JustPearlyThings - They called out Modern Women's Hypocrisy

00:00:00.000 Man Positivity

00:00:01.360 You know what

00:00:03.540 I want to talk about this as well

00:00:07.240 And I know like you know the guys

00:00:09.120 Actually it was only one of the guys

00:00:11.120 Here but you know from my perspective

00:00:13.180 Someone says manifest

00:00:15.200 When

00:00:15.840 Manifest

00:00:16.960 Like you know as a

00:00:21.020 Young boy right like and you're watching

00:00:23.040 These shows on TV where

00:00:24.980 They're talking about a man

00:00:26.900 A man's member the size

00:00:29.020 Matter

00:00:30.000 Like how dare you

00:00:31.700 How the

00:00:33.860 Nerve of you cowards to get up

00:00:36.020 On TV and to talk about

00:00:37.980 On daytime talk show TV

00:00:39.900 And to talk about the size

00:00:42.000 Matter does your

00:00:43.900 Viscous innards matter

00:00:45.020 Because

00:00:46.020 Y'all are just as different

00:00:51.780 With y'all insides as we

00:00:53.860 Are different with our

00:00:55.800 Outsides so y'all could judge

00:00:57.480 All this in terms

00:00:59.660 In terms of size depth

00:01:01.000 Circumference where it's actually

00:01:03.120 Positioned on the hip

00:01:04.460 We're adding small dick energy

00:01:06.280 No but something you can

00:01:07.440 Take that out

00:01:08.780 A man can't help

00:01:10.660 But you can control how much you eat

00:01:12.680 Because we talk about the pH we talk about the smell

00:01:14.740 And some of that is from a genetic perspective as well

00:01:16.660 But like the actual oil

00:01:18.800 On the inside of it like it's a lot

00:01:20.580 Different as well so like if it doesn't go right

00:01:22.700 It doesn't all have to do with his member

00:01:24.620 You know but to talk about that and have

00:01:26.560 Young boys listening to that

00:01:28.320 Sometimes maybe because

00:01:29.240 It's damaging

00:01:30.320 Maybe that's what it is

00:01:31.780 Because the women always say that

00:01:33.220 The man's dick is too small

00:01:34.420 But the women never say

00:01:35.220 My fanny's too big

00:01:36.160 It's the body positivity

00:01:41.720 They will claim the same body positivity

00:01:44.440 I can be 500 pounds

00:01:46.120 And accept me as I am

00:01:47.700 But the same woman will claim

00:01:49.340 Small d energy

00:01:50.440 With something that's genetic

00:01:52.140 Where if you controlled

00:01:53.120 How much you ate

00:01:54.300 And you exercise

00:01:56.060 And discipline yourself

00:01:56.920 You can actually control

00:01:57.940 It doesn't mean you have to be a supermodel

00:01:59.320 In a size

00:01:59.920 You know I don't know in the UK

00:02:01.180 What the sizes are

00:02:01.920 But like size 2 and 0

00:02:03.140 Like super skinny

00:02:04.020 But a lot of men aren't even looking for that

00:02:06.400 But you will claim

00:02:07.660 Body positivity

00:02:08.980 But the same woman will say

00:02:10.600 You got small d energy

00:02:11.860 I'm not even talking about that

00:02:13.340 I'm talking about

00:02:14.120 A woman would always say

00:02:16.220 Oh he didn't satisfy me

00:02:17.680 Because his dick's small

00:02:18.400 But you never hear a man say

00:02:19.980 My fanny was too big

00:02:21.260 I was rolling around in it

00:02:22.420 Or her walls were too big

00:02:24.260 Or there was so much air rushing around

00:02:26.620 Yeah

00:02:27.020 You know

00:02:27.460 Air

00:02:27.800 I put it in

00:02:30.440 And I felt nothing

00:02:31.220 Not the air pressure

00:02:31.880 I put it in

00:02:33.320 Is it in you?

00:02:34.380 I have a really great addition to this list

00:02:37.400 Thank you

00:02:38.360 Thank you to Bo's Nuts

00:02:40.160 Who?

00:02:42.740 My ex

00:02:43.580 Bo's Nuts

00:02:44.640 My ex was a narcissist

00:02:47.040 Yeah

00:02:47.800 No you just fell for that

00:02:49.700 Yo ex

00:02:50.480 Pearl

00:02:51.020 If all their exes

00:02:52.960 Okay

00:02:53.200 This is what I've come to conclude

00:02:54.800 I've come to conclude this

00:02:56.120 Okay wait wait wait

00:02:56.800 I need

00:02:57.500 I need to get this off my chest

00:02:59.160 Okay

00:02:59.480 Go ahead

00:02:59.880 I've come to conclude

00:03:00.940 That either

00:03:02.620 50% of all men are narcissists

00:03:05.500 Or women are all dating the same narcissists

00:03:08.700 Or maybe

00:03:10.340 Women are the problem

00:03:12.400 Uh oh

00:03:12.900 No just so

00:03:13.680 Scientifically it's been shown

00:03:15.360 This is the research

00:03:16.420 Let's get into data

00:03:17.400 And not just

00:03:17.840 Wait wait wait

00:03:18.100 Just real quick put that up

00:03:19.960 Pearl you gotta add

00:03:21.080 I'm a queen

00:03:21.680 Oh

00:03:22.220 Please add that one

00:03:23.660 I'm an independent

00:03:24.540 I'm an independent queen

00:03:25.980 They spell it different

00:03:26.540 Is it Q-W-W-E-N

00:03:29.280 Q-E-E-N

00:03:30.000 K-W-E-E-N

00:03:32.020 I knew it was in English

00:03:33.160 Queen

00:03:33.440 I knew it was a special way

00:03:35.560 Of spelling it

00:03:36.360 Okay what's the data?

00:03:39.380 Is it okay if I disagree

00:03:40.180 About something right now

00:03:41.420 Uh oh

00:03:41.940 Because I feel like

00:03:42.100 Everyone's sort of agreeing

00:03:43.060 With a lot of things

00:03:43.960 Go ahead mama

00:03:44.440 Speak your mind

00:03:45.080 And I feel like

00:03:46.000 I need to disagree

00:03:46.800 About something

00:03:47.840 A few things actually

00:03:48.800 A few things on that list

00:03:49.640 Okay go ahead

00:03:50.320 Go ahead

00:03:50.560 I'd personally remove

00:03:51.720 I don't know exactly what

00:03:53.180 But one stood out to me

00:03:54.640 Now I've had a few exes

00:03:56.620 A lot of the exes I've had

00:03:58.600 I've been very very nice men

00:04:00.420 I'd say recently

00:04:03.140 I'd say about in October

00:04:04.120 I got out of a relationship

00:04:05.300 And I was with this guy

00:04:07.880 For a year

00:04:08.820 And this guy was genuinely abusive

00:04:12.300 Does that mean I cannot use the term

00:04:14.580 That I had an abusive ex

00:04:16.340 Does that mean that I

00:04:17.460 Like should diminish my

00:04:19.540 Sort of feelings

00:04:20.720 Because of that

00:04:21.500 Because genuinely

00:04:22.180 I had to go through

00:04:23.040 Like victim support

00:04:23.940 And things like that

00:04:24.900 I had to put things in place

00:04:26.380 For my safety

00:04:27.280 So as a woman

00:04:28.500 Do you think that

00:04:29.620 I should not use that

00:04:30.500 Because I know you are

00:04:31.140 Laughing and joking

00:04:31.820 And not about like

00:04:32.660 Narcissism

00:04:33.140 Obviously I know there's only

00:04:35.140 A small percentage of men

00:04:36.140 That are actually narcissistic

00:04:37.300 And I think people that ruin it

00:04:39.200 Is the women

00:04:39.760 That throw these words out

00:04:41.840 Like for example

00:04:42.660 Women that lie about getting raped

00:04:44.460 Or women that lie about getting

00:04:46.460 Sexually assaulted

00:04:47.760 They ruin it

00:04:48.620 Sorry SA

00:04:49.900 They ruin it for the actual women

00:04:52.360 That have been victim

00:04:53.460 And I know again

00:04:54.780 I'm one of those people

00:04:56.040 That believe in accountability

00:04:57.420 I genuinely believe that

00:04:59.580 You should take accountability

00:05:00.720 For the things that have happened

00:05:01.760 To you

00:05:02.280 And you should fix yourself

00:05:04.660 But I just don't think

00:05:06.100 It's fair to say that

00:05:07.360 You have

00:05:08.900 You should diminish

00:05:10.100 Your own experience

00:05:11.140 Because other women

00:05:13.020 Want to throw out the words

00:05:14.560 Or the phrases

00:05:15.300 And again

00:05:18.520 It sort of brings it down

00:05:20.320 To yourself

00:05:21.120 Thank you

00:05:23.480 It sort of just brings it down

00:05:25.160 To the fact that

00:05:26.420 It makes you feel a bit worse

00:05:28.060 About it

00:05:28.620 Sort of thing

00:05:29.800 Because again

00:05:30.540 I've been through things

00:05:31.860 And again I can say

00:05:33.120 Maybe I've not been

00:05:34.460 The perfect person

00:05:35.480 Maybe some of the things

00:05:36.600 I've done are my fault

00:05:37.780 But that does not diminish

00:05:39.200 My experience

00:05:40.100 Of the things that I have

00:05:41.280 Had happened to me

00:05:42.760 Can I just say

00:05:43.980 Yeah no

00:05:44.460 From a woman that's

00:05:45.260 I'm going to speak

00:05:45.820 On a woman that's been abused

00:05:46.920 Right in my day

00:05:48.060 You call the police

00:05:48.580 Nothing happened

00:05:49.140 In your day

00:05:49.760 You've got all the things out there

00:05:50.920 You've got victim support

00:05:51.700 I never had it

00:05:52.340 So why are you staying in it

00:05:53.520 I've got no sympathy

00:05:54.360 For people nowadays

00:05:55.420 I went through shit

00:05:56.620 So you went

00:05:57.500 You went through

00:05:58.280 An abusive relationship

00:05:59.160 You know what

00:05:59.600 I don't give a shit

00:06:00.380 If a man was going

00:06:01.700 Through a relationship

00:06:02.320 The women wouldn't give a shit

00:06:03.980 I got groomed

00:06:04.700 From the age of 17

00:06:05.600 To 21 years old

00:06:07.000 By a 29 year old man

00:06:08.760 I can say the same thing

00:06:09.600 You can say the same thing

00:06:10.600 But the thing is

00:06:11.220 I've got a child out of it

00:06:12.060 You've got a child

00:06:12.600 Have you got a child

00:06:13.540 I'm 21

00:06:14.220 I don't have a child

00:06:15.320 No I don't have a child

00:06:15.940 I had a child at 18

00:06:16.980 Alright

00:06:17.580 You call the police

00:06:18.940 If you call the police

00:06:19.800 What happens to you

00:06:20.500 Nothing

00:06:20.820 Because the police

00:06:21.720 Don't want to do shit

00:06:22.700 They want to take my man's phone

00:06:24.640 Because my man's

00:06:25.240 As far as I'm concerned

00:06:26.020 You're in an abusive relationship

00:06:28.100 The door's there

00:06:28.900 How's it not sympathy though

00:06:30.160 How's it not sympathy

00:06:31.080 You can walk out

00:06:32.160 Well that seems like a new problem

00:06:33.680 Nowadays

00:06:34.180 They've got everything there for you

00:06:35.720 You can walk out

00:06:36.480 But do you not understand

00:06:37.280 People can genuinely

00:06:38.480 Fucking manipulate you

00:06:39.880 As somebody that's not

00:06:41.380 Grown up with

00:06:42.140 The best fucking

00:06:43.160 No I'm learning

00:06:45.300 And again I'm healing

00:06:46.260 I'm learning

00:06:46.540 That's what they're talking about

00:06:47.320 Accountability

00:06:48.020 I know and again

00:06:48.900 I'm taking accountability

00:06:49.980 But as somebody

00:06:51.140 That's not growing up

00:06:52.080 You were young

00:06:52.620 Right

00:06:53.140 As someone that's not

00:06:53.840 Grown up with

00:06:54.280 The best role models

00:06:55.180 Sorry it's hard for you

00:06:56.740 To just click on it

00:06:57.840 Immediately

00:06:58.560 What were your role models

00:06:59.880 In what

00:07:01.720 Right

00:07:01.960 No I'm going to say

00:07:02.860 All I'm going to say

00:07:03.900 Is that

00:07:04.120 You said you were young

00:07:05.120 I was young

00:07:06.000 You said you were abused

00:07:07.060 I was abused

00:07:08.020 You didn't call the police

00:07:09.460 Right

00:07:09.760 Because in my day

00:07:10.580 I called the police

00:07:11.320 And nothing happened

00:07:12.080 Because they were saying

00:07:12.960 It was a domestic

00:07:13.720 Right

00:07:14.660 So we're here talking

00:07:15.700 About stuff

00:07:16.240 And you're going to go

00:07:17.000 Against everything

00:07:17.740 Everybody said

00:07:18.180 I'm not going against

00:07:19.060 Everything

00:07:19.380 No no no

00:07:20.060 I'm saying that

00:07:20.900 These things happen

00:07:21.860 No no no

00:07:22.280 Okay

00:07:22.520 Pearl's just

00:07:23.140 No Pearl's just

00:07:24.020 Brought up a list

00:07:24.920 Of words that women

00:07:25.960 Should not use

00:07:26.480 Nobody's saying

00:07:27.240 That you cannot

00:07:27.960 Use those lists

00:07:28.760 Nobody can use the words

00:07:30.360 Don't stick on them

00:07:32.020 Those are words

00:07:33.040 That women always use

00:07:34.620 And you've come up

00:07:35.420 And you're using

00:07:36.040 The same thing again

00:07:37.960 To reiterate my point

00:07:39.080 Go ahead

00:07:39.480 I clearly said to you

00:07:40.640 Yep

00:07:41.100 I am a woman that

00:07:42.000 Believes in taking

00:07:42.680 Accountability

00:07:43.240 I'm a woman that's healing

00:07:44.340 I am a 21 year old girl

00:07:46.140 I'm not necessarily

00:07:46.860 As matured as you lot

00:07:48.760 Or I'm not necessarily

00:07:49.840 As experienced

00:07:50.660 As you lot

00:07:51.340 You're not a girl

00:07:51.720 You're a grown woman

00:07:52.760 If you've had sex

00:07:53.660 And you've had relationships

00:07:54.660 Don't use the word girl

00:07:56.240 Because you will say

00:07:57.260 And I don't mean

00:07:58.180 This to put you down

00:07:58.900 Listen my mother

00:07:59.540 Was raped at

00:08:00.140 Sorry

00:08:00.760 Sorry

00:08:01.400 Sorry

00:08:01.700 Raped at 14

00:08:03.500 With a weapon

00:08:07.840 To her

00:08:08.940 Her mother

00:08:10.940 She was raised

00:08:11.680 In section 8

00:08:12.360 I don't know

00:08:12.660 If you have that

00:08:13.180 Over here

00:08:13.680 Welfare

00:08:14.300 Yeah

00:08:14.880 Okay

00:08:15.140 She had no father

00:08:16.200 At home

00:08:16.380 She didn't meet

00:08:16.920 Her father

00:08:17.580 Until she was pregnant

00:08:18.440 With me

00:08:19.000 At 30

00:08:19.560 At his funeral

00:08:20.200 When he was

00:08:20.640 In the casket

00:08:21.300 Everything you talk

00:08:22.980 About

00:08:23.360 People have went

00:08:24.500 Through worse

00:08:25.000 And it's not

00:08:25.600 To diminish

00:08:26.360 What you've

00:08:26.860 Gone through

00:08:27.360 What you've

00:08:28.940 Gone through

00:08:29.580 Is a learning

00:08:30.700 Lesson

00:08:31.340 For you

00:08:32.120 To do better

00:08:33.140 Like my mother

00:08:33.920 Then went on

00:08:35.000 And did better

00:08:35.640 Than her family

00:08:36.440 Through horrible

00:08:37.780 Circumstances

00:08:38.540 Who took her

00:08:39.200 In were nuns

00:08:40.120 Catholic nuns

00:08:41.580 When her mother

00:08:42.620 Kicked her out

00:08:43.960 From being assaulted

00:08:45.660 At 14

00:08:46.320 And pregnant

00:08:46.860 That's how I have

00:08:47.420 My oldest sister

00:08:48.280 So

00:08:50.160 What I'm saying

00:08:51.360 To you

00:08:51.720 What you went

00:08:52.340 Through

00:08:52.660 Use it as

00:08:54.120 A learning lesson

00:08:55.240 Use it to fuel

00:08:56.900 Who you want

00:08:57.680 To be in the future

00:08:58.580 And realize

00:09:01.000 The world

00:09:01.380 Has no sympathy

00:09:02.340 For any of us

00:09:04.140 The only person

00:09:05.120 Who cares about

00:09:05.880 Us the most

00:09:06.680 Is yourself

00:09:07.880 And you

00:09:09.140 Use that

00:09:09.880 As a learning lesson

00:09:10.560 To never let

00:09:11.400 Someone manipulate you

00:09:13.120 This is the issue

00:09:13.940 That we have

00:09:14.520 A lot of times

00:09:15.420 Women will say

00:09:16.760 I was a victim

00:09:17.700 Of this

00:09:18.300 And you were

00:09:19.100 Okay

00:09:20.220 It's not

00:09:20.960 Nobody

00:09:21.400 Doesn't believe you

00:09:22.680 Or anything like that

00:09:23.780 Absolutely

00:09:24.360 We know

00:09:25.160 The trauma

00:09:26.120 And even

00:09:26.880 There's psychological

00:09:27.840 I would say

00:09:30.600 Things that

00:09:31.160 Someone can do

00:09:32.000 To you

00:09:32.460 That can break you down

00:09:34.020 We even talk about

00:09:34.680 Stockholm syndrome

00:09:35.600 And all these

00:09:36.140 These things are

00:09:36.640 Very real in psychology

00:09:38.080 But what you have

00:09:39.640 To say now

00:09:40.280 Is say

00:09:40.820 Out of all that

00:09:42.180 List she said

00:09:42.920 You have to say

00:09:43.720 You know

00:09:44.280 How can I

00:09:46.240 Now

00:09:46.860 Learn that lesson

00:09:48.840 So that I

00:09:49.800 No longer

00:09:50.660 Can be a victim

00:09:52.000 To such a monster

00:09:53.960 I don't say

00:09:54.820 And you have to

00:09:56.540 Say

00:09:57.400 Take accountability

00:09:58.540 And say

00:09:59.380 How am I choosing

00:10:00.740 And do I have

00:10:01.660 Am I purposely

00:10:02.900 Choosing women

00:10:04.480 In my life

00:10:05.400 To guide me

00:10:06.600 Am I coming

00:10:07.300 Under discipline

00:10:08.080 In leadership

00:10:08.660 Have I made changes

00:10:10.000 Are there

00:10:10.860 Were there people

00:10:11.540 In my life

00:10:12.080 That said

00:10:12.560 This is not a good guy

00:10:13.720 But I still chose

00:10:15.500 To be with this person

00:10:17.400 Or I saw the red flags

00:10:19.000 And it's not

00:10:19.660 To point blame

00:10:20.560 We all make mistakes

00:10:22.140 Every single person

00:10:23.640 In this room

00:10:24.480 Has not lived

00:10:25.740 A perfect life

00:10:26.620 So it's not about

00:10:28.060 Saying that you

00:10:30.900 It was somehow

00:10:31.780 Your fault

00:10:32.720 You're very young

00:10:34.420 But now

00:10:35.820 What happens is

00:10:36.800 A lot of you guys

00:10:37.400 Are very young

00:10:38.200 But the world

00:10:39.380 Now sees you

00:10:40.120 You use the word girl

00:10:41.340 And the reason

00:10:41.680 I said you're a woman

00:10:42.640 Is that now

00:10:43.160 The world is going

00:10:43.920 To hold you

00:10:44.320 Accountable as a woman

00:10:45.520 And you're going

00:10:46.920 To be a mother

00:10:47.620 You're going to be

00:10:48.940 Somebody's grandmother

00:10:50.420 You're going to be

00:10:51.680 Everything you've gone

00:10:53.200 Through is a lesson

00:10:54.260 And so what you want

00:10:55.960 To do for your life

00:10:57.220 Now is take

00:10:58.780 What has happened

00:10:59.520 Digest it

00:11:00.740 And accountability

00:11:01.380 Looks like this

00:11:02.480 Why did I choose that

00:11:04.860 What did my family

00:11:06.540 Of origin not give me

00:11:07.920 After that situation

00:11:09.800 Have I sought out

00:11:11.100 The counseling

00:11:12.320 The help that I need

00:11:13.280 Am I surrounding myself

00:11:14.760 With people

00:11:15.480 That you know

00:11:17.080 That I can learn from

00:11:19.140 So that I can do better

00:11:20.320 What I find

00:11:21.080 A lot of times

00:11:21.840 Is a lot of times

00:11:22.860 We'll be victimized

00:11:23.920 And we'll go through things

00:11:24.860 And then we'll

00:11:25.660 While out

00:11:26.260 We'll go off

00:11:27.540 Because emotionally

00:11:29.320 We don't know

00:11:29.940 How to deal

00:11:30.440 With the situation

00:11:31.380 And I think

00:11:33.900 What the point is

00:11:35.660 Is nobody here

00:11:36.920 Wants you to be

00:11:38.080 A victim ever again

00:11:39.040 We want you

00:11:40.320 To have strength

00:11:41.160 And we want

00:11:41.800 Your daughters

00:11:42.420 We want your family

00:11:43.320 We want you

00:11:43.820 To have a husband

00:11:44.560 We want you

00:11:45.420 To be taken care of

00:11:46.540 We want you

00:11:47.140 To be loved on

00:11:48.140 In a way

00:11:49.160 That you may not

00:11:49.840 Have experienced

00:11:50.600 But in order

00:11:51.720 To get that

00:11:52.280 You know what happens

00:11:53.640 To a lot of women

00:11:54.520 Who have been

00:11:55.260 Through that situation

00:11:56.300 You continue

00:11:57.560 To attract

00:11:58.460 That same man

00:11:59.620 So unless you

00:12:00.820 Pause on dating

00:12:02.280 Pause

00:12:03.340 And you're very young

00:12:04.160 You don't even need

00:12:04.840 To date right now

00:12:05.640 And do the internal work

00:12:07.920 Reading books

00:12:08.680 How many books

00:12:09.320 On relationships

00:12:09.980 Have you read

00:12:10.640 How many things

00:12:11.660 Have you done

00:12:12.800 To work on your healing

00:12:14.440 Through therapy

00:12:15.360 If you can't afford therapy

00:12:16.800 I think in the UK

00:12:17.540 This stuff is free

00:12:18.480 In the US

00:12:19.260 There's a struggle bus

00:12:20.200 But you know

00:12:21.320 Because we have to

00:12:21.940 Pay for everything

00:12:22.640 But like

00:12:24.140 Have you explored

00:12:25.200 Every avenue

00:12:26.660 Because you say

00:12:27.280 You know what

00:12:27.740 I have to care about me

00:12:29.720 More than anyone else

00:12:30.800 And I can never allow

00:12:32.160 Another person

00:12:33.100 So when it happened

00:12:34.080 To my mother

00:12:34.740 What she did is

00:12:35.940 Those nuns took her

00:12:36.900 And she had no one

00:12:37.820 And I won't go into details

00:12:39.280 Of how horrific it was

00:12:42.380 But imagine being violated

00:12:43.900 As that as a child

00:12:45.040 And being pregnant

00:12:45.880 And then your own mother

00:12:48.160 Who was for the streets

00:12:50.780 Had children by different men

00:12:52.460 Competed against you

00:12:54.080 For different men

00:12:54.840 Did not believe you

00:12:55.900 And didn't want

00:12:56.980 Another mouth to feed

00:12:58.120 And kicked you out

00:12:59.640 In that situation

00:13:00.740 She just tried to find

00:13:03.380 What she could

00:13:04.000 And those nuns

00:13:04.740 Helped her

00:13:05.260 She got her GED

00:13:06.440 In the US

00:13:06.960 That's like your

00:13:07.460 High school diploma

00:13:08.260 And then she said

00:13:09.660 She didn't talk to her

00:13:10.400 Family for seven years

00:13:11.480 She said I'm going to

00:13:12.760 Do better than all of them

00:13:13.840 She joined the military

00:13:15.000 In the US

00:13:15.960 Became ROTC

00:13:17.420 She went to college

00:13:18.320 Graduated

00:13:18.940 I grew up in the Pentagon

00:13:20.320 Under Colin Powell

00:13:21.380 And people in the US

00:13:22.360 You guys may not know

00:13:23.080 Who these people are

00:13:23.820 But I interned

00:13:25.300 At the White House

00:13:25.900 And she raised me

00:13:27.080 In private school

00:13:27.880 She got married

00:13:28.560 My father

00:13:29.320 And had me

00:13:30.540 And it was a lot

00:13:32.360 Going on

00:13:32.940 So I only want

00:13:33.680 To say this to you

00:13:34.640 Pearl is not bringing

00:13:36.040 This up to

00:13:37.120 Re-victimize you

00:13:38.880 Because it's very serious

00:13:40.120 But don't take it

00:13:41.400 As a criticism

00:13:42.300 Yeah

00:13:42.760 But if we don't

00:13:44.200 Say it to you

00:13:45.080 A lot of times

00:13:46.360 You will still be

00:13:47.560 Attracted to whatever

00:13:48.660 Energy

00:13:49.200 And I believe

00:13:51.020 In spirituality

00:13:51.840 Whatever spirit

00:13:53.360 You were attracted to

00:13:54.640 You will continue

00:13:56.200 To attract it

00:13:57.080 Unless you say

00:13:57.760 You know what

00:13:58.160 What was in me

00:13:59.120 That I saw red flags

00:14:00.900 In this man

00:14:01.400 And I stayed

00:14:02.280 Why you know

00:14:03.460 And how can I heal

00:14:04.760 And grow from this

00:14:05.840 So I can do better

00:14:06.960 And get better

00:14:07.480 Nobody's putting you down

00:14:09.100 We want you to heal

00:14:10.480 And I want you to

00:14:12.080 Understand that

00:14:13.200 That we understand

00:14:13.920 And we absolutely

00:14:15.440 Do not blame you

00:14:16.500 You're very young

00:14:17.880 But I can see you

00:14:19.120 Going far

00:14:19.700 If you can take

00:14:20.340 The accountability

00:14:20.880 And heal

00:14:21.720 And make better choices

00:14:23.800 In men

00:14:24.560 Because they don't

00:14:25.580 Deserve you

00:14:27.180 A demon like that

00:14:28.420 Who would abuse you

00:14:29.260 Does not deserve you

00:14:30.480 And we don't want you

00:14:31.240 To be attracted

00:14:31.860 To that same spirit again

00:14:33.200 I think you're right

00:14:34.300 In saying that

00:14:34.860 Because again

00:14:35.820 I know I just went

00:14:36.620 A bit berserk

00:14:37.600 About the words

00:14:38.220 But I think you're right

00:14:39.520 In saying

00:14:39.820 What you do say

00:14:40.960 Manifests in itself

00:14:42.440 So like

00:14:43.520 If I am saying

00:14:44.160 These sort of words

00:14:44.940 Then again

00:14:45.860 It can happen

00:14:47.460 Again

00:14:48.180 In sort of thing

00:14:48.620 Because like you said

00:14:49.520 I'm attracting

00:14:50.080 That sort of energy

00:14:51.120 But yeah

00:14:53.200 I really appreciate

00:14:54.940 What you just said

00:14:55.760 And I definitely

00:14:56.800 Do agree

00:14:57.440 With it

00:14:58.740 I just think

00:14:59.480 Sometimes people

00:15:00.040 Can be a bit harsh

00:15:01.000 In the way

00:15:01.680 That they sort of

00:15:02.540 Say things

00:15:03.060 Have you

00:15:03.460 Have you

00:15:03.780 Sorry for being

00:15:04.600 So straightforward

00:15:05.220 But that's where I am

00:15:06.520 I'll not apologise

00:15:07.140 No no you're fine

00:15:08.360 Have you sat counselling

00:15:09.680 Yeah currently

00:15:11.220 Still

00:15:11.760 How long have you

00:15:12.560 Been going

00:15:13.020 About two months

00:15:15.460 I don't know

00:15:15.900 Is it a male

00:15:16.820 Or female therapist

00:15:17.640 Female

00:15:18.080 And I

00:15:20.140 Just tend not to really

00:15:21.360 Like I speak about it

00:15:22.980 But I just don't

00:15:23.540 Really think

00:15:23.940 It's helping

00:15:24.920 Can I tell you

00:15:26.000 The men in the space

00:15:27.560 Like MTR

00:15:29.020 And there's other men

00:15:30.320 In the space

00:15:30.780 This is one thing

00:15:31.440 Kevin Samuels

00:15:32.020 Was a good friend of mine

00:15:32.920 And a lot of women

00:15:33.980 Were upset with him

00:15:34.860 Because he would

00:15:36.640 Speak harshly

00:15:37.640 And

00:15:38.220 But one of the things

00:15:39.880 That he understood

00:15:40.380 Is a lot of women

00:15:40.980 Had no leadership

00:15:42.040 And guidance

00:15:42.700 And direction

00:15:43.320 And had

00:15:43.780 You know

00:15:44.400 They were lied to

00:15:45.220 Their entire lives

00:15:46.180 They were being victimised

00:15:47.440 By men

00:15:47.980 In a very harsh way

00:15:50.380 He was very harsh

00:15:51.080 With men

00:15:51.560 In fact

00:15:52.140 This just went viral

00:15:53.500 Women are just discovering

00:15:54.680 How he went crazy

00:15:56.500 On men

00:15:57.020 Like way harder

00:15:57.880 Than women

00:15:58.400 And

00:15:59.720 And I talked

00:16:01.520 One of the things

00:16:02.660 He said

00:16:03.080 Was that

00:16:03.540 Like no one's

00:16:04.300 Talking to them

00:16:04.980 People are just

00:16:05.800 Allowing our

00:16:06.900 Women to be victimised

00:16:08.560 And telling them

00:16:11.260 What they want to hear

00:16:12.180 So one of the things

00:16:13.400 I would advise you

00:16:14.400 To do

00:16:14.860 Is to listen to men

00:16:16.500 Like MTR

00:16:17.020 There's a lot of men

00:16:17.720 In the space

00:16:18.440 That if you actually

00:16:20.440 Listen to them

00:16:21.360 Befriended men

00:16:22.520 In that space

00:16:23.320 They would give you

00:16:24.420 Protection

00:16:24.900 And especially

00:16:26.360 If you come with

00:16:26.880 A humble spirit

00:16:27.640 And you're listening

00:16:28.320 And you would learn

00:16:29.260 From them

00:16:29.880 How men think

00:16:31.120 And you would start

00:16:32.240 To see

00:16:32.560 Wait

00:16:32.900 I've seen a man

00:16:33.740 Like MTR

00:16:34.500 Who is talking

00:16:36.300 About high achieving

00:16:37.540 And this that

00:16:38.700 And the other

00:16:39.040 And what the

00:16:40.320 Expectations are

00:16:41.060 And you would start

00:16:41.500 To see

00:16:41.780 When a guy comes

00:16:42.800 Across you again

00:16:43.700 Who's like

00:16:44.640 Basic

00:16:45.680 And you could start

00:16:46.740 To see those red flags

00:16:47.880 Because you're just like

00:16:48.580 I've seen other men

00:16:50.120 Who are not this way

00:16:51.440 Who are

00:16:51.920 You know

00:16:52.840 Who are

00:16:53.300 Different

00:16:54.440 Who speak different

00:16:55.360 You may not

00:16:55.800 Been exposed to it

00:16:56.940 So if a man

00:16:57.640 Comes with you

00:16:58.140 With the same

00:16:58.840 Red flag energy

00:16:59.940 That could victimize you

00:17:01.780 You'll know better

00:17:02.860 You won't even

00:17:03.560 Be attracted to it

00:17:05.040 Anymore

00:17:05.500 Because you have

00:17:06.220 That exposure

00:17:06.940 And if you

00:17:07.840 Befriend these men

00:17:08.940 Instead of making

00:17:10.280 A lot of women

00:17:10.940 Make them their enemy

00:17:11.960 But a lot of these men

00:17:13.360 Will love you

00:17:14.980 And give you advice

00:17:17.020 And treat you

00:17:18.540 With respect

00:17:19.500 And if you brought

00:17:20.220 A man in their direction

00:17:21.320 And asked them advice

00:17:22.960 They would be happy

00:17:24.440 To tell you

00:17:25.400 The truth about that man

00:17:26.680 But this is the thing

00:17:27.680 A lot of women

00:17:28.260 Will hear the truth

00:17:29.340 We will notice

00:17:30.680 Those red flags

00:17:31.420 From our family

00:17:32.100 And friends

00:17:32.600 Or we know

00:17:33.180 In our spirit

00:17:33.920 But we're attracted

00:17:35.020 To something

00:17:35.540 But we're not

00:17:36.100 Willing to

00:17:36.980 Step away

00:17:38.360 There's a little bit

00:17:39.460 Of rebellion in us

00:17:40.560 If we're honest

00:17:41.200 We want what we want

00:17:42.560 I'm grown

00:17:43.400 I'm gonna make

00:17:43.920 My own choice

00:17:44.840 But as you grow

00:17:46.220 And as you get older

00:17:47.220 These are things

00:17:48.500 That are gonna be important

00:17:49.300 Because you're gonna

00:17:49.940 Tell your daughters

00:17:50.740 Or your children

00:17:51.540 The same thing

00:17:52.540 Or you may raise

00:17:53.140 Your sons

00:17:53.760 To never victimize

00:17:55.140 A woman

00:17:55.420 You gotta know

00:17:55.980 What that looks like

00:17:56.900 As many of you know

00:18:02.380 I was just banned

00:18:03.600 On TikTok

00:18:04.520 And we are demonetized

00:18:06.220 On a daily basis

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JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023

They called out Modern Women's Hypocrisy

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