JustPearlyThings - August 04, 2023


This Sex Worker Said This About Men In Power

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In this episode, I am joined by my good friend Chad who is a former sex worker turned entrepreneur. We talk about his journey from working as a sex worker to now running his own cleaning company and what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur in the modern era.

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00:00:00.000 I'm just thinking for you you've been doing OF for three years that's three
00:00:03.920 years you can still get out you can still get out I haven't actually been
00:00:06.560 doing it for three years I've been I did it for like really I was on it for
00:00:10.440 like a year and a half then the other two years I had it but I never put any
00:00:13.840 effort into it what I'm saying is right now it's still you can semi you can
00:00:18.560 semi get it off oh no 100% I'd never want to be a sex worker the rest of my life
00:00:23.460 no way the way the way you're on track like that's what you're on track to do
00:00:27.060 if you don't make life changes quick you know I have been no I have been yeah
00:00:31.020 changes have you been made I've made a limited company I'm starting with a
00:00:34.680 cleaning company I just need to make my website at the moment so I've got the
00:00:38.520 cleaners for it like not the cleans I've got the what's it called what is my mind
00:00:44.580 my mind go I'm like you should get the OF girls to close you know you know you 0.89
00:00:50.400 know mr. Miyagi wipe the window she's like 1.00
00:00:54.180 my plan so my plan was to start a legit one fast yeah I've got a friend he does
00:01:01.140 an Airbnb business so I thought I can use the cleaners for that to start with
00:01:04.800 and then make a Twitter page and get the naughty maids in you know what I mean the 1.00
00:01:10.380 sugar dads have the nice houses
00:01:14.140 that's actually that's amazing and remember one time I was on your show a
00:01:20.600 while ago and and the story was like I told my wife we should get a cleaner
00:01:25.540 because we have four kids and like a very large house with a lot of toys and
00:01:30.160 stuff and she's like okay fine I'll try it and then the cleaner came and it was
00:01:33.960 just like young Ukrainian girl and she cleaned the house spotlessly and she was 1.00
00:01:37.300 good-looking and my wife's like I'm never inviting the cleaner I will so women 1.00
00:01:42.400 watching this not just the men the women should be you know if you're a guy and
00:01:46.600 your wife's not cleaning hire this lady in her company your wife will be a 1.00
00:01:51.460 cleaner did you answer the question for how many bodies is too many for high value
00:01:59.140 no but we talked about this before and I knew about the statistics about the
00:02:04.520 pair bonding so five was my number before but you mentioned something about
00:02:08.320 two like the initial drop-off point yeah so I'm now I just did honestly I think
00:02:19.640 that like women would be better if men raise their standards especially like the 1.00
00:02:23.100 men that we want it goes both ways right I think men need to raise their 1.00
00:02:27.180 standards for themselves yeah like this this is crazy to me you know like there's
00:02:30.240 so many dudes there what is it like seven million men in the USA are on
00:02:34.440 disability leave even though they're not disabled that's an actual statistic it's
00:02:37.860 a crazy one yeah it's like it's like you know men gaming the social system in 0.55
00:02:42.300 order to just smoke pot and play video games or whatever like like part of this I
00:02:46.440 think the epidemic is not necessarily in men having low standards for women I
00:02:50.460 think it's men having low standards for themselves and I think there's this
00:02:52.920 narrative in society that like men should take on these feminine 0.98
00:02:55.940 characteristics you know we have men competing women's sports which is like 0.96
00:02:58.520 and they see that as a firm no but the reason they see it as a virtue it's like
00:03:01.760 oh well a man should be sensitive a man should be caring a man should be child 0.74
00:03:06.500 always try to make men right women and then they go into women's sports and now 0.97
00:03:10.180 they have to celebrate it otherwise they're hypocrites right so so I'm
00:03:13.880 completely against the social movement of like feminizing men I think that men you 0.90
00:03:18.220 know we used to be conscripted into the army and we'd see horrible horrible
00:03:21.340 things in our early 20s and we'd come back and we were hard men you know and I
00:03:25.340 think society needs a little bit more of that and I and I fully encourage men to
00:03:28.600 take to take more responsibility for being higher on themselves raise your
00:03:33.200 standards for yourself a woman isn't interested in you because of how you 1.00
00:03:36.260 think of her a woman is interested of you because of the man you are do you
00:03:42.060 think because I always think like women would never be single mothers and leave
00:03:45.540 their husbands if they knew no one would take them if they knew and there wasn't a
00:03:51.060 government bailout well there's a government bailout which messes up a lot
00:03:54.160 of things there's actually something I was flying over here so I was in I was
00:03:58.320 in Budapest this morning I got on the plane I flew here to London and I was
00:04:01.380 thinking about this on the flight and I was sort of thinking about this in a
00:04:04.360 biblical sense you know and and this is what I came out to in my mind it's who's
00:04:07.680 taming the devil let me explain that real quick so women find themselves most 1.00
00:04:12.120 attracted to a man when they have to tame the devil inside of him that's why they go 0.98
00:04:15.580 for these Tyrone's and Chad's right oh the guy's got this streak of things and a
00:04:19.040 woman thinks I can save him I can be the one that bring him out of hell I can be
00:04:23.340 the one to build him into the angel he can be so the woman is trying to tame the 0.99
00:04:27.800 devil and that keeps the relationship together but when it works the other
00:04:30.800 way when a man is trying to tame the devil in a woman I can get I can rescue 1.00
00:04:34.440 her for her life I can give her the life because she's she's a single she's a 0.97
00:04:38.120 single mom I can help her now and that's where everything breaks down so like
00:04:41.660 as a man you have to make yourself dangerous and then it works in a
00:04:47.740 powerful man situation when you've got money you've got status all those things
00:04:51.880 yes but when you're talking about younger girls with like the chads and the guys
00:04:55.060 those guys are the ones that younger girls are trying to tame and think oh he'll 0.91
00:04:59.740 change for me he'll love me you can't keep those relationships together the
00:05:03.300 woman can never to keep that relationship together because that guy doesn't have to 1.00
00:05:06.400 choose you and he isn't gonna choose you well my wife hang on a second like I was 1.00
00:05:09.580 when my wife married me I was making well over a million dollars a year and I was
00:05:12.400 like I met her 26 and then she and she got me to commit and and honestly very
00:05:17.200 happily but are you a Chad what do you yes I think so if you don't think so that's
00:05:22.060 fine you don't have to think so I was let's see 26 years old six foot four
00:05:25.720 playing ice hockey four times a week making 1.6 million dollars a year at 26 that
00:05:29.980 was me and so you know you don't have to think when you're in like it was I was I
00:05:34.940 getting checks yeah lots okay but I'm not I'm not saying that money gets gets
00:05:42.000 go back to Jim really forget about the money they didn't know normal normal
00:05:47.780 situations normal life normal going out to the club not I have never met me you
00:05:52.280 know millionaires and things like that so I'm not talking about that but
00:05:55.280 generally those guys even you've like killed my point the point the point was
00:06:02.660 to kill your point because because here's the thing 85 listen 85% of
00:06:07.100 millionaires are married 85% of billionaires are married the marriage
00:06:10.880 statistics for men actually go up the wealthier they are and the divorce rates
00:06:14.160 go down the wealthier a man is so what should a man's goal be if he truly wants
00:06:17.740 to build a happy successful life is to get more money now settle down but it's
00:06:24.380 more like like the women probably just aren't good enough yeah no I possibly mm-hmm 1.00
00:06:29.360 for those yeah for those men you know I watch one once and it's men date down
00:06:33.740 women day up or sleep up and I agree with that hundred percent um so that 1.00
00:06:39.320 that's probably the case as well that he's sleeping with you but he won't
00:06:42.500 consider you as a one there were lots of women like that in my life and that's 1.00
00:06:45.320 fine they just didn't meet the criteria that I wanted for wife yeah so you 1.00
00:06:49.220 obviously you talk a lot from the man's perspective but we could also teach
00:06:52.280 women not to even look at those guys cuz they're not like if you're not I have two 1.00
00:06:57.860 daughters I'll tell you right now 100% look at those guys 100% it's not the
00:07:01.580 million I'm talking about the ones that aren't millionaires ambition just have
00:07:05.920 she's are you talking about the broke yes yes she's talking about hot bro guys
00:07:13.960 with swag with charisma because they can't even like they don't even have drip
00:07:20.660 where I come from yeah they can afford a pair of that's the danger that's the
00:07:26.060 I think dating is more difficult for women than it is for men and the reason 1.00
00:07:29.900 I believe it's more difficult for women is because you're putting yourself in a 1.00
00:07:33.820 position where like if you commit to the wrong guy or give yourself the wrong guy
00:07:37.100 a it will lower your value for the next high-value guy and you can lose your
00:07:41.240 market value as that time passes right yep so women women have to be you can be 1.00
00:07:45.940 attracted to those guys and everything but it's like you have to draw the line
00:07:49.040 of where do you think your chances are for potential relationship with this man I
00:07:52.760 also know a couple of girls used to work in our company like one example she was 1.00
00:07:56.760 22 23 one of the most beautiful girls that I've ever seen she was working our 1.00
00:08:00.020 company she was an amazing salesperson right met a guy now she lives on a yacht 0.99
00:08:03.740 Monaco and that guy committed to her and they're happy and they've been together
00:08:06.800 for a pretty long time and it's like she was not only attractive and garnering
00:08:11.900 attention she was also a great judge of character and potential and that's the
00:08:17.720 hard part it's like it's easy for a guy to judge looks but it's real hard for a
00:08:21.420 woman to judge a man's character and potential but those men do exist 85% of 0.87
00:08:25.620 millionaires are married statistically speaking men who are married once and
00:08:29.280 retired married have I think four times more money than men who get divorced and
00:08:34.380 twice more than men who get divorced and remarried but those that got divorced and
00:08:38.160 remarried still have twice the amount of wealth so successful men actually marry
00:08:41.820 and by the way if you want to find a successful man because the girls like oh 1.00
00:08:45.120 they're never married that's not true there's significant offer there's
00:08:48.100 significant business business how do I put this there's positive business
00:08:54.900 outcomes for men who are married because men want to do business with other men
00:08:58.240 who are doing good things for the community who are trustworthy and
00:09:00.300 reliable so a lot of times when you're doing business you ask the guy about his
00:09:03.400 wife and his kids and his family and you don't trust the guys so much that are
00:09:06.480 42 and single trying to get you to invest a million bucks you trust the guy
00:09:09.580 that's 42 who's got a wife and three four kids and they've been married for 15
00:09:13.080 years that's the guy you trust so there's a lot of market pressure on the
00:09:17.340 successful guys to do that you just have to be the right girl I've worked in this
00:09:21.720 sex industry for a long time and most of the men that come to me a rich married
00:09:26.400 man yeah they're rich and they're married I don't get broke men come and the
00:09:34.020 married man they're happy in their relationships but you're not because
00:09:37.840 you're finding pleasure somewhere else wait so I'm curious like what what do you
00:09:41.940 do is the dominatrix so how do you know how much money they make because they 1.00
00:09:49.800 tell me I've been to their houses before oh see yeah and I see all their
00:09:52.980 girlfriends and their wife's pictures okay so you'll go to their actual house
00:09:57.540 I'm like I'm sad I don't dominatrix that like when you would you know when you're 0.83
00:10:02.100 horrible
00:10:05.400 Wall Street is that like that stuff um I'd say a bit more extreme like making many
00:10:11.520 people eat from the toilets um oh my goodness yeah men pay for this rich men
00:10:17.460 people in the politics okay people who do politics and stuff you'll find them all
00:10:21.780 there they want you to hit them and make them eat from the toilet and ask you a 0.98
00:10:25.680 question and they go home to their wife and kiss them can I can I can I ask you 0.99
00:10:29.100 are these two questions I'm actually really sure so number one are these guys that
00:10:32.940 you would find conventionally charismatic and attractive or like they
00:10:35.580 would get other chicks anyways or they would not I've had very good-looking 1.00
00:10:39.120 men I'm very ugly man let's go second question the very good-looking man is
00:10:42.900 there a risk because you're one thing that you offer like my friend says this 0.99
00:10:46.020 that a sex worker offers it's not it's not the sex that they offer it's the
00:10:50.580 privacy it's the can it's like the fact that there's not gonna be yeah yeah are
00:10:54.000 these good-looking guys and get other choices for them is it because just a
00:10:56.880 safer way to do it yeah maybe yeah yeah because it may be political or he won't go out and
00:11:03.120 speak to them and they can confide in me because they know I don't know them they
00:11:06.900 don't know me and they could block my number never talk to me again and I'd
00:11:10.800 never be able to contact them anyway do you have to sign on DA's or anything um
00:11:16.500 sometimes I mean I've done it twice and only because one of the people that came 0.95
00:11:20.880 to me actually knew him I didn't want him to you know leak how many how many rich
00:11:26.160 men have you so you've done this throughout three three four years how many
00:11:29.280 rich men clients have you had I only see high-class men so all of them Wow yeah
00:11:36.800 probably not all of them but very very high majority of them I reckon out of
00:11:42.420 all of our police in ten low-class men Wow so I don't like low I don't know is
00:11:48.960 that because of like is that because of you so is that kind of because of your
00:11:55.400 market specifically like or is that typical among do you have friends that
00:12:00.020 do the same thing um I've quite a few friends there in like the industry but
00:12:05.000 my main friends what the amount of lives and stops um but I meant like out of your
00:12:10.320 other friends that do sex work are their clients mostly rich too yeah wow yeah I'd
00:12:15.800 say so yeah surprising to me it's not surprising at all it makes perfect sense
00:12:19.340 now by the way just just to be clear just because all your clients are rich men
00:12:22.460 does not mean that all Richmond kind of thing right it's like statistically it's
00:12:26.240 about 20 percent uh 20 percent of men that cheated the higher income bracket
00:12:30.200 and statistically it's about 20 percent of women in the lower income bracket but 1.00
00:12:33.500 as a man's income goes up his percent propensity to cheat grows from like 13
00:12:36.980 percent about 20 percent it sort of levels out about 200,000 and then for a
00:12:40.520 woman her propensity to cheat actually drops from 20 down to about 13 as a man's 0.96
00:12:44.180 income goes about 200,000 I've looked at some really interesting charts about that
00:12:47.660 so I just want to be like yes that obviously exists but it's not already
00:12:51.800 but it makes sense that it would be rich men because they just I think it's a
00:12:55.300 financial thing yeah like for a lot of guys to drop 500 bucks could be a lot of
00:12:58.820 money but if it doesn't mean anything to you it's like what whatever yeah yeah
00:13:01.420 what is it what do you cost um it depends so in half an hour an hour
00:13:06.300 overnight is that cleaning sorry we're talking about
00:13:09.420 dominatrix is non-sexual they're not allowed to touch you you're basically a goddess in their eyes you 0.94
00:13:17.200 know it's not like a school and service it's not like that so overnight I charge
00:13:20.860 1.5k for an hour 300 pounds with a hundred pound deposit and that's not even
00:13:25.980 including the extras because they want me to do really dirty things I put their 0.56
00:13:28.500 head in the toilet or maybe poo on them I'm not ashamed of it I've done it I have
00:13:35.540 done it no one's ever done it to me but I have done it to them and I'll admit that 0.99
00:13:39.220 you pooped on a guy yeah was he a good-looking guy yeah he actually that he
00:13:43.540 actually was he actually was
00:13:45.460 you don't want to meet him in the street and be like I think he's nice
00:13:50.060 it feels more wrong when they're good-looking for some reason because it
00:13:53.840 feels like they shouldn't even be there yeah you know I think and I say to them
00:13:57.280 why are you here they say because it's just easier and I like my fetishes and you
00:14:01.680 know you said about the fat woman there's so many men that have a fetish a fetish of 0.57
00:14:06.420 fat women but they won't admit it to the public because it's shameful but they 1.00
00:14:10.920 love it that's what I was they love but they're not marrying them but the rubber 0.97
00:14:14.040 the market value is the marriage they're not marrying them but I look at things on
00:14:17.760 extreme by the way when I think they're ashamed to marry them when I said earlier 0.98
00:14:21.600 just because a guy wants to crap on you and that's like whatever you crap on them 0.51
00:14:24.880 and that's like you don't consider that I was being like yeah I was being like
00:14:28.740 that was a hyperbole I was really exaggerating
00:14:30.880 do guys ever pay to like crap on the girls they do but I'd never do that I'm 0.61
00:14:39.580 I'm the one that's in the power no man could ever do that to me 0.97
00:14:42.640 even if you was Chris Brown or whatever you know one see this is what I find I
00:14:47.800 find this perplexing because it's you know so a rich guy will marry the high
00:14:52.420 value woman but he still wants what he wants yeah this is like you might you might like
00:15:00.880 steak every day but every now and then you got to get a mcdonald's you know
00:15:04.180 what I mean every day every now and then mcdonald's is nice I thought that's why I
00:15:09.520 get a bit confused because where I get the really high-class men come to me
00:15:13.240 sometimes it confuses me because I'm like you shouldn't be here so they don't
00:15:17.140 want that so in my eyes they don't want the high value the high value woman is for 1.00
00:15:21.220 their own ego this no it's a high value for the children not for the show for
00:15:26.200 the children and obviously that's good if you we feel with a really high class
00:15:30.820 person it makes yourself look better as well because we whoever you're with
00:15:33.760 reflects on who you are as a person as well I just I just think it's like what
00:15:37.480 they want long-term like I think men will always crave variety which yeah I'm
00:15:41.460 definitely is whales I guess yeah yeah yeah a fetish is always a good thing
00:15:48.360 I don't know there's a reason why they hide thousand fetishes yeah not every
00:15:54.060 fetish needs to be played out there's even a fetish and then guys will pay you to 1.00
00:16:00.420 pop balloons with your bum cheeks and it's like what why like how does that turn 0.87
00:16:06.240 like how does that I don't know all these men that do come to me it does root
00:16:14.580 down to some sort of childhood issue or trauma it definitely does because even
00:16:18.720 like the whole dominatrix thing where they like being her abused and horrible 0.73
00:16:23.160 names they've got issues they've got a lot of issues and their issues that they
00:16:28.920 need to obviously maybe it's maybe it's maybe it's like mommy issue yeah I've had
00:16:35.920 men cry to me before and sit in my lap what do they cry to you about just their 0.68
00:16:39.340 life that they're they've got money and I hate their life and they're always on
00:16:42.520 drugs like what do they say what are their problems just that they're not
00:16:47.080 happy them in their marriage they're always working they're always stressed
00:16:50.260 they're always on you know you know why do you know why they're not happy in
00:16:54.700 their marriage like what are their complaints I mean I don't really go to and
00:16:57.540 I just kind of just let them cry on me wow but yeah no because after that I need
00:17:02.440 mind therapy when I deal with men like that but yeah yeah that's what I mean
00:17:08.020 so it's very mentally draining for me to do this job and I know I shouldn't be in
00:17:11.440 it because it's like I'm taking on everyone else's trauma and I need to deal
00:17:14.620 with mine first so yeah just a caveat like again because all these guys come
00:17:18.880 to you doesn't mean that all guys that are like that do go to that kind of a
00:17:21.520 service the reality is that wealthier people do do report a significantly
00:17:26.140 higher statistical mean of being satisfied with their life and they report a
00:17:31.840 significantly higher happiness sort of index to their marriage which is again
00:17:36.440 why 85% of millionaires are married so what you're reporting is not actually the
00:17:40.300 norm that is the fringe of that it just is I just want guys to understand it
00:17:43.720 because there's some guys here listening like oh see that's why I don't be
00:17:46.160 successful because I'm just gonna be sad no so this look you'll be way happier
00:17:49.340 you'll be way happier just trust me guys build yourself definitely yeah I feel
00:17:55.480 like you just get the odd rich men who obviously aren't doing it the right way
00:17:59.020 they're abusing themselves with drugs and things like that they some not everyone
00:18:02.680 loves their life you know they'd rather cry in a Ferrari yeah yeah yeah