JustPearlyThings - This LEVEL Of DELUSION Is OUTRAGEOUS

00:00:00.000 what percent of your followers are men versus women i think mine's 90 percent men yeah it is

00:00:06.400 a high percentage yeah um i'm curious like going back to the virginity thing if you guys could go 0.75

00:00:12.960 back in time would you wait until you were married to have sex yes yeah you would 100 yes courtney 0.97

00:00:25.120 do you know what i don't know because i feel like every every relationship that i've been in

00:00:29.520 i've i've learned something from so it's like if i said i'd go back and change it and not do it then

00:00:35.120 i wouldn't learn i wouldn't have learned the things that i would have moving forward so i don't know

00:00:40.080 it's it's almost like saying i'm just gonna eliminate experiences that i've had yeah but if

00:00:45.600 they ended badly like what value does like sexual experience bring to you now like what you know if

00:00:52.160 you're gonna let's say you meet your husband tomorrow and you're going into a marriage and

00:00:55.040 you could have just slept with him yeah or slept with him and all these other guys like don't you 0.83

00:00:59.520 think it would be better to just sleep with him i understand what you're saying because obviously

00:01:02.800 when you get married the love that you have for that person other people that you've been in

00:01:05.840 a relationship is definitely different because you're married and you're going to build a life

00:01:09.440 with them so i think when i get to that i'll probably be like oh do you know what i wish i would have

00:01:13.360 waited but now i haven't i'm not trying to settle down i'm not in that time of my life so my perspective

00:01:19.920 is going to be different what age would you like to settle down if i'm completely honest it's all

00:01:25.040 about when my career is is if when i'm happy with where i am in my life if that makes sense because

00:01:30.080 i wouldn't want to settle down not having achieved everything that i want to achieve on myself because

00:01:34.880 i'm kind of quite selfish in that i want to be very successful do a lot have tons of businesses so i

00:01:39.360 think say if i i blew up and i had all this success by the time i was 27 then cool i'll look for when

00:01:46.480 i'm 27 but it depends on where i am financially and stuff like that to be honest what value does

00:01:52.560 your career bring to a guy well music i want to inspire people and motivate people and i want to

00:01:59.840 make a change i want to yeah but men don't care true like he's like oh i'm looking for a girl to 0.99

00:02:04.560 inspire and motivate you know what i mean yeah yeah 100 i think it's like you're young now you're pretty

00:02:09.760 now and but you're going to be less pretty and less young in in 10 years in five years so like why

00:02:14.400 would you not look for that when you're younger i mean i look i look quite young now so maybe when

00:02:19.680 i'm older i'll still look young i know i mean but um i just know what i want out of life yes i i

00:02:26.640 do want a family for me that's very important because i don't have any siblings and all my family

00:02:30.400 members are very far spread out across the world so for me i need that security so just just a stat

00:02:36.800 for you guys did you know if you hit 30 and you and you're still single you drop to a less than

00:02:42.480 50 chance of you being able to have a kid meaning that if you're still single you're more likely to

00:02:47.600 not have a kid than have one and so it's like knowing that you wouldn't want like because you

00:02:53.520 know you're 24 now right yeah let's say you date a guy tomorrow and you date him for three years and

00:02:57.760 it doesn't work out yeah it's like then now now you're a bit older and you have to keep yeah i do

00:03:03.840 think everything happens for a reason though if i'm completely honest like i could turn 30 and find my

00:03:08.400 dream guy the next day do you know i mean and then build a relationship with you can you could but

00:03:13.280 the odds aren't in your favor and the number and that's what that's what i'm saying like i think a

00:03:17.360 lot of times society tells us to go after a career first when it would be a lot easier if we if we were

00:03:22.800 married because you could have the same experiences you could just have them with your husband very

00:03:27.120 true but then what if he then wanted to have kids with you straight away then you'd have to sacrifice

00:03:32.240 that and you want to be a mother oh yeah i want like five kids you know 90 percent of your 90 of 0.84

00:03:37.840 your eggs are gone by 30. yeah so wait way too long you can't have five yeah you're a geriatric

00:03:43.760 do you know when geriatric pregnancy starts any of you 34. what's geriatric i know you know the answer

00:03:49.280 i was going for them what is geriatric so geriatric pregnancy is like high-risk pregnancy do you know when

00:03:54.800 that starts i'd probably say 30 30 plus oh no it's 40 right no i mean it's 35. so high-risk pregnancy

00:04:06.400 starts at 35. what's an ivf it's actually most likely that it won't work out complications i think

00:04:11.200 i'm ivf i'm ivf i'm an ivf baby my parents started um trying to have a kid at 34 i think but i think

00:04:18.960 they had complications anyway yeah no and they're lucky that you you yeah they're lucky but that's not

00:04:23.200 the norm like the majority of ivf doesn't work out yeah and there's complications as well so yeah

00:04:28.960 but we can do stuff like freeze our eggs and stuff like that i know that again it's it's not 100 but

00:04:35.440 but like you know but but even like the odds aren't if you're over it's like it's a less than 50 chance

00:04:41.600 that you eat that that works out that you actually even conceive the kid so it's like they kind of lie to

00:04:46.560 us because they tell them you they tell us we have all these options when we don't when half of your

00:04:50.800 options are also gone by 30. so the number of options you have at 20 by the time you get to 30

00:04:55.360 half of them are gone don't you think it's a lot of pressure on a woman yeah it is it's actually quite

00:04:59.440 sad like even this conversation has opened my eyes makes you realize you're being told some people are

00:05:04.800 saying that women shouldn't have a career they should focus on their marriage and care about their 0.98

00:05:08.640 husband and their children um other people want to not have housewives and want their woman to have a 0.99

00:05:13.600 career but then we have the pressure of not being able to have kids at a certain age there's just

00:05:19.120 there's so much for women to kind of squeeze in yeah it could be overwhelming it's quite overwhelming 0.90

00:05:24.400 well that's the thing you can't have everything but it's like what outcomes do you want like priorities

00:05:28.800 yeah yeah like what what outcomes would make you happy everyone has different priorities right and

00:05:33.520 so it's kind of a trade-off because you know women over the age of 45 that are still single and

00:05:38.240 childless like they're on drugs they're on drugs at a higher rate than any other group and they're more

00:05:42.880 depressed than any other group and they don't tell us that we're really on a time clock

00:05:46.640 and and they don't really warn us about that and you just you can't have everything and so it's the

00:05:52.720 question of like what outcome do you want personally for me i've had this conversation myself a fair

00:05:57.600 few years ago actually um i want the fame and fortune and to have a career but i need a family right for

00:06:04.480 my mental health so if i had a pill one of them was to have a family one of them to be famous i would

00:06:09.600 have a family because that's what i need right right so why wouldn't you prioritize that now knowing

00:06:14.640 knowing that the quality of guy you're going to get is only going to get worse

00:06:18.320 like right now that you're you're the most attractive you're ever going to be you know

00:06:21.360 it'd be one thing if you were fat then you could lose weight and get up but you're in shape right

00:06:27.280 because they always give me this exception like because if you're fat duh but but you know you're

00:06:32.320 in good shape so it's like this is the highest quality guy you're ever going to be able to get

00:06:36.400 yeah and now it's only gonna get worse i hear that but for me to raise a family the way i want to

00:06:41.440 raise it i want to have money that's not for me to go spoil my kids because i don't i i think raising

00:06:46.320 kids spoil doesn't teach them anything but i would want them to not struggle the way that i've

00:06:51.120 struggled could you marry a guy with money would i marry a guy of course yeah yeah so why don't you 1.00

00:06:55.760 just do that because you could you're pretty enough i i mean thank you i could do but i wouldn't be

00:07:01.200 fulfilled and i think in life it's all about fulfilling your own hopes and dreams and stuff like

00:07:06.800 that so what is it like this dream this world doesn't sound real to me and this is come i come

00:07:11.120 from like my dad's a top like one percent earner he's very very successful and like i grew up around

00:07:15.120 successful people but yeah this this doesn't sound real where okay because where the mom has this

00:07:20.160 successful career and the dad also has the successful career and they also have kids they also have five

00:07:27.200 kids like something's got to give you literally can't do everything or you're paying a nanny to raise your

00:07:32.320 kid i mean to be fair i'm not gonna lie if i had money and i was a business woman and i was busy i

00:07:37.840 i would have help if i could afford it i genuinely would have help and that's not me saying i can't be

00:07:42.320 bothered to look after my children of course but i would be there for the important parts though say

00:07:47.200 if i had it's not the same i do understand where you're coming from but that would be the sacrifice

00:07:52.000 that i would take and i would want my kids to see a working mom as well right but that's the problem 0.77

00:07:56.080 that's the modern mindset it's about my career and me before the family and i think that's like what

00:08:00.560 what is so broken down nowadays is that we all care about ourselves before the family and and to

00:08:05.920 have a family that's successful you have to be selfless you know our grandmothers and our great

00:08:10.320 grandmothers didn't stay with their husbands by thinking about themselves yeah yeah because mothers 1.00

00:08:16.160 put their child before themselves when they have children when they don't have children obviously

00:08:20.960 you should be thinking about that ahead of time i am doing by creating a career for myself to provide

00:08:25.760 for the family that i would want so you mentioned you want to be a mother like what are you doing to

00:08:29.920 prepare to be a mother i eat healthy most of the time um that was a really good question actually

00:08:37.120 that's put me on the spot well like what are what are you doing so if a guy said okay you can

00:08:41.840 work for three years he meets you today and he says okay that's fine you're working you work for

00:08:45.760 three years and then we're gonna have children what skills do you bring to the table what would

00:08:49.520 you say i'm a very fair and understanding person um i'm able to oh gosh that's a really hard question

00:08:56.960 you've got the most biggest heart oh thank you i'm like i said i'm a really caring person um

00:09:03.680 i wouldn't i know what my parents did that i would want to do different um and yeah i that's such

00:09:09.760 a hard question it's put me on the spot there's a lot of things but i just can't really think of them

00:09:14.320 you're very ambitious as well ashton right right but that doesn't matter to a guy that's ambitious 0.93

00:09:18.960 like and you know i i'm ambitious but men don't give a shit they literally don't care if i cared 0.90

00:09:24.800 and i love loved you i would do anything for you like i would be your your support your everything 0.89

00:09:30.560 right but but what because you know it's like if you're applying to a job you say i can do this this

00:09:34.160 this and this so um i understand what like when you guys were saying earlier what you because it's all

00:09:40.720 about status for a man and their woman like for example if there was a group of guys and all their

00:09:46.000 girlfriends were going out on a night out and one of the guys turned around and said well my woman's

00:09:50.560 staying at home in his head that's a status thing for example um for example if um your man was to

00:09:56.400 bring his friends around and you were to offer oh what would you guys like to eat again that's a

00:10:01.120 status thing because your woman is taking care of you and your friends so i i want to provide which 1.00

00:10:06.320 is where the money comes from because i also think guys deserve to be treated like a king it's not just

00:10:11.600 the girls should be wined and dined all the time so that's why i want to make money not just to 1.00

00:10:15.920 be able to take my husband out using his credit card i want to use mine so your money is his money

00:10:20.400 in the relationship yeah okay yeah 100 percent

JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023

This LEVEL Of DELUSION Is OUTRAGEOUS

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