JustPearlyThings - August 08, 2023


This Is The Bare Minimum For The Modern Woman

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Would you rather date a guy that has $50,000 in credit card debt, or a girl that has 50 bodies, or $50k worth of debt? Which one would you choose? Also, which one do you prefer?

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00:00:00.000 Would you date a guy that has excessive credit card debt?
00:00:05.360 I would. I would teach him how to come out of it if he's nice and loyal.
00:00:10.900 Guy one, you struggle paycheck to paycheck. You barely get by.
00:00:14.940 But he's faithful, he's never cheating, never leaving.
00:00:17.960 Option two, all your bills are paid. You can go on vacation whenever you want.
00:00:21.960 You live a luxurious lifestyle.
00:00:23.960 But he may step out from side to side. You're the main chick. 0.96
00:00:27.160 But here and there, here and there, he might step out.
00:00:30.680 You get, all your bills are paid. You don't have to work if you don't want.
00:00:33.480 I'm going with option A.
00:00:35.020 Option A, why?
00:00:36.220 We'll grind and do that together. We'll get there in the end.
00:00:38.920 Get there in the end?
00:00:39.600 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:40.380 No, no, no. He makes this forever. He makes this forever. There's no building him up forever.
00:00:45.820 And you said I can't pick neither.
00:00:48.080 Well, I think I'll still have to go for option A.
00:00:50.760 I can't take the risk of option B. I've done that already. We're not doing that again.
00:00:54.020 What would you guys rather date or marry? You have to pick one of the two.
00:00:59.260 So don't give me any. I'd pick neither. You've got to pick one.
00:01:03.260 A bitch. I mean, a girl. Sorry. 1.00
00:01:06.820 With 50 bodies. She slept with 50 people. 0.99
00:01:10.440 Or she has $50,000 in credit card debt that you have to help pay off.
00:01:15.020 Girl one, girl one. She's got 50 bodies. She slept with 50 men. You're 51. 0.93
00:01:19.540 Or option two, she's got $50,000 in credit card debt that you have to help pay off. 0.72
00:01:26.920 That you have to pay off, actually.
00:01:28.660 I think I'd go with option one. If she's got 51 men, I'd go with that.
00:01:35.720 I'll go with option number one. Because the reason being, I'll have to know who are the bodies.
00:01:44.000 Is it better? 0.55
00:01:45.140 If she's got one with straggle-daggle kind of guys, loser guys, then that's a bit of a problem. 1.00
00:01:50.260 If she's got 50 bodies of, say, Jeff Bezos, it's a bit different.
00:01:54.360 If she's got 50 bodies of Elon Musk, yeah. 1.00
00:01:56.180 But 50 bodies of straggle-daggles, guys who are not worth anything, I may have to go with $50 worth it. 1.00
00:02:02.560 It's better if she was f***ing rich guys than bum. 1.00
00:02:05.180 Like, if she was f***ing some rich guys, I'll let it go. 1.00
00:02:08.600 If she was f***ing some bums, nah. 1.00
00:02:10.820 It depends on the men. 0.99
00:02:11.620 You can go on trips whenever you want. You can go out to dinner whenever you want.
00:02:14.700 Whatever you want to do. 0.94
00:02:15.840 But here and there, he may f*** a hoe. 1.00
00:02:19.300 Like, occasionally. You're the only one he loves. 0.56
00:02:22.100 Yeah.
00:02:22.500 But it's just a side chick. Which one are you picking?
00:02:24.620 I would actually go for the guide, too, because I don't want to be doing 50-50.
00:02:29.300 And I don't...
00:02:30.340 Out of sight, out of mind. If I don't know about it, cool.
00:02:33.820 What you don't know doesn't hurt you. See no evil.
00:02:36.980 Yeah, same. But not for the same reason.
00:02:39.360 Just because, like, I'd rather not struggle right now.
00:02:42.740 When I'm older, maybe. But not now.
00:02:45.280 You get to pick between a girl, she has 50 bodies. 1.00
00:02:48.480 She slept with 50 people. 1.00
00:02:49.700 Or, she has $50,000 worth of credit card debt you have to help pay off.
00:02:55.120 The girl worth 50.
00:02:56.460 Yeah, I'm not going to pay for this.
00:02:58.500 50 bodies.
00:03:00.300 50?
00:03:00.960 50.
00:03:01.480 5-0.
00:03:02.380 I mean, I don't know.
00:03:03.320 You're 51, though. You're 51.
00:03:05.500 It's fine. It's fine. I would just go for the 51.
00:03:07.720 50,000 pounds? For you?
00:03:10.520 Like, I don't know.
00:03:11.520 Who cares? 50 bodies. Who cares? 0.98
00:03:13.360 Can't lie.
00:03:14.040 You get to pick between a guy.
00:03:16.040 You're struggling paycheck to paycheck forever.
00:03:19.080 So, it's 50-50.
00:03:20.580 He's not taking you out to dinner. 1.00
00:03:22.000 He ain't buying you shit. 0.99
00:03:23.020 Like, it's like, you know, maybe a small gift. 0.99
00:03:25.720 Maybe some socks at Christmas.
00:03:27.460 But he's faithful.
00:03:28.700 He's never cheating, never leaving.
00:03:30.640 Option two.
00:03:31.760 Rich guy.
00:03:32.400 He takes care of all of your bills.
00:03:34.300 100% paid for.
00:03:35.820 You get to go on trips whenever you want.
00:03:37.340 You get to go to dinner whenever you want. 1.00
00:03:38.560 But here and there, he might fuck another girl. 1.00
00:03:41.440 He's not in love. 0.99
00:03:42.060 You're the only one he loves, though.
00:03:44.620 Number one.
00:03:45.620 Why?
00:03:46.440 I've been in a relationship.
00:03:48.020 I'm still with my boyfriend now.
00:03:49.980 Well, we've had no money.
00:03:51.620 Shout out Ben.
00:03:52.140 We've had no money between us.
00:03:54.000 But we've been happy.
00:03:55.540 And that's all I need.
00:03:57.500 Happiness and security.
00:03:59.720 You're struggling paycheck to paycheck.
00:04:02.560 Everything's 50-50.
00:04:04.060 But he's loyal.
00:04:05.320 He's never going to cheat.
00:04:06.320 Guy 2 takes care of all of your bills.
00:04:09.400 You're set for a lifetime.
00:04:10.960 But he cheats now and then.
00:04:13.100 First one, of course.
00:04:14.160 First one.
00:04:14.420 Why?
00:04:15.580 Because he's loyal.
00:04:16.740 One girl has 50 bodies. 0.98
00:04:18.640 You're 51, though.
00:04:20.040 So, yeah.
00:04:20.480 Okay, yeah.
00:04:21.700 I'm not the solution, but I'm the problem.
00:04:24.420 Or, and you have to wife one.
00:04:25.960 Okay, you have to wife one. 1.00
00:04:26.820 Okay.
00:04:27.440 Girl 2 has $50,000 worth of credit card debt.
00:04:31.600 Who are you wiping?
00:04:32.460 $50.
00:04:32.800 $50,000 worth of debt.
00:04:34.940 Yeah, why?
00:04:35.820 I'm going to work hard.
00:04:37.020 I'm going to be a millionaire.
00:04:39.320 Okay.
00:04:39.700 So, I can pay your debt.
00:04:41.340 You'll pay it off.
00:04:42.020 Yeah, I'll pay it off.
00:04:42.920 I'm a man.
00:04:43.440 I'm a man.
00:04:43.740 You can't be unfucked.
00:04:45.360 That's a MIA. 0.55
00:04:46.300 You can't undo that.
00:04:47.800 You can't.
00:04:48.100 No, no.
00:04:48.740 Why not?
00:04:49.580 Why not?
00:04:50.440 No, I'm saying with the bodies.
00:04:52.020 Like the 50 bodies.
00:04:53.040 Oh, with the bodies.
00:04:53.080 Yeah, you can't.
00:04:53.600 You can't.
00:04:54.400 It's too much bodies.
00:04:55.600 It's too much bodies.
00:04:56.060 Cooked, cooked.
00:04:56.720 It's too much bodies.
00:04:57.800 I think 10 is the maximum.
00:04:59.660 It's the maximum.
00:05:00.600 It's the maximum.
00:05:00.940 That's a common number I get around here.
00:05:02.960 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:05:03.600 What about 11?
00:05:04.480 Can she get by?
00:05:05.400 11?
00:05:06.020 12?
00:05:06.680 11.
00:05:07.640 Okay, 11 can.
00:05:08.820 Can, can, can.
00:05:09.640 But 12.
00:05:10.440 12.
00:05:10.980 It's too much.
00:05:11.700 It's too much.
00:05:12.200 So, it has to be under, under 11.
00:05:16.680 So, really the number is 11.
00:05:18.700 It's important.
00:05:19.460 It's important.
00:05:19.880 What have you met?
00:05:20.700 It's important to 11.
00:05:21.180 What about 12?
00:05:22.000 Like, 12 is right there.
00:05:23.700 Okay, 12.
00:05:24.560 Maybe.
00:05:26.880 Maybe I'm going to think.
00:05:28.220 I'm going to think for 24 hours.
00:05:30.260 So, then you might as well do 13.
00:05:31.980 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:05:33.300 No, no.
00:05:33.860 Right now, 13 is too much.
00:05:35.600 You get to pick one of two guys.
00:05:37.640 Option one.
00:05:38.680 You're splitting everything 50-50.
00:05:40.880 For life.
00:05:41.380 He's not going to get, he's not going to make more money in the future.
00:05:44.100 This is forever.
00:05:44.780 50-50.
00:05:45.400 You can't really go on vacation.
00:05:46.660 You can't really go on trips.
00:05:47.680 All the money goes towards the kids.
00:05:49.240 But, he's faithful.
00:05:50.560 He's never going to cheat on you.
00:05:52.540 Option two.
00:05:53.620 He pays every bill.
00:05:55.020 You get vacation whenever you want.
00:05:56.600 You can buy clothes whenever you want.
00:05:58.160 You get a credit card, 10K a month.
00:06:00.560 Plus.
00:06:01.280 Whenever. 1.00
00:06:01.620 But, he might, he might fuck a hoe here and there. 1.00
00:06:04.640 Just, on the side. 1.00
00:06:06.020 He only loves you.
00:06:07.760 What's she picking?
00:06:08.640 Number one.
00:06:09.340 Why?
00:06:09.700 Because I don't mind splitting the bills 50-50.
00:06:11.820 Because, if he's going to be loyal to me, that means more to me.
00:06:14.500 Do you think it's bad for relationships when it's based off of money?
00:06:17.640 Not necessarily.
00:06:18.300 Everyone's different.
00:06:18.980 So, it's whatever floats your boat.
00:06:20.100 But, for me personally, definitely option one.
00:06:22.360 What would you guys rate yourselves 1 to 10?
00:06:24.160 At 8.
00:06:24.540 Why?
00:06:25.140 Confidence.
00:06:25.640 Looks, definitely at 8.
00:06:27.300 1 to 10.
00:06:28.080 Today, 10.
00:06:29.140 Some days, it depends.
00:06:30.760 Today, 10.
00:06:31.460 Definitely.
00:06:32.480 My complexion is unique.
00:06:33.960 Can't lie.
00:06:34.740 7.
00:06:35.540 7?
00:06:35.860 There's always room for improvement.
00:06:37.880 Okay, okay.
00:06:38.480 Now, I'm going for 8 then.
00:06:40.100 8.
00:06:40.380 I'll say 8.
00:06:41.380 Okay.
00:06:42.340 That was going to be my next question.
00:06:43.700 Because, if you're 10, there's no room for improvement.
00:06:45.660 It means you're perfect.
00:06:46.980 I'm amazing.
00:06:47.900 So, 10?
00:06:48.660 8 and a half.
00:06:49.540 Why 8 and a half? 1.00
00:06:50.860 You're a fucking 11. 1.00
00:06:51.680 I'm on the journey. 1.00
00:06:53.500 Why don't you say that if you're saying 10, you're saying you're perfect?
00:06:57.080 Because, yeah.
00:06:57.660 Because I went through a journey to love myself.
00:07:00.260 And I know I'm a good person.
00:07:02.280 And I can, even if I didn't have to settle for someone, I know I'm going to have a great
00:07:05.440 life even by myself.
00:07:06.340 So, I know I'm a 10.
00:07:07.360 Is there no room for improvement though?
00:07:09.560 Because 10 is perfect.
00:07:10.620 Maybe.
00:07:11.160 But, I'm going to set myself a high standard.
00:07:13.620 And then, if I want to reach another level, I'll reach another level.
00:07:16.460 Like, you're a 10.
00:07:17.080 You're trying to get to be 12.
00:07:18.220 Exactly.
00:07:19.180 Exactly.
00:07:20.100 Exactly.
00:07:20.420 Would you guys rate yourselves 1 to 10?
00:07:23.260 Selves.
00:07:23.620 A very strong 6 and a half, 7.
00:07:26.780 A strong 8.
00:07:27.980 8?
00:07:28.400 Okay.
00:07:29.080 8.
00:07:29.840 8.
00:07:30.100 12.
00:07:30.660 I always back myself.
00:07:31.760 So, I have a question for you.
00:07:33.620 If you're 12, does that mean you're perfect?
00:07:36.360 No one's perfect.
00:07:37.480 So, when I ask...
00:07:38.720 But, I'm close.
00:07:39.740 So, you're close.
00:07:41.160 So, what did you say if you're saying 12?
00:07:43.240 That means there's no room for improvement?
00:07:45.100 There's always room for improvement, but I'm always going to back myself.
00:07:47.720 100%.
00:07:48.320 So, it's more of like a confidence thing?
00:07:49.960 Yeah, I'm going to back myself always.
00:07:51.580 Come on.
00:07:51.960 What is a guy that you would be settling for?
00:07:54.420 Nothing makes me laugh and is respectful.
00:07:58.260 I bank my own pays, so I'm good with that.
00:08:00.980 Got my own money.
00:08:01.700 Have you ever heard the term, the bare minimum?
00:08:05.240 Like, accepting the bare minimum?
00:08:06.880 Yeah, yeah, I did.
00:08:07.660 I did.
00:08:08.460 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:09.500 What is the bare minimum that you should accept from a man and a woman? 0.96
00:08:13.360 Respect.
00:08:14.360 Respect.
00:08:15.360 Respect.
00:08:16.360 Respect.
00:08:17.360 Respect, yeah.
00:08:18.360 The bare minimum of...
00:08:19.360 Can you talk about accepting the bare minimum of what is the bare minimum?
00:08:22.360 Loyalty.
00:08:23.360 Loyalty.
00:08:24.360 Honesty.
00:08:25.360 Honesty. 1.00
00:08:26.360 You're a big dick. 1.00
00:08:27.360 Why? 1.00
00:08:28.360 I'm a big dick. 1.00
00:08:29.360 Okay. 1.00
00:08:30.360 Respect, first of all.
00:08:31.360 Is that it?
00:08:32.360 Cooking, cleaning, anything else?
00:08:33.360 I mean, who cares?
00:08:35.360 I don't really care, can't lie.
00:08:36.360 As long as you respect me.
00:08:37.360 me I would say time love and patience they are all the bare minimum if you
00:08:44.560 can't give me that then that's part of respect though that's part of respect
00:08:48.460 yeah so if you can't do that then there's no there's no grounds for a
00:08:52.120 relationship what is the bare minimum for a man what is it exactly what to do
00:08:56.680 you know like what what is what should a man require from a woman what do you 0.92
00:09:00.040 think is the bare minimum for them all they deserve is nothing like if you had
00:09:10.960 a brother you don't think he should have like standards for a girl yeah he should 0.99
00:09:14.260 have standards yeah he if he had if he has standards for himself that will
00:09:19.000 reflect on what he is doing what do you guys think the bare minimum is that men
00:09:23.320 should accept from women very funny respect what is your ideal partner he
00:09:33.280 needs to make me happy have ambitions goals in life and he makes me grow and
00:09:39.880 now pushes me back what do you offer your ideal partner empathy loyalty yeah also
00:09:47.560 like being honest and fair do you cook do you clean um yeah I like the if a guy 0.99
00:09:55.240 cleans as well I'm not a proper housewife though he's here about accepting the bare
00:10:02.260 minimum the bare minimum for acceptance you at least have to have a job right I
00:10:06.760 think so at least ambition ambition at least yeah let's have a job be passionate
00:10:12.700 about even if you have a job be passionate about something you're trying to get
00:10:17.200 bettering yeah yeah so if you're writing a book but you're not quite there you're
00:10:21.220 you know you're passionate about writing that book you know you might not be
00:10:25.160 working as a nine-to-five job but you know I'm gonna get this book out I'm
00:10:28.540 gonna be here but I want you to be passionate about something do you think
00:10:31.540 even in same-sex relationships there's a masculine and a feminine sure you know
00:10:36.640 well that's a funny question like because in terms of masculine and feminine I
00:10:40.880 think sometimes I'm quite masculine in terms of like and now what in my
00:10:45.580 relationship I'm the main breadwinner I like to dress quite androgynously 0.99
00:10:50.100 sometimes and yeah so like yeah I don't know if that makes me I don't know if
00:10:55.720 that makes my partner less masculine but those qualities I suppose are more
00:11:01.140 masculine type but yeah I'm the main breadwinner for sure would you say like
00:11:05.500 I've always noticed when women are more masculine which I don't sense like crazy 1.00
00:11:09.860 masculine energy from you like like cuz some girls when I talk to they're like 1.00
00:11:14.380 there I don't get like crazy masculine energy I just met you so I don't know
00:11:19.740 maybe but would you say that the women that are more masculine tend to date guys 0.99
00:11:23.980 that are more feminine I don't think so I think it's just I think my female 1.00
00:11:29.420 friend Kirsten yeah she she's very female but she's quite and she can be the top yeah 0.98
00:11:34.820 she can be the dominant one in the relationship but the guy she's been with 0.92
00:11:37.700 are still very manly have you ever heard the term of the bare minimum like
00:11:41.540 accepting the bare minimum from a man yeah what is the bare minimum the bare 0.80
00:11:45.700 minimum for me yes love loyalty respect what is the bare minimum respect morals
00:11:52.140 principles and that's it we wish we wish Kate we wish that was a bare minimum
00:11:58.300 respect respect respect humility humility accountability is one of them as well
00:12:09.300 I mean the bare minimum is when no effort at all is made like when you get with
00:12:16.120 someone I think bare minimum is like they need to make you want to feel like you
00:12:20.920 want to be of them right yeah and they don't do that yeah like if they're doing the bare
00:12:27.920 minimum they ain't treating you right they should be going over and above like you want to be
00:12:33.680 wanted and if you're not wanted then you feel like there's a bare minimum for men as well that they
00:12:39.580 should be demanding of course like it works both ways like men have bare minimum when 0.75
00:12:45.960 they sleep with girls 1.00