These Post Wall Women HATE Being Single
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the single life, single marriage, single parenthood, single children and single life in general. Do you think women can stay single and happy for a lifetime? Is it possible for a woman to stay single for the rest of her life?
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do you think that women can be happy for a lifetime single no starting here and then go
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around but we can all go ahead go ahead um to be honest i think it depends on how you
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have a relationship whilst you're single are you single whilst dating are you single
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and still seeking a companionship or are you just solely by yourself and i feel like if
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you're solely by yourself i don't think you can actually a hundred percent be happy on your own
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um i don't think you have to be married to be happy in particular but i do feel like you would
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need some kind of companionship whether that's a long lasting one or one that lasts two or three
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years but i feel like everyone seeks to have that kind of someone that they can share part of their
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life with okay yeah i think the main mission of women to be in love and when you're not in love
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you will never happy you can have career you can be in forbes you can have millions but when you're
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not in love you have one gap inside you and you will very looking for this because we're born to be
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in love it's our main mission even not to be a mother to be in love okay um yeah sort of echo
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what everyone is saying so i feel that being no one wants to be lonely really i don't think anyone
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wants to be lonely um and i think even if you have everything in life materialistic ways you want
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to share it with someone whether it's family a companion so yeah whether it's a husband or your life
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partner definitely something that adds value to life because we want we want to share our happiness
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so um yeah i agree um for me um there is millions answer for this question because there is a millions
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factors that indicate and bring happiness and um define and has a different definition for being single
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but if the single um your question means not being in a relationship with someone and which sort of
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relationship marriage being a partner so yeah so when i say single i say not in a long-term relationship
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or married i know some people do like the seven eight year relationships i think that's a little
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different but single for a lifetime or because constantly between relationships why not of course
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there is no rules uh that anyone must marry to be happy i think uh there is no fixed rule many people
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are single and happy and many people are not single and um you know you are in a relationship unhappy so
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for me why not of course okay i yeah i think it's possible but very unlikely yeah like i don't i don't think
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women in general and i think you could see that because women get on antidepressants when we're old and
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single over the age of 45 that's like the most women you see on antidepressants but um for me as a
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healthcare professional i met many people many patients uh many clients that they are single and um
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they're happy but what is the definition of happy you know is is uh is very vague that is a very good
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point yeah yeah define as how if a scale of one to ten how much you are happy you know what if you say
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happy it's just very vague yeah i think women can be happy single till their looks fade i think that's
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typically when the happiness goes my opinion yeah go ahead um this is a question for the for the women
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right no what do you think no no that's a question for you i mean you're you're 40 42 42 okay and
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you've seen women that stayed single right yeah so what's your opinion do you think women can stay
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single and happy for a lifetime i would say for a man or a woman uh i mean happiness comes from
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within but i think it is i think when you get older you start seeing your parents pass away your
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grandparents pass away and you get lonely what happens when you get sick i know when i got sick
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my wife helped me when i was bleeding sick you know she helped me she helped me when i couldn't stand
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up and when i got out the hospital my daughter was there and my wife was there i couldn't imagine
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someone going through something where they get sick and uh they don't have a wife and daughter
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so i would say you might feel happy when you're single and alone but what are you going to do when
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your wife you know your boys your girls they got married they get married they get family and they
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got kids and you know they move on once once your friends start getting married and having kids you're
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going to start seeing a little bit of distance i think and that's natural yeah i literally following
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on from what um this gentleman saying i agree um and taking points of what everyone has said it's like
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what is happiness first and foremost and yes we're you know centering this conversation around women but i
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think it applies equally to men a man and you were saying as their looks fades beauty it doesn't
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mean one thing for women and one thing for men we're all physical beings our beauty and our looks
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fade over time equally so no they do not women's looks fade much quicker than necessarily but if
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you look at even if they've done studies on facial elasticity so it's how much men's like like
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the wrinkles in your skin come women versus men women wrinkle faster okay fair point however i stand on the
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point that i'm saying that you know taking away the point you're making about beauty even if you're
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not married and you choose to be a single person in terms of when you tick the box you are single
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even if you take the box and you're cohabiting or you know you have a partner right i think there's a
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longing within everybody everybody wants to know that they are cared for by somebody that they are
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loved by somebody that somebody is going to take care of them in their time of need so i don't think
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it applies to him i think men as well even if men are alone you can you can earn all the money that
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you want you can buy all the big houses but you're going to buy a big house and live in alone is that
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going to make you happy you can buy the big fast cars and drive them alone are you going to be happy
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because i've thought about this right and i and i kind of go i go both sides because sometimes i think
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of hugh hefner was that man unhappy i think i've seen i've seen hugh hefner on a wednesday night at
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concord no way yeah a nightclub in hollywood around 2004 and i remember seeing hugh hefner
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but like on a tuesday night like five women i don't know if he was deep down happy or not
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but he seemed like he was having a good time yeah but i don't know well because it's like we have this
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idea that like men are if they don't get married and have kids they'll be lonely too and i just don't
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see it the same for men and for women i think women get much more lonely the older they get
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i don't think so because i feel like men when they lose their spouses they tend to actually
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become more depressed and get entering depression actually women losing their spouses so and even
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when it comes to family yeah i don't i don't think that's the same though because that's like the loss
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of a partner that's not never getting a partner oh by oh so your question is if a woman never gets a
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partner yeah if she ends up single oh okay i think my point is um it depends on the community
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she has and the other relationships she has i get it um there is this thing about but there are so
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many women who are married and not happy as well right like you know so when we say about single
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woman being happy my question then arises is have you got those relationships like i'm from a very big
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family and i i tell you from friends to my neighbors to everybody like right now i'm single i've been
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married for 18 years i am much happier right now than i've ever been and if you ask me would i rather
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be with the person with him i'm miserable or not because you know um it also about compatibility and stuff
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like that but as a single woman right now i think it's about compatibility uh with with the men as well
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because obviously a man or the other person can't make keep you happy all the time either so when we
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are talking about our happiness then it comes from within so if it comes from within yeah that's what i
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was yeah you i think the only thing i would say then the order is okay that physical connection with
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somebody you can hug and say this is person is mine but anything else you know if you want to
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go for a cup of coffee a man probably doesn't might not want to do it at that time even sorry no go ahead
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so i was just saying you can go by yourself and have that coffee do you translate that as single
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yourself although you're still in the relationship with someone so my point is a woman can stay single
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and happy it's just um how you're interpreting it in the sense of um like a woman cannot stay single
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if she has really good relationships around her her girlfriends could be her closest friends like one
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of my single friends say if i don't find the right guy i'll just when i'm old and i'm fragile i'll get
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all my single girlfriends and we live in the same house and we live happily together like you know
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because at that time you need help have you ever seen sorority houses they all fight like men
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exactly but i'm just saying who is it is it because because the man is not there but yeah yeah i think
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it is i i can't even imagine like life at six like what does life at 60 look like without a man