JustPearlyThings - This Should Be Stigmatized

00:00:00.000 what do you guys think the biggest thing that men don't understand about women is and that women

00:00:06.260 don't understand about men oh maybe i feel like i as a woman don't understand how men portray their

00:00:19.940 emotions i find it hard to like if there was like uh i don't know how to explain it like

00:00:26.100 wait come back to me i need to word it in my head before i actually say it out loud is it is it

00:00:31.860 sometimes like you don't understand like does your boyfriend do something where no no no so like

00:00:36.800 you gotta come back to me i need to word it i need to word it i need to word it that's fine

00:00:43.000 you you was yeah sorry to cut you so you you when you were saying that i was kind of thinking wrong

00:00:47.920 i know she's gonna say something about what men being upset and sharing their emotions like yeah

00:00:52.320 yeah yeah i feel like you're okay with me yeah yeah i can see where you're getting with it still

00:00:56.320 and that's something what i something what i would have said as well like in life do you know i mean

00:01:00.300 men men tend to not you know show their emotions as much as the alpha thing yeah in a guy yeah but

00:01:06.600 i think women like a guy to be more open and show them yeah yeah you know i'm saying but i think as 0.97

00:01:12.520 men i think as how we grew in it some men don't grow with their dads yeah had mummy around so man had 0.76

00:01:18.000 to take that role and being the stronger person do you know what i mean yeah so if dad was around

00:01:23.000 and man was seeing man upset then man might be a bit more open but i don't know my my circumstances

00:01:27.880 are different my dad weren't around yeah understand but my dad was there yeah you know what i mean but

00:01:31.760 my dad my dad passed away um during so and so i can't say but yeah that and um after that it's like

00:01:39.700 rah i never had a relationship with him but i still remember my dad and i remember all the things but i wish

00:01:44.140 he maybe was there at the start with my growing because it might have made me a different guy now

00:01:49.240 taught you things you didn't know i'm saying and and the one thing was emotions because a lot of us

00:01:54.240 keep boiling it up and we get angry and we don't want to show it because we feel weak yeah i mean but

00:01:59.600 it's not a dickheading to cry you understand or to to be open and show your emotions you know i mean

00:02:06.140 i've had to learn the hard way in life with certain things anyway so i'm only talking from myself you

00:02:11.660 know i mean i i was one of those guys who who built up the anger and wanted to just let out with bare

00:02:17.100 shouting and script but not crying and but then i learned that crying is is another healing it's

00:02:21.960 natural yeah it's a healing i feel like people like you coming and talking about um emotions being so

00:02:28.200 acceptable men is really important and i feel like it is you're so right like there's such a stigma

00:02:34.000 around men having like being able to be emotional or have like down days or but i feel like now

00:02:42.840 there's more and more positive role models coming out and who are kind of supporting that i think

00:02:47.880 there should be a stigma around men being emotional yeah you know yeah yeah i have to because i think

00:02:53.820 we need strong men in society you know what i'm not i'm not saying like boil it boil it up and don't

00:02:57.560 talk to anybody but i actually like don't think men should be overly emotional especially to women

00:03:02.160 because women i feel like don't like it long term you know it's good you know so let me just cut 0.99

00:03:05.820 and i was going to say something like conscious to what you're saying that i think definitely in

00:03:10.400 this day and age a lot of men who've been like just brought up by their mothers single parents

00:03:14.900 but their moms like they're very emotional yes and they've got that feminine traits because obviously 1.00

00:03:21.840 they're getting bang up by them yeah so even when you were saying about the man obviously i don't

00:03:27.460 that's new school business to me that man making accounts to hit yeah that's that's adulting and

00:03:33.420 i'm thinking but that's kind of girl business to me in my head i'm thinking that's girly business

00:03:36.700 yeah but that's nowadays mans are doing all these kind of girly yeah of course antics and so i agree

00:03:43.840 with pearl on that one you can still be really really masculine but just be like open to being

00:03:49.300 a little bit in touch with your emotions as well yeah but i didn't i mean it's a weird one

00:03:55.700 because masculine well yes if you're being like the masculine and men and old school men

00:04:02.660 it's you know really showing your emotions like that because that's just a man that's just

00:04:07.820 it doesn't mean you need to be like wearing your heart in your sleep all the time but like

00:04:11.140 just being okay with not being okay i think there's a time right i think i think society brainwashes

00:04:17.180 men to be women and i think i think we always we always like it's really weird because once you

00:04:22.020 see this you can't unsee it it's always like the feminine way to do thing is always this 0.98

00:04:25.680 assumed to be right so like how women deal with problems that's like assumed to be correct in 1.00

00:04:30.780 society like crying being emotional like that's assumed to be the right way to deal with it so

00:04:35.300 it's like we have a generation of men that have been told to be women where and it's like it's it's

00:04:40.420 really because the psychologists are mostly women the teachers are mostly women so it's like they

00:04:45.800 raise men to be women but like the way men usually dealt with problems at least historically was

00:04:50.760 aggression but like aggression is seen as bad like men fighting in the school yard that's seen as like a

00:04:55.360 negative thing i like you pearly man but you know this is what they they they paint they paint people

00:05:01.300 that are like that talk for themselves that have got confidence as as a toxic trait as well in like

00:05:06.540 social media people that uh confident confident and talk up and have the opinions and have their

00:05:11.960 strong viewpoints they create that kind of guy as toxic do you know what i mean so yeah cocky

00:05:17.300 arrogant toxic so a lot of a lot of guys don't don't are scared to be on true self because they're

00:05:22.560 scared to get cancelled because women love cocky toxic men and i promise you from doing these shows 1.00

00:05:28.340 oh i promise you yeah it's always like the girl like sometimes though like a girl will be arguing 0.65

00:05:32.800 with a guy and saying he's wrong the whole show but after she's flirting with him and i'm like

00:05:36.580 and so it's like it's like like girls say they don't like those traits but i think they genuinely do

00:05:43.940 people like confident people yeah yeah and so if you're confident people are going to like that

00:05:48.740 and you know what i think with this whole emotion thing these is everyone's just overly emotional

00:05:53.600 yeah way too yeah but yeah it's about keeping your emotions in check balance not being too overly happy

00:06:01.280 or too overly sad you know having that yeah it's just about balance yeah yeah that's where i find it

00:06:06.440 and again a lot of men are going on to fair enough women are more emotional we know this you know

00:06:11.580 but nowadays a lot of men are going over to that emotional side as well in a sense to me man needs

00:06:18.060 to kind of pull back i think you can be emotional without being feminine though as a man like you can

00:06:23.180 be a little bit you can just be like accept them move on deal with it in your way without having to

00:06:27.980 like block it out and hide it and or be feminine i don't know like a lot of some of these emotions

00:06:33.580 like they don't really benefit or help situations and that's why as a man we're not really that

00:06:41.880 emotional because it doesn't make that much difference how being emotional help a man survive

00:06:46.260 historically it won't it won't exactly it won't it's going to get you in trouble for anything

00:06:51.660 um i don't agree to a stent i hear what you man are saying um i won't personally say being emotional

00:06:58.420 when i was saying being emotional is be emotional around around everyone there's certain people to

00:07:03.080 be emotional around yeah do you feel me like if it's my brother my family people i'm close to me

00:07:07.880 they can see that i'm not saying cry around everyone i'm not trying to tell them i'm be a baby

00:07:11.860 you understand i'm just saying with the emotional thing you gotta know who and who you're being

00:07:16.680 emotional around so i hear what pearly saying about yeah i feel like they should put a stigma in it

00:07:21.100 but i get you but at the same time if the man ain't showing their emotions yeah when are you going

00:07:26.660 to them when someone's dead or when something's happening exactly that's right you know i'm saying

00:07:30.640 it's not that's not life like but it's always been like that is to be honest like if we look at if we

00:07:36.160 look at humans throughout history like from like like like an evolutionary perspective you know like

00:07:40.380 10 percent of um the our ancestors before what's it called like in the hunter-gatherer days literally died

00:07:46.480 from um murder so like how would being emotional help you survive back then when 10 percent of the

00:07:50.880 people were dying for murder isn't that crazy so so it's like like men don't have any biological

00:07:55.440 reason to be emotional so again we're women we have a biological reason to be emotional because 1.00

00:08:00.120 if we um got like if we bonded with the guy like then we would get his resources right so we have

00:08:06.720 biological reasons why we're more emotional than men where men don't so and while we are in 2023 and

00:08:13.440 it is like a modern world we don't get rid of our biology so by encouraging men to be emotional

00:08:17.720 it's like we're encouraging men to be women wow no no i don't agree with that i don't believe

00:08:22.280 that's what i'm saying that's what's going on you know i can't agree with that you have to look

00:08:26.280 around because that's what's going on crying crying for the right reasons is a healing bro yeah you've

00:08:31.080 got to cry to the right people you understand yeah yeah so where where you're telling me if i cry it

00:08:36.120 makes me weak or i've cried because now i've got over but she didn't say weak though no but i'm

00:08:41.880 saying some people look here as a different oh yeah but i like i mean you can't tell me

00:08:48.680 personally this sounds bad you know this sounds bad but like i do think men that like cry are weaker

00:08:58.120 in general yeah no because i know what she's saying i think about disagree okay but wait wait

00:09:03.000 hear me out hear me out hear me out hear me out as to why if we have guy a that cries 10 times a

00:09:07.400 month and guy b that cries zero times a month who's stronger like i just think like we we i know

00:09:11.880 there's exceptions but it depends on the situation that question what she just said yeah the guy say

00:09:18.040 it again let me answer exactly if guy a cries 10 times a month and guy b cries zero times a month

00:09:23.960 cool who's strong i go gym every fucking day that guy there cannot do me nothing i'm definitely 0.99

00:09:30.520 stronger than this done so there's nothing to do with oh whether i cry no no but i'm saying it don't

00:09:35.880 matter don't make you weaker if you cry talk into your mic oh sorry it doesn't make you weaker if

00:09:40.200 you're crying this is what i'm trying to show the people then do you understand it's not a weak thing

00:09:44.520 when you're crying it's a release thing it's it's it's what's happened and what you're going through

00:09:49.320 some emotions everyone's got feelings do you understand what i think i think i agree with

00:09:52.920 you i think you can go for yourself there's not like we don't need to it doesn't need to be one

00:09:56.360 extreme or the other it doesn't need to be but i think men are human men have feelings right and

00:10:01.560 if they don't let them out and it's not saying that's gonna punch up the place they need to go on

00:10:06.360 like instagram live and do it in front of everyone or like they need to do it every single time

00:10:10.840 they're out but if they don't they're gonna bottle up those feelings they're gonna get worse and worse

00:10:14.360 and then but suicide rates are so high with men and this is why i would actually say i would actually

00:10:21.560 say that suicide rates are high with men because women ruin them financially and take away their 0.57

00:10:26.680 children in the legal system and it's legal for them to do so i would say yeah like they zero out men

00:10:32.440 at about 45 when they've wasted 20 or you not wasted but they've spent 20 years of their life building

00:10:38.440 themselves up having a family and women just say i'm not feeling it today i'm going to take your 0.99

00:10:42.520 children and have your i would say that's the real reason that's suicide and we have a society of of

00:10:48.520 women telling men how to be like teaching men how to be women because it's like again at what point

00:10:55.240 is the man like is the crying enough right at what point is he a strong man you know and i just think

00:11:01.720 it's lying like the girls and no offense no offense to you not personally but but i feel like as women

00:11:06.760 like it sounds nice to say yeah cry to me however they do studies on this stuff and women lose 1.00

00:11:12.280 respect for men when they see you cry and they lose attraction for you so it sounds nice for me 1.00

00:11:17.960 to say yes cry in front of women but that's what i was going to say being on as many of you know i was

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JustPearlyThings - April 29, 2023

This Should Be Stigmatized

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