JustPearlyThings - The TRUTH About DATING APPS

00:00:00.000 do dating apps make it easy to find love no no makes it easy to find sex that's

00:00:09.060 it like no and who's responsible for the influx the day of dating apps the

00:00:16.800 science this let's go into the the data the science proves it so research has

00:00:21.620 been done that the way the dating apps work it is that 80 percent actually 90

00:00:29.120 percent of the women are choosing the top 10 to 20 percent of men on there and

00:00:33.500 it's usually based on looks height and money you heard 10 to 20 I heard 5% well

00:00:38.960 they like to they like to skew it I'm just going on what the numbers say like

00:00:44.540 if you if you look at the research if we if we really get into it we could

00:00:47.960 probably say the 5% that you're saying that's what I believe I actually think

00:00:51.140 it's lower than that and so the women are just swiping right swiping right swiping 1.00

00:00:57.020 right the majority of women I think the comparison was two to a hundred in terms 1.00

00:01:03.780 of people who are in women's who swipe right on a woman women men will swipe a 0.95

00:01:09.380 hundred and women will only swipe two so it's like it is women own these dating 0.98

00:01:14.600 apps and a lot of dating apps with fake women on there and some women who are on 1.00

00:01:18.320 there who look good they're actually just selling their their old their OF you

00:01:23.060 know I don't know if you can say the word here I don't know if it hurts it but

00:01:25.900 like their OF or they're saying go to my Instagram or go to my OF or hit me up on

00:01:30.820 here or my cash app is here so even the women who are swiping right there's a lot 1.00

00:01:35.160 of scamming and all of these other things and a lot of men are genuinely

00:01:38.500 looking for love and again from 18 to 30 them there is three times the number of

00:01:43.960 men who are virgins and sexless versus women so women own these dating apps and 0.95

00:01:49.060 we're responsible for the men that we're choosing we're not giving average men a

00:01:53.200 chance because we're picking things on vanity and and things that don't have

00:01:58.120 lasting value they dating apps are for people who want to have sex as you said

00:02:02.460 dating apps and us not necessarily for people who want to find love I would say

00:02:07.780 that love is actually harder to find in this day and age anyway anywhere that you

00:02:11.620 go whether it be in a club whether it be a bar whether you consider Instagram a

00:02:16.660 dating app and would you say the same thing for Instagram I would I would I

00:02:21.200 know that when I actually remember I actually know that when I was single I

00:02:24.640 was on Instagram and someone DM to me and within three hours I was at their house

00:02:29.620 oh wow so yeah I think it's better for women who are looking who are looking for 0.99

00:02:35.560 better quality because if to me Instagram what his is I don't not on dating apps at

00:02:41.700 all that has brought me because people because I'm actually putting out quality

00:02:44.820 content on there so guys are seeing my mind not just a picture of me looking

00:02:48.660 cute and just some caption that I decided to write but they're hearing their mind

00:02:52.920 hearing the quality I'm able to go and see what they're talking about their

00:02:55.860 friends who they actually are and you can actually I think Instagram is a

00:02:59.520 better place to vet if you really want to and I'm getting oh hey I mean the

00:03:05.760 quality is is is is amazing if in my opinion as a woman who's looking to be a 1.00

00:03:10.860 man I want to yeah I want to hear from a business perspective the majority of

00:03:15.360 women are not using a business perspective I want to hear for the 1.00

00:03:19.480 average chick not a girl that's got her butt all over Instagram just like 1.00

00:03:23.520 normal pictures nothing crazy would you say that Instagram is a good way to

00:03:27.300 meet people for women I think the best way you know the best way to meet a

00:03:34.840 person is out in the real life we need to get out in front of these ones and

00:03:39.540 zeros and get out into the real world and just start to meet people here's the

00:03:44.460 thing is that from a dating app perspective it removes being able to

00:03:47.860 talk to women it it it it becomes completely vanity it becomes completely how 0.99

00:03:53.420 good your photographer was it comes completely your angles and this and that

00:03:57.960 yo listen at the end of the day women you want to meet good guys and guys you

00:04:03.360 want to meet good girls you got to do it in real life yes you know so much of this

00:04:06.840 digital ecosystem I love technology at the end of the day I utilize technology

00:04:11.040 technology has allowed me to quit my nine-to-five I will forever utilize

00:04:14.880 technology but I got to understand when does it benefit me and then when does it

00:04:19.020 not and I think like a lot of younger people today don't understand it because

00:04:22.800 they only have seen it with technology here I grew up when internet was not even a

00:04:28.140 thing like I've seen life before internet and then I see it after internet and at the

00:04:33.540 end of the day listen women gonna fall in love with what they hear not

00:04:36.440 necessarily what they see so of course two women per a hundred is going to swipe 1.00

00:04:41.580 right to left of course because the visual is not as important I think is

00:04:47.760 different because let's just say all of us all of us in here we've met through

00:04:52.980 digital we threat through internet like I would not know pearl if it was not for

00:04:57.480 the internet I would not know you I would not know Maggie I would not sorry Garvey but

00:05:02.940 I'm saying there are men that I have met that I'm able to average men you're not

00:05:10.420 meeting average men you're meeting above average men yeah so let's talk about not

00:05:14.780 the outliers let's talk about the majority the majority of people the majority of

00:05:19.280 people dating apps do not benefit real-life in-person conversation Instagram I don't

00:05:27.300 think I'm just my dad is on there okay from the men's point of view do you guys

00:05:35.820 you guys DM a girl on Instagram would you be taking her seriously or is that more

00:05:40.200 for a casual because because sorry to answer but to go back to what MTR was

00:05:45.300 saying is that most men most younger men are socially awkward because myself maybe

00:05:50.300 Melanie maybe MTR yeah they don't have to talk to women they but we grew up in a time 1.00

00:05:55.020 before the internet so we could we could socialize with people you know and it

00:05:58.720 wasn't a thing we could talk face to face we could start up conversations but

00:06:01.900 generally the men of today the reason why I'm asking about you I'm asking about

00:06:06.500 you personally no I know you're in a relationship but when you were single

00:06:09.960 would I take it if you DM'd a girl on Instagram was that for casual or for 1.00

00:06:14.280 serious it depends on the mindset that I was in if I there was a time when I was so

00:06:18.920 you would do both single yeah I would do both so you could hypothetically for you

00:06:23.640 good good Avenue yeah okay same thing yeah so by yes by my specific results now

00:06:31.820 you know throughout my life I had not been looking for a relations been with business

00:06:36.140 colleges I've been in like a whole cold-blooded relationship where I was like

00:06:39.320 okay that's my girlfriend and she was like that's my boyfriend so generally when I

00:06:43.920 hit up women on Instagram it is for not relationship now but at the same time

00:06:51.780 though it don't mean that like into the future if I was to do that in the future

00:06:54.980 it would just be vetted specifically but not relationship but it to me at the end

00:07:00.300 of the day women need to understand this if a guy is not ready he's not ready yeah 0.99

00:07:03.900 if a guy is not ready he is not ready so so during my periods of not ready if I hit you

00:07:10.040 out what's up okay so Instagram it's either or I'm just curious either or I

00:07:16.580 would say it depends oh my gosh that's why I said Instagram is also used more than

00:07:22.580 just date you know a dating app is just for relationship sex it's about romantic

00:07:27.740 interactions Instagram it could be business it can be like you're showing

00:07:31.700 your family your I just really want to hear from the three guys okay if you go

00:07:40.460 over the majority of what people use Instagram for it is not a good place to

00:07:44.240 find love and stop hearing right there I asked for you yeah for me I know I

00:07:49.280 answered for me period okay yeah I was gonna say I'm only 25 but I remember

00:07:55.700 making my first Instagram when I come out and the first thing that come to mind

00:07:58.580 was I wonder how many girls I can talk to you now 1.00

00:08:01.700 straight away it was just a casual there was nothing maybe because I was

00:08:05.300 younger I'm not too sure about how I would be now if I was single maybe if I

00:08:08.660 was even now I think it'd only be casual for me I don't think you could actually

00:08:13.280 go onto a dating app and try to find love because even at the point now I was

00:08:16.400 speaking to my single friends now and I've said you know how is your love life

00:08:20.600 going well you was out the other night how did that go and he went oh I went to

00:08:23.180 speak to a girl when I had that go and he went she freaked out what do you mean she

00:08:26.240 freaked out she goes well because I approached her it's almost got to the

00:08:29.720 point now where dating apps have destroyed the interaction with women are 1.00

00:08:34.760 now when a man approaching who's this creep and they freak out they really do

00:08:38.540 it I think maybe I could be wrong but I think men are more open to trying to

00:08:43.160 speak to women in public whereas I don't think women are anymore as many of you 0.98

00:08:49.220 know I was just banned on tik-tok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this

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JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023

The TRUTH About DATING APPS

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