When Modern Women Say 'I'm Healing'
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Summary
In this episode, we have special guest, Pearly, talk about her experience with sexual trauma and how she has dealt with her own trauma. We also talk about the different types of hoes and how to deal with them.
Transcript
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there are two types of hoes though so basically no no no no and i'm not being i'm not being
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disrespectful there are some people who have been through traumas and sex is there is their way of
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coping so that's how they become a hole now if they're becoming a hole from mental traumas all
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right i would like to i'd like to just add one thing what i'm hearing what i'm hearing here
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right here wait wait is an excuse there are some people that if you if you read documents and all
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that they get raped and all that they get oh say grape say great they get great uh-huh they get
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graped and because i'm saying grape i'm forgetting but but they get great yeah so then they kind of
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they feel depressed and they go through a lot of things and they don't they don't they don't respect
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themselves and that's when that comes is this the exception or is it the rule no it's not it's not
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except now there's another type of hole which they're they they know what they're doing they're
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sleeping around and they're happy just to live but here's but here's the problem with even the first
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so the world doesn't owe you understanding yeah like there's some there's some people that go
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through that and don't make those choices and so if you if you choose to make those choices like
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it's still the choice you made and you can't whine about that but pearly do you know what that's what
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people underestimate but some people we all we all have different hearts we all grow up differently
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we all go through different experiences but it's not and we don't know no but but as as human beings
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as people we should be understanding and we should be fortunate you can be understanding and treat them
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with respect and politely but that doesn't mean that other men have to date some people actually heal
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some people when they get love and care you know before i have to be honest i have to be honest
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wait before i started this show um i really thought healing meant something else i really thought when
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women like healed they went to therapy but i just found healing is like another word for just sleeping
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around it's like you sleep around the town and then you come back you come back you come back in
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now and then they they write in their journals and they do some meditating guys guys guys stop stop
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interrupting me stop stop they do some meditating and now they're healed no yes no i don't think
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healing works i think healing works with actually self-reflecting challenging yourself and think
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okay how can i how can okay i've done this this wasn't very nice and you self-reflect and you figure
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out how you're going to heal how you're going to get through how you're going to treat a situation
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differently next time i do agree with you there's there's learning from experience right um but it's
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like how many times you got to have the same experience before you learn you know what i mean it's like
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not one two three 20 30 40. by what i've seen i'm i don't know why but always stranger girls come
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and talk to me and they tell me their whole lives and and what i find sad is and that's why i say like
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it's so important for us as humans to be understanding because some people mentally they're not built like
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i think that we should be less understanding yes no i think i think i think okay i think it's good
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no no no i think it's good to be understanding when it comes to mental health but if it's too much
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no i think that okay nowadays everybody's got a mental health everybody everyone's got anxiety
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everyone's got yeah i remember i remember when oh you know what my least favorite word is now trauma
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trauma trauma trauma used to be about war not your ex-boyfriend cheating on you three times that's not
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trauma that's you but that's yeah that's what i say too but now now this is my trauma i've gone
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through trauma because my ex-boyfriend like no it's supposed to be war because you took me back three
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times so you're the kids yeah but i don't think i don't think i mean go ahead go ahead are you saying
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most cases when people talk about relationship trauma they're only talking specifically about the
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cheating no they're just hopefully not in the morning yeah it's it's it's always talking about
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thanks the heartbreak no because you know what oh this is giving every giving no pause no pause giving
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when you say when you say when you say when you say giving when you say giving okay one man up what
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about woman up it's like it's like yeah it's always the man needs to be better it's like it's like
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okay when you have trauma and it's not even from relationships who's more who's who's more
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traditional men men make more than women at large for a lifetime men make more than women women way more
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than men and they have higher body counts than men so so who needs to man have higher body counts than men
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yes sorry sorry guys guys guys one person at a time here there's a lot over talking support
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because at the end of the day so one person at a time let the moderator pick the person who's talking
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thank you one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the past year have one out
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of three women are they virgins or haven't had sex in the past year i couldn't it's a bit both
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i need to just say this like we you've heard stories where men have gloated about oh absolutely
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250 women you would never hear a woman say that unless she's from only fans you know i'm sorry i've just
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never experienced that conversation yeah because women are gonna brag about that stuff and one
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percent but it goes back to a small percentage of men are having a lot of sex that's what he was saying
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earlier so a small percentage of men they're the biggest whore you know they're man whores right
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and so you're right there are a small percentage of men that are having more sex than women but by
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and large women are having more sex than men i don't know i don't know that's scary i'm scared
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nobody's the contraceptive pills i'm telling you it's all them it's all them products i don't be
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i agree with her you know why because what she's saying i think is that the chances of a woman to get
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more men and hiding it is measured than a man getting a woman and you know i say something please go on
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sorry sorry carry on i'll say after i'll say after no because think about every woman here yeah
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yeah think about think about your dms yeah think about now think about your dms yeah yeah now think
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about if you really wanted to you could have at least well good looking women anyway not saying no
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i'm you know what i mean you could you can have at least actually i'd like to kind of correct just one
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thing one thing i'm gonna correct then you can finish um an average woman gets more matches on
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dating apps than a top one person right this is what i was just about to say if you look at your dms
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you know for a fact if you rang if you just rang someone who just said yeah come true
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how many geezers could you have as many as you wanted exactly that's what i'm saying so realistically
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women probably do have the more sex that we could do if we wanted to yeah but you don't know yeah but
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what she's trying to say is that you don't actually know how many women they say it out loud
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how many men that's what i'm saying but no i'm just i'm just agreeing with what she said because
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it's the truth because realistically it's done it's the women it is it's literally when you think
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about your dms because this is this crazy place it's a crazy place no one looks at the dms but it's
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also if you if you if you walked if you walked into a bar and you just you stood in the bar and you said
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i will every geezer here imagine how many would do imagine how many how many members they've done that
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on youtube before so yeah so they have like a girl go up to guys and a guy go up to girls and it's
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like over half the guys are like okay because she was a cute girl and they had a hot guy go up to
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girls it was like 99 of them said no yeah exactly that's what that was what went so doesn't that
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show the statistics of women trying to just keep themselves to themselves like because okay all women
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i'd be like oh they don't want extra body counts no i i think i think it shows what's easier to get
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like it's easier for women to get sex than men yeah so it's like men a man has to have something for
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you to be interested in him like you're a pretty girl so it's like you're going to want him to have
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a good job right definitely you want him to be taller than you i've been very spoiled yeah right so
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i'm a picky person you want to so you are picky is earlier yeah okay so so you are you want them
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you want them to be taller than you right oh yeah six foot okay okay okay what percent of men are
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over six foot not many minimal what it's 15 wow so then let's let's say let's say wow yeah so let's say
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now what percent wait wait what percent of men do you find attractive usually would you say
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i like men that are taller than me i like to look up how tall are you so out of out of 10 men you
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maybe maybe you'll find so if you're like the stats you'll find two attractive so out of the 15
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you're going to find two out of the 10 that are over six foot attractive yeah and let's say let's say
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one of them is in your income category that you look for and one isn't so you're looking for one percent
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of men and most women most women are looking most women baby moms most women are looking for one
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percent and you want them to have no kids right that's what i'm saying it's all a possibility
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like i said i did use to date a very rich guy and he made me become very high um when we stopped dating
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i was like oh my god how am i gonna get to right get this level how am i gonna know that's the
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thing that's the thing statistically statistically you probably won't replace him statistically you
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probably won't because he was rich i'm just saying my dms be popping yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah but
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your dms might be popping but engagements count that's what counts
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okay okay i i i've had like crazy messages but you you know come on it's a dm they don't count no no
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no it don't count but obviously out of those dms one of them i mean i mean but that's i was like yes
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that's my point that's what every girl thinks every girl's walking through life thinking they're
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going to win the lottery and date this top one percent man he has to be over six foot he has
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to make over 70k he has to be attractive he has to be what and but see this this is this is but this
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is here here wait this is the problem that sounds nice it's it sounds nice and like and it's possible
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but it's not probable it's probably not going to happen for every so so i'll tell you i'll tell you
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another stat okay so big banks are investing in things like cat food wine because 50 of women are
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projected to be single and childless over 30 so that means all the girls in this room half of us
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will never have kids okay half of us will never get married so if you say oh just manifest it believe
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it sounds nice and it's also like if you don't get married by 35 your odds of getting married and
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having a long stable relationship ever it's very it's very low as many of you know i was just banned
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