JustPearlyThings - October 10, 2023


This Sex-Worker REVEALS How She Ruined Her Life Because Of Money


Episode Stats

Length

33 minutes

Words per Minute

226.447

Word Count

7,496

Sentence Count

19

Misogynist Sentences

72

Hate Speech Sentences

60


Summary

In this episode I am joined by a very special guest who is a sex worker, a dominatrix and a counsellor. We talk about how she got into the sex work industry and how she deals with her mental health issues.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 So out before I can ever get a partner. Okay. And that's how are you healing them? Therapy. Oh, yeah
00:00:06.000 I think therapy makes you crazier. No, you know what? I think all the women
00:00:09.660 I know that go to therapy get worse. Yeah, and I can actually agree with that
00:00:13.440 But the only reason I'm getting this therapy because it's free at the moment and I do actually need some sort of help
00:00:18.900 Is it a male or a female? It's a female. I'm gonna just you should go to a male therapist. Really? Yeah
00:00:24.880 Women shouldn't be therapists. It's just my opinion. I mean, I'm in the psychology program at the school
00:00:30.000 I promise you these women that are giving you they're horrible. Yeah, horrible there and say men look to solve problems
00:00:35.940 Yeah, guys gonna tell you if I have this problem so you solve it women are just gonna say oh, it's okay
00:00:41.940 Tell me about your trauma
00:00:43.940 But I've also have had men therapists that have made me feel really uncomfortable and flirted with me
00:00:49.800 And that didn't solve any of my problems. Well, I felt uncomfortable at my therapy session. So to me, I'll feel more comfortable with a woman
00:00:56.400 I have a more natural. How do you flirt?
00:00:58.400 Just making comments with your social media and things like that, you know
00:01:02.340 Making me feel uncomfortable because everyone knew that I'm a SA
00:01:06.340 No, a SW
00:01:08.340 You don't mean a SA
00:01:10.340 A sex worker. I'm allowed to say that right?
00:01:12.340 Yeah
00:01:12.840 Do you think that helps or hurts with your mental health?
00:01:15.340 It hurts it so so much. I'll be so real
00:01:18.340 Well, can you why do you keep doing it then?
00:01:20.340 Because at that moment, I mean like a bit of a loophole where it's a bit hard to come out of it
00:01:26.280 Where I'm just used to money being thrown at me
00:01:28.280 I'm scared to go back into a normal job routine
00:01:32.280 How how much in savings do you have?
00:01:34.280 Savings um
00:01:36.280 Do I really have to answer that?
00:01:38.280 Do you have more than like okay? What do you what do you roughly make a year?
00:01:42.280 Yeah, I'd say maybe not on OF but altogether maybe I'd say about 50k
00:01:48.220 50k?
00:01:49.220 Yeah
00:01:50.220 That's the sex work?
00:01:52.220 Yeah
00:01:53.220 You think you're worth 50k a year?
00:01:55.220 No, but I don't work a lot though with it
00:01:57.220 I do you know, I don't overdo it because when I was a bit younger I overworked
00:02:02.220 And that's when I was doing a really bad play to overdid it so I've taken a bit of a step back
00:02:07.160 I don't even do my OF only fans anymore
00:02:10.160 I more do like dominatrix and come in and that just keeps me steady for now
00:02:16.160 Yeah, well, I'm just thinking if you want to get out
00:02:18.160 Oh no, of course, of course
00:02:19.160 Right, so like it might help to get some savings so then you can take
00:02:23.160 Yeah, no, I've got savings, I've got savings, don't get me wrong, I've got savings
00:02:26.160 But also I've gotten a lot of debt as well
00:02:28.160 And I also had to go for a court case so I'm spending money on solicitors
00:02:32.160 You know, things happen in life, life's one big journey
00:02:34.160 And I feel like everyone's journey is different
00:02:36.160 Some people have a really good life and some people don't have a good life
00:02:39.160 Wait, so what made you get into that?
00:02:41.160 Well, the sex work sort of thing
00:02:44.160 I used to work in a care home and I was actually very like depressed, very low
00:02:49.160 And I wasn't making a lot of money and I had my ex-boyfriend at the time that used to
00:02:53.160 He used to really make me feel low, you know, and even like we'd go out for meals
00:02:57.160 And he'd say have you got the 10 pound from the meal?
00:02:59.160 He used to always make me split and I used to think to myself like
00:03:02.160 Like I care for you, I love you, I treat you, I try and treat you well
00:03:05.160 And he never gave me that back
00:03:07.160 And then I worked in the care home and I was sitting there one day and I thought
00:03:11.160 I can't do this anymore, like my man don't even want to help, like help
00:03:15.160 And then I was sitting there and speaking to one of the old guys that I used to look after in the care home
00:03:21.160 And I told him my whole plan about starting the OnlyFans, you know
00:03:25.160 And he sat there and he said to me, do it
00:03:27.160 Why are you not doing it? You're gonna be old like me one day, sitting in a chair
00:03:30.160 You're gonna like die basically one day, just do it
00:03:33.160 And I thought
00:03:34.160 He probably just wanted to subscribe
00:03:35.160 You know what, but he didn't make it till that time because he passed away a few months after
00:03:40.160 But I started it and
00:03:42.160 How old were you?
00:03:43.160 I was 19
00:03:44.160 So you're 19, you're working in a care home
00:03:46.160 God, I swear
00:03:47.160 Sorry, it gets hot
00:03:48.160 It gets very hot
00:03:49.160 It's the UK's fault
00:03:51.160 Question, how many years did you run your OnlyFans?
00:03:53.160 Um, probably about a year and a half then I stopped
00:03:58.160 Yeah, so I was working in the care home and then I started it
00:04:02.160 And I knew that if I started the OF, my ex would leave me alone because he hated things like that
00:04:06.160 And I knew that he'd really leave me alone because we were so toxic together
00:04:10.160 And then I was in work, I checked my phone
00:04:13.160 I think I made maybe like 2k in that day
00:04:16.160 And to me that's a lot
00:04:17.160 I haven't come from a big family, I haven't come from a stable family at all
00:04:21.160 I think 2k in a day is a lot
00:04:22.160 And for me it was because I was getting £400 a week from the care home
00:04:25.160 And I was working 12 hour shifts and 5 days a week
00:04:28.160 So to me that was amazing
00:04:30.160 How old did you say you are now?
00:04:31.160 I'm 22 now
00:04:32.160 Okay, so you've been doing it for like 3 years
00:04:34.160 Yeah, and then I said to my manager
00:04:36.160 I need to leave work
00:04:38.160 Like I don't really want to be here
00:04:39.160 And I told her my situation with the OnlyFans
00:04:41.160 She said to me just go
00:04:42.160 So I went and I just never looked back
00:04:45.160 So why did you pick that route instead of like, I don't know, marrying rich?
00:04:49.160 You know what it was?
00:04:50.160 You're a pretty girl, you were 19
00:04:51.160 Thank you
00:04:52.160 You were with the guy for 3 years
00:04:54.160 So you couldn't have been
00:04:56.160 I mean, you probably weren't street in that much
00:04:58.160 If you were with a guy for 3 years, were you?
00:05:00.160 Maybe you were
00:05:01.160 Okay
00:05:02.160 Yeah, I was a mess
00:05:03.160 I was a mess
00:05:04.160 I had no control over my emotions
00:05:06.160 I felt like I didn't even know who I was
00:05:08.160 Right
00:05:09.160 But when you're in a young relationship
00:05:11.160 You don't even know who you are as a person at that point
00:05:13.160 You grow to learn who you are
00:05:15.160 Why ruin your own life?
00:05:16.160 You could have got married and ruined someone else's too
00:05:18.160 I don't want to get married
00:05:19.160 I'm against marriage
00:05:20.160 I don't ever want to get married, thank you
00:05:21.160 I don't like marriage
00:05:22.160 It wasn't offering, I was just asking
00:05:23.160 Yeah, no, but I don't like marriage
00:05:24.160 I just think it's like
00:05:25.160 No, not everyone wants to get married
00:05:26.160 And not everyone wants children
00:05:27.160 I know, I just think it's like a shame
00:05:29.160 Because there's a way to utilize female beauty in a different way
00:05:32.160 Yeah
00:05:33.160 And still get the outcomes that you want
00:05:34.160 Yeah
00:05:35.160 You know what I mean?
00:05:36.160 I think it's like
00:05:37.160 I'm in a position where it's going to be tough to ever be with a guy long term
00:05:39.160 Yeah, but maybe I don't want to be with a guy long term
00:05:42.160 Maybe I want to live with three cats at my home with all my cactuses
00:05:44.160 What do you want your life to look like at 65?
00:05:47.160 I'll probably be dead by then, so
00:05:49.160 I don't know
00:05:50.160 I don't think that far ahead
00:05:52.160 Because life
00:05:53.160 You really should
00:05:56.160 I don't plan that far ahead
00:05:57.160 I live in the moment
00:05:58.160 In the moment
00:05:59.160 Yeah, it probably will
00:06:00.160 But if it does, it does
00:06:01.160 I don't really care
00:06:02.160 Yeah, you do
00:06:03.160 No, I don't
00:06:04.160 I think you feel a bit under
00:06:06.160 No, I don't
00:06:07.160 You say that now
00:06:08.160 But then life hits you
00:06:09.160 And
00:06:10.160 Maybe it will hit me
00:06:12.160 But it's not hit me yet
00:06:13.160 And I'm here, I'm healthy
00:06:15.160 You know, I'm living
00:06:16.160 I've got good family members
00:06:18.160 And I've got friends
00:06:19.160 You still get it
00:06:20.160 Like I don't think women
00:06:21.160 Like we realize how much we need attention from men
00:06:23.160 Yeah
00:06:24.160 Like we need
00:06:25.160 I agree with that
00:06:26.160 And so like right now you're still young
00:06:28.160 You're still attractive
00:06:29.160 You're still gonna get attention from men
00:06:30.160 But like at 40 to 50
00:06:31.160 I know
00:06:32.160 Women become basically invisible
00:06:33.160 Yeah
00:06:34.160 I know, that does scare me actually
00:06:36.160 I thought about that a few times
00:06:37.160 And so if you don't
00:06:38.160 If you don't get a husband before then
00:06:40.160 Like what does life look like?
00:06:41.160 Your parents will pass away at some point
00:06:44.160 Yeah
00:06:45.160 Your siblings will have their own families
00:06:46.160 Like if you don't start thinking long term
00:06:48.160 Like what does your life look like?
00:06:49.160 And I don't say this to be mean
00:06:51.160 No, no, no
00:06:52.160 It's a good question
00:06:53.160 Because you're in the position you're in already
00:06:54.160 Yeah
00:06:55.160 You might do anything to like
00:06:56.160 Yeah, yeah
00:06:57.160 To change it
00:06:58.160 Yeah
00:06:59.160 But it's like, you know
00:07:00.160 If you want to be in a position where you're happier
00:07:01.160 Like wouldn't it make sense to maybe start
00:07:03.160 Put that away?
00:07:04.160 Maybe
00:07:05.160 But I don't know
00:07:08.160 I feel like there's so much in my life
00:07:10.160 I'm trying to sort out first
00:07:11.160 Like my mental health
00:07:12.160 And my family issues
00:07:14.160 And a lot of my childhood trauma
00:07:15.160 That I still have to deal with daily
00:07:17.160 So I'm trying to sort that out first
00:07:18.160 Because I feel like I can't think straight
00:07:20.160 At the moment with my head
00:07:21.160 It's just like one big tornado
00:07:22.160 So
00:07:23.160 So trauma
00:07:24.160 Like what do you mean?
00:07:25.160 You need to go through
00:07:26.160 Because I never understand
00:07:27.160 When people say childhood trauma
00:07:29.160 Like I need to go through
00:07:30.160 So when I was younger
00:07:31.160 I was SA'd
00:07:32.160 And it was my mum's boyfriend
00:07:34.160 So like that was quite intense
00:07:36.160 You know
00:07:37.160 I'm not getting upset
00:07:39.160 It's just a bit
00:07:40.160 You know
00:07:41.160 Yeah
00:07:42.160 So how long have you been going to therapy for it?
00:07:44.160 Um
00:07:45.160 I was going when I was 16 for a year
00:07:48.160 And then I stopped
00:07:49.160 Thought I didn't need it anymore
00:07:50.160 And then I've only been going for about 5 months now
00:07:53.160 Well
00:07:54.160 Because it's just
00:07:55.160 The sad thing about therapy
00:07:58.160 Is it just seems like they just kind of make money off of their patients
00:08:01.160 Instead of trying to get you guys out
00:08:03.160 I agree
00:08:04.160 And I think a lot of times that's like women doing it
00:08:06.160 Yeah
00:08:07.160 I know maybe you had the bad experience with the guy
00:08:09.160 Yeah
00:08:10.160 But it might make sense to try to find a different
00:08:11.160 Yeah I guess so
00:08:12.160 You know
00:08:13.160 Just because like what does your future look like?
00:08:15.160 You have to figure out how to move on
00:08:17.160 Yeah
00:08:18.160 Yeah definitely
00:08:19.160 Yeah
00:08:20.160 Okay
00:08:21.160 Sometimes there are things that you can't actually get over
00:08:23.160 So looking at it endlessly
00:08:25.160 It makes you live in the moment too much
00:08:27.160 Yeah
00:08:28.160 I always feel like I wake up and I'm still living in the past
00:08:30.160 Yeah
00:08:31.160 Like my head just keeps living in the past
00:08:33.160 You know
00:08:34.160 And I've just found that if I focus more on the future
00:08:36.160 You don't live as much in the past
00:08:38.160 Yeah I know
00:08:39.160 But like right now you're not even thinking like long term
00:08:41.160 Yeah
00:08:42.160 Also if you had a partner
00:08:44.160 One that was good for you
00:08:45.160 Not just any old partner
00:08:46.160 No
00:08:47.160 If you were focused on them
00:08:48.160 Yeah
00:08:49.160 And they're focused on you
00:08:50.160 Then you also wouldn't have to
00:08:51.160 I feel like that is why I do hate my job
00:08:53.160 Because I don't glamorize sex work at all
00:08:55.160 I think don't start it
00:08:56.160 It does ruin your life
00:08:57.160 It ruins your mentality
00:08:58.160 And it ruins how you view men
00:08:59.160 And how men should view you
00:09:01.160 So
00:09:02.160 Yeah
00:09:03.160 If I could sit here and regret doing sex work
00:09:06.160 I probably would regret it
00:09:08.160 Only because of the stuff I put on the internet as well
00:09:10.160 Because that's not me
00:09:11.160 That's just what I've done for money
00:09:13.160 And you shouldn't have to do them things for money
00:09:15.160 To
00:09:16.160 You know
00:09:17.160 You're losing your
00:09:18.160 Not morals
00:09:19.160 But
00:09:20.160 It could have been private
00:09:21.160 Yeah
00:09:22.160 It could have been private
00:09:23.160 And I feel like
00:09:24.160 Where I was a bit younger
00:09:25.160 And I was getting too excited because of the money
00:09:27.160 I had no parents to guide me
00:09:28.160 I kind of lost the control
00:09:30.160 And now I'm in this situation
00:09:34.160 But yeah
00:09:35.160 I'm just thinking there's like steps you could take to get out of it
00:09:38.160 Because you know
00:09:39.160 It's like you can
00:09:40.160 You're able to make savings
00:09:42.160 Put it away
00:09:43.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah
00:09:44.160 Because I'm just thinking like
00:09:45.160 You're a pretty girl
00:09:46.160 There's ways to monetize your beauty in a different way
00:09:48.160 Yeah
00:09:49.160 You could start a YouTube channel and do reactions
00:09:50.160 Yeah
00:09:51.160 You could do
00:09:52.160 You could do
00:09:53.160 Sales
00:09:54.160 Yeah
00:09:55.160 I mean I don't
00:09:56.160 Would sales people hire sex workers
00:09:58.160 100%
00:09:59.160 Well
00:10:00.160 It's what's interesting to me
00:10:01.160 And this is actually something like I said
00:10:02.160 When I was dating a gal that turned out to be a stripper
00:10:04.160 And like a really popular one apparently
00:10:07.160 What really interested me in her psychology
00:10:10.160 She was probably the best person I've ever met at just reading men
00:10:14.160 And just understand
00:10:15.160 I don't believe that anybody really knows human nature like sex workers do
00:10:18.160 That's so true
00:10:19.160 They really like these girls
00:10:20.160 You can learn things
00:10:21.160 Yeah
00:10:22.160 She can look at a guy and I guarantee it
00:10:23.160 I've met you like two minutes ago
00:10:24.160 We've gone on a show
00:10:25.160 It's like she can look at a guy and immediately know
00:10:27.160 How much money he has
00:10:28.160 Would he cheat on his wife
00:10:29.160 And how quickly
00:10:30.160 And like and she knows
00:10:31.160 You know I'm talking about right
00:10:32.160 She's like yeah of course
00:10:33.160 Because the gal I was with
00:10:34.160 She was like she would look at a guy
00:10:35.160 She's like
00:10:36.160 I'm like oh that guy's my friend
00:10:37.160 He was married
00:10:38.160 She's like oh he would cheat on his wife in a minute
00:10:39.160 I'm like really
00:10:40.160 And she would just know
00:10:41.160 She's like I know the look
00:10:42.160 I know the feel
00:10:43.160 I know the energy
00:10:44.160 Definitely is good for sales
00:10:45.160 But coming
00:10:46.160 I know that you did not like sales
00:10:47.160 And that's fine
00:10:48.160 I loved sales
00:10:49.160 I'll tell you
00:10:50.160 No no no no
00:10:51.160 I don't mind sales
00:10:52.160 I hate selling copiers
00:10:53.160 Yes
00:10:54.160 We had a guy in our company
00:10:55.160 That's like one of our top sales people
00:10:56.160 He used to sell copiers
00:10:57.160 Came to us
00:10:58.160 He likes his life now
00:10:59.160 But there is something to sales
00:11:00.160 That I think is really really important
00:11:02.160 Tying into this
00:11:03.160 How you feel
00:11:05.160 And like all the emotional stuff
00:11:07.160 I mean obviously like
00:11:08.160 That's that's a battle
00:11:09.160 You have to you have to
00:11:10.160 You have to fight
00:11:11.160 That's a battle
00:11:12.160 You have to win
00:11:13.160 Because everybody has some trauma
00:11:15.160 Not at the same level
00:11:16.160 You know we're different
00:11:17.160 But everybody comes
00:11:18.160 Everybody's family is effed up
00:11:19.160 In some way or another
00:11:20.160 Like it's just a fact
00:11:21.160 We all are you know
00:11:22.160 And one thing I'm really glad about
00:11:23.160 Like when I was 20 years old
00:11:25.160 And I felt like I was a victim of the world
00:11:27.160 And I think a lot of people
00:11:28.160 You know at a young age
00:11:29.160 Feel like they're victims
00:11:30.160 Like no I'm not the best looking
00:11:31.160 No I'm not the smartest
00:11:32.160 No I'm not this the that
00:11:34.160 I don't have a big brother
00:11:35.160 To teach me things
00:11:36.160 I was 20
00:11:37.160 The internet wasn't like a huge thing
00:11:39.160 Which is kind of crazy
00:11:40.160 So we didn't have these podcasts
00:11:41.160 To learn about life
00:11:42.160 Which is why I appreciate
00:11:43.160 What Pearl does so much
00:11:44.160 Because you know
00:11:45.160 We get to learn about life
00:11:46.160 I was really really lucky
00:11:48.160 To take a sales position
00:11:50.160 Where people probably cared about the money
00:11:52.160 I was making them more
00:11:53.160 Than they cared about me
00:11:54.160 But at least the steps that I needed to take
00:11:57.160 To build myself included
00:11:58.160 A significant amount of discipline
00:12:00.160 A significant amount of accountability
00:12:02.160 And being honest with myself
00:12:03.160 Because I didn't get paid
00:12:04.160 If I didn't sell anything
00:12:05.160 So I had to be very brutally honest with myself
00:12:08.160 And extremely disciplined
00:12:09.160 But what really helped
00:12:10.160 Was getting around another group of people
00:12:12.160 Around me
00:12:13.160 That were disciplined and growing
00:12:14.160 And they didn't resent my success
00:12:16.160 They celebrated my success
00:12:17.160 And I celebrated their success
00:12:19.160 And when I failed
00:12:20.160 They didn't crap on me
00:12:21.160 They said hey you failed
00:12:22.160 Let's work together to make you better
00:12:24.160 If you want to be better
00:12:25.160 You know and so
00:12:26.160 One of the things actually
00:12:27.160 We do in our companies
00:12:28.160 And I think Tate and those guys
00:12:30.160 Have the war room
00:12:31.160 People like the war room
00:12:32.160 I think that's brilliant
00:12:33.160 I think just giving men a place
00:12:35.160 To meet other ambitious
00:12:36.160 Successful or striving men
00:12:38.160 That's better than school
00:12:39.160 Yeah and that's
00:12:40.160 We need that
00:12:41.160 We do the same thing in our company
00:12:42.160 Like we bring guys in
00:12:43.160 And we literally mold them
00:12:44.160 And work with them
00:12:45.160 To make them more accountable
00:12:46.160 To grow
00:12:47.160 And do some guys resent it?
00:12:48.160 Yes they leave and they resent it
00:12:49.160 Because they don't like to be
00:12:50.160 In an environment
00:12:51.160 Where they feel like they're not enough
00:12:52.160 But other guys flourish in that environment
00:12:55.160 And as a man
00:12:56.160 I'm talking from a man's perspective
00:12:57.160 You don't have
00:12:58.160 Like a woman can cry
00:12:59.160 And still move into another man's life
00:13:00.160 A couple of years later
00:13:01.160 Men don't have that option
00:13:02.160 Like we need to be building all the time
00:13:05.160 And if you feel like you're a dude
00:13:06.160 And you're a little bit victimized
00:13:07.160 It's time to step up
00:13:09.160 And get around people
00:13:10.160 That will help you grow
00:13:11.160 I agree with that
00:13:12.160 Definitely
00:13:13.160 I'm just thinking for you
00:13:14.160 You've been doing OF for three years
00:13:16.160 Like that's three years
00:13:17.160 You can still get out
00:13:18.160 You can still get out
00:13:19.160 I haven't actually been doing it for three years
00:13:20.160 I've been
00:13:21.160 I did it for like really
00:13:22.160 I was on it for like a year and a half
00:13:24.160 And then the other two years
00:13:25.160 I had it
00:13:26.160 But I never put any effort into it
00:13:27.160 What I'm saying is right now
00:13:29.160 It's still
00:13:30.160 You can semi
00:13:31.160 Yeah
00:13:32.160 You can semi get it off the internet
00:13:33.160 Oh no 100%
00:13:34.160 I'd never want to be a sex worker
00:13:35.160 The rest of my life
00:13:36.160 No way
00:13:37.160 Right but I'm saying
00:13:38.160 The way you're on track
00:13:39.160 Like that's what you're on track to do
00:13:40.160 If you don't make life changes quick
00:13:42.160 No I have been though
00:13:43.160 I have been
00:13:44.160 Yeah?
00:13:45.160 What changes have you been making?
00:13:46.160 I've made a limited company
00:13:47.160 I'm starting with a cleaning company
00:13:48.160 Okay
00:13:49.160 I just need to make my website at the moment
00:13:50.160 I've got the cleaners for it
00:13:52.160 Like not the cleaners
00:13:53.160 I've got the
00:13:54.160 What's it called?
00:13:57.160 Why does my mind go
00:13:58.160 I'm like you should get the OF girls to clean
00:14:00.160 No
00:14:01.160 I was thinking
00:14:02.160 This is what I was thinking
00:14:03.160 Get made
00:14:04.160 You know Ms. Trimiyagi wipe the window
00:14:05.160 She's like
00:14:06.160 Clean the window
00:14:07.160 Clean the window
00:14:08.160 That wasn't part of my plan
00:14:10.160 So my plan was to start a legit one
00:14:12.160 First yeah
00:14:13.160 I've got a friend
00:14:14.160 He does an Airbnb business
00:14:15.160 So I thought
00:14:16.160 I can use the cleaners for that
00:14:17.160 To start with
00:14:18.160 And then
00:14:19.160 Make a Twitter page
00:14:20.160 And get the naughty maids in
00:14:22.160 You know what I mean?
00:14:23.160 The sugar dads
00:14:24.160 Have the nice houses
00:14:25.160 But then you're still in that environment
00:14:27.160 I'm not what you call it
00:14:29.160 That's actually
00:14:31.160 That's amazing
00:14:32.160 And remember one time
00:14:33.160 I was on your show a while ago
00:14:34.160 And the story was like
00:14:36.160 Um
00:14:37.160 I told my wife
00:14:38.160 We should get a cleaner
00:14:39.160 Because we have four kids
00:14:40.160 In like a
00:14:41.160 Very large house
00:14:42.160 With a lot of
00:14:43.160 Toys and stuff
00:14:44.160 And she's like
00:14:45.160 Okay fine I'll try it
00:14:46.160 And then
00:14:47.160 The cleaner came
00:14:48.160 And it was this like
00:14:49.160 Young Ukrainian girl
00:14:50.160 And she cleaned the house spotlessly
00:14:51.160 And she was good looking
00:14:52.160 And my wife's like
00:14:53.160 I'm never inviting the cleaner
00:14:54.160 I will clean clean
00:14:55.160 So women watching this
00:14:56.160 Not just the men
00:14:57.160 The women should be
00:14:58.160 You know
00:14:59.160 If you're a guy
00:15:00.160 And your wife's not cleaning
00:15:01.160 Hire this lady
00:15:02.160 In her company
00:15:03.160 Your wife will be
00:15:04.160 A cleaner
00:15:05.160 Yeah
00:15:06.160 Did you answer the question
00:15:09.160 For how many bodies
00:15:10.160 Is too many for high value?
00:15:12.160 No
00:15:13.160 But
00:15:14.160 We talked about this before
00:15:15.160 And I knew about the statistics
00:15:17.160 About the pair bonding
00:15:18.160 So five was my number before
00:15:20.160 But you mentioned something
00:15:21.160 About two
00:15:22.160 Like the initial drop off point
00:15:24.160 Yeah
00:15:25.160 So I'm now adjusted
00:15:26.160 And I think that's the message I could hear
00:15:29.160 That sounds better to me
00:15:31.160 Honestly
00:15:32.160 I think that like
00:15:33.160 Women would be better
00:15:34.160 If men raised their standards
00:15:35.160 Especially like
00:15:36.160 The men that we want
00:15:37.160 Yeah but it goes both ways
00:15:38.160 Right?
00:15:39.160 That's true
00:15:40.160 I think men need to raise their standards
00:15:41.160 For themselves
00:15:42.160 Yeah
00:15:43.160 Like this is crazy to me
00:15:44.160 You know
00:15:45.160 Like there's so many dudes that are
00:15:46.160 What is it like
00:15:47.160 Seven million men in the USA
00:15:48.160 Are on disability leave
00:15:49.160 Even though they're not disabled
00:15:50.160 That's an actual statistic
00:15:51.160 It's a crazy one
00:15:52.160 Yeah
00:15:53.160 It's like
00:15:54.160 You know
00:15:55.160 Like
00:15:57.160 Like
00:15:58.160 Like
00:15:59.160 Part of this
00:16:00.160 I think the epidemic
00:16:01.160 Is not necessarily
00:16:02.160 In men having low standards for women
00:16:03.160 I think it's men having low standards for themselves
00:16:05.160 And I think there's this
00:16:06.160 Narrative in society
00:16:07.160 That like
00:16:08.160 Men should take on these feminine characteristics
00:16:09.160 You know
00:16:10.160 We have men competing in women's sports
00:16:11.160 Which is like
00:16:12.160 And they see that as a virtue
00:16:13.160 No but the reason they see it as a virtue
00:16:14.160 It's like
00:16:15.160 Oh
00:16:16.160 Well a man should be sensitive
00:16:17.160 Right
00:16:18.160 A man should be caring
00:16:19.160 A man should be childbearing
00:16:20.160 They always try to make men into women
00:16:21.160 Right
00:16:22.160 And then they go into women's sports
00:16:23.160 And now they have to celebrate it
00:16:24.160 Otherwise they're hypocrites
00:16:25.160 Right
00:16:26.160 So I'm completely against the social movement of like
00:16:29.160 Feminizing men
00:16:30.160 I think that men
00:16:31.160 You know
00:16:32.160 We used to be conscripted into the army
00:16:33.160 And we'd see horrible
00:16:34.160 Horrible things in our early twenties
00:16:35.160 And we'd come back and we were hard men
00:16:37.160 You know
00:16:38.160 And I think society needs a little bit more of that
00:16:40.160 And I fully encourage men to take
00:16:42.160 To take more responsibility for being higher on themselves
00:16:45.160 Raise your standards for yourself
00:16:47.160 A woman isn't interested in you because of how you think of her
00:16:50.160 A woman is interested of you because of the man you are
00:16:53.160 What she thinks of you
00:16:54.160 Do you think
00:16:55.160 Because I always think like women would never be single mothers
00:16:58.160 And leave their husbands if they knew no one would take them
00:17:01.160 If they knew
00:17:03.160 And there wasn't a government bailout
00:17:05.160 Well there's a government bailout
00:17:06.160 Which messes up a lot of things
00:17:07.160 Yeah
00:17:08.160 That too
00:17:09.160 There's actually something
00:17:10.160 I was flying over here
00:17:11.160 I was in Budapest this morning
00:17:12.160 I got on the plane
00:17:13.160 I flew here to London
00:17:14.160 And I was thinking about this on the flight
00:17:15.160 And I was sort of thinking about this in a biblical sense
00:17:18.160 You know
00:17:19.160 And this is what I came out to in my mind
00:17:20.160 It's who's taming the devil
00:17:22.160 Let me explain that real quick
00:17:23.160 So women find themselves most attracted to a man
00:17:26.160 When they have to tame the devil inside of him
00:17:28.160 That's why they go for these Tyrones and Chads right
00:17:30.160 It's like oh the guy's got this streak of things
00:17:32.160 And a woman thinks I can save him
00:17:34.160 I can be the one that bring him out of hell
00:17:36.160 I can be the one to build him into the angel he can be
00:17:39.160 So the woman is trying to tame the devil
00:17:41.160 And that keeps the relationship together
00:17:42.160 But when it works the other way
00:17:44.160 When a man is trying to tame the devil and a woman
00:17:46.160 I can rescue her from her life
00:17:48.160 I can give her the life
00:17:49.160 Because she's a single mom
00:17:51.160 She's a single mom
00:17:52.160 I can help her now
00:17:53.160 And that's where everything breaks down
00:17:54.160 So like as a man
00:17:55.160 You have to make yourself dangerous
00:17:57.160 And then it works
00:17:59.160 In a powerful man situation
00:18:02.160 When you've got money
00:18:03.160 You've got status
00:18:04.160 All those things
00:18:05.160 Yes
00:18:06.160 But when you're talking about younger girls
00:18:07.160 With like the Chads and the guys
00:18:08.160 Those guys
00:18:10.160 Are the ones that younger girls are trying to tame
00:18:12.160 And think oh he'll change for me
00:18:13.160 He'll love me
00:18:14.160 You can't keep those relationships together
00:18:16.160 The woman can never keep that relationship together
00:18:18.160 Because that guy doesn't have to choose you
00:18:19.160 And he isn't going to choose you
00:18:21.160 Well my wife hang on a second
00:18:22.160 Like I was when my wife married me
00:18:23.160 I was making well over a million dollars a year
00:18:25.160 And I was like I met her at 26
00:18:27.160 And then she got me to commit
00:18:29.160 And honestly very happily
00:18:30.160 But are you a Chad?
00:18:32.160 What are you
00:18:33.160 Yes I think so
00:18:34.160 If you don't think so that's fine
00:18:35.160 You don't have to think so
00:18:36.160 I was let's see
00:18:37.160 26 years old
00:18:38.160 Six foot four
00:18:39.160 Playing ice hockey four times a week
00:18:40.160 Making 1.6 million dollars a year
00:18:42.160 At 26 that was me
00:18:43.160 And so you don't have to think I was a Chad
00:18:45.160 I'm talking about though
00:18:46.160 When you were in like
00:18:47.160 Was I getting chicks?
00:18:48.160 Yeah lots
00:18:49.160 Okay
00:18:50.160 I'm not saying that like
00:18:52.160 I was
00:18:53.160 Any man with money gets gold
00:18:55.160 Back to generally
00:18:56.160 Forget about the men with money
00:18:57.160 They didn't even know
00:18:58.160 They didn't know I had it
00:18:59.160 Normal situations
00:19:01.160 Normal life
00:19:02.160 Normal going out to the club
00:19:03.160 Not
00:19:04.160 I have never met a million
00:19:05.160 You know millionaires
00:19:06.160 And things like that
00:19:07.160 So I'm not talking about that
00:19:08.160 But generally
00:19:09.160 Those guys
00:19:10.160 You've like killed my point
00:19:12.160 The point was to kill your point
00:19:14.160 Because here's the thing
00:19:16.160 85% of millionaires are married
00:19:18.160 85% of billionaires are married
00:19:20.160 The marriage statistics for men actually go up
00:19:22.160 The wealthier they are
00:19:23.160 And the divorce rates go down
00:19:24.160 The wealthier a man is
00:19:25.160 So what should a man's goal be
00:19:26.160 If he truly wants to build a happy successful life
00:19:27.160 Is to get more money
00:19:29.160 Right well
00:19:30.160 Because you'll say like
00:19:31.160 It's the men that won't settle down
00:19:32.160 But it's more like
00:19:33.160 Like the women probably just aren't good enough
00:19:34.160 Yeah no I
00:19:35.160 Possibly
00:19:36.160 For those men
00:19:37.160 You know I've watched one once
00:19:38.160 And it's men date down
00:19:39.160 Women date up
00:19:40.160 Or sleep up
00:19:41.160 And all that
00:19:42.160 And I agree with that 100%
00:19:43.160 So that's probably the case as well
00:19:44.160 That he's sleeping with you
00:19:45.160 But he won't consider you as a wife
00:19:46.160 And that's true
00:19:47.160 And there were lots of women like that in my life
00:19:48.160 And that's fine
00:19:49.160 They just don't know
00:19:50.160 What should a man's goal be
00:19:51.160 If he truly wants to build a happy successful life
00:19:53.160 Is to get more money
00:19:54.160 Right well
00:19:55.160 Because you'll say like
00:19:56.160 It's the men that won't settle down
00:19:57.160 But it's the men that won't settle down
00:19:58.160 And that's fine
00:19:59.160 They just didn't meet the criteria that I wanted for a wife
00:20:01.160 Yeah but I'm
00:20:02.160 So you
00:20:03.160 Obviously you talk a lot from the man's perspective
00:20:04.160 But we could also teach women
00:20:06.160 Not to even look at those guys
00:20:07.160 Because they're not
00:20:08.160 Like if you're
00:20:09.160 No no no no
00:20:10.160 Absolutely
00:20:11.160 I have two daughters
00:20:12.160 I'll tell you right now
00:20:13.160 100% look at those guys
00:20:14.160 100%
00:20:15.160 Not the bitch
00:20:16.160 Not the millionaire
00:20:17.160 I'm talking about the ones that aren't millionaires
00:20:18.160 Ambition
00:20:19.160 Who just have
00:20:20.160 Swag
00:20:21.160 Are you talking about the broke
00:20:22.160 The broke guy
00:20:23.160 Yes
00:20:24.160 The average guy
00:20:25.160 Yes
00:20:26.160 Hot broke guys
00:20:27.160 With swag
00:20:28.160 With charisma
00:20:29.160 With all the drip
00:20:30.160 But it's the spay
00:20:31.160 Because they can't even
00:20:32.160 They don't even have drip where I come from
00:20:34.160 Yeah they can't even afford their red but they can afford a pair of blue blue batons
00:20:37.160 Exactly
00:20:38.160 That's the danger
00:20:39.160 That's the
00:20:40.160 I think dating is more difficult for women than it is for men
00:20:42.160 And the reason I believe it's more difficult for women is because you're putting yourself in a position
00:20:47.160 Where like if you commit to the wrong guy or give yourself the wrong guy
00:20:50.160 A it will lower your value for the next high value guy
00:20:53.160 And B you can lose your market value as that time passes right
00:20:56.160 Yep
00:20:57.160 Women have to be
00:20:59.160 You can be attracted to those guys and everything but it's like you have to draw the line of
00:21:03.160 Where do you think your chances are for a potential relationship with this man
00:21:06.160 I also know a couple of girls used to work in our company
00:21:08.160 Like one example she was 22, 23, one of the most beautiful girls that I've ever seen
00:21:12.160 She was working in our company
00:21:13.160 She was an amazing salesperson right
00:21:15.160 Met a guy now she lives on a yacht in Monaco
00:21:17.160 And that guy committed to her and they're happy and they've been together for a pretty long time
00:21:21.160 And it's like she was not only attractive and garnering attention
00:21:25.160 She was also a great judge of character and potential
00:21:29.160 And that's the hard part
00:21:31.160 It's like it's easy for a guy to judge looks
00:21:33.160 But it's real hard for a woman to judge a man's character and potential
00:21:36.160 But those men do exist
00:21:37.160 85% of millionaires are married
00:21:39.160 Statistically speaking men who are married once and retired married
00:21:43.160 Have I think four times more money than men who get divorced
00:21:47.160 And twice more than men who get divorced and remarried
00:21:49.160 But those that got divorced and remarried still have twice the amount of wealth
00:21:53.160 So successful men actually marry
00:21:55.160 And by the way if you want to find a successful man
00:21:57.160 Because girls are like oh they're never married
00:21:59.160 That's not true
00:22:00.160 There's significant business
00:22:04.160 How do I put this
00:22:06.160 There's positive business outcomes for men who are married
00:22:09.160 Because men want to do business with other men who are doing good things for the community
00:22:12.160 Who are trustworthy and reliable
00:22:14.160 So a lot of times when you're doing business
00:22:15.160 You ask the guy about his wife and his kids and his family
00:22:18.160 And you don't trust the guys so much that are 42 and single trying to get you to invest a million bucks
00:22:22.160 You trust the guy that's 42 who's got a wife and three, four kids
00:22:25.160 And they've been married for 15 years
00:22:26.160 That's the guy you trust
00:22:27.160 So there's a lot of market pressure on the successful guys to do that
00:22:31.160 You just have to be the right girl
00:22:33.160 I've worked in this sex industry for a long time
00:22:37.160 And most of the men that come to me are rich married men
00:22:40.160 Yeah, exactly
00:22:42.160 They're rich and they're married
00:22:44.160 I don't get broke men
00:22:45.160 It's the rich and the married men
00:22:48.160 They're happy in their relationships
00:22:50.160 But you're not
00:22:51.160 Because you're finding pleasure somewhere else
00:22:53.160 So I'm curious
00:22:54.160 What do you do?
00:22:55.160 Is it the dominatrix stuff for them?
00:22:56.160 Dominatrix
00:22:57.160 Come in
00:22:58.160 What?
00:22:59.160 Okay
00:23:00.160 So how do you know how much money they make?
00:23:02.160 Because they tell me
00:23:03.160 I've been to their houses before
00:23:04.160 Oh, so you
00:23:05.160 Yeah, and I see all their girlfriends and their wives
00:23:07.160 Pictures
00:23:08.160 All nicely set up
00:23:09.160 So you'll go to their actual house
00:23:11.160 I'm sorry, I don't
00:23:12.160 Dominatrix
00:23:13.160 You know what that is
00:23:14.160 When you're horrible
00:23:16.160 I've seen like Wolf of Wall Street
00:23:19.160 Is that like that stuff?
00:23:21.160 Um
00:23:22.160 I'd say a bit more extreme like making men eat from the toilet
00:23:25.160 Um
00:23:26.160 Oh my goodness
00:23:27.160 Yeah
00:23:28.160 Yeah
00:23:29.160 Men pay for this
00:23:30.160 Rich men
00:23:31.160 People in the politics
00:23:32.160 Okay?
00:23:33.160 People who do politics and stuff
00:23:34.160 You'll find them all there
00:23:35.160 They want you to hit them and make them eat from the toilet
00:23:38.160 Can I ask you a question?
00:23:39.160 And they go home to their wife and kiss them
00:23:41.160 Can I ask you?
00:23:42.160 Are these two questions?
00:23:43.160 I'm actually really interested
00:23:44.160 So number one
00:23:45.160 Are these guys that you would find conventionally charismatic and attractive?
00:23:48.160 Or like they would get other chicks anyways?
00:23:50.160 Or they would not?
00:23:51.160 I've had very good looking men
00:23:52.160 Okay
00:23:53.160 And very ugly men
00:23:54.160 The second question
00:23:55.160 The very good looking men
00:23:56.160 Is there a risk?
00:23:57.160 Because one thing that you offer
00:23:58.160 Like my friend says this
00:23:59.160 That a sex worker offers
00:24:01.160 It's not the sex that they offer
00:24:03.160 It's the privacy
00:24:04.160 It's like the fact that they're not going to be leaking out
00:24:06.160 Yeah, yeah
00:24:07.160 Are these good looking guys that get other chicks?
00:24:09.160 For them is it because it's just a safer way to do it?
00:24:11.160 Yeah, maybe
00:24:13.160 Yeah
00:24:14.160 Because they may be political
00:24:15.160 Because they know that I probably won't go out and speak to them
00:24:17.160 And they can confide in me
00:24:18.160 Because they know
00:24:19.160 I don't know them
00:24:20.160 They don't know me
00:24:21.160 And they could block my number and never talk to me again
00:24:24.160 And I'd never be able to contact them anyway
00:24:26.160 So they're paying for privacy
00:24:27.160 Do you have to sign NDAs or anything?
00:24:29.160 Sometimes
00:24:31.160 I mean I've done it twice
00:24:32.160 Only because one of the people that came to me actually knew him
00:24:35.160 And I didn't want him to, you know, leak
00:24:37.160 How many rich men have you
00:24:40.160 So you've done this for about 3-4 years
00:24:42.160 How many rich men clients have you had?
00:24:46.160 I only see high class men
00:24:47.160 So all of them
00:24:48.160 Wow
00:24:49.160 Yeah, probably not all of them
00:24:51.160 But a very, very high majority of them
00:24:54.160 I reckon out of all of them
00:24:56.160 I've probably seen 10 low-class men
00:24:58.160 Wow
00:24:59.160 So
00:25:00.160 I don't like low
00:25:01.160 I don't
00:25:02.160 Is that because of like
00:25:03.160 Is that because of you?
00:25:05.160 Sorry
00:25:06.160 Sorry
00:25:07.160 Is that kind of because of your market specifically?
00:25:09.160 Like or is that typical among
00:25:12.160 Do you have friends that do the same thing?
00:25:14.160 I have quite a few friends that are in like the industry
00:25:17.160 But my main friends work their man-to-fives and stuff
00:25:21.160 But
00:25:22.160 I meant like out of your other friends that do sex work
00:25:24.160 Are their clients mostly rich too?
00:25:26.160 Yeah
00:25:27.160 Wow
00:25:28.160 Yeah, I'd say so
00:25:29.160 That's so surprising to me
00:25:30.160 It's not surprising at all
00:25:31.160 It makes perfect sense
00:25:32.160 Now by the way
00:25:33.160 Just to be clear
00:25:34.160 Just because all your clients are rich men
00:25:35.160 Does not mean that all rich men
00:25:36.160 Oh no, of course not
00:25:37.160 Of course
00:25:38.160 Statistically it's about 20%
00:25:40.160 20% of men that cheated the higher income bracket
00:25:43.160 And statistically it's about 20% of women in the lower income bracket
00:25:46.160 But as a man's income goes up
00:25:48.160 His propensity to cheat grows from like 13% to about 20%
00:25:51.160 And sort of levels out about 200,000
00:25:53.160 And then for a woman
00:25:54.160 Her propensity to cheat actually drops from 20 down to about 13
00:25:57.160 As a man's income goes to about 200,000
00:25:59.160 I've looked at some really interesting charts about that
00:26:01.160 So I just want to be like
00:26:02.160 Yes, that obviously exists
00:26:04.160 But it's not all rich men
00:26:05.160 Yeah, it's not all
00:26:06.160 But it makes sense that it would be rich men
00:26:07.160 Because they just
00:26:08.160 I think it's a financial thing
00:26:09.160 Yeah
00:26:10.160 Like for a lot of guys to drop 500 bucks
00:26:11.160 Could be a lot of money
00:26:12.160 But if it doesn't mean anything to you
00:26:13.160 It's like whatever
00:26:14.160 Yeah
00:26:15.160 Yeah, what is it cost?
00:26:16.160 What do you cost?
00:26:17.160 It depends
00:26:18.160 So in half an hour
00:26:19.160 An hour overnight
00:26:21.160 Is that cleaning?
00:26:22.160 Sorry we're talking about
00:26:23.160 Dominatrix
00:26:24.160 Because the dominatrix is non-sexual
00:26:27.160 They're not allowed to touch you
00:26:28.160 You're basically a goddess in their eyes
00:26:30.160 You know
00:26:31.160 It's not like a school and service
00:26:32.160 It's not like that
00:26:33.160 So overnight I charge 1.5k
00:26:35.160 For an hour
00:26:36.160 300 pounds with a 100 pound deposit
00:26:38.160 And that's not even including the extras
00:26:40.160 Because they want me to do really dirty things
00:26:41.160 I'll put their head in the toilet
00:26:42.160 Or maybe poo on them
00:26:45.160 I'm not ashamed of it
00:26:47.160 I've done it
00:26:48.160 I have done it
00:26:49.160 No one's ever done it to me
00:26:50.160 But I have done it to them
00:26:51.160 And I'll admit that
00:26:52.160 You've all pooped on a guy?
00:26:53.160 Yeah
00:26:54.160 Was he a good looking guy?
00:26:55.160 Yeah
00:26:56.160 He actually was
00:26:57.160 He actually was
00:26:58.160 No I just wanna know
00:27:00.160 It feels more wrong
00:27:01.160 You don't wanna meet him in the street
00:27:02.160 Be like think he's nice
00:27:03.160 It feels more wrong
00:27:04.160 When they're good looking
00:27:05.160 For some reason
00:27:06.160 Because it feels like
00:27:07.160 They shouldn't even be there
00:27:08.160 Yeah
00:27:09.160 You know
00:27:10.160 And I say to them
00:27:11.160 Why are you here?
00:27:12.160 They say because it's just easier
00:27:13.160 And I like my fetishes
00:27:14.160 And you know
00:27:15.160 You said about the fat women
00:27:16.160 There's so many men
00:27:18.160 That have a fetish
00:27:19.160 A fetish of fat women
00:27:20.160 But they won't admit it to the public
00:27:22.160 Because it's shameful
00:27:23.160 But they love it
00:27:24.160 That's what I was
00:27:25.160 They love it
00:27:26.160 But they're not marrying them
00:27:27.160 The rubber
00:27:28.160 They're not marrying them
00:27:29.160 You're right
00:27:30.160 I look at things on extreme
00:27:31.160 By the way
00:27:32.160 They're ashamed to marry them
00:27:33.160 That's why
00:27:34.160 When I said earlier
00:27:35.160 Just because a guy wants to crap on you
00:27:36.160 And that's like
00:27:37.160 Whatever you crap on them
00:27:38.160 And that's like
00:27:39.160 You don't consider
00:27:40.160 I was being like
00:27:41.160 Yeah I was being like
00:27:42.160 That was a hyperbole
00:27:43.160 I was really exaggerating
00:27:44.160 And this just got really real
00:27:46.160 It has happened
00:27:47.160 Do guys ever pay to like
00:27:49.160 Crap on the girls?
00:27:50.160 They do
00:27:51.160 But I'd never do that
00:27:52.160 I'm the one that's in the power
00:27:54.160 No man could ever do that to me
00:27:56.160 Even if he was Chris Brown
00:27:57.160 Or whatever
00:27:58.160 No one
00:27:59.160 See this is what I find
00:28:01.160 I find this perplexing
00:28:02.160 Because it's
00:28:03.160 You know so a rich guy will marry
00:28:05.160 The high value woman
00:28:06.160 But
00:28:07.160 He still wants
00:28:09.160 What he wants
00:28:10.160 Yeah it's confusing
00:28:11.160 So this is what I find
00:28:12.160 So you go out
00:28:13.160 You might like steak everyday
00:28:15.160 But every now and then
00:28:16.160 You gotta get a McDonald's
00:28:17.160 You know what I mean?
00:28:18.160 Every now and then
00:28:20.160 McDonald's is nice
00:28:21.160 But I feel like that's why I get a bit confused
00:28:23.160 Because where I get the really high class men
00:28:25.160 Come to me sometimes
00:28:26.160 It confuses me
00:28:27.160 Because I'm like
00:28:28.160 You shouldn't be here
00:28:29.160 So they don't want that
00:28:30.160 So in my eyes
00:28:31.160 They don't want the high value
00:28:32.160 The high value woman is for their own ego
00:28:34.160 No the high value woman is for their children
00:28:36.160 It's for the show
00:28:37.160 For the children
00:28:38.160 Not for the show
00:28:39.160 For the children
00:28:40.160 For the children
00:28:41.160 And obviously
00:28:42.160 That's the purpose
00:28:43.160 If you're with a really high class person
00:28:44.160 It makes yourself look better as well
00:28:45.160 Because whoever you're with reflects on who you are as a person as well
00:28:48.160 I just think it's like what they want long term
00:28:51.160 Like I think men will always crave variety
00:28:53.160 Which sometimes is whales I guess
00:28:56.160 Yeah, yeah
00:28:57.160 I don't know
00:28:58.160 Yeah
00:28:59.160 Yeah but a fetish is always a good thing
00:29:01.160 I don't know
00:29:02.160 There's a reason why they hide that
00:29:03.160 There's like a thousand fetishes
00:29:05.160 They're not
00:29:06.160 Not every fetish needs to be played out
00:29:08.160 Exactly
00:29:09.160 Yeah
00:29:10.160 There's even a fetish
00:29:11.160 And guys will pay you to pop balloons with your bum cheeks
00:29:15.160 And it's like what?
00:29:16.160 Why?
00:29:17.160 Like how does that turn
00:29:19.160 Like how does that
00:29:21.160 I don't know
00:29:22.160 It's weird
00:29:23.160 That's definitely childhood trauma
00:29:24.160 Yeah
00:29:25.160 And all these people
00:29:26.160 All these men that do come to me
00:29:27.160 It does root down to some sort of childhood issue
00:29:29.160 Or trauma
00:29:30.160 It definitely does
00:29:31.160 Because even like the whole dominatrix thing
00:29:33.160 Where they like being hurt, abused
00:29:35.160 And called horrible names
00:29:37.160 They've got issues
00:29:39.160 They've got a lot of issues
00:29:41.160 And they're issues that they need to obviously get some help
00:29:43.160 Maybe it's like
00:29:45.160 Mommy issues
00:29:47.160 Maybe
00:29:48.160 Yeah
00:29:49.160 Like I've had men cry to me before and sit in my lap
00:29:51.160 What do they cry to you about?
00:29:52.160 Just their life
00:29:53.160 They've got money and they hate their life
00:29:55.160 And they're always on drugs
00:29:57.160 Like what do they say?
00:29:58.160 What are their problems?
00:29:59.160 Just that they're not happy in their marriage
00:30:01.160 They're always working
00:30:02.160 They're always stressed
00:30:03.160 They're always on
00:30:04.160 You know
00:30:05.160 Do you know why?
00:30:06.160 Do you know why they're not happy in their marriage?
00:30:08.160 Like what are their complaints?
00:30:09.160 I mean I don't really go to and not just
00:30:11.160 Kind of just let them cry on me
00:30:13.160 Wow
00:30:14.160 But yeah, no
00:30:15.160 Because after that I need my own therapy
00:30:16.160 When I deal with men like that
00:30:18.160 But yeah
00:30:19.160 Yeah
00:30:20.160 That's what I mean
00:30:21.160 So it's very mentally draining for me
00:30:23.160 To do this job
00:30:24.160 And I know I shouldn't be in it
00:30:25.160 Because it's like I'm taking on everyone else's trauma
00:30:27.160 And I need to deal with mine first
00:30:29.160 So yeah
00:30:30.160 Just a caveat
00:30:31.160 Like again because all these guys come to you
00:30:32.160 Doesn't mean that all guys that are like that
00:30:34.160 Do go to that kind of a service
00:30:35.160 The reality is that wealthier people do report a significantly higher statistical mean of being satisfied with their life
00:30:44.160 And they report a significantly higher happiness sort of index to their marriage
00:30:49.160 Which is again why 85% of millionaires are married
00:30:51.160 So what you're reporting is not actually the norm
00:30:53.160 That is the fringe of that
00:30:55.160 It just is
00:30:56.160 I just want guys to understand it
00:30:57.160 Because there's some guys here listening like
00:30:58.160 Oh see that's why I don't want to be successful
00:31:00.160 Because I'm just going to be sad
00:31:01.160 No, statistically you'll be way happier
00:31:03.160 You'll be way happier
00:31:04.160 Just trust me guys
00:31:05.160 Build yourself
00:31:06.160 Oh no, definitely, definitely
00:31:07.160 Yeah
00:31:08.160 I feel like you just get the odd rich men who obviously aren't doing it the right way
00:31:12.160 They're abusing themselves with drugs and things like that
00:31:15.160 Some, not everyone loves their life, you know
00:31:17.160 They'd rather cry in a Ferrari
00:31:18.160 Yeah
00:31:19.160 Yeah
00:31:20.160 Yeah
00:31:21.160 Yeah
00:31:22.160 Okay, for the guys
00:31:24.160 Have you ever stopped dating a girl because of her past?
00:31:27.160 Yeah
00:31:28.160 What happened?
00:31:29.160 What'd you find out?
00:31:30.160 Um
00:31:31.160 Um
00:31:32.160 So I found out
00:31:33.160 I was 18
00:31:34.160 I was 18
00:31:35.160 Found out that the girl
00:31:36.160 Had slept with like multiple men
00:31:37.160 And this was through a conversation that I had heard from one of my friends saying
00:31:54.160 Oh, what's that girl?
00:31:55.160 Like I know she's been with this guy and that guy
00:32:00.160 And as soon as I heard that
00:32:01.160 I said to the girl
00:32:02.160 Why did you tell me a strange number?
00:32:04.160 You told me this number
00:32:05.160 And now I'm finding out
00:32:06.160 It's more than likely this
00:32:08.160 And she broke down and said
00:32:09.160 Oh I didn't want to talk to you about all these girls
00:32:11.160 And blah
00:32:12.160 All these men
00:32:13.160 So blah blah blah
00:32:14.160 And for me that was the end of it
00:32:15.160 Why do women say body count doesn't matter if they don't want to tell you what it is?
00:32:19.160 Exactly, it does matter
00:32:20.160 As far as I'm concerned
00:32:21.160 It does matter
00:32:22.160 A woman wouldn't tell you
00:32:25.160 I've slept with 8,000 men
00:32:27.160 Yeah
00:32:28.160 And I still want to be with you
00:32:29.160 She won't say that at all
00:32:30.160 Yeah
00:32:31.160 A woman will keep it at a certain level
00:32:32.160 Like I understand what you're saying about
00:32:33.160 It doesn't matter
00:32:34.160 It shouldn't matter, etc
00:32:35.160 But when push comes to shove
00:32:36.160 If you get the ideal man in front of you
00:32:38.160 You're not going to tell him
00:32:40.160 I've slept with 800 men
00:32:43.160 You're not going to do that
00:32:44.160 There is no woman on this earth that's actually going to do that
00:32:46.160 You're going to downplay or you're going to gaslight
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