JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


Why People Initiate DIVORCE


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

173.57433

Word count

1,671

Sentence count

27

Harmful content

Misogyny

23

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Hate speech

11

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about cheating, divorce and being single in today's day and age. We also talk about why women should or shouldn't get divorced and why it's better than being in a monogamous relationship.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 What do you struggle with?
00:00:03.000 Can traditional women cheat ever if they're traditional than I know no 1.00
00:00:10.440 Yeah, they're not gonna know about it
00:00:14.940 You think a traditional woman can she yeah, she can take care of the home and do everything she wants in them 1.00
00:00:20.000 Who knows what's going on behind closed doors? You just never know. No, I don't think anyone's perfect. You just never know
00:00:25.700 She could do she could be all those things and cheap, but how can a traditional woman be a virgin if she's got a family? 1.00
00:00:31.860 That's what I met like a version on her wedding night
00:00:35.140 Okay
00:00:36.740 What do you think auntie? Wow
00:00:39.380 That's what I'm thinking. She said about cheating
00:00:42.580 Wow, no, I don't think this because she could I don't think she should and I think traditionally they wouldn't
00:00:48.580 What percent of women do you think want to be wives and what percent of women do you think are happy being single? 1.00
00:00:57.220 In today's day and age. Yeah, and by by happy being single means single today happy for life being single
00:01:04.180 I think a lot more women are happy being single nowadays. Um 1.00
00:01:09.460 I'd say maybe
00:01:13.220 40% of women prefer being single 40% I think so today's day and age
00:01:18.260 And they would rather be single than with a man they respect and admire
00:01:23.540 Okay, maybe not 40 like 30. I feel like a lot more women now would rather I know a lot of women that value their career over relationships 1.00
00:01:31.300 I know a lot of women that have not got into relationships because they're so career driven 1.00
00:01:36.340 I think it happens more in this day and age. I'd say about yeah, 30 to 40%
00:01:40.260 Okay, what do you think? I'll say 20%
00:01:43.060 20% and 80% want to be in relationships. What do you think?
00:01:46.580 Um, I think if everybody's actually really honest with themselves, I think a hundred percent
00:01:53.060 Like you don't who wants to be single for the rest of their lives. That's just dead
00:01:56.340 If you can find a guy
00:01:58.260 That you can look he will look you in your eyes and actually say you know what I love you
00:02:02.260 And I want you to be my wife and I'll cherish you forever every woman would lap that up unless she's a lesbian 1.00
00:02:09.620 What do you think are valid reasons for divorce
00:02:11.940 I'm
00:02:16.900 Consistent cheating
00:02:18.900 Consistent cheating domestic abuse
00:02:22.020 All right, so i'm gonna make a list consistent cheating
00:02:25.860 Domestic abuse what else um drug abuse, I think domestic abuse drug abuse
00:02:31.860 Okay, what else anything else nice lies
00:02:38.420 Okay
00:02:41.220 How many lies just one I just don't like lies tell me when I'm out of there
00:02:46.900 Okay, consistent cheating domestic abuse drugs drug abuse and lies anything else
00:02:54.340 He's if he's a psychopath like certain mental 0.51
00:02:57.780 Yeah, mental illnesses, I think definitely could could divorce someone 1.00
00:03:03.460 Poor um poor financial
00:03:06.820 What's the one I'm looking for?
00:03:10.580 Like gambling
00:03:13.460 Gambling?
00:03:14.100 Yeah, or like they have they don't know they can't
00:03:16.660 An addiction
00:03:17.540 Yeah
00:03:18.020 An unhealthy addiction
00:03:19.460 Yeah, but also one yeah yeah, you know overall
00:03:25.780 You know that question you asked pearl about being happy being single
00:03:31.380 I think that if you broke it into age groups it would sound it'd be different
00:03:36.820 But if you do like
00:03:38.820 I'd say like the 30s and under and the 30s and over or 40s and under you might find there's more unhappy women 1.00
00:03:46.660 Or more women that want to get married the older they get when they're young they're happy being single 1.00
00:03:50.900 It's only when they're old and washed up that they realize that oh
00:03:55.380 I should have had a man back then I still would have been with him 0.98
00:03:58.020 So I think you might find that if you'd put an age group on it the answers would have been different
00:04:02.340 Do you think a lot of women anti-regret leaving their husbands in hindsight?
00:04:08.580 I'd say about 75% do
00:04:10.580 Really?
00:04:10.980 Yeah
00:04:11.460 Three out of four you would say regret it. Why do they regret it later?
00:04:14.820 Because they've just done it. There was no valid reason they did it because they could
00:04:18.500 Or because they didn't feel right or they get bored or he wasn't paying attention to me
00:04:23.620 Up it once is if it's like if somebody's life is in danger then you've got a good reason
00:04:28.980 If there's not then you haven't that's my view
00:04:31.700 So if your life or your children's life or somebody's life is not in danger
00:04:35.620 Then you've got no reason to get divorced
00:04:37.700 So everything else other than
00:04:41.460 Can be worked on
00:04:44.420 I mean when you think about it if you can get divorced for I was thinking about this the other day
00:04:48.260 If you can get divorced for pretty much any reason like not being happy not feeling fulfilled
00:04:53.780 He's not paying attention to me. He's never home. Like then why not just be in a relationship? What's the difference?
00:04:58.740 Like because if if you're married it's supposed to be for richer for poorer through thick and thin it's like you're supposed to
00:05:06.580 Everything but like I think that's the word through that
00:05:08.580 Yeah, I think the catholic church is like abuse addiction like there's
00:05:12.340 Or if you know, there's some secret he was hiding that you didn't know but when you got married
00:05:17.060 but
00:05:18.740 Otherwise, I mean just be in a relationship like why even get married then?
00:05:22.100 Um, it depends on what what section you're talking about. I think I'm sure monogamy is supposed to be a part of marriage
00:05:30.740 So I feel like if we've decided to make
00:05:34.980 Um, if we decide to get married and tie ourself for life
00:05:41.300 I shouldn't have to accept you consistently stepping out of the household
00:05:49.060 Um and have to deal with that throughout a marriage
00:05:51.620 Yeah, but I think you should vet that before you get married. Yeah, but I feel like that's it's an unspoken rule like no one
00:06:00.100 Everyone knows you're not supposed to cheat in a relationship or any committed situation unless you've decided to have an open relationship
00:06:05.940 You know, when I think of traditional women, there's there's a certain woman that and i've told this story so many times on the pod
00:06:12.020 So they're gonna but it's fine. I I think of there's there's a woman. I know she's a relative. She's catholic. Okay
00:06:19.060 She did not believe in divorce. She would rather die like
00:06:22.340 That's when you really meet someone with a truly traditional mindset. They would rather die than get divorced like that
00:06:28.820 There's nothing you could tell her and her husband
00:06:32.820 They lived in wisconsin and then her husband like kind of went back and forth. He worked in chicago
00:06:38.340 He had a side chick in chicago like a whole girlfriend in chicago. Okay
00:06:44.100 and
00:06:46.100 That that woman she was she was catholic and she she like all she prayed to god
00:06:50.740 She said god, please find a way to keep my family together. He left he left the family
00:06:55.220 All right for the side chick and she prayed to god, please find a solution help us get back together
00:07:01.300 and
00:07:02.420 The side chick died
00:07:05.460 Amen
00:07:08.580 And he came home and they stayed married and they never got divorced and when i think of
00:07:15.140 Traditional women that's who i think of because she would rather die than leave her man and like how many women have that mindset of like 1.00
00:07:24.340 She didn't get mad that he cheated. She didn't throw it in his face
00:07:28.180 She didn't get angry over it and always bring it back up later 0.98
00:07:32.340 She genuinely
00:07:34.340 tried to find a solution understood where he was coming from
00:07:37.780 And wanted to keep the family together no matter what now i'm not saying you know
00:07:42.100 They had a perfect marriage or we should strive for that
00:07:44.100 But I just think like that mentality is so rare nowadays
00:07:48.180 It's like it's like they see
00:07:50.340 Instagram and they think something's going to be better on the other side and a lot of times it's not
00:07:54.980 But I think sometimes from the where we're sitting now the cultures here
00:07:59.540 We must know some old person
00:08:02.580 That's done that because I know a couple
00:08:05.700 And I actually know that this this guy and I always saw him with his wife
00:08:09.700 And um we just got together and I think I
00:08:14.100 Said oh he's gone somebody said where's he gone? I said oh
00:08:17.540 I said to her where's your husband? I said someone where's your husband?
00:08:20.260 That's not my husband
00:08:22.580 I was just like
00:08:23.940 Okay, I said someone what's her problem? 0.98
00:08:27.460 Everybody said that's not
00:08:29.620 That's not her husband that's not his wife 1.00
00:08:31.620 So what do you mean they're always together?
00:08:33.620 He's got door keys goes to the house. We've all up into the house, you know, he's like another home
00:08:38.660 And then I met the wife
00:08:40.260 The wife knew all about it, but that was her husband 0.93
00:08:43.380 And if the wife stepped in and if they happened to meet that so they were going to a funeral and the wife was there 0.96
00:08:50.500 She had to step back and hold her place
00:08:53.140 And because the wife was the wife 0.98
00:08:56.260 She didn't they all had basically separate lives, you know, the wife's still got the family home 0.88
00:09:00.580 Grandkids and everything and he goes and comes
00:09:03.220 But the wife's got a 1.00
00:09:05.220 They always have to show her respect because she's the wife 0.97
00:09:07.700 And there's no way on earth that she'd ever give him a divorce
00:09:11.300 That's her husband her house 0.97
00:09:13.780 Whatever he does outside
00:09:15.300 But he's there for his grandkids
00:09:17.380 He's there for the things that husband's supposed to do
00:09:19.860 But as many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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