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00:00:00.000 what do you think of women um giving men ultimatums because something that i heard from

00:00:07.280 kevin samuels was you shouldn't date a guy longer than say a year if he doesn't if you want to be

00:00:12.480 married um the goat yeah yeah and you always hear the if he wanted to he would marry you

00:00:19.920 if he really loved you he would marry you but it's like from what i've seen i see a lot of guys date

00:00:24.720 girls for a long period of time and i really do think they love them and want to be with them

00:00:29.680 but it just seems like marriage isn't in their best interest so what do you what do you think of

00:00:34.640 that i think you kind of nailed it on the head i think that's kind of what it is there's just

00:00:40.320 really no benefit for the guy anymore i mean at this point for for my particular situation

00:00:47.120 i mean how much is it is a wedding we're going to take that off of the table here i mean we're

00:00:52.240 we're not we're living together we're basically married thank god i live in this state because

00:00:56.800 there's no common law um otherwise i that would be a thing eventually that i could get myself into

00:01:03.200 some legal issues later on if we did split so really i think it's more guys are just trying

00:01:09.600 to protect themselves for as long as they can what if your girl said um i just want to be your wife i 0.96

00:01:17.280 don't care about the wedding would you do it then or no well i don't understand what's the benefit i

00:01:24.960 mean she's not i agree all right so this is my particular situation she's not a woman of christ 0.99

00:01:31.200 you know we've had a child out of wedlock she was married before what are you getting at like what

00:01:37.600 she wants to go and she wants to go to the courthouse and change her last name go for it 1.00

00:01:52.400 oh that's funny not a woman of christ okay thank you for calling in i appreciate it 1.00

00:01:56.640 all right thanks have a good one i'm not a woman in christ um

00:02:08.880 okay okay i'll tell them guys so um when when you call in when i'm on the phone we can't answer it so

00:02:16.640 you have to wait till we're done is that the beeping is in the background i see so so in order this we're

00:02:23.440 we're new to the live show colin so in order to make this the highest quality show possible

00:02:29.440 please call after he hangs up after after we hang up okay i know i know it's hard to get on the phone

00:02:37.200 so like you want to keep calling but just do it after they hang up okay you can take the next you

00:02:41.440 can call now take the next caller it's interesting though because oh is are they on okay okay hello this

00:02:51.840 is pearl you're live on the air hey pearl this is aj how you doing today i'm good how are you good good

00:02:59.120 good yes uh i was uh i love your show it's great the topic's awesome but i really don't think really

00:03:07.520 men need need to do much on our end because if you see the eviction rates in the u.s with especially black 1.00

00:03:16.240 women are up and through the roof and now generation x is uh the biggest group of women that either 1.00

00:03:23.360 didn't get married didn't have kids or their kids are are grown so now you're starting to see homeless

00:03:30.240 homeless women out there in the streets so marriage has always been the retirement plan or economic 1.00

00:03:36.480 stability so this is the first time where you go to california san francisco seattle you see women

00:03:43.840 in these homeless camps you know so what's going to happen is that if there's another big uh you

00:03:50.640 know uh variant of the you know of the bug or whatever or any type of economic downturn women 1.00

00:03:58.560 aren't doing well men are doing just fine so as far as as marriage goes i really think that especially in

00:04:06.080 the west all of our countries are very reactive and not proactive and it's going to take some something

00:04:12.880 like people's basic needs not getting met women are going to really need to start because because 1.00

00:04:19.040 that's one thing that i feel that a lot of the women who are on your show don't get is they're they 1.00

00:04:24.240 always go oh pearl women are are doing it and we're only six women in the united states earned six figures 0.99

00:04:33.680 most women the number one employer the women is retail so women are not doing it they're not out earning 0.93

00:04:41.760 men they're not outpacing men they're not doing well at all and with this automation and retail stores

00:04:48.560 clothing women are up on the streets so i really think so what do you think that the solution is for 1.00

00:04:57.440 women then moving forward do you think they because it's interesting because a lot of times they'll push 1.00

00:05:05.360 getting married but at the same time tell men not to well i think that on women's they need to 0.98

00:05:12.000 understand the practical benefits to get married and stay married and then men need to just like how

00:05:19.840 women try and withhold sex uh because they have high standards men need to make our standards higher for 1.00

00:05:27.520 uh for marriage okay so for instance yeah i'm more on the left but i always tell all of my friends

00:05:34.880 uh dating apps change your your settings to conservative or find a woman who's from overseas who 0.67

00:05:41.760 has who meets a certain checklist of of morals and standards if you're going to choose to marry at all 0.98

00:05:48.560 you know but you have to as a man treat your last name like a woman's supposed to treat treat her vagina you 0.99

00:05:56.240 know you have to have standards it's the same thing so what do you um what do you want to get married 0.95

00:06:05.680 some yeah okay would you get married legally 0.94

00:06:11.680 well the thing is is is this it depends on the state and it depends on who you're married to

00:06:19.440 right because so say say dream girl dream girl every every check box is checked

00:06:25.040 uh-huh every box is checked yeah you would get married legally yes or no yes but in texas

00:06:37.680 texas or like wyoming or something you know what i'm saying okay it's like the maximum amount of

00:06:43.360 child support that you have to pay in tex in texas is like eighteen hundred dollars or something like

00:06:48.640 twenty three hundred dollars even if if you're some oil billionaire like texas i think that missouri

00:06:54.400 have it sorted we're like it's really hard i mean men can still get screwed over but you get like

00:06:59.760 the least amount of screwed over in a lot of red states i i grew up on the west coast but i honestly

00:07:06.080 think that i'm gonna have to to move to the reddest the red state by the way that things are going now okay

00:07:13.280 so how long would you date a girl before getting married um maybe about a year you that depends

00:07:23.600 on your age if you're in your 20s right then i would say that it takes a little while to kind of

00:07:29.760 get to know someone uh and then also you need to kind of have those life altering events so for instance

00:07:38.240 you might have to move or do something and then you kind of see if the person is that one to be with

00:07:45.040 if you're more in your 40s or 50s and you're just trying to move on in life you should probably know

00:07:51.440 what you want already the 30s it all depends on if it's like a single mom which i recommend not 1.00

00:07:57.520 dating or marrying at all but the older that you get the less time so so older about a year

00:08:04.560 older about a year it sounds like about about a year less if you're older okay okay so um your solution

00:08:14.000 is to get married in a conservative state uh yeah if if you choose to marry if you first of all is

00:08:21.200 really most guys i really think in the west don't get married but if you choose to because you're going to

00:08:28.160 have kids move to the reddest of the red state date a uh a conservative traditional chick or a chick

00:08:36.000 who's from a international i mean country the country like you know south america a muslim woman

00:08:42.560 or something or any community that has shame and a stigma for divorce and i think you'll be all right

00:08:49.520 okay okay thank you for calling um just like pearl old school pearl said bring back shame

00:08:58.000 thanks thank you thank you um hold i'm gonna i'm gonna just talk for one second before you take the

00:09:03.600 next call okay so these are the solutions we have i just like this to be a group thing because again

00:09:09.120 we don't want single mothers we don't want baby like we've agreed that's bad we you should oh then 1.00

00:09:15.200 the next question do we marry before we carry if men shouldn't get married then how can we say 0.93

00:09:21.680 marry before you carry i i'm just asking questions so but these are the these are the solutions live

00:09:30.240 together with no legal marriage have a ceremony marriage with the prenup they didn't say that i said

00:09:36.560 marriage at the prenup no prenup but date the girl for a certain amount of time then get married so

00:09:41.040 date her for for a long amount of time bachelor life forever spin place plates domestic partnerships

00:09:47.040 long-term relationships but do not live with her 18-year contract list what you have coming in

00:09:52.080 split it in half and then go forward for another 18 years if you want child support is for a set amount

00:09:57.440 um someone in the chat put cohabitation agreements is what's is the future that's interesting idea um and we

00:10:05.360 got get get get married is a solution um oh get married in a red state i didn't finish writing in a red

00:10:13.360 state okay i'll take the and i also want solutions for women because the question is we want to marry 1.00

00:10:22.160 before we carry but men shouldn't get married so should women still demand marriage are we in a post-marriage 0.89

00:10:29.120 society um anyways um next caller you can do okay he's gonna open it up

00:10:44.640 i feel like a lot of people have thoughts on this

00:10:49.840 no i i just asked the questions because it's like

00:10:53.840 a lot of the stuff we talk about conflict sorry go ahead hello you're live on the air this is pearl

00:10:59.920 hi pro nice to talk to you i think there's a delay on the youtube that's why people are calling all

00:11:04.880 the time oh okay anyway yeah uh guys like the video and subscribe

00:11:14.080 so what's the solution going forward to modern dating so i think the best solution for the problem

00:11:23.040 with marriages to have conditions for um conditions for divorce like to to live without a reason like 0.72

00:11:36.880 a proper reason

00:11:40.720 where'd he go

00:11:43.360 oh i think like that and you have kids would be something like that

00:11:47.600 oh okay sorry you cut out for a second do you think from what i understood you think there should

00:11:51.920 be conditions for divorce and you can't just like we should get rid of no-fault divorce it sounds like

00:11:58.960 yeah just to have conditions for divorce like abuse would be one condition to get divorced 0.98

00:12:05.200 physical abuse mental abuse um and if you have kids uh i mean that's the conditions if you have kids

00:12:16.080 if you don't have kids like

00:12:17.280 you have to make it work like you're unhappy negotiate with your partner uh i mean both parties would want

00:12:26.400 to have a good relationship with each other and if you're forced to stay with each other you'll find

00:12:33.680 a way to both be happy one way or another oh can you turn off the youtube in the back yeah sorry

00:12:45.200 do you yeah okay thank you do you think that men should still get married today

00:12:50.000 uh with the current uh laws it's a bad deal but if you're certain your woman is like traditional 0.98

00:13:03.440 or our traditionalist like auntie i forgot her name like auntie like i think that's a good bet

00:13:13.280 so your solution for men is get i mean i i know you can't say for all men but get married but make

00:13:20.320 sure but vet her make sure she's a traditionalist yeah okay or yeah i mean safe as a bet because

00:13:30.000 nowadays people are getting brainwashed on social media do you think women should marry before they carry 0.95

00:13:37.040 yeah there's enough uh contraception and uh uh availability is what contraception is like way above

00:13:52.880 what men can do no but i'm saying if he doesn't want to get married but he wants to have a kid should

00:13:58.800 she do it uh no she should she should marry before she carries marry before you carry okay thank you 0.92

00:14:07.600 for calling in no worries have a good day thanks i mean night okay thanks um okay someone's in the

00:14:15.600 chat hold on i'm going to talk for a second don't someone in the chat said marry after high school

00:14:21.280 again again i like the idea of that my parents met after high school however people that get married

00:14:28.320 before the age of 24 are 39 more likely to get divorced this was i was surprised by this stat however

00:14:40.080 does this produce better outcomes it doesn't seem to so again anyways the you can open the phone lines

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JustPearlyThings - March 30, 2023

This made Pearl Crack

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