JustPearlyThings - May 14, 2023


This Is Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Wayne Snapchat
Delusional Modern Women Millionaire Picked His Wife In The Most Unique Way

Episode Stats


Length

10 minutes

Words per minute

203.06

Word count

2,099

Sentence count

253

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

sentences flagged

Toxicity

22

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Hate speech

6

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about boundaries and how important it is to have them in place in a relationship. We also talk about cheating and how to deal with it. We have a special guest on the show this week.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 All right, listen to this, yeah.
00:00:01.440 I once had a girl, what was she? 1.00
00:00:03.220 She wanted to come around my yard and work or something, 1.00
00:00:06.540 and she was like, oh, her boyfriend won't allow it
00:00:09.600 because it's just me and her.
00:00:10.500 I was like, but why, though?
00:00:12.000 It's just me and her.
00:00:13.000 She's working from, instead of working from home,
00:00:14.880 she's working from my life.
00:00:15.780 It's about not putting her, so her boyfriend said no.
00:00:19.360 Yeah.
00:00:19.900 It's about her not being in a space or in a situation
00:00:22.960 where something could happen.
00:00:24.840 There should be boundaries in place
00:00:26.200 if you're in a good relationship.
00:00:27.680 She's just a friend of mine.
00:00:28.760 She was a good friend of mine.
00:00:31.060 Yeah, but put it like this.
00:00:32.340 I was in a situation where I helped a girl
00:00:33.960 and do her assignment, but by the end of the night,
00:00:36.040 did we finish the assignment?
00:00:37.220 No.
00:00:39.680 You finished another assignment.
00:00:40.920 No, no.
00:00:42.440 Because one-on-one in those type of situations
00:00:45.380 and those type of times, I can 100% understand
00:00:47.540 the guy being like, oh, I feel a bit aware.
00:00:51.860 You're looking at your face.
00:00:52.700 You were even scheming.
00:00:53.980 I could see your face.
00:00:55.320 Wayne is that guy that cheats on you,
00:00:57.540 and then he'll say to you, he'll say,
00:00:58.780 before 25, don't count.
00:01:00.100 Before 25, don't count.
00:01:00.800 You know you have them man that will be like,
00:01:02.400 yo, my girl's trying to say I was cheating on her. 1.00
00:01:04.360 And I'm like, yeah, but bro, you were cheating on her. 0.88
00:01:05.400 But you were.
00:01:07.360 It's me.
00:01:08.340 It's me you're talking to, bro.
00:01:09.740 I'm like, Wayne, it's us.
00:01:10.800 Yeah, it's us.
00:01:11.740 It's fine.
00:01:12.400 We get in.
00:01:13.260 We understand.
00:01:14.040 You just don't want to put yourself in a situation
00:01:16.220 where something could come back.
00:01:17.880 Let's say the girl lies 1.00
00:01:18.900 and you can't really defend yourself.
00:01:20.760 It's her word against yours.
00:01:22.440 I think that there should be boundaries in place.
00:01:24.280 Like, I don't think it's okay if you are,
00:01:27.360 if she's in a relationship,
00:01:28.120 it's not okay for her to be bopping up to your room to work. 1.00
00:01:31.140 Like, why?
00:01:31.780 I don't understand.
00:01:33.040 No, but you're just chilling.
00:01:34.240 You're working from home.
00:01:35.260 You usually work from home.
00:01:36.440 Did you, when she said that to you,
00:01:38.000 did you say, you know what?
00:01:38.960 I understand.
00:01:39.840 That's a really, like, that's great.
00:01:41.200 Your boyfriend had boundaries.
00:01:42.220 Or did you say, oh, that's horrible?
00:01:44.600 I said to her, but he knows I'm by, though.
00:01:47.580 That doesn't help.
00:01:48.820 Have you and her been intimate before?
00:01:52.660 Like, back in the day?
00:01:53.220 We, we, we, no, we haven't.
00:01:54.460 We got in a situation where I knew she had feelings for me.
00:01:57.700 Oh.
00:01:58.320 In the...
00:01:58.720 No, no, no.
00:01:59.920 No, no.
00:02:01.320 Two plus two is...
00:02:02.380 No.
00:02:04.020 No.
00:02:05.360 No.
00:02:06.320 I'm a nice guy.
00:02:09.040 This is how we don't trust you, bro.
00:02:10.860 This is how we don't trust you.
00:02:13.880 Come on.
00:02:14.660 Come on.
00:02:14.820 I just wanted her friendship.
00:02:16.020 That's all I wanted was her friendship.
00:02:17.400 Whatever, whatever, do his Instagram.
00:02:20.760 Yeah, let's check your Instagram.
00:02:22.900 All right.
00:02:23.620 I don't know my glasses.
00:02:24.940 Okay, I want to know if you guys, I know you're not single, but when you were single, if you
00:02:29.540 guys would respond or not, and what you would think of him.
00:02:32.760 Man's a model still.
00:02:35.620 You know, I can't really see.
00:02:36.760 Is that your car?
00:02:37.600 I feel like if I saw this Instagram, I would think prop.
00:02:40.860 That's the one that the gauge, yeah?
00:02:42.760 That's the one that the gauge respond to you on.
00:02:44.740 Yeah.
00:02:45.380 In the rain.
00:02:45.980 In the rain.
00:02:46.520 I don't think this is, I don't need this type of problems.
00:02:51.780 You've got blue ticks coming in yours as well.
00:02:53.940 Wow.
00:02:54.460 You see?
00:02:55.520 Oh, yeah, definitely.
00:02:59.940 Yeah.
00:03:00.760 Yeah.
00:03:02.380 Is that a magnum?
00:03:03.320 You're a type of uni.
00:03:07.440 Okay.
00:03:08.260 What do you guys, what do you guys think?
00:03:10.060 What would you?
00:03:10.680 Like the last picture and this picture is fine.
00:03:13.400 There was a couple pictures that I'd be like, mm.
00:03:15.960 I'm a PT, but yeah, I hear you.
00:03:18.260 Mm.
00:03:19.100 That's so good.
00:03:19.960 You need to show the merchandise, isn't it?
00:03:21.120 Yeah, fair.
00:03:22.000 Yeah, fair.
00:03:24.720 So, would you guys respond?
00:03:26.920 Yeah, probably.
00:03:28.080 Yeah.
00:03:28.420 To be fair.
00:03:29.180 Yeah.
00:03:29.460 What about you two?
00:03:30.380 Would you respond?
00:03:31.360 No.
00:03:33.060 I don't know.
00:03:34.140 I think you're a good looking guy, but I don't know, because of course you had your, you
00:03:39.620 were flexing in some of the, oh, it's him.
00:03:42.380 That's him.
00:03:43.160 That's him.
00:03:43.560 That's him.
00:03:43.780 I know you think you're a good looking guy, but I think, yeah, there was a couple of pictures
00:04:02.380 that I'm, but I can't judge you.
00:04:04.440 You don't like the whole top thing off.
00:04:06.500 It's just, yeah, there's just something I, I don't know.
00:04:09.720 But yeah, talk, it's all good.
00:04:11.480 But it's just, I mean, I think I have that view in general though, like even if a girl 0.96
00:04:15.480 is like, and I'm not going to say I haven't done this in the past, but if you're out there 0.92
00:04:19.460 like bikini, like tits, like tits in the camera, like showing off your body in a certain 0.98
00:04:23.840 type of way, you want a certain type of attention to like, I can't take you seriously. 0.99
00:04:28.500 No, I hear you.
00:04:29.280 I hear you.
00:04:29.620 I hear that.
00:04:30.360 I agree.
00:04:32.320 See, my answer is PG clean.
00:04:34.580 I was like, I just have like, I would think, cause when you see a profile like that, I
00:04:41.040 would just assume you get so much attention, which is true.
00:04:44.240 And so I'm like, I am not.
00:04:46.100 That's a headache.
00:04:46.960 I don't want to deal with that.
00:04:47.920 No, I'm too jealous.
00:04:48.880 You don't want to be competitive, man.
00:04:50.400 You've got to go 41 in this life.
00:04:52.300 You know what I mean? 1.00
00:04:53.240 You're a demon. 0.99
00:04:54.340 What is my other question? 0.99
00:04:56.800 Have you guys ever went through a girl's phone?
00:05:00.720 Yeah.
00:05:01.420 I mean, businesses do audits, right? 1.00
00:05:03.660 Damn. 0.99
00:05:06.000 What did you find? 1.00
00:05:06.960 Did you find anything?
00:05:07.920 Most of the time, you know, guys, we're a bit, we're just, we don't go for the right
00:05:11.900 things.
00:05:12.120 I think women know exactly where to look. 1.00
00:05:14.020 Guys are going to look for random shit. 1.00
00:05:16.500 You're not going to find nothing. 0.99
00:05:17.820 I've done it.
00:05:18.760 I don't.
00:05:19.240 I'll be honest though.
00:05:19.940 I think once, once you're in that place where it becomes a thing where you need to, then
00:05:27.320 and there's difference, like someone going, someone opening up your phone in your sleep
00:05:30.880 is different to like someone leaving you with their phone and then you might just, you
00:05:35.120 know, okay, that pop-up came up.
00:05:36.520 What was that?
00:05:37.040 What was that?
00:05:37.540 Yeah.
00:05:38.200 Like it's a bit of a difference.
00:05:40.420 If you're like waking people up or like trying to do all that kind of stuff, I think there's
00:05:43.600 other problems there.
00:05:44.600 I think sometimes there's a curiosity thing where that people have where it's just open
00:05:49.600 and you just, you might just, or like, cause there's even times where I'll put it down
00:05:53.560 to someone being on their phone next to you and how many times, like let's say someone's
00:05:57.680 typing their password in front of you.
00:05:58.760 How many times do you, man don't want to be guys, so we do this.
00:06:01.960 And we, what are you doing, man?
00:06:04.460 Look at that, bro.
00:06:05.760 Like look at it, you know what I mean?
00:06:07.020 But we do that because your women will look at it easy, but you know, guys, you want to
00:06:10.300 feel secure, so you're just like, no, I'm not even going to look because you don't
00:06:12.740 want problems, innit?
00:06:13.560 But sometimes you, you just look and see, cool, what's going on?
00:06:16.240 Everything cool?
00:06:16.840 All right, cool.
00:06:17.700 You know what I mean?
00:06:18.020 Yeah, I don't, I haven't checked in the same way of like being that one, like person who's
00:06:23.420 very worried and had to check through the phone.
00:06:25.360 The check-in, check-in quote unquote, is one of those ones, like you said, you're on her 0.59
00:06:29.160 phone, you're playing fucking Fruit Ninja or whatever, and like a text comes up and you're 0.88
00:06:33.080 like, oh. 0.97
00:06:34.080 I'm like, I don't, I don't go through anyone's phone.
00:06:36.280 I don't go through it.
00:06:36.960 That's your private thing.
00:06:37.800 That's your private space.
00:06:38.940 But you see the name and you see what the message is and you're like, okay, you just keep
00:06:42.500 a mental note of like, all right.
00:06:43.620 I think, yeah, if you don't trust your partner, then I think that that is, it's already, life
00:06:47.960 is, life is too short for me to go through your phone.
00:06:50.940 It's like, why am I even with you?
00:06:52.400 I think for me, there's a question from the chat.
00:06:55.340 They want to know from the girls, if, is cheating, what, which would you prefer?
00:07:01.280 Um, you go through his phone and you find him, he has naked pictures from another girl
00:07:06.300 or he was buying her things, but there was, but there is nothing physical.
00:07:13.860 It's both cheating.
00:07:15.260 Why is he buying?
00:07:15.760 No, you gotta, you gotta, that's not the question.
00:07:17.860 You gotta pick one.
00:07:19.220 You have to pick one.
00:07:21.120 Um.
00:07:22.500 Oh, that's difficult.
00:07:23.280 I think, I think, I think naked pictures is definitely worse.
00:07:30.240 Okay.
00:07:30.900 I think, yeah.
00:07:31.840 So if he bought her a bunch of clothes or something, that wouldn't be as bad as naked pictures.
00:07:37.520 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:38.640 I'm the same, to be fair.
00:07:39.660 Naked pictures worse.
00:07:40.500 No, I have to disagree because, like, let's be real.
00:07:46.520 Some of the stuff that girls post on Instagram, does it really make a difference if you're 0.99
00:07:50.660 sending nudes privately on Snapchat or if you're just posting that on Instagram?
00:07:54.360 Like, you're gonna have people doing what they do.
00:07:59.060 Mm-hmm.
00:07:59.580 Either way.
00:07:59.860 I agree with you.
00:08:01.040 I'm like, if I found out.
00:08:01.300 I think it's more personal if it's. 1.00
00:08:02.720 If I found out a dude was buying some random Instagram girl, a bunch of shit. 0.99
00:08:06.460 I'd be like. 1.00
00:08:08.420 What? 1.00
00:08:08.820 Like, that's a whole mind fuck. 1.00
00:08:11.920 Like, the nudes, it's like, okay, a man's a man, a man has a penis, like, he's gonna do 1.00
00:08:14.740 what he's gonna do. 0.99
00:08:15.260 But it's like, the buying things, it's like, that's the effort.
00:08:19.160 And is it, is it different than, like, corn?
00:08:22.000 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:22.520 Like, if a guy gets a picture from a girl.
00:08:24.600 Yeah.
00:08:24.900 Versus looks up corn online, is it that big of a.
00:08:27.620 How much difference?
00:08:28.280 Yeah.
00:08:28.700 Yeah, exactly.
00:08:29.380 Because it's all just, like, I mean, it's just flesh.
00:08:32.800 But, like, the act of buying someone a gift takes thought and effort.
00:08:39.800 Like, a guy getting nudes, he's getting that for one thing.
00:08:43.060 Yeah, but it's also about the intentions.
00:08:45.460 The intentions of why he's buying her something as well.
00:08:48.340 Like, he's probably buying her something so that he can sleep with her eventually.
00:08:52.440 That's why we said it was worse.
00:08:53.000 Yeah, that's why it's worse.
00:08:54.120 I know, but.
00:08:55.020 That's why it's worse.
00:08:55.700 You know the detectives in the movie, they say, yeah.
00:08:57.700 They say, follow the money.
00:08:59.460 Yeah, he's emotionally invested.
00:09:01.300 Would you guys break up if zero contact happened?
00:09:07.320 Yeah.
00:09:07.960 Yeah.
00:09:10.800 Because, you know what's funny when you ask that first question?
00:09:13.300 We gave each other a look.
00:09:14.680 We gave each other a look.
00:09:16.100 Because we both know if he's buying someone else a gift, that is worse.
00:09:20.880 That's the thing he's trying to cheat.
00:09:22.180 He's trying to leave.
00:09:22.740 That means he's really having a conversation with this girl.
00:09:25.120 He's finding someone else.
00:09:26.420 He's looking to have a conversation with this girl.
00:09:28.300 And he's talking to her enough that he knows her well enough to think that he can buy her things and know what she likes.
00:09:35.620 That means he's been talking to her for a while.
00:09:37.080 Which means he's down to book a ticket if she drops to the address.
00:09:40.860 No, that's the difference between a fling and a fair.
00:09:45.000 Yeah.
00:09:45.540 A fair is, you know, you follow the money, you'll find the affair.
00:09:47.920 Fling is any news you're going to find or whatever.
00:09:50.080 The news is whatever.
00:09:50.940 Because you can, if he's a cheater, he can be getting news from 11 people whenever.
00:09:55.360 If he's like a serial cheater, then he's getting news from everyone.
00:09:57.740 But if he's sending, if he's got to a point of messaging this person to a point where he's sending a gift on a somewhat regular basis.
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