JustPearlyThings - May 08, 2023


This is The Modern Woman Mentality


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Length

9 minutes

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220.61203

Word count

2,182

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

15

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Hate speech

8

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about why women have higher standards than men and why that is the main reason why women don t get married and stay single. We also talk about what it means to be a woman and why we should play the role of a woman in a relationship.

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00:00:00.000 yeah and they did the studies in person because i know a lot of people will say oh well we don't
00:00:03.840 find 80 of men is ugly but yeah they did the studies like in person and on dating apps and
00:00:08.160 like literally 80 of men ugly i wonder what why that is though is it purely based on looks those
00:00:13.680 dads because it's swiping so it's purely based on looks right because i feel like women looks 1.00
00:00:19.840 when it comes to men women don't really care that much about looks as long as you're well put 0.84
00:00:24.720 together we're more concerned with height height is like i'm not concerned about but usually men
00:00:29.360 don't look taller than me usually men don't look as good in pictures as well so if it's just dating
00:00:33.920 apps then you can't really go just off no but it's not just going off of that it's in person too like
00:00:38.560 they raided the men in person and they also thought they were ugly that's so interesting
00:00:44.160 maybe because women have way more beautiful features there's way more like different 1.00
00:00:47.440 attributes well women wear makeup so we got boobs and like we got we got things that like sexually 1.00
00:00:53.200 no but like for like towards a man like yeah but he could do it he could do a topless photo
00:00:57.680 i think women just have higher standards like they actually say that women um judge like men 1.00
00:01:02.240 heart more harsh on appearance than men judge women i think i wouldn't have thought that
00:01:08.800 men swipe right around 50 of the time women swipe right five so even if let's just say we tripled it 1.00
00:01:13.520 like in person she finds three times as many people attractive it's still only 15 i think that's
00:01:18.240 contributing to why women are just single and yeah you know rates are going up for why women are not
00:01:23.120 really married and single by 25 and 30 because yeah the standards are definitely gone high
00:01:29.680 um so uh the same question though like what would you say you bring outside of looks
00:01:35.600 um outside of looks um okay obviously like personality um and just morals as well and like ambition worth
00:01:46.000 ethic i feel like i'm not really the type to just kind of sit down and just be bummy like i'm always
00:01:51.040 trying to like better myself and work harder and stuff like that which i personally feel like
00:01:55.680 is a good thing because i want that in a guy too i feel like that's a very attractive thing to like
00:01:59.520 be ambitious and then other than that um i can keep i can cook a few bits and bobs nothing too crazy
00:02:06.640 um like i said like i can actually drive so i'm not gonna be like oh my guy needs to have a car and i
00:02:11.760 can't drive like she can actually have a car um and then i'm very like family oriented i have good morals
00:02:17.680 like like i said i feel like personality no i feel like looks is it can only get you so far i feel like
00:02:23.920 like your soul like internally you have like you have to check those boxes too so i feel like i check
00:02:28.400 those boxes as well okay uh what about you um do you think you're above average and what do you bring
00:02:35.040 to an above average man yes i do think i'm above average uh what do i bring to the table um
00:02:43.360 um i just feel like yeah looks is like one thing it's the surface right but i take pride in my
00:02:50.240 appearance so it's not just like makeup and all of like oh getting botox or lip fillers and stuff
00:02:55.360 it's not that i'm talking about facials manicures pedicures like health and well-being going to the
00:03:01.520 gym like going to the doctors like these type of things like beyond the surface like i actually really
00:03:06.880 take care of myself like moisturizing like i know it sounds like oh i just cream my skin but like i
00:03:12.720 take really good pride in that like my skin is really soft so i'm happy about that um that's just
00:03:17.840 on the surface but then like in terms of other things like as a woman i just feel like i'm very
00:03:22.160 nurturing maybe it's my stuff to do my star sign if you guys believe in that stuff or it's just me my
00:03:27.280 just biological makeup but i'm very nurturing um in terms of like my duties in the household like
00:03:33.040 cleaning and cooking i will always do for for whatever man that i'm with because it just comes
00:03:38.240 naturally to me um in terms of like you're like 100 of the household chores yeah yeah yeah yeah well
00:03:44.960 as in usually like well the person with now he does parts as well because he likes to be clean as
00:03:50.160 well so that's a good thing but i'm happy to do like 90 of it i've got this theory like i want tradition
00:03:56.160 to play like 85 90 in the relationship but that that 15 10 is just modern day society we're not
00:04:03.440 in the 1950s anymore things have changed so that 15 10 means that the man can do the dishwasher
00:04:08.240 sometimes or the woman can like go and work sometimes as well like it's okay but i feel like
00:04:13.760 our roles should um overpower the other percentage of you get what i'm trying to say um but yeah like i i
00:04:21.040 definitely feel like i bring a lot to the table not that my man or anyone i date should ask me what i
00:04:25.840 bring to the table because i think he should just i don't like that question from a man but
00:04:31.440 i know yeah yeah you're a woman yeah of course i'm gonna tell you how but like as a man i wouldn't
00:04:36.720 that would be a complete red flag if he's like demanding what seeking really yeah like because
00:04:41.920 i just don't yeah no i think men should ask women what they bring i think my women should ask men too
00:04:48.160 you might want to not to phrase it you might not phrase it like that i've never asked a man what you
00:04:51.760 bring to the what he brings you might not phrase it like that but you want to know what his job is
00:04:55.600 you want to know his relationship with his family like they ask it to you they just don't do it that
00:04:59.520 directly typically like guys will ask you questions on dates to like figure out stuff about you but do
00:05:04.800 you think that's because men we can ask men because what we're asking for is more to see like if they
00:05:09.360 provide and stuff and that's more like factual like what i do for a job what i earn whereas a
00:05:13.360 woman it's more you need to experience her to see if she you can't you can say i'm nurturing but
00:05:18.800 you might not but you need to kind of be around her see how she is how see how she talks but yeah adding to like
00:05:23.840 you could ask like um when's the last time you like babysat or watched children like how often
00:05:29.360 do you interact with kids that's the way you could tell um yeah is that a good indication yeah i think
00:05:35.840 so if you want a mother like it would you don't think like doing the thing that you would have to
00:05:40.000 do if you're a mom because nurturing goes beyond kids but yeah okay it's i'm just saying that's one
00:05:44.960 one way yeah yeah yeah but there's like ways you can ask the question yeah yeah yeah fair enough that's
00:05:50.240 fair that's fair but i think men should ask more questions to be honest because i i think that
00:05:57.040 like a lot of guys don't ask the right questions and they get bamboozled later i know but i like
00:06:01.760 the level of like mystery that woman carries and i think that's her femininity like you shouldn't i 0.98
00:06:07.920 don't think you should tell a man a lot especially well if he's your partner of course but when you're
00:06:12.080 first dating him i don't think you should tell him a lot because you could tell him the facts of
00:06:16.640 course but don't air out your dirty laundry and stuff because you're a woman you're feminine you 1.00
00:06:21.280 that mystery that mystique is really important i think yeah but you don't okay there's a difference
00:06:27.120 between airing it like talking about your ex-boyfriend and answering questions he asks yeah as long as
00:06:32.480 the question's appropriate no i think like when guys ask you questions and you don't answer it's like
00:06:36.800 not feminine yeah because i think it's like disagreeable the question i guess i think it's like
00:06:40.960 disagreeable yeah if you're gonna okay let's let's say it like this if a guy said to me what's your
00:06:45.440 body count i'm not gonna answer him because i just think that's inappropriate disrespectful
00:06:52.400 actually i don't even want to talk to you anymore so i'm just gonna get up and leave you think it's
00:06:55.600 a disrespect absolutely i think i think men should know that to be honest um i don't think i think
00:07:02.240 it's disrespectful if it's someone like you don't know i mean not disrespect like it's it's private
00:07:07.360 right but it's like if so if he wants to if he's taking you seriously and wants to marry you i think
00:07:11.440 it's a valid question i just think it's only valid if you've been with someone that he is associated
00:07:16.880 with like friends or family i feel like a guy that has no kind of connection to your guy i don't think
00:07:22.800 it actually matters and furthermore you can ask a woman however many times what her body count is
00:07:28.640 first of all she's always gonna lie even if she doesn't lie how do you know she's telling the truth
00:07:32.320 were you in her body for all the years she's been alive never tell on themselves like guys start to
00:07:37.520 count like because you'll be like oh that's what guys tell me that the women will tell on themselves 1.00
00:07:41.680 later yeah i think most guys like don't ask to be fair but i mean when you look at the numbers as a
00:07:47.200 guy i don't know how you wouldn't care especially men have so much to lose in divorce um court today
00:07:52.800 it's like if the girl's a virgin on her wedding wedding night she has an 80 chance of a happy marriage
00:07:57.760 you know it drops down to if she slept with more than five people what 20 so if you slept with more 1.00
00:08:02.880 than five people your chance of a happy marriage in 10 years goes down to 20 and if you slept with 0.81
00:08:08.320 more than 10 it's like you're you're probably going to be divorced like more likely than not within five
00:08:13.680 years have they said what the reason is for that i mean i think it's good i think it's going against
00:08:18.800 nature like throughout all of history like when have women been as promiscuous as they are today you 1.00
00:08:23.200 don't undo biology just because we have birth control now so do you think that's down to because she's 1.00
00:08:28.320 experienced so many partners that she then doesn't feel fulfilled or do you think it's down to the
00:08:32.720 man finding out and not respecting her what do you think it's down to well it's the women leaving 1.00
00:08:36.480 so it's not the men like women usually leave not men um so i think it's the psychology of choice if
00:08:42.880 you have 10 meals in front of you and you pick one you're not as happy but if there's one in front of
00:08:47.040 you you're happy you're just happy to be eaten you know what i mean and so i think girls start to 0.99
00:08:51.680 compare so they'll say like the first guy uh he had this second yeah you're not no it's true no i agree
00:08:57.040 with that i actually agree with that yeah and then i think like the the more you've been with it's like
00:09:01.680 the odds are the guy you married isn't your favorite and so now you're getting married to
00:09:06.080 your second choice is that good and i think we can all like think of a girl that maybe had an
00:09:10.880 ex that she kept going back to or didn't get over maybe an excellent you that happened to you
00:09:15.360 you know um i think that's common because women start running out of time so they run to their 1.00
00:09:20.160 like second or third choice true that's what i think anyway you know there's no that never happens
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