JustPearlyThings - October 23, 2023


Tiktok Fame RUINED Her Marriage


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Length

9 minutes

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Word count

1,812

Sentence count

140

Harmful content

Misogyny

21

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Toxicity

5

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Hate speech

17

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In this episode of Thick & Thin I discuss fat jokes, TikTok star Bella Porch, and why women need to be in the public eye. I also talk about why women should be more selfless in their relationships.

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00:00:00.000 So, as you guys know, I've talked a lot about beautiful, majestic creatures on this channel.
00:00:07.820 For those of you that know that, no. Fat chicks. Now, fat chicks really get sensitive when we talk 1.00
00:00:14.440 about their weight. And the truth is that men prefer thinner, healthy women. And typically,
00:00:20.620 what you see from bigger women is that they get mad and they just shit on me for this opinion. 1.00
00:00:27.420 But recently, an overweight woman has come out to give her opinion on fat jokes. Let's pull it up. 1.00
00:00:36.300 Okay, let's do it. If you get mad over fat jokes, lose the weight, okay?
00:00:41.240 That's what I'm saying.
00:00:41.840 Let's do it.
00:00:52.420 BBL sponsor.
00:00:53.420 Oh, wait. Actually, I think that was a dude. I don't know. I just, I saw the clip. But seriously,
00:01:00.480 guys, and I actually love this because it's so much better when you could just poke fun on yourself.
00:01:06.080 I'm not saying to bully people into oblivion, but I mean, come on, guys. I'll take a ginger joke.
00:01:12.220 You know what I mean? You can't get that big and not be able to take a fat joke here or there.
00:01:17.280 You know, we've sort of lost this ability in America. Like, like, I remember when I was a kid,
00:01:22.540 early 2000s. I mean, it was more common to see racist, sexist, and homophobic jokes, let's just
00:01:29.480 say. But as women have entered the media and the workforce, you really see that going away because, 1.00
00:01:36.100 and it's interesting that this is a dude, like, actually that's saying that because men are better
00:01:40.840 able to take being made fun of. Where women, we just don't really do it well. And my plea to women
00:01:48.820 is if you want to be in a man's world, if you want to be on the internet, if you want to be in the
00:01:52.200 media, if you want to do all this stuff, then be in it. Be in it. Don't cry and complain about being
00:01:58.060 made fun of later when you ask to be in a guy's world that you didn't have to be in. And that's
00:02:03.200 why you see this phenomenon when women enter a space like politics, media, and corporations. 1.00
00:02:09.220 You see this phenomenon of people policing speech, human resources, lawsuits, et cetera.
00:02:15.280 When at the end of the day, we cannot police speech. We can't. And again, I say, if you want
00:02:20.500 to be in a man's world, be in it. Okay. So, so last but not least today, I want to talk about 0.97
00:02:26.460 Bella Porch. So Bella Porch is a viral TikTok star. This woman, so I remember early TikTok days when 0.77
00:02:34.160 Bella blew up. So this woman had the most viral TikTok of all time, the most viewed video with 0.99
00:02:40.780 over 50 million views. And it was so interesting to just see her face. Like she found a way to make
00:02:46.120 her face like move with the muse. It was kind of cool. And recently I saw a video of her on Call
00:02:52.240 Her Daddy talking about how her career actually led her to divorce. Let's pull it up. 0.98
00:02:58.260 I want to be an artist. I want to sing. I want to be like, I want to be in the spotlight. Like I want
00:03:04.920 to perform. And, um, I don't think he ever wants to be part of that. Sometimes it just, it just sucks
00:03:11.200 because, you know, like you want to do something for yourself and like a career, but then you love
00:03:19.340 someone and they, they can't handle it. So it's just like, you kind of just have to pick, right?
00:03:23.840 So words are important. And I wanted to point out something that she says during this video that you
00:03:29.020 kind of just have to pick. And, you know, she goes on, I watched this whole interview. She actually
00:03:33.020 goes on to talk about how he was a really private person and her becoming a public figure really just
00:03:39.580 damaged their relationship and they couldn't handle it. And again, you'll, you'll see this tendency
00:03:45.200 for women to, and I hear older women talk about this too. I just want to do something for myself.
00:03:50.960 And it's funny because when men do selfless things, they're a lot less narcissistic with it.
00:03:58.080 And they don't look at it as a burden. They look at it as a duty where when women tend to 1.00
00:04:02.720 do things like for the family, they look at it as a detriment. They, they hold resentment to the
00:04:09.620 people that hold back their decision. Now I will say this decision may work out for her.
00:04:14.700 She may end up getting remarried. She may be able to have it all, but there are thousands of women 1.00
00:04:20.940 that watch these types of videos and think they will have the same outcome as a woman that is worth 1.00
00:04:27.360 millions and millions of dollars. That is born one of the most, I would argue top 20 ish percent of
00:04:35.040 beauty. Most women will not have these outcomes for making selfish decisions. And typically women in 1.00
00:04:42.760 her shoes don't end up having good outcomes anyway, but I just, I want to give the devil's
00:04:47.340 advocate here. And here, this woman says she's speaking for so many women here. She is. And that's
00:04:53.360 the sad part. She absolutely is speaking for many women because many, most women are selfish in 2023. 1.00
00:05:03.080 Most women care more about themselves and their career than their family and children. 1.00
00:05:09.440 And she admits it there that her career was more important and she was going to pick herself.
00:05:16.120 And I don't, I don't really, I'm a little bit, I have a nuanced opinion on this stuff.
00:05:21.620 Do what you're going to do. At least she didn't have children. Okay. But don't complain later.
00:05:26.400 Don't whine and cry about the outcomes later. You're a man. If he really loves you, he'll support you no
00:05:33.120 matter what. Oh really? What if she wants to do sex work? What if she's putting their relationship 1.00
00:05:38.880 in a compromising position? No matter what? Really? Really? And this is this feminist garbage that 1.00
00:05:45.720 we've just been programmed, that's been shoved down our throat, that says we can do everything a man can 1.00
00:05:51.040 do and still have it all. The truth of the matter is everything in life comes with choices and trade-offs.
00:05:56.240 You cannot have everything. Juna Palop says she chose her dreams. He can't just be proud of what
00:06:02.340 she has accomplished right now. Well, at what cost is the question? And you don't know the ins and
00:06:07.800 outs of the story. You don't know his side of things. Maybe she was going out and putting their 0.77
00:06:12.200 relationship in compromising position. Maybe he's a private person and didn't sign up to be a part of
00:06:17.820 that life. And the thing is, women will constantly lead other women down the path of destruction. 1.00
00:06:23.620 So now, you know, the question becomes, is the grass greener on the other side? For Bella,
00:06:27.780 I really, I hope it is. I never wish negativity on people, but I will say in most cases it's not.
00:06:34.260 Bella Porch is talking about here splitting the bill on a recent date. Let's pull it up.
00:06:39.940 Have you gone on any dates? Like, what's the vibe? Yeah. Okay. I actually went on a date a few
00:06:46.340 days ago. How'd it go? It was weird because I, he likes me, but we split the bill.
00:06:53.620 It's interesting because women want to be modern when it benefits them, but traditional when it 1.00
00:07:02.940 doesn't. I'm sorry, but why is this girl worth millions and millions of dollars complaining 1.00
00:07:07.400 about splitting the bill? I mean, you know, you wanted to be modern, which is fine. No hate, but
00:07:13.060 don't complain about the outcomes later. And these guys are probably thinking this girl's worth,
00:07:18.500 I don't know what she's worth, but I would guess upwards of 10 million. Especially what they were
00:07:23.980 paying for TikTok brand deals back in the day. Guys, it was stupid. It was crazy. These people 1.00
00:07:29.120 were making so much money. I actually, I met a bunch of the top like TikTokers back then. Oh my God. 1.00
00:07:35.600 It was so crazy. I met the D'Amelios back in the day, which is like another top TikTok family. And it
00:07:41.340 was just briefly, but it was so crazy to me to see these like 18 year old kids, you know, driving
00:07:47.140 sports cars, having private drivers, going out to these super expensive, very interesting, very cool
00:07:52.600 actually. You know, it's like they want to be, you can't have everything. You want to be modern, you
00:07:57.080 know, take what comes with it. And I think that's actually the trend we're going to see in the West
00:08:01.540 because you'll see it in Japan. It's actually super normal to split the bills there. Like it's like
00:08:06.820 not, I've asked people over there and they say it's like very normal. The women don't even think 1.00
00:08:12.640 much of it. I think that's a trend you're going to see here because again, you know, the price of
00:08:16.740 women is going up and men are kind of getting sick and tired of paying for something. They don't really 0.79
00:08:21.640 get any value out of. So user 85 says you're not supposed to split the bill. Hey Nika, don't date 0.99
00:08:29.440 him again. LOL, red flag. Chaboy, this is the etiquette. Listen up. Whoever asked for the date should pay.
00:08:37.380 And I used to, I used to actually have different views on this. Like I think a couple of years ago,
00:08:43.220 I used to say that like men should pay. And I, my issue with that logic is like, we can't have 1.00
00:08:49.860 everything. We either want to be modern or we want to be traditional. And the question is if, you know,
00:08:55.240 paying is a deal breaker for you or are you the traditional chick that deserves to be paid for? 1.00
00:09:01.960 But to be fair, I think most guys, to be honest, pay anyway. Like there's just, you know,
00:09:06.020 most guys don't really fight it like that.
00:09:07.680 Actually, I've been getting stuck.
00:09:09.080 So, let's get started.
00:09:09.420 I think maybe folks because we flip the digital meter into a few minutes and I'll
00:09:13.100 keep rising out.
00:09:14.620 I'll probably leave some des зums at about 20 minutes.
00:09:15.620 And then I have to begin the other one.
00:09:17.040 How many people happen?
00:09:17.520 I think that you're not getting close to these terms today.
00:09:18.980 So?
00:09:19.580 How many people?
00:09:20.680 Do you wanna get rid of that?
00:09:21.280 What's going on?
00:09:22.180 And then we'll keep the tunnel?
00:09:24.420 I actually wonder if he times like there's just something
00:09:26.240 cleanup.
00:09:26.880 But to be honest everyone who is ready.
00:09:29.360 I've been on this other side of the party's worst time and there's they look
00:09:31.920 up.
00:09:32.820 Then what's going?
00:09:33.740 Well, then you're able to winino?