JustPearlyThings - April 08, 2023


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Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

215.29213

Word Count

2,674

Sentence Count

284

Misogynist Sentences

6

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode, we discuss what it means to be an alpha female and why men don t want to deal with alpha females. We also talk about the perception of an alpha male and why alpha females have a bad reputation.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 And like, that's why men don't want to deal with alpha females though, because like the
00:00:03.040 men like that, like I'm thinking of, I'm thinking, I'm thinking, wait, I'm thinking of my dad.
00:00:07.160 Right.
00:00:07.400 And he, he is so logical.
00:00:10.080 He is so logical that like, and I, and me, when I, when I have a business problem or
00:00:14.160 whatever, I get so stressed out.
00:00:15.680 Sometimes I'll like cry.
00:00:16.680 Like, I'll just be like, and I'll call him and he's so good at just like, okay, what
00:00:20.620 is the problem?
00:00:21.760 Like, what is the problem?
00:00:23.500 This is like, okay, here's one solution.
00:00:25.420 Here's two solution.
00:00:26.180 But like men like that, they don't want to have a girl that's constantly arguing with
00:00:30.180 them.
00:00:30.600 Wait, wait, wait.
00:00:31.260 But alpha, that's what, that might not be what you meant, but typically that's what all alpha
00:00:35.420 females.
00:00:35.800 All right.
00:00:36.080 Do you know what?
00:00:36.560 Do you know what?
00:00:36.920 I see what I see.
00:00:37.540 Now I can see where you're coming from.
00:00:38.640 What is an alpha?
00:00:39.980 That's a leader.
00:00:40.840 Yeah.
00:00:41.260 So, so how, how is in that situation?
00:00:44.360 I mean, that's, that's like family, but in that situation, how do you wait?
00:00:48.060 Leaders are not always pigheaded leaders.
00:00:49.760 It don't mean that it's my way or the highway.
00:00:51.780 Yeah.
00:00:52.140 But at the end of the day, like they want to know that you trust them to make a decision.
00:00:55.220 So they don't want, they don't want to hear like why, like one thing I didn't understand
00:00:58.600 about men is like, when you say why to them, it's like annoying.
00:01:01.480 It is.
00:01:01.940 Like they're like, why are we doing this?
00:01:03.260 Like they don't want to explain it.
00:01:04.400 I'm not going to, I'm not going to, I'm not going to, it's like a child.
00:01:06.600 It's like with my, it's like with my kids.
00:01:08.060 You know, when you do that, why, why?
00:01:09.720 Because I fucking said so.
00:01:11.480 Yeah.
00:01:12.720 Yeah.
00:01:12.960 Like that one.
00:01:13.920 Not every two seconds.
00:01:15.180 Why?
00:01:15.660 Sometimes, but sometimes I mean, it's when they ask why, sometimes it's oh, because blah, blah,
00:01:19.820 blah.
00:01:20.080 But when the why's keep coming and the why's keep coming, it's because I said so,
00:01:23.200 isn't it?
00:01:23.400 Yeah, but, but that's the point.
00:01:25.280 So that's why I got, cause when, what, what is an alpha?
00:01:27.300 That's a leader.
00:01:28.080 So the leader is the one that that's saying, this is where we should go.
00:01:30.820 This is the problem we should solve.
00:01:32.180 Yeah.
00:01:32.360 And so when I, when I speak to my dad, like I have a really good relationship with him
00:01:36.480 because I trust him.
00:01:38.000 Yeah.
00:01:38.280 And because when he tells me to do something for the, I mean, sometimes, sometimes I don't,
00:01:42.440 but for the most part, like I listen, right?
00:01:44.240 Right.
00:01:44.480 There you go.
00:01:44.820 Sometimes, but then that's what I mean.
00:01:46.140 Yeah.
00:01:46.300 But usually when I don't listen, it doesn't work out.
00:01:48.300 And I'm like, I should have listened to you dad.
00:01:49.660 But then we know that that happens, but then it doesn't, I think, I think sometimes it's
00:01:54.720 just a perception.
00:01:55.460 That's, I think that's maybe another thing.
00:01:56.900 That's maybe another topic.
00:01:57.740 The perception of an alpha on an alpha and an alpha female and an alpha male.
00:02:01.800 Yeah.
00:02:02.080 I think that might be, I think there's different perceptions and there might be a whole definition.
00:02:06.380 But it's also, but it's also, it's age, it's age, like my dad, my dad, my dad, where was
00:02:10.740 my dad now?
00:02:11.220 50.
00:02:11.840 I should know.
00:02:12.740 But, but the question is why, why do we have those perceptions?
00:02:15.940 Like we can't, if, if the women that say I am an alpha female have a reputation of something
00:02:20.840 like that's the alpha female's fault.
00:02:23.440 Like there's a reason they have that reputation.
00:02:25.580 Why is it going to be a fault to be in an alpha female?
00:02:28.020 I mean, I just feel like everything in life is your own fault.
00:02:30.140 So if you're, if, if they make an assumption of because you're an alpha female.
00:02:33.400 Why can't it be your own greatness instead of your own fault?
00:02:35.440 Why does it have to be, why does it have to be, in this situation, it's because men
00:02:39.880 don't want it.
00:02:40.960 What men?
00:02:41.580 Because my life's not happy with it.
00:02:42.760 I mean, I don't know your personal situation, but typically the most successful men with
00:02:46.760 the most options don't typically want alpha females.
00:02:49.120 Because they've got the most options.
00:02:50.320 Because who wants, who wants, who wants a woman who's just going to, but then more time
00:02:54.100 as well, you've got to think the ones who, the ones who don't want the alpha female,
00:02:57.460 they'll still go and cheat, you know.
00:02:59.820 That's not true.
00:03:00.780 No, that's not true.
00:03:02.080 That's, that's like, that's statistically untrue.
00:03:04.220 Okay.
00:03:04.560 You don't like that.
00:03:07.500 That's what it is.
00:03:08.220 It's just not true.
00:03:10.080 Spicy smud.
00:03:11.240 Wait, what do you mean?
00:03:12.580 Hold on.
00:03:13.380 I want to, I want to, I want to, what, what do you mean it's not true?
00:03:15.760 Okay, let me ask you guys a question.
00:03:17.280 Do you believe that successful people tend to be more logical than unsuccessful people in
00:03:21.040 general?
00:03:21.360 Are they more logical or less logical?
00:03:23.080 They're more logical.
00:03:24.240 Do you guys all believe that?
00:03:25.520 I would say so.
00:03:26.140 Okay.
00:03:26.420 What does it mean to be logical?
00:03:27.760 Define that.
00:03:28.200 Um, logical, calculated, actually, actually thinking and processing it and thinking what's
00:03:35.280 the best way to make a decision?
00:03:36.920 Okay.
00:03:37.160 Is what makes sense.
00:03:38.240 I'll make, I'll make it really simple.
00:03:39.640 Being logical simply means that you value what you want most more than what you value what
00:03:43.720 you want right now.
00:03:44.580 Yeah.
00:03:45.420 Okay.
00:03:46.000 That makes sense.
00:03:46.680 Okay.
00:03:47.000 So you're saying like, oh, these guys all cheat.
00:03:48.960 I don't know what kind of dudes you know.
00:03:50.320 I didn't say, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
00:03:51.340 I didn't say, whoa, whoa, chill out.
00:03:53.160 I mean, that was, I didn't say, oh, and also, I don't know what you, I just said, but you
00:03:57.820 just said, you just said, you said statistics, but what, what, what groups were, were, were,
00:04:04.240 were involved in, in doing the, in the statistics?
00:04:07.100 Well, I'll make, I'll make it.
00:04:07.920 Well, different, what, what, what, what, what, what, what life circle they lead.
00:04:13.240 What successful men?
00:04:13.800 Exactly.
00:04:14.460 Okay, well, let's, let's, let's, let's, let's, let's, let's, let's, let's, let's, let's,
00:04:18.820 let's, we're talking about successful men.
00:04:20.300 So what do you guys, what is the typical millionaire like?
00:04:23.020 That's an interesting question.
00:04:23.700 What's the typical millionaire?
00:04:25.220 I wouldn't know.
00:04:25.440 I probably would say he waits something about five o'clock in the morning.
00:04:28.440 Oh, what'd you say?
00:04:28.920 What's he normally like?
00:04:30.440 That's his lifestyle.
00:04:31.620 You probably, you know the answer to this.
00:04:32.840 It depends.
00:04:33.700 Like the ones I know are small business owners.
00:04:35.200 They're all, they're all, are they fun or boring?
00:04:37.880 Fun.
00:04:38.160 They're like fun, like usually outdoorsy.
00:04:40.500 I mean, the ones I know.
00:04:41.620 But are they like rappers and ballers or are they literally like accountants and IT professionals?
00:04:46.060 Politics.
00:04:46.460 They're related to politics.
00:04:47.540 They're structured.
00:04:48.480 Their lives are pretty simple.
00:04:49.720 They avoid tabloids.
00:04:51.320 Parliament.
00:04:52.240 Do they have a routine in their life?
00:04:54.320 Like a very strong routine.
00:04:55.780 And they're very disciplined also.
00:04:57.040 They're very disciplined.
00:04:57.580 Very disciplined.
00:04:58.320 They're really disciplined.
00:04:59.340 So it's like, again.
00:05:00.100 And that filters across the whole of their life.
00:05:02.040 It's not just in one specific area.
00:05:03.820 They're logical.
00:05:04.560 They make decisions that are good for the future versus now.
00:05:07.440 That's correct.
00:05:08.120 Does that make sense?
00:05:08.740 So it's like, so it's like there's a significant amount of risk mitigation.
00:05:12.460 It's like, I understand what's happening.
00:05:14.060 Yeah.
00:05:14.120 There's some slime balls, of course.
00:05:15.440 But for the successful guys that are the typical, like logical, calculating, dependable.
00:05:21.260 Are they dependable?
00:05:22.580 Yeah.
00:05:22.880 The successful people have a lot of people depend on them.
00:05:24.880 Yeah.
00:05:25.440 If they mean what they say.
00:05:26.940 Well, if you're a small business owner, you've got to be damn dependable.
00:05:29.780 Like people, you know, because that's your, that's your livelihood.
00:05:32.800 So you're dealing with a group that's dependable, logical, strategic, risk mitigating.
00:05:37.160 Disciplined.
00:05:38.020 And by the way, they get divorced way less.
00:05:41.840 Like millionaires, remember?
00:05:43.020 90% of them.
00:05:43.720 85% of them.
00:05:44.660 Yeah.
00:05:44.920 Okay.
00:05:45.280 Okay.
00:05:45.540 But a lot of millionaires, though, they have a double life as well.
00:05:48.440 A lot?
00:05:48.800 That's what it means once a month.
00:05:50.040 Let's just save it.
00:05:50.760 Once a month.
00:05:51.020 Do you know how many meetings?
00:05:52.100 I'm just curious.
00:05:52.620 They do drugs and they go prostitutes and all of them.
00:05:54.560 I just, I, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, wait,
00:05:58.060 wait, wait, guys, guys, guys, stop, stop, stop.
00:06:00.620 Okay.
00:06:01.580 Out of, how many millionaires do you guys know?
00:06:04.580 A couple.
00:06:05.200 Okay.
00:06:05.540 So how, how, up to you.
00:06:06.840 That's what I was just saying.
00:06:07.780 I said, I don't know any.
00:06:08.820 Okay.
00:06:09.120 Okay.
00:06:09.460 Okay.
00:06:09.760 Oh, no, I do.
00:06:10.360 Guys.
00:06:10.620 I do know, I actually do know two.
00:06:11.680 Two?
00:06:12.040 How close are you with them?
00:06:14.520 One close-ish.
00:06:19.100 Yeah.
00:06:19.480 Okay.
00:06:19.780 So no, no male millionaires?
00:06:21.320 Yeah.
00:06:21.420 The other one.
00:06:22.400 Okay.
00:06:22.700 What does he do?
00:06:25.360 He is in distribution.
00:06:29.320 Okay.
00:06:31.600 Predominantly in property, property development.
00:06:33.780 How many millionaires?
00:06:34.920 You know?
00:06:35.700 On my, on my two hands, I could count.
00:06:37.980 Okay.
00:06:38.300 How many?
00:06:38.780 Oh yeah.
00:06:39.340 Property may.
00:06:39.980 I could see that.
00:06:40.460 Yeah.
00:06:41.540 Yeah.
00:06:41.900 Yeah.
00:06:41.920 Yeah.
00:06:41.940 Yeah.
00:06:42.620 I used to date a multi-millionaire.
00:06:45.620 What happened?
00:06:46.280 Do you have two ex-wives?
00:06:46.920 What happened?
00:06:47.500 Yeah.
00:06:47.660 What happened?
00:06:48.120 Why don't you?
00:06:49.060 Should have held on to that one.
00:06:50.580 No, no, definitely.
00:06:51.860 Yeah.
00:06:52.100 But at the same time, like they say, they live a double life.
00:06:55.660 Yeah, of course.
00:06:56.880 I've seen it with my eyes.
00:06:57.960 Because he was obviously, he wasn't from here.
00:07:00.560 You don't find much millionaires in the UK.
00:07:03.560 And even if you do, they're always like, they're from another country and they've come
00:07:07.920 here and they're traveling and they're this and that.
00:07:10.600 And you know, it was dating for a long time.
00:07:12.720 Okay.
00:07:12.740 So you don't know any, you know some, you know some, you know millionaires.
00:07:16.860 Yes or no?
00:07:17.240 A few.
00:07:17.480 A few.
00:07:18.520 One hand.
00:07:19.460 You do?
00:07:20.540 It's not that I know them, but I met like five, six of them.
00:07:24.220 Yeah.
00:07:24.460 I did.
00:07:25.040 And I've seen with my eyes, they're double lives.
00:07:27.260 I've seen double lives.
00:07:28.940 They do after parties for two, three days.
00:07:32.180 Trust me.
00:07:32.980 So I've seen it with my eyes.
00:07:34.060 They do the words.
00:07:35.060 Wait, wait, wait.
00:07:35.560 So what type of industries are they in?
00:07:38.220 Lawyer, like big lawyers, the one day, like, you know, they're next to the judge.
00:07:42.480 Hey, can you put your mic down, please?
00:07:44.300 Some producers of films.
00:07:49.080 So you go to these after parties and you see them cheating there?
00:07:52.620 Sini.
00:07:53.240 Yeah.
00:07:53.740 Okay.
00:07:54.080 So what do you say to that?
00:07:54.920 Well, I, I, my company now has over 15,000 clients, over 95% of them, I'm sure are millionaires
00:08:01.820 or above.
00:08:02.480 So 15,000 is a pretty good data set.
00:08:04.860 My question to you guys would be offensive question coming up.
00:08:09.060 Why are these duplicitous slimy characters picking you and for what?
00:08:13.120 Or why are they picking the people in the crowds you're hanging out with?
00:08:15.540 Like, what kind of crowds are these?
00:08:16.960 Like, I'm not.
00:08:17.420 Well, well, well, well, I'm in the entertainment industry.
00:08:21.200 There is the other side.
00:08:22.780 There's the blue pole and the red pole.
00:08:25.080 Yeah.
00:08:25.280 But not everybody makes them.
00:08:26.420 Where are you going, man?
00:08:27.520 I didn't say I met all of them in after parties, though.
00:08:29.880 What?
00:08:30.420 Say that.
00:08:31.040 Say that.
00:08:31.200 I didn't say I met all of them in after parties.
00:08:33.120 I met them in a specific occasion that made me think about them.
00:08:37.280 I know because of people and I've seen them.
00:08:40.580 You're changing what you said.
00:08:42.140 You didn't say that.
00:08:43.400 No, I've seen it a couple.
00:08:44.920 I've seen it a couple, but the rest that I haven't seen it, I know because of my friends
00:08:49.300 are friends of, you know, like, I know how they do.
00:08:52.560 But then why are your friends involved with them?
00:08:55.140 Because there are, how can I say, events in London.
00:08:58.280 There are so many things going on in London and people know people.
00:09:01.760 That's how you meet people in London.
00:09:02.460 I've seen too much and my heart broke, honestly.
00:09:05.200 I've seen so many people where I've seen them, like, with their partners all happy
00:09:09.160 and there's me making conversations, speaking with the wife, talking about kids and babies
00:09:13.620 and all that.
00:09:14.640 And then...
00:09:15.240 You see them with another woman.
00:09:16.140 When I see the person, one or the other cheating secretly, just breaks my heart.
00:09:22.040 But then again, sometimes people's hoism is normal as well where they have open relationships.
00:09:27.880 So you also don't know, but I've, yeah, but being in, working in the media industry for
00:09:33.240 10 years plus, I've seen a lot and I've crossed paths with many millionaires.
00:09:37.060 But millionaires, there's two, obviously, I'm coming from the entertainment industry
00:09:41.480 aspect, what I've seen.
00:09:43.140 But by what, what's your name, Saregan?
00:09:46.520 Dimitri.
00:09:46.960 What Dimitri was saying, yes, there's also, there's also a group of, of men that I know
00:09:53.720 that are very loyal because they need to protect.
00:09:57.060 Their wife is like their asset.
00:09:58.740 They need to protect them and make sure they kind of make it work.
00:10:02.400 Of course, but we cannot say that, like, millionaires, they're not cheaters because
00:10:05.900 they have this, this, this and that.
00:10:07.560 Like, there is that and that, like, in life, there is everything of, everything, you know?
00:10:12.240 Everything's open.
00:10:12.620 Like, it's not like, oh, because they're millionaires and because they think logically
00:10:16.040 or because they have a certain lifestyle, they don't do that because they are saints.
00:10:20.740 That's not like, do you know what I mean?
00:10:22.840 See, it's, it's interesting.
00:10:24.380 So I actually, I sort of see both sides on this because like where I grew up, the cheating
00:10:28.660 just wasn't really that big, to be honest, where I grew up and I grew up in a pretty like
00:10:33.080 well-off community, but at the same time, the numbers don't support you like at all.
00:10:38.040 It's like the cheating rate is one, and this is just self-admitted.
00:10:40.800 It's one out of four until you get over 250,000, then it ups to 50%, and that's just self-admitted.
00:10:46.360 So it's probably higher.
00:10:48.180 Yeah, 100%.
00:10:49.260 Sadly, but, you know.
00:10:50.540 People don't like giving their, their realities away.
00:10:53.900 But what?
00:10:54.780 Come on.
00:10:55.400 But then it's like, then you ask the question, how reliable is a self-report?
00:10:58.440 You know, it's, it's, okay, so go ahead, go ahead.
00:11:02.020 Can I just ask, have we moved on from that original question?
00:11:04.840 No, I just want to bring it all the way back, because I need to give my perspective before
00:11:10.400 we even move on.
00:11:12.020 Go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.
00:11:12.900 Like, me as a man, forget all of that, and I'm glad, I'm glad what you said, my brother.
00:11:18.980 Go ahead.
00:11:19.300 You get me?
00:11:19.800 Because I feel like every time I get my point across, people say I'm wrong, but I feel like
00:11:24.620 the past, the past is very important.
00:11:28.160 Do you know what I'm trying to say?
00:11:29.200 Yes.
00:11:29.400 Some things build your character.
00:11:31.700 Yes.
00:11:31.860 Some things are part of you.
00:11:34.300 Yes.
00:11:34.660 Yes.
00:11:34.740 And to be fair, it does.
00:11:37.060 I'm sorry.
00:11:38.100 Because even me.
00:11:39.160 If I don't want to do, I'm sorry.
00:11:41.560 No, it's true.
00:11:42.260 You know what I'm trying to say?
00:11:43.580 What you've done, you've done.
00:11:45.400 Yes.
00:11:46.100 So now what?
00:11:46.840 I've got to pick up baggage.
00:11:48.720 I've got to deal with luggage.
00:11:51.000 I'm sorry.
00:11:51.840 So, yeah, man, for me, I don't judge anyone.
00:11:55.440 I've done a video myself.
00:11:58.180 As a man, you love the hoes.
00:12:00.460 Appreciate the hoes.
00:12:01.420 Nothing's wrong with them.
00:12:02.480 Nothing ain't wrong with them.
00:12:03.640 But can you marry them?
00:12:04.860 But for me now, marriage, I'm sorry.
00:12:09.320 But listen, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
00:12:15.900 platform.
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