JustPearlyThings - Traditional Woman Was SHOCKED By This FACTS

00:00:00.000 even like when we talk about cheating like if the guy does it it's always we demonize him but if the

00:00:05.440 girl does it the first question is always why like why what made her cheat why did she cheat 1.00

00:00:10.640 i don't know i would i would say i would always ask why did the guy cheat i always

00:00:15.920 i don't think that's you think you think that's common when you see it on when you see it on say

00:00:19.600 tick tock when they tell cheating stories it's always that if you look at any cheating story

00:00:23.840 on tick tock if it's a girl telling it the story of how she cheated like they'll always say oh well

00:00:28.160 why did she cheat what yeah but for the men it's like you know if i say he cheated because he

00:00:34.320 hasn't slept his wife hasn't slept with him in three years they still make him out to be the bad guy

00:00:39.200 okay yeah fair enough actually i don't think you're wrong it's like you know one out of four marriages

00:00:43.280 is sexless usually on the man's part or like on the woman's part yeah oh wow yeah one out of four

00:00:49.680 i've known i've known somebody been married it's really common yes yeah oh yeah i don't think i

00:00:55.760 could it's easy to slip into could you when you have babies when you look no i'm sorry it's easy

00:01:02.000 to slip into i honestly i just feel like when we have conversations about sex in marriage like women 0.91

00:01:07.280 have to be honest there are points in your marriage where you have to make an effort where you have to

00:01:12.160 look at your husband and say okay he needs take one for the team like he needs me in this capacity

00:01:20.560 and i may not feel like it for the foreseeable so let me avail myself in the same way you would want

00:01:26.640 like your husband or your partner to avail himself in whatever other scenario or even the same i just

00:01:33.760 feel like it is not that uncommon for a woman to not want to have sex because when you become when you

00:01:41.280 are a woman of a house you've got a lot going on especially if you work as well there's a lot happening

00:01:47.440 and you have babies and stuff like that i just feel like sometimes yes like the wife is required 0.94

00:01:53.760 to make an effort she's not always going to feel like it but some women choose not to make an effort 0.99

00:01:58.640 some women are like i will wait until i feel like it and you will wait until i feel like it can i ask 1.00

00:02:04.080 you a question so if you didn't feel like it you still do it well if he wanted to i just feel like my

00:02:11.040 husband's watching but yes like i will i will because he needs he needs me in that like i just

00:02:19.520 feel like for men it's not always i'm horny like it's like their way of connecting to you they like

00:02:27.440 they want to be close to you and they don't want to sit down and have a gossip about what you did

00:02:32.240 they don't want to listen to your like stories that you say is going to be two minutes but actually

00:02:36.400 she's an hour and a half they want to connect like that way like just sometimes you have to avail

00:02:41.840 yourself yeah sure you watch me and one of pearls podcasts before pearl no you remember the one

00:02:48.400 where i said about the women what's your opinion auntie what if what if she doesn't feel like it 0.89

00:02:52.480 i was like she don't feel like it you know just like read the book bend over and just like you

00:02:57.680 know watch tv be on the phone but you know what not not always because the fact of the matter is is

00:03:04.400 if you are with someone that person loves you and understands you so if you don't feel like it

00:03:09.680 there's going to be times like oh that's fine yeah yeah leave you alone but then sometimes like you

00:03:13.840 may not feel like it for like two months wow that long don't look at me i'm not telling my story

00:03:26.640 it could be that okay you might have had a baby might have been traumatic whatever

00:03:31.200 who knows so if you having the baby not talking about you but just like you know yeah if you

00:03:37.840 was having a baby you didn't feel like is there other ways that you can please your man

00:03:41.520 okay then just checking we all yeah we all know there's well grown unaware

00:03:47.200 no because i said this before and i and i said that you know basically a woman should refuse a man 1.00

00:03:53.440 you know if her husband yeah that you know i mean yeah exactly but for women they want to make love 1.00

00:03:59.120 for a man it's just like give me five minutes can i ask you know i think that's okay what happens if

00:04:03.760 you're really angry at him about something he's done and he wants it right there and then like do you do

00:04:09.120 it that could be better than counseling yeah i can't ever see me being so angry that i don't

00:04:26.160 want to have sex with my man you've never had makeups listen that's the best kind sorry mom i'm just 0.96

00:04:32.480 saying i've never had makeup sex you've never oh neither have i we're gonna talk it out oh yeah 0.99

00:04:39.360 don't touch me no i don't know when you say makeup sex i i always think oh like you've sorted out and 0.53

00:04:44.960 then yeah yeah it's like oh come give me a hug and then it's like yeah it's not to solve it and

00:04:49.440 i feel like you become closer and it's nice yeah but that's where that's why you get stuck in your toxic

00:04:55.680 situation i'm not having a go because i've done the same but then that's what i think that's your

00:05:02.560 choice yeah if you resolve it i think i don't see if you feel like it's resolved yeah if you're happy

00:05:08.480 i wouldn't do it to mask i think mask is the perfect word you know that you can't have sex if you're not

00:05:14.320 happy you can't make love yeah you have to so you've got to make sure that the problem's solved you can't

00:05:18.880 just say oh yeah you know everything's fine but deep inside you're angry yeah you have to clear it

00:05:24.240 because you know you can't have angry sex but i don't think you can have sex if you're not fully 0.97

00:05:28.640 in it anyway well that's me personally i don't know about you lot i'll do it just to let him shut

00:05:32.640 up i'll give him five minutes i also think full play works yeah he'll get you in the mood any man

00:05:39.280 can get you in the mood yeah the right man no the right man can get you in the mood yeah it depends

00:05:44.000 on how you feel yeah but yeah like yeah the general rule is if you want to eat you like you have to

00:05:50.080 prepare it like yeah cook it marinate your chicken how long do you think a guy if he goes without 0.54

00:06:00.080 sex like okay i'm trying to phrase this question so how long let's say you haven't had sex with him in 0.74

00:06:05.680 a month is it acceptable for him to cheat no like like at what point have you like not slept with your

00:06:12.160 guy where it's kind of understandable that he steps out because we could agree probably that if you haven't

00:06:16.160 slept with him in two years he's probably gonna step out if my man don't sleep with me in a month 1.00

00:06:21.120 i think it's over i think he's finished with me i've got a question actually off the back of that

00:06:25.920 no it's not you it's like you not sleeping yeah and all seriously never like no i can't see it

00:06:30.400 happening a guy has been deprived for that long like get to the point of saying you've deprived me

00:06:34.640 for this long i feel like i i need it and i'm gonna get it like just talk to me yeah communication

00:06:42.080 yeah if he's addressed it to me and come come to me and be like look this is how i'm feeling

00:06:47.520 retta tent and i haven't tried i think the same as an argument and i haven't tried to resolve it

00:06:51.760 yeah resolve it at that point leave me but that's i feel like but it's not that simple for a lot of

00:06:57.120 guys but maybe because it's like they lose custody to their kids no i think i i know i agree it's not

00:07:02.800 that simple but if you want me to answer the question right and white no but in real life everything's a

00:07:09.920 little bit more complex than that so i get it there's exceptions of everything that well yeah

00:07:14.640 and i honestly i just feel like even like me as a married person like i've told my husband this before

00:07:20.800 i don't feel like cheating is a deal breaker if i just don't feel like change i feel like you can

00:07:28.320 literally work through anything i really do but on like just to answer your question right no no no

00:07:35.680 yeah but at least like two months okay two two months two months okay no at least like some

00:07:42.960 people will be like oh you're having sex in two weeks yeah i was wondering what aspect are we okay 0.96

00:07:48.800 so why wouldn't you be having sex with him sometimes whatever the reason yeah i mean some girls some 1.00

00:07:54.400 girls yeah you can yeah some girls do it to like control the guy oh yeah sadistic i think sometimes 1.00

00:08:01.600 i remember one in four marriages are sexless i mean maybe she married she didn't marry the guy 1.00

00:08:06.160 she wanted and she's not really attracted to him anymore yeah i mean there's a million reasons i

00:08:10.480 think if it started that way then it's different if it's changed like throughout you need to look

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JustPearlyThings - March 21, 2023

Traditional Woman Was SHOCKED By This FACTS

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