JustPearlyThings - May 16, 2023


This Modern Woman Was SHOCKED When She Heard THIS


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

212.41513

Word Count

2,044

Sentence Count

161

Misogynist Sentences

27

Hate Speech Sentences

17


Summary

Why do men cheat? Why do they do it? How do they cheat? What are the top 5 reasons why men cheat and why does it happen? What is the difference between cheating and infidelity? Why does a man cheat?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I have a very burning question that's been asked.
00:00:02.400 Okay, one second.
00:00:04.160 Sneeko has to go.
00:00:05.900 Thank you.
00:00:06.680 Yeah, thanks for coming.
00:00:07.800 I wanted Sneeko to answer this question.
00:00:09.620 Real quick, real quick.
00:00:10.660 Okay, I have a very burning question that's been answered a million times,
00:00:13.960 but I really need to, like, I still don't understand.
00:00:16.660 Why do men cheat?
00:00:18.100 Like, what are the top five reasons to why?
00:00:21.560 It's just on our DNA.
00:00:23.300 It's never going to stop.
00:00:24.220 I don't even think it's worth asking that question.
00:00:26.160 Just accept it.
00:00:26.860 If you want that level of guy, you got to accept it.
00:00:29.640 So there's no reason.
00:00:30.700 It's just a natural thing that they just cheat.
00:00:32.420 It's natural for us to do that, yeah.
00:00:34.220 Could you expand on that?
00:00:36.040 Well, the first thing I would say is that a man will, you call it cheating.
00:00:39.340 I think a real man is going to tell you how he's going to be from the jump.
00:00:41.820 There's honesty.
00:00:42.500 It's the deceit that's the problem.
00:00:43.740 Every woman knows that if a man could, he would, you know.
00:00:47.280 So I think the deceit, and not only deceit,
00:00:50.360 is that a lot of times what happens is the man himself is not even showing up
00:00:54.940 how he's supposed to.
00:00:56.320 He's supposed to make this commitment to provide and protect
00:00:58.600 and make your life this wonderful place.
00:01:00.620 And he doesn't.
00:01:01.940 And on top of that, he's a liar and he's a coward
00:01:04.460 because he was scared of you to tell you.
00:01:07.340 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:08.480 Like, that is the most deceitful thing on the planet
00:01:10.760 because a lot of times when the man is shit,
00:01:12.560 the woman expects sexual exclusivity.
00:01:14.920 But they don't really expect it from, like we talked about yesterday,
00:01:17.440 they're not really expecting it from Drake now, are they?
00:01:19.700 You know what I'm saying?
00:01:20.480 So it's when a guy doesn't show up, he lies, and he's a coward.
00:01:24.940 Where a woman's like, okay, I'm leaving.
00:01:26.500 For sure leaving.
00:01:27.780 But if a man were to sit down, tell the truth, be bold,
00:01:30.480 and a woman is based enough to say, you know what,
00:01:33.460 any man on the planet, if he could be rich, powerful, handsome,
00:01:37.920 whatever it is, he would absolutely have all the women that he wanted.
00:01:42.280 I think the thing that women mistake when it comes to the subject of infidelity
00:01:46.640 or sleeping with women is that they feel like he must love her
00:01:51.560 or that they're on the same level as the other woman.
00:01:54.700 Because a lot of times a woman is less attractive.
00:01:56.720 That's not true.
00:01:57.520 It's just different.
00:01:59.840 And men and women, women often tend to have sex
00:02:03.580 when they have true feelings for a man.
00:02:05.760 Men are just not that way.
00:02:07.980 You know, so it's the difference between the sexes.
00:02:10.440 But I think what's, I think women already know that.
00:02:13.240 It's the deceit and the cowardice and the lack of performance from the man
00:02:17.560 that makes a woman leave for that.
00:02:20.140 Because if you've got a real good man that's a real good father,
00:02:22.820 a real good husband, a real provider, a real partner, a real ride or die,
00:02:26.500 like somebody that'll sit down with you when you're crying about it
00:02:29.480 and like really be there for you and hold it, not cry with you
00:02:32.060 because we ain't crying around here, but be there for you truly
00:02:35.020 and you know that they got you in every way
00:02:36.700 and you trust them and look up to them
00:02:38.160 and they're building you and making you better.
00:02:39.940 Dude, you're not leaving that guy.
00:02:41.660 No way.
00:02:44.280 Even if it hurts, even if you're going to say no right now,
00:02:47.100 I've experienced it enough to know that I'm right.
00:02:50.580 Do high value men cheat?
00:02:52.120 Every one of them.
00:02:54.340 No, that's not true.
00:02:55.580 That's actually not true.
00:02:56.840 99%.
00:02:57.840 That little 1%.
00:03:00.280 Thank you for giving that 1%.
00:03:03.300 I appreciate it.
00:03:04.500 I don't want to cap.
00:03:05.400 I think 99% though, yeah.
00:03:07.560 Oh my God.
00:03:07.980 Can we get 95?
00:03:11.380 95 plus Pearl's dad.
00:03:14.020 Thank you.
00:03:14.620 Thank you.
00:03:15.860 And my dad.
00:03:16.920 And that's the thing though,
00:03:17.960 because it used to trigger you a year ago, right?
00:03:19.840 When we'd have this conversation.
00:03:20.960 We've done whole shows about this.
00:03:22.120 Yeah.
00:03:22.420 And now it doesn't.
00:03:23.560 And I think that you see it through a whole other lens.
00:03:25.360 The whole show last night was about it.
00:03:26.720 In the beginning of the show,
00:03:27.500 the girls were pissed.
00:03:28.060 By the end, they were like, I'd stay.
00:03:30.760 You know?
00:03:31.100 And it's just this ugly truth about the world.
00:03:33.200 I don't like it.
00:03:34.240 I told every girl last night,
00:03:35.640 I would pay a million dollars to cut that feeling off.
00:03:38.220 It is in us.
00:03:39.860 I saw something,
00:03:40.960 a podcast the other day where a man said,
00:03:42.780 if a man cheats,
00:03:43.660 women shouldn't take it personal.
00:03:45.020 They should just suck it up.
00:03:46.420 Do you agree?
00:03:47.580 Because for us.
00:03:48.560 Well, so I don't like that idea of just sucking it up.
00:03:51.160 If she's like truly, truly hurt by it,
00:03:53.660 I think you need to sit in it with her
00:03:54.980 and be there for her.
00:03:56.840 Look, a real man can slit a throat
00:04:00.680 and hold a baby in the same day.
00:04:02.080 That's my definition of a man.
00:04:03.680 So you have to be able to do both.
00:04:05.900 You know, you need to be hard, hard, hard and loving.
00:04:08.480 And there's no problem being vulnerable with a woman
00:04:10.660 or like, hey, be in there for her.
00:04:12.340 There's no problem at all
00:04:13.120 because if you're really strong,
00:04:14.240 if anybody tries to take advantage of your vulnerability,
00:04:16.740 you fucking crush them.
00:04:17.880 So wait, there's not one woman on this earth
00:04:20.560 you can fully commit to?
00:04:22.920 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:04:24.280 Yes, there are women that I can fully commit to.
00:04:27.320 As in you only see her?
00:04:28.760 Not sexually?
00:04:29.480 No, there's no, no.
00:04:30.960 And there's no man that would want to.
00:04:33.100 If you lined up every man on the planet
00:04:34.880 and you said, hey, listen, I got this red button.
00:04:37.620 I've said this on podcast before.
00:04:40.360 Nobody's looking.
00:04:41.200 Nobody's going to judge you.
00:04:42.340 Truly, nobody's here.
00:04:43.340 Every man in the world, they said,
00:04:45.160 you can be a great husband, a wonderful father.
00:04:48.000 You can go home, tuck your kids at night,
00:04:50.420 possibly sleep with other women
00:04:51.980 and then go home and hold your wife
00:04:53.260 and tuck in your babies
00:04:54.100 and provide and be a good husband and father.
00:04:56.440 Every man on the planet would look left,
00:04:57.780 they'd look right and they'd hit that button.
00:04:59.200 Do you think cheating is a good thing?
00:05:00.760 No, but it is just naturally part of the male psyche.
00:05:05.920 It is.
00:05:06.480 I think the point is,
00:05:08.500 he can absolutely love the woman.
00:05:11.780 She can be his absolute queen.
00:05:13.420 She is like the top,
00:05:15.500 but he's always going to have that propensity
00:05:18.580 to what variety.
00:05:19.640 That's what it comes down to.
00:05:20.900 And like Justin said,
00:05:22.060 the other woman doesn't even need to be that good.
00:05:24.880 She doesn't even need to be as attractive.
00:05:26.460 She can be ugly.
00:05:27.260 I think girls really miss that.
00:05:30.180 And that whole time,
00:05:31.500 the one he actually loves
00:05:33.180 has the ability probably to break his heart.
00:05:36.060 And girls often ask,
00:05:37.600 well, what's the difference?
00:05:38.720 Because I always thought that
00:05:39.780 if a man cheats,
00:05:40.640 he truly doesn't love her.
00:05:41.640 Oh, no, that's not true at all.
00:05:43.660 That's not true at all.
00:05:45.000 That's not true at all.
00:05:45.720 You know, look,
00:05:46.420 I'm going to tell you right now,
00:05:47.380 hungry and horny to a man is the same thing.
00:05:49.760 You have filet mignon at home,
00:05:51.320 but sometimes you just eat a corn dog
00:05:52.820 because it's different.
00:05:53.640 So would you say a hole is a hole?
00:05:56.480 Do you?
00:05:57.260 If it's female,
00:05:58.540 like, well, I got certain standards, right?
00:06:00.920 So, you know, no,
00:06:02.820 a hole is not a hole.
00:06:04.380 But at the same time,
00:06:06.100 you would be surprised
00:06:08.600 at how far down the totem pole
00:06:10.160 a man would go for variety.
00:06:12.860 And they don't love.
00:06:14.120 They don't love these women.
00:06:15.180 They don't even want them in their bed.
00:06:16.820 What if a dude got another girl pregnant?
00:06:19.540 Do you think that the girl should leave?
00:06:22.060 No.
00:06:23.080 No, because it's really about him
00:06:25.200 showing up the way he's supposed to show up.
00:06:26.620 Women know men are this way.
00:06:28.500 All women in their gut truly know men are this way.
00:06:31.500 And a lot of times it's acceptable.
00:06:33.200 Man, there's so many rap songs out there
00:06:34.900 talking about infidelity and fucking hoes and bitches
00:06:37.140 and the girls are in the club just dancing.
00:06:38.760 What do you think are valid reasons
00:06:40.720 for women ending relationships?
00:06:42.260 A man not holding the correct frame,
00:06:45.220 not being the man of the house,
00:06:46.940 being weak,
00:06:48.080 being in a position where he's not being a leader,
00:06:50.420 not taking responsibility,
00:06:51.840 not stepping up,
00:06:52.540 not being a man.
00:06:53.440 Can I have a specific example,
00:06:55.200 just like in a day-to-day relationship
00:06:56.900 of how that would play out?
00:06:57.680 Day-to-day relationship.
00:07:00.020 I'll give you a great example.
00:07:01.780 Men get married every weekend in America.
00:07:04.520 They stand in front of the church,
00:07:06.220 God,
00:07:06.620 and both families
00:07:07.420 and commit to the woman.
00:07:09.780 They tell her they're going to,
00:07:10.860 basically saying they're going to give her the best life.
00:07:12.780 They've made an agreement
00:07:13.600 for that man to work his ass off.
00:07:14.960 He comes home,
00:07:16.200 he's complaining about his job,
00:07:17.820 but instead of getting out there
00:07:19.680 and hustling and create a better life for them
00:07:21.340 and to be a better father
00:07:22.340 and a better husband,
00:07:23.380 he pops open a beer,
00:07:25.020 smokes a J,
00:07:25.740 and turns on the Xbox.
00:07:26.580 And he's just emotionally vomited all over his wife,
00:07:32.000 which puts her in a position of feeling fearful,
00:07:34.120 like this guy,
00:07:35.180 he's coming home,
00:07:36.960 complaining about his job,
00:07:38.300 not doing a fucking thing about it
00:07:40.100 and then dumping it on me.
00:07:42.000 Now I have to work so we can make the mortgage.
00:07:44.620 Now our kids might have to go to a lesser school
00:07:47.060 than they would have.
00:07:47.960 Our whole situation is fucked
00:07:49.300 because this guy didn't make a commitment
00:07:50.780 and he's fine with that
00:07:52.100 because he's going to trade off sex,
00:07:53.660 right?
00:07:53.860 But here's a newsflash.
00:07:54.960 His ass will cheat on you too
00:07:56.900 and when you find out,
00:07:58.040 you're going to leave him.
00:07:59.120 But the guy that's taking care of business every way,
00:08:01.140 making you feel safe,
00:08:02.120 giving you a life that you would have never had otherwise,
00:08:04.100 that's committed to you
00:08:05.180 and your happiness
00:08:06.600 and even is there
00:08:08.120 when you're emotionally upset
00:08:09.480 or feeling pain,
00:08:10.560 that's the kind of man you want.
00:08:13.080 A man,
00:08:14.120 again,
00:08:14.740 my definition as a man
00:08:15.800 is somebody that can slit a throat
00:08:17.200 and hold a baby in the same day
00:08:18.280 and that really sums it up
00:08:19.760 because he's got to be hard,
00:08:20.780 he's got to be strong,
00:08:21.800 but he can still be delicate
00:08:23.420 if it needs to be
00:08:24.660 because he's so strong
00:08:25.440 that he knows
00:08:26.240 that he can snap out of that
00:08:27.780 really, really fast.
00:08:29.600 And that's it.
00:08:30.540 I still think cheating is disgusting.
00:08:32.520 Of course.
00:08:33.440 Agreed.
00:08:34.000 If a woman cheated on you,
00:08:35.200 would you stay?
00:08:35.920 Fuck no.
00:08:37.120 No, it's a complete double standard.
00:08:38.600 It's not fair at all.
00:08:39.820 I agree.
00:08:40.380 It's a complete double standard.
00:08:41.900 It's not fair at all.
00:08:42.820 But you know what I know?
00:08:43.860 What?
00:08:44.100 If a woman truly loves a man,
00:08:45.780 she doesn't even see other men.
00:08:47.760 She can't even see them.
00:08:48.960 Not true.
00:08:49.780 I agree with that
00:08:51.400 because there's been times
00:08:52.420 when I've really liked someone
00:08:53.480 and it doesn't matter
00:08:54.060 how attractive another person is.
00:08:55.940 See you straight through them.
00:08:56.920 They're just not interested.
00:08:58.480 Yeah.
00:08:58.960 But a man that creates an atmosphere
00:09:00.880 of being a real man
00:09:03.260 creates real genuine desire.
00:09:04.880 And it takes genuine desire
00:09:06.340 to make other men invisible.
00:09:07.940 When other men are invisible,
00:09:09.020 that's when you're doing it right.
00:09:09.940 When I have a Facebook account
00:09:12.500 full of wives sliding in my DMs,
00:09:14.280 I know all those dudes
00:09:15.040 aren't doing it right.
00:09:16.280 Oh, yeah.
00:09:17.180 Facebook's the worst.
00:09:20.980 As many of you know,
00:09:22.220 I was just banned on TikTok
00:09:24.280 and we are demonetized
00:09:26.000 on a daily basis
00:09:27.240 on this platform.
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