JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023


These Modern Women LACK HONESTY


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

168.9097

Word Count

1,527

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

7


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 do you think it's possible to have a healthy relationship with a former toxic
00:00:03.760 ex in the future yeah oh yeah you've grown up you've leveled up you mindsets
00:00:14.700 are different and you've both grown individuals as people and you've done
00:00:18.660 your self-reflection and figured out how to love yourself and not depend you
00:00:22.440 know there's a lot of life I'll say there's a possibility so yeah it's not
00:00:26.340 common but like I think it's possibly yeah if you guys go your separate ways
00:00:30.840 go like come back and then yeah how important is it to be honest with
00:00:45.300 yourself about past relationships extremely because the last person you
00:00:49.740 would want to lie to is yourself mmm the last person have you ever lied to
00:00:53.640 yourself before but I've always tried to be as honest as possible and stay out the
00:01:07.640 facts about certain situations I'm possibly have lied to myself yes not
00:01:13.320 aware of right now but how did you grow from that oh
00:01:18.640 journaling asking for advice asking for people's opinions on my situation and
00:01:27.040 studying human behavior okay like studying psychology no I just literally
00:01:32.980 naturally love to know people for who they are and how they act in their
00:01:37.340 behaviors mmm yeah the spiritual thing yeah I do yeah it's a spiritual yeah I
00:01:43.600 definitely feel like I've lied to myself because I feel like when you're in a
00:01:46.580 toxic situation and then you make excuses for that other person you make those
00:01:50.420 excuses for yourself to accept that their behaviors so I definitely think yeah I
00:01:55.520 have in the past yeah I'll say definitely I have and the reason why is to make it
00:02:00.500 because I don't really know myself properly as of yet hence why if I am true to myself I have no
00:02:15.140 reason to lie to myself understand so yeah what's the question have I ask myself how
00:02:21.240 important is it to be honest with yourself about past relationships okay and have you
00:02:26.680 ever lied to yourself um obviously like we said it is really honest and really
00:02:32.320 honest oh my god important the drink the sprite
00:02:37.240 no listen it is really honest really honest it's really oh my goodness it's
00:02:44.200 really important to be honest with yourself it is because at the end of the
00:02:46.920 day you're gonna be stuck with yourself for life so you really you need to know
00:02:52.100 yourself inside and out there's really people in this world that actually
00:02:56.420 believe their own lies yeah oh yeah I know someone that believes her it's a
00:03:03.440 story this is this one's deep but she never believes that she's in well she
00:03:08.900 sometimes believes that and she's in the wrong but you have to be on like a like
00:03:12.260 a calm level in order for her to see that and it's really hard because she she's
00:03:17.860 like such a stern person and such a strong woman that it's hard no she is
00:03:22.660 no no I have to big her up if you find out who you are there's a lot of people like
00:03:26.420 that a lot a lot some people are stubborn yeah she's really stubborn but
00:03:32.420 but um yeah she so it turns out like it ends up sometimes in in into her lying to
00:03:39.060 herself and yeah I don't think that's great there's a word for that I'm trying to like
00:03:42.820 remember that word I don't really I don't use that well I don't actually know what it means
00:03:57.380 narcissists anxiety and trauma I'm being serious I'm being serious like I actually don't know
00:04:03.540 if you don't know the meaning of the word don't use it simple what what is what is toxic masculinity
00:04:14.500 i think toxic masculinity
00:04:19.380 is for i think this question is for women not for men i think it actually the reason why i'm saying
00:04:25.940 that is because actually that that word well those two words are actually what a lot of girls
00:04:33.700 nowadays are actually perceiving themselves to be and i can say i'm guilty for that definitely what
00:04:39.060 do you mean as in a lot of girls do say how they prefer to take charge and be that independent women
00:04:47.540 and have like what is it 5k 6k what what did the city girl figures yeah figures yeah all of that and
00:04:55.460 to be that i'm that girl you can't you can't tell me what i shouldn't and what i should wear type of
00:05:01.540 thing i feel like a lot of girls nowadays are doing that so i feel like the whole traditional this modern
00:05:07.540 this i feel like the modern times now is us women taking charge being in that mass and a lot of guys
00:05:15.620 would say oh yeah that's so but it's like hmm i wonder why that it's because you guys something
00:05:22.900 most of you men just want girls you can just control who's naive and you're just nice and sweet
00:05:27.060 you can just take advantage of because it's easy for you and it's less work no do you know what i
00:05:30.980 think you think it's you think it's toxically masculine to want a nice and sweet girl
00:05:38.020 hang on a minute backtrack your words i did not say anything to do with toxic masculinity at all i was
00:05:42.980 going off of what she said going off for what she said literally i was going off what she said
00:05:48.260 she was talking about toxic masculinity what i said what i said okay what i said has got nothing
00:05:54.100 to do with toxic masculinity don't taste my words it hasn't got to do this i'm talking about something
00:05:58.020 else i think toxic masculinity is something that's been created by women that like okay we have feminists
00:06:08.900 yeah but then we have the extreme feminists and i think the extreme feminists don't want equality
00:06:13.860 between men and women they want to take over and i think toxic masculinity is like something that
00:06:18.740 they're throwing at men who just have a really big ego thank you and they just you know i mean you have
00:06:23.220 a big ego it's toxic massive no they're egotistical and if they're not for you you don't want to deal with
00:06:28.180 them then don't deal with them but like yeah i definitely think it's a phrase created by women don't you
00:06:32.740 think that men in general have egos yeah yeah 100 percent we all have it why don't you say that men
00:06:38.740 throughout history have been more successful if they have big egos yeah like the kings the emperors
00:06:44.020 yes i mean yes and no yes i know i can agree with that so explain go ahead so obviously like you have
00:06:51.460 to have a big ego to like be successful to an extent but then there's like being successful and then you're
00:06:57.860 having the ego but you're also humble but then there's like really really like super like egotistical
00:07:04.260 people and you're just like ugh like you can't even you can't even like have a conversation with
00:07:10.020 them because they just speak so highly of themselves almost almost as if they're like bigger than
00:07:14.420 everyone else and this goes for men and women because there's women like this as well but yeah
00:07:17.940 just people that think that they're so much better than everyone else but we're all human and we're all
00:07:21.700 like on the same level i've just found that people seem to label things that are just like masculine
00:07:26.980 traits as toxic yeah so a more masculine way of dealing with problems is just not talk about them
00:07:33.780 we're a feminine like as women like we want to talk about our problems men in general don't and so
00:07:38.420 they'll label things that are traditionally masculine as toxic masculinity when it's just how men are
00:07:45.060 and i think it's kind of similar with like the ego like i just think men tend to have egos more than
00:07:49.220 women yeah i do know a couple guys that are not that don't act out of their ego that are really like
00:07:55.620 they enjoy having deep conversations oh wow so attractive what guy my cousin my cousin he's no
00:08:06.500 no he's very in tune with himself he's like an old soul i always tell him this i always big him up for
00:08:11.780 that he advices me on everything and he's just amazing we love the dmc big up cozy um how cozy
00:08:22.100 so i'm curious do you guys want to be married at all yes yeah yes i mean i would like to be married
00:08:28.020 but it's not something that i'm like super set on like i have to get married in this lifetime if it
00:08:32.340 happens it happens but i don't think i don't think necessary i necessarily need like a piece of paper to
00:08:38.900 prove like my relationship with someone i don't know but my parents as many of you know i was just
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