JustPearlyThings - This is REALLY SAD to Watch

00:00:00.000 think i think if i see my man treat his mom with respect you know treat treat his the women in his

00:00:08.480 family how they should be treated because i've seen a lot of guys and they they're horrible to

00:00:13.760 their parents who was your last boyfriend three years ago that's my only boyfriend okay was he

00:00:19.040 nice to his mom yeah very nice who ended the relationship um me so that's why they say listen

00:00:28.480 to what women do not say but um why he was nice to his mom yeah he was nice to his mom but he also

00:00:36.240 liked to do a lot of really bad things so that didn't do it for me but that is definitely a big

00:00:42.960 thing though still the parents um looking at hygiene so you want to be nice to your mother and shower

00:00:50.400 all right hygiene um for me i like a man with money gonna say it because i need to feel stable as well

00:00:58.240 you know and women like to be looked after i appreciate the honesty i like you're not capping

00:01:03.360 we don't know and i feel like thank you there's a lot of times where how much give me a number a lot

00:01:11.280 so i've been single for quite a while now and i feel like i'm looking after myself all the time

00:01:16.000 it gets to a point you get fed up with that and you actually just want a nice masculine man to take

00:01:21.200 care of you and put you in these arms i like that and everyone's different but that's what i like give

00:01:26.240 me a number how much does you have to make how much as long as i've got a nice house i've got a

00:01:32.320 nice car what does what does a nice house go for in london oh i wouldn't live in england anyway

00:01:38.240 i'd live abroad definitely oh so you're looking for a man in another country no that would want to

00:01:43.200 move so hopefully he's got his businesses all settled and we can go what makes you think that guy

00:01:49.040 will choose you yeah you know what i might never get a rich man in my life but that's what i like

00:01:55.120 so hopefully it get there well okay you might never get that are you taking steps to get there

00:02:00.720 at the moment i'm healing on myself i've got a lot of issues i need to sort out before i can

00:02:04.560 ever get a partner okay and that's how are you healing them therapy oh yeah i think therapy makes

00:02:11.040 you crazier no you know what i think all the women i know that go to therapy get worse yeah and i can 1.00

00:02:16.400 actually agree with that but the only reason i'm getting this therapy because it's free at the 0.97

00:02:19.600 moment and i do actually need some sort of help so is it a male or a female it's a female i'm gonna 0.73

00:02:25.920 just you should go to a male therapist really yeah women shouldn't be therapists it's just my opinion 1.00

00:02:31.360 i'm in i'm in the psychology program at the school i promise you these women that are giving you they're 0.99

00:02:36.160 horrible yeah horrible they're insane men look to solve problems so a guy's gonna tell you if i have

00:02:41.680 this problem so you solve it women are just gonna say oh it's okay tell me about your trauma but i've 1.00

00:02:48.560 also have had uh men therapists that have made me feel really uncomfortable and flirted with me and

00:02:54.160 that didn't solve any of my problems i felt uncomfortable at my therapy session so to me i'll

00:02:58.800 feel more comfortable with a woman i have a more natural how do you flirt just making comments what's

00:03:04.160 your social media and things like that you know making me feel uncomfortable because everyone he knew that

00:03:09.600 i'm a sa uh no sw a sex worker i'm allowed to say that right w yeah does do you think that helps 0.58

00:03:18.160 or hurts with your mental health it hurts it so so much okay i'll be so real well can you why do you 0.72

00:03:23.920 keep doing it then because at that moment i'm in like a bit of a loophole where it's a bit hard to

00:03:29.520 come out of it where i'm just used to money being thrown at me i'm scared to go back into a normal job

00:03:36.240 routine how how much in savings do you have savings um do i really have to answer that do you have

00:03:43.440 more than like okay what do you what do you roughly make a year and yeah i'd say maybe not on of but

00:03:49.760 altogether maybe i'd say about 50k 50k yeah for that's sex work yeah you think you're worth 50k a

00:03:58.560 year no but i don't work a lot though with it i do you know i don't overdo it because when i was a

00:04:04.800 bit younger i overworked and that's when i was doing a really bad black bad place i overdid it

00:04:09.840 so i've taken a bit of a step back i don't even do my only of only fans anymore um i more do like

00:04:15.840 dominatrix and come in and that just keeps me steady for now yeah well i'm just thinking if you

00:04:21.440 want to get out oh no of course of course right so like like it might help to get some savings so

00:04:26.800 then you know i've got savings i've got same don't get me wrong i've got savings but also i've gotten

00:04:31.680 a lot of debt as well and i also had to go for a court case so i'm spending money on solicitors

00:04:36.320 you know things happen in life life's one big journey and i feel like everyone's journey is

00:04:40.080 different some people have a really good life and some people don't have a good life so what made

00:04:44.560 you get into that well um the sex work sort of thing um i used to work in a care home and i was

00:04:51.120 actually very like depressed very low and i wasn't making a lot of money and i had my ex-boyfriend at

00:04:56.080 the time that used to he used to really make me feel low you know and even like we'd go out for

00:05:00.800 meals and he'd say have you got the 10 pound from the meal he used to always make me split

00:05:04.880 and i used to think to myself like like i care for you i love you i treat you try and treat you

00:05:09.360 well and he never gave me that back and then i worked in the care home and i was sitting there one

00:05:14.880 day and i thought i can't do this anymore like my man don't even want to help like help um

00:05:21.120 and then i was sitting there and speaking to one of the old guys that used to look after in the

00:05:25.280 care home and i told him my whole plan about starting the only fans you know and he sat there and he

00:05:30.000 said to me do it why are you not doing it you're gonna be old like me one day sitting in a chair

00:05:34.320 you're gonna like die basically one day just do it and i just wanted to subscribe you know what

00:05:40.240 but he didn't make it till that time because he passed away a few months after but i started it

00:05:45.680 and um how old were you i was 19. so you're 19 you're working in a care home yeah sorry it gets

00:05:52.000 hard it gets very hard question how many years did you run your only fence um probably about

00:06:00.400 a year and a half and i stopped yeah so i was working in the care home and then i started it

00:06:06.240 and i knew that if i started the oaf my ex would leave me alone because he hated things like that

00:06:10.320 and i knew that he'd really leave me alone because we were so toxic together and then i was i was in

00:06:15.520 work i checked my phone i think i made maybe like 2k in that day and to me that's a lot i haven't come from

00:06:21.600 a big family haven't come from a stable family at all i think 2k in a day is a lot and and for

00:06:26.800 me it was because i was getting 400 pound a week from the care home and i was working 12 hour shifts

00:06:30.880 and five days a week so to me that was amazing and how old did you say you are now i'm 22 now

00:06:36.480 okay so you've been doing it for like three years yeah and then i said to my manager i i need to

00:06:41.280 leave work like i don't really want to be here and i told him my situation with the only phone

00:06:45.360 she said to me just go so i went and i just never looked back so why did you pick that route

00:06:50.800 instead of like i don't know marrying rich you know you're a pretty girl you were 19. thank you

00:06:55.760 you were with the guy for three years so you couldn't have been i mean what you probably

00:07:00.800 weren't street in that much if you're with a guy for three years were you maybe you were okay yeah

00:07:06.320 i was a mess i was a mess i had no control over my emotions i felt like i didn't even know who i was

00:07:11.840 right i feel like when you're in a young relationship you don't even know who you are as a person at that

00:07:16.480 point you grow to learn who you are why why ruin your own life you could have got married ruined

00:07:20.880 someone else's too i don't want to get married i'm against marriage i don't ever want to get married

00:07:24.480 thank you it wasn't offering i was just asking yeah no but i don't like marriage i just think it's like

00:07:29.280 no not everyone wants to get married and not everyone wants children i know i just i just think

00:07:32.560 it's like a shame because there's way to utilize female beauty in a different way and still get the 1.00

00:07:37.040 outcomes that you want you know what i mean like now now you're in a position where it's going to be tough to

00:07:41.200 ever be with a guy long term yeah but maybe i don't want to be with a guy long term maybe i want

00:07:46.160 to live with three cats at my home with all my cactuses what do you want your life to look like at 65

00:07:51.120 i'll probably be dead by then so i don't know i don't think that far ahead because life

00:07:58.240 yeah it's just you really should i don't plan that hard ahead i live in the moment yeah it probably

00:08:03.200 will but if it does it does i don't really care yeah you do no i don't i think you feel a bit under

00:08:09.200 spot no i don't say that now but then life hits you and maybe it will hit me but it's not hitting

00:08:16.640 me up and i'm here i'm healthy you know i'm living got good family members like you still get it like

00:08:23.840 i don't think women like we realize how much we like need attention from men yeah like we need like 0.95

00:08:28.640 we need i agree with that and so like right now you're still young you're still attractive you're still

00:08:32.720 going to get attention from men but like at 40 to 50 women become basically invisible yeah i know 0.89

00:08:39.040 that does scare me actually i thought about that and so if you don't if you don't get a husband

00:08:43.200 before then like what does life look like your parents will pass away at some point your siblings

00:08:49.120 will have their own families like if you don't start thinking long term like what does your life

00:08:52.880 look like and i don't say this to be mean no no no it's a good question you're in the position you're

00:08:58.080 in already you can't do anything to like yeah yeah to change it yeah but it's like you know if you

00:09:03.360 want to be in a position where you're happier like wouldn't it make sense to maybe start put that away

00:09:07.840 maybe but um i don't know yes i feel like there's so much in my life i'm trying to sort out first

00:09:15.120 like my mental health and my family issues and a lot of my childhood trauma that i still have to

00:09:19.840 deal with daily so i'm trying to sort that out first because i feel like i can't think straight

00:09:23.760 at the moment with my head it's just like one big tornado so so trauma like what do you mean you

00:09:28.640 need to go through like because i never understand when people say childhood trauma like so when i was

00:09:34.000 younger i was essayed and um it was my mom's boyfriend so it's like that was quite intense

00:09:40.320 you know i'm not getting upset it's just a bit you know um yeah so how long have you been going to

00:09:46.880 therapy for it um i was going when i was 16 for a year and then i stopped thought i didn't need it

00:09:53.920 anymore and then i've only been going for about five months now well because it's just the the the sad

00:10:01.440 thing about therapy is it just seems like they just kind of make money off of their patients

00:10:05.360 instead of trying to get you guys out and i think a lot of times that's like women doing it i know i 0.99

00:10:11.120 know maybe you had the bad experience with the guy but it might make sense to try to find a different

00:10:15.520 yeah i guess so you know that just because like what what does your future look like you have to

00:10:19.680 figure out how to move on yeah yeah definitely yeah okay and sometimes there are things that you

00:10:26.160 can't actually get over so looking at it endlessly you it makes you live in the moment yeah i always

00:10:31.920 feel like i'm i wake up and i'm still living in the past still like my head just keeps living in the

00:10:36.800 past but you know and i've just found that if i focus more on the future you don't live as much in

00:10:41.360 the past yeah you know like right now you're not even thinking like long term yeah also if you had a

00:10:47.680 partner one that was good for you not just any old partner if you were focused on them yeah and

00:10:52.480 they're focused on you then you also wouldn't have to i feel like that is why i do hate my job

00:10:56.720 because i don't glamorize sex work at all i think don't start it it does ruin your life it ruins your

00:11:01.760 mentality and it ruins how you view men and how men should view you so yeah i if i could sit here

00:11:08.480 and regret doing sex work i probably would regret it only because the stuff i put on the internet as well

00:11:14.400 because that's not me that's just what i've done for money and you shouldn't have to do them

00:11:18.160 things for money to you know you're losing your not morals but it could have been private yeah it

00:11:25.920 could have been private and i feel like where i was a bit younger and i was getting too excited

00:11:30.240 because of the money i had no parents to guide me i kind of lost the control and now i'm in this

00:11:35.680 situation but um yeah i'm just thinking there's like steps you could take to get out of it because

00:11:42.640 you know you know it's like you can you're able to make savings put it away yeah yeah because i'm

00:11:48.320 just thinking like you're you're a pretty girl there's ways to monetize your beauty in a different

00:11:52.480 way you can start a youtube channel yeah reactions yeah right you could do you could do um sales yeah

00:11:58.880 i don't what would sales people hundred percent sex work sex workers it's what's interesting to me and

00:12:04.640 this is actually something like i said when i was dating a gal that turned out to be a stripper and like a 1.00

00:12:09.120 really popular one apparently um what really interested me in her psychology she was probably 0.98

00:12:14.880 the best person i've ever met at just reading men and just understand like i don't believe that anybody

00:12:20.240 really knows human nature like sex workers do that's so they really like these girls learn yeah 1.00

00:12:24.800 she can look she can look at a guy and i guarantee it i've met you like two minutes ago we've gone on

00:12:28.640 shows like she can look at a guy and immediately know how much money he has would he cheat on his wife 1.00

00:12:33.040 and how quickly and like and she knows she would you know you don't know right she's like yeah of course 0.99

00:12:37.040 because the gal i was with she was like she would look at the guy she's like i'm like oh that guy's

00:12:40.880 my friend he was married she's like oh he would cheat on his wife and i'm like really she's and

00:12:43.360 she would just know she's like i know the look i know i know the feel i know the energy like they

00:12:46.560 just understand that so yes it definitely is good for sales but coming i know that you did not like

00:12:51.120 sales and that's fine i loved sales i'll tell you no no no i don't mind sales i hate selling copiers yes

00:12:57.440 we had a guy in our we had a guy in our company that's like one of our top sales people he used to sell

00:13:00.640 copiers came to us he likes his life now but there is something um to sales that i think is really really

00:13:05.360 important tying into this um how you feel and like all the emotional stuff i mean obviously like

00:13:11.760 that's that's a battle you have to you have to you have to fight that's a battle you have to win it is

00:13:16.640 what it is everybody has some trauma not at the same level you know we're different but everybody comes

00:13:22.080 everybody's family is effed up in some way or another like it's just a fact we all are you know

00:13:26.000 and one thing i'm really glad about like when i was 20 years old and i felt like i was a victim of the

00:13:30.800 world and i think a lot of people you know at a young age feel like they're victims like no i'm

00:13:34.800 not the best looking no i'm not the smartest no i'm not this the that i don't have a big brother

00:13:39.200 to teach me things before i was 20 the internet wasn't like a huge thing which is kind of crazy so

00:13:44.160 we didn't have these podcasts to learn about life which is why i appreciate what pearl does so much

00:13:48.480 because you know we get to learn about life i was really really lucky to to take a sales position

00:13:54.880 where people probably cared about the money i was making them more than they cared about me

00:13:59.120 but at least the steps that i needed to take to build myself included a significant amount of

00:14:03.680 discipline a significant amount of accountability and being honest with myself because i didn't get

00:14:07.920 paid if i didn't sell anything so so i was had to be very brutally honest with myself and extremely

00:14:12.480 disciplined but what really helped was getting around another group of people around me that were

00:14:17.200 disciplined and growing and they didn't resent my success they celebrated my success and i celebrated

00:14:21.920 their success and when i failed they didn't crap on me they said hey you failed let's work together to

00:14:27.520 make you better if you want to be better you know and so one of the things actually we we do in our

00:14:32.000 company is and i think tate and those guys have the war room be really the warm was i i think that's

00:14:36.880 brilliant i think just giving men men a place to meet other ambitious successful or striving men

00:14:42.240 that's better than school yeah and that's we need that we do the same thing in our company like we bring

00:14:46.320 guys in and and we literally mold them and work with them to make them more accountable to grow and

00:14:50.800 do some guys resent it yes they leave and they resent it because they don't like to be in an

00:14:54.640 environment where they feel like they're not enough but other guys flourish in that environment and as

00:14:59.360 a man i'm talking from a man's perspective you don't have like a woman can cry and still move into

00:15:04.080 another man's life a couple years later men don't have that option like we need to be building all

00:15:08.800 the time and if you feel like you're a dude and you're a little bit victimized it's time to step up

00:15:12.960 and and get around people that will help you grow i agree with that definitely i'm just thinking for you

00:15:18.640 you've been doing of for three years like that's three years you can still get out you can still

00:15:22.960 i haven't actually been doing it for three years i've been i did it for like really i was on on it

00:15:27.280 for like a year and a half and then the other two years i had it but i never put any effort into it

00:15:32.560 what i'm saying is right now it's still you can semi you can semi get it off oh no 100 i'd never

00:15:38.320 want to be a sex work rest of my life no way the way the way you're on track like that's what you're

00:15:43.360 on track to do if you don't make life changes quick no i have been though i have been yeah changes have

00:15:48.640 you been making i've i've made a limited company i'm starting with a cleaning company

00:15:52.720 i just need to make my website at the moment so i've got the cleaners for it like not the

00:15:57.200 cleaners i've got the um what's it called why does my mind my mind go i'm like you should get the

00:16:02.880 of girls to close you know you know you know you know you know you know you know mr miyagi wipe the

00:16:08.560 window she's like clean the window clean the window that was a part of my plan so my plan was to start

00:16:15.120 a legit one first yeah i've got um a friend he does an airbnb business so i thought i can use the

00:16:20.160 cleaners for that to start with and then make a twitter page and get the naughty maids in you know 1.00

00:16:26.720 what i mean the sugar dads have the nice houses but then you're still in that environment

00:16:34.320 that's actually that's amazing and remember one time i was on your show a while ago and and the story

00:16:38.880 was like um i told my wife we should get a cleaner because we have four kids and like a

00:16:44.960 very large house with a lot of toys and stuff and she's like okay fine i'll try it and then

00:16:49.840 the cleaner came and it was this like young ukrainian girl and she cleaned the house 0.85

00:16:53.200 spotlessly and she was good looking and my wife's like i'm never inviting the cleaner i will 1.00

00:16:58.400 so women watching this not just the men the women should be you know if you're a guy and your wife's 0.88

00:17:03.920 not cleaning hire this lady in her company your wife will be a cleaner as many of you know i was just 1.00

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JustPearlyThings - May 19, 2023

This is REALLY SAD to Watch

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