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00:00:00.400 do you think that women can be happy for a lifetime single no starting here and then go 1.00

00:00:09.120 around but we can all go ahead go ahead um to be honest i think it depends on how you

00:00:17.040 have a relationship whilst you're single are you single whilst dating are you single

00:00:22.080 and still seeking a companionship or are you just solely by yourself and i feel like if

00:00:27.120 you're solely by yourself i don't think you can actually a hundred percent be happy on your own

00:00:32.720 um i don't think you have to be married to be happy in particular but i do feel like you would

00:00:38.480 need some kind of companionship whether that's a long lasting one or one that lasts two or three

00:00:43.040 years but i feel like everyone seeks to have that kind of someone that they can share part of their

00:00:49.600 life with okay yeah i think the main mission of women to be in love and when you're not in love 1.00

00:00:58.000 you will never happy you can have career you can be in forbes you can have millions but when you're

00:01:03.920 not in love you have one gap inside you and you will very looking for this because we're born to be

00:01:11.760 in love it's our main mission even not to be a mother to be in love okay um yeah sort of echo

00:01:20.320 what everyone is saying so i feel that being no one wants to be lonely really i don't think anyone

00:01:26.480 wants to be lonely um and i think even if you have everything in life materialistic ways you want

00:01:32.320 to share it with someone whether it's family a companion so yeah whether it's a husband or your life

00:01:38.800 partner definitely something that adds value to life because we want we want to share our happiness

00:01:44.640 so um yeah i agree um for me um there is millions answer for this question because there is a millions

00:01:59.200 factors that indicate and bring happiness and um define and has a different definition for being single

00:02:08.400 but if the single um your question means not being in a relationship with someone and which sort of

00:02:16.240 relationship marriage being a partner so yeah so when i say single i say not in a long-term relationship

00:02:22.480 or married i know some people do like the seven eight year relationships i think that's a little

00:02:26.560 different but single for a lifetime or because constantly between relationships why not of course

00:02:33.440 there is no rules uh that anyone must marry to be happy i think uh there is no fixed rule many people

00:02:41.360 are single and happy and many people are not single and um you know you are in a relationship unhappy so

00:02:49.600 for me why not of course okay i yeah i think it's possible but very unlikely yeah like i don't i don't think

00:02:58.400 women in general and i think you could see that because women get on antidepressants when we're old and 0.83

00:03:02.880 single over the age of 45 that's like the most women you see on antidepressants but um for me as a

00:03:08.640 healthcare professional i met many people many patients uh many clients that they are single and um

00:03:18.000 they're happy but what is the definition of happy you know is is uh is very vague that is a very good

00:03:23.920 point yeah yeah define as how if a scale of one to ten how much you are happy you know what if you say

00:03:32.160 happy it's just very vague yeah i think women can be happy single till their looks fade i think that's

00:03:38.000 typically when the happiness goes my opinion yeah go ahead um this is a question for the for the women 0.99

00:03:47.360 right no what do you think no no that's a question for you i mean you're you're 40 42 42 okay and

00:03:54.720 you've seen women that stayed single right yeah so what's your opinion do you think women can stay 0.99

00:03:58.880 single and happy for a lifetime i would say for a man or a woman uh i mean happiness comes from

00:04:07.280 within but i think it is i think when you get older you start seeing your parents pass away your

00:04:13.360 grandparents pass away and you get lonely what happens when you get sick i know when i got sick

00:04:19.600 my wife helped me when i was bleeding sick you know she helped me she helped me when i couldn't stand

00:04:27.360 up and when i got out the hospital my daughter was there and my wife was there i couldn't imagine

00:04:34.000 someone going through something where they get sick and uh they don't have a wife and daughter

00:04:40.960 so i would say you might feel happy when you're single and alone but what are you going to do when

00:04:47.040 your wife you know your boys your girls they got married they get married they get family and they

00:04:52.160 got kids and you know they move on once once your friends start getting married and having kids you're

00:04:57.040 going to start seeing a little bit of distance i think and that's natural yeah i literally following

00:05:04.320 on from what um this gentleman saying i agree um and taking points of what everyone has said it's like

00:05:10.000 what is happiness first and foremost and yes we're you know centering this conversation around women but i 0.51

00:05:16.080 think it applies equally to men a man and you were saying as their looks fades beauty it doesn't

00:05:22.400 mean one thing for women and one thing for men we're all physical beings our beauty and our looks

00:05:27.600 fade over time equally so no they do not women's looks fade much quicker than necessarily but if 1.00

00:05:33.840 you look at even if they've done studies on facial elasticity so it's how much men's like like

00:05:38.080 the wrinkles in your skin come women versus men women wrinkle faster okay fair point however i stand on the

00:05:44.800 point that i'm saying that you know taking away the point you're making about beauty even if you're

00:05:50.880 not married and you choose to be a single person in terms of when you tick the box you are single

00:05:56.800 even if you take the box and you're cohabiting or you know you have a partner right i think there's a

00:06:01.040 longing within everybody everybody wants to know that they are cared for by somebody that they are

00:06:04.960 loved by somebody that somebody is going to take care of them in their time of need so i don't think

00:06:10.480 it applies to him i think men as well even if men are alone you can you can earn all the money that

00:06:14.640 you want you can buy all the big houses but you're going to buy a big house and live in alone is that

00:06:18.320 going to make you happy you can buy the big fast cars and drive them alone are you going to be happy

00:06:22.400 because i've thought about this right and i and i kind of go i go both sides because sometimes i think

00:06:28.000 of hugh hefner was that man unhappy i think i've seen i've seen hugh hefner on a wednesday night at

00:06:35.440 concord no way yeah a nightclub in hollywood around 2004 and i remember seeing hugh hefner

00:06:42.720 but like on a tuesday night like five women i don't know if he was deep down happy or not

00:06:49.200 but he seemed like he was having a good time yeah but i don't know well because it's like we have this

00:06:54.480 idea that like men are if they don't get married and have kids they'll be lonely too and i just don't

00:07:00.240 see it the same for men and for women i think women get much more lonely the older they get

00:07:05.440 i don't think so because i feel like men when they lose their spouses they tend to actually

00:07:11.680 become more depressed and get entering depression actually women losing their spouses so and even 0.97

00:07:17.840 when it comes to family yeah i don't i don't think that's the same though because that's like the loss

00:07:22.320 of a partner that's not never getting a partner oh by oh so your question is if a woman never gets a 1.00

00:07:27.920 partner yeah if she ends up single oh okay i think my point is um it depends on the community

00:07:35.440 she has and the other relationships she has i get it um there is this thing about but there are so

00:07:42.720 many women who are married and not happy as well right like you know so when we say about single 1.00

00:07:48.000 woman being happy my question then arises is have you got those relationships like i'm from a very big

00:07:55.920 family and i i tell you from friends to my neighbors to everybody like right now i'm single i've been

00:08:03.440 married for 18 years i am much happier right now than i've ever been and if you ask me would i rather

00:08:10.160 be with the person with him i'm miserable or not because you know um it also about compatibility and stuff

00:08:17.920 like that but as a single woman right now i think it's about compatibility uh with with the men as well

00:08:24.480 because obviously a man or the other person can't make keep you happy all the time either so when we

00:08:30.080 are talking about our happiness then it comes from within so if it comes from within yeah that's what i

00:08:36.160 was yeah you i think the only thing i would say then the order is okay that physical connection with

00:08:42.160 somebody you can hug and say this is person is mine but anything else you know if you want to

00:08:48.720 go for a cup of coffee a man probably doesn't might not want to do it at that time even sorry no go ahead

00:08:54.640 so i was just saying you can go by yourself and have that coffee do you translate that as single

00:09:01.680 yourself although you're still in the relationship with someone so my point is a woman can stay single 1.00

00:09:07.920 and happy it's just um how you're interpreting it in the sense of um like a woman cannot stay single

00:09:18.240 if she has really good relationships around her her girlfriends could be her closest friends like one

00:09:24.000 of my single friends say if i don't find the right guy i'll just when i'm old and i'm fragile i'll get

00:09:31.760 all my single girlfriends and we live in the same house and we live happily together like you know

00:09:36.320 because at that time you need help have you ever seen sorority houses they all fight like men

00:09:42.400 exactly but i'm just saying who is it is it because because the man is not there but yeah yeah i think

00:09:50.080 it is i i can't even imagine like life at six like what does life at 60 look like without a man

JustPearlyThings - July 01, 2023

These Post Wall Women HATE Being Single

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