JustPearlyThings - This Modern Woman Got Hit With Reality

00:00:00.000 Okay, when do you want to be married?

00:00:02.460 Like literally anytime possible

00:00:04.800 You want to marry your boyfriend? I do. What how long have you guys been together? We literally, I know it sounds crazy

00:00:11.760 We've been dating for like two weeks. What?

00:00:13.760 Why do you want to settle down so quickly?

00:00:15.760 Because that's just how I was raised

00:00:17.760 I was raised very old school and you've got your whole life to be with someone

00:00:22.760 Do you see how, okay, I have a question. I'm just gonna point this out. Do you see how like misery loves company?

00:00:30.000 Like I'm just no, I'm just demonstrating because the the married women did not say hey 0.98

00:00:35.360 You have your whole life, but the only fans worker says you have your whole life

00:00:39.360 Why would you want to marry someone when you've been dating for two weeks like that's delusional people used to do that all the time

00:00:45.040 It's not delusional though because it's like it's a feeling like if you feel it, you know it like and if I choose to get married tomorrow 0.99

00:00:51.360 That's my life just like how I said it's your life and you could pop your pussy on the internet if you want to go ahead 1.00

00:00:56.640 If I choose to get married, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not affecting anyone. I'm not hurting anyone 0.99

00:01:02.480 I'm not

00:01:03.520 Have you told him?

00:01:04.720 Does he know? Yeah, he knows we're both on the same page about it

00:01:07.440 Why did I propose that?

00:01:08.640 I was speaking. I was actually still talking to her

00:01:11.360 Like how before you know how you said it's a beautiful thing like how her marriage is like you see

00:01:15.360 I respect you for that because a lot of like other women today like how she lives her life and how she's married 0.99

00:01:20.080 She gets shitted on for that, but then people like you don't get shitted on right majority 0.55

00:01:25.920 We've been getting shut on the whole book 0.99

00:01:29.360 Like majority of the people aren't gonna shit on you for you doing OnlyFans. No, they do

00:01:36.000 It's all about girl power today. Let's be fucking for real. You just said you make 1.00

00:01:39.920 You just you just said you make six figures a month. Isn't that like

00:01:43.680 Compensation for the show. I don't care about the hate because I've got like really yeah

00:01:47.280 We don't care like and mimicking me is like super low. So I just think you're rude to be honest

00:01:53.200 I'm not being rude. I'm just being straight up with you

00:01:56.320 You know mimicking someone is rude, right? Okay, I don't I don't care

00:02:00.160 So then if how are you gonna call me rude and then you're rude as well

00:02:03.360 Like how are you gonna call out rude when you just were talking about someone's husband when the husband is literally sitting right

00:02:08.320 I well, I didn't say that it was someone else

00:02:11.920 Um, I have a question for two weeks. Um, would you well like we've been talking obviously okay for a while

00:02:16.560 But like for everything is like obviously official. Okay. Yeah, go ahead

00:02:19.840 But how long are you actually you think you both gonna get engaged like no like not like tomorrow?

00:02:25.840 Obviously like we're going to date for a while, but like it's my dream to get married young

00:02:30.400 That's what I want 0.98

00:02:31.200 Like I don't want to wait till i'm 30 to have kids and do shit like that 0.95

00:02:34.720 like I'd rather do that now at a young age and just 0.96

00:02:38.080 Get out of the way. I feel like I have more energy now to deal with children. I'm a nanny as well

00:02:41.680 Like I take care of people's kids for living

00:02:44.400 And you know to be a nanny you really generally have to love children to do it. I was also a dance teacher

00:02:49.200 so i've always worked with kids and

00:02:51.360 It's just like I feel like that's what my calling is. I feel like that's what women are meant to do and 0.99

00:02:56.640 Yeah, people may be like oh you're fucking crazy because you're young and I 0.99

00:03:00.960 I really don't 0.99

00:03:01.600 Sorry, how old are you again? I just turned 23 like three months. My mom had me at 23

00:03:05.520 Yeah, that's yeah

00:03:06.560 So my mom had me at 23 as well, but it was out of wedlock and this is what I was trying to say before like my parents

00:03:12.160 Have been separated on and off my whole entire life got divorced when I was 12. So like honestly

00:03:18.320 People think it's crazy that i'm very like, you know red pill and conservative and stuff like that because of how my upbringing was as well

00:03:24.400 But like honestly, it's an example like what I don't want to do what my parents did

00:03:29.120 So well and it's unfortunate because I just think that we don't really have places to learn from because honestly

00:03:35.520 The generation before us really was not taught to submit to their husbands and I think it caused I mean

00:03:41.120 I don't know what their problems were, but I think the mindset of equality really caused a lot of issues

00:03:47.840 Because you can't have two kings of a household. Someone's got a lead. It doesn't it doesn't work

00:03:53.440 Isn't it about balance though because it just seems so extreme. No, I about such

00:03:58.000 This is this is this is this is just my view, right?

00:04:01.600 So I just see what worked and a hundred years ago when women believed in submitting and serving their husband that worked 0.99

00:04:08.880 And the more we try this equality being equal like I just see women trying to control men 1.00

00:04:14.320 That's what I keep seeing and I think it doesn't work

00:04:16.880 And I think it's evil and a lot of men live their lives with nagging wives and just are bending to her will for a lifetime 0.87

00:04:24.000 And you know, I just think it's sad. I don't think I'd want to live my life like that. Happy wife, happy life

00:04:30.320 If you submit to a man, is it okay for them to then control you?

00:04:34.800 Yeah, it is. Yes, that's the that's the point. I think I think I think controlling no in such a bad way

00:04:40.720 Like it's really not because like look at her 0.99

00:04:42.480 Do you like you look at her you think she's in a toxic ass marriage miserable crying herself to sleep every night? 1.00

00:04:48.080 No, because when you do submit to your man and your man is leading and protecting and providing 0.99

00:04:53.440 Everything naturally falls into place. Exactly

00:04:56.080 But I think that sounds how I'm saying compared to control

00:04:58.240 I don't think control sounds how it's like she said like control doesn't have to be negative

00:05:02.720 It's just like there's order. Do you know what I'm saying?

00:05:05.280 Okay, does your boss control you?

00:05:10.240 If he gives you an order you listen, right?

00:05:13.040 Not always

00:05:14.400 Okay, well, you're an OnlyFans. That doesn't count

00:05:16.160 Well, when I do have a job because I actually have had very normal period of time

00:05:19.760 No, I'm not asking you. I'm asking her when you you know, your boss gives you an order you listen, right?

00:05:25.440 Yeah, so it's interesting because we'll listen to people that give us money, but we won't listen to the father of our kids

00:05:33.040 Isn't that kind of backwards?

00:05:34.400 Who loves you and who you love

00:05:35.680 I kind of get what I do get what you're saying

00:05:38.240 I just I just I think maybe it's just a choice of words of how you say it

00:05:41.280 Surely you should still listen to the the mother of his kids though 0.98

00:05:44.000 No, I don't think I think as women again, we've proven this whole show that women really 1.00

00:05:49.520 Aren't the smartest and we don't make great decisions

00:05:54.480 And I look at I just look at the last hundred years, okay

00:05:57.520 And I look at what's worked and what hasn't worked and the truth of the matter is when women get more power 1.00

00:06:02.160 And control we're not very nice with it. We tend to break up our families. We tend to spend too much money

00:06:07.200 Um, we we get into a bunch of debt. We're super emotional. Yeah, we get we are permission

00:06:12.000 My mom has taught me that my whole life. Yeah, I'm not that and and I think that's what we live off

00:06:16.080 Yeah, and I think they've lied to us because they've told us we can be men and we can't my mom

00:06:20.560 Why is the trousers in the relationship? I I guess that actually I guess that yeah

00:06:26.080 That's that's that's that's yeah

00:06:28.080 Oh, they're they're in a very lovely relationship. Leave them out of there. No, no, but that's that's the one

00:06:33.440 Yeah, you said which you I'm not even trying to be funny

00:06:36.400 You literally said your mom encouraged you to do only fans. Yeah, and if your father wore the pants in the family

00:06:42.080 That would never fly. Oh, dad doesn't mind either. I am interested

00:06:46.480 That's his point because your mom wears the pants. That's the point. Some parents love their kids unconditionally, you know

00:06:51.520 Yeah, no

00:06:53.520 I am interested

00:06:59.520 You know, it's funny. I knew that about her because I've done so many of these interviews

00:07:03.040 She didn't have enough to say it because whenever you see a household that's super out of order

00:07:06.960 Typically, the woman is imposing her will on the man because women typically agree 1.00

00:07:11.840 Because women I mean you can't be in order if she's doing only fans, right? 1.00

00:07:15.680 Can you mute their mics because they just keep interrupting

00:07:17.680 Um, so so typically I just think the natural order of the world is god

00:07:23.040 Men women children and it sounds extreme when you first hear it

00:07:26.880 But right now we have a society where men and women have been told we're equal, right?

00:07:30.960 And we have an equal say you just have to find a balance, et cetera, whatever

00:07:34.480 And the issue with that is ever since we've gotten power what's happened. We've left our husbands

00:07:39.120 We've gotten into all this debt. We've gone on only fans all this shit, right? 1.00

00:07:43.040 So that tells me women we don't make wise decisions on our own 0.99

00:07:45.920 But we've been told that we do and we really don't we've been told that we're smarter and we're really not

00:07:50.720 And I think that leaves us to live in delusion when I think you're supposed to trust the guy

00:07:55.200 You have kids with to follow his judgment

00:07:57.600 If you were at work and every time your boss wanted to make a decision you argued that would never work

00:08:02.720 Right, so we'll give the best of us to our boss, but we won't give it to the person we're having a family with it's backwards 1.00

00:08:08.000 But then okay. No, yeah, no

00:08:13.360 I don't disagree with what you're saying. I think it's interesting if you were the right man

00:08:17.120 Yeah, I was gonna say that first of all find the right man right for starters. Yeah, who's gonna do this amazing leading?

00:08:25.600 For the family. Yeah, that's

00:08:28.320 Very difficult in the modern age right from the beginning what you said about finding that

00:08:32.400 I'll tell you the problem though. So women we find eighty percent of men is ugly not okay 0.89

00:08:37.680 Not unattractive but ugly. That's why I know we're all sleeping with the same guys 0.98

00:08:41.520 Because women find them all ugly the difference was before you didn't have access to the hottest guys 1.00

00:08:46.480 You didn't have access to the celebrities you didn't have access to doesn't even have to be celebrities

00:08:50.560 But just the hot guys on social media dating apps instagram, right?

00:08:54.080 So, you know all the hottest guys would go get married and then you know

00:08:58.320 The okay looking guy would kind of make you laugh and you fall in love and like the guy down the street

00:09:03.120 That's kind of how it would happen right because we can build our attraction in other ways

00:09:06.960 But the issue is women mate select for looks typically in their 20s and then in their 30s 1.00

00:09:12.080 It switches more to long term and like resources typically and so the issue we get is like, you know

00:09:18.000 We get to 30 we've slept around with all these people and then we're less valuable to the guy that was really on our level 10 years ago

00:09:24.400 But we just have an inflated sense of ego because you know

00:09:27.280 It's like the men being addicted to porn we are addicted to social media it changes our whole world view

00:09:32.480 And nobody can convince me otherwise because I just hear girls coming in with the same arguments that are just regurgitated on social media 1.00

00:09:40.720 And again, I think that's what happens when the media is female-led 1.00

00:09:44.080 Evil happens right when marriages are female-led evil happens 1.00

00:09:47.760 And I just see the same trend that whenever stuff is catered to the woman 1.00

00:09:51.360 And even family dynamics, it's like we hear 20 years later that the dad actually wasn't a bad guy 0.99

00:09:57.760 The mom was just shit talking him for 20 years 0.96

00:10:00.400 Or the mom's encouraging her to do OnlyFans like I just see women we just are not logical we're emotion 1.00

00:10:06.480 Emotions based and I just don't think it works

00:10:09.120 So if you submit to the man and you said about cheating once is like

00:10:13.840 Okay, but what if it's multiple times?

00:10:17.760 Would you say like what what would you

00:10:19.760 What's your boundaries that you would have to walk away or that you wouldn't want to

00:10:22.320 This is a hard pill and this was a hard pill for me to swallow too

00:10:26.400 Like at the end of the day, we know sex is different for men and for women, right? 1.00

00:10:30.320 We know this like there's something innate like when you hate a bitch you'll call her a whore, right? 1.00

00:10:35.120 There's a reason we do this, you know, there's something innate there's a reason girls don't want to say their body counts, right? 1.00

00:10:40.400 Because we know it makes us less valuable and men they don't care 1.00

00:10:45.680 Like their their body counts don't matter and I know you said you're gonna break up with I don't believe you for a second

00:10:50.960 Sorry, you're not really dumping a guy because he slept with a bunch of people, especially if you don't know

00:10:56.800 I know you wouldn't want to you wouldn't you wouldn't want to know but you were right

00:11:00.240 Come on and so but men it's like they just have a visceral reaction because for a thousand years if they picked a promiscuous woman

00:11:07.040 She was gonna like there was no way he would know that the kid was his and then he could be giving his resources to a kid 0.99

00:11:12.960 That wasn't his and today that's a big problem

00:11:15.600 I mean, there's some estimates that like 20% of men are raising kids that aren't theirs

00:11:19.600 And then you look at the data for women and body counts, you know 0.83

00:11:23.200 And if you've slept with more than five people you have like a 20% chance of a happy marriage

00:11:27.600 And they can lose everything because of this again. This is what happens when females lead 1.00

00:11:33.920 Um, so the cheating thing is we know it's different, right?

00:11:38.160 so I just think

00:11:40.480 Attent like cheating for women is getting attention from other men and cheating for men is getting sex from other women because okay 0.88

00:11:47.840 If you could pick one like most I'm trying to explain this in the best way

00:11:51.200 But most women would pick beauty for the rest of their life over money or sex 1.00

00:11:56.240 Or if you asked men if they had to pick one of the three they would pick sex or money maybe but probably sex

00:12:02.560 Right, you know what I mean? 0.99

00:12:03.760 Like okay, if you if you looked if you were like ugly, but you got sex from hot guys 1.00

00:12:08.960 It wouldn't really mean anything like we value beauty. We want to be beautiful. We want to be desired 0.95

00:12:13.520 So it's like when we when you have wives that are half naked 1.00

00:12:17.760 Right, I think that's equally as cheating as a guy sleeping with another girl 0.67

00:12:20.960 I know no one no one really agrees with me on this

00:12:23.600 But my logic is I think women desire attention and men desire sex 1.00

00:12:27.920 So I think it's a bit hypocritical

00:12:30.480 You know to come in and you know, I just think sometimes we got to get off our high horse

00:12:35.840 And you know, we're not perfect and they're not perfect either

00:12:38.800 And I think it's silly to break up a marriage because he's not perfect, but i'm not saying you should cheat

00:12:43.840 I'm not saying it's good 0.97

00:12:45.520 I I would be very hurt and I hope you don't and the worst part is all these bitches are gonna try to get him to cheat because i've talked 1.00

00:12:50.960 About this. I just know it. I know how this is gonna go 0.99

00:12:54.080 but um

00:12:55.440 Yeah, I don't does that make sense

00:12:58.400 Yeah, I know it's a little it's a little yeah

00:13:00.720 Yeah, yeah a lot to take in so yeah, but I just think I think what they've done is really dishonest to us

00:13:08.320 Because they've told us you are the victim

00:13:10.240 It's the end of the world when a lot of times the reason he cheats is because he's

00:13:14.160 Demasculated a lot of times the reason he cheats is because he's in a sexless marriage because women we've been told

00:13:20.080 We can do no wrong and we're just victims for forever

00:13:22.960 We never ask about our part to play and usually when a guy cheats the woman isn't innocent 0.81

00:13:28.640 Like there are very few times a girl is being perfect wife and he cheats

00:13:33.040 And I just I think it's silly that we don't ever look in the mirror first before pointing the finger

00:13:38.720 And you know, so and I think it can be worked through you know

00:13:42.240 There are people that found out about a family across town and they stayed and stuck it out like I I know someone um

00:13:49.840 You know, I have a relative who

00:13:52.640 Um, he he had a whole side chick and he left the family for the side chick right and literally the side chick died

00:14:00.640 I know she and this woman was so catholic. She prayed for a solution. She was like god

00:14:04.560 Please bring like bring my husband back like do you see how different that mindset is like god?

00:14:08.960 I just want my husband like please I need my they don't make women like that anymore 1.00

00:14:13.440 Think about joe lee that song right now

00:14:15.680 We have taylor swift songs of a decade of her like getting ran through and just being the victim and poor me poor me

00:14:22.480 And nothing like she seems like a nice woman, but nobody's told her reality where you had the women of 50 years ago joe lee 0.97

00:14:28.880 Singing like please don't take my man, you know, she's like begging. I need him. We don't have songs like that anymore

00:14:35.520 We don't have movies like that anymore. It's never like I need my husband

00:14:39.520 It's I don't need a man and I just think it's like programming and brainwashing

00:14:43.840 And I think a lot of times women ruin good things because we think we can do better and we don't wait 1.00

00:14:49.360 Oh, so you wouldn't mind if you're like boyfriend cheater. I would mind I would be like no

00:14:55.680 So would you say like

00:14:57.760 Because I again I get I listen and I hear what you're saying, but again, you see it seems a bit black 1.00

00:15:03.600 It can be gray

00:15:04.960 No, I think most things are pretty black and white and I think that's how men think I think women we have our emotions 0.99

00:15:10.960 So we're like, oh, and I know there's there's a middle ground like I think if he got a bitch pregnant 1.00

00:15:16.320 I'd be home 0.99

00:15:17.760 I think I think that might be

00:15:19.920 But I would still the goal would always be to work it out

00:15:22.400 Like I think that should be the goal like if you can work it out

00:15:25.360 Why would you not work it out?

00:15:26.480 But our immediate gut reaction is leave leave leave and I just don't think that should be the gut reaction

00:15:31.440 I think the gut reaction should be did I do anything wrong?

00:15:34.640 How did I contribute to the situation?

00:15:36.880 What if he's just like a guy that likes to cheat?

00:15:40.000 You know, I think it's did you really not know that before you got married?

00:15:44.080 Well, I mean, yeah, that's why I'm single now. That's why I'm not married yet

00:15:47.600 I think women it's like pick your poison. It's like we want a guy that's super hot 1.00

00:15:54.240 You know guys that are super attractive are gonna be tempted to cheat a lot

00:15:58.640 But they want a guy moral high ground, right? Some of them have good morals and good standing

00:16:02.560 Okay, so when you had moral high ground, did you wait till you were married?

00:16:06.880 Where was your where was your morality? It's like

00:16:09.360 I never cheated on you

00:16:10.560 No, but no, but but but I'm saying you cheat on your future

00:16:13.920 Marriage is supposed to be two virgins and the woman's virginity is way more important than the male 1.00

00:16:18.320 But that's not happening. So now they're both they're both are not whether their body counts high or low

00:16:23.360 It doesn't matter

00:16:24.320 But they're both not and they both they've decided to be together and get together

00:16:29.440 So I'm saying like women don't pick monogamy when we have the most choice 0.87

00:16:33.680 So when do women have the most choice that like 22 23 that's when we have like, you know 1.00

00:16:38.960 The world is our oyster where we're we're the hottest and we could do anything

00:16:42.800 We can make 100k a month on only fans

00:16:45.520 We could go get married but women like we don't pick monogamy, but like men their peak is like 35 1.00

00:16:51.520 That's when they're the hottest they make the most money they've dealt with women 1.00

00:16:55.360 So it's like when they get the most choice we immediately judge them for cheating

00:17:00.560 And we immediately but it's like when we had the most choice we didn't choose to get married

00:17:04.400 And all i'm saying is maybe we could have some understanding for it and see where they're coming from because

00:17:10.000 Set their sex is in front of them 24 7 0.99

00:17:13.120 They're wired to fuck damn near but we have phrases like he'll fuck anything 0.99

00:17:17.120 And that that says it's not as emotional as it is for us 1.00

00:17:21.040 Like if we cheat we cheat to leave you know, I mean like we're not 0.98

00:17:24.240 We're not she's not and we're like we're getting out of this bitch 1.00

00:17:27.040 But like when men cheat it's just like god damn it the stripper came on to me 0.99

00:17:30.480 But every time these girls came these girls up were chasing me down in the bar because I was married 1.00

JustPearlyThings - August 28, 2023

This Modern Woman Got Hit With Reality

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