JustPearlyThings - There are No Good Women Anymore

00:00:00.000 What made me think about this i'm like how would you find a good woman and i was thinking about this and i made a chart and i had like the body count of a woman on one hand and i had the looks of a woman on a one hand and so i was like a woman that's eight to ten with a high or a low body count good luck keeping her do you know what the list is going to be for a girl that that's like that hot with like like the competition is crazy and so it's like you could be dating a woman and if there's high competition for her drake could slide in your girl's dms

00:00:29.280 hundred percent or maybe it's not drake it's the town whoever right and then i was thinking about it and i was like unless a guy sleeps with a lot of women how is he gonna know the difference between a woman that's been out with everybody and a girl that does it has it they never do they can't know they can't know unless they've been with a lot of girls and i'm like it's kind of unfortunate because it's like the only solution for the men seems to be to sleep around which i don't think is you know great for society but it's like it's women's fault because we're the ones doing the sleeping do you think that men

00:00:59.260 should have more than one woman um i i think that it's silly to date certain men and expect monogamy so i think it's silly to date say jason derulo chris brad these are extreme examples but there's certain men that it's very silly to expect it because he's never been monogamous and they never will be i think monogamy in general is better for a society

00:01:23.020 forget the higher i'm even talking on average men normal men on a day-to-day because obviously you said earlier on that there's more women on the earth

00:01:30.600 well than men yeah so on average how we are naturally do you think that the average man should have one woman

00:01:37.940 um i think that it's better for society if monogamy is better because you get like a growing um having a lot of sex

00:01:47.340 sexless men like usually cause a slight society to collapse um so i think monogamy is better by and

00:01:53.660 large but i think that a certain percentage of men are always going to be non-monogamous

00:01:57.100 um and that's kind of the way it's been the last like two million years because 85 percent it's like

00:02:02.120 the last i don't want to say the how long it's been like this because i don't remember off the top of my

00:02:06.760 head but i know like historically they always it seems like all of society has been non-monogamous because

00:02:12.160 17 men um reproduced for every uh one 17 women reproduced for every one man like 8 000 years

00:02:20.340 ago and on top of that there's like two women have always reproduced for every one man but it's

00:02:24.140 actually um our 40 percent of men have never reproduced or 40 percent of men i'm sorry i'm butchering this

00:02:29.820 but but the 85 percent of um like 85 percent of society has generally been monogamous where the top 15

00:02:36.800 percent of men have just been like slaying is it yeah well okay you do a lot of stats here yeah i know

00:02:43.160 a lot of average men out here that's probably not on these stats doing the same thing and when i say

00:02:47.940 a lot i'm talking if you're just talking average men in london obviously london i don't know about

00:02:52.380 america and that average in what in sleeping with a lot of women no like average looks average money 1.00

00:02:59.120 would you average looks average average job i'm i'm i can even give you examples of a few average men

00:03:06.000 that are big in weight and just got no more jobs that are dealing with a lot of women across the board 1.00

00:03:11.560 um well there's a couple things so i mean typically again like there's been studies on dating apps

00:03:17.380 and in in person where women find 80 percent of men is ugly not okay not average they think ugly

00:03:24.200 he is unattractive ugly would you say the top percentage of men are on these dating apps

00:03:29.240 um yeah maybe yeah i don't know i don't i don't believe so 0.88

00:03:34.640 but i think that i think that if you look at the numbers social media is the number one way

00:03:44.160 people are meeting 100 so social media and dating apps and like when you look at so then the question

00:03:50.100 is if that's where people are meeting what do the numbers look like in the dating apps well

00:03:53.920 women only swipe right five percent of the time so that means on the number one way people are meeting 1.00

00:03:59.480 we're sharing men 100 because it's always going to be free men because we're the hunters so we

00:04:03.960 always say that again it's always going to be men because we're the hunters we're always going we're

00:04:09.800 going to be the higher anyway do you get what i'm saying yeah but when you're saying that average

00:04:13.000 men that get women they probably get women over the age of 30 because women tend to go for looks 1.00

00:04:18.200 and so in their 20s i fully agree with that you know i agree with that because i feel like in the

00:04:22.760 four single mothers you're 100 right but between 20 and 30 women are very selective in what they 1.00

00:04:27.560 do and then when they get to the 30 you start wheeling off a lot of stats about yeah pregnancy

00:04:32.200 geriatric yeah when they start realizing that then they go for the average they feel like they can 0.92

00:04:37.240 come back to the average man or even go back to man that they was that was trying to get them

00:04:40.920 when they were 18 19 and feel like they can go back to them but obviously with men it's a bit

00:04:45.320 different because men yeah at 30 we start peaking we get better yeah so we start it's change there's a

00:04:52.120 change you get what i'm saying yeah yeah and so that's why i say women pick non-monogamy in 1.00

00:04:56.120 their 20s when they have the most leverage yeah and they they pick the 20 of men then in their 30s

00:05:01.720 they we tend to pick um like the rest basically and so the issue is like when when when women cheat 1.00

00:05:08.360 who do they typically cheat with you guys know anyone the exes correct correct so the issue that a lot

00:05:15.880 of these guys are getting into and this is why guys don't like typically like a lot of guys will say

00:05:19.640 i don't date women over 30 and it's not a looks thing it's that if she's 30 like how many 1.00

00:05:24.840 relationships has she had is one of those guys better than me and does she want to be with him

00:05:29.560 and the odds are he probably is because in her 20s she had more leverage than her 30 so what are the

00:05:33.640 odds in her 30s she can get a better guy than in her 20s likely right and he was probably top 20 percent 0.75

00:05:40.360 of looks i feel like slightly when they have that relationship from 20 to 30 there's there's always that

00:05:45.160 one guy that can always come back in the background yeah i've talked i've spoken to women that have 0.90

00:05:51.000 had like i don't know six years situationships on and off or between every relationship and that's

00:05:56.280 like how they keep their like body count low or whatever it's like i say so they'll like go back

00:06:01.320 to the lap and it kind of so it kind of makes sense you know keeping your body count 100 but you don't

00:06:07.880 have to do that you can use a toy ain't that toxic because yeah no no yeah because like you're going

00:06:13.400 back to past situations that may have not been good that's toxic yeah so then use the toy

00:06:17.800 a new guy going forward to relive your trauma that's too much toxicity that you're going to bring to the

00:06:22.760 new guy that you may meet and then your trauma yeah and like and anytime you mess up he's

00:06:29.080 he's sitting there waiting there waiting sitting there waiting now you gotta get rid of all the exes you

00:06:35.160 know everyone gotta come off yeah but they are usually usually the guys are the ones that are

00:06:41.000 on standby they're waiting and you know why men will always be on there always and i know what they

00:06:46.840 want i'm not saying that i'm fooled but and you know why it works they're always there you know why

00:06:51.480 it works for women and men will always be there because men don't talk to men but i'm not gonna go

00:06:55.640 to to ted and like yo ted i'm dealing with pale you know boom boom boom whereas then women always want 1.00

00:07:01.320 to go to women about stuff yeah so yeah you lot in terms of you can always have your exes there 1.00

00:07:06.280 because my man would just wait in the in the background in the shadows yeah cool when you're

00:07:10.840 done we might come back and you get me i'm gonna say nothing but women we try to have that one in the 1.00

00:07:16.360 background now she won't be the main one she want to go to the the main woman and tell her yo we've been 1.00

00:07:21.880 together how long i've been in the background i've never had that i'm gonna read i'm gonna read this

00:07:27.480 was a i think this is like a 50 i don't know the conversion but pearl listen all these discussions

00:07:31.960 are pointless walk outside and you will see the majority of men don't leave their homes this 0.96

00:07:35.640 phenomenon first started in japan we are just a few years behind i went to japan and all i see is

00:07:40.360 women outside my main point is you cannot bring back most men outside of their rooms if you have to 0.88

00:07:45.080 waste time arguing debating with modern women society will collapse just like japan 1.00

00:07:48.920 women will say it's expensive to have kids tee hee hee children um but men are indoors with corn or

00:07:56.360 what is what is what is he implying um i don't know to be honest i just read it um i mean i think in

00:08:05.240 general people aren't leaving and especially like now they're gonna have ai and like i think there's

00:08:10.440 just more people aren't going outside this is main point um but i was i was thinking about this the other

00:08:16.040 today because i was like if i was a guy how would you pick a good because i've been interviewing 0.99

00:08:20.680 men for this divorce documentary i'm doing so i interview the men that have been like stupid 0.96

00:08:25.400 wrecked by divorced okay so they're um and typically this happens like it's this is kind of the story 0.97

00:08:33.480 that i've heard like from guys typically he meets her and there's like an unplanned pregnancy

00:08:38.600 and typically like they get married pretty quick and then um she'll go to a women's shelter like 1.00

00:08:45.800 accuse him of abuse on some level when some like they'll even prove that she was lying because you

00:08:51.720 get a free lawyer here if you accuse a guy of abuse um and basically they have their whole lives ruined

00:08:56.840 they're on these really big child support payments like one guy lost his job like it's really really sad

00:09:01.960 like i listened like they're and you can just tell they're like a shell of a dude who they used to be

00:09:06.360 right and i'll speak to these men and i'm like okay so she and some the girls had red flags but some

00:09:12.360 it's like she was from a two-parent home um she there's there's one that's in the news right now

00:09:18.440 where they're both virgins on their wedding night um i'll see another that's like she um she came from

00:09:24.920 a christian family she was from eastern europe and like all the like on paper and i'm like i don't know

00:09:29.240 as a guy how you avoid that and so that's that's why i did this show is i was genuinely asking how do you

00:09:35.080 like what what where are the good women and how do men pick them and right now i'll tell you what 1.00

00:09:41.400 we've got um hold on i have the list um go on a coffee date before or after you sleep with her 0.87

00:09:49.320 sleep with her as soon as possible um one month to a year ask her to make a coffee ask to cook on the 0.88

00:09:55.640 spot take her on a coffee date date as many women as possible to tell the difference make sure you're 1.00

00:09:59.880 not on birth control um what is her relationship what like with her dad um and i and i don't even

00:10:05.240 say this to like harp on women right because like men have issues women have issues but i just think

00:10:09.560 like with how much guys have to lose i'm like how i can't even think of how you avoid it well i would

00:10:14.840 say like just don't don't sign a contract when you get married just get married and don't sign the

00:10:18.200 contract i thought this too i thought exactly like you but no it doesn't matter because when you have a

00:10:25.400 kid no that's true but i think if there was more purity in the world i think if the if men and

00:10:30.280 women were both seeking more purity from each other like how how honest are you being right now you 0.56

00:10:34.760 know how how gentle are you as a pure person do you want to harm people do you want to do you go out

00:10:39.560 of your way to lie and get angry let's okay let's follow this let's say the guy says i'm going to be as

00:10:44.440 pure as possible i'm going to have as little experience with women as possible how does he tell

00:10:49.160 the difference between a woman with a high body count and a low body count if he has no experience with 1.00

00:10:53.240 women there's no way not no there's there's no there really is no way right so i but if he has

00:10:59.960 if he has no experience no factual ways no but i'm saying okay i would think you'd have to like

00:11:04.440 kind of be with a lot of women to figure that out but if he doesn't want to if he follows the purity

00:11:08.760 route i mean i think that men still have to date women i think men and women should to date men

00:11:14.760 and a few men and women at least to see like see what see what people are out there to know the

00:11:18.920 difference between different people and also yeah observing other people's relationships is important

00:11:23.080 but i don't think you have to sleep with somebody to know if somebody is a is a wifey material you

00:11:29.560 know i don't think you have to sleep with someone yeah i don't think you have to sleep being like

00:11:32.840 intimate having intimate conversations having relationship you know having your traditional

00:11:36.920 values play out in life roles you know cooking and cleaning and taking care of the house whatever

00:11:40.760 i think those are things those are important things to do and that's how you'll know if that's

00:11:44.600 a woman you actually want to marry one day but that's very pure right there is no like 0.99

00:11:48.840 you know having the intercourse and making out right but i guess my question is like the average woman

00:11:54.520 and like we could talk about like what we should do and and this is where like it's hard because i

00:11:59.480 used to think like this i used to think like you but it's like i think we're like red pill and like

00:12:04.040 trad cons tend to like talk past each other where it's like the average woman has slept with five to 1.00

00:12:08.120 eight people like why would he wait for a woman that's no like so do you sense right i agree with this

00:12:14.120 like if they should not a man should not wait for someone who slept with five nine women right and

00:12:18.200 so how would he tell the difference between a virgin who's lying and a girl who's like actually

00:12:22.200 a virgin unless he's carry themselves i mean like you may you won't know you will you will never

00:12:26.600 know right i i agree with you you'll never know for sure but the but the way a woman carries 1.00

00:12:31.080 herself really shows a lot about who she is and if she's gonna lie about something or not yeah and

00:12:36.200 lie detector and what yeah that's a practical solution i like that and how she responds to difficult

00:12:43.400 situations that's a good one yeah that's a really good one because that that'll be the test every

00:12:48.520 time yeah go on a camping trip or travel with them or do something that's you know challenging or out

00:12:53.560 of their comfort zone and this is the hard thing i keep thinking to these men i was in the docu like i

00:12:58.280 did the documentary with and a lot of them did this stuff and that's why i'm genuinely like i think

00:13:03.720 there's like there's no way you could know like genuinely you can never you can never know 100

00:13:08.920 no for sure yeah but you can you can get you can engage because through conversation meaning

00:13:14.040 he's having a conversation and i find out okay how much relationship you if you've been in a

00:13:18.360 relationship 10 years one person yeah you could have done what you're doing in between but then i

00:13:22.600 can gauge between this age and this okay you've had one person right then maybe you've been outside for

00:13:27.400 the last two years do you get what i'm saying i think you can gauge it that you will never know exact

00:13:31.640 number because she could be doing other things and religion and your religion and spirituality definitely

00:13:36.040 pays a part in who you choose and how you act right because if you both have a similar religion

00:13:40.440 or spirituality okay okay so so then why are the reputation of church women so bad yeah the church 0.81

00:13:46.200 team is mad so let me start a lot of women go to church and they do terrible things yes right but i'm 1.00

00:13:52.120 saying like the reputation of church women is is worse than the normal population yeah and so it's like

00:13:57.480 just church right no but but it's like it's it's just crazy because it's like everything we tell them

00:14:02.040 to look for it's like yeah because they go and commit sins and they can wash them away on the

00:14:06.760 sunday you're right and i think men when both do that they both commit sins you know they both do

00:14:10.440 that well it sounds like for women it's it's also pretty destructive because their chances of getting 1.00

00:14:15.160 another guy is pretty low it sounds like huh it was decimating it totally destroys both of their lives

00:14:20.680 it sounds like when it doesn't work out not only the man's life but also the woman's life because she

00:14:24.040 doesn't have that many chances afterwards according to the statistics you've been sharing but you know i don't

00:14:28.360 think this is a man issue though i feel like it's women that need to understand men more and understand

00:14:32.760 what men want if they understand what men want they won't have the issue of finding another man it's 1.00

00:14:36.200 actually quite simple isn't it i just i don't think women would leave if they didn't think they could

00:14:40.200 do better like nobody nobody leaves to like be alone i'm not saying they can't like we're delusional you

00:14:46.280 know but what's better because they might think that guy's better but well i mean a lot of times it's like

00:14:51.480 the we have imaginations for example a man could do way more for you but it's about what you're accepting he

00:14:56.440 couldn't give you everything you want to make sure you're the number one woman but if he goes out 0.99

00:14:59.880 and he's got a couple gala cheating or whatever are you gonna accept that for being a happy wife 1.00

00:15:04.520 of course not well no one would no a lot of people do exactly a lot of people do i'm saying i'm saying

00:15:09.960 if he looks after your home he cares what do you mean he can look after yourself there's not a lot

00:15:17.000 if he looks after the home he makes sure you're good everything at home is patterned you're the number

00:15:21.480 one woman but yes he goes out sometimes and he's he goes on weekenders away let's say and he sleeps

00:15:27.480 with women but when he comes back the house is patterned everything's looked after there's just 0.98

00:15:32.360 something wrong with his values there's something wrong with his connection to god or religion or

00:15:36.680 something there's something wrong with his values but what about her what about maybe she did something

00:15:41.160 to make him cheat you don't know that too i agree i always feel like there's a reason people cheat always

00:15:46.840 like men don't cheat for no reason and women don't cheat for no reason but like i just think we kind

00:15:50.440 of get in this i think we get in this like like if a guy cheats he's like the worst like people always

00:15:56.120 misconstrue my thought i don't think cheating is good but like it's like well demonize the men for cheating

00:16:01.240 right but when women go into relationships with open social media accounts and we don't demonize them 1.00

00:16:07.240 where they can still get attention from high value men exactly 100 and it's like we don't it's the same

00:16:12.440 thing but yet like if a guy cheats it's the worst thing ever no i think it's both equally i feel like

00:16:16.680 if a female cheats their demon is the worst thing ever and that man will never take her back so i

00:16:21.720 think it's the opposite i think the women always take him back that's not true when you when you think

00:16:26.520 about it like men marry single mothers all the time men take women back and in a way that's like i

00:16:31.400 mean you're coming in with another man's kid but i hear what you're saying to a certain degree men yeah

00:16:37.240 because obviously if you're letting someone inside your body you that man is going to look at you

00:16:40.920 differently no no no forget the man looking at he's going to look at you differently i'm saying if you're

00:16:45.400 opening your leg dead i don't think you're just going to open your legs to a man just just off the

00:16:50.680 rip at night i do think i do think people should try to work out cheating though like i like i i think 0.91

00:16:56.520 like it's about the kids it's not about you you should try to work it out

JustPearlyThings - May 14, 2023

There are No Good Women Anymore

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