Why People Initiate DIVORCE
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about cheating, divorce and being single in today's day and age. We also talk about why women should or shouldn't get divorced and why it's better than being in a monogamous relationship.
Transcript
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Can traditional women cheat ever if they're traditional than I know no
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You think a traditional woman can she yeah, she can take care of the home and do everything she wants in them
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Who knows what's going on behind closed doors? You just never know. No, I don't think anyone's perfect. You just never know
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She could do she could be all those things and cheap, but how can a traditional woman be a virgin if she's got a family?
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That's what I met like a version on her wedding night
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That's what I'm thinking. She said about cheating
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Wow, no, I don't think this because she could I don't think she should and I think traditionally they wouldn't
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What percent of women do you think want to be wives and what percent of women do you think are happy being single?
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In today's day and age. Yeah, and by by happy being single means single today happy for life being single
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I think a lot more women are happy being single nowadays. Um
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40% of women prefer being single 40% I think so today's day and age
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And they would rather be single than with a man they respect and admire
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Okay, maybe not 40 like 30. I feel like a lot more women now would rather I know a lot of women that value their career over relationships
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I know a lot of women that have not got into relationships because they're so career driven
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I think it happens more in this day and age. I'd say about yeah, 30 to 40%
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20% and 80% want to be in relationships. What do you think?
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Um, I think if everybody's actually really honest with themselves, I think a hundred percent
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Like you don't who wants to be single for the rest of their lives. That's just dead
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That you can look he will look you in your eyes and actually say you know what I love you
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And I want you to be my wife and I'll cherish you forever every woman would lap that up unless she's a lesbian
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What do you think are valid reasons for divorce
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All right, so i'm gonna make a list consistent cheating
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Domestic abuse what else um drug abuse, I think domestic abuse drug abuse
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How many lies just one I just don't like lies tell me when I'm out of there
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Okay, consistent cheating domestic abuse drugs drug abuse and lies anything else
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Yeah, mental illnesses, I think definitely could could divorce someone
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Yeah, or like they have they don't know they can't
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You know that question you asked pearl about being happy being single
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I think that if you broke it into age groups it would sound it'd be different
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I'd say like the 30s and under and the 30s and over or 40s and under you might find there's more unhappy women
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Or more women that want to get married the older they get when they're young they're happy being single
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It's only when they're old and washed up that they realize that oh
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I should have had a man back then I still would have been with him
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So I think you might find that if you'd put an age group on it the answers would have been different
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Do you think a lot of women anti-regret leaving their husbands in hindsight?
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Three out of four you would say regret it. Why do they regret it later?
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Because they've just done it. There was no valid reason they did it because they could
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Or because they didn't feel right or they get bored or he wasn't paying attention to me
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Up it once is if it's like if somebody's life is in danger then you've got a good reason
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So if your life or your children's life or somebody's life is not in danger
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I mean when you think about it if you can get divorced for I was thinking about this the other day
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If you can get divorced for pretty much any reason like not being happy not feeling fulfilled
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He's not paying attention to me. He's never home. Like then why not just be in a relationship? What's the difference?
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Like because if if you're married it's supposed to be for richer for poorer through thick and thin it's like you're supposed to
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Everything but like I think that's the word through that
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Yeah, I think the catholic church is like abuse addiction like there's
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Or if you know, there's some secret he was hiding that you didn't know but when you got married
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Otherwise, I mean just be in a relationship like why even get married then?
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Um, it depends on what what section you're talking about. I think I'm sure monogamy is supposed to be a part of marriage
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Um, if we decide to get married and tie ourself for life
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I shouldn't have to accept you consistently stepping out of the household
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Um and have to deal with that throughout a marriage
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Yeah, but I think you should vet that before you get married. Yeah, but I feel like that's it's an unspoken rule like no one
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Everyone knows you're not supposed to cheat in a relationship or any committed situation unless you've decided to have an open relationship
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You know, when I think of traditional women, there's there's a certain woman that and i've told this story so many times on the pod
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So they're gonna but it's fine. I I think of there's there's a woman. I know she's a relative. She's catholic. Okay
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She did not believe in divorce. She would rather die like
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That's when you really meet someone with a truly traditional mindset. They would rather die than get divorced like that
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There's nothing you could tell her and her husband
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They lived in wisconsin and then her husband like kind of went back and forth. He worked in chicago
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He had a side chick in chicago like a whole girlfriend in chicago. Okay
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That that woman she was she was catholic and she she like all she prayed to god
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She said god, please find a way to keep my family together. He left he left the family
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All right for the side chick and she prayed to god, please find a solution help us get back together
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And he came home and they stayed married and they never got divorced and when i think of
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Traditional women that's who i think of because she would rather die than leave her man and like how many women have that mindset of like
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She didn't get mad that he cheated. She didn't throw it in his face
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She didn't get angry over it and always bring it back up later
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tried to find a solution understood where he was coming from
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And wanted to keep the family together no matter what now i'm not saying you know
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They had a perfect marriage or we should strive for that
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But I just think like that mentality is so rare nowadays
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Instagram and they think something's going to be better on the other side and a lot of times it's not
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But I think sometimes from the where we're sitting now the cultures here
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And I actually know that this this guy and I always saw him with his wife
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Said oh he's gone somebody said where's he gone? I said oh
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I said to her where's your husband? I said someone where's your husband?
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He's got door keys goes to the house. We've all up into the house, you know, he's like another home
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The wife knew all about it, but that was her husband
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And if the wife stepped in and if they happened to meet that so they were going to a funeral and the wife was there
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She didn't they all had basically separate lives, you know, the wife's still got the family home
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They always have to show her respect because she's the wife
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And there's no way on earth that she'd ever give him a divorce
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He's there for the things that husband's supposed to do
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But as many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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