Why Modern Men Struggle With Women
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and former co-worker, Jay Shetty, to talk about the dating market and why men are having a hard time finding a wife. We talk about why women are turning to losers, why women like gold diggers, and how to turn things around.
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I don't think the job space is even a viable market for men anymore.
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But my point in stating that is that there's really only two sectors left of men,
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And this is controversial, but it's losers and the rich.
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Losers have access to women because, in my opinion, there's a low anxiety.
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There's a certain income spread right now that is very hard for men in the dating market.
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And that spread, in my opinion, is between $140,000 to $250,000 a year income.
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They're not rich, but they have the kind of jobs that are just hard enough
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And I have access to this market because these are the guys who follow me on Twitter.
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And they all lament to me over and over again that as soon as they got on their feet
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and got these higher-paying jobs, their dating market completely dried up.
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When they were losers, they said they were cleaning up.
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Are they going for higher-quality women now, though?
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But I do think that in this culture that's inverted, the ambition of a man who works
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out routinely, is super shredded, jacked, rich, it yells anxiety.
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And I think that that is what's putting these women off.
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Subliminally, I think that women like low-anxiety men, which is why I think the loser archetype,
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for whatever reason, does do well in this kind of market.
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Is it's only the loser if he's hot, though, right?
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You're telling an ugly loser, just bitches?
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But then they talk about how, like, gold diggers, and I'm like, how do you bash a gold digger?
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In my eyes, that makes zero sense because you mean to tell me that a woman likes you for
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something that you earned rather than the way that you were born?
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A woman should be into you based on what you've earned in this life.
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So the whole women coming after your money—
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If you find a woman when you actually have a big bag, a high percentage of them are not
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If you find a woman when you're broke, you bond together, you grow together, she's probably
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not going to cheat on you when you have the bag.
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If you take the nerd route, like Elon—Elon's worth $230 billion, can't lock down a woman.
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But I do think life experience is what bleeds over—look, and I've said this on Spaces before,
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I do believe the single thing that a woman wants the most in a man subliminally, and
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I've never heard anybody else say this but me, I think ultimately a woman wants to know
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You see her coming a mile away, you put it in check, she has to know for sure she cannot
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You know when she's lying, you know when she's being sneaky, you just know.
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A lot of these rich crypto kids who are nerds who became very wealthy, they're struggling
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You've got to be in the trenches as a man, suffering pain.
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You've got to get your heart broken a couple times.
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Once you kind of build that scar tissue and you have that experience, it translates over
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First you get played, then you become a player, correct?
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I would have said guidance, but it's like the same thing.
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It's like, no, because when you are looking at a guy, you kind of want to see, it's like,
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And I think a lot of these younger guys don't understand that you have to teach all the
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Like, being in a long-term relationship is the most, it's life on hardcore mode.
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And especially, like, with us, like, a bunch of women, like, most women weren't raised
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Like, even women that, like, came from two-parent households, it's like, what percent of men
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What percent of people have traditional relationships?
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You know, there's an entire, and like, what, I think a third of people were born in single-parent
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Yeah, but so that's what I mean when I say guidance, because half of guys don't even,
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Don't communicate, don't sit down, don't teach, you have to explain things.
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The computer has done a lot to destroy men's ability to actually know how to talk to women.
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I remember, you know, having get-togethers in Vegas, inviting a whole bunch of people, and
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you would see women sitting at the bar and guys playing video games, and I'm like, you
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know, I'm married and everything, so I can't really do anything, but I'm looking at these
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women like, I'm sorry, I feel bad for you.
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You know, playing video games when you have women around who are basically trying to, you
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I think these guys don't know how to talk to women, and, you know, 10, 15 years ago,
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I would have laughed at the idea of a coach that tells, you know, guys how to, you know,
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Well, but yeah, we also lost community, I think.
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Like, people used to have, like, friend groups, or you'd meet, like, the guy down the
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Yeah, yeah, that's what I mean, so, like, you know, maybe a guy that didn't know how
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No, but, you know, like, I don't know any of the neighbors in my building, or in London.
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I know all the neighbors that have a Trump sign in their front yard.
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Those are the ones I go and I say, how you doing?
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Those are the ones I want to break bread with.
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And basically, what you have to understand is, a lot of people are very stupid.
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And it doesn't matter where you are in the world.
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And one of the biggest reasons is because people don't get breastfed anymore.
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When kids get breastfed, their IQs go up 9% to 10% higher.
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So when the women actually stayed at home, when men were men, and they actually had enough
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money to provide for the family, all of a sudden, these kids had higher IQs.
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People wonder why all these people are stupid now.
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And then you have tenacious life forms like myself that can get half and half and still
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I think the breastfeeding thing is insane to me because how did Gerber's, like that is
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How did Gerber's hijack the female amygdala and convince them that fucking Zog Slop is
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more potent and powerful and nourishing than your own breast?
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Women got bamboozled in what, the 70s, 80s?
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Yeah, they completely abdicated their feminine instinct to Gerber's.
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That makes zero fucking sense to me how the power and force is in play on that.
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I think what you do is a little more complex than what the average chick does.
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It's like, I'm just saying, like, this is, you know, not character, not like what...
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When I first started getting into numerology astrology, I went to all the top numerologists,
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all the top astrologers in 2002, and there was a common theme.
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And I kept asking these women, if you're so good at astrology, why'd you get divorced three
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And, you know, just to put it in perspective, I've been married for almost 20 years.
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So, obviously, I knew what the hell I was doing.
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I mean, you know, Malik, when it comes to your country, are men having similar issues like
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I mean, obviously, you don't have that problem.
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No, in Africa, traditionally, it's arranged, you know, so, like, by the time the woman
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So, it's not like, you know, any woman who's not married after that age is just whoring around,
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Well, when she starts, you know, like, experiencing, you know, she can give birth.
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No, I'm just saying that because, like, what it is, culturally over there, if a woman gives
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birth, like she was saying that most women now are not virgins, you know?
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So, at the end of the day, you know, to get a good woman who hasn't been sleeping around,
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you know, you have to catch them before they, you know, get going.
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Do you think that's a superior system to what is going on here in America?
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And they don't get divorced because at that time, you know, at that age, she's not, you
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She's going to go into the marriage, you know, ready for it.
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