JustPearlyThings - August 31, 2023


What Is A Real Woman?


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Length

11 minutes

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189.24632

Word count

2,208

Sentence count

213

Harmful content

Misogyny

41

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Hate speech

18

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What is a real woman? Is it a virgin, a married woman, a mother, a widow, a nun, or a woman who is either a man, a child or a whore? What does it mean to be a REAL WOMEN?

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00:00:00.000 I wanted to present to you a thought that I had, you know, I'm just always, I'm always thinking,
00:00:05.520 you know, and I'm on Twitter and I saw this tweet. Okay. So can you bring up the last thing I sent
00:00:10.800 you? Um, and so I was thinking about modern society and just how in modern society, we really,
00:00:20.220 um, we have this term, a real man. And so I was thinking, what is a real woman? All right. And I
00:00:28.100 saw this thing on Twitter and I want to see if you guys agree or you disagree. All right. So it
00:00:34.400 says, what is a real woman? Bring it up. A virgin, a married wife and mother, a widow, a nun, 0.99
00:00:41.900 everything else is either a man, a child or a whore. Wow. Yeah. So no, I'm not, I'm not trying 1.00
00:00:52.220 to shoot for, I just, I saw it. All right. And so, so then this guy that he came up with some more
00:00:57.880 stuff. And I just thought, I thought it was hilarious. So he added, um, so if you're married,
00:01:03.560 you have to have sex with your husband at least once a week, right? Um, no killing pre-born kids. 1.00
00:01:09.760 Yeah. No abortions, shave your armpits. Uh, cause you know, we got the trend of the women that are 1.00
00:01:15.800 like, no shaving. We're like, we're not, that's not a real woman, right? Um, an adult female, um, 0.73
00:01:22.040 you, you can actually stand living with, so doesn't make everyone's life hell around her. 1.00
00:01:26.720 Wears heels, won't try to use the court system to extract your balls through your wallet.
00:01:34.980 This is very specific. No, no, no Adam's apple, um, two X chromosomes. Nice legs is a plus.
00:01:43.660 All right. Automatic disqualification. If she believes in the wage gap, 1.00
00:01:48.160 she has to have boobs, um, won't steal your children from you for unjust reasons. All right, 1.00
00:01:59.120 wait, go back up. I want to read the top. Um, it helps if she doesn't try to steal your house. 0.97
00:02:06.180 Wow. Um, so I just want to see as a group, do we, what do we agree with? What do we disagree with?
00:02:11.900 Anyone can talk. Anyone, you know, I mean, go ahead. After two X chromosomes.
00:02:18.940 I think that's the one I'm like, yeah, nothing else you agree with is a real,
00:02:23.720 cause we have a real man, right? Like a real man takes care of his woman, a real man, you know,
00:02:30.760 um, protects his woman, you know, like if, uh, if, you know, Kit was with, with his girlfriend,
00:02:35.500 right. And then some other guy tries to like beat her up and he does nothing. That would not be a
00:02:41.060 real man. Right. But those are personality traits. Like right now I'm just probably just in more
00:02:46.600 physical, mostly physical. Well, I mean, it's what men look for and what women look for, right?
00:02:52.240 That's true. A little bit. I just don't really understand the widow. What's that all about?
00:02:56.760 Oh yeah. That's good. Is it like, Oh, you can't remarry. Is that what he's trying to say?
00:03:00.700 No, no. He's saying that like, um, if you're not a virgin, a married wife and mother,
00:03:06.200 a widow or a nun, then you're a man, a child or a whore. Oh, but he's saying like,
00:03:11.300 if a widow's us, like, like, it wouldn't really be nice to put the, 0.89
00:03:14.640 the widow in the whore category. So that like, that wouldn't really, that's not her fault. 0.87
00:03:21.440 So essentially it's like a woman could be those four things and outside of that.
00:03:24.500 And how about single women? No, no. If you're not a virgin, you could be a virgin single.
00:03:30.700 The house swings wild.
00:03:33.260 She doesn't try to steal your house. Well, well, yeah, I mean, a lot of women do that. 1.00
00:03:37.220 I know that, but I'm saying how he said it, like,
00:03:39.380 isn't that just like an automatic red flag if she does try and steal your house? 1.00
00:03:41.840 Well, yeah, but you don't know that going in.
00:03:44.080 At that point, you're already screwed.
00:03:45.760 Yeah, that is true. Yeah.
00:03:47.300 I just want to know if we, would you say we mostly agree with this or you mostly disagree?
00:03:52.520 Absolutely.
00:03:53.440 Okay. What do you, what do you disagree with? I'm going to, I'll let her go and then you can go. 0.93
00:03:57.360 I just feel like it's just crazy. I just find it just crazy. I'm just reading these things.
00:04:03.140 I'm just like, um, you're clearly triggered. Like someone's definitely hurt you.
00:04:07.880 Well, what's he triggered about?
00:04:09.660 Like boobs, for example, like not every man, for example, wants a woman that has boobs.
00:04:15.820 Well, he didn't say big boobs.
00:04:19.440 True.
00:04:20.380 He just wants boobs. 1.00
00:04:22.180 He just wants boobs. 1.00
00:04:23.100 I mean, they're cutting them off nowadays.
00:04:25.680 So he's trying to clarify, right?
00:04:27.460 Because we have like, what is a woman? What is a man? 0.97
00:04:30.440 So he's just getting real specific.
00:04:32.320 So that's, that's okay. Right? Boobs? 0.99
00:04:34.600 Yeah.
00:04:35.060 Okay.
00:04:35.560 Okay.
00:04:36.460 As long as he didn't qualify the size, right?
00:04:38.780 Yeah. I mean, I guess, but.
00:04:40.580 What else do you disagree with?
00:04:41.780 I don't like the kill pre-born children.
00:04:45.220 Okay. She can't. A real woman gets abortion. 1.00
00:04:48.200 I don't, I feel like it's a choice. I feel like it shouldn't define if a woman is real or not.
00:04:54.780 Okay. So if a woman has 10 abortions, does that make her higher quality or lower quality? 1.00
00:04:59.240 Okay. See, there's one or two and then there's 10. I need to know context. Like why?
00:05:04.560 Okay. Well, I mean two, I mean, you didn't learn from the first one.
00:05:07.940 I mean, that's not me.
00:05:09.740 Do you know what I mean? I'm just, well, I'm just thinking, so like when we hear real
00:05:13.320 man, that's like the highest quality of man. That's what I think of. Like the real man
00:05:17.460 or like the men that we want. So wouldn't the real women, like the women that men desire 0.99
00:05:22.400 not get abortions in general? 0.99
00:05:24.020 I mean, why is she getting an abortion? 1.00
00:05:26.460 Well, cause she doesn't want to have the kid, I'd assume. 0.83
00:05:29.040 But what if the man, like, you know, um,
00:05:32.020 I would say the guy would want her to get an abortion if she's not his main chick. 1.00
00:05:38.900 I'm not talking about the men though. We're talking about the women. And this is a funny phenomenon.
00:05:43.100 I see. Whenever I ask about what's a real woman, we got to bring it on the men. 1.00
00:05:47.180 Cause when I think of like the highest quality of woman, you know, like women that I really look up to,
00:05:53.640 it doesn't like, she just would never get an abortion. Like that's just never like when I, 0.56
00:05:58.320 when I personally, maybe you have a different real woman, right? 0.65
00:06:01.820 It's crazy. Cause at first I seen it and I was kind of like, that's a bit harsh,
00:06:07.020 but then I thought, is it though? Because when people are judging men,
00:06:10.900 they are very specific in what they want. So it's like, it's a similar thing, really.
00:06:15.520 Certain height, certain amount of money, et cetera, et cetera.
00:06:19.180 But when it's the other way around, for some reason, it's like a negative.
00:06:21.580 And when you think about it, every woman is born a thin virgin. 1.00
00:06:30.820 Not every guy is born tall, successful, strong.
00:06:38.800 Like no, but every woman starts off on the list. 1.00
00:06:43.960 Maybe she's a bit drunk. 0.67
00:06:45.980 Maybe, you know, chubby babies.
00:06:47.600 Well, you know, I get, sorry, every woman has the option to eat less. 1.00
00:06:52.380 True.
00:06:53.100 I mean, but not every guy has the option to be six foot five.
00:06:58.600 Unless he gets some sort of surgery.
00:07:01.540 Well, yeah, I mean, we could get BBLs and like come to the same thing.
00:07:05.380 But men are getting height surgery. It's a thing now.
00:07:08.220 But do we, when we look at that, are we like, that's a real man?
00:07:11.240 No.
00:07:14.060 Sorry, I said that really badly.
00:07:15.700 But it's okay. What else do you disagree with?
00:07:19.180 You? Oh, it's me.
00:07:21.740 See, before I say what I disagree with, I just want to say,
00:07:24.740 I kind of understand what this man is trying to get at.
00:07:29.740 He's being, he's being very stereotypical, basically.
00:07:33.820 He's, because not every girl likes to wear heels.
00:07:36.540 Like, I'm very tall.
00:07:37.660 I cannot stand wearing heels.
00:07:39.680 So if a man was to tell me, look, I want you to wear heels, 1.00
00:07:41.860 I'd be like, bye.
00:07:43.600 But I'm still very feminine.
00:07:45.240 So just because I don't wear heels, you know,
00:07:46.920 doesn't mean I'm not feminine.
00:07:48.180 You still dress nice.
00:07:49.680 Yeah.
00:07:49.900 You know, you've been on like, yeah.
00:07:51.280 So that's what I mean.
00:07:52.520 He's being very like, you know, stereotypical there.
00:07:56.020 But the shave's armpits, I just feel like, sorry.
00:08:00.740 Could that be the bare minimum?
00:08:02.080 Could we offer that?
00:08:03.480 Yeah, but I also feel like, what's wrong if she, 0.75
00:08:06.600 if she just decided that like,
00:08:08.220 maybe she didn't want to shave that day or that week or, you know.
00:08:12.880 I mean, I think it's like, you know,
00:08:14.900 I think maybe he'll give her a pass if it's a day,
00:08:17.180 but if it's a regular thing, like if it's a regular problem.
00:08:20.760 Would you wear heels if you were shorter?
00:08:23.980 That's a really good question, actually.
00:08:25.400 Because you're not wearing heels because of a reason.
00:08:27.220 Yeah.
00:08:27.640 Would you wear them if you're shorter, probably?
00:08:29.520 I think so, yeah.
00:08:30.780 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:32.540 I think I would.
00:08:34.040 But again, I like to be comfortable
00:08:35.620 and I can't really walk in heels that much.
00:08:38.520 So, yeah.
00:08:40.220 Like I actually, and when I do walk in them,
00:08:42.360 I don't look that attractive.
00:08:44.660 I was literally going to say that.
00:08:46.060 It's not a good look.
00:08:46.740 I don't think he would fancy me if he saw me walking in heels.
00:08:49.200 So, yeah.
00:08:50.080 But I kind of understand what he's saying,
00:08:51.700 but I don't agree with just like,
00:08:53.760 for example, the armpit, shave the armpit.
00:08:55.900 It's this idea that women have to be hairless, completely hairless. 1.00
00:09:00.540 But it's like, so what if men dress homeless?
00:09:03.820 You know, what if they, they just wear,
00:09:06.120 does a real man never like shave his, you know, face,
00:09:11.240 never trim his beard?
00:09:13.020 That's a good point.
00:09:13.600 Never.
00:09:14.080 Y'all don't have to shave your face.
00:09:15.500 Yeah.
00:09:16.000 You don't have to worry about that.
00:09:17.820 Yeah, but like, it's not like the same maintenance as a guy.
00:09:20.800 Right.
00:09:21.160 Like if a guy's doing it two, three times a week.
00:09:22.700 Maybe they have PCOS and they,
00:09:24.780 there's women with like beards and stuff. 1.00
00:09:26.420 Right.
00:09:26.720 But that's a wear exception.
00:09:27.760 Yeah.
00:09:27.880 There's nobody exception.
00:09:28.820 They can have beards then, but everybody else.
00:09:32.060 No, I still think she should shave it. 0.81
00:09:34.080 Yeah.
00:09:34.380 Yeah, because she just regularly shave it. 0.99
00:09:36.040 I mean, like you can keep, I just.
00:09:38.140 What if you get laser, then it's done.
00:09:39.660 Yeah.
00:09:40.060 Yeah.
00:09:40.180 There you go.
00:09:40.680 But what if it's not black, like black hair, like dark hair?
00:09:43.880 Because laser doesn't really work on really light hair.
00:09:46.420 But let's, let's try to avoid the exception.
00:09:48.940 Let's talk about the rule.
00:09:50.500 Like as a rule, can we say we should shave our armpits as real women? 1.00
00:09:55.560 I think let's get rid of high heels. 0.99
00:09:57.520 All right.
00:09:58.000 All right.
00:09:58.440 Let's get rid of that one.
00:09:59.240 Yeah.
00:09:59.400 We should be able to wear flip flops.
00:10:02.820 Real women wear flip flops. 1.00
00:10:05.420 I like my ballet flats.
00:10:07.860 Yeah.
00:10:08.140 So anything else?
00:10:10.480 Is that it?
00:10:10.980 Anyone else?
00:10:11.600 Well, I think what's interesting is obviously whenever we use the term real man, all the
00:10:16.840 things that are listed is like a preference for the type of man that a woman wants.
00:10:21.500 So if we're using it in the same metric, then yeah, you're saying this is a real woman,
00:10:25.800 as in this is the preference of what maybe guys would want.
00:10:28.380 Then it's kind of a valid point.
00:10:29.820 And the having sex with a husband once a week, a lot of people are in sexless marriages.
00:10:36.720 So are the women in sexless marriages, not real women? 1.00
00:10:40.180 Yes.
00:10:42.120 A lot of the time, that's a men's choice. 0.85
00:10:45.220 Is it not?
00:10:46.480 It's normally the woman's choice. 1.00
00:10:47.960 To not have sex. 0.68
00:10:49.140 Yeah.
00:10:49.960 100%.
00:10:50.360 In a sexless marriage.
00:10:51.680 Most of the time.
00:10:52.900 Definitely the woman. 0.99
00:10:53.860 So you think guys are saying, no?
00:10:55.680 No, I think once a week is a bare minimum.
00:10:57.720 But I don't think if they're not having, a lot of people are in open relationships for
00:11:02.800 that reason, because they don't want to, okay, yeah, have sex.
00:11:06.200 So if a guy is like, okay, I'm going to do that or whatever, is she not a real woman? 0.97
00:11:10.740 No, but he's saying that the bare minimum is that she should have sex with him once a week.
00:11:15.280 Okay, maybe we could say offers husband sex once a week at least.
00:11:19.040 I actually don't think that's bad, because I looked at that and I went, oh, fair.
00:11:22.840 Yeah.
00:11:23.260 Like, I was like, fair.
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