This Is Why Most Relationships Fail
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about money and dating at a young age and how we would like to be financially stable by the age of 25. We talk about what we would expect from a significant other and how much money we would be willing to sacrifice to be in a relationship with someone we care deeply for.
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i want to go on holiday i want to go party i want to you know buy all the expensive stuff go shopping
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because i don't have any real responsibilities right now but yeah for me like if i'm going to
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be dating at this age i want someone who can spend on me do you do you expect him to cover all the
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bills when you go out not all the bills like what percent you mean give me specifics how often do
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you need to be taken out in a week like i don't mind like going out like once a week so once a
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week yeah if we go out once a week how expensive is the dinner if the if the dinner's like we're going
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out to like an expensive place say we're going to like mayfair or something like he can cover the
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bill but if it's like his birthday or something that i'll pay no but i'm talking day to day so
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once a week you expect mayfair no once a week like we could do something basic i don't mind where
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we go like i don't mind just being around you but if we're going to go out and like get something even
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if it's basic like a mcdonald's or whatever like you have to pay and if you lived with him would
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you expect him to pay 100 of the bills no 50 50 no like maybe like yeah maybe like 80 20 or like 70 30
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70 30. cost of living in london is expensive i know but yeah that's just how i thought do you know
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how much you would need to make to do that not really like i just feel like it just depends like
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if you're making like a lot of money then i feel like it goes up do you know i mean like if you're
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making a lot of money say i'm not making as much as you just yet then you want to live together then
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maybe it's going to be like more maybe like what do you what do you mean like if we're living
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together and you're making more money than me at this age like say i'm still in uni i'm not like
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actually working yet but you want to live with me then i feel like the bills have to be more on your
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side like you have to support me until but if you were making more money then you'd contribute so after
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you graduated university you'd be like 50 50 so yeah i'd actually i'd actually like split 50 50 if we're
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making around around the same amount we're both working and getting good pay then 50 50 is fair
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what about height is that important to you yeah because i'm like i'm not like super tall but i'm
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a tall girl like i'm five eight so that i don't want to be i get it i'm six yeah i get it i don't
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want to be with no one who's like shorter than me like i feel like five seven no five ten no okay six
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foot six foot six foot and up six foot and up yeah okay so what if he's so how old are you again i'm
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19 19. okay so if he's let's say 25 is that is that no cage or is that too old what for me yeah
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for you that is too old too old okay let's let's go down 22 20 21 21 okay he works at tesco you cool
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with that no no he's only 21 he's just starting off you know what if he works at tesco but he has
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ideas of going somewhere else then that's fair but if you were you're working at tesco's and tesco's
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the only place you have your mindset like this is the only way i'm going to get money cool i'm just
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going to stay here then it's a no from me okay so is there a dollar amount that he has to be at
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i'm just trying to paint so he's a six foot guy maybe i know someone you know maybe i i meet a lot
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people on the show not really like as long as we can be financially stable do you know i mean like
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if we're cool we can afford to like do the grocery shopping and stuff like that like all the luxury
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stuff like it comes as a bonus you get what i'm saying but like you know so at this age it sounds
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like looks are more important to you than money yeah because the height thing seemed more important
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you seem more fussed about the height than the money yeah like i feel like for me personally like
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if i'm in a relationship with someone right now like if we go out i can pay for them do you know
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i mean like i can treat them how i want them to treat me but i feel like as well if you're going
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to be in a relationship with someone you have to be attracted to them like that's the bottom line i
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feel like obviously everyone's on this oh love is blind blah blah blah like for me like i'm not
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going to be with someone who i'm not attracted to that's just that's just how it is it's crazy
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though it's true you ever look at super rich guys jeff bezos i look at him and i'm not actually
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attracted to him but he's rich so girl i'm telling you some money gives girls glasses
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you'd be surprised um okay um so you seem like you cared also more about looks or money
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um just because you said you didn't care about money earlier i'm assuming you care more about looks
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but i could be wrong i think it's like looks and attract being attracted to someone can be quite
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different you can be attracted to someone by someone's aura and how they move and stuff like
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that i think you can looks fade um and it's just the way someone holds themselves their presence and
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stuff like that you could like look at them and not necessarily think they're attractive and in five
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minutes you're like i'm in so like pretty eyes is enough okay so looks is more important than money
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or money is more important than looks no i think like presence and vibe is more important than
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either of them so charisma yeah that sounds like that's a better word you're like charismatic guys
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yes exactly okay um what about you um what how how tall does he have to be well i'm five five
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so do you know it is yeah i've actually dated a couple short guys so i can't even talk too tough
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i can't lie but i'd say like obviously i'd want him to be either my height or just a little bit taller
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i'm not especially i don't really want a tall tall guy because like if he's moving a bit mad i need
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to be able to bud him up just a little bit you know i mean can't be feeling a bit wait if he wait
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say that again no sorry wait wait wait ha ha ha ha no so if he's moving a bit mad you need to like
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humble him just a little bit you know what i mean okay so i'm gonna need a frying pan so i'm saying he's
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five he's five seven he's five seven he's feeling himself what are you doing what do you mean feeling
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himself like he's being rude i guess i don't know whatever you're just can you give me give me a
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situation i'm gonna cuss him or something do you know me but i'm saying if i had a six foot guy right
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or five foot seven like that's quite tall actually yeah five foot seven and then no it's not i'm gonna
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go for six foot and then he's like he's i don't know say i call him madino cheating or just something
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mad or like he's just messed he's sexed sexing women okay so has this happened no okay no one's
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okay so five seven guys sexing other girls yeah i've just got i watched tyler perry yeah one of
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the medea movies and it's stuck with me since and i took it i said god bless me with this because
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basically he was cheating and like she had kids with him and stuff do you know what she done she
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put on lingerie he came up from his business trip weren't no business trip right he was with another
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woman but she thought he didn't know and then she like basically said like she got the shower running
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for him and everything she took everything out of the bathroom she put baby oil on the floor so he
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would slip and slide and then she just like whipped him with his belt i said yeah i'm taking that one
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for the book okay so if he's five seven oh i don't need to do that you're gonna so if you catch him
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cheating you're gonna essentially abuse him well i wouldn't say i'm gonna imagine imagine if a woman
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did that or a man a man did that to a woman i wouldn't say i'm gonna abuse him i'm just giving you an analogy
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obviously i need to be able to kind of just put a little bit of fear like bro this is just
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major disrespect you think okay you think a guy who most men can beat you up easily yeah agreed
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he's gonna be afraid of you no that's why i need the baby oil
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okay okay so but if he's six foot what's the difference i don't know he's just mad like yeah
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he could just literally just pick me up my neck like just whoop okay so all right so so you you need
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to date the guy that's five seven so you can potentially if he cheats on you hurt him in the
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shower by making him slip on me no no no that's not the cause but what i'm trying to say is that
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i'm just i'm just trying to say back what i thought you said no i'm just trying to give out that basically
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i just prefer not so tall men because i find them sometimes intimidating that's all it is and i feel
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like some men the tall men are intimidating yeah and i feel like sometimes not saying a short man
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can't also be intimidating or he can't have like mannerisms that make you feel intimidated
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but i'm just saying for off of looks like you say like what you're attracted to and stuff like that
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that just kind of put me off if someone's like really tall for me do you want a man that you can
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dominate no not a man i can dominate but i'd want a man that i feel like isn't gonna give me a reason