JustPearlyThings - April 29, 2023


This Should Be Stigmatized


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

214.60065

Word Count

2,531

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

7

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary

In this episode we talk about emotions and how men should be more open about them. We discuss the stigma around men being emotional and why it's important for them to be more emotional. We also discuss the importance of men showing their emotions.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 what do you guys think the biggest thing that men don't understand about women is and that women
00:00:06.260 don't understand about men oh maybe i feel like i as a woman don't understand how men portray their
00:00:19.940 emotions i find it hard to like if there was like uh i don't know how to explain it like
00:00:26.100 wait come back to me i need to word it in my head before i actually say it out loud is it is it
00:00:31.860 sometimes like you don't understand like does your boyfriend do something where no no no so like
00:00:36.800 you gotta come back to me i need to word it i need to word it i need to word it that's fine
00:00:43.000 you you was yeah sorry to cut you so you you when you were saying that i was kind of thinking wrong
00:00:47.920 i know she's gonna say something about what men being upset and sharing their emotions like yeah
00:00:52.320 yeah yeah i feel like you're okay with me yeah yeah i can see where you're getting with it still
00:00:56.320 and that's something what i something what i would have said as well like in life do you know i mean
00:01:00.300 men men tend to not you know show their emotions as much as the alpha thing yeah in a guy yeah but
00:01:06.600 i think women like a guy to be more open and show them yeah yeah you know i'm saying but i think as
00:01:12.520 men i think as how we grew in it some men don't grow with their dads yeah had mummy around so man had
00:01:18.000 to take that role and being the stronger person do you know what i mean yeah so if dad was around
00:01:23.000 and man was seeing man upset then man might be a bit more open but i don't know my my circumstances
00:01:27.880 are different my dad weren't around yeah understand but my dad was there yeah you know what i mean but
00:01:31.760 my dad my dad passed away um during so and so i can't say but yeah that and um after that it's like
00:01:39.700 rah i never had a relationship with him but i still remember my dad and i remember all the things but i wish
00:01:44.140 he maybe was there at the start with my growing because it might have made me a different guy now
00:01:49.240 taught you things you didn't know i'm saying and and the one thing was emotions because a lot of us
00:01:54.240 keep boiling it up and we get angry and we don't want to show it because we feel weak yeah i mean but
00:01:59.600 it's not a dickheading to cry you understand or to to be open and show your emotions you know i mean
00:02:06.140 i've had to learn the hard way in life with certain things anyway so i'm only talking from myself you
00:02:11.660 know i mean i i was one of those guys who who built up the anger and wanted to just let out with bare
00:02:17.100 shouting and script but not crying and but then i learned that crying is is another healing it's
00:02:21.960 natural yeah it's a healing i feel like people like you coming and talking about um emotions being so
00:02:28.200 acceptable men is really important and i feel like it is you're so right like there's such a stigma
00:02:34.000 around men having like being able to be emotional or have like down days or but i feel like now
00:02:42.840 there's more and more positive role models coming out and who are kind of supporting that i think
00:02:47.880 there should be a stigma around men being emotional yeah you know yeah yeah i have to because i think
00:02:53.820 we need strong men in society you know what i'm not i'm not saying like boil it boil it up and don't
00:02:57.560 talk to anybody but i actually like don't think men should be overly emotional especially to women
00:03:02.160 because women i feel like don't like it long term you know it's good you know so let me just cut
00:03:05.820 and i was going to say something like conscious to what you're saying that i think definitely in
00:03:10.400 this day and age a lot of men who've been like just brought up by their mothers single parents
00:03:14.900 but their moms like they're very emotional yes and they've got that feminine traits because obviously
00:03:21.840 they're getting bang up by them yeah so even when you were saying about the man obviously i don't
00:03:27.460 that's new school business to me that man making accounts to hit yeah that's that's adulting and
00:03:33.420 i'm thinking but that's kind of girl business to me in my head i'm thinking that's girly business
00:03:36.700 yeah but that's nowadays mans are doing all these kind of girly yeah of course antics and so i agree
00:03:43.840 with pearl on that one you can still be really really masculine but just be like open to being
00:03:49.300 a little bit in touch with your emotions as well yeah but i didn't i mean it's a weird one
00:03:55.700 because masculine well yes if you're being like the masculine and men and old school men
00:04:02.660 it's you know really showing your emotions like that because that's just a man that's just
00:04:07.820 it doesn't mean you need to be like wearing your heart in your sleep all the time but like
00:04:11.140 just being okay with not being okay i think there's a time right i think i think society brainwashes
00:04:17.180 men to be women and i think i think we always we always like it's really weird because once you
00:04:22.020 see this you can't unsee it it's always like the feminine way to do thing is always this
00:04:25.680 assumed to be right so like how women deal with problems that's like assumed to be correct in
00:04:30.780 society like crying being emotional like that's assumed to be the right way to deal with it so
00:04:35.300 it's like we have a generation of men that have been told to be women where and it's like it's it's
00:04:40.420 really because the psychologists are mostly women the teachers are mostly women so it's like they
00:04:45.800 raise men to be women but like the way men usually dealt with problems at least historically was
00:04:50.760 aggression but like aggression is seen as bad like men fighting in the school yard that's seen as like a
00:04:55.360 negative thing i like you pearly man but you know this is what they they they paint they paint people
00:05:01.300 that are like that talk for themselves that have got confidence as as a toxic trait as well in like
00:05:06.540 social media people that uh confident confident and talk up and have the opinions and have their
00:05:11.960 strong viewpoints they create that kind of guy as toxic do you know what i mean so yeah cocky
00:05:17.300 arrogant toxic so a lot of a lot of guys don't don't are scared to be on true self because they're
00:05:22.560 scared to get cancelled because women love cocky toxic men and i promise you from doing these shows
00:05:28.340 oh i promise you yeah it's always like the girl like sometimes though like a girl will be arguing
00:05:32.800 with a guy and saying he's wrong the whole show but after she's flirting with him and i'm like
00:05:36.580 and so it's like it's like like girls say they don't like those traits but i think they genuinely do
00:05:43.940 people like confident people yeah yeah and so if you're confident people are going to like that
00:05:48.740 and you know what i think with this whole emotion thing these is everyone's just overly emotional
00:05:53.600 yeah way too yeah but yeah it's about keeping your emotions in check balance not being too overly happy
00:06:01.280 or too overly sad you know having that yeah it's just about balance yeah yeah that's where i find it
00:06:06.440 and again a lot of men are going on to fair enough women are more emotional we know this you know
00:06:11.580 but nowadays a lot of men are going over to that emotional side as well in a sense to me man needs
00:06:18.060 to kind of pull back i think you can be emotional without being feminine though as a man like you can
00:06:23.180 be a little bit you can just be like accept them move on deal with it in your way without having to
00:06:27.980 like block it out and hide it and or be feminine i don't know like a lot of some of these emotions
00:06:33.580 like they don't really benefit or help situations and that's why as a man we're not really that
00:06:41.880 emotional because it doesn't make that much difference how being emotional help a man survive
00:06:46.260 historically it won't it won't exactly it won't it's going to get you in trouble for anything
00:06:51.660 um i don't agree to a stent i hear what you man are saying um i won't personally say being emotional
00:06:58.420 when i was saying being emotional is be emotional around around everyone there's certain people to
00:07:03.080 be emotional around yeah do you feel me like if it's my brother my family people i'm close to me
00:07:07.880 they can see that i'm not saying cry around everyone i'm not trying to tell them i'm be a baby
00:07:11.860 you understand i'm just saying with the emotional thing you gotta know who and who you're being
00:07:16.680 emotional around so i hear what pearly saying about yeah i feel like they should put a stigma in it
00:07:21.100 but i get you but at the same time if the man ain't showing their emotions yeah when are you going
00:07:26.660 to them when someone's dead or when something's happening exactly that's right you know i'm saying
00:07:30.640 it's not that's not life like but it's always been like that is to be honest like if we look at if we
00:07:36.160 look at humans throughout history like from like like like an evolutionary perspective you know like
00:07:40.380 10 percent of um the our ancestors before what's it called like in the hunter-gatherer days literally died
00:07:46.480 from um murder so like how would being emotional help you survive back then when 10 percent of the
00:07:50.880 people were dying for murder isn't that crazy so so it's like like men don't have any biological
00:07:55.440 reason to be emotional so again we're women we have a biological reason to be emotional because
00:08:00.120 if we um got like if we bonded with the guy like then we would get his resources right so we have
00:08:06.720 biological reasons why we're more emotional than men where men don't so and while we are in 2023 and
00:08:13.440 it is like a modern world we don't get rid of our biology so by encouraging men to be emotional
00:08:17.720 it's like we're encouraging men to be women wow no no i don't agree with that i don't believe
00:08:22.280 that's what i'm saying that's what's going on you know i can't agree with that you have to look
00:08:26.280 around because that's what's going on crying crying for the right reasons is a healing bro yeah you've
00:08:31.080 got to cry to the right people you understand yeah yeah so where where you're telling me if i cry it
00:08:36.120 makes me weak or i've cried because now i've got over but she didn't say weak though no but i'm
00:08:41.880 saying some people look here as a different oh yeah but i like i mean you can't tell me
00:08:48.680 personally this sounds bad you know this sounds bad but like i do think men that like cry are weaker
00:08:58.120 in general yeah no because i know what she's saying i think about disagree okay but wait wait
00:09:03.000 hear me out hear me out hear me out hear me out as to why if we have guy a that cries 10 times a
00:09:07.400 month and guy b that cries zero times a month who's stronger like i just think like we we i know
00:09:11.880 there's exceptions but it depends on the situation that question what she just said yeah the guy say
00:09:18.040 it again let me answer exactly if guy a cries 10 times a month and guy b cries zero times a month
00:09:23.960 cool who's strong i go gym every fucking day that guy there cannot do me nothing i'm definitely
00:09:30.520 stronger than this done so there's nothing to do with oh whether i cry no no but i'm saying it don't
00:09:35.880 matter don't make you weaker if you cry talk into your mic oh sorry it doesn't make you weaker if
00:09:40.200 you're crying this is what i'm trying to show the people then do you understand it's not a weak thing
00:09:44.520 when you're crying it's a release thing it's it's it's what's happened and what you're going through
00:09:49.320 some emotions everyone's got feelings do you understand what i think i think i agree with
00:09:52.920 you i think you can go for yourself there's not like we don't need to it doesn't need to be one
00:09:56.360 extreme or the other it doesn't need to be but i think men are human men have feelings right and
00:10:01.560 if they don't let them out and it's not saying that's gonna punch up the place they need to go on
00:10:06.360 like instagram live and do it in front of everyone or like they need to do it every single time
00:10:10.840 they're out but if they don't they're gonna bottle up those feelings they're gonna get worse and worse
00:10:14.360 and then but suicide rates are so high with men and this is why i would actually say i would actually
00:10:21.560 say that suicide rates are high with men because women ruin them financially and take away their
00:10:26.680 children in the legal system and it's legal for them to do so i would say yeah like they zero out men
00:10:32.440 at about 45 when they've wasted 20 or you not wasted but they've spent 20 years of their life building
00:10:38.440 themselves up having a family and women just say i'm not feeling it today i'm going to take your
00:10:42.520 children and have your i would say that's the real reason that's suicide and we have a society of of
00:10:48.520 women telling men how to be like teaching men how to be women because it's like again at what point
00:10:55.240 is the man like is the crying enough right at what point is he a strong man you know and i just think
00:11:01.720 it's lying like the girls and no offense no offense to you not personally but but i feel like as women
00:11:06.760 like it sounds nice to say yeah cry to me however they do studies on this stuff and women lose
00:11:12.280 respect for men when they see you cry and they lose attraction for you so it sounds nice for me
00:11:17.960 to say yes cry in front of women but that's what i was going to say being on as many of you know i was
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