JustPearlyThings - March 19, 2023


These Modern Women ADMITTED This


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

208.52597

Word Count

1,774

Sentence Count

186

Misogynist Sentences

15

Hate Speech Sentences

5


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Do you think men lie to women they care about or that they or they tell the truth to women?
00:00:04.840 They lie to women they care about and they feel like maybe like certain characteristics that they have.
00:00:10.120 For example, some because some women are really stern.
00:00:14.320 Like if you cheat on me, that's it. And because they care so much, they don't want to lose you.
00:00:18.260 So that thought of having to lose you would now be in be in their head, obviously.
00:00:22.880 And yeah, they wouldn't they wouldn't tell you.
00:00:25.000 So outside of the cheating, anything else toxic or just that?
00:00:30.000 Yeah, we smoked a lot of stuff.
00:00:34.340 I guess that's drugs.
00:00:38.700 I guess that was toxic, yeah.
00:00:40.000 Okay. All right.
00:00:41.920 What about you?
00:00:43.840 Um, what was the question?
00:00:49.680 What was toxic about you said you had a toxic situationship?
00:00:53.200 Yeah, what was toxic about it?
00:00:54.720 It was very emotionally abusive.
00:00:56.760 So like even though I see myself as a strong person, but there's only so many times you can like get knocked down and I dealt with it and I feel like I didn't respect my own boundaries, which led to me being in that situation.
00:01:10.100 Yeah, it was just very unhealthy.
00:01:11.100 What is emotional abuse?
00:01:13.100 Um, I think to constantly knock someone's confidence down, make them feel bad about themselves, to threaten them.
00:01:19.440 Like what specifically?
00:01:21.440 Um, I don't know, like it could really be anything like, you know, just.
00:01:27.440 I'm asking like to you, like, what did he say?
00:01:29.440 Like what?
00:01:30.440 How was he emotionally abusive?
00:01:31.440 Oh, he just like, just used to knock me down.
00:01:34.440 Like I used to be a bit slow because I had a history of like doing like party drugs and like, I feel like it actually affected my like mental development a bit.
00:01:44.780 Like I had a starter for a long time, like I was a bit slow and it was one of my biggest insecurities and I used to get dig that a lot for that, like, oh, you're so slow, you're stupid, you're this.
00:01:54.440 And that's what he would say to you.
00:01:55.440 Yeah.
00:01:56.440 And also, um, I lost a lot of weight because of stress and I was very insecure in my skin.
00:02:01.440 He'd be like, oh, you're so skinny.
00:02:02.440 You're like, you're so much weight.
00:02:03.440 It would just make me feel like a bit rubbish about myself.
00:02:07.440 Um.
00:02:08.440 And what did, what did you say to him back?
00:02:10.440 Like, did you push back or what?
00:02:11.440 Yeah, I would push back.
00:02:12.440 I would tell him like, don't talk to me like that or I don't like that or something.
00:02:15.440 Cause he did, used to like threaten me and stuff, but.
00:02:17.440 He used to threaten you?
00:02:18.440 Yeah.
00:02:19.440 He was, he was an asshole.
00:02:20.440 Like threatened, threatened to do like, what, kill you or?
00:02:23.440 No, like just to like, you know, bring his fists up to me and stuff.
00:02:27.440 I knew he would never do anything, but like, yeah, it was just not a nice situation.
00:02:31.440 I would always stand my ground about that, but I would continue to put up with it for so long.
00:02:35.440 So that's why.
00:02:36.440 Like I was disrespected for so long, but literally after I got out of it, I put on weight.
00:02:42.440 Like I was, I got glow.
00:02:43.440 Like life is good.
00:02:45.440 Oh, we love a happy ending.
00:02:47.440 Yeah.
00:02:48.440 Yeah.
00:02:49.440 Um, what about, no.
00:02:52.440 You, you said yes.
00:02:53.440 I mean, I can't lie.
00:02:54.440 You were, you were sort of, uh, maybe.
00:02:55.440 Um, no.
00:02:56.440 He told you not to wear something.
00:02:57.440 Yeah.
00:02:58.440 That's literally it.
00:02:59.440 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:00.440 Out the door.
00:03:01.440 I've done this too many times.
00:03:02.440 I know.
00:03:03.440 I feel like I relate to her as well.
00:03:04.440 Cause you know what it is.
00:03:05.440 Now I'm hearing both the stories.
00:03:06.440 Maybe I have actually been in a toxic relationship or toxic ex, but everyone has their own meaning
00:03:19.440 of toxic at the end of the day.
00:03:21.440 Obviously I'm sure there is like a meaning by book, but everyone has their like individual
00:03:25.440 definition.
00:03:26.440 Yeah.
00:03:27.440 Yeah.
00:03:28.440 Yeah.
00:03:29.440 One meaning.
00:03:30.440 One meaning.
00:03:31.440 Yeah.
00:03:32.440 You know what I'm trying to say.
00:03:33.440 But yeah, basically I think with me, obviously, um, it wasn't for that long.
00:03:37.440 I think, I think what's toxic is like, he was saying he wanted to see me, but didn't
00:03:41.440 see me.
00:03:42.440 And this was about eight months.
00:03:44.440 So he would say he'd want to see you and then he wouldn't see you.
00:03:48.440 Cause he constantly like makes promises to you or makes plans of you and lets you down
00:03:57.440 consistently.
00:03:58.440 And it's like, you cannot take advantage of me.
00:04:00.440 I'll be like, leave then.
00:04:01.440 Stop leading me on.
00:04:02.440 I'm not leading you on.
00:04:03.440 Have you ever promised to go on a date and not go, not went?
00:04:07.440 Have you ever blown off a guy for a date?
00:04:09.440 Yeah.
00:04:10.440 Multiple times.
00:04:11.440 Are you guys all toxic?
00:04:12.440 Yeah.
00:04:13.440 I used to be.
00:04:14.440 I used to be.
00:04:15.440 To an extent.
00:04:16.440 I used to do the whole life.
00:04:17.440 To an extent.
00:04:18.440 I used to do the whole player thing.
00:04:19.440 I will lead you on and then just maybe.
00:04:20.440 I'm pretty sure all girls have entertained guys like plenty of times in their lifetime.
00:04:24.440 It's for their own selfish reasons.
00:04:25.440 Yeah.
00:04:26.440 Yeah, but women aren't demonized for it.
00:04:28.440 Men are.
00:04:29.440 We call it entertainment.
00:04:30.440 It is entertainment.
00:04:31.440 It is entertainment.
00:04:32.440 It is entertainment.
00:04:33.440 Women can be just as bad.
00:04:34.440 I think we'll have on to the Friday night entertainment.
00:04:35.440 I'll be like.
00:04:36.440 Rotation eight guys.
00:04:37.440 You can say like a rotation entertainment.
00:04:40.440 Ha, ha, ha.
00:04:41.440 But when a guy says that he's toxic.
00:04:42.440 Yeah.
00:04:43.440 Yeah.
00:04:44.440 That's absolutely correct.
00:04:45.440 He says the exact same thing.
00:04:46.440 I do think women can be just as bad as men though.
00:04:48.440 Some women are actually demons.
00:04:49.440 Yeah.
00:04:50.440 Like.
00:04:51.440 Evil.
00:04:52.440 Pure evil.
00:04:53.440 Yeah.
00:04:54.440 Tell me.
00:04:55.440 Who are you thinking of?
00:04:56.440 What story?
00:04:57.440 No, I've just like seen how like some women treat men and like, you know, some women can
00:05:02.440 be very narcissistic.
00:05:03.440 I think social media especially has like become a breeding ground for narcissism and a lot
00:05:10.440 of people.
00:05:11.440 But I do also think the term is thrown around very loosely.
00:05:13.440 And a lot of people are accused of being a narcissist when they're actually not.
00:05:16.440 No, but what girl, you said you could think of a narcissistic girl.
00:05:20.440 Is there a story?
00:05:21.440 Give us a tea.
00:05:22.440 Yeah.
00:05:23.440 Spill the tea maybe.
00:05:24.440 Um, I mean I could use like my, I don't know, like I don't know any narcissistic women.
00:05:30.440 Oh, sure.
00:05:31.440 But I've like heard stories and stuff.
00:05:32.440 Oh, you've heard stories.
00:05:33.440 I've heard lots of stories and it's, it's actually like heartbreaking because a lot of
00:05:36.440 the time these men really care for these women and they're trapped in this abusive relationship.
00:05:41.440 Yeah, but you know what?
00:05:42.440 A lot of girls trap guys by getting pregnant.
00:05:44.440 They do, but at the same time.
00:05:45.440 And that happens a lot.
00:05:46.440 And then they have all this baby mum and dad job, but it's like it's mad.
00:05:49.440 No, but do you know what it is?
00:05:50.440 Yeah.
00:05:51.440 When it comes to like trapping a man with a baby, you need to be careful who you sleep
00:05:54.440 with.
00:05:55.440 If you're sleeping with people loosely and you, you run the risk of getting that person pregnant.
00:05:59.440 So you have to, you have to sit, like you dug your grave.
00:06:02.440 But that runs back to what we said earlier.
00:06:03.440 Do you remember what we said earlier about if you, you only go into relationship to date
00:06:06.440 that person, you date that person if you want to be with them and you get into relationship
00:06:08.440 because of trust.
00:06:09.440 Yeah.
00:06:10.440 And then you'd only sleep with that person if you're like, don't mean that tight.
00:06:13.440 Yeah, but at the same time, at the same time, if you don't want a baby, then you
00:06:16.440 need to wrap up because like as much as it takes two to tango, you need to protect yourself
00:06:21.440 for your own good.
00:06:22.440 Like, yeah, the woman can say she's on the pill, she's on this, she's on that.
00:06:25.440 But like, at the same time, protect yourself.
00:06:28.440 Yeah.
00:06:29.440 You said you've, you've heard of a girl trapping a guy.
00:06:31.440 Tell me about that.
00:06:32.440 Oh no.
00:06:33.440 We're just baiting people's business out today.
00:06:36.440 You don't have to say names.
00:06:37.440 You don't have to say names.
00:06:38.440 But obviously someone in the music industry, I don't know about who it is, I can't even
00:06:42.440 show the story.
00:06:43.440 But you can if you want.
00:06:44.440 Yeah, be careful, babes.
00:06:45.440 Be careful.
00:06:46.440 But, but, what was I going to say?
00:06:49.440 Obviously, yeah, he was obviously dating, I think this like, girl, OnlyFans girl.
00:06:57.440 And, yeah, and then obviously his energy kind of switched.
00:07:01.440 Right.
00:07:02.440 And she was quite toxic.
00:07:04.440 I know she's toxic because she used to, I heard from other girls that she used to block,
00:07:09.440 she used to go on his phone and block certain goals.
00:07:11.440 Oh wow.
00:07:12.440 Oh wow.
00:07:13.440 And, um, used to go and she'd go through people's like, Insta stories and stuff.
00:07:16.440 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:17.440 Who he follows.
00:07:18.440 That makes sense.
00:07:19.440 Yeah.
00:07:20.440 That makes sense.
00:07:21.440 Yeah.
00:07:22.440 And then afterwards, um, obviously, who knows how she got pregnant.
00:07:26.440 Oh wow.
00:07:27.440 Yeah.
00:07:28.440 And then, um, but obviously, again, it was, it was, it wasn't serious.
00:07:31.440 He was doing it mainly for pleasure because of her body.
00:07:34.440 Right?
00:07:35.440 She's got a nice body.
00:07:36.440 Okay, cool.
00:07:37.440 What else can you bring to the table?
00:07:38.440 You know, we've got beautiful lady panelists.
00:07:40.440 Like we've all got body, body yoddy.
00:07:42.440 Yeah.
00:07:43.440 You know what I mean?
00:07:44.440 But we've got more than that.
00:07:45.440 Hence why we're here today.
00:07:46.440 That's right.
00:07:47.440 Do you know what I'm trying to say?
00:07:48.440 But obviously in the, in that case of obviously trapping him, it's crazy because now it's
00:07:53.440 messed up his career a little bit.
00:07:54.440 He obviously didn't want it.
00:07:55.440 He did not really taking responsibility and he's kind of like hiding away from everyone
00:07:59.440 almost.
00:08:00.440 And obviously that can impact the man mentally as well.
00:08:02.440 And I think a lot of people don't focus on a man's mental health as well.
00:08:07.440 And I think females are all emotional and we've got feelings, but obviously men are taught
00:08:12.440 to obviously keep that away.
00:08:14.440 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:08:20.440 on this platform.
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