JustPearlyThings - March 23, 2023


Why Modern Women Are Lonely


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

172.79813

Word count

1,478

Sentence count

148

Harmful content

Misogyny

21

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Hate speech

13

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In this episode, we talk about loneliness and why women deal with it in a different way than men. We discuss the effects of loneliness on women and how to deal with loneliness in a modern world. We also talk about what causes loneliness in women and what causes it in men.

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00:00:00.000 A couple of shows ago, I spoke about there are certain companies who deal in sex toys
00:00:07.820 who have seen like a 20 to 25% rise in, you know, sales and stuff.
00:00:13.720 And I think that is one of the main, one of the things about feminism or ultra feminism, 1.00
00:00:20.520 I've always called it super saiyan feminism, with this I don't need a man stuff, 0.96
00:00:25.100 is that women are trying to replace men with things that, 1.00
00:00:30.000 men cannot be replaced by, and I think women, you spoke about, you know, women being lonely.
00:00:39.020 And I went on a website called loneliness.com.
00:00:47.140 It's called rootsofloneliness.com.
00:00:49.680 And it says the common causes of female loneliness include not having friends 0.97
00:00:55.220 or meaningful connections with others, living away from family,
00:01:00.000 spending too much time on social media, dealing with mental illness, living alone,
00:01:08.020 not having your romantic needs met, being single, being a parent, raising a child alone,
00:01:18.040 struggles with self-confidence, self-esteem or self-worth,
00:01:21.400 struggles with eating disorders and body image.
00:01:26.320 That sounds accurate.
00:01:28.000 Yeah.
00:01:28.540 That sounds right.
00:01:29.860 I feel like women being lonely is a new phenomenon. 1.00
00:01:32.760 I feel like men have always been lonely.
00:01:34.720 Because most men have not reproduced historically. 0.70
00:01:37.380 But I feel like women being lonely is almost like a newer phenomenon. 0.99
00:01:40.640 Yes.
00:01:41.580 Because, like, you at least were a concubine or something. 0.99
00:01:44.660 Yeah.
00:01:45.180 You know, you might not have gotten, like, first-round attention.
00:01:47.960 Do you think women deal with loneliness worse than men?
00:01:54.460 Yeah, I do.
00:01:55.720 I think, like, women are more communal and we value relationships more. 0.73
00:01:59.680 So when we're by ourselves, like, I feel like men, like, women are more interested in people 0.98
00:02:03.520 where men are more interested in things.
00:02:05.340 Well, one of the things it says that women are, you know, not having any meaningful connections 1.00
00:02:09.120 with others.
00:02:10.060 Yeah.
00:02:10.500 No, I agree.
00:02:11.620 Yeah.
00:02:12.280 Yeah.
00:02:12.500 I've even heard, like, some girls, they're single and they also don't have a good relationship 1.00
00:02:18.040 with their immediate family.
00:02:19.700 And I'm like, I can't even imagine a relationship, like, a world where I didn't...
00:02:23.100 Because you grew up in a huge family, right?
00:02:25.000 Yeah.
00:02:25.380 And I can't even imagine not, like, going home for Christmas.
00:02:28.140 Like, some people are like, yeah, I'm not going home for Christmas.
00:02:29.940 I'm like, what?
00:02:31.460 I can't even imagine, like, not going home for Christmas.
00:02:34.340 My mom would kill me.
00:02:35.900 I would literally be murdered.
00:02:36.780 Like, I'd be like, where's Pearl?
00:02:39.040 What do you think, like, the classic, like...
00:02:42.500 For men to look out for?
00:02:44.300 And also for women.
00:02:45.400 Like, what do you think, like, the classic things to look out for, for, like, an ultra
00:02:48.600 feminist is? 1.00
00:02:51.980 Because I would say blue hair.
00:02:56.220 I mean, I feel like...
00:02:57.360 Like, blue hair, red hair, green hair.
00:02:59.140 I could see some that are so obvious, like, you know, a bunch of tattoos, you know, piercings,
00:03:03.960 crazy colored hair.
00:03:07.760 I think you can also hear it in her language.
00:03:11.020 Like, is she bitter?
00:03:15.060 And I just think you don't want to date a girl that's, like, bitter.
00:03:19.020 But when you...
00:03:19.600 What do you mean by bitter?
00:03:20.780 Like, does she blame men for her poor choices?
00:03:23.640 Right.
00:03:24.260 You know...
00:03:24.780 Like being a lesbian. 1.00
00:03:26.140 Like Cheyenne Reynolds said.
00:03:27.720 She's going to blame men for being a lesbian, but go on. 1.00
00:03:30.200 Yeah, and that's what I mean.
00:03:31.200 Like, you can't blame all of men for your poor decisions.
00:03:33.960 And it's like, I think some girls come out of it. 1.00
00:03:37.980 I mean, I don't want to say, like, some girls come out, like, worse than others.
00:03:41.980 Say it, pal.
00:03:42.560 Say it.
00:03:42.720 I don't know.
00:03:44.440 You could just hear it in a girl's, like, voice and the way she talks if she's too damaged. 0.69
00:03:49.860 Okay.
00:03:50.440 You know what I mean?
00:03:50.860 Because she's just bitter.
00:03:51.720 What do you think causes that damage, though?
00:03:55.120 Chad.
00:03:56.220 Tyrone.
00:03:57.420 What, alpha widows? 1.00
00:03:58.620 Yeah.
00:03:59.880 Chad, Tyrone.
00:04:01.440 So one of the things here is, like, it says about female depression or female loneliness is, like, not having your relationship or not having your romantic needs met.
00:04:12.720 Yeah.
00:04:12.980 I mean, I think we're biologically predispositioned to want children.
00:04:17.100 So I just think, like, as women, we want to have kids.
00:04:20.660 And when we get past a certain age and we don't have them, like, I just think it's lonely.
00:04:25.820 But then why are women not having children? 1.00
00:04:29.180 I mean, I think it's more, like, can't get the guy.
00:04:32.740 Because I ask girls this all the time on the show.
00:04:34.960 And I'm like, if you could, like, if you found a guy that had everything you wanted, would you want a child with him?
00:04:42.080 And the answer is yes.
00:04:43.860 But it's so, to me, it's like not getting, finding a guy you want to have a kid with or being able to attain one.
00:04:49.080 And it's partially because, like, I just think women oftentimes, like, we're kind of blind to what men even want.
00:04:57.140 Like, we've gone through our lives.
00:04:58.580 Like, men have always had to hear what.
00:05:00.360 What you want.
00:05:00.920 Yeah, what we want.
00:05:01.740 But, like, we've never been told what you guys want.
00:05:04.960 But then do women care? 1.00
00:05:06.680 Do you think about what men want?
00:05:08.880 No.
00:05:09.280 Until it's too late.
00:05:11.720 And then they start to care.
00:05:12.680 And then they start to care.
00:05:14.220 Because it's like, if your relationship needs, or your romantic needs are not being met, I think that the romantic needs of the modern day woman are a little bit delusional. 0.61
00:05:25.940 So, obviously, you're going to be depressed.
00:05:27.900 Yeah.
00:05:28.260 Because no one can meet those needs.
00:05:30.460 Well, yeah, because they're just, some of the shit is crazy.
00:05:34.140 I get crazy.
00:05:35.480 I hate when girls say they won't do coffee as a first date. 1.00
00:05:40.080 I think that's the stupidest shit I've ever heard.
00:05:42.200 They'll, like, I'm like, if he doesn't know you, why wouldn't?
00:05:46.460 What do they normally say that the first date should be, then?
00:05:49.380 Dinner.
00:05:51.500 What, at a specific restaurant?
00:05:53.440 I don't know.
00:05:54.100 They just say dinner.
00:05:54.900 And I'm like, I mean, coffee's first date.
00:05:57.160 You're just getting to know each other.
00:05:58.380 So, would you go on a coffee date for the first date?
00:06:00.680 I have.
00:06:01.540 Hell yeah.
00:06:02.180 Right, okay.
00:06:02.640 I almost prefer it.
00:06:03.940 Because it's like, I just feel like it's less pressure.
00:06:07.600 I don't know.
00:06:08.000 I like coffee dates.
00:06:09.420 I like coffee.
00:06:09.940 You like coffee in general, though.
00:06:11.220 I do like coffee.
00:06:12.940 You like coffee in general.
00:06:14.000 No, but I've quit.
00:06:15.040 I'm day one sober.
00:06:16.580 Day one of coffee.
00:06:17.680 Of quitting coffee.
00:06:19.020 Yeah, I fell asleep for, like, three hours today.
00:06:21.260 I'm so tired.
00:06:22.100 But, yeah, it's like, if you don't get your, see, I think, well, we've spoken about it many times.
00:06:29.980 I think the requirements for the modern day woman and what they want from romantic relationships right now are delusional. 0.93
00:06:38.660 So, I think if you've, if you have said, I want X, Y, Z, six figures, six pack, you know, all the sixes, and you're not going to get that, and you've built your whole being on getting that, you're going to be depressed and lonely.
00:06:54.720 Yeah.
00:06:55.060 So, do you think that, like, feminists are making themselves? 1.00
00:06:59.500 Yeah, of course.
00:07:00.540 Depressed and lonely.
00:07:01.240 Yeah.
00:07:02.040 Yes.
00:07:03.080 Yeah.
00:07:05.060 Yeah, you ain't wrong.
00:07:07.040 Like, I don't, I don't think you're wrong.
00:07:08.300 I think, I think women are actually actively making themselves lonely. 1.00
00:07:13.000 Yeah.
00:07:13.440 I mean, everything in life is a choice.
00:07:15.700 So, I mean, there's, like, Red Pill, like, there's always a guy out there.
00:07:23.160 There's always a simp out there.
00:07:24.340 Yeah, there's always, so it's, like, yeah.
00:07:27.860 That's going to, what, adhere to everything that she wants?
00:07:31.340 I hate to, like, I hate to say it, but yeah.
00:07:33.840 Don't just say it.
00:07:34.720 No, I'm saying, like, it's true.
00:07:36.580 And so, it's, like, well, men, like, he may not have, okay, like, like, women, even if she's obese, like, there's always another, like, a guy that,
00:07:45.700 that'll, like, still deal with her.
00:07:47.800 But men, on the other hand, like, there are some guys that, like, genuinely no women will deal with.
00:07:53.600 I've always said a woman, you've said a woman can be, like, 500 pounds. 1.00
00:07:58.280 There's always going to be a guy.
00:07:59.560 On my 600-pound life, half of them have, like, feeder boyfriends.
00:08:03.480 Imagine I was, like, 600 pounds.
00:08:05.820 I wouldn't be able to find a woman. 0.99
00:08:07.580 No.
00:08:08.580 As handsome as I am, I think, folks.
00:08:10.580 Like, I don't think I'll be able to find a woman. 0.70
00:08:12.200 600 pounds would not suit you.
00:08:13.580 It wouldn't suit me at all.
00:08:14.600 You know, it wouldn't suit me at all.
00:08:17.380 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:08:20.640 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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