JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


Why People Initiate DIVORCE


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

173.57433

Word Count

1,671

Sentence Count

27


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 What do you struggle with?
00:00:03.000 Can traditional women cheat ever if they're traditional than I know no
00:00:10.440 Yeah, they're not gonna know about it
00:00:14.940 You think a traditional woman can she yeah, she can take care of the home and do everything she wants in them
00:00:20.000 Who knows what's going on behind closed doors? You just never know. No, I don't think anyone's perfect. You just never know
00:00:25.700 She could do she could be all those things and cheap, but how can a traditional woman be a virgin if she's got a family?
00:00:31.860 That's what I met like a version on her wedding night
00:00:35.140 Okay
00:00:36.740 What do you think auntie? Wow
00:00:39.380 That's what I'm thinking. She said about cheating
00:00:42.580 Wow, no, I don't think this because she could I don't think she should and I think traditionally they wouldn't
00:00:48.580 What percent of women do you think want to be wives and what percent of women do you think are happy being single?
00:00:57.220 In today's day and age. Yeah, and by by happy being single means single today happy for life being single
00:01:04.180 I think a lot more women are happy being single nowadays. Um
00:01:09.460 I'd say maybe
00:01:13.220 40% of women prefer being single 40% I think so today's day and age
00:01:18.260 And they would rather be single than with a man they respect and admire
00:01:23.540 Okay, maybe not 40 like 30. I feel like a lot more women now would rather I know a lot of women that value their career over relationships
00:01:31.300 I know a lot of women that have not got into relationships because they're so career driven
00:01:36.340 I think it happens more in this day and age. I'd say about yeah, 30 to 40%
00:01:40.260 Okay, what do you think? I'll say 20%
00:01:43.060 20% and 80% want to be in relationships. What do you think?
00:01:46.580 Um, I think if everybody's actually really honest with themselves, I think a hundred percent
00:01:53.060 Like you don't who wants to be single for the rest of their lives. That's just dead
00:01:56.340 If you can find a guy
00:01:58.260 That you can look he will look you in your eyes and actually say you know what I love you
00:02:02.260 And I want you to be my wife and I'll cherish you forever every woman would lap that up unless she's a lesbian
00:02:09.620 What do you think are valid reasons for divorce
00:02:11.940 I'm
00:02:16.900 Consistent cheating
00:02:18.900 Consistent cheating domestic abuse
00:02:22.020 All right, so i'm gonna make a list consistent cheating
00:02:25.860 Domestic abuse what else um drug abuse, I think domestic abuse drug abuse
00:02:31.860 Okay, what else anything else nice lies
00:02:38.420 Okay
00:02:41.220 How many lies just one I just don't like lies tell me when I'm out of there
00:02:46.900 Okay, consistent cheating domestic abuse drugs drug abuse and lies anything else
00:02:54.340 He's if he's a psychopath like certain mental
00:02:57.780 Yeah, mental illnesses, I think definitely could could divorce someone
00:03:03.460 Poor um poor financial
00:03:06.820 What's the one I'm looking for?
00:03:10.580 Like gambling
00:03:13.460 Gambling?
00:03:14.100 Yeah, or like they have they don't know they can't
00:03:16.660 An addiction
00:03:17.540 Yeah
00:03:18.020 An unhealthy addiction
00:03:19.460 Yeah, but also one yeah yeah, you know overall
00:03:25.780 You know that question you asked pearl about being happy being single
00:03:31.380 I think that if you broke it into age groups it would sound it'd be different
00:03:36.820 But if you do like
00:03:38.820 I'd say like the 30s and under and the 30s and over or 40s and under you might find there's more unhappy women
00:03:46.660 Or more women that want to get married the older they get when they're young they're happy being single
00:03:50.900 It's only when they're old and washed up that they realize that oh
00:03:55.380 I should have had a man back then I still would have been with him
00:03:58.020 So I think you might find that if you'd put an age group on it the answers would have been different
00:04:02.340 Do you think a lot of women anti-regret leaving their husbands in hindsight?
00:04:08.580 I'd say about 75% do
00:04:10.580 Really?
00:04:10.980 Yeah
00:04:11.460 Three out of four you would say regret it. Why do they regret it later?
00:04:14.820 Because they've just done it. There was no valid reason they did it because they could
00:04:18.500 Or because they didn't feel right or they get bored or he wasn't paying attention to me
00:04:23.620 Up it once is if it's like if somebody's life is in danger then you've got a good reason
00:04:28.980 If there's not then you haven't that's my view
00:04:31.700 So if your life or your children's life or somebody's life is not in danger
00:04:35.620 Then you've got no reason to get divorced
00:04:37.700 So everything else other than
00:04:41.460 Can be worked on
00:04:44.420 I mean when you think about it if you can get divorced for I was thinking about this the other day
00:04:48.260 If you can get divorced for pretty much any reason like not being happy not feeling fulfilled
00:04:53.780 He's not paying attention to me. He's never home. Like then why not just be in a relationship? What's the difference?
00:04:58.740 Like because if if you're married it's supposed to be for richer for poorer through thick and thin it's like you're supposed to
00:05:06.580 Everything but like I think that's the word through that
00:05:08.580 Yeah, I think the catholic church is like abuse addiction like there's
00:05:12.340 Or if you know, there's some secret he was hiding that you didn't know but when you got married
00:05:17.060 but
00:05:18.740 Otherwise, I mean just be in a relationship like why even get married then?
00:05:22.100 Um, it depends on what what section you're talking about. I think I'm sure monogamy is supposed to be a part of marriage
00:05:30.740 So I feel like if we've decided to make
00:05:34.980 Um, if we decide to get married and tie ourself for life
00:05:41.300 I shouldn't have to accept you consistently stepping out of the household
00:05:49.060 Um and have to deal with that throughout a marriage
00:05:51.620 Yeah, but I think you should vet that before you get married. Yeah, but I feel like that's it's an unspoken rule like no one
00:06:00.100 Everyone knows you're not supposed to cheat in a relationship or any committed situation unless you've decided to have an open relationship
00:06:05.940 You know, when I think of traditional women, there's there's a certain woman that and i've told this story so many times on the pod
00:06:12.020 So they're gonna but it's fine. I I think of there's there's a woman. I know she's a relative. She's catholic. Okay
00:06:19.060 She did not believe in divorce. She would rather die like
00:06:22.340 That's when you really meet someone with a truly traditional mindset. They would rather die than get divorced like that
00:06:28.820 There's nothing you could tell her and her husband
00:06:32.820 They lived in wisconsin and then her husband like kind of went back and forth. He worked in chicago
00:06:38.340 He had a side chick in chicago like a whole girlfriend in chicago. Okay
00:06:44.100 and
00:06:46.100 That that woman she was she was catholic and she she like all she prayed to god
00:06:50.740 She said god, please find a way to keep my family together. He left he left the family
00:06:55.220 All right for the side chick and she prayed to god, please find a solution help us get back together
00:07:01.300 and
00:07:02.420 The side chick died
00:07:05.460 Amen
00:07:08.580 And he came home and they stayed married and they never got divorced and when i think of
00:07:15.140 Traditional women that's who i think of because she would rather die than leave her man and like how many women have that mindset of like
00:07:24.340 She didn't get mad that he cheated. She didn't throw it in his face
00:07:28.180 She didn't get angry over it and always bring it back up later
00:07:32.340 She genuinely
00:07:34.340 tried to find a solution understood where he was coming from
00:07:37.780 And wanted to keep the family together no matter what now i'm not saying you know
00:07:42.100 They had a perfect marriage or we should strive for that
00:07:44.100 But I just think like that mentality is so rare nowadays
00:07:48.180 It's like it's like they see
00:07:50.340 Instagram and they think something's going to be better on the other side and a lot of times it's not
00:07:54.980 But I think sometimes from the where we're sitting now the cultures here
00:07:59.540 We must know some old person
00:08:02.580 That's done that because I know a couple
00:08:05.700 And I actually know that this this guy and I always saw him with his wife
00:08:09.700 And um we just got together and I think I
00:08:14.100 Said oh he's gone somebody said where's he gone? I said oh
00:08:17.540 I said to her where's your husband? I said someone where's your husband?
00:08:20.260 That's not my husband
00:08:22.580 I was just like
00:08:23.940 Okay, I said someone what's her problem?
00:08:27.460 Everybody said that's not
00:08:29.620 That's not her husband that's not his wife
00:08:31.620 So what do you mean they're always together?
00:08:33.620 He's got door keys goes to the house. We've all up into the house, you know, he's like another home
00:08:38.660 And then I met the wife
00:08:40.260 The wife knew all about it, but that was her husband
00:08:43.380 And if the wife stepped in and if they happened to meet that so they were going to a funeral and the wife was there
00:08:50.500 She had to step back and hold her place
00:08:53.140 And because the wife was the wife
00:08:56.260 She didn't they all had basically separate lives, you know, the wife's still got the family home
00:09:00.580 Grandkids and everything and he goes and comes
00:09:03.220 But the wife's got a
00:09:05.220 They always have to show her respect because she's the wife
00:09:07.700 And there's no way on earth that she'd ever give him a divorce
00:09:11.300 That's her husband her house
00:09:13.780 Whatever he does outside
00:09:15.300 But he's there for his grandkids
00:09:17.380 He's there for the things that husband's supposed to do
00:09:19.860 But as many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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