JustPearlyThings - The TRUTH ABOUT Female Virginity

00:00:00.000 about oftentimes people say, oh, the virgin, the virgin is ideal. The version is ideal.

00:00:04.660 I've been saying on here that it's not necessarily a virgin to me. Like it's somebody who pairs sex

00:00:10.580 with emotion and who's had meaningful relationships and won't just sleep with someone

00:00:14.960 just for a physical experience, but like needs that pairing of sex with emotion and takes

00:00:20.000 relationships seriously. Do you think the guys are really looking for that virgin or is it more

00:00:25.020 my description of what I'm saying? I think that most guys are realistic and know that in 2022,

00:00:31.400 they're probably not going to get one. Where are all the virgins? I know a couple, right? I don't 1.00

00:00:36.960 know any. Yeah, I know a couple allegedly, right? I wasn't there, you know? Yeah. Were they the

00:00:43.780 virgins that did everything else? I don't know. This girl was very innocent. Like just talking to

00:00:49.300 her, like she was in her twenties and I felt like I was talking to like a 15 year old. So I actually,

00:00:54.440 I believed this girl. Um, but I think what we say on the show, the new virgin is sub five. 0.62

00:01:00.580 It's like under five. So that's kind of what meant. I think what I, what this is, I've interviewed a lot

00:01:05.940 of guys about body count and it's basically like sub five is ideal. 10 is workable. Like,

00:01:11.920 but 10 is kind of the cutoff where they say they won't deal with them. Yeah. But I see who they

00:01:16.200 actually date. So a lot of the guys, when they say 10, they're capping, um, and they really mean 20.

00:01:20.620 Even sub five. I mean, that's a very small population of women. If you think about like 0.99

00:01:27.260 women who go through college now, they're already, I mean, uh, they're beyond that by the time they're 1.00

00:01:33.860 out of college and 22 years old. Yeah. Oh yes. Yeah. Well, I mean, listen, I'm from New York city

00:01:39.260 though. So I'm speaking from that lens, but yeah, I would say that's pretty, pretty standard now. So

00:01:45.940 five. I mean, I don't know. I mean, yeah. I mean, from what, this is just from like interviewing

00:01:51.020 guys on the show and like, sometimes I'll ask them off camera cause guys, they can't say too

00:01:55.940 high of a number. Otherwise they kind of look like a simp. Do you know what I'm saying? So if I say how

00:02:00.220 many bodies is too many bodies and they say like, if they, they say their actual number, like guys will

00:02:06.380 kind of look at them funny. Right. So from what I've gathered, it's like, and I'm sorry, I don't make

00:02:12.060 the rules. I'm just telling you what they told me. All right. Sub five is ideal. Sub 10 is like,

00:02:18.420 that's good. Workable. Uh, 10 to 15 is it's not ideal, but they'll, they'll do it. 15 to 20 is

00:02:25.240 like, but if they really like her, she'll still get away with it. Yeah. And then like 30 is no man's 0.79

00:02:33.200 land. And like twenties, it's hard because I want to say guys won't at twenties, but again,

00:02:42.400 I see who these men are day and I see who they're day in. I mean, I don't understand these

00:02:46.520 women got, I don't know how they have this much time on their hands. They got a lot of 1.00

00:02:50.340 free time. It's a lot of free time. All right. Let's go to 44, 42. I'm skipping around a little

00:02:58.760 bit. I'm going in order when I'm skipping, cause I want to get to the chads. You see the chads? Oh yeah.

00:03:04.420 Oh, okay. To, you know, even the perception of like frats, like over here at UCSB ATO kind of has

00:03:10.720 this perception of going and being like, you know, really, really hot guys, you know, are in ATO.

00:03:15.020 And then girls, even though they're aware of that, um, they still kind of go to those frats. And even

00:03:21.580 though they know maybe those guys might not be like the best, um, they'll still go and like allow them

00:03:26.940 to kind of break rules, at least initially, of course, like once that happens and you experience

00:03:31.920 that it does hurt, like that feeling of getting hurt, then you will go and say like, you know,

00:03:37.420 when you get into like an intimate relationship, that's also when you want something.

00:03:41.260 I want to ask your opinion on why young modern women repeatedly go after guys that they know are

00:03:48.640 going to be heartbreakers that they know are going to leave them crying at night. Why is it?

00:03:53.740 Narcissism. Modern women are narcissists. 1.00

00:03:55.520 Is it just, they think they're going to change them?

00:03:56.940 Yeah. They think that they're so special. They've been told they're special from five

00:04:00.320 years old. So they're like, Oh, he hasn't wifed the last 35 girls he slept with me. I'm

00:04:05.740 going to change them.

00:04:07.040 But why doesn't that lesson like that to me, that like, that makes sense round one. Right.

00:04:12.620 But then like round two with a different guy, you don't realize, Oh, that other guy cheated

00:04:17.440 on all his girlfriends and me. So even though this one's also hot, I could see he's cheating

00:04:21.920 on all those girls. I'm not going to be any different. Memo goes to is, is, is just like

00:04:25.980 not a lot going on up here or I just literally think, well, I mean, we're sold a dream. He

00:04:30.900 said he won't. Or is it the attraction is just too much, you know, like that's who they're

00:04:35.500 drawn to because those guys don't care because those guys are like, this is what I'm going

00:04:40.000 to do with my life.

00:04:40.660 Yeah. And there's an appeal to that.

00:04:43.100 I'm going to go back to narcissism. That's my final answer. I just think modern women 1.00

00:04:46.920 are narcissistic. Think they're special. None of it. Some of y'all didn't have brothers 0.99

00:04:50.640 to bully you growing up and it shows.

00:04:52.540 I wish I had had an older brother though. I always wanted an older brother.

00:04:55.760 Somehow you ended up grounded. Don't know how.

00:04:58.020 I had a good dad. Yeah. I had a really good dad. Luckily he's watching. He's like, Oh yeah.

00:05:02.640 Let me ask you this because we're from different generations. Did you ever watch like a TV

00:05:06.880 show and like have a heartthrob guy in there that you were like all about? Any, any TV

00:05:12.520 show? Yes. Who was it? It was, um, okay. I had to, when I was a kid, like kid, kid, it

00:05:17.220 was Taylor Lautner from the vampire movie, whatever that was on Jesse Williams from Jesse Williams

00:05:24.580 is in Grey's Anatomy. Oh, I don't watch Grey's. He's like this, he's like this mixed guy with 1.00

00:05:29.320 like blue eyes. He's so pretty. Are they like slightly edgy troublemaker types or? I don't

00:05:36.560 remember honestly. Um, no, I don't think he was in the show. Are you drawn to that type?

00:05:43.080 Are you drawn to that like slightly mysterious little bit of edge, like in your, in your

00:05:47.060 real life? Um, I think I'm definitely drawn to guys that can protect me. So I like a guy

00:05:53.080 that I feel like could protect me. So sometimes does that come with that? Yeah. But, but I

00:05:58.200 kind of am more like, I have like a risk meter that goes off. So sometimes I'll be like

00:06:03.320 attracted to a guy, but I'm like, ah, no, he's trouble. You gotta, you gotta stay away

00:06:07.120 from that one. Right. And then you do it. You stay away. Cause a lot of women get that 1.00

00:06:10.580 risk meter and then they, they're like, Oh look, the whole house is on fire. Let me go

00:06:14.020 in. I'm not, I mean, look, I've had a boyfriend that my dad didn't like. Right. But I think

00:06:18.000 some girls will waste their entire twenties on that boyfriend. Some girls waste a couple of 1.00

00:06:22.680 months. So. Is that a sign? Would you tell women, like if you bring a guy home and your

00:06:27.300 dad, if you've got like a good dad, you have a good relationship with your dad, you bring a guy

00:06:31.300 home and your dad's just like, is that? Yeah, no, I, yeah, that, yeah, I agree. My dad hated

00:06:37.980 my college boyfriend. Hated him. Yeah. At his core. They have a good, oh my gosh. I was dating

00:06:43.040 this guy. Right. And I don't want to get into like the reasons, but there was things that were

00:06:48.400 happening that like just weren't great. And I was like, dad, like, do people change? And he looked

00:06:52.300 at me and he said, yes. And I was like, wow. Okay. What do you mean, dad? And he said, they get

00:06:56.160 worse over time. He said, so any trait that you see now in 20 years, it's going to be

00:07:01.820 10 times worse. So choose carefully. And I walked away and then he's like, do you like

00:07:05.880 torture? Are you dumb? I was like, but I was like, God damn. It's true though. Yeah. He 1.00

00:07:14.460 was right. I broke up with him. So see, I grew up watching 90210. You probably don't know

00:07:18.900 that show. Cause I'm old, but there was a guy. I saw the new one. Okay. The old one was the

00:07:23.840 character was Dylan McKay, old people in the chat. You know what I'm talking about? 0.95

00:07:26.820 And it was played by Luke Perry, who I later met. He's since passed away, but he, uh, he

00:07:32.100 was had that bad boy energy like that. He wasn't a bad boy in that he did fall in love here and

00:07:38.000 there, but he had this very like independent, I don't need you. You enhance my life, but you're

00:07:42.560 not going to make my life. And I was just from a kid like, Oh, you know, that independent

00:07:47.240 guy. And I think like my message to guys always is like, don't be that guy that like texts

00:07:52.360 her constantly in the beginning. It was like neat. So needy. It's so unattractive.

00:07:56.500 Oh, it's so unattractive. Oh my gosh. It's so unattractive. Like we, we want a guy that's

00:08:01.340 got stuff going on and happens to fit us in his schedule. Right. Right. I get to go

00:08:08.680 to dinner. Yeah. Yeah. And I had a question from a guy the other day, we're going to get

00:08:13.120 to the chat right after this section guys. So don't worry. But I had a question the other

00:08:16.160 day and a guy said, well, a woman is like giving me like indecisive vibes. You know, what 1.00

00:08:21.840 do I do? And I was like, it's done. I said, it's over. Cause when we like someone, when

00:08:26.420 that phone buzzes, we're like, it's like our birthday. It's sad. Yeah. Like you go above

00:08:33.880 and beyond when you like, like when you really like a guy, you go above and beyond. So if

00:08:38.760 she's indecisive, especially in the beginning, it's done doll. It's done. As many of you know,

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JustPearlyThings - March 17, 2023

The TRUTH ABOUT Female Virginity

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