The TRUE Definition of SUBMISSION
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the importance of being submissive to your husband and how to be submissive in the home and in public. What does it mean to be a submissive wife? What is it means to be the head of the household and who is the leader of the home?
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what what is the true definition of submission like what what should a submissive like marriage
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a marriage look like where the woman submits to her husband the mission in the greek i don't know
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but i've heard this from my husband he's saying it's mean to come under like in the military
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to come under and to to submit to them to willingly allow them to lead and to obey them
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i know people hate that word but two heads make a monster every institution on this planet has a
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leader you can't have two presidents you can't you know every every institution every every company
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has a boss and the same the family is an institution and god made the husband the head of the household
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he leads the household in the way that he wants unless it's in sin like a woman just asked me this
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morning my husband wants me to take the birth control pill i said well you don't have to do
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that because it can cause abortions it has horrible horrible side effects that can destroy your health
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you don't have to do anything that's harmful like that to yourself or murder you know so um but that's
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it's just letting your husband lead and it's not really that difficult and practice makes perfect
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and it's funny because even if women are married to disobedient husbands the solution that god gives
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them to win their husbands is to be submissive to them with you know show them jesus through the way
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they live love them poor love i know a woman who's married to a difficult man she's winning him because
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she's constantly she's an example to me because my husband's not difficult to live with he's a great guy
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you know loves the lord's the great leader my kids adore him but she just pours love and grace upon him
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all the time and he is just growing up into this amazing man because the way she just lets him lead
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doesn't nag isn't contentious with them it's just kind um god's ways are just so good they're so
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they're so different than our natural nature we think that we need to control and manipulate and i was so
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good at that about my husband and it just made our marriage terrible how did you how did you do it
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or what are like the common things that women do what before they're submissive yeah like because i
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think a lot of times i'll see people talk about how they're submissive but and i don't know how i can't
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tell i can't really explain why but i see the way they interact with each other and it doesn't seem like
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she is um but it's like subtle i don't know how to describe it though well if um that couple i was just
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telling you about before we went on that she's marrying this man who has five children who his wife died
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he went to meet her parents just soon after they met just like six weeks ago they they started dating
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seven weeks ago he went and saw her parents a week later but they're like 31 34 they're they weren't going to
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fool around they're not like probably when you meet a guy you're not going to just fool around you just
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you want to know is this leading to marriage or not you know and so he went and met his parents and
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after he spent the a couple a day with him he said i love the way your mother is with your father
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she just never interrupts him she doesn't correct him she listens patiently and looks at him when he's
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talking she is affectionate with him in every way she modeled that to her children her daughters
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because one of them is married to my son and so all three of her daughters have had a really easy time
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being submissive to their husbands just kind and loving um respectful the king james says reverence
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and it's just such a beautiful thing to see because i've seen couples i saw couples like that when i was
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growing up but i always in my mind was thinking oh it's because he's just so perfect and my husband
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is not so but no she it and she is doesn't have the strong personality that i have she's more of a
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pleaser so it comes natural to that type of personality but even one of the daughters like
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who my son's married is strong like me but because she was modeled that she's very a very kind and
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respectful wife to her husband so see you'll know it when you see it you'll know when a wife
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is letting her husband leave by the way she just treats her husband in public she never say anything
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negative about him she shows her respect all the time in public towards him and to her children in
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the home even the children can see that she loves and respects her husband and that he's the leader of
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the home whatever you want honey you know well yeah i had a recent red pill where i realized i'm like
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most women lead relationships i think in 2023 because um i even i was thinking about how women
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make 80 percent of consumer buying decisions and i'm like that means women are making like whether it's
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a car a house like they sell to the women meaning the women are making all the decisions in the
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household for the most part and i was like and so a lot of stuff like you think is traditional
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actually isn't because the man can't make a decision without the woman arguing about it
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in a lot of relationships i see and you know they um said that before women's right women couldn't
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have a credit their own credit card and that was really to protect the women because when
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women didn't even want that because men took their credit when if they got into debt
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it was the men who had to go to debtors prison you know it wasn't the women who got
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so now since women have their credit they own two-thirds of the 1.7 trillion student loan debt
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you know just yeah so well i remember i remember being 18 and like picking a college which i was
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gonna i'm gonna talk to you about this too but i remember thinking like my dad was like do you want
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the more expensive one well you'll have debt or the cheaper one where you won't i picked the more
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expensive but why would i pick that like and luckily like i um my dad's business kind of took off so i
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didn't end up having any but that was just because you know i was lucky but and i was thinking i'm like
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even me who you know people would say is more logical i'm still a woman you know i'm still gonna
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and so you probably thought it was a better college because it costs more me i don't know
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well no i think i just wanted to go there like i didn't have a good okay i didn't have a good
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reason i was like oh everyone has debt i'll just pay it off later um and american what it's the
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american way to have debt now a massive amounts of debt now all these young women i know who have
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babies have to continue working because of their debt it's like this is just so upside down see when
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i went to college i went to a private christian college i didn't want to i would have loved getting
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married right out of high school um and just starting having babies and staying home with them
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that was always my just what i wanted to do but my dad insisted i go to college even though he didn't
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want my mom ever to work he wanted her back in those days he wanted them their wives to be home full
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time he wanted his wife to raise his children so she never worked she was always home full time with
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us and i called him for dad's day yesterday and thanked him again for that but um um so anyway i went
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to a christian college small christian college in santa barbara montecito which is beautiful oprah
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winfrey has a big estate right near there it's gorgeous thirty six hundred dollars a year for
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everything and so my roommate that and that wasn't even that much money even for if you consider back
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then my roommate worked in the summers to waitressing to pay for that you know people weren't graduating
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with mass amounts of debt back when i went to college it was just a thing to do and it wasn't
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that expensive but it was i just went because i wanted to find a husband you know and find good
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friends so but now now that it's tens of thousands of dollars and they end up in hundreds of thousands
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of dollars of debt which keeps them in bondage for many many years or it puts that that burden on their
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husband the bible says that debt is bondage you're you know bondage to the debt and who wants to be a