JustPearlyThings - April 01, 2023


Why Modern Women Are Modern Women


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Length

10 minutes

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217.13826

Word count

2,251

Sentence count

3

Harmful content

Misogyny

28

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Hate speech

5

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In this episode, we discuss what it means to be mature in a relationship and what it takes to be a good partner to your partner. We also discuss the importance of self-awareness and self-reflective in relationships.

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00:00:00.320 that's just quite interesting though because that um phil said you can eat for most women 0.95
00:00:04.720 you can stay quiet at work but at home you're letting loose like why is that
00:00:08.800 i mean you have to communicate with someone but why does your boss have more power than
00:00:12.560 you it depends on what you call letting loose some women are mad and it's shouting and it's 1.00
00:00:16.880 throwing plates i mean we see on social media we see movies and stuff like you know some women do 1.00
00:00:22.640 throw things around the name of jordans smashing phones smashing cars we see that yeah but a lot
00:00:30.160 of women are not doing that and also can i say something before you got with that women i'm 1.00
00:00:33.760 gonna lie you should have seen her in all her seasons when i say seasons i mean how she's 0.92
00:00:37.440 reacting to like how she's talking when she don't know that you're watching how she's dealing with
00:00:41.280 certain situations i understand some women are tapped some men are tapped but i also feel like
00:00:44.960 if you're getting with a woman you should try and see her you won't always see it though you you won't
00:00:48.880 even i think i agree no i feel like you can see everyone in their seasons you just have to
00:00:53.520 i think in modern generation a lot of us lack self-awareness so and i think that is more um
00:01:00.000 more more women lack self-awareness for that i'm gonna say that just because 1.00
00:01:04.240 of the situation we're talking about how prevalent are they you don't really see men going out there
00:01:08.560 and doing mad stuff like that you see women doing that more so speak on it if you disagree i agree with
00:01:14.320 you and it's it's shown it's shown that's what i was gonna say it's promoted to perpetuate to
00:01:20.640 perpetuate it further and to empower people who don't have the understanding so for me it's not
00:01:27.760 about me but being self-reflective is a part of day-to-day life as a partner to somebody else if you
00:01:34.800 can't reflect on your own behaviors you shouldn't be on in a relationship what do you mean by self-reflective
00:01:40.400 what actionable items is that so if for example you have a disagreement with your partner okay
00:01:47.520 you should be able to communicate how how that came about what because men they use less words yeah 0.88
00:01:54.720 they don't want to hear a whole load of talking let's be honest they just want to get straight to
00:01:58.240 the point what can i do to be a better partner to you in this situation communicating that to your
00:02:05.280 partner because you're the you're the second in command if you want to say your your man is a
00:02:10.800 representation of you and you are a representation of your man when he's not around and when he's
00:02:16.160 around obviously do you think that's what men want well i don't do you think they want like constant 1.00
00:02:21.440 communication or do you think they want us to shut up no no no no no no no what i will say i don't know
00:02:26.720 what men want but i will ask them i don't assume anything i'm going to ask you every man every man is
00:02:32.800 different what say for example what davante requires and what's your name sorry oh sorry so
00:02:39.280 yo phil what phil requires may be totally different spectrums you know phil's married to his wife she's
00:02:46.800 got maybe not i don't know but maybe she's got six attributes of maybe the ten attributes he really loves
00:02:54.240 and that is good enough and he can work on that but if you don't if you're not self-reflective as a
00:02:59.680 as a woman and a man together i think i think women don't have to be self-aware though in today's
00:03:05.040 society because because of the accountability element so there is no impetus throughout your
00:03:10.320 life as you're growing older for you to have to be self-reflective and self-aware because especially
00:03:14.960 if you're attractive especially if you're attractive most men give you everything you
00:03:18.240 want you can get there's no need for you to have to think okay well how do i behave in this
00:03:22.400 context or that context i think that comes with maturity to give an example i was talking to a
00:03:26.400 girl and she's very attractive and i told her most of the girls around you are with you because 0.96
00:03:30.560 you're pretty and most of the guys that chat to you just want to fuck you but to her she just thought 0.89
00:03:34.160 oh this is all everybody loves me everybody loves me so at what point in her life does she realize
00:03:38.240 that she's being used and by the time she's able to realize by where she's mature she's already beat
00:03:43.760 out by bare man so where's her value at that point it's the same why do why do women always think 1.00
00:03:48.080 they're tens do they constantly i do i do street interviews all the time girls will say i'm a 10
00:03:56.400 i'm a 10. i've had so many girls on the show maybe their friends have lied to them but i'm saying that
00:04:00.320 but i don't have men do that i've never in my life i've never i've never i've never in my life
00:04:06.240 had a man say i'm a 10. you know men are more honest i feel like if my like if i don't look nice
00:04:10.960 my guy friend will say you don't look nice like change that i get oh girl you look so cute so i feel like
00:04:16.480 men accept the reality and they're not gonna lie to you you have to you might not you sorry person
00:04:21.120 x might be really minus one however her girlfriends because of mental health and like a lot of things 0.94
00:04:27.520 they might just be like you're really beautiful right but that goes that goes back to the point
00:04:30.880 that women don't face reality like the women who say that their tens don't really believe they are
00:04:35.360 anyway when you when you see how they behave they don't behave like they believe their tens they're
00:04:40.560 just saying it because of what they can get but the point is they can go out in society and be delusional
00:04:45.280 yeah and that's that's normal for women and women women are bailed out of every single bad decision 1.00
00:04:50.000 we make can i just every can i just say about the 10 business most of the women that lie to their 1.00
00:04:56.080 friends and say their friend is a 10 knowing she's a free a laugh sorry i do know that happens because
00:05:03.280 it allows those women who also feel that they're a free and a four yeah or maybe a five or a six 1.00
00:05:10.240 feel bolstered up in that group do you understand feel like the beautiful friend like oh yeah girl you
00:05:14.800 look good but when you go out like your friend's looking a bit tacky and you feel a bit more
00:05:19.280 attractive that's a dynamic in in play so they're more desirable to men it's indirect is it insulting 0.57
00:05:27.200 for a woman to be called average i think if it's the reality if it's the reality it's the reality 1.00
00:05:32.400 honestly if you're average your personality might be like out of this world but the reality is to the
00:05:38.400 human eye or to whoever's telling you your average that's their opinion i don't think there's anything
00:05:41.760 wrong with preference you might be um like 10 out of 10 to me you might be five out of 10 someone
00:05:47.040 else it's just and you can't but that's a female like you're not a 10 out of 10 to anyone if you're 1.00
00:05:52.080 average looking but then you can't take what someone else has said if you are average you know
00:05:55.760 you're average go work on yourself or believe in your average and be that great but i'm saying most
00:06:02.640 people are average so like oftentimes if i tell a girl she's average they get defensive and mad because it
00:06:07.760 has a negative connotation but just tell them fix up and use your brain what is a three what's a
00:06:13.360 ten let's clarify what are the things that make people these ratings looks that's what i was
00:06:20.640 talking about like women's primary value to the world is your looks that's the most like valuable 0.99
00:06:24.880 asset that you can see every year when they show the most handsome man exactly and i'll just be like
00:06:29.600 he's all right i don't think he's all that but scientifically when you go out and ask people
00:06:33.600 yeah because you find because you find eighty percent of men unattractive that's why you think 0.59
00:06:36.720 that no i think he's all right he's not my type i know but that's why that's why like that's why
00:06:41.440 you could find the most handsome man on the planet no but that's what i'm saying i'm saying like let me
00:06:44.880 fit you you keep interrupting me stop and you could find a guy in the top five percent of of male
00:06:49.920 handsome and you still find him man he's all right and like that's that's that's women that's true 0.97
00:06:55.360 women do we do let's be real we do it no but i think someone's so nice and she might do even when you see 0.84
00:07:00.240 someone with their boyfriend you'd be like i'll tell him he's nice no no no no you see someone
00:07:05.120 with their boyfriend so you don't think the boyfriend's nice no i'm saying if i think someone's
00:07:08.640 nice i believe no no if you don't think someone's boyfriend is nice how do you behave it's not for
00:07:12.560 me to come no it's the reaction what's your reaction at least he treats you nice to answer your question
00:07:19.200 i i say eight to ten means you can get a modeling track contract eight is you're the prettiest girl in 0.61
00:07:23.440 a small town nine means you're going to hollywood based on your looks alone ten is damn near perfect
00:07:28.400 seven i go off of kevin samuel's scale so i don't do sevens because people are either
00:07:32.640 models or they're cute pretty five is normal six is cute below that
00:07:42.160 but yeah that's that's how so but a lot like on tick tock the other day um
00:07:48.720 i i got banned but before i got banned i commented on a girl because she was going off on my things 0.53
00:07:53.600 and i just said another average looking girl coping oh man right because she was 0.96
00:07:58.640 because she was mad because i was saying men prefer younger women it's just true it's not fun i don't
00:08:03.600 enjoy that i'm getting you know i'm 25 i'm gonna be 26 in november i don't enjoy that
00:08:07.440 but it's just true and if you're average looking at 30 you're below average
00:08:14.000 but you know she but like that's an it but do you see everyone's silent because that's an insult but it
00:08:18.640 shouldn't be it's not it was an insult if i i don't think it's an insult it's even but if i said average
00:08:23.520 looking guy no one would really yeah it's contextualizing a man wants i agree with you but yeah
00:08:30.240 it's so crazy because it's like men want maybe what's younger than them maybe because
00:08:35.360 you're bendable you're movable it's like you're teachable whereas when you're older you're probably
00:08:39.520 more stuck in your ways and also you're probably prettier because you're younger unless you just don't
00:08:43.120 look your age that shouldn't be the case however people do people do lie because if if you walk
00:08:50.800 around you believe you're 10 and you're like i'm a 10 i'm a 10 people are going to shut you down and
00:08:54.320 say no you're not but if you go around saying i'm a two they would also try and pump you up and say no
00:08:59.120 you're not even a two you're five most people don't want to be honest about what they really think
00:09:04.240 because they don't want to hurt feelings which is understandable but i think if women really got 1.00
00:09:07.760 that pushback there wouldn't be so many claiming their tens that's true so i don't think i think women 1.00
00:09:12.960 but if a man goes on social media and he says i'm a 10 i'm a 10 i swear to god women will be the 1.00
00:09:17.600 first ones cut even even you this is the most handsome man on the planet for a magazine and
00:09:25.760 and your first comment is he's all right it's i'm no hate to you it's just part of like women but 0.93
00:09:31.040 my thing is yeah we're not all gonna think attractive is attractive that's my point do you know what i think
00:09:36.480 it is as well some most for women's i thought for me let me speak for myself like when when i'm if i see
00:09:42.000 a man and i don't think he's attractive or my type my mind could change when i start talking to him
00:09:47.920 or when i get to know him or see his vibes i think sometimes because women don't see looks first if
00:09:52.240 he's feminine he starts talking like a girl and he don't like women sorry as many of you know i was
00:09:58.080 just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform if you want to help
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