JustPearlyThings - May 02, 2023


Why Beyonce Is A Hypocrite

Topics
posting pictures on Instagram while in a relationship cheating strategies
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Beyonce Jay-Z. Jay-Z Guy A Andrew Kieran Bill
Men Logically Break Down Cheating To Women Single Mother GOT DESTROYED for Saying This

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Length

11 minutes

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224.09

Word count

2,574

Sentence count

268

Harmful content

Misogyny

35

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Toxicity

30

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20

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships, the difference between men and women when it comes to cheating and how to deal with cheating in a relationship. We also discuss if it's cheating as a woman to post pictures on social media while in a romantic relationship.

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00:00:00.000 You've asked me before, Bill.
00:00:01.060 You see, women cheat more, yeah, but see the men. 0.99
00:00:06.540 The men are more willing to be more conducive to the cheating.
00:00:10.460 What's that mean?
00:00:12.060 So what it means is I will be more in a way to conduct myself
00:00:16.480 for you not to get caught out and for our situation to keep evolving, right?
00:00:19.940 So if I'm going to be a side Negro, what I would tend to do
00:00:24.800 would be to save my number as something else in a girl's phone book.
00:00:28.780 If a man rings up my phone, I'm not going to blow up her spot.
00:00:33.140 I'm going to say, oh, no, no, bro, I'm her cousin or whatever it might well be. 0.99
00:00:37.420 I'm going to – but girls, girls don't really give a shit. 1.00
00:00:40.600 You see, once the jig is up, yeah, they're like, yeah, I told your girlfriend, yeah? 0.99
00:00:44.780 You know what I mean?
00:00:45.760 I told your girlfriend about us, but men are more conducive.
00:00:48.600 We'll try and hold it down.
00:00:49.920 I've seen two girls go home in a taxi together. 0.52
00:00:52.460 It wasn't a good situation.
00:00:53.960 You know what I mean?
00:00:54.800 So we are generally more conducive to you guys not being caught.
00:00:59.220 And if we're the side pieces, we tend to play that role better, I believe. 0.99
00:01:04.080 Whereas women, they don't really give too much of a shit. 1.00
00:01:07.860 They don't mind if men get caught when it comes to the cheating side of things. 0.99
00:01:10.660 That's what I think.
00:01:11.920 You know, when men do it, men will hold it down.
00:01:13.560 I think it's got a lot to do with a man's confidence as well.
00:01:16.520 When I was broke and I didn't look the way I did, I'll be honest, I was insecure.
00:01:20.160 I didn't want my ex-girlfriends lingering around other guys because I knew they were better than me.
00:01:23.980 But I've got to a position in my life by working on myself for two years without having a girlfriend,
00:01:28.680 where I'm – I know, mate, I'm not God's gift, bro.
00:01:31.140 Just look at my height.
00:01:31.980 No, no, you are God's gift, bro.
00:01:33.200 You are God's gift.
00:01:34.260 Thank you so much.
00:01:34.980 I'll give you that £10 offer.
00:01:35.920 So at the end of the day, I do know what I offer, and go ahead.
00:01:45.520 Have as many male friends as you want.
00:01:47.120 No, that's true, bro, but we do have them.
00:01:48.320 We still have them in security.
00:01:49.320 I know what I offer, but it's not about what you offer.
00:01:52.440 Do you guys think it's cheating as a girl to be posting pictures on Instagram while you're in a relationship?
00:01:58.100 Hell no.
00:01:58.620 What kind of pictures?
00:01:59.580 What?
00:02:00.340 Really, any pictures that –
00:02:01.920 What sort of pictures?
00:02:02.440 What, like a selfie?
00:02:03.420 Advertising the book.
00:02:04.240 A selfie.
00:02:04.380 I would include a selfie.
00:02:05.460 Really?
00:02:06.260 Because, okay, okay, do you think attention is to women as to sex is to men?
00:02:10.980 No.
00:02:11.700 No, you don't.
00:02:12.820 Similar, but it's not the same currency.
00:02:15.920 You know, I mean, I think that – because we live in such a PC world at the moment.
00:02:18.960 If a lady throws up some pictures of herself in a bikini, she knows what the purpose of it is. 1.00
00:02:24.580 You know what I mean?
00:02:24.920 It's to gain the attention.
00:02:26.320 However, men don't need to be as sensitive to think that that is cheating.
00:02:29.740 I don't think that's cheating.
00:02:30.480 This is why I think it is.
00:02:33.200 It's because, like, women's mating strategy from a biological perspective is to get attention from the highest value guy. 1.00
00:02:38.800 Yes.
00:02:39.200 So what is Instagram?
00:02:40.460 That is getting attention from the – wait, wait, wait.
00:02:42.700 Wait.
00:02:43.020 Okay.
00:02:43.160 So that is getting attention from the highest value guy.
00:02:45.860 Where on the other hand, men's mating strategy is to screw as many people as possible. 0.99
00:02:49.580 But when they get into a relationship, the men are expected to stop screwing as many people as possible.
00:02:54.540 But the women are not expected to compromise on their mating strategy, which is seeking attention from high-value men and which is posting pictures on Instagram. 0.93
00:03:02.500 Because you know damn well even if it's just your face, if you're a pretty girl, there are going to be, you know, high-value men interested.
00:03:10.580 To your point, I've had an experience where I had a girl like one of my photographs slid in the DM, said hello, and immediately her boyfriend, the pressure that was on him in that relationship went up 10 times.
00:03:25.320 Because a man who superseded his earning, his – different ways, not going to go anywhere because, you know, nothing against the guy.
00:03:32.520 But she said afterwards when I met her because she dumped him, the pressure was on immediately.
00:03:39.040 And when women are doing that, it is a for sale sign to a degree, not a proper, you know, but it is advertising, isn't it? 0.82
00:03:46.540 And men are flooding the DM.
00:03:49.460 But especially if it's a naked or semi-naked photograph, sorry.
00:03:53.480 But even, like, even just a selfie. 0.92
00:03:55.740 And the other thing women don't think about is, like, women will still go out to bars and clubs where all of the guys are trying to screw you. 1.00
00:04:03.360 Men are – again, men, that's seeking attention from high-value men.
00:04:07.620 The best guy that you can get where the men are still – like, the men are – this is why I come back so hard on cheating because we cheat in different ways.
00:04:14.680 Women still do it all the time. 1.00
00:04:15.880 I get it.
00:04:16.020 And it's accepted in society.
00:04:18.340 And so when men cheat, it's – like, we do the same thing.
00:04:22.540 Like, we do the same things, just in a different way.
00:04:24.660 That's why I asked at the very beginning, what do we mean by cheating?
00:04:28.140 I think if we come up with a better definition that everyone's in agreement with –
00:04:32.120 But she's right.
00:04:32.660 When you break it down like that, you are right.
00:04:34.480 People are only as faithful as their options.
00:04:36.320 And women are – like, women are under the guise of, like, hey, I'm just posting a photograph. 0.99
00:04:41.660 Under the guise of that, allowing them to explore their options.
00:04:45.400 Whereas when men explore their options, we have to be a lot more deliberate.
00:04:48.200 We're messaging.
00:04:49.400 We're putting the fishing rod out and going, are you available?
00:04:52.840 And if we get caught doing that, then we're caught red-handed.
00:04:56.020 Whereas with women, it's – 1.00
00:04:57.200 Women cast the net out. 1.00
00:04:58.600 I didn't slide the net out.
00:04:59.260 That's what women do. 1.00
00:05:00.080 They cast the net out.
00:05:00.400 It's a totally different scenario.
00:05:01.460 You see, like, on the internet, what they do is they put the pictures up all on Instagram.
00:05:04.880 Yeah, and they just leave them to sit there.
00:05:06.360 It's like they're just casting their net.
00:05:07.760 Absolutely.
00:05:08.000 And then going off for the day.
00:05:09.320 And then they'll come back and see what's been going.
00:05:10.100 They'll check the DMs every couple of hours. 0.98
00:05:11.320 But it's like a girl will literally be going out with ass pictures on Instagram and she'll cry. 0.99
00:05:18.680 Oh, he cheated on me. 1.00
00:05:20.200 And I'm like, bitch, look at your profile. 1.00
00:05:23.060 And if a man has a problem, he's controlling. 1.00
00:05:24.860 Yeah, and the women act like – we act like we're so much better than the men. 0.98
00:05:28.900 We would never do that.
00:05:30.440 But it's like, okay, you go out twice a week.
00:05:33.180 You get all this attention from guys. 0.96
00:05:35.160 You have guys trying to screw you all the time. 0.90
00:05:36.840 How are you better than him? 0.98
00:05:37.960 And that's the thing.
00:05:39.120 I just don't like – as women, we're just on our high horse like, oh, it's the worst thing in the world that he cheated.
00:05:44.180 He's such a horrible person when we do it in a different way every single day.
00:05:47.800 I didn't think of it.
00:05:48.520 I mean, that's what I said before.
00:05:49.740 What is the actual thing that hurts with cheating for women? 0.97
00:05:53.600 Because what I tend to hear – I say it like I've heard it a million times.
00:05:58.860 Serial cheater.
00:05:59.620 What I've heard before is what did she have that I didn't have?
00:06:03.740 Yeah, of course you had that.
00:06:04.680 I think that's the sort of thing which women say. 1.00
00:06:08.720 And sometimes it's not actually about that, you know what I mean?
00:06:11.020 It's not about what the woman has from what you don't have because Jay-Z cheated on Beyonce.
00:06:16.600 You know what I mean?
00:06:18.080 And she's supposed to be the baddest in the game, right? 0.98
00:06:19.880 She is the baddest in the game. 1.00
00:06:21.200 But she's still got –
00:06:21.900 But that was after two kids or whatever and all of a sudden, all the attention is on the kids.
00:06:26.740 I'm not saying that this makes anything okay.
00:06:30.060 I'm not.
00:06:30.620 I'm just saying like when Beyonce and whoever – all these women are focusing in on the children
00:06:35.200 and the man all of a sudden becomes, yeah, you're the last thing I'm thinking about today.
00:06:41.060 You know?
00:06:41.460 Whereas before when you met each other, I was priority number one.
00:06:44.700 And for men, especially if you're one of these high-value men who is earning all this money
00:06:50.140 and changing this woman's life, that needs to continue. 1.00
00:06:53.260 Or if you let your standards slip, there will be someone ready and waiting to replace you.
00:06:58.260 But women don't realize that. 1.00
00:06:59.660 Because we're not going to tell you because what we're going to say.
00:07:02.360 Like we can't say that. 0.99
00:07:03.520 Oh, by the way, fucking she was sliding into my DMs. 1.00
00:07:06.760 No, I can't do that. 0.99
00:07:08.300 And a lot of times the girls – like Beyonce – you think Beyonce didn't know?
00:07:12.020 Like you think Beyonce didn't know she was getting cheated on? 0.99
00:07:14.520 Like a lot of the girls in these arrangements, they already know.
00:07:17.420 And then the women will come in and say they're doing the right thing by telling them 1.00
00:07:20.520 or posting it online when it's like a lot of these girls just don't want to be – 1.00
00:07:23.520 Well, she stayed with Jay-Z. 0.99
00:07:24.480 So like all of these single ladies and independent women bullshit. 1.00
00:07:28.460 She stayed with Jay-Z. 0.99
00:07:30.020 And Jay-Z isn't the most handsome man ever.
00:07:32.700 And this is why I go back to saying like a lot of men don't realize women are actually willing to work it out.
00:07:37.000 If you have a purpose, isn't it?
00:07:40.240 If you – yeah.
00:07:41.000 All the time.
00:07:41.640 If you're a brokie, as Andrew says, and you're cheated. 1.00
00:07:44.900 Girl, it's not cap.
00:07:45.600 If he's a brokie, you're only staying for so long. 1.00
00:07:47.540 Come on, man.
00:07:48.020 You're only staying for so long.
00:07:48.840 He's got to bring something else to the table.
00:07:50.440 That I agree with her.
00:07:51.180 I have to.
00:07:52.100 You might deal with it a little.
00:07:54.040 Yeah, of course.
00:07:54.420 I mean, you're 25, so maybe at your age.
00:07:56.500 Like because there's a future, right? 0.98
00:07:58.480 So if you meet a guy and he maybe doesn't have a shit figured out, 0.92
00:08:01.460 he could start an OF at 31 and then, you know, make millions and then take care of you, you know? 0.97
00:08:05.560 Yeah, you see, she's setting us up. 0.87
00:08:07.660 I guarantee you.
00:08:08.380 We're going to see the light.
00:08:08.980 You see Tom from Asda, yeah?
00:08:10.380 Tom who works in Asda.
00:08:11.260 No, because I'd be with a guy where I'm still like trying to grow with him as well.
00:08:13.980 Right, right.
00:08:14.300 But if he was – but let's say he's 45.
00:08:16.440 I don't know how old you date.
00:08:17.620 That's different.
00:08:18.280 Yeah, but you wouldn't date a broke guy at 45.
00:08:20.400 No.
00:08:20.680 No, he'd have to figure it out.
00:08:22.160 Yeah, what I was saying is, see, like, if you've got Tom that works in Asda, yeah?
00:08:26.660 Tom who works in Asda will cheat on you one time, yeah?
00:08:30.100 See you later, Tom.
00:08:31.340 But if you've got, you know, Kieran who works up in the city in the banking district and whatnot
00:08:36.440 and he cheats on you, you might give him one or two more chances.
00:08:40.780 But generally speaking –
00:08:41.620 Men are the same, by the way.
00:08:42.720 So, like, we – but not in cheating, but we alter our standards to the other things
00:08:47.100 depending on how good the sex is. 0.53
00:08:48.860 If your sex is amazing, I'll look – 1.00
00:08:51.020 You'll tolerate a lot more stuff. 1.00
00:08:52.080 I'll overlook the fact that you're a slob or that you, you know, you're disorganized 1.00
00:08:55.600 or you're not actually – you can't cook for shit. 1.00
00:08:58.300 You eat pot noodles. 1.00
00:08:59.120 Yeah.
00:08:59.720 I tolerate.
00:09:00.320 I've been there where I've been like – but, you know.
00:09:02.560 He's telling me.
00:09:04.080 It does make you – and women do the same thing, but in different ways. 1.00
00:09:07.060 Yeah.
00:09:07.580 Thanks.
00:09:08.140 I have a question for the girls.
00:09:09.940 Okay, would you rather – how many kids do you guys – I know some of you have kids.
00:09:14.780 I have just one.
00:09:15.540 Do you want more?
00:09:16.740 I do, yeah.
00:09:17.280 Okay, how many do you want total?
00:09:19.660 Maybe like three in total.
00:09:21.280 Three.
00:09:21.660 How many kids do you want? 1.00
00:09:22.860 How many kids do I want? 1.00
00:09:23.740 Yeah.
00:09:24.780 Probably about four.
00:09:26.200 Okay, four kids.
00:09:27.200 Yeah.
00:09:27.700 You better get moving, girl. 1.00
00:09:30.020 I've got some already, though.
00:09:31.440 Oh, you have some?
00:09:32.440 I've got two, yeah.
00:09:33.000 Okay, so now you want two more.
00:09:34.240 Okay, what about you?
00:09:34.900 Yeah.
00:09:37.420 I always want each – more than five.
00:09:41.840 Okay.
00:09:43.960 I'd be happy with two.
00:09:45.280 One boy, one girl.
00:09:46.120 Okay.
00:09:46.920 So, how much do you guys think it costs a year to raise the amount of kids you want?
00:09:53.860 A lot.
00:09:54.260 A lot.
00:09:54.520 Especially if you're a single mom, a lot.
00:09:56.920 Okay.
00:09:57.320 So, if you have two choices.
00:10:01.000 Guy A, you have to work until you're 65.
00:10:05.340 70.
00:10:05.860 We're going to up it to 70.
00:10:07.280 And you have to work 30 hours a week while being a mom. 1.00
00:10:10.740 Okay?
00:10:11.340 Guy B takes care of everything, but he steps out from time to time.
00:10:14.860 But you don't ever have to work again, and you're done.
00:10:17.720 I already work 40 hours a week.
00:10:20.900 Yeah, but now you get to work zero.
00:10:23.200 I've been in relationships where it's been 60, 40 in my end, and I mean, we both be paying
00:10:27.160 like 50, 50 on the bills, and I'll be cooking, cleaning, doing the washing, and I'll be doing
00:10:32.960 like grocery shop as well.
00:10:34.460 But I don't think I could do that again.
00:10:36.140 That was a lot.
00:10:38.160 And imagine looking after a kid as well.
00:10:39.900 You would take which one?
00:10:40.720 I would probably say B.
00:10:41.820 The guy who paid for everything?
00:10:43.260 Yeah.
00:10:43.720 Yeah.
00:10:44.140 Okay.
00:10:45.620 She's honest.
00:10:46.400 I think most girls would take B. 0.99
00:10:47.780 Yeah.
00:10:48.700 I would, because I've been there, and I've done that.
00:10:50.200 So wait, hold on.
00:10:50.880 Why would you?
00:10:51.320 I mean, I'm just thinking like, 40.
00:10:53.120 So you're taking the easy way out.
00:10:54.380 I mean, that's exactly what I was going to say.
00:10:55.960 It doesn't mean I wouldn't contribute.
00:10:57.040 Because I would rather work.
00:10:58.900 No, I mean, 40 years is a long time.
00:11:01.160 You're not going to have the same energy you do at 40.
00:11:02.920 I agree.
00:11:03.560 But at the same time, I do love what I do, and I love it with a passion regardless.
00:11:08.660 I did it without money.
00:11:09.600 So I would still want to, you know, some kind of control over me doing some kind of work.
00:11:13.860 I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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