JustPearlyThings - October 23, 2023


This Feminist WORD RUINS All Relationships


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Length

9 minutes

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178.19919

Word count

1,704

Sentence count

144

Harmful content

Misogyny

23

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Hate speech

16

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Summary

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In this episode, I talk about how the word "partner" has replaced the term "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" as the most common term used in relationships, and why I think this is a problem. I also talk about the fact that women are getting more and more entitled and how we should spend our money on men.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Speaking of feminist terms, so guys, I've been in England for about almost, I think, two years now. 0.63
00:00:06.340 And one thing I noticed when I came to England, so if you guys don't know, I was recruited from
00:00:12.500 America to the UK to play volleyball, and I play volleyball here in England. And when I first got
00:00:17.620 here, one thing I noticed was how much more prevalent the word partner is than a husband
00:00:22.580 or boyfriend or girlfriend. And this just like blew my mind every show. So I do, I used to do a
00:00:29.220 show four days a week on relationships. And every show, I would come out and we would talk about all
00:00:34.520 this, all these different things in relationships. And even married women would call their husband's
00:00:39.540 partner. And Rolf Deegan on Twitter recently put out a study that said in the past decade,
00:00:46.000 partner has overtaken the term boyfriend and girlfriend on Twitter for one significant other.
00:00:51.620 So again, husband implies that you submit to their authority. Partner implies that you are equal.
00:01:00.820 And this shows just how deep feminist language is in our culture, because language shapes behaviors 1.00
00:01:07.940 and behaviors shape language. It goes both ways. I don't actually know which way it goes. Does
00:01:13.020 behavior shape language or does language shape behavior? But I mean, they impact each other. I don't
00:01:19.380 really think this is disputed. And the fact that the culture is now referring to husband and wife as
00:01:25.440 equal, the same, really implies that men don't have authority in their own household. So some
00:01:30.840 individuals have chosen to adopt the gender neutral term partner to refer to their romantic
00:01:35.360 counterpart in place of the gender terms boyfriend and girlfriend. In the past, partner was used by
00:01:40.400 individuals within the LGBTQ plus community to describe their romantic interests. However, here we
00:01:47.260 explore this linguistic trend with data from millions of individuals, self descriptions and US Twitter
00:01:52.500 users profile bios from 2012 to 2023. We found increased use of partner coincident with decreased
00:01:59.220 use of boyfriend and girlfriend. Wow. I wonder what happened in 2013. It looks like there's like a steep
00:02:07.520 drop. Like what happened in 2013, guys? Let me know what you think in the comments. I don't even know.
00:02:12.440 But I would say this is a problem. And until we start implementing policies and creating societal
00:02:18.680 change that really implies that men are the head of the household and we should submit to men's 0.76
00:02:23.700 authorities, I don't see this changing. And it's really sad because I really think you're going to
00:02:29.460 keep seeing the breakdown of the family and you're going to keep seeing that it's going to get harder
00:02:34.560 and harder to get into relationships if this trend continues. So another trend we've talked about on the
00:02:41.100 show, I mean, how many times is that women are getting more and more entitled. And the problem 1.00
00:02:47.280 we're going to have in 2023 is if as the price of women gets higher and higher, you're going to see 1.00
00:02:52.320 less men wanting to buy and sign up for marriage and relationships. Unfortunately, after a certain
00:02:58.320 point, men are going to look and just say the juice is not worth the squeeze. So there is a woman that 1.00
00:03:03.620 is going viral because she wanted 15,000 pounds for a holiday. Let's pull it up. 0.97
00:03:08.580 I buy stuff. Even the holidays that he's mentioning is even still a problem. Because when I ask
00:03:15.360 him for holidays, it's not like he even still wants to provide as well. Listen, this woman 0.58
00:03:19.740 wants me to give her 15,000 pounds for her to go on a four-day trip to Miami. Oh, okay. The cost of 0.78
00:03:25.920 living is just stupid these days. And she wants me to give her 15 grand so she's go, go, go waste on 1.00
00:03:30.380 holiday. You already know how I live my life. I haven't lost my mind. 15 grand. Okay, guys, let's
00:03:40.180 just be objective. Can we pull up, pull up, pull her up again? I want to see if we should rate her 0.95
00:03:44.180 one to 10. King, what would you rate her? One to 10. What would you rate her? One to 10. Okay,
00:03:49.640 that's what I would say to you. Okay, so we have a chick that's maybe slightly above average. She's 1.00
00:03:54.620 what, a six? Six, five, six. I mean, who knows how under all that makeup? We don't even know what she 1.00
00:03:59.760 looks like. And she's demanding. I mean, honestly, I would say that's like nine prices. Guys,
00:04:07.300 think about it this way. When you have men spending a bunch of money on women, when you have,
00:04:12.220 I honestly, I've thought about this and I'm playing around with this idea, but you guys can tell me
00:04:16.480 what you think. I think that women should spend money on men. Yes, yes. Okay, hear me out. Hear me 1.00
00:04:23.020 out. I think women are in their true femininity. It's not really about money. It's not really about 1.00
00:04:29.080 soft life. If you look back, I want you guys to Google a day in the life of the Amish. These 1.00
00:04:33.700 women get up at like 6 a.m. to milk the cows. They tow the fields. They help their husbands. Like 1.00
00:04:40.560 true femininity is not, it's not the soft life wearing a pretty dress. No, true femininity is
00:04:48.260 serving the men. Yes, yes, guys. I was thinking about this. I'm like, when men are spending all this
00:04:55.060 money on women, really, they're serving the women. So I actually think, I'm going to get so much hate
00:05:01.340 for this opinion, but I actually think it makes more sense for women to serve the men. If you guys
00:05:06.540 didn't know this, chivalry is actually gynocentric. So again, I believe that gynocentrism is basically 0.88
00:05:12.620 women good, men bad. And really, gynocentrism disrupts the natural order of the world. And I think 0.96
00:05:19.360 the natural order is God, men, women, children. And the women have to serve the men. And chivalry 0.99
00:05:25.540 started basically 1,000 years ago. So 1,000 years ago, proposals and just romantic love really
00:05:32.080 started. And it used to be that men would submit to the authority of stronger men and stronger men
00:05:37.860 would submit to the authority of God. And it used to be that men would bow down to the king and they
00:05:44.000 would kneel to the king. And a proposal actually switches it where the woman is in the place of the 0.94
00:05:50.080 king. So think about that, guys. What does that do? That implies that the woman is above the man. 0.99
00:05:55.940 Chivalry is generally seen as a good thing by the right and the left. It's generally seen as what we
00:06:00.880 are supposed to do, the good old days. I would argue, I'm sorry, guys. I'm sorry. I don't want to ruin
00:06:08.040 this for you. But I would argue it's not. I would argue it is not a good thing. And the reason being is
00:06:13.320 because it disrupts the natural order of the world and puts the woman above the man. 0.84
00:06:17.800 Why does the woman deserve the man's hard-earned money? Why? What has she done to earn it? Now, 0.99
00:06:23.980 I also hear the argument that men are supposed to protect and provide, and that's why they should 0.95
00:06:27.840 pay on date. I question this narrative because typically the protection and provisioning,
00:06:34.600 historically, romantic love wasn't really a big thing. And the protection and provisioning was given
00:06:40.220 in exchange for children. And actually, women in a lot of countries came with a dowry. So women would 0.99
00:06:46.480 actually spend money first. I mean, it would come from their dads, but you guys see the idea.
00:06:51.140 It was, he's offering the protection and provisioning for a lifetime. And he was seen as
00:06:57.520 the prize. He was seen as far more valuable than her. And he was given money to take care of her for
00:07:04.060 a lifetime. So I haven't, I'm not definitive on this topic. Okay. I could go both ways, but I'd love
00:07:11.280 to hear you guys' argument in the comments section, because I think there's a solid argument that could
00:07:16.660 be made for women needing to spend money on men. Okay. Just Production said, why would you even 1.00
00:07:22.960 entertain a woman like that? Weak man. I agree. Amaris, this woman has standards and under, oh no, 1.00
00:07:29.500 oh my God. This woman has standards and understands her worth. Really? Okay. I, man, want to be a man
00:07:36.380 until we ask for something. Then they really bring nothing to the table. 15 grand? Oh my gosh.
00:07:46.540 Oh my gosh. Wow. Badness. Madness. So there, I watched a documentary this morning, actually. I watched
00:07:54.500 it on a day in the life of the Amish. And there's actually a community of the Amish that it's literally
00:07:59.300 like going back in time because they have no contact with the outside world. Like there's
00:08:03.640 some Amish that kind of are like half in, half out. It was so interesting listening to the women 1.00
00:08:08.660 because the women knew that their job was to serve the men. And you, you had none of this entitlement 0.52
00:08:14.300 bullshit. It was literally like going back in time. And now you have women asking for cash and 1.00
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