JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023


These Modern Women LACK HONESTY


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

168.9097

Word count

1,527

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about toxic masculinity and toxic masculinity in the modern era and how it affects women. We also discuss the importance of being honest with yourself about past toxic relationships and how important it is to have a healthy relationship with a former toxic ex.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 do you think it's possible to have a healthy relationship with a former toxic
00:00:03.760 ex in the future yeah oh yeah you've grown up you've leveled up you mindsets
00:00:14.700 are different and you've both grown individuals as people and you've done
00:00:18.660 your self-reflection and figured out how to love yourself and not depend you
00:00:22.440 know there's a lot of life I'll say there's a possibility so yeah it's not
00:00:26.340 common but like I think it's possibly yeah if you guys go your separate ways
00:00:30.840 go like come back and then yeah how important is it to be honest with
00:00:45.300 yourself about past relationships extremely because the last person you
00:00:49.740 would want to lie to is yourself mmm the last person have you ever lied to
00:00:53.640 yourself before but I've always tried to be as honest as possible and stay out the
00:01:07.640 facts about certain situations I'm possibly have lied to myself yes not
00:01:13.320 aware of right now but how did you grow from that oh
00:01:18.640 journaling asking for advice asking for people's opinions on my situation and
00:01:27.040 studying human behavior okay like studying psychology no I just literally
00:01:32.980 naturally love to know people for who they are and how they act in their
00:01:37.340 behaviors mmm yeah the spiritual thing yeah I do yeah it's a spiritual yeah I
00:01:43.600 definitely feel like I've lied to myself because I feel like when you're in a
00:01:46.580 toxic situation and then you make excuses for that other person you make those
00:01:50.420 excuses for yourself to accept that their behaviors so I definitely think yeah I
00:01:55.520 have in the past yeah I'll say definitely I have and the reason why is to make it
00:02:00.500 because I don't really know myself properly as of yet hence why if I am true to myself I have no
00:02:15.140 reason to lie to myself understand so yeah what's the question have I ask myself how
00:02:21.240 important is it to be honest with yourself about past relationships okay and have you
00:02:26.680 ever lied to yourself um obviously like we said it is really honest and really
00:02:32.320 honest oh my god important the drink the sprite
00:02:37.240 no listen it is really honest really honest it's really oh my goodness it's
00:02:44.200 really important to be honest with yourself it is because at the end of the
00:02:46.920 day you're gonna be stuck with yourself for life so you really you need to know
00:02:52.100 yourself inside and out there's really people in this world that actually
00:02:56.420 believe their own lies yeah oh yeah I know someone that believes her it's a
00:03:03.440 story this is this one's deep but she never believes that she's in well she
00:03:08.900 sometimes believes that and she's in the wrong but you have to be on like a like
00:03:12.260 a calm level in order for her to see that and it's really hard because she she's
00:03:17.860 like such a stern person and such a strong woman that it's hard no she is
00:03:22.660 no no I have to big her up if you find out who you are there's a lot of people like
00:03:26.420 that a lot a lot some people are stubborn yeah she's really stubborn but
00:03:32.420 but um yeah she so it turns out like it ends up sometimes in in into her lying to
00:03:39.060 herself and yeah I don't think that's great there's a word for that I'm trying to like
00:03:42.820 remember that word I don't really I don't use that well I don't actually know what it means
00:03:57.380 narcissists anxiety and trauma I'm being serious I'm being serious like I actually don't know
00:04:03.540 if you don't know the meaning of the word don't use it simple what what is what is toxic masculinity
00:04:14.500 i think toxic masculinity
00:04:19.380 is for i think this question is for women not for men i think it actually the reason why i'm saying
00:04:25.940 that is because actually that that word well those two words are actually what a lot of girls 1.00
00:04:33.700 nowadays are actually perceiving themselves to be and i can say i'm guilty for that definitely what
00:04:39.060 do you mean as in a lot of girls do say how they prefer to take charge and be that independent women 1.00
00:04:47.540 and have like what is it 5k 6k what what did the city girl figures yeah figures yeah all of that and 0.77
00:04:55.460 to be that i'm that girl you can't you can't tell me what i shouldn't and what i should wear type of
00:05:01.540 thing i feel like a lot of girls nowadays are doing that so i feel like the whole traditional this modern
00:05:07.540 this i feel like the modern times now is us women taking charge being in that mass and a lot of guys
00:05:15.620 would say oh yeah that's so but it's like hmm i wonder why that it's because you guys something
00:05:22.900 most of you men just want girls you can just control who's naive and you're just nice and sweet
00:05:27.060 you can just take advantage of because it's easy for you and it's less work no do you know what i
00:05:30.980 think you think it's you think it's toxically masculine to want a nice and sweet girl
00:05:38.020 hang on a minute backtrack your words i did not say anything to do with toxic masculinity at all i was
00:05:42.980 going off of what she said going off for what she said literally i was going off what she said
00:05:48.260 she was talking about toxic masculinity what i said what i said okay what i said has got nothing
00:05:54.100 to do with toxic masculinity don't taste my words it hasn't got to do this i'm talking about something
00:05:58.020 else i think toxic masculinity is something that's been created by women that like okay we have feminists 1.00
00:06:08.900 yeah but then we have the extreme feminists and i think the extreme feminists don't want equality 1.00
00:06:13.860 between men and women they want to take over and i think toxic masculinity is like something that
00:06:18.740 they're throwing at men who just have a really big ego thank you and they just you know i mean you have
00:06:23.220 a big ego it's toxic massive no they're egotistical and if they're not for you you don't want to deal with
00:06:28.180 them then don't deal with them but like yeah i definitely think it's a phrase created by women don't you 1.00
00:06:32.740 think that men in general have egos yeah yeah 100 percent we all have it why don't you say that men
00:06:38.740 throughout history have been more successful if they have big egos yeah like the kings the emperors
00:06:44.020 yes i mean yes and no yes i know i can agree with that so explain go ahead so obviously like you have
00:06:51.460 to have a big ego to like be successful to an extent but then there's like being successful and then you're
00:06:57.860 having the ego but you're also humble but then there's like really really like super like egotistical
00:07:04.260 people and you're just like ugh like you can't even you can't even like have a conversation with
00:07:10.020 them because they just speak so highly of themselves almost almost as if they're like bigger than
00:07:14.420 everyone else and this goes for men and women because there's women like this as well but yeah 0.98
00:07:17.940 just people that think that they're so much better than everyone else but we're all human and we're all
00:07:21.700 like on the same level i've just found that people seem to label things that are just like masculine
00:07:26.980 traits as toxic yeah so a more masculine way of dealing with problems is just not talk about them
00:07:33.780 we're a feminine like as women like we want to talk about our problems men in general don't and so
00:07:38.420 they'll label things that are traditionally masculine as toxic masculinity when it's just how men are
00:07:45.060 and i think it's kind of similar with like the ego like i just think men tend to have egos more than
00:07:49.220 women yeah i do know a couple guys that are not that don't act out of their ego that are really like
00:07:55.620 they enjoy having deep conversations oh wow so attractive what guy my cousin my cousin he's no
00:08:06.500 no he's very in tune with himself he's like an old soul i always tell him this i always big him up for
00:08:11.780 that he advices me on everything and he's just amazing we love the dmc big up cozy um how cozy
00:08:22.100 so i'm curious do you guys want to be married at all yes yeah yes i mean i would like to be married
00:08:28.020 but it's not something that i'm like super set on like i have to get married in this lifetime if it
00:08:32.340 happens it happens but i don't think i don't think necessary i necessarily need like a piece of paper to
00:08:38.900 prove like my relationship with someone i don't know but my parents as many of you know i was just
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