This LEVEL Of DELUSION Is OUTRAGEOUS
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about sex, sex education, sex before marriage, sex after marriage and sex before kids. We also talk about what it's like to be a single mom and what it means to be in a monogamous relationship and why it's important to have kids at a young age.
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what percent of your followers are men versus women i think mine's 90 percent men yeah it is
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a high percentage yeah um i'm curious like going back to the virginity thing if you guys could go
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back in time would you wait until you were married to have sex yes yeah you would 100 yes courtney
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do you know what i don't know because i feel like every every relationship that i've been in
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i've i've learned something from so it's like if i said i'd go back and change it and not do it then
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i wouldn't learn i wouldn't have learned the things that i would have moving forward so i don't know
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it's it's almost like saying i'm just gonna eliminate experiences that i've had yeah but if
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they ended badly like what value does like sexual experience bring to you now like what you know if
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you're gonna let's say you meet your husband tomorrow and you're going into a marriage and
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you could have just slept with him yeah or slept with him and all these other guys like don't you
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think it would be better to just sleep with him i understand what you're saying because obviously
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when you get married the love that you have for that person other people that you've been in
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a relationship is definitely different because you're married and you're going to build a life
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with them so i think when i get to that i'll probably be like oh do you know what i wish i would have
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waited but now i haven't i'm not trying to settle down i'm not in that time of my life so my perspective
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is going to be different what age would you like to settle down if i'm completely honest it's all
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about when my career is is if when i'm happy with where i am in my life if that makes sense because
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i wouldn't want to settle down not having achieved everything that i want to achieve on myself because
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i'm kind of quite selfish in that i want to be very successful do a lot have tons of businesses so i
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think say if i i blew up and i had all this success by the time i was 27 then cool i'll look for when
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i'm 27 but it depends on where i am financially and stuff like that to be honest what value does
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your career bring to a guy well music i want to inspire people and motivate people and i want to
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make a change i want to yeah but men don't care true like he's like oh i'm looking for a girl to
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inspire and motivate you know what i mean yeah yeah 100 i think it's like you're young now you're pretty
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now and but you're going to be less pretty and less young in in 10 years in five years so like why
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would you not look for that when you're younger i mean i look i look quite young now so maybe when
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i'm older i'll still look young i know i mean but um i just know what i want out of life yes i i
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do want a family for me that's very important because i don't have any siblings and all my family
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members are very far spread out across the world so for me i need that security so just just a stat
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for you guys did you know if you hit 30 and you and you're still single you drop to a less than
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50 chance of you being able to have a kid meaning that if you're still single you're more likely to
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not have a kid than have one and so it's like knowing that you wouldn't want like because you
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know you're 24 now right yeah let's say you date a guy tomorrow and you date him for three years and
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it doesn't work out yeah it's like then now now you're a bit older and you have to keep yeah i do
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think everything happens for a reason though if i'm completely honest like i could turn 30 and find my
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dream guy the next day do you know i mean and then build a relationship with you can you could but
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the odds aren't in your favor and the number and that's what that's what i'm saying like i think a
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lot of times society tells us to go after a career first when it would be a lot easier if we if we were
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married because you could have the same experiences you could just have them with your husband very
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true but then what if he then wanted to have kids with you straight away then you'd have to sacrifice
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that and you want to be a mother oh yeah i want like five kids you know 90 percent of your 90 of
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your eggs are gone by 30. yeah so wait way too long you can't have five yeah you're a geriatric
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do you know when geriatric pregnancy starts any of you 34. what's geriatric i know you know the answer
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i was going for them what is geriatric so geriatric pregnancy is like high-risk pregnancy do you know when
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that starts i'd probably say 30 30 plus oh no it's 40 right no i mean it's 35. so high-risk pregnancy
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starts at 35. what's an ivf it's actually most likely that it won't work out complications i think
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i'm ivf i'm ivf i'm an ivf baby my parents started um trying to have a kid at 34 i think but i think
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they had complications anyway yeah no and they're lucky that you you yeah they're lucky but that's not
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the norm like the majority of ivf doesn't work out yeah and there's complications as well so yeah
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but we can do stuff like freeze our eggs and stuff like that i know that again it's it's not 100 but
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but like you know but but even like the odds aren't if you're over it's like it's a less than 50 chance
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that you eat that that works out that you actually even conceive the kid so it's like they kind of lie to
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us because they tell them you they tell us we have all these options when we don't when half of your
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options are also gone by 30. so the number of options you have at 20 by the time you get to 30
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half of them are gone don't you think it's a lot of pressure on a woman yeah it is it's actually quite
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sad like even this conversation has opened my eyes makes you realize you're being told some people are
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saying that women shouldn't have a career they should focus on their marriage and care about their
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husband and their children um other people want to not have housewives and want their woman to have a
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career but then we have the pressure of not being able to have kids at a certain age there's just
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there's so much for women to kind of squeeze in yeah it could be overwhelming it's quite overwhelming
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well that's the thing you can't have everything but it's like what outcomes do you want like priorities
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yeah yeah like what what outcomes would make you happy everyone has different priorities right and
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so it's kind of a trade-off because you know women over the age of 45 that are still single and
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childless like they're on drugs they're on drugs at a higher rate than any other group and they're more
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depressed than any other group and they don't tell us that we're really on a time clock
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and and they don't really warn us about that and you just you can't have everything and so it's the
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question of like what outcome do you want personally for me i've had this conversation myself a fair
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few years ago actually um i want the fame and fortune and to have a career but i need a family right for
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my mental health so if i had a pill one of them was to have a family one of them to be famous i would
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have a family because that's what i need right right so why wouldn't you prioritize that now knowing
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knowing that the quality of guy you're going to get is only going to get worse
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like right now that you're you're the most attractive you're ever going to be you know
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it'd be one thing if you were fat then you could lose weight and get up but you're in shape right
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because they always give me this exception like because if you're fat duh but but you know you're
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in good shape so it's like this is the highest quality guy you're ever going to be able to get
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yeah and now it's only gonna get worse i hear that but for me to raise a family the way i want to
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raise it i want to have money that's not for me to go spoil my kids because i don't i i think raising
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kids spoil doesn't teach them anything but i would want them to not struggle the way that i've
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struggled could you marry a guy with money would i marry a guy of course yeah yeah so why don't you
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just do that because you could you're pretty enough i i mean thank you i could do but i wouldn't be
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fulfilled and i think in life it's all about fulfilling your own hopes and dreams and stuff like
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that so what is it like this dream this world doesn't sound real to me and this is come i come
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from like my dad's a top like one percent earner he's very very successful and like i grew up around
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successful people but yeah this this doesn't sound real where okay because where the mom has this
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successful career and the dad also has the successful career and they also have kids they also have five
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kids like something's got to give you literally can't do everything or you're paying a nanny to raise your
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kid i mean to be fair i'm not gonna lie if i had money and i was a business woman and i was busy i
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i would have help if i could afford it i genuinely would have help and that's not me saying i can't be
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bothered to look after my children of course but i would be there for the important parts though say
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if i had it's not the same i do understand where you're coming from but that would be the sacrifice
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that i would take and i would want my kids to see a working mom as well right but that's the problem
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that's the modern mindset it's about my career and me before the family and i think that's like what
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what is so broken down nowadays is that we all care about ourselves before the family and and to
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have a family that's successful you have to be selfless you know our grandmothers and our great
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grandmothers didn't stay with their husbands by thinking about themselves yeah yeah because mothers
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put their child before themselves when they have children when they don't have children obviously
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you should be thinking about that ahead of time i am doing by creating a career for myself to provide
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for the family that i would want so you mentioned you want to be a mother like what are you doing to
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prepare to be a mother i eat healthy most of the time um that was a really good question actually
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that's put me on the spot well like what are what are you doing so if a guy said okay you can
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work for three years he meets you today and he says okay that's fine you're working you work for
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three years and then we're gonna have children what skills do you bring to the table what would
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you say i'm a very fair and understanding person um i'm able to oh gosh that's a really hard question
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you've got the most biggest heart oh thank you i'm like i said i'm a really caring person um
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i wouldn't i know what my parents did that i would want to do different um and yeah i that's such
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a hard question it's put me on the spot there's a lot of things but i just can't really think of them
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you're very ambitious as well ashton right right but that doesn't matter to a guy that's ambitious
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like and you know i i'm ambitious but men don't give a shit they literally don't care if i cared
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and i love loved you i would do anything for you like i would be your your support your everything
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right but but what because you know it's like if you're applying to a job you say i can do this this
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this and this so um i understand what like when you guys were saying earlier what you because it's all
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about status for a man and their woman like for example if there was a group of guys and all their
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girlfriends were going out on a night out and one of the guys turned around and said well my woman's
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staying at home in his head that's a status thing for example um for example if um your man was to
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bring his friends around and you were to offer oh what would you guys like to eat again that's a
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status thing because your woman is taking care of you and your friends so i i want to provide which
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is where the money comes from because i also think guys deserve to be treated like a king it's not just
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the girls should be wined and dined all the time so that's why i want to make money not just to
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be able to take my husband out using his credit card i want to use mine so your money is his money