JustPearlyThings - May 14, 2023


Things Modern Women Should Start Doing


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15 minutes

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3,118

Sentence count

88

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Misogyny

40

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Toxicity

15

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51

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In this episode, we discuss what men are looking for in a woman and why they don t want them. We also talk about what women should stop doing and what they should be doing to make sure they re in a healthy relationship.

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00:00:00.000 Couple months ago. I've made a list of the things that us as women should stop doing now 0.99
00:00:05.780 This is not to say that I am perfect and I've never said anything on this list
00:00:11.340 However, I just felt like this was a very very good list
00:00:16.500 So this is the things that men 0.82
00:00:18.660 Look for basically or don't want it's like want don't want kind of a combination
00:00:23.520 No top tattoos your hobbies cannot be going to the bar every weekend and going out all the time looking like a hoe 1.00
00:00:29.720 No, heavy makeup eyelash extensions. No super heavy eyeliner. No shopping addiction
00:00:34.800 No piercing except ears be ready to be able to get ready in 30 minutes or less no super long fingernails 1.00
00:00:40.680 Do not be an idiot. Do not be a beautiful majestic creature 1.00
00:00:44.940 Girl she has to have a fitness routine good with kid knows how to cook coachable teachable feminine 1.00
00:00:50.860 Do not be a feminist men want women that work hard, but not too hard and at the right things
00:00:56.060 They do not want a girl that wants a career more than a family. This is my favorite one the words. We're gonna stop saying 1.00
00:01:04.940 Partner horoscope signs looking for a connection energy trauma toxic masculinity my truth
00:01:11.740 Healing my narcissistic ex-boyfriend my abusive ex-boyfriend grape accusations. Don't judge. Yeah, but
00:01:19.020 Manifesting equals I want to do no work and still get the outcome. I want as a woman 1.00
00:01:23.820 We know you're a woman. I did too much and I let him walk all over me equals 0.98
00:01:28.840 I like cheaters and toxic men and I will choose them and be toxic as well and not admit my part that I had any part to play except quote-unquote giving too much 0.99
00:01:38.060 Generational trauma I make the same mistakes that my parents make and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes 0.99
00:01:43.060 And instead I will make the same mistakes, but blame it on them. I'm in my feminine energy 0.97
00:01:48.620 Men always stare and approach me. I will be submissive for the right man
00:01:53.980 Men are trash equals I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any women play in relationships 0.97
00:02:00.560 He needs to make six figures equals I have no emphasis on character 0.99
00:02:04.680 I don't need a man, but I want to man my ring costs this much financial abuse. I became feminine 0.94
00:02:10.700 I need a man to maintain you we need to vibe I feel like I'm a traditional when I am single
00:02:17.820 Manish, I will be submissive for the right man who hurt you internalized misogyny. I'm leveling up altogether
00:02:24.640 I need a man to be on my level. I'm a boss, babe. I'm a bad bitch 1.00
00:02:30.200 These men are broke and dusty's I am the table. I am a ten 1.00
00:02:34.920 He needs to add to what I have going on in my life not all women equals that is a problem with women, but I won't admit 1.00
00:02:41.580 It's a problem
00:02:43.580 I
00:02:45.360 Need someone to match my energy. I still don't really know what that means. I am his piece a broken men
00:02:54.280 Men are F boys my body my choice. He hit me harder than I hit him body positivity
00:03:00.500 Manifest I am not fat. I am plus size or thick small d energy. My ex was a narcissist
00:03:08.120 I am a queen who hurt you no respect for my own mother. Yeah, I mean, how is that those all the words that you can't say? Yeah
00:03:15.620 What can we say then?
00:03:17.620 I have a list
00:03:20.260 Don't worry. I'm I'm so here to help
00:03:23.300 All right, and this is collaborative so if you guys have anything you want to add to it, you know
00:03:30.260 Feel free phrases to add I trust you I support you whatever you say, honey. Thank you. I have your back
00:03:36.440 I'm making this for dinner tonight. I believe or I think what can I do for you? How can I help? I'm proud of you
00:03:42.540 I believe in you. I couldn't do this without you. I need you. I love you. I miss you. I care about you
00:03:46.740 I want you. I admire you
00:03:48.740 Oh gosh, I always forget this one's on. I'm not reading that. Are you inspired?
00:03:52.500 No, don't do that. Don't do that pal, man. Read that
00:03:54.980 I do this every time. I hate reading this one
00:03:57.200 Get in the bedroom and drop your pants before you go to work
00:04:00.420 Yeah, man. I feel like that
00:04:01.240 You inspire me, huh?
00:04:02.600 I get so red
00:04:04.000 Thank you for working so hard. Babe, I know you didn't mean it. I'll let it go. It's not a big deal
00:04:08.740 I love that. I love that
00:04:10.180 I actually love that
00:04:10.980 At least they were shorter than you
00:04:12.180 I'm like that was shorter, you know
00:04:14.100 Well, you know, we can add more if you have things you want to add to it. It's really collaborative
00:04:17.860 I've worked with a lot of people on this. Okay, cool
00:04:20.900 I think that whatever you say, honey, that's the only thing that depends on the context
00:04:26.500 Exactly, and I was thinking that as well, yeah
00:04:28.100 It can be a little bit like, oh, you know, like, oh, I have to do it again
00:04:32.580 I just, you know, you, you, it depends on the context
00:04:36.500 See, this is where the good women are gone 1.00
00:04:38.980 If you're with the right Roman, that won't happen 1.00
00:04:41.300 If you're with the right Roman, if you're with the right man, that won't happen 1.00
00:04:44.980 It depends on the context. She's right. It does
00:04:47.860 Okay, I have to be honest. I think women that say this because I hear this a lot
00:04:53.540 It typically means I am disagreeable, and I don't want to listen
00:04:58.020 Typically and or the men I pick aren't worthy
00:05:01.940 Or like something like I like bums basically is the other like it's like a
00:05:05.780 Well, some some women pick men who are I think for their character too
00:05:11.860 Masculine, I don't want to say that because then you're going to be like feminine 1.00
00:05:15.620 No, like to you know
00:05:16.900 Like she's not feminine enough the man is really masculine 0.54
00:05:21.220 But she's in her feminine most of the time, but sometimes she's like 1.00
00:05:25.860 See, I see the language in her feminine 1.00
00:05:28.100 Yeah, I knew you're gonna pick that up
00:05:30.980 I just think it's like nonsense
00:05:34.100 Like it's just it's like these women that go on instagram 1.00
00:05:37.700 And they'll say oh i'm a feminine. I don't know if it's you. I hope that's not what you do
00:05:42.500 But like it's like i'm now a femininity coach
00:05:45.780 And there's some genuine ones. I'm not going to say there's not there are genuine ones that help do this too masculine feminine energy 0.68
00:05:54.180 The ones that I see that are full of shit because men actually look to solve problems 1.00
00:05:57.780 So if you look at like men's improvement, it's very practical 1.00
00:06:01.540 So it's very much like go to the gym
00:06:04.180 Screw a bunch of girls. So you know how to or do you know 1.00
00:06:07.700 There's an ex corn star that's been on my show. He has very practical, you know tips
00:06:12.100 I'm not my thing right, but like and or they'll do
00:06:16.580 Like go to the gym make more money women. It's very like broad like like a soft life 0.98
00:06:23.460 I'm gonna sit at home
00:06:25.620 And it's never like concrete steps
00:06:28.260 I've only had one like femininity coach give me like real concrete steps. That isn't just like journaling or 0.70
00:06:35.140 I have something to say about
00:06:37.140 feminine feminine feminine coaches
00:06:40.260 Um, they operate from
00:06:44.500 Again energy, but like what is to be feminine they tell you be creative like focus on things that make you tap into the woman 0.81
00:06:52.580 That traditional woman. That's what they are all about 1.00
00:06:55.860 Like try to for I've been in touch with some of them
00:06:59.540 They tell you like listen to music dance or create something uh with like a painting or something
00:07:06.420 Uh tangible with like artistic. Yeah, um, and to me this sounds like nothing useful to a guy
00:07:16.900 Go listen to some music
00:07:21.220 Like i'm just i just said yeah
00:07:23.380 There's only been one femininity coach that like actually talked about real stuff
00:07:27.460 And she helped me write most of these like words to add in the short term
00:07:31.300 It might seem that it's not helping but imagine
00:07:34.580 On the long term rather than a woman being in her as I say masculine energy, which is like shouting and confronting 0.80
00:07:41.780 She learns to be submissive, but like step by step
00:07:45.300 First of all by tapping into these skills then to to be comfortable just doing uh
00:07:51.140 Even something such as cooking they tell you cooking makes you tap into your feminine energy more and more 0.99
00:07:57.380 So maybe by building those little habits, uh, I think cooking yeah, I don't think cooking is bad
00:08:03.780 but
00:08:05.620 I just
00:08:07.220 You can't convince me. Do you know why why we need these now we I agree with you
00:08:11.460 I agree that it shouldn't matter
00:08:13.620 But we need these now because a lot of women and men as well forgot that
00:08:19.300 Natural state, you know, what's your natural state as a woman? 1.00
00:08:22.820 I don't know because I get really confused because I hear these like women talk about soft life, right? 1.00
00:08:27.860 But like our great grandmothers really didn't have a soft life 0.99
00:08:31.860 They were milking like at least I'm from the u.s. They're milking cows
00:08:35.060 Like have you seen amish people that's where they used to live like they do not have a soft life 1.00
00:08:39.060 Yeah, and soft life to me is living off a man. That's what I see as a soft lie
00:08:44.740 Maybe yeah, when you ask where all the women good women went I mean to me they went to confusion and independence 1.00
00:08:51.220 And this confusion is a diffused awareness because the primal nature right a man is hunting
00:08:56.980 He's directive in his focus
00:08:59.940 And a woman is diffused because she only has a certain amount of daylight hours to get as many berries as she can and she's very skilled at it 1.00
00:09:05.780 She can do it way quicker than a man apparently and it's part of our survival mechanism 0.99
00:09:10.500 And so it is kind of obtuse and broad when we think about how we go back into our feminine nature 0.95
00:09:16.580 So we're not you know in this ceo role of our families of our
00:09:21.300 um
00:09:22.100 relationships of our businesses
00:09:24.100 And then we got to come home and then deal with the reality of like, you know being a partner, which is a totally different energy
00:09:30.420 It's not you're not directive like yeah, you've got to get the meal on the table
00:09:34.020 And my grandmother my mother they worked really hard as homemakers. It was like taboo for them to work 0.99
00:09:40.340 Yeah, but my generation and our generation now. That's very it's a lot of confusion
00:09:45.460 And we're still growing into that. You know, how do we balance that?
00:09:49.300 It's just beyonce's fault
00:09:52.100 I'm being serious. She made a tune called single ladies all of these things with a ring on her finger 1.00
00:09:57.300 I think we're very capable
00:09:59.300 There's a lot of confusion about being from the night to be honest. You'll say all right from the 90s 2000s whatever
00:10:05.140 There's been a lot of independence independence. Do your thing blah blah blah blah blah cool
00:10:10.100 You can do your independence, but if you don't need a man 1.00
00:10:13.220 Then cool
00:10:15.380 Someone said modern day gathering has turned into shopping
00:10:20.340 But why do you think women are having burnout endocrine disruption? 1.00
00:10:24.260 Cancer depression, I mean there's all these issues with women's health because they're trying to be a man 1.00
00:10:31.780 I spoke to like a hormone doctor about this
00:10:34.180 He said like high strike women and men don't handle stress the same 0.63
00:10:37.620 And it really messes up our hormones being like high stress positions
00:10:41.220 And you know the medicine if you stay in your feminine energy and you come home and you look after your partner
00:10:45.380 Your man is going to want to look after and do everything in his power to make sure you're good
00:10:49.700 Yeah, that's as simple as I can explain it like as long as you stay in your feminine 1.00
00:10:55.460 And you look after that man, he's gonna do everything for you
00:10:57.860 Regardless like naturally, but earlier with what I was saying if you're not showing certain things to him
00:11:02.820 He's gonna see that cool. He's not really my kind. I'll sit back. I'm there
00:11:08.020 But I'll sit back a little bit
00:11:09.140 But if he sees you're making effort like cook like even cooking cooking
00:11:12.900 If you want to get through to a man's heart is through his belly 0.98
00:11:14.980 100% simple as that you guys in yeah, and I also I fell into the boss babe culture for a long time when I was obese 0.54
00:11:21.060 And I and then I started losing weight, but I was still in the boss babe culture 0.83
00:11:23.780 I was like, oh, I don't need a man like I'm fine 1.00
00:11:26.020 And it was when I had the daddy issues when I wasn't I didn't have good relationship with my father
00:11:29.780 And it wasn't until I held my relationship with my father that I was like, oh, okay
00:11:34.340 I actually, you know, it's really important that I I don't have to work like a man 1.00
00:11:38.100 I was so stressed
00:11:39.220 I was so anxious all the time and then I just let it go
00:11:42.100 I was like, I don't need to do that. My future husband will provide for me. My future husband will do these and I'll fall into
00:11:46.500 My feminine roles. I will cook. I will clean. I'll take care of the kids 1.00
00:11:49.460 I'll take care of the house like that and I'll be I'll garden. What did you do? Did you quit your job?
00:11:53.300 No, I just okay. I was just curious
00:11:56.740 I just I flipped two houses last year and I was like, I don't want to do this anymore. So I decided to stop doing it. That's cool
00:12:03.300 It was a miracle though, really
00:12:06.180 No, because I was the boss, right? I had to be ever the provider. I had to be everything and you didn't have that example
00:12:11.860 I think that's another part of where all the good women have gone inside of this independence inside of this confusion 0.99
00:12:17.060 It's fatherless families and like Pearl was saying earlier if you don't have the example
00:12:21.300 How are you supposed to know when you haven't had the example Penelope? So it's a miracle
00:12:25.780 Purely purely, you know, it is and it was it was like growing up with you as my mom
00:12:29.540 Like you played both roles the dad and the mom and so that was very interesting because I grew up thinking
00:12:33.620 Oh, I I don't need men like men are terrible and I even thought my dad father was terrible
00:12:37.860 But you know, he's like my best friend and I think where the good women are going is they think that it's a bad thing to be feminine 0.92
00:12:43.940 I think that the mindset of women today feel like
00:12:47.940 And now if you're feminine and traditional online people are like you're you know, you're not a feminist you hate women 1.00
00:12:52.740 You are terrible. You are a disgrace society. You should go die 1.00
00:12:55.940 And it's like wait wait what like women are the most beautiful things on planet 1.00
00:12:59.460 They create human beings men cannot create human beings. So why are women putting women down? 1.00
00:13:04.180 Well, I think it's probably because women want women to fail and see that I think 1.00
00:13:09.380 We're not supposed to be competing with our moms generation 0.99
00:13:13.140 Because the thing is like if you have a 45 year old and you have like a 25 year old girl 0.63
00:13:18.180 It's like you a lot of times the guys you might want are the same age because women like 45 tend to want guys like 0.80
00:13:24.340 It's like five to seven years younger where women 1.00
00:13:27.060 25 want guys five to seven years older this crossover and I think bitter older women that don't want you to win 1.00
00:13:32.900 We'll tell you the wrong information
00:13:35.380 And and it's because like if they're if they're being a hoe right like what's the worst feeling when you take a test and you fail 1.00
00:13:41.940 What's the worst feeling when everyone else succeeded, right?
00:13:45.940 But if you turn around and they say I failed too. It's like you feel a little bit better
00:13:49.300 So it's like these women want other people to be miserable in their negative decisions 1.00
00:13:55.140 People because of it because of succeeding in my relationship and having a healthy relationship with my father
00:13:59.220 Yeah, people dislike me for because of that and it's like why do you hate me for having a healthy relationship with my family?
00:14:04.660 Am I am I?
00:14:05.620 So would you would you say and especially I'm like they don't want you to win?
00:14:08.820 No
00:14:09.620 They don't want you to fail. They want you to be divorced, miserable, sad, fat, on your phone, on tiktok, dying 1.00
00:14:15.700 So would you say that this is like technically just a woman's problem then because it's women that it's not technically men that put down women you know 0.98
00:14:23.060 It's women that put down women the women trying to be men hurt are hurting the the feminine the not not the feminine the beta men right there
00:14:30.180 That's hurting beta men. That's why we have beta men. It's because of the masculine woman 1.00
00:14:34.180 Well, I think it becomes a problem because you have 80% of women screwing 20% of men so then women don't respect the average guy 1.00
00:14:40.980 I did a show the other day and like most women said they wouldn't date a bus driver 1.00
00:14:45.140 But they're above a bus driver average chicks 1.00
00:14:47.380 And it's why you have average chicks saying they're at the level of a celebrity no offense 1.00
00:14:51.640 But like it's like you have average chicks thinking they're they're so great when it's like literally you are average 0.91
00:14:57.400 You're average looking even average mindset most people are average and men will accept this but women won't it's like an insult for us to be 1.00
00:15:04.360 Normal so then you you won't see normal women dating normal men 1.00
00:15:07.960 But do you feel like that that is because social media has a lot to play for it? They feel like there's a lot more
00:15:12.840 I think it's so so I think it's social media and dating apps
00:15:16.040 They feel like they want more accessibility to hire people
00:15:19.240 I mean