JustPearlyThings - May 31, 2023


Unhinged FEMINIST Won't Accept this Simple Fact @JWALLER ​


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17 minutes

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3,918

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351

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Misogyny

22

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In this episode, we talk about self-care and how important it is to have a healthy relationship with your partner. We also talk about what it means to be a woman in a male-dominated world and why it's important to be self-aware.

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00:00:00.000 You ever noticed that when women talk about, when a lot of women talk about kind of these single season and taking time for themselves, it's never any kind of improvement that benefits their future partner?
00:00:10.400 No, for me it is.
00:00:11.720 It's never like I'm training, I'm trying to develop qualities that my man was like, I'm trying to be the kind of woman, it's always like I'm just letting myself be me, you know.
00:00:19.240 Because maybe it's about her soul.
00:00:20.320 I think that's definitely important.
00:00:22.760 Because what it really is is a carousel bro, let's call it how it is bro.
00:00:25.800 You know, they're all going through this scene in a season, like bro, it's just a bunch of d***s. 1.00
00:00:29.800 But why should self-healing be about your man?
00:00:34.700 Why should self-healing be about another person?
00:00:37.160 It's self-healing.
00:00:37.940 The point is, the point they're making is that we're...
00:00:40.120 Self-healing from what?
00:00:40.520 She's 21 years old.
00:00:41.880 No, but you can do...
00:00:43.200 This generation is so different.
00:00:44.820 I'm so sorry, the things that are 21 years old are going through, love ways, I feel like, is crazy.
00:00:50.120 Guys, guys, guys, guys, guys, we have to do one at a time.
00:00:52.300 The point of this healing, I would imagine, is to become a healthy person, then have a healthy relationship, right?
00:00:56.560 Yeah.
00:00:57.060 But that healthy relationship needs another person.
00:00:58.860 So when you're healing yourself, you're also trying to develop the qualities that the other person would like.
00:01:03.280 See, men understand this, right?
00:01:04.680 We don't go to the gym and just decide, I'm just going to be some gym dude.
00:01:07.740 Now I want to do better with my job.
00:01:09.720 I want to have better fashion sense.
00:01:10.920 I want to work in my anger management.
00:01:13.720 Men understand this, but I never hear women talk about, like, the difficult things. 0.89
00:01:19.420 To me, I define it as things that actually take work.
00:01:21.860 Like, when you talk about the men you want, I never hear about things that take work.
00:01:25.980 Like, I'm going to have to learn how to have a conversation.
00:01:27.540 I'm going to have to learn how to be, support him in a way that still respects him.
00:01:30.860 I never hear about the difficult things.
00:01:32.560 It's always what comes naturally.
00:01:34.280 It's always accept who you are, whatever you are, all the time, and wait for the world to come to my doorstep.
00:01:39.820 No, it's true, because even in my last relationships, I was realising I was the one always making the decisions or, like, in, like, literally all of my past relationships.
00:01:48.400 Well, not much, but, yeah.
00:01:49.680 So I was the one making decisions, and that's more of, like, a masculine trait, yeah?
00:01:53.600 So what I had to realise was how to have a conversation in a way that was more feminine. 0.61
00:01:58.000 Like, what you were saying earlier, like, if the man was to come with his problems, instead of me saying, okay, cool, I'm the one that has to fix it and think, or what's the answer to his problem?
00:02:06.240 More like, you know what, you got this.
00:02:08.080 Like, I know you can do it.
00:02:09.320 Like, I believe in you.
00:02:10.760 You can do that.
00:02:11.780 And letting him come up with the answer and be the man.
00:02:14.320 So I'm kind of working on things like that a bit more on, like, my replies and stuff, because my automatic response will be, let me heal this man or da-da-da-da.
00:02:22.080 So I need to get out of that before getting into another relationship.
00:02:24.680 Can I ask you a question?
00:02:25.520 Yeah.
00:02:25.980 Have you considered that finding a man that does not bring his problems to you and solves them for his self might be the best life for you?
00:02:32.160 No, 100%.
00:02:33.160 But, I mean, if he does come to me about a problem, like, he's not coming to me to fix it.
00:02:37.700 He's just saying, oh, this happened.
00:02:39.320 Not a thing where it's like, oh, this happened.
00:02:41.220 What do I do?
00:02:42.120 But if it's like, this happened.
00:02:43.420 But it's like, as his woman, he's just knowing. 0.94
00:02:46.320 He's just venting.
00:02:47.380 He's just saying it.
00:02:48.100 But my response should be, you know what?
00:02:51.060 You got this.
00:02:51.740 That is fine.
00:02:52.340 But it's like, if he knows, like, from past experiences, that the woman is going to be fix his problem, fix his problem, and he's going to feel pity for, like, she's going to feel pity for him.
00:03:02.720 She's going to want to stop. 0.97
00:03:04.060 But if he knows that I, as a woman, I'm not going to feel pity for him, he will feel comfortable to, like, say it.
00:03:10.800 I have a question.
00:03:11.820 Do you want to be married?
00:03:13.460 Yeah, I do.
00:03:14.420 Do you feel like you were raised to be a wife?
00:03:16.220 Um, no.
00:03:21.500 In my household, no.
00:03:22.600 Like, I was born in a household with my mum and my dad.
00:03:25.900 But, and they're married and everything.
00:03:28.420 But I spent more time with my dad.
00:03:30.820 So that's why I feel like I've come off as, like, such an independent woman, like, boss lady in all my relationships.
00:03:36.720 I'll be paying for things because I was more with my dad.
00:03:39.140 And I would look up to him and be like, oh, I would look at him as my role model.
00:03:44.600 So I'll be like, you know, I'll pay for the dates, whatever.
00:03:47.220 But I'm trying to come out of that.
00:03:49.940 Like, that's part of my healing stage.
00:03:51.500 I'm trying to come out of it.
00:03:52.160 I'd like to ask you a follow-up question.
00:03:53.200 Yeah, go on.
00:03:53.740 For this question.
00:03:55.000 Would you be willing and accepting if a strong man came into your life and helped build you into a wife?
00:03:59.820 I'm not ready yet.
00:04:00.700 That's why I'm in this season.
00:04:01.200 No, no, no, no.
00:04:01.640 I'm saying, I hear you're saying that.
00:04:04.400 Carousel season.
00:04:05.100 I get that.
00:04:05.760 What I'm saying is, if he came into your life, would you be accepting of him building you into the wife that he wanted?
00:04:11.420 Yeah, I definitely will be.
00:04:12.940 Like, that is what I feel like this healing is for, for that.
00:04:16.380 So I'm ready for that.
00:04:17.540 Just to show of hands, who on the panel wants to be married?
00:04:23.400 Oh, yeah.
00:04:24.300 And who on the panel feels like they were raised to be a wife?
00:04:28.220 I think it depends on what.
00:04:29.840 I was definitely raised to be a wife.
00:04:31.560 How?
00:04:32.380 Because especially with my culture, I'm South American.
00:04:35.440 Which country?
00:04:36.320 I'm South American, Brazilian.
00:04:37.840 Oh, right.
00:04:38.160 Yeah, so I feel like in my culture, there's two sides.
00:04:42.460 There's obviously that the side that everyone talks about that's not very good and all of this bad stuff.
00:04:48.540 But then on the other hand, I've actually been raised in Brazil and I've actually grown up in a strict, like Catholic household.
00:04:55.200 My mum's always taught me how to be a wife. 1.00
00:04:57.920 Like, from a young age, she would tell me, like, oh, this is what, not really exactly what you have to do, but this is what a man.
00:05:06.300 What you have to show.
00:05:07.220 Yeah, like the traits that a man would like, like cooking, cleaning, being supportive.
00:05:11.900 Bring a woman home. 1.00
00:05:12.500 Yeah, bring other women home. 1.00
00:05:15.180 Okay, that's something I never agreed with, but that's just my personal choice.
00:05:19.040 Like, obviously, in the broader picture, I do see men bringing other women home, but in my personal choice, that was something that, that's something that can never run. 0.81
00:05:27.600 So I have a question for the women that said that they want to be wives, but they don't feel like they're raised to be a wife. 1.00
00:05:36.640 Do you guys have married women around you? 0.96
00:05:40.420 No.
00:05:40.660 No, I do.
00:05:43.280 Yeah, I do.
00:05:46.000 Rub it in.
00:05:49.540 Anyone?
00:05:50.600 Yeah.
00:05:51.320 Oh, you have?
00:05:52.480 Okay.
00:05:53.380 Have you guys ever sought to, like, seek that out?
00:05:56.620 What, in what sense?
00:05:57.520 What do you mean?
00:05:57.760 Because you want to be married, right?
00:05:59.280 That's the outcome you want.
00:06:00.360 So how would you learn how to be married?
00:06:02.960 You would look to people that are married.
00:06:05.240 Yeah.
00:06:06.120 Yeah.
00:06:06.580 Yeah, but it's a lot of sad.
00:06:08.060 Yeah.
00:06:08.400 Most of the time.
00:06:09.040 But, yeah.
00:06:10.040 I don't think about that.
00:06:12.240 I don't really look back at my past to, I don't know, to move forward.
00:06:17.520 I just know what I want for myself.
00:06:19.320 And I know that.
00:06:20.380 No, but I mean, if I wanted to be a pro, like I played volleyball, right?
00:06:23.540 I was offered a pro contract in the fall.
00:06:25.960 And what did I do to become a pro volleyball player?
00:06:29.020 Yeah.
00:06:29.280 Almost.
00:06:29.880 Right?
00:06:30.480 The YouTube thing took off.
00:06:32.160 I had to get coaches.
00:06:33.680 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:34.200 To teach me how to play.
00:06:35.400 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:06:36.080 No, I agree with that.
00:06:37.120 And I think that's a problem with society today.
00:06:39.520 We don't, I don't know.
00:06:41.380 I think people like Kevin Samuels, he was important because, especially for me, he made me think
00:06:48.680 about what the type of guys I want would want from me.
00:06:52.500 I never thought about that before I started listening to him.
00:06:55.020 You know, he was the first person to say, hey, like, it's all good thinking about what you want as a woman.
00:06:59.900 But what about thinking about what the type of guys you want would want from you?
00:07:03.780 How do you, how do you learn?
00:07:05.180 How do you go about learning what they want and then bringing that to the table?
00:07:08.640 And I think that's the problem with, with society today.
00:07:12.880 It's all about, yeah, it's all about, well, this is how I am.
00:07:16.560 And, you know, I need to find someone who can, who can match that.
00:07:20.260 But I definitely am somebody that thinks about what, you know, the type of husband I would want, would want from me.
00:07:27.820 I, I, um, and I acknowledge that I don't know everything, you know, which is why I'm, I don't know when people are talking.
00:07:33.700 I'm very quiet.
00:07:34.400 I, I'm like, I'm the type of person where it's like, I'm, I want to learn.
00:07:38.140 I want to learn.
00:07:38.920 Yeah.
00:07:39.100 What, what do you consult?
00:07:40.260 What, what, what is your source of information or where, where do you, where do you kind of gain your knowledge on this topic?
00:07:45.100 I hope not that book.
00:07:48.380 I haven't read that book actually.
00:07:49.660 I don't know.
00:07:50.800 Um, I think, um, I don't know.
00:07:54.280 It's just, it's just listening to conversations like this.
00:07:57.540 Kevin Samuels for me was somebody that really like got me interested in, in thinking about this sort of stuff.
00:08:02.760 I don't know.
00:08:03.460 I don't know.
00:08:03.940 I guess.
00:08:04.300 Yeah.
00:08:04.860 Well, there's a huge space online of self-improvement for men because men generally recognize, you know, if the, if the guy is sitting there and he's not getting, you know, the dating life he wants, he's not having the relationships he wants.
00:08:14.540 He recognizes, well, okay, I need to do something about this.
00:08:17.080 The onus is on me.
00:08:17.960 And so then, you know, they go to the internet and they find people who are talking about, you know, making money or, or, or going to the gym or, you know, all of these different things.
00:08:25.520 It's all about self-improvement.
00:08:26.600 I think there's less of that for women because I mean, there is, there is some, um, but there's less of it for women because, because plastic surgery, you have plastic surgery.
00:08:34.160 Cause women are mainly, you know, there's a, there's a sense in the culture that women are enough. 1.00
00:08:38.660 You know, we say, well, I'm enough, you know, um, that gets said very often, doesn't it?
00:08:42.840 And, and because women are sort of pedestalized in mainstream society, the woman is encouraged to think, oh, I'm a princess anyway. 0.94
00:08:49.020 I'm some, I'm, I'm somebody's queen anyway.
00:08:50.640 So I don't need to do anything.
00:08:51.720 And actually, really what we should all be doing is looking at how we can improve.
00:08:55.960 Word.
00:08:56.560 Cause I knew.
00:08:57.560 Yeah.
00:08:57.840 Go on.
00:08:58.560 Do you want to talk?
00:08:59.120 No, I was just going to say like, for me, I obviously I'd love to be married, like in the future.
00:09:03.720 I don't think, you know, I don't know a girl that wouldn't want to be in a happy marriage and this, but I wasn't raised by, uh, I was raised in a single parent household.
00:09:13.460 Like my mom raised me and my brother and she's not married.
00:09:16.460 She never got married to my dad.
00:09:17.700 And I couldn't ask for anything more.
00:09:19.520 Like, I think I have, I took some of the best morals from her and my grandma, like really, really strong, influential women in my life.
00:09:27.180 And I would take those things that I learned from them into my, into my future marriage.
00:09:32.160 And then anything added is about learning and picking up from other people that are also influential in your life.
00:09:37.980 You know, whether it be friends, family, who you see on social media, who you see just around.
00:09:42.260 I, that's what I think anyway.
00:09:44.360 Are you saying you don't think you should seek out married women for advice or you do? 1.00
00:09:48.180 I'm just confused.
00:09:49.480 No, no, no.
00:09:49.980 Like, I think it does help, but like, I'm just saying the process is just about learning.
00:09:57.040 If you haven't had that, you know, you don't know.
00:09:59.560 You know what this sounds like to me, right?
00:10:01.020 It sounds like when you ask a student whether they've done extra reading on the topic and they're like, you know, I saw some TikTok videos and YouTube show.
00:10:08.340 And I think like Tim was talking about something in the corridor.
00:10:10.680 I think you have to actively look to understand the divine feminine and the role of a woman and a wife and how that can complement a man.
00:10:19.820 I think it sounds like it's very, it sounds like you're not doing that.
00:10:23.920 But if you were to be honest with yourself to say, am I looking out, like, am I seeking out that information and really trying to, I'll tell you how a man does it, right?
00:10:32.760 I've read three or four books on how to engage with women because when I was younger, I couldn't, I couldn't get down texting game. 0.99
00:10:39.240 I had me and my, one of my closest friends in uni.
00:10:41.400 Our whole relationship is based on me learning how to text.
00:10:44.320 Now text people get no response and he would dissect the text and be like, you said too much here.
00:10:49.640 This could have been a simple sentence.
00:10:51.160 It was a compound sentence.
00:10:52.460 You kind of gave the impression that you asked him for permission here.
00:10:54.960 And I eventually figured it out.
00:10:56.620 I read The Art of Seduction.
00:10:57.920 I read Bang Volume 1, 2.
00:10:59.400 I read all these books to try and understand women. 1.00
00:11:01.920 And I feel like you need to do a similar thing to understand what the man, you want, a high level man, would want from a woman.
00:11:07.260 Yeah, but the problem is, Alex, when we're sold these books, like, why men love bitches to understand men. 1.00
00:11:13.700 Or the movie Hitch.
00:11:15.180 It's like, what quality book is there to understand men?
00:11:18.640 You're being misled.
00:11:19.700 You're being misled.
00:11:20.500 Even Hitch, Hitch doesn't even make sense.
00:11:22.260 So he's this suave guy.
00:11:23.520 He meets a woman who's, like, got basic levels of confidence, falls in love with her, and then gives up his whole life and stability to chase her.
00:11:29.540 It's a movie about ego.
00:11:31.400 It's what these women, like, these women that baby trap athletes think. 1.00
00:11:35.560 They're like, oh, I'm going to change him, and then he's going to, like, drop everything.
00:11:37.920 And that's the real message.
00:11:39.360 It's not saying I had to change.
00:11:40.600 I had to meet him halfway.
00:11:42.120 I had to help him feel safe.
00:11:43.380 That's not what it's saying.
00:11:44.560 It's saying you're so cute that top men will eventually fall for you for no reason because you're good enough.
00:11:49.760 I do still think it is a whole process.
00:11:53.020 Like, I'm, like, the youngest person in this room.
00:11:55.140 I'm 20, you know.
00:11:55.860 I'm not looking to get married next year.
00:11:58.300 Like, the whole thing is just a journey, and it's growth, and it's about personal growth.
00:12:03.740 And, you know.
00:12:03.940 Well, the answer, no, is okay.
00:12:06.620 Like, if you could just say no.
00:12:08.740 Yeah, no.
00:12:09.260 But it's like, we give these.
00:12:10.840 You know, I'm not looking to find a married partner.
00:12:13.980 Like, I'm 20, do you know what I mean?
00:12:15.300 But I'm just saying.
00:12:16.280 Right, but it's like you give this, like, word salad instead of just no.
00:12:19.380 Nah, but from someone who doesn't, hasn't had that growing up, being in a married household, I'm happy with what I got.
00:12:26.620 You know, I can sit and be comfortable with that.
00:12:29.160 When do you want to be married by?
00:12:30.920 I don't know.
00:12:31.420 I don't have a, I don't have a.
00:12:33.020 So, 45?
00:12:35.140 Oh, no.
00:12:35.660 Hell no.
00:12:36.020 That's like.
00:12:36.600 Okay.
00:12:36.860 So, you do have a rough.
00:12:38.280 Okay, so, 35?
00:12:40.360 Yeah, I'd say so.
00:12:41.480 Okay, so you want to be married by 35?
00:12:43.080 Yeah, I'd say that was right.
00:12:44.740 Well, I'm not putting, like.
00:12:46.500 Why?
00:12:46.960 Is that mad?
00:12:47.640 Do you want kids?
00:12:48.400 Because it clearly sounds like there's no woman around you who are saying, listen, you're young, you're gorgeous.
00:12:52.240 This is the time you set the foundations for who you want to be.
00:12:54.860 It sounds like they're saying, just chill.
00:12:56.880 Trust me, when women get past a certain age, the pool reduces significantly. 1.00
00:13:01.360 No, absolutely not.
00:13:02.500 I disagree with that.
00:13:03.300 But, like, my mom is so, like, you wouldn't cross my mom.
00:13:07.760 Like, she's so strong.
00:13:08.800 I think whether that's to do with her job or just the fact that my grandma was also a single parent.
00:13:14.240 Whether that's to do with that or whatever.
00:13:15.060 How old is your mom?
00:13:16.200 She is 51.
00:13:18.240 And she has a job? 0.98
00:13:19.240 Yeah, she's a lawyer. 0.99
00:13:19.680 That she has failed, as you will.
00:13:22.040 Sorry?
00:13:23.260 Straight up.
00:13:24.200 Your mom's lying to you. 0.53
00:13:25.400 You want to get married at 35?
00:13:27.000 No, I never said I'd get married.
00:13:27.980 You're going to put the babies at risk.
00:13:28.520 You want to have children?
00:13:29.500 No, I never said I'd get married at 35.
00:13:31.260 Pearl was giving me an estimate and she said 45.
00:13:33.880 You said yes.
00:13:34.620 No, she said 45 and I said no, it's too low.
00:13:36.620 And then she said 35 and you said yes, that's about right. 0.89
00:13:39.000 Yeah, like, yeah.
00:13:39.980 Yeah, too late.
00:13:41.000 Too late.
00:13:41.440 I'll marry a 20-year-old instead.
00:13:43.200 That's fine.
00:13:44.060 Right.
00:13:44.480 I'm just telling you, like, box wine, cats, that's your life.
00:13:48.400 No, I just, I don't agree.
00:13:49.740 Lip tart.
00:13:50.540 I don't agree.
00:13:51.060 Ask old women. 1.00
00:13:52.380 Go to the club.
00:13:53.940 How old is she? 0.98
00:13:54.700 How old are you?
00:13:55.400 I'm 37.
00:13:56.260 Are you married?
00:13:57.280 Huh?
00:13:57.620 Are you single?
00:13:58.600 No, wouldn't you like to know?
00:14:00.040 Well, I'm just saying, like.
00:14:01.260 But I'm not the one with the problem that you have.
00:14:02.540 You're not the same, though.
00:14:03.100 You're delusional.
00:14:04.540 And I hate that for you because you're a pretty girl that's really smart.
00:14:07.100 And I hate that you're saying these things because you could probably be a hell of a good wife and a good mother.
00:14:11.720 You're not a stupid woman.
00:14:13.060 I think you're misled.
00:14:14.560 It's just sad to see.
00:14:15.540 Have you been married on your 37 years?
00:14:17.620 Have you been married?
00:14:18.520 No.
00:14:18.700 Have you got kids?
00:14:20.340 Listen, let me just say this.
00:14:21.960 I have it all.
00:14:23.120 I got it all.
00:14:24.820 It's not down to a personal opinion.
00:14:26.340 No, I got it all.
00:14:27.420 Just trust me.
00:14:28.220 But isn't that down to a personal opinion?
00:14:29.840 Are you trying to, like, measure up with?
00:14:31.200 No, I'm not.
00:14:31.820 Because, like, if he's offensive with her, you know, so don't wait.
00:14:35.040 No, I'm not looking to be.
00:14:35.640 No, I'm almost stressing to you.
00:14:38.320 Like, I don't want to be mean to you.
00:14:39.580 I'm almost stressing to you that this is, like, it's the wrong path.
00:14:42.740 Like, waiting in that lake.
00:14:44.360 But who are you to tell me that it's the wrong path?
00:14:45.460 Because why is your path right?
00:14:47.000 Have you got your life together?
00:14:48.220 But why is your path right?
00:14:49.480 That's funny that a sex worker is going to add. 0.93
00:14:52.100 Well, listen here, lady. 0.99
00:14:53.360 Well, my dear.
00:14:54.260 Yeah, I have my life completely together.
00:14:55.800 There's nothing in my life I would change in any way.
00:14:57.860 I'm not the single one on the couch.
00:14:59.360 But why are you being angry now?
00:15:01.620 Because I'm trying to.
00:15:02.280 Because you're angry.
00:15:03.340 Because you're angry about your life, my dear.
00:15:05.600 Okay.
00:15:06.160 No, I'm not trying to.
00:15:07.340 Do you?
00:15:07.820 Okay, I have a question.
00:15:09.000 Do you think?
00:15:09.540 What?
00:15:09.940 Did you just say?
00:15:11.040 Quit.
00:15:11.700 So, listen.
00:15:12.600 No, I just want to know, like, what?
00:15:14.120 No, I really, because I don't want to be mean to you or anybody, and I apologize if I have.
00:15:17.600 I just simply think that waiting to 35 to get married and finding yourself and sleeping with a bunch of people is going to be bad.
00:15:24.100 No, no one said we were waiting to 35.
00:15:25.860 You literally just said that.
00:15:27.160 Like, what is so right about your path that makes mine wrong?
00:15:30.740 No, it's not me comparing myself to you.
00:15:32.860 It's just me saying, damn, that's going to not be good.
00:15:36.200 Because I see it all the time.
00:15:37.940 It's not because I'm not trying to pick on you.
00:15:39.960 I just see these girls. 0.99
00:15:41.080 They're on Instagram.
00:15:41.800 They got their boobs out. 1.00
00:15:42.860 And they're doing all this stuff.
00:15:43.780 And you're liking them as well at the same time.
00:15:46.120 Like that.
00:15:46.580 That's irrelevant.
00:15:47.280 Because you're a man, right?
00:15:48.060 Yeah, no.
00:15:48.380 That's something we've deemed, right?
00:15:49.940 That's the man's thing.
00:15:50.860 Guys, what does that matter with?
00:15:52.040 What are you saying?
00:15:53.360 Well, he shouldn't be talking like that.
00:15:55.080 Is what he's saying true or not?
00:15:58.120 It can be true and it can be not.
00:15:59.880 You guys, just listen.
00:16:01.540 Like, listen to what he's saying.
00:16:03.320 He actually, he actually, I promise you.
00:16:06.340 And I've agreed with almost half of the stuff he's been saying.
00:16:09.520 But I'm saying, just listen.
00:16:10.900 Before you get triggered, listen.
00:16:12.060 I'm just simply saying that, likely, you're going to want to have kids and a family long
00:16:17.540 before 35.
00:16:18.580 That's all I'm saying.
00:16:19.720 For sure.
00:16:20.300 That's all I'm saying.
00:16:20.960 And, in addition, and I don't mean to cut you off, I'm sorry.
00:16:23.740 You're going to want a real man. 0.95
00:16:24.920 Not a man that's going to come home and cry to you.
00:16:26.320 Not a man that you have to mother.
00:16:27.620 That would just make you a broken bird.
00:16:29.300 You want a guy that you can look up to.
00:16:31.200 And you want to be the leader in your relationship.
00:16:34.000 Yeah, absolutely.
00:16:35.000 But I'm just saying, like, I wasn't saying, yes, 35 is when I will be married.
00:16:38.940 No, but then the suggestion of, like, well, I'm not going to learn any of these skills
00:16:43.480 because I'm only 20.
00:16:44.520 I think the general point is, like, if you go to other countries, if, you know, Ukraine
00:16:47.960 before the current war and, you know, Russia, I mean, there are women that are getting married
00:16:51.780 at, like, 22, 23.
00:16:52.920 Oh, yeah, no.
00:16:53.680 You know, societally here, we've got this different idea about it, you know, but it's not worldwide.
00:16:59.180 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:17:02.320 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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