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Summary
In this episode we talk about toxic relationships and how to deal with them. We talk about our own experiences and how we dealt with them and how they affected our mental health. We also talk about the things we wish we would have known or could have done to make things better.
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Do you think men lie to women they care about or that they or they tell the truth to women?
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They lie to women they care about and they feel like maybe like certain characteristics that they have.
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For example, some because some women are really stern.
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Like if you cheat on me, that's it. And because they care so much, they don't want to lose you.
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So that thought of having to lose you would now be in be in their head, obviously.
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And yeah, they wouldn't they wouldn't tell you.
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So outside of the cheating, anything else toxic or just that?
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What was toxic about you said you had a toxic situationship?
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So like even though I see myself as a strong person, but there's only so many times you can like get knocked down and I dealt with it and I feel like I didn't respect my own boundaries, which led to me being in that situation.
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Um, I think to constantly knock someone's confidence down, make them feel bad about themselves, to threaten them.
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Um, I don't know, like it could really be anything like, you know, just.
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Like I used to be a bit slow because I had a history of like doing like party drugs and like, I feel like it actually affected my like mental development a bit.
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Like I had a starter for a long time, like I was a bit slow and it was one of my biggest insecurities and I used to get dig that a lot for that, like, oh, you're so slow, you're stupid, you're this.
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And also, um, I lost a lot of weight because of stress and I was very insecure in my skin.
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It would just make me feel like a bit rubbish about myself.
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I would tell him like, don't talk to me like that or I don't like that or something.
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Cause he did, used to like threaten me and stuff, but.
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Like threatened, threatened to do like, what, kill you or?
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No, like just to like, you know, bring his fists up to me and stuff.
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I knew he would never do anything, but like, yeah, it was just not a nice situation.
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I would always stand my ground about that, but I would continue to put up with it for so long.
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Like I was disrespected for so long, but literally after I got out of it, I put on weight.
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Maybe I have actually been in a toxic relationship or toxic ex, but everyone has their own meaning
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Obviously I'm sure there is like a meaning by book, but everyone has their like individual
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But yeah, basically I think with me, obviously, um, it wasn't for that long.
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I think, I think what's toxic is like, he was saying he wanted to see me, but didn't
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So he would say he'd want to see you and then he wouldn't see you.
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Cause he constantly like makes promises to you or makes plans of you and lets you down
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And it's like, you cannot take advantage of me.
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Have you ever promised to go on a date and not go, not went?
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I'm pretty sure all girls have entertained guys like plenty of times in their lifetime.
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I think we'll have on to the Friday night entertainment.
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I do think women can be just as bad as men though.
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No, I've just like seen how like some women treat men and like, you know, some women can
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I think social media especially has like become a breeding ground for narcissism and a lot
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But I do also think the term is thrown around very loosely.
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And a lot of people are accused of being a narcissist when they're actually not.
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No, but what girl, you said you could think of a narcissistic girl.
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Um, I mean I could use like my, I don't know, like I don't know any narcissistic women.
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I've heard lots of stories and it's, it's actually like heartbreaking because a lot of
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the time these men really care for these women and they're trapped in this abusive relationship.
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And then they have all this baby mum and dad job, but it's like it's mad.
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When it comes to like trapping a man with a baby, you need to be careful who you sleep
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If you're sleeping with people loosely and you, you run the risk of getting that person pregnant.
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So you have to, you have to sit, like you dug your grave.
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Do you remember what we said earlier about if you, you only go into relationship to date
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that person, you date that person if you want to be with them and you get into relationship
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And then you'd only sleep with that person if you're like, don't mean that tight.
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Yeah, but at the same time, at the same time, if you don't want a baby, then you
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need to wrap up because like as much as it takes two to tango, you need to protect yourself
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Like, yeah, the woman can say she's on the pill, she's on this, she's on that.
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You said you've, you've heard of a girl trapping a guy.
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We're just baiting people's business out today.
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But obviously someone in the music industry, I don't know about who it is, I can't even
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Obviously, yeah, he was obviously dating, I think this like, girl, OnlyFans girl.
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And, yeah, and then obviously his energy kind of switched.
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I know she's toxic because she used to, I heard from other girls that she used to block,
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she used to go on his phone and block certain goals.
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And, um, used to go and she'd go through people's like, Insta stories and stuff.
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And then afterwards, um, obviously, who knows how she got pregnant.
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And then, um, but obviously, again, it was, it was, it wasn't serious.
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He was doing it mainly for pleasure because of her body.
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But obviously in the, in that case of obviously trapping him, it's crazy because now it's
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He did not really taking responsibility and he's kind of like hiding away from everyone
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And obviously that can impact the man mentally as well.
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And I think a lot of people don't focus on a man's mental health as well.
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And I think females are all emotional and we've got feelings, but obviously men are taught
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As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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