JustPearlyThings - March 17, 2023


What Your WIFE RESUME Should Look Like


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9 minutes

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191.91498

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1,842

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1

Misogynist Sentences

8

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 you know what I was thinking we could be fun to do okay I'm a little scatterbrained sometimes
00:00:04.200 sometimes all the time yeah all the time we should make what should be on your wife resume
00:00:16.020 we can make this together okay gonna make one sure all right what should what do you think
00:00:23.280 should be on someone's wife resume well since I have a cooking channel the first thing I would
00:00:28.740 talk about is meal preparation or cooking experience meal prep or cooking experience okay periods okay
00:00:38.820 what else I think if you're getting married you probably want to have a family so I would talk
00:00:44.640 about your either babysitting or love for children or anything that is your experience around the
00:00:54.120 little ones okay what about my bag should a lot of women want to talk about their career their bag
00:01:02.040 should we put my bag on here absolutely not I don't know about that oh no bag no just double
00:01:07.860 sorry yeah no okay what else what else um well since we are talking about the bag I would talk about your
00:01:15.720 ability to manage money stick within a budget manage money that's a good one no we have never come up with
00:01:22.980 that one yeah it's important I mean if you want it depends on the type of marriage that you're going
00:01:28.440 to have and we talk about this a lot you need to know the type of wife that you want to be and you
00:01:32.340 need to know the type of marriage that you want to have because there are different kinds you know
00:01:36.600 sometimes people get married if it's a political figure and he just needs someone to look good on
00:01:41.100 his arm or somebody could get married for papers if there's any kind of legal situation but in most
00:01:46.560 traditional marriages if you have a breadwinner which is usually the husband but it could be
00:01:52.080 different if you are going to be in the role of the wife or the support system you are not the breadwinner
00:01:58.800 which means you have to be able to work within the income that is allotted for the family mm-hmm ability
00:02:04.320 we're gonna do types of marriages after this okay so interesting okay so ability to manage money or stick
00:02:10.560 to a budget what else I would talk about relationships family relationships like your family of origin I
00:02:16.920 think that's really important because when you marry you're not just marrying the person you really
00:02:21.480 combining two families because that's how it's been for you know hundreds and thousands of years you're
00:02:26.400 really bringing two families together what what would you like what do they need to know about I would
00:02:33.120 want to know the status of your family of origin you know where your parents married what kind of
00:02:37.380 example did you see growing up of relationships if your parents are not together is it amicable
00:02:43.200 do you have a small nuclear family do you come from a big nuclear family all of that comes into play
00:02:50.160 because that is what's gonna set your expectations for either what you want or you don't want wow that's
00:02:56.820 true because I feel like the way I look at things sometimes it's from like a big family point of view yeah
00:03:02.140 so like when people I'm just thinking of I know not everyone goes on vacation mm-hmm but that was a
00:03:08.020 big part of my childhood like every summer boots been a month and go on vacation and the thought of
00:03:12.700 just taking two kids and like flying somewhere was unheard of to us yeah absolutely and for me it's the
00:03:18.880 complete opposite so when we were planning for children my ex-husband now at the time we both come
00:03:24.900 from families with two children so it's me and my brother and it's him and his brother and so I'm a
00:03:30.280 boy mom times two and so after I gave him two sons we talked about and I asked him if he wanted to try
00:03:35.560 for a third but because we were used to that family of four he said this is enough so we stopped but I
00:03:42.460 know you often talk about having that big family experience so for me it's kind of foreign every time
00:03:47.440 I hear you say I have nine siblings it's like who does that but it matters so what else would you say
00:03:55.060 I should go on the wife like what should you think about when looking for a husband or yeah I mean this
00:04:01.180 is kind of a comprehensive mm-hmm like what what are other things to think about for the women if we
00:04:06.220 want to look for husbands okay so well I would switch that we don't look for husbands we are found by
00:04:11.440 husbands so we present ourselves as wife ready I would say since you mentioned the bag if you do want
00:04:18.060 to work what is the plan for that is it going to be part-time is it going to be a work from home are you
00:04:23.920 going to have to travel commute is it something you can do you know maybe once a week or once a
00:04:29.620 month just to keep your license so if you are going to work what does that look like and how does
00:04:33.940 it support the family oh if you are going to work what does that look like mm-hmm because you tell
00:04:40.420 well you tell them what you told me about how you worked and like also had a more traditional
00:04:46.040 relationship yeah absolutely so I've been corporate since college I work in technology so I work for a
00:04:51.820 software company and so it's a you know competitive masculine environment and I admittedly got caught
00:05:00.040 up in that modern woman mindset and what happens literally I hit the wall we talked about this
00:05:04.960 yesterday when you're in your 20s you really can't see your 40s but now that I'm in my 40s I can see 60
00:05:12.160 really really easy and I don't want to do 20 something more years of that so you know like a lot of women I
00:05:18.100 had the two-hour commute I was going for the promotion everybody two-hour commute wow that must
00:05:24.220 have been a long day it was an incredibly long day but when you don't think that there's anything odd
00:05:29.920 about that you just get in line with everybody else and march towards the um march towards that routine
00:05:36.400 so what ended up happening for me like a lot of people with the pandemic I was able to work from home and
00:05:41.800 it was kind of like we're going to try this out for a few weeks and I ended up loving it I was able to cook
00:05:46.860 more and eat better get the weight off I was less stressed I was sleeping better and I was just a
00:05:53.760 better mom overall and you know happier in my relationship so you know long story short now I
00:06:00.140 work remote and I'm never going back to the office that's four hours a day yeah that's crazy it is yeah
00:06:11.880 I just calculate so now you have 20 more hours a week with your family yeah exactly but you probably
00:06:18.360 weren't even thinking about that you're just thinking about it's like what you're supposed to do
00:06:22.260 absolutely because I mean let's face it in corporate America is great I've worked for some really big
00:06:27.600 companies but they like to get us when we're young and kind of extract all that energy and that you know
00:06:33.480 intellectual capital and you end up putting all of your best efforts towards a company who could
00:06:38.700 either restructure or be absorbed or say thanks you know you've aged out anything could happen so just
00:06:45.180 being mindful of that it's great when you can get it the promotions the bonuses all of that and I still
00:06:51.420 work but I do it in a way that serves me and like I told you yesterday I am known to tell my you know my
00:06:56.760 boss my work is what I do it's not who I am mm-hmm so what else should we present to the husband's well I
00:07:06.940 think you know we would be fooling ourselves since you have had some whale attacks that our fitness fitness
00:07:15.240 yeah okay it's huge and we can't deny that in shape yeah and what is your fitness routine exactly yes
00:07:23.820 routine yeah I'd love to know what other people think or what you think I think these are great I
00:07:28.800 think some of these I've never even thought of before like the ability to manage money or stick to I've
00:07:36.240 always I've never been a huge spender to be honest I've been other than ubers I really like you bring
00:07:41.280 no grocery delivery I it's all it's really cheap here to be honest I use it too yeah let's see the
00:07:52.080 comments say can you take constructive criticism ooh that's a good one that's a good one feedback how how
00:07:59.520 do you handle constructive criticism and that one kind of goes back pearl to what we talked about
00:08:09.600 with your nuclear family when you grow up with a strong father you all know well maybe you all
00:08:13.800 don't know but I am an immigrant born in Ghana raised in the south so I'm an Atlanta girl but I am
00:08:20.940 used to getting direction very bluntly and then maybe you go cry in the corner but you get yourself
00:08:27.960 together and you move on it's not the end of the world and so if you don't have that and you've
00:08:32.400 been coddled and you haven't had siblings that you've had to kind of you know compete with in
00:08:38.340 a way you get feedback as an adult and it can destroy you and that is not helpful in a relationship
00:08:44.700 that's the one thing I think volleyball really helped me with is like you can just you can take
00:08:49.440 criticism so easily because you're just so like if you don't take the criticism you're riding the
00:08:54.780 bench absolutely I think sports are great and I told you this yesterday I think my guy says
00:08:59.580 it all the time I think all girls should play a sport because it gets you in that state of mind
00:09:04.500 where it's like okay I'm not good enough in this area I need to work on it and that is a skill I saw
00:09:09.060 that with you yesterday with the cooking we poached the eggs and you did four of them and if it wasn't
00:09:13.200 right you said I'm gonna get that right I want to try again and I could tell that's the athlete in you
00:09:17.460 so it's a good quality as many of you know I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on
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