7

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Marriage is at its lowest rate in 150 years in America. Why is this happening? Is it because of a lack of economically attractive men? Or is it because women are just not interested in getting married anymore? Or are they just not looking for a real life relationship anymore?

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00:00:00.000 So in 2023, we have an all-time low on marriage.
00:00:05.580 There are fewer and fewer people getting married
00:00:08.200 than ever in all of history.
00:00:11.380 And the question is, why?
00:00:13.940 Why do we have this lack of men wanting to get married? 1.00
00:00:17.560 Why do we have this lack of families in society?
00:00:22.120 Why do we have such a me, me, me, me, me culture?
00:00:25.120 Well, today, the mainstream media had a very good take
00:00:29.840 where they just really explained
00:00:32.140 why men and women aren't getting together.
00:00:34.680 Pull the clip, King.
00:00:35.840 I don't want no scrubs.
00:00:37.580 Oh, that was good.
00:00:39.880 This is a real study that was done through Cornell University
00:00:43.680 that said a shortage of economically attractive men.
00:00:47.160 There's not enough men who are economically attractive.
00:00:49.960 That may be one of the reasons why marriage is on the decline. 0.77
00:00:52.700 Now, marriage is at its lowest in about 150 years in America,
00:00:56.600 the marriage rate.
00:00:57.800 Now, what do they mean by economically unattractive?
00:01:00.100 They said it's somebody who either doesn't have a bachelor's degree,
00:01:03.480 so that's prospects, or a stable job making $40,000 a year or more.
00:01:07.940 They said one reason might be education.
00:01:10.040 The lead author said, this is a rough quote,
00:01:13.520 many young men today have little to bring to the marriage bargain.
00:01:17.080 And he talked about how women are going to school more
00:01:19.620 because they want to bring more to the table to get better jobs. 0.95
00:01:22.800 I'll say this, this is your sort of piece of money advice.
00:01:26.100 And this doesn't just come from me, comes from Warren Buffett.
00:01:29.480 He says that the biggest, most powerful choice you will ever make in your life
00:01:34.220 is choosing the right person for the right reasons.
00:01:37.780 And that will make a big difference in your success.
00:01:39.980 Okay, I'm just so tired of being pandered to.
00:01:43.480 This shit does not help us.
00:01:45.720 So now the reason that we are not getting married is because of the men, really?
00:01:54.060 Number one, in the old days, you would get married under the age of 30.
00:01:59.060 Like this is a very new phenomenon, getting married over the age of 30.
00:02:03.680 And so typically, yeah, the guys wouldn't make $40,000 a year
00:02:07.540 because they were young and they would work their way up
00:02:10.280 and you would build with the guy.
00:02:12.420 And the other question is, are women wife material nowadays? 1.00
00:02:18.460 Does the average woman know how to cook? 1.00
00:02:20.520 Does the average woman know how to clean? 1.00
00:02:22.140 Was the average woman raised to be a wife? 1.00
00:02:24.900 Was she taught to serve and obey her husband?
00:02:27.800 But instead of looking in the mirror, all of these universities,
00:02:31.600 all of these news organizations just pander to us.
00:02:34.680 And as women, this shit does not help us. 1.00
00:02:37.180 It does not help us to constantly be blaming the guys for the lack of marriage.
00:02:42.060 They also do not talk about how much of a financial risk it is for a guy to get married.
00:02:48.100 90% of alimony payments go towards women.
00:02:50.780 Women get child custody 80 to 90% of the time. 0.76
00:02:54.500 The entire system is geared towards women. 0.99
00:02:57.860 Women get the majority of child support payments.
00:03:00.780 And a woman really can financially ruin a man just because she feels like it. 1.00
00:03:05.360 So blaming this on the men, that it's the women not picking the men,
00:03:09.840 over 50% of men are not even looking for dates or relationships.
00:03:16.040 That is really the state of the modern dating market.
00:03:20.280 In all honesty, guys, I don't say this like because I'm happy about it,
00:03:25.360 but a lot of guys look at the risk of marriage.
00:03:28.160 They look at the quality of the product on the market and they decide,
00:03:32.400 you know, the juice just really isn't worth the squeeze.
00:03:35.560 And, you know, they've seen a whole generation of men
00:03:39.040 get absolutely screwed over by the business of marriage.
00:03:43.480 Now, how have the women taken this, right? 0.99
00:03:47.720 I'm sure we just take some constructive feedback and say,
00:03:51.360 let's improve, let's get better, let's look inward, okay?
00:03:56.360 Let's see how the women really take it. 1.00
00:03:59.760 What kind of world do we live in where a normal, regular girl cannot find 1.00
00:04:06.040 just a regular guy out here to date?
00:04:09.320 Because these guys don't want a real woman.
00:04:12.480 They want a fantasy.
00:04:14.960 They want to live in this fake fantasy world.
00:04:21.000 They would rather jack off to some screen, to some robot,
00:04:27.560 rather than actually deal with a real human being and what comes with that.
00:04:31.720 You know why?
00:04:32.760 Because it's easier.
00:04:35.240 And I am done.
00:04:36.920 I'm done.
00:04:39.080 Okay, what, guys?
00:04:41.960 We got to stop crying online, okay?
00:04:44.040 That's like number one.
00:04:44.920 We got to stop doing that as chicks. 0.95
00:04:46.840 Now, it's funny because she says it's easier.
00:04:50.600 They would rather just jack off to the screen or whatever, do the robots.
00:04:56.360 Why is it easier?
00:04:57.960 Because we are so difficult to deal with as a group.
00:05:02.440 Let's look at the quality of the wives and the mothers on the market. 1.00
00:05:05.800 What percent of men have a wife that they can just go home to?
00:05:09.320 They could take a two-day trip and not have to hear about it.
00:05:14.120 They could say, hey, I'm going to this city because I want to.
00:05:17.640 And they don't have to hear anything from their wife.
00:05:21.000 Nobody.
00:05:22.200 Come on.
00:05:22.840 What, do the men that are 50 and 60 years old have a good review of marriage where they say,
00:05:28.600 yes, it was so worth it.
00:05:30.520 Across the board, overall, one in four marriages are sexless.
00:05:35.880 The second thing is, I think it's funny.
00:05:39.560 I think a lot of women project, so are the men the ones living in delusion?
00:05:47.240 Are the men the ones living in a fantasy world?
00:05:50.360 It's really interesting.
00:05:51.400 I was thinking about this.
00:05:53.000 If women are so, we are so addicted to social media. 1.00
00:05:56.360 What if men were as addicted to porn as we are addicted to social media?
00:06:01.800 Like, I think that would be a good equivalent.
00:06:03.560 And it's like, what if they watched so much that they couldn't even look at us in real life?
00:06:10.840 But that's almost what social media has done to us.
00:06:14.280 Like, we have seen so much social media that average men are unattractive to us.
00:06:20.040 What if men had seen so much porn that average women were unattractive to them? 0.86
00:06:25.480 And I know a lot of people will say, oh, Pearl, that's totally true.
00:06:29.640 That's what's happening.
00:06:30.840 I just don't buy it.
00:06:32.360 Like, men are swiping right half the time on dating apps.
00:06:36.520 They're still wifing up these fat chicks. 1.00
00:06:38.760 Like, I think men have very realistic standards, to be honest.
00:06:43.080 I think it's the women. 1.00
00:06:44.200 Like, we're the ones only swiping right 5% of the time.
00:06:48.120 Because social media has just warped our reality.
00:06:51.800 It has completely changed our reality in society.
00:06:56.600 And it's funny, we are so picky.
00:07:02.040 Okay, this is the funny part.
00:07:03.160 So, we go through our whole lives, right?
00:07:05.160 And we're like, that guy's not good enough.
00:07:07.320 That guy's not good enough.
00:07:08.680 You know, this weekend, I was talking to a 47-year-old woman in a church.
00:07:12.920 Okay, she was 47 years old.
00:07:15.160 And she told me it was good she was 47 and single.
00:07:18.120 And, like, she just needed to be found by a husband.
00:07:21.000 I'm like, this is the delusion we're feeding these chicks.
00:07:23.720 What on earth?
00:07:25.320 And I ask her, I'm like, why are you single?
00:07:28.840 She says, I'm too involved in youth group.
00:07:31.080 I'm like, what, youth group?
00:07:33.480 This doesn't make any sense.
00:07:35.640 You're 47.
00:07:36.520 You've been half a century.
00:07:38.360 But, you know, whatever.
00:07:40.360 But women are, so this is what we'll do.
00:07:43.160 We'll spend our youth not getting married and having a family.
00:07:46.680 And then we'll go to a sperm bank later, freeze our eggs, and voluntarily choose single motherhood.
00:07:55.800 So, I start to tell her back to me why we can't just look for o'clock.