JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


This Fact Got Her SHOCKED


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

183.493

Word Count

1,577

Sentence Count

145

Misogynist Sentences

22

Hate Speech Sentences

13


Summary

In this episode, we talk about breakups and who wins and who loses after a break up. Who is more hurt by a breakup? Is it a woman's fault or a man's fault? We also talk about dating after a breakup and how to move on from a relationship.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 But you said it sounds like you're saying that the women lose and the men win.
00:00:03.740 Yeah.
00:00:04.120 Okay.
00:00:04.700 You said the opposite when you started.
00:00:06.680 No, I thought I said that the women lose.
00:00:10.700 Am I crazy?
00:00:12.080 Maybe.
00:00:12.660 I thought I said the women lose.
00:00:13.980 Maybe you did.
00:00:14.820 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:17.020 I think it is a difficult one.
00:00:18.920 It is a broad one.
00:00:20.300 I think if you're looking at high profile celebrity status and breakups,
00:00:24.040 I think generally, depending on how they break up,
00:00:30.680 I think it depicts on how it would end up.
00:00:33.100 But probably women would lose in terms of emotionally,
00:00:37.800 I think especially if there's children as well.
00:00:40.000 Pretty much in terms of men,
00:00:45.080 I don't think they're emotionally attached as much as women.
00:00:47.540 I think women tend to be more emotionally attached than men.
00:00:50.380 So in a breakup,
00:00:52.680 I think when women break up,
00:00:54.880 they break up way before they actually physically break up with a man.
00:00:58.180 Whereas a man,
00:00:59.700 I think they're quite flippant and they will do it spur of the moment.
00:01:03.380 It's how they're feeling.
00:01:04.620 So I think in terms of who generally wins,
00:01:08.580 I would probably say men in that aspect,
00:01:10.420 because I feel like they're mentally there way before women are probably there.
00:01:15.660 Okay.
00:01:16.220 What do you think?
00:01:19.320 See, I think the opposite to you.
00:01:21.340 I feel like a woman knows in her head that she's going to break up with a guy
00:01:25.540 before she's actually going to do it.
00:01:29.300 Yeah.
00:01:29.520 Like the other way around.
00:01:31.260 I think that's what I said.
00:01:33.280 Oh, yeah.
00:01:33.900 You just repeated exactly what she said.
00:01:36.040 My bad.
00:01:36.840 Um, so yeah,
00:01:38.320 I feel like when it comes to actually breaking up,
00:01:41.620 I feel like women are more prepared for that actually happening.
00:01:47.040 Then I don't think men think to,
00:01:49.300 especially if they're comfortable in the relationship,
00:01:51.120 they're not really thinking about it too tough.
00:01:56.340 So I would say maybe men lose more because I just think they're going to,
00:02:02.900 they don't see it coming as often.
00:02:05.080 So you think men are more hurt after breakups?
00:02:06.800 Yeah.
00:02:07.020 Like women move on quicker?
00:02:08.580 Yeah.
00:02:08.960 Okay.
00:02:09.700 Or like they start that process before.
00:02:13.020 Yeah.
00:02:13.080 Because by the time the woman does it,
00:02:14.580 she's been thinking about it for six months.
00:02:16.380 What do you think about dating options after?
00:02:18.200 Do you think,
00:02:18.840 who do you think typically is more dating options after a relationship,
00:02:21.760 men or women?
00:02:25.960 I think it depends on the man or the woman.
00:02:29.220 Like.
00:02:29.540 So in high profile cases.
00:02:31.980 Um.
00:02:41.980 Again,
00:02:42.460 I think it depends on the.
00:02:44.020 If you had to pick one.
00:02:46.320 Okay.
00:02:46.760 Maybe men in high profile cases.
00:02:52.620 Cause I think for a high profile man,
00:02:54.540 you'll have more women wanting to do whatever for you than the other way around.
00:03:00.760 Auntie,
00:03:01.240 what do you think?
00:03:04.360 At first I was going to say,
00:03:06.800 before you brought the sexism into it,
00:03:08.420 I was going to say the person with the most money wins initially,
00:03:14.040 because they're out of it.
00:03:14.940 But then the women,
00:03:16.640 but then if it's the man and he's got most money and they split up,
00:03:19.800 then the woman might think she's winning because she gets like money and the kids and whatever.
00:03:26.600 But then she's less attractive to the outside world.
00:03:33.040 So she might think she's winning.
00:03:34.580 And she might think she's winning initially.
00:03:37.720 But then I think the men in the end when,
00:03:40.040 cause they can get any woman out there that they want younger,
00:03:42.140 that looks a whole lot better than the old bag that they've left.
00:03:45.040 So,
00:03:45.800 you know,
00:03:46.860 all the stretch marks and everything is gone.
00:03:49.140 Cause when you look at all of those,
00:03:50.660 whoever had the most money,
00:03:52.860 got someone younger.
00:03:53.760 And even though their partner's gone and thought,
00:03:57.640 well,
00:03:57.740 yeah,
00:03:58.180 like,
00:03:58.640 um,
00:04:00.340 what do you call the,
00:04:01.160 the guy,
00:04:01.840 the perfume,
00:04:02.440 the aftershave guy?
00:04:03.180 What's his name?
00:04:04.460 The one you just mentioned.
00:04:05.380 Tom Brady?
00:04:06.320 Yeah.
00:04:06.760 That's him.
00:04:07.740 The aftershave guy?
00:04:08.740 I don't know.
00:04:09.240 They're an aftershave name like that or something.
00:04:10.800 I think you're thinking of trying to afford.
00:04:13.500 Oh,
00:04:13.780 sorry.
00:04:14.200 See,
00:04:14.400 I don't know what you're saying.
00:04:15.640 I don't know what you're saying.
00:04:16.720 Okay.
00:04:17.520 I know it's something to do with sports,
00:04:19.520 but he split up and she's gone and she's got this guy.
00:04:23.600 So when they said about women,
00:04:24.660 I find that in the public eye,
00:04:26.520 sometimes the women move on faster because the men are less cautious because they've lost a lot of money.
00:04:29.880 So they're not moving on fast,
00:04:31.200 but afterwards they can get a younger person.
00:04:34.220 So the women would go out there and they would say,
00:04:36.120 oh,
00:04:36.180 we're going to get married again.
00:04:37.060 And we're going to get hooked up.
00:04:37.960 We're going to settle down.
00:04:39.000 And the men would just go out there and get a young lady.
00:04:40.700 And play the field because they can.
00:04:42.600 So the women might lose that.
00:04:44.560 You know,
00:04:44.760 the men lose that more financially,
00:04:47.320 but in the long run,
00:04:48.720 of course they got lucky.
00:04:49.880 They can go and get any young bird that they want.
00:04:52.020 Because when you're a mature man and you've got money,
00:04:54.080 you're attractive.
00:04:55.400 Unlike the women out there that got money because they don't look all that,
00:05:01.680 all the plastic surgery and stuff that they need to keep up their looks,
00:05:03.920 but men just work out.
00:05:04.960 They still look good.
00:05:06.460 Can I say something?
00:05:08.760 Tom Brady.
00:05:09.400 So if you've specified it's a high profile breakup,
00:05:11.640 then I'm guessing we're talking about money here most of the time.
00:05:13.940 I'm talking about popularity.
00:05:15.580 Yeah.
00:05:16.940 Can I ask when they actually got divorced?
00:05:19.560 Do you know when?
00:05:21.820 Officially October,
00:05:22.880 2022.
00:05:24.480 Okay.
00:05:25.300 Okay.
00:05:25.860 Right.
00:05:26.320 Cause I was going to say,
00:05:27.480 cause as an athlete,
00:05:29.440 Tom Brady's spotlight,
00:05:30.880 the reason why he's in spotlight is always going to constantly change.
00:05:33.400 Like when he,
00:05:35.680 when he said he was going to retire,
00:05:37.120 the spotlight was on just retiring.
00:05:38.880 Ain't nobody mentioned about him breaking up,
00:05:41.420 but.
00:05:42.520 I don't,
00:05:42.980 it was all over the,
00:05:44.140 like my YouTube feed.
00:05:45.520 Yeah.
00:05:45.860 Like there was,
00:05:46.540 it was just on,
00:05:47.440 Maggie Kelly just did a special on it.
00:05:49.620 Yeah.
00:05:49.860 Right.
00:05:50.080 So I think my main part,
00:05:51.060 so what I'm trying to say here is that the spotlight as an athlete for Tom
00:05:53.600 Brady is going to change constantly.
00:05:54.980 So people are going to eventually forget that he's been divorced if he
00:05:59.380 moves on with another person.
00:06:00.840 So I think for the female,
00:06:02.240 it's more so like she's the one that broke up with Tom Brady is such a big
00:06:06.200 deal.
00:06:06.780 And I think the hate that's going to come for the women is more than it is
00:06:10.220 for the men.
00:06:11.160 Just considering the fact that he's such a high profile athlete.
00:06:13.260 Would you say in society,
00:06:14.600 men are valued more for what they build where women are more valued for the
00:06:18.700 relationships they can keep?
00:06:20.480 A hundred percent.
00:06:21.700 A hundred percent.
00:06:22.740 Cause Tom Brady can now do something crazy and invest in this many stuff.
00:06:26.860 Invest like a billion dollar company.
00:06:28.520 Maybe that's what's going to be.
00:06:30.080 That's what he's going to be in the spotlight for.
00:06:31.540 Or it's like Elon Musk.
00:06:32.740 I mean,
00:06:32.900 how many baby mothers does he have?
00:06:34.800 But no one really talks about it.
00:06:39.720 But if the roles were reversed and it was a woman and she had the same
00:06:43.280 company,
00:06:44.000 but she had like three,
00:06:45.540 I don't know how many he has,
00:06:46.460 but like three,
00:06:46.940 four baby fathers,
00:06:47.800 people would still look at her funny no matter how successful.
00:06:50.080 she is.
00:06:50.700 It's going to be long for her.
00:06:51.760 And that's just how it is.
00:06:52.680 Unfortunately,
00:06:53.540 but have,
00:06:55.600 have any of you ever looked at an ex's Instagram or Facebook to see how
00:07:00.360 they're doing after a breakup?
00:07:01.800 Yeah.
00:07:02.480 All the time.
00:07:04.280 Has anyone ever done that?
00:07:06.320 Anyone?
00:07:08.100 Two?
00:07:08.680 Okay.
00:07:09.080 So the majority.
00:07:09.880 Oh,
00:07:10.220 what are you,
00:07:10.940 what are you?
00:07:11.400 I shouldn't put my hand up really.
00:07:12.640 Cause nobody I've been out.
00:07:13.460 I've done Facebook.
00:07:14.460 Why are you half raising your hand?
00:07:19.100 Cause I don't know if I should say too much.
00:07:20.700 I'm joking.
00:07:21.800 I'm joking.
00:07:22.080 I'm joking.
00:07:22.180 Anybody that's watching,
00:07:23.040 I'm joking.
00:07:23.560 I promise.
00:07:25.000 I think you promise.
00:07:26.360 But,
00:07:26.680 um,
00:07:27.540 yeah,
00:07:27.820 I haven't.
00:07:28.300 Do you guys get mad if the girl you feel like is prettier than you or
00:07:31.960 better looking?
00:07:32.860 Not just happy.
00:07:34.320 You're,
00:07:34.640 you're happy for that?
00:07:35.520 No.
00:07:35.700 I feel like for me personally,
00:07:37.760 it depends on how soon after.
00:07:40.120 Yeah.
00:07:40.800 Breakup.
00:07:41.340 Yeah.
00:07:41.700 So how,
00:07:42.140 how soon would,
00:07:42.980 would piss you off versus how soon would make you happy for them?
00:07:47.600 After she's moved on.
00:07:48.960 Yeah.
00:07:50.640 If I haven't moved on,
00:07:51.800 you can't.
00:07:53.620 Or you can just not someone better looking than me.
00:07:58.240 Does it depend on the ex too?
00:08:00.860 Like how much you liked the ex,
00:08:02.280 whether you're happy for them or mad?
00:08:04.020 No.
00:08:04.340 No,
00:08:05.360 just happy to move on.
00:08:07.400 So I,
00:08:08.200 I kind of look at life as lessons.
00:08:10.120 So for me not to be with someone,
00:08:11.960 I mean,
00:08:12.280 it's taken me a while to get here to be fair,
00:08:14.300 but it's my stance now.
00:08:15.960 It wasn't previously possibly maybe before,
00:08:18.700 but as many of you know,
00:08:20.220 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
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