JustPearlyThings - This Modern Woman Was SHOCKED When She Heard THIS

00:00:00.000 I have a very burning question that's been asked.

00:00:02.400 Okay, one second.

00:00:04.160 Sneeko has to go. 0.66

00:00:05.900 Thank you.

00:00:06.680 Yeah, thanks for coming.

00:00:07.800 I wanted Sneeko to answer this question.

00:00:09.620 Real quick, real quick.

00:00:10.660 Okay, I have a very burning question that's been answered a million times,

00:00:13.960 but I really need to, like, I still don't understand.

00:00:16.660 Why do men cheat?

00:00:18.100 Like, what are the top five reasons to why?

00:00:21.560 It's just on our DNA.

00:00:23.300 It's never going to stop.

00:00:24.220 I don't even think it's worth asking that question.

00:00:26.160 Just accept it.

00:00:26.860 If you want that level of guy, you got to accept it.

00:00:29.640 So there's no reason.

00:00:30.700 It's just a natural thing that they just cheat.

00:00:32.420 It's natural for us to do that, yeah.

00:00:34.220 Could you expand on that?

00:00:36.040 Well, the first thing I would say is that a man will, you call it cheating.

00:00:39.340 I think a real man is going to tell you how he's going to be from the jump.

00:00:41.820 There's honesty.

00:00:42.500 It's the deceit that's the problem.

00:00:43.740 Every woman knows that if a man could, he would, you know. 1.00

00:00:47.280 So I think the deceit, and not only deceit,

00:00:50.360 is that a lot of times what happens is the man himself is not even showing up

00:00:54.940 how he's supposed to.

00:00:56.320 He's supposed to make this commitment to provide and protect

00:00:58.600 and make your life this wonderful place.

00:01:00.620 And he doesn't.

00:01:01.940 And on top of that, he's a liar and he's a coward

00:01:04.460 because he was scared of you to tell you.

00:01:07.340 You know what I'm saying?

00:01:08.480 Like, that is the most deceitful thing on the planet

00:01:10.760 because a lot of times when the man is shit, 0.56

00:01:12.560 the woman expects sexual exclusivity. 1.00

00:01:14.920 But they don't really expect it from, like we talked about yesterday,

00:01:17.440 they're not really expecting it from Drake now, are they?

00:01:19.700 You know what I'm saying?

00:01:20.480 So it's when a guy doesn't show up, he lies, and he's a coward.

00:01:24.940 Where a woman's like, okay, I'm leaving. 1.00

00:01:26.500 For sure leaving.

00:01:27.780 But if a man were to sit down, tell the truth, be bold,

00:01:30.480 and a woman is based enough to say, you know what, 1.00

00:01:33.460 any man on the planet, if he could be rich, powerful, handsome,

00:01:37.920 whatever it is, he would absolutely have all the women that he wanted.

00:01:42.280 I think the thing that women mistake when it comes to the subject of infidelity 1.00

00:01:46.640 or sleeping with women is that they feel like he must love her

00:01:51.560 or that they're on the same level as the other woman.

00:01:54.700 Because a lot of times a woman is less attractive. 1.00

00:01:56.720 That's not true.

00:01:57.520 It's just different.

00:01:59.840 And men and women, women often tend to have sex 1.00

00:02:03.580 when they have true feelings for a man.

00:02:05.760 Men are just not that way.

00:02:07.980 You know, so it's the difference between the sexes. 1.00

00:02:10.440 But I think what's, I think women already know that. 1.00

00:02:13.240 It's the deceit and the cowardice and the lack of performance from the man

00:02:17.560 that makes a woman leave for that. 1.00

00:02:20.140 Because if you've got a real good man that's a real good father,

00:02:22.820 a real good husband, a real provider, a real partner, a real ride or die,

00:02:26.500 like somebody that'll sit down with you when you're crying about it

00:02:29.480 and like really be there for you and hold it, not cry with you

00:02:32.060 because we ain't crying around here, but be there for you truly

00:02:35.020 and you know that they got you in every way

00:02:36.700 and you trust them and look up to them

00:02:38.160 and they're building you and making you better.

00:02:39.940 Dude, you're not leaving that guy.

00:02:41.660 No way.

00:02:44.280 Even if it hurts, even if you're going to say no right now,

00:02:47.100 I've experienced it enough to know that I'm right.

00:02:50.580 Do high value men cheat?

00:02:52.120 Every one of them.

00:02:54.340 No, that's not true.

00:02:55.580 That's actually not true.

00:02:56.840 99%.

00:02:57.840 That little 1%. 0.69

00:03:00.280 Thank you for giving that 1%.

00:03:03.300 I appreciate it.

00:03:04.500 I don't want to cap.

00:03:05.400 I think 99% though, yeah.

00:03:07.560 Oh my God.

00:03:07.980 Can we get 95?

00:03:11.380 95 plus Pearl's dad.

00:03:14.020 Thank you.

00:03:14.620 Thank you.

00:03:15.860 And my dad.

00:03:16.920 And that's the thing though,

00:03:17.960 because it used to trigger you a year ago, right?

00:03:19.840 When we'd have this conversation.

00:03:20.960 We've done whole shows about this.

00:03:22.120 Yeah.

00:03:22.420 And now it doesn't.

00:03:23.560 And I think that you see it through a whole other lens.

00:03:25.360 The whole show last night was about it.

00:03:26.720 In the beginning of the show,

00:03:27.500 the girls were pissed. 1.00

00:03:28.060 By the end, they were like, I'd stay.

00:03:30.760 You know?

00:03:31.100 And it's just this ugly truth about the world.

00:03:33.200 I don't like it.

00:03:34.240 I told every girl last night,

00:03:35.640 I would pay a million dollars to cut that feeling off.

00:03:38.220 It is in us.

00:03:39.860 I saw something,

00:03:40.960 a podcast the other day where a man said,

00:03:42.780 if a man cheats,

00:03:43.660 women shouldn't take it personal. 1.00

00:03:45.020 They should just suck it up.

00:03:46.420 Do you agree?

00:03:47.580 Because for us.

00:03:48.560 Well, so I don't like that idea of just sucking it up.

00:03:51.160 If she's like truly, truly hurt by it,

00:03:53.660 I think you need to sit in it with her

00:03:54.980 and be there for her.

00:03:56.840 Look, a real man can slit a throat

00:04:00.680 and hold a baby in the same day.

00:04:02.080 That's my definition of a man.

00:04:03.680 So you have to be able to do both.

00:04:05.900 You know, you need to be hard, hard, hard and loving.

00:04:08.480 And there's no problem being vulnerable with a woman

00:04:10.660 or like, hey, be in there for her.

00:04:12.340 There's no problem at all

00:04:13.120 because if you're really strong,

00:04:14.240 if anybody tries to take advantage of your vulnerability,

00:04:16.740 you fucking crush them.

00:04:17.880 So wait, there's not one woman on this earth

00:04:20.560 you can fully commit to?

00:04:22.920 No, no, no, no, no, no.

00:04:24.280 Yes, there are women that I can fully commit to. 0.89

00:04:27.320 As in you only see her?

00:04:28.760 Not sexually?

00:04:29.480 No, there's no, no.

00:04:30.960 And there's no man that would want to.

00:04:33.100 If you lined up every man on the planet

00:04:34.880 and you said, hey, listen, I got this red button.

00:04:37.620 I've said this on podcast before.

00:04:40.360 Nobody's looking.

00:04:41.200 Nobody's going to judge you.

00:04:42.340 Truly, nobody's here.

00:04:43.340 Every man in the world, they said,

00:04:45.160 you can be a great husband, a wonderful father.

00:04:48.000 You can go home, tuck your kids at night,

00:04:50.420 possibly sleep with other women

00:04:51.980 and then go home and hold your wife 0.96

00:04:53.260 and tuck in your babies 0.63

00:04:54.100 and provide and be a good husband and father.

00:04:56.440 Every man on the planet would look left,

00:04:57.780 they'd look right and they'd hit that button.

00:04:59.200 Do you think cheating is a good thing?

00:05:00.760 No, but it is just naturally part of the male psyche.

00:05:05.920 It is.

00:05:06.480 I think the point is,

00:05:08.500 he can absolutely love the woman.

00:05:11.780 She can be his absolute queen.

00:05:13.420 She is like the top,

00:05:15.500 but he's always going to have that propensity

00:05:18.580 to what variety.

00:05:19.640 That's what it comes down to.

00:05:20.900 And like Justin said,

00:05:22.060 the other woman doesn't even need to be that good. 1.00

00:05:24.880 She doesn't even need to be as attractive. 0.94

00:05:26.460 She can be ugly. 1.00

00:05:27.260 I think girls really miss that. 1.00

00:05:30.180 And that whole time,

00:05:31.500 the one he actually loves

00:05:33.180 has the ability probably to break his heart.

00:05:36.060 And girls often ask,

00:05:37.600 well, what's the difference?

00:05:38.720 Because I always thought that

00:05:39.780 if a man cheats,

00:05:40.640 he truly doesn't love her.

00:05:41.640 Oh, no, that's not true at all.

00:05:43.660 That's not true at all.

00:05:45.000 That's not true at all.

00:05:45.720 You know, look,

00:05:46.420 I'm going to tell you right now,

00:05:47.380 hungry and horny to a man is the same thing.

00:05:49.760 You have filet mignon at home,

00:05:51.320 but sometimes you just eat a corn dog

00:05:52.820 because it's different.

00:05:53.640 So would you say a hole is a hole?

00:05:56.480 Do you?

00:05:57.260 If it's female, 0.99

00:05:58.540 like, well, I got certain standards, right?

00:06:00.920 So, you know, no,

00:06:02.820 a hole is not a hole.

00:06:04.380 But at the same time,

00:06:06.100 you would be surprised

00:06:08.600 at how far down the totem pole

00:06:10.160 a man would go for variety.

00:06:12.860 And they don't love.

00:06:14.120 They don't love these women. 1.00

00:06:15.180 They don't even want them in their bed. 0.92

00:06:16.820 What if a dude got another girl pregnant? 0.90

00:06:19.540 Do you think that the girl should leave? 0.59

00:06:22.060 No.

00:06:23.080 No, because it's really about him

00:06:25.200 showing up the way he's supposed to show up.

00:06:26.620 Women know men are this way. 0.66

00:06:28.500 All women in their gut truly know men are this way. 0.82

00:06:31.500 And a lot of times it's acceptable.

00:06:33.200 Man, there's so many rap songs out there

00:06:34.900 talking about infidelity and fucking hoes and bitches 1.00

00:06:37.140 and the girls are in the club just dancing. 0.99

00:06:38.760 What do you think are valid reasons

00:06:40.720 for women ending relationships? 0.97

00:06:42.260 A man not holding the correct frame,

00:06:45.220 not being the man of the house,

00:06:46.940 being weak,

00:06:48.080 being in a position where he's not being a leader,

00:06:50.420 not taking responsibility,

00:06:51.840 not stepping up,

00:06:52.540 not being a man.

00:06:53.440 Can I have a specific example,

00:06:55.200 just like in a day-to-day relationship

00:06:56.900 of how that would play out?

00:06:57.680 Day-to-day relationship.

00:07:00.020 I'll give you a great example.

00:07:01.780 Men get married every weekend in America.

00:07:04.520 They stand in front of the church,

00:07:06.220 God,

00:07:06.620 and both families

00:07:07.420 and commit to the woman.

00:07:09.780 They tell her they're going to,

00:07:10.860 basically saying they're going to give her the best life.

00:07:12.780 They've made an agreement

00:07:13.600 for that man to work his ass off.

00:07:14.960 He comes home,

00:07:16.200 he's complaining about his job,

00:07:17.820 but instead of getting out there

00:07:19.680 and hustling and create a better life for them

00:07:21.340 and to be a better father

00:07:22.340 and a better husband,

00:07:23.380 he pops open a beer,

00:07:25.020 smokes a J,

00:07:25.740 and turns on the Xbox.

00:07:26.580 And he's just emotionally vomited all over his wife,

00:07:32.000 which puts her in a position of feeling fearful,

00:07:34.120 like this guy,

00:07:35.180 he's coming home,

00:07:36.960 complaining about his job,

00:07:38.300 not doing a fucking thing about it 0.87

00:07:40.100 and then dumping it on me.

00:07:42.000 Now I have to work so we can make the mortgage.

00:07:44.620 Now our kids might have to go to a lesser school

00:07:47.060 than they would have.

00:07:47.960 Our whole situation is fucked

00:07:49.300 because this guy didn't make a commitment

00:07:50.780 and he's fine with that

00:07:52.100 because he's going to trade off sex,

00:07:53.660 right?

00:07:53.860 But here's a newsflash.

00:07:54.960 His ass will cheat on you too 1.00

00:07:56.900 and when you find out,

00:07:58.040 you're going to leave him.

00:07:59.120 But the guy that's taking care of business every way,

00:08:01.140 making you feel safe,

00:08:02.120 giving you a life that you would have never had otherwise,

00:08:04.100 that's committed to you

00:08:05.180 and your happiness

00:08:06.600 and even is there

00:08:08.120 when you're emotionally upset

00:08:09.480 or feeling pain,

00:08:10.560 that's the kind of man you want.

00:08:13.080 A man,

00:08:14.120 again,

00:08:14.740 my definition as a man

00:08:15.800 is somebody that can slit a throat

00:08:17.200 and hold a baby in the same day

00:08:18.280 and that really sums it up

00:08:19.760 because he's got to be hard,

00:08:20.780 he's got to be strong,

00:08:21.800 but he can still be delicate

00:08:23.420 if it needs to be

00:08:24.660 because he's so strong

00:08:25.440 that he knows

00:08:26.240 that he can snap out of that

00:08:27.780 really, really fast.

00:08:29.600 And that's it.

00:08:30.540 I still think cheating is disgusting.

00:08:32.520 Of course.

00:08:33.440 Agreed.

00:08:34.000 If a woman cheated on you, 1.00

00:08:35.200 would you stay?

00:08:35.920 Fuck no.

00:08:37.120 No, it's a complete double standard.

00:08:38.600 It's not fair at all.

00:08:39.820 I agree.

00:08:40.380 It's a complete double standard.

00:08:41.900 It's not fair at all.

00:08:42.820 But you know what I know?

00:08:43.860 What?

00:08:44.100 If a woman truly loves a man, 1.00

00:08:45.780 she doesn't even see other men.

00:08:47.760 She can't even see them.

00:08:48.960 Not true.

00:08:49.780 I agree with that

00:08:51.400 because there's been times

00:08:52.420 when I've really liked someone

00:08:53.480 and it doesn't matter

00:08:54.060 how attractive another person is.

00:08:55.940 See you straight through them.

00:08:56.920 They're just not interested.

00:08:58.480 Yeah.

00:08:58.960 But a man that creates an atmosphere

00:09:00.880 of being a real man

00:09:03.260 creates real genuine desire.

00:09:04.880 And it takes genuine desire

00:09:06.340 to make other men invisible.

00:09:07.940 When other men are invisible, 0.99

00:09:09.020 that's when you're doing it right.

00:09:09.940 When I have a Facebook account

00:09:12.500 full of wives sliding in my DMs, 1.00

00:09:14.280 I know all those dudes

00:09:15.040 aren't doing it right.

00:09:16.280 Oh, yeah.

00:09:17.180 Facebook's the worst.

00:09:20.980 As many of you know,

00:09:22.220 I was just banned on TikTok

00:09:24.280 and we are demonetized

00:09:26.000 on a daily basis

00:09:27.240 on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - May 16, 2023

This Modern Woman Was SHOCKED When She Heard THIS

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