JustPearlyThings - August 26, 2023


Why Therapy Is A SCAM!!!


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In this episode, I'm joined by my good friend who has been in therapy for the past 6 years. We talk about her experience with therapy and why she doesn't believe in it and why it's a bad thing.

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00:00:00.000 but okay therapy you think it's a good thing um yes yes it's definitely changed my view on life
00:00:07.440 okay why how um i've had a i've had a really rough upbringing abusive background um dad used to beat
00:00:15.120 me um my mom was an alcoholic um and i had like six years of therapy and i always used to see
00:00:22.720 my glasses like half empty rather than half full so what did you see before like what was the
00:00:29.040 difference between you six years it's hard to explain it but i used to see everything as black
00:00:34.400 and white the world was just black and white and now it's sort of got its color back so now i can see
00:00:40.720 things in a positive light which is it was really difficult before and um you know like when you tell
00:00:48.480 people that they just don't get it until they experience it um which is like depression and
00:00:53.680 just sadness just general sadness um but i think therapy helped me understand why things happened
00:01:00.800 and how things happen so the why's and the who's so all the questions that i've got over the six years
00:01:07.440 of therapy really helped me understand who i am who my uh my my parents are um why they did the things
00:01:16.000 they did and why i am why i am and why i make decisions so there was loads of questions answered
00:01:23.440 which now helped me navigate moving forward in life just just day-to-day things just i can now
00:01:31.120 understand why everything is happening and i can change it actively if i want to
00:01:37.360 therapy literally saved my life yeah what were we saying i saved my life too what what was your
00:01:44.400 experience so um i went through about a depression um actually sort of earlier this year bring the mic
00:01:50.560 up um and yeah i made an attempt on my life oh wow from there i went into therapy and um yeah
00:02:00.640 changed the way i see things change the way i am yeah yeah yeah it's not a competition but i've made
00:02:06.080 like six attempts on my life yeah oh wow yeah so if there's competition you win so thank you i'll
00:02:14.160 tell you i'll tell you why i i don't believe in therapy yeah now i i think there's an individual have you
00:02:19.840 had it yeah and i thought it was stupid how long did you do it for like a couple sessions and i was 0.52
00:02:25.440 i was stupid exactly because you didn't give no no let me let me let me explain why and then you 0.91
00:02:31.440 can you can rebuttal so if you look into the history of psychology it was started by some of
00:02:36.720 these big families um and i i really think it's just usually a way to make men more feminine and
00:02:43.200 and teach them how to communicate like women in general and i think you can see this because 90
00:02:48.160 of therapists are women and i actually went to school for psychology and those bitches are crazy i'm 1.00
00:02:54.080 like if these are the women that are telling everyone how to think oh my god now i do think there's 1.00
00:02:59.360 individual therapists that are good um usually men i don't think it's like i just think women
00:03:04.080 don't look to solve problems they look to they look to like hear you and listen to you but not not
00:03:09.920 necessarily solve problems so the therapists that i do think are good are typically men not typically
00:03:15.440 women which is only 10 percent of therapists so and usually what what i find is that especially chicks 1.00
00:03:23.360 will go to therapists for years and then learn all these like think everybody's a narcissist think
00:03:28.320 everyone's toxic in their life and i really think therapy has replaced what used to be a strong
00:03:33.440 family structure because you used to be able to go to like someone in your household in order to like
00:03:39.040 fix problems but the issue is we have such a fucked up like family structure right now that people don't 0.91
00:03:43.920 have families to go to and they go to a stranger instead and i think it would be better if we could go
00:03:50.240 to families instead of go outside of it okay but you do know like there's different types of therapies like
00:03:56.480 there's speak therapy there's music therapy like there's different forms of that which could help
00:04:02.720 i i think there's individual instance i think male therapists are decent like i think i think
00:04:07.520 mostly i think some of my best therapists have been no yeah i just i just find that women 1.00
00:04:11.920 are most of like most therapists it's like 90 percent are women and i just don't think women look to 0.56
00:04:17.200 solve problems they just look to like listen which which is fine but i i just think that it
00:04:23.280 like you said like if you don't have that family correct unit yeah um who do you turn to do you
00:04:29.440 know what i mean but now i'm more open to speak to friends i'm more open to speak to i'm i can speak
00:04:34.640 to strangers about how what i've been through yeah because you've spoke to a therapist um yeah it
00:04:40.800 helped me open up to to people and things but you see that's like a more feminine trait and that's
00:04:46.480 why i say i think therapy like typically makes men into women more feminine because because either that
00:04:51.680 or be dead you know i'm not saying it doesn't help in some instances so you know i'm not trying to
00:04:57.840 like knock yours no no no no no i'm fine but i've just i've just found that like i think that therapy
00:05:03.600 tells men to emote like women because typically like women are the ones that need to talk about their 1.00
00:05:09.360 problems to feel better yeah where men don't you know they'll like fight it out or like you know just
00:05:14.960 in general right you think that that's good i i think that making someone into something they're not
00:05:20.800 as bad and i think making men into women is bad and we've always been told that the feminine way 0.99
00:05:25.440 to do things is good okay so i'd like to add um typically i would say instead of therapy what
00:05:32.640 people should seek out is mentorship so you want someone that would teach you how to attack problems
00:05:38.800 in life and how to build on positive steps each day so the reason why a lot of people fall into
00:05:44.800 depression is usually for a few reasons one things are not going right in their life or they don't have
00:05:50.720 direction that is usually the reason why people fall into depression so if you have someone that
00:05:54.880 can show you steps okay you know what today go to the gym even when you don't feel like going to the
00:05:59.040 gym still do it they push you you go over time you you tend to build up small wins and then with each 1.00
00:06:05.760 small win you build up character yeah so this thing a lot of men these days fall into the trap of going
00:06:12.000 to therapy when you should actually be seeking because as men we get our source of um strength
00:06:20.240 and our source of motivation from actually um building things making um little successes here
00:06:27.120 and there so you can't just sit in a room and be talking about your feelings and expect that i mean
00:06:31.920 it could help it could work for some people yeah a lot of people it doesn't actually work yeah i think
00:06:36.160 it's better for people if not just even men both men and women to focus on doing things day by day
00:06:42.640 and getting small wins and that way you can come out of anything that's true yeah i i actually think
00:06:48.080 this right here would help more people than therapy now this is just my personal opinion okay so this is
00:06:57.200 just pearl's thought i think the natural order of the world okay god men women children
00:07:14.400 all right so for those that couldn't hear god men women children i think most of the time when evil
00:07:19.280 happens or family dysfunction happens it's because women think they're equal to men 1.00
00:07:23.600 so i think typically it's the women trying to impose their will on men and a lot of people with
00:07:30.320 daddy issues actually have mommy issues because the mom women it's like our our violence is social 1.00
00:07:36.640 destruction so a lot of people hate the dad but it's really the mom and usually when the family's out
00:07:43.040 of order it's because of the mom typically because the mom either didn't listen to the dad she didn't
00:07:48.640 respect the dad or um she or she socially like she told the kids that the dad was bad that's what i
00:07:58.640 think most of the time i'm not saying like this doesn't happen to there's evil men there's evil
00:08:02.560 women but if i had to just go on a balance of probabilities that's that's what i i think when 0.99
00:08:08.080 there's like family dysfunction and you can always tell when there's family dysfunction based on the
00:08:11.680 children so like an example i'll give you guys will and jada smith right i knew remember
00:08:18.080 no no okay i'll give you an example right you guys do you remember when they're a power couple
00:08:22.400 and everyone loved them yeah i knew they were messed up because their kids were so messed up
00:08:27.120 like why why is willow and like whatever their names are they're dressing like the opposite gent like 0.99
00:08:31.280 that's not normal right from like a true like i i mean i'm pro like traditionalism so i i i think
00:08:38.160 that's like a bad thing right and so i knew they were messed up and so what what's the problem with
00:08:42.640 that family dynamic uh jada thinks she's equal to will and she's constantly imposing her will 1.00
00:08:49.360 on on will and will listens to his wife no seriously do you guys do you guys think that like will's idea
00:08:55.360 was to do the open marriage no no no it was hers right because it was correct like what happened 0.98
00:09:00.960 what happened in the garden of eve like like adam eve had everything and she wasn't happy and adam
00:09:06.880 listened to his wife and i think that's what we're seeing in society is women will have everything 0.89
00:09:11.040 they're not happy and then they listen and then the men listen to their wives and i i think you know
00:09:17.040 when women have the most choice unfortunately we make poor decisions you know again the last hundred 0.83
00:09:22.480 years we've all chosen to be whore you know and we you know it's like everyone's and i do just i do 0.74
00:09:28.000 the show so much it's like everyone's got a toxic ex-boyfriend everyone you know at you know
00:09:33.840 everyone's dated a guy that's cheated and it's like we just don't we're we just are very loyal
00:09:38.640 to our feelings so it doesn't mean we're like bad people it's just kind of how we are we're loyal to
00:09:43.120 our feelings we're men i think men naturally and this is this is out there okay i think men naturally
00:09:49.520 have god inside of them now again i'm a catholic and the reason i think this is because when men act
00:09:56.240 too bad other men police them or when women act bad other women encourage it right so when women get 0.99
00:10:03.520 fat we say you're so beautiful you're a queen right when women are whores we say don't slut shame 1.00
00:10:08.480 but when men do drugs and they become drug addicts other men say no don't do that don't live your and
00:10:13.600 they'll even admit that's wrong and you shouldn't live your life like that so i think men just are 1.00
00:10:18.080 naturally better people than women i know i know this is like a crazy thought but yeah i think i think
00:10:24.880 and i think knowing women and female and female nature helps society more because it kind of explains
00:10:31.120 our behavior a little bit better and i think most of the time women that impose their will on men 1.00
00:10:36.720 that's when you get the kids being messed up and you can always see if a family dynamic is good based
00:10:42.240 on the children yeah that's that's my therapy that's pearl's therapy you know yeah what do you do you
00:10:49.040 guys disagree with that or completely agree really great yeah i thought this is so wild i've never had
00:10:54.560 a room agree with that you seem like you disagree a little bit no no no no yeah i agree so men are better 1.00
00:11:00.320 people than women to an extent i think they're stronger than women definitely i think men are
00:11:05.600 stronger as i said and it goes back down to men leading when when women allow men to lead yeah when
00:11:12.000 men lead you can see it in the children uh the family dynamics um the household you can see the
00:11:18.400 difference between a child who has both parents at home yeah and a difference between a child who has
00:11:23.280 one parent i can hear it in guys voices a lot of the time because they like talk like their mom
00:11:28.560 because they're like that's who they had around them growing up yeah not not always i'm not like
00:11:32.880 a hundred percent but a lot of times like some guys will come on the show and i can just like hear it
00:11:37.440 um sometimes women too it's like the same thing but it's like it's like more obvious than men you
00:11:43.120 know what i was thinking too how our language sort of um we tell on ourselves through our language like
00:11:49.040 i agree if a woman acts like a man it's not necessarily seen as a bad thing like maybe in dating but
00:11:54.720 it's like it's not as looked down upon as if a man acts like a woman like you say you're acting
00:11:59.600 like a woman right now like it's like more of a negative than if a woman acts like a man yeah yeah 1.00
00:12:05.520 someone called me sassy the other day did it hurt your feelings a little bit a little bit yeah
00:12:12.240 it's all right it's all right yeah and i was just so i was just saying an opinion what did you say
00:12:19.840 i was just like whoa okay and i just moved on because i thought like if i said anything about
00:12:26.080 i'd be more sassy