JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


This Fact Got Her SHOCKED


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8 minutes

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1,577

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145

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22

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In this episode, we talk about breakups and who wins and who loses after a break up. Who is more hurt by a breakup? Is it a woman's fault or a man's fault? We also talk about dating after a breakup and how to move on from a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 But you said it sounds like you're saying that the women lose and the men win.
00:00:03.740 Yeah.
00:00:04.120 Okay.
00:00:04.700 You said the opposite when you started.
00:00:06.680 No, I thought I said that the women lose. 1.00
00:00:10.700 Am I crazy?
00:00:12.080 Maybe.
00:00:12.660 I thought I said the women lose. 1.00
00:00:13.980 Maybe you did.
00:00:14.820 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:17.020 I think it is a difficult one.
00:00:18.920 It is a broad one.
00:00:20.300 I think if you're looking at high profile celebrity status and breakups,
00:00:24.040 I think generally, depending on how they break up,
00:00:30.680 I think it depicts on how it would end up.
00:00:33.100 But probably women would lose in terms of emotionally, 1.00
00:00:37.800 I think especially if there's children as well.
00:00:40.000 Pretty much in terms of men,
00:00:45.080 I don't think they're emotionally attached as much as women.
00:00:47.540 I think women tend to be more emotionally attached than men.
00:00:50.380 So in a breakup,
00:00:52.680 I think when women break up, 1.00
00:00:54.880 they break up way before they actually physically break up with a man.
00:00:58.180 Whereas a man, 0.92
00:00:59.700 I think they're quite flippant and they will do it spur of the moment.
00:01:03.380 It's how they're feeling.
00:01:04.620 So I think in terms of who generally wins,
00:01:08.580 I would probably say men in that aspect,
00:01:10.420 because I feel like they're mentally there way before women are probably there. 1.00
00:01:15.660 Okay.
00:01:16.220 What do you think?
00:01:19.320 See, I think the opposite to you.
00:01:21.340 I feel like a woman knows in her head that she's going to break up with a guy 0.99
00:01:25.540 before she's actually going to do it.
00:01:29.300 Yeah.
00:01:29.520 Like the other way around.
00:01:31.260 I think that's what I said.
00:01:33.280 Oh, yeah.
00:01:33.900 You just repeated exactly what she said.
00:01:36.040 My bad.
00:01:36.840 Um, so yeah,
00:01:38.320 I feel like when it comes to actually breaking up,
00:01:41.620 I feel like women are more prepared for that actually happening. 1.00
00:01:47.040 Then I don't think men think to,
00:01:49.300 especially if they're comfortable in the relationship,
00:01:51.120 they're not really thinking about it too tough.
00:01:56.340 So I would say maybe men lose more because I just think they're going to, 1.00
00:02:02.900 they don't see it coming as often.
00:02:05.080 So you think men are more hurt after breakups?
00:02:06.800 Yeah.
00:02:07.020 Like women move on quicker? 1.00
00:02:08.580 Yeah.
00:02:08.960 Okay.
00:02:09.700 Or like they start that process before.
00:02:13.020 Yeah.
00:02:13.080 Because by the time the woman does it, 1.00
00:02:14.580 she's been thinking about it for six months.
00:02:16.380 What do you think about dating options after?
00:02:18.200 Do you think,
00:02:18.840 who do you think typically is more dating options after a relationship,
00:02:21.760 men or women?
00:02:25.960 I think it depends on the man or the woman.
00:02:29.220 Like.
00:02:29.540 So in high profile cases.
00:02:31.980 Um.
00:02:41.980 Again,
00:02:42.460 I think it depends on the.
00:02:44.020 If you had to pick one.
00:02:46.320 Okay.
00:02:46.760 Maybe men in high profile cases.
00:02:52.620 Cause I think for a high profile man,
00:02:54.540 you'll have more women wanting to do whatever for you than the other way around. 1.00
00:03:00.760 Auntie,
00:03:01.240 what do you think?
00:03:04.360 At first I was going to say,
00:03:06.800 before you brought the sexism into it,
00:03:08.420 I was going to say the person with the most money wins initially,
00:03:14.040 because they're out of it.
00:03:14.940 But then the women, 1.00
00:03:16.640 but then if it's the man and he's got most money and they split up,
00:03:19.800 then the woman might think she's winning because she gets like money and the kids and whatever. 1.00
00:03:26.600 But then she's less attractive to the outside world.
00:03:33.040 So she might think she's winning.
00:03:34.580 And she might think she's winning initially.
00:03:37.720 But then I think the men in the end when,
00:03:40.040 cause they can get any woman out there that they want younger, 1.00
00:03:42.140 that looks a whole lot better than the old bag that they've left.
00:03:45.040 So,
00:03:45.800 you know,
00:03:46.860 all the stretch marks and everything is gone.
00:03:49.140 Cause when you look at all of those,
00:03:50.660 whoever had the most money,
00:03:52.860 got someone younger.
00:03:53.760 And even though their partner's gone and thought,
00:03:57.640 well,
00:03:57.740 yeah,
00:03:58.180 like,
00:03:58.640 um,
00:04:00.340 what do you call the,
00:04:01.160 the guy,
00:04:01.840 the perfume,
00:04:02.440 the aftershave guy?
00:04:03.180 What's his name?
00:04:04.460 The one you just mentioned.
00:04:05.380 Tom Brady?
00:04:06.320 Yeah.
00:04:06.760 That's him.
00:04:07.740 The aftershave guy?
00:04:08.740 I don't know.
00:04:09.240 They're an aftershave name like that or something.
00:04:10.800 I think you're thinking of trying to afford.
00:04:13.500 Oh,
00:04:13.780 sorry.
00:04:14.200 See,
00:04:14.400 I don't know what you're saying.
00:04:15.640 I don't know what you're saying.
00:04:16.720 Okay.
00:04:17.520 I know it's something to do with sports,
00:04:19.520 but he split up and she's gone and she's got this guy.
00:04:23.600 So when they said about women,
00:04:24.660 I find that in the public eye,
00:04:26.520 sometimes the women move on faster because the men are less cautious because they've lost a lot of money. 0.99
00:04:29.880 So they're not moving on fast,
00:04:31.200 but afterwards they can get a younger person.
00:04:34.220 So the women would go out there and they would say, 1.00
00:04:36.120 oh,
00:04:36.180 we're going to get married again.
00:04:37.060 And we're going to get hooked up.
00:04:37.960 We're going to settle down.
00:04:39.000 And the men would just go out there and get a young lady. 0.96
00:04:40.700 And play the field because they can.
00:04:42.600 So the women might lose that. 0.99
00:04:44.560 You know,
00:04:44.760 the men lose that more financially,
00:04:47.320 but in the long run,
00:04:48.720 of course they got lucky.
00:04:49.880 They can go and get any young bird that they want.
00:04:52.020 Because when you're a mature man and you've got money,
00:04:54.080 you're attractive.
00:04:55.400 Unlike the women out there that got money because they don't look all that, 1.00
00:05:01.680 all the plastic surgery and stuff that they need to keep up their looks,
00:05:03.920 but men just work out.
00:05:04.960 They still look good.
00:05:06.460 Can I say something?
00:05:08.760 Tom Brady.
00:05:09.400 So if you've specified it's a high profile breakup,
00:05:11.640 then I'm guessing we're talking about money here most of the time.
00:05:13.940 I'm talking about popularity.
00:05:15.580 Yeah.
00:05:16.940 Can I ask when they actually got divorced?
00:05:19.560 Do you know when?
00:05:21.820 Officially October,
00:05:22.880 2022.
00:05:24.480 Okay.
00:05:25.300 Okay.
00:05:25.860 Right.
00:05:26.320 Cause I was going to say,
00:05:27.480 cause as an athlete,
00:05:29.440 Tom Brady's spotlight,
00:05:30.880 the reason why he's in spotlight is always going to constantly change.
00:05:33.400 Like when he,
00:05:35.680 when he said he was going to retire,
00:05:37.120 the spotlight was on just retiring.
00:05:38.880 Ain't nobody mentioned about him breaking up,
00:05:41.420 but.
00:05:42.520 I don't,
00:05:42.980 it was all over the,
00:05:44.140 like my YouTube feed.
00:05:45.520 Yeah.
00:05:45.860 Like there was,
00:05:46.540 it was just on,
00:05:47.440 Maggie Kelly just did a special on it. 0.59
00:05:49.620 Yeah.
00:05:49.860 Right.
00:05:50.080 So I think my main part,
00:05:51.060 so what I'm trying to say here is that the spotlight as an athlete for Tom
00:05:53.600 Brady is going to change constantly.
00:05:54.980 So people are going to eventually forget that he's been divorced if he
00:05:59.380 moves on with another person.
00:06:00.840 So I think for the female, 0.99
00:06:02.240 it's more so like she's the one that broke up with Tom Brady is such a big
00:06:06.200 deal.
00:06:06.780 And I think the hate that's going to come for the women is more than it is 1.00
00:06:10.220 for the men.
00:06:11.160 Just considering the fact that he's such a high profile athlete.
00:06:13.260 Would you say in society,
00:06:14.600 men are valued more for what they build where women are more valued for the 0.96
00:06:18.700 relationships they can keep?
00:06:20.480 A hundred percent.
00:06:21.700 A hundred percent.
00:06:22.740 Cause Tom Brady can now do something crazy and invest in this many stuff.
00:06:26.860 Invest like a billion dollar company.
00:06:28.520 Maybe that's what's going to be.
00:06:30.080 That's what he's going to be in the spotlight for.
00:06:31.540 Or it's like Elon Musk.
00:06:32.740 I mean,
00:06:32.900 how many baby mothers does he have? 0.62
00:06:34.800 But no one really talks about it.
00:06:39.720 But if the roles were reversed and it was a woman and she had the same 0.99
00:06:43.280 company,
00:06:44.000 but she had like three,
00:06:45.540 I don't know how many he has,
00:06:46.460 but like three,
00:06:46.940 four baby fathers,
00:06:47.800 people would still look at her funny no matter how successful.
00:06:50.080 she is.
00:06:50.700 It's going to be long for her.
00:06:51.760 And that's just how it is.
00:06:52.680 Unfortunately,
00:06:53.540 but have,
00:06:55.600 have any of you ever looked at an ex's Instagram or Facebook to see how
00:07:00.360 they're doing after a breakup?
00:07:01.800 Yeah.
00:07:02.480 All the time.
00:07:04.280 Has anyone ever done that?
00:07:06.320 Anyone?
00:07:08.100 Two?
00:07:08.680 Okay.
00:07:09.080 So the majority.
00:07:09.880 Oh,
00:07:10.220 what are you,
00:07:10.940 what are you?
00:07:11.400 I shouldn't put my hand up really.
00:07:12.640 Cause nobody I've been out.
00:07:13.460 I've done Facebook.
00:07:14.460 Why are you half raising your hand?
00:07:19.100 Cause I don't know if I should say too much.
00:07:20.700 I'm joking.
00:07:21.800 I'm joking.
00:07:22.080 I'm joking.
00:07:22.180 Anybody that's watching,
00:07:23.040 I'm joking.
00:07:23.560 I promise.
00:07:25.000 I think you promise.
00:07:26.360 But,
00:07:26.680 um,
00:07:27.540 yeah,
00:07:27.820 I haven't.
00:07:28.300 Do you guys get mad if the girl you feel like is prettier than you or
00:07:31.960 better looking?
00:07:32.860 Not just happy.
00:07:34.320 You're,
00:07:34.640 you're happy for that?
00:07:35.520 No.
00:07:35.700 I feel like for me personally,
00:07:37.760 it depends on how soon after.
00:07:40.120 Yeah.
00:07:40.800 Breakup.
00:07:41.340 Yeah.
00:07:41.700 So how,
00:07:42.140 how soon would,
00:07:42.980 would piss you off versus how soon would make you happy for them?
00:07:47.600 After she's moved on.
00:07:48.960 Yeah.
00:07:50.640 If I haven't moved on,
00:07:51.800 you can't.
00:07:53.620 Or you can just not someone better looking than me.
00:07:58.240 Does it depend on the ex too?
00:08:00.860 Like how much you liked the ex,
00:08:02.280 whether you're happy for them or mad?
00:08:04.020 No.
00:08:04.340 No,
00:08:05.360 just happy to move on.
00:08:07.400 So I,
00:08:08.200 I kind of look at life as lessons.
00:08:10.120 So for me not to be with someone,
00:08:11.960 I mean,
00:08:12.280 it's taken me a while to get here to be fair,
00:08:14.300 but it's my stance now.
00:08:15.960 It wasn't previously possibly maybe before,
00:08:18.700 but as many of you know,
00:08:20.220 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
00:08:26.100 platform.
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