JustPearlyThings - August 28, 2023


This Modern Woman Got Hit With Reality


Episode Stats

Length

17 minutes

Words per Minute

219.36534

Word Count

3,862

Sentence Count

70

Misogynist Sentences

44

Hate Speech Sentences

35


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Okay, when do you want to be married?
00:00:02.460 Like literally anytime possible
00:00:04.800 You want to marry your boyfriend? I do. What how long have you guys been together? We literally, I know it sounds crazy
00:00:11.760 We've been dating for like two weeks. What?
00:00:13.760 Why do you want to settle down so quickly?
00:00:15.760 Because that's just how I was raised
00:00:17.760 I was raised very old school and you've got your whole life to be with someone
00:00:22.760 Do you see how, okay, I have a question. I'm just gonna point this out. Do you see how like misery loves company?
00:00:30.000 Like I'm just no, I'm just demonstrating because the the married women did not say hey
00:00:35.360 You have your whole life, but the only fans worker says you have your whole life
00:00:39.360 Why would you want to marry someone when you've been dating for two weeks like that's delusional people used to do that all the time
00:00:45.040 It's not delusional though because it's like it's a feeling like if you feel it, you know it like and if I choose to get married tomorrow
00:00:51.360 That's my life just like how I said it's your life and you could pop your pussy on the internet if you want to go ahead
00:00:56.640 If I choose to get married, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not affecting anyone. I'm not hurting anyone
00:01:02.480 I'm not
00:01:03.520 Have you told him?
00:01:04.720 Does he know? Yeah, he knows we're both on the same page about it
00:01:07.440 Why did I propose that?
00:01:08.640 I was speaking. I was actually still talking to her
00:01:11.360 Like how before you know how you said it's a beautiful thing like how her marriage is like you see
00:01:15.360 I respect you for that because a lot of like other women today like how she lives her life and how she's married
00:01:20.080 She gets shitted on for that, but then people like you don't get shitted on right majority
00:01:25.920 We've been getting shut on the whole book
00:01:29.360 Like majority of the people aren't gonna shit on you for you doing OnlyFans. No, they do
00:01:36.000 It's all about girl power today. Let's be fucking for real. You just said you make
00:01:39.920 You just you just said you make six figures a month. Isn't that like
00:01:43.680 Compensation for the show. I don't care about the hate because I've got like really yeah
00:01:47.280 We don't care like and mimicking me is like super low. So I just think you're rude to be honest
00:01:53.200 I'm not being rude. I'm just being straight up with you
00:01:56.320 You know mimicking someone is rude, right? Okay, I don't I don't care
00:02:00.160 So then if how are you gonna call me rude and then you're rude as well
00:02:03.360 Like how are you gonna call out rude when you just were talking about someone's husband when the husband is literally sitting right
00:02:08.320 I well, I didn't say that it was someone else
00:02:11.920 Um, I have a question for two weeks. Um, would you well like we've been talking obviously okay for a while
00:02:16.560 But like for everything is like obviously official. Okay. Yeah, go ahead
00:02:19.840 But how long are you actually you think you both gonna get engaged like no like not like tomorrow?
00:02:25.840 Obviously like we're going to date for a while, but like it's my dream to get married young
00:02:30.400 That's what I want
00:02:31.200 Like I don't want to wait till i'm 30 to have kids and do shit like that
00:02:34.720 like I'd rather do that now at a young age and just
00:02:38.080 Get out of the way. I feel like I have more energy now to deal with children. I'm a nanny as well
00:02:41.680 Like I take care of people's kids for living
00:02:44.400 And you know to be a nanny you really generally have to love children to do it. I was also a dance teacher
00:02:49.200 so i've always worked with kids and
00:02:51.360 It's just like I feel like that's what my calling is. I feel like that's what women are meant to do and
00:02:56.640 Yeah, people may be like oh you're fucking crazy because you're young and I
00:03:00.960 I really don't
00:03:01.600 Sorry, how old are you again? I just turned 23 like three months. My mom had me at 23
00:03:05.520 Yeah, that's yeah
00:03:06.560 So my mom had me at 23 as well, but it was out of wedlock and this is what I was trying to say before like my parents
00:03:12.160 Have been separated on and off my whole entire life got divorced when I was 12. So like honestly
00:03:18.320 People think it's crazy that i'm very like, you know red pill and conservative and stuff like that because of how my upbringing was as well
00:03:24.400 But like honestly, it's an example like what I don't want to do what my parents did
00:03:29.120 So well and it's unfortunate because I just think that we don't really have places to learn from because honestly
00:03:35.520 The generation before us really was not taught to submit to their husbands and I think it caused I mean
00:03:41.120 I don't know what their problems were, but I think the mindset of equality really caused a lot of issues
00:03:47.840 Because you can't have two kings of a household. Someone's got a lead. It doesn't it doesn't work
00:03:53.440 Isn't it about balance though because it just seems so extreme. No, I about such
00:03:58.000 This is this is this is this is just my view, right?
00:04:01.600 So I just see what worked and a hundred years ago when women believed in submitting and serving their husband that worked
00:04:08.880 And the more we try this equality being equal like I just see women trying to control men
00:04:14.320 That's what I keep seeing and I think it doesn't work
00:04:16.880 And I think it's evil and a lot of men live their lives with nagging wives and just are bending to her will for a lifetime
00:04:24.000 And you know, I just think it's sad. I don't think I'd want to live my life like that. Happy wife, happy life
00:04:30.320 If you submit to a man, is it okay for them to then control you?
00:04:34.800 Yeah, it is. Yes, that's the that's the point. I think I think I think controlling no in such a bad way
00:04:40.720 Like it's really not because like look at her
00:04:42.480 Do you like you look at her you think she's in a toxic ass marriage miserable crying herself to sleep every night?
00:04:48.080 No, because when you do submit to your man and your man is leading and protecting and providing
00:04:53.440 Everything naturally falls into place. Exactly
00:04:56.080 But I think that sounds how I'm saying compared to control
00:04:58.240 I don't think control sounds how it's like she said like control doesn't have to be negative
00:05:02.720 It's just like there's order. Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:05.280 Okay, does your boss control you?
00:05:10.240 If he gives you an order you listen, right?
00:05:13.040 Not always
00:05:14.400 Okay, well, you're an OnlyFans. That doesn't count
00:05:16.160 Well, when I do have a job because I actually have had very normal period of time
00:05:19.760 No, I'm not asking you. I'm asking her when you you know, your boss gives you an order you listen, right?
00:05:25.440 Yeah, so it's interesting because we'll listen to people that give us money, but we won't listen to the father of our kids
00:05:33.040 Isn't that kind of backwards?
00:05:34.400 Who loves you and who you love
00:05:35.680 I kind of get what I do get what you're saying
00:05:38.240 I just I just I think maybe it's just a choice of words of how you say it
00:05:41.280 Surely you should still listen to the the mother of his kids though
00:05:44.000 No, I don't think I think as women again, we've proven this whole show that women really
00:05:49.520 Aren't the smartest and we don't make great decisions
00:05:54.480 And I look at I just look at the last hundred years, okay
00:05:57.520 And I look at what's worked and what hasn't worked and the truth of the matter is when women get more power
00:06:02.160 And control we're not very nice with it. We tend to break up our families. We tend to spend too much money
00:06:07.200 Um, we we get into a bunch of debt. We're super emotional. Yeah, we get we are permission
00:06:12.000 My mom has taught me that my whole life. Yeah, I'm not that and and I think that's what we live off
00:06:16.080 Yeah, and I think they've lied to us because they've told us we can be men and we can't my mom
00:06:20.560 Why is the trousers in the relationship? I I guess that actually I guess that yeah
00:06:26.080 That's that's that's that's yeah
00:06:28.080 Oh, they're they're in a very lovely relationship. Leave them out of there. No, no, but that's that's the one
00:06:33.440 Yeah, you said which you I'm not even trying to be funny
00:06:36.400 You literally said your mom encouraged you to do only fans. Yeah, and if your father wore the pants in the family
00:06:42.080 That would never fly. Oh, dad doesn't mind either. I am interested
00:06:46.480 That's his point because your mom wears the pants. That's the point. Some parents love their kids unconditionally, you know
00:06:51.520 Yeah, no
00:06:53.520 I am interested
00:06:59.520 You know, it's funny. I knew that about her because I've done so many of these interviews
00:07:03.040 She didn't have enough to say it because whenever you see a household that's super out of order
00:07:06.960 Typically, the woman is imposing her will on the man because women typically agree
00:07:11.840 Because women I mean you can't be in order if she's doing only fans, right?
00:07:15.680 Can you mute their mics because they just keep interrupting
00:07:17.680 Um, so so typically I just think the natural order of the world is god
00:07:23.040 Men women children and it sounds extreme when you first hear it
00:07:26.880 But right now we have a society where men and women have been told we're equal, right?
00:07:30.960 And we have an equal say you just have to find a balance, et cetera, whatever
00:07:34.480 And the issue with that is ever since we've gotten power what's happened. We've left our husbands
00:07:39.120 We've gotten into all this debt. We've gone on only fans all this shit, right?
00:07:43.040 So that tells me women we don't make wise decisions on our own
00:07:45.920 But we've been told that we do and we really don't we've been told that we're smarter and we're really not
00:07:50.720 And I think that leaves us to live in delusion when I think you're supposed to trust the guy
00:07:55.200 You have kids with to follow his judgment
00:07:57.600 If you were at work and every time your boss wanted to make a decision you argued that would never work
00:08:02.720 Right, so we'll give the best of us to our boss, but we won't give it to the person we're having a family with it's backwards
00:08:08.000 But then okay. No, yeah, no
00:08:13.360 I don't disagree with what you're saying. I think it's interesting if you were the right man
00:08:17.120 Yeah, I was gonna say that first of all find the right man right for starters. Yeah, who's gonna do this amazing leading?
00:08:25.600 For the family. Yeah, that's
00:08:28.320 Very difficult in the modern age right from the beginning what you said about finding that
00:08:32.400 I'll tell you the problem though. So women we find eighty percent of men is ugly not okay
00:08:37.680 Not unattractive but ugly. That's why I know we're all sleeping with the same guys
00:08:41.520 Because women find them all ugly the difference was before you didn't have access to the hottest guys
00:08:46.480 You didn't have access to the celebrities you didn't have access to doesn't even have to be celebrities
00:08:50.560 But just the hot guys on social media dating apps instagram, right?
00:08:54.080 So, you know all the hottest guys would go get married and then you know
00:08:58.320 The okay looking guy would kind of make you laugh and you fall in love and like the guy down the street
00:09:03.120 That's kind of how it would happen right because we can build our attraction in other ways
00:09:06.960 But the issue is women mate select for looks typically in their 20s and then in their 30s
00:09:12.080 It switches more to long term and like resources typically and so the issue we get is like, you know
00:09:18.000 We get to 30 we've slept around with all these people and then we're less valuable to the guy that was really on our level 10 years ago
00:09:24.400 But we just have an inflated sense of ego because you know
00:09:27.280 It's like the men being addicted to porn we are addicted to social media it changes our whole world view
00:09:32.480 And nobody can convince me otherwise because I just hear girls coming in with the same arguments that are just regurgitated on social media
00:09:40.720 And again, I think that's what happens when the media is female-led
00:09:44.080 Evil happens right when marriages are female-led evil happens
00:09:47.760 And I just see the same trend that whenever stuff is catered to the woman
00:09:51.360 And even family dynamics, it's like we hear 20 years later that the dad actually wasn't a bad guy
00:09:57.760 The mom was just shit talking him for 20 years
00:10:00.400 Or the mom's encouraging her to do OnlyFans like I just see women we just are not logical we're emotion
00:10:06.480 Emotions based and I just don't think it works
00:10:09.120 So if you submit to the man and you said about cheating once is like
00:10:13.840 Okay, but what if it's multiple times?
00:10:17.760 Would you say like what what would you
00:10:19.760 What's your boundaries that you would have to walk away or that you wouldn't want to
00:10:22.320 This is a hard pill and this was a hard pill for me to swallow too
00:10:26.400 Like at the end of the day, we know sex is different for men and for women, right?
00:10:30.320 We know this like there's something innate like when you hate a bitch you'll call her a whore, right?
00:10:35.120 There's a reason we do this, you know, there's something innate there's a reason girls don't want to say their body counts, right?
00:10:40.400 Because we know it makes us less valuable and men they don't care
00:10:45.680 Like their their body counts don't matter and I know you said you're gonna break up with I don't believe you for a second
00:10:50.960 Sorry, you're not really dumping a guy because he slept with a bunch of people, especially if you don't know
00:10:56.800 I know you wouldn't want to you wouldn't you wouldn't want to know but you were right
00:11:00.240 Come on and so but men it's like they just have a visceral reaction because for a thousand years if they picked a promiscuous woman
00:11:07.040 She was gonna like there was no way he would know that the kid was his and then he could be giving his resources to a kid
00:11:12.960 That wasn't his and today that's a big problem
00:11:15.600 I mean, there's some estimates that like 20% of men are raising kids that aren't theirs
00:11:19.600 And then you look at the data for women and body counts, you know
00:11:23.200 And if you've slept with more than five people you have like a 20% chance of a happy marriage
00:11:27.600 And they can lose everything because of this again. This is what happens when females lead
00:11:33.920 Um, so the cheating thing is we know it's different, right?
00:11:38.160 so I just think
00:11:40.480 Attent like cheating for women is getting attention from other men and cheating for men is getting sex from other women because okay
00:11:47.840 If you could pick one like most I'm trying to explain this in the best way
00:11:51.200 But most women would pick beauty for the rest of their life over money or sex
00:11:56.240 Or if you asked men if they had to pick one of the three they would pick sex or money maybe but probably sex
00:12:02.560 Right, you know what I mean?
00:12:03.760 Like okay, if you if you looked if you were like ugly, but you got sex from hot guys
00:12:08.960 It wouldn't really mean anything like we value beauty. We want to be beautiful. We want to be desired
00:12:13.520 So it's like when we when you have wives that are half naked
00:12:17.760 Right, I think that's equally as cheating as a guy sleeping with another girl
00:12:20.960 I know no one no one really agrees with me on this
00:12:23.600 But my logic is I think women desire attention and men desire sex
00:12:27.920 So I think it's a bit hypocritical
00:12:30.480 You know to come in and you know, I just think sometimes we got to get off our high horse
00:12:35.840 And you know, we're not perfect and they're not perfect either
00:12:38.800 And I think it's silly to break up a marriage because he's not perfect, but i'm not saying you should cheat
00:12:43.840 I'm not saying it's good
00:12:45.520 I I would be very hurt and I hope you don't and the worst part is all these bitches are gonna try to get him to cheat because i've talked
00:12:50.960 About this. I just know it. I know how this is gonna go
00:12:54.080 but um
00:12:55.440 Yeah, I don't does that make sense
00:12:58.400 Yeah, I know it's a little it's a little yeah
00:13:00.720 Yeah, yeah a lot to take in so yeah, but I just think I think what they've done is really dishonest to us
00:13:08.320 Because they've told us you are the victim
00:13:10.240 It's the end of the world when a lot of times the reason he cheats is because he's
00:13:14.160 Demasculated a lot of times the reason he cheats is because he's in a sexless marriage because women we've been told
00:13:20.080 We can do no wrong and we're just victims for forever
00:13:22.960 We never ask about our part to play and usually when a guy cheats the woman isn't innocent
00:13:28.640 Like there are very few times a girl is being perfect wife and he cheats
00:13:33.040 And I just I think it's silly that we don't ever look in the mirror first before pointing the finger
00:13:38.720 And you know, so and I think it can be worked through you know
00:13:42.240 There are people that found out about a family across town and they stayed and stuck it out like I I know someone um
00:13:49.840 You know, I have a relative who
00:13:52.640 Um, he he had a whole side chick and he left the family for the side chick right and literally the side chick died
00:14:00.640 I know she and this woman was so catholic. She prayed for a solution. She was like god
00:14:04.560 Please bring like bring my husband back like do you see how different that mindset is like god?
00:14:08.960 I just want my husband like please I need my they don't make women like that anymore
00:14:13.440 Think about joe lee that song right now
00:14:15.680 We have taylor swift songs of a decade of her like getting ran through and just being the victim and poor me poor me
00:14:22.480 And nothing like she seems like a nice woman, but nobody's told her reality where you had the women of 50 years ago joe lee
00:14:28.880 Singing like please don't take my man, you know, she's like begging. I need him. We don't have songs like that anymore
00:14:35.520 We don't have movies like that anymore. It's never like I need my husband
00:14:39.520 It's I don't need a man and I just think it's like programming and brainwashing
00:14:43.840 And I think a lot of times women ruin good things because we think we can do better and we don't wait
00:14:49.360 Oh, so you wouldn't mind if you're like boyfriend cheater. I would mind I would be like no
00:14:55.680 So would you say like
00:14:57.760 Because I again I get I listen and I hear what you're saying, but again, you see it seems a bit black
00:15:03.600 It can be gray
00:15:04.960 No, I think most things are pretty black and white and I think that's how men think I think women we have our emotions
00:15:10.960 So we're like, oh, and I know there's there's a middle ground like I think if he got a bitch pregnant
00:15:16.320 I'd be home
00:15:17.760 I think I think that might be
00:15:19.920 But I would still the goal would always be to work it out
00:15:22.400 Like I think that should be the goal like if you can work it out
00:15:25.360 Why would you not work it out?
00:15:26.480 But our immediate gut reaction is leave leave leave and I just don't think that should be the gut reaction
00:15:31.440 I think the gut reaction should be did I do anything wrong?
00:15:34.640 How did I contribute to the situation?
00:15:36.880 What if he's just like a guy that likes to cheat?
00:15:40.000 You know, I think it's did you really not know that before you got married?
00:15:44.080 Well, I mean, yeah, that's why I'm single now. That's why I'm not married yet
00:15:47.600 I think women it's like pick your poison. It's like we want a guy that's super hot
00:15:54.240 You know guys that are super attractive are gonna be tempted to cheat a lot
00:15:58.640 But they want a guy moral high ground, right? Some of them have good morals and good standing
00:16:02.560 Okay, so when you had moral high ground, did you wait till you were married?
00:16:06.880 Where was your where was your morality? It's like
00:16:09.360 I never cheated on you
00:16:10.560 No, but no, but but but I'm saying you cheat on your future
00:16:13.920 Marriage is supposed to be two virgins and the woman's virginity is way more important than the male
00:16:18.320 But that's not happening. So now they're both they're both are not whether their body counts high or low
00:16:23.360 It doesn't matter
00:16:24.320 But they're both not and they both they've decided to be together and get together
00:16:29.440 So I'm saying like women don't pick monogamy when we have the most choice
00:16:33.680 So when do women have the most choice that like 22 23 that's when we have like, you know
00:16:38.960 The world is our oyster where we're we're the hottest and we could do anything
00:16:42.800 We can make 100k a month on only fans
00:16:45.520 We could go get married but women like we don't pick monogamy, but like men their peak is like 35
00:16:51.520 That's when they're the hottest they make the most money they've dealt with women
00:16:55.360 So it's like when they get the most choice we immediately judge them for cheating
00:17:00.560 And we immediately but it's like when we had the most choice we didn't choose to get married
00:17:04.400 And all i'm saying is maybe we could have some understanding for it and see where they're coming from because
00:17:10.000 Set their sex is in front of them 24 7
00:17:13.120 They're wired to fuck damn near but we have phrases like he'll fuck anything
00:17:17.120 And that that says it's not as emotional as it is for us
00:17:21.040 Like if we cheat we cheat to leave you know, I mean like we're not
00:17:24.240 We're not she's not and we're like we're getting out of this bitch
00:17:27.040 But like when men cheat it's just like god damn it the stripper came on to me
00:17:30.480 But every time these girls came these girls up were chasing me down in the bar because I was married