JustPearlyThings - April 06, 2023


What Women WANT In A MAN

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

186.25

Word count

1,687

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Harmful content

Misogyny

6

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Hate speech

5

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss what we look for in a man and what we want in a partner and how to find a good one. We talk about emotional support, ambition, emotional support and financial support. We also discuss the double standard of women being virgins and men being providers.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 have you dated guys that weren't emotionally available before or emotional i forgot what
00:00:05.240 words you said exactly but something like that you just mentioned it a couple times i was just
00:00:09.960 i think there are lots of emotionally unavailable men out there because um it's everything has to
00:00:16.480 do with i think traumas and things they they've been experiencing in life so if a man is emotionally
00:00:22.660 unavailable it's just because it went maybe through something that is not capable of
00:00:27.760 you might feel something but it's just not capable to just put everything out there
00:00:32.040 um not saying that everyone is like that but i think a lot of people i mean again talking with
00:00:38.560 a lot of friends and people they are all saying men they don't want to commit you know they don't
00:00:43.500 want to see the long term they always but i feel also like maybe we need to look at ourselves and
00:00:48.860 say like what's wrong with me why is this not working and trying to fix you know things uh what
00:00:56.120 about you what do you look for in a guy what are you um ambition again emotional support as well
00:01:02.460 because i feel like a lot of men do not know how to give emotional support and when you do question
00:01:08.000 it they end up arguing with you or backing away um again like she said because of traumas and
00:01:15.820 stuff that goes like wrong in their life and then they bring it into the relationship
00:01:20.260 from past experiences or being cheated on um so i think it is it's very tough to find that um
00:01:28.140 so what else um someone so you said ambitious um can we put a dollar amount to it is there a money
00:01:35.280 how much because how old did you say you were 32 so how what old is the guy roughly how old yeah do
00:01:43.100 you want him to be um my age and i'll say up to the age of 40 okay so let's say he's 40 okay how much
00:01:51.860 does he have to be making roughly um i just think he just needs to be able to be a provider um especially
00:02:00.880 if you're going into relationship you it's because i'm quite old school so i think a woman should play 0.98
00:02:06.380 their role and the manager played their role um so if you're able to provide and you know pay um
00:02:13.400 like sorry run the household then then it's okay i don't think it how much does that cost
00:02:18.980 well that depends on where you're living you could be living outside of london inside of london it
00:02:25.220 that all depends um it's how many bedrooms you have it yeah it really all depends
00:02:31.260 a rough could i get a rough number um i don't know um maybe about 40 40 that's like 50 i'm american
00:02:44.760 so 55 000 that's like average salary right yeah okay that's not bad so average salary what else
00:02:50.760 40 30 30 to 40 roughly is what you said yeah your age or um average salary what else
00:02:58.200 um yeah so you need to be be able to support me emotionally as well um again you need to
00:03:06.380 you know have some sort of attraction there that's it really what about height how tall oh you need
00:03:15.500 to be you need to be taller you need to be taller than me how tall are you i'm five six okay so five
00:03:20.280 six is good about five seven five seven and up okay yeah so that's it it doesn't sound
00:03:28.100 that hard it doesn't sound that hard to find it's really difficult a five seven guy making
00:03:32.600 forty thousand dollars a year yeah that's emotionally available it doesn't seem that hard it is very
00:03:38.600 hard i just feel like yeah a lot of guys are just not there anymore they have just very big in their
00:03:46.580 minds elsewhere to be honest it's just interesting 40 like you said you you're old school right yeah do
00:03:55.200 you think that women should be virgins the same way that men should be providers no why isn't that a 0.55
00:04:01.520 double double standard because like if we expect them to be traditional providers shouldn't we be
00:04:07.100 traditional virgins yeah but again i am old school but you have to know that this is the modern world
00:04:13.840 as well so that's not really gonna happen so wouldn't you say the same thing with that provider guy
00:04:18.400 like oh it's not gonna happen you need two incomes to survive to set an aspect yeah yeah okay what do
00:04:27.080 you look for god a man that can support me like i can support him and that doesn't just mean money
00:04:33.220 i'm talking about generally and stuff that i like to do support me in what i like to do and i'm very big
00:04:41.180 god supporting a man as well like i love to give them the encouragement and be their cheerleader and
00:04:48.920 i just want the same and being able to see a future with that person and us having the same goals which
00:04:55.780 means a family um building a house together would he be a great father figure i wouldn't know unless he
00:05:04.100 has kids already um loving me just having a lovable home yes he has to work because i'm not having a
00:05:13.500 man doesn't work because i work so we both have to work um i'm not really bothered about i'm happy to go
00:05:21.740 50 50 if i have to you know i mean you can pay the mortgage and i could pay for the gas and electric
00:05:29.420 you know i'm aware of that too but that that's what i want and emotional support yeah we do need
00:05:35.540 emotional support because a lot of men these days which you don't realize they need emotional support
00:05:39.860 so why can't we get it who do you think is more emotionally unstable men or women i think men are now
00:05:46.580 i would have said women before but i feel like maybe yeah i think women oh my gosh i feel like men are now
00:05:58.100 no no you see tick tock that's all it is it's emotionally unstable women 1.00
00:06:03.660 yeah my boy all these girls crying on i'm like what is going on i haven't seen a guy crying on
00:06:11.040 tick tock because they do it behind closed doors i feel like men hide their feelings as well
00:06:15.720 yeah men don't really like to show how they're feeling compared to women but don't you think
00:06:20.520 that's just how men process emotions like they process emotions differently than women yeah they do
00:06:25.160 but not all men but but in general right because we always make it sound like a bad thing that men
00:06:30.340 don't like talk to each other or like talk to us about their emotions but i just think they process
00:06:35.420 emotions differently differently yeah they do compared to women but it's like sometimes we try to make them 1.00
00:06:41.380 into women by being like process the emotions like i process the emotions true i think they need to
00:06:46.320 because there is a lot of men that have mental health at the moment so i think they do need to be able
00:06:51.160 to talk about their feelings yeah but not with women yeah yeah why not um honestly because women
00:06:59.320 throw stuff in your face later i agree yeah what they do is they'll throw something in your face and
00:07:07.000 then they'll add lies to it so it'll be kind of true but kind of not true but not all women not all 0.94
00:07:11.760 women i mean i didn't say 100 percent of women but i'm just saying if i had a balance of probabilities 0.81
00:07:15.900 and i had 10 guys and 10 girls i would say that women are more likely to do that yeah the other 1.00
00:07:20.640 problem is i don't think women find it very attractive when guys are emotionally vulnerable
00:07:25.040 to be honest i mean i think because when i was growing up it was said you know people were
00:07:29.520 starting to say oh you know just be open with your feelings be vulnerable be emotional with her and
00:07:33.060 everything like that but actually the reality out there is that i don't think women really 1.00
00:07:36.540 you know i feel like it depends for example me personally i would want a guy to open up to me
00:07:41.780 and let me know how they're feeling what if he's crying every night no not every night
00:07:46.260 that's why it's like confusing to men because we'll be like be open with us oh but not too open
00:07:52.580 yeah so if you want to cry every day put that put that down so it's kind of like what at what point
00:08:00.820 with each girl is emotionally available enough emotionally open enough
00:08:05.140 um i feel like it depends um if i was to be in a relationship with a guy and we've gotten to that
00:08:13.480 level where we're comfortable to open up to each other then i don't think it would be an issue for
00:08:17.900 him to if he was to cry to me every night you know maybe there could be something i can do to help
00:08:23.060 him me personally anyways i don't see that for how long he doesn't cry a year
00:08:27.480 a year is too much i mean that would be too much for a man or a woman though and i feel like realistically
00:08:32.880 a man's not going to cry to you for a year you know i feel like that would be too much either way
00:08:38.160 if it's a man that's crying for a year that's a problem if it's a woman that's crying for a year
00:08:41.280 that's a problem i think a month straight that'd be too much for me
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