JustPearlyThings - August 11, 2023


Why We Don't Have Traditional Women


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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

242.43016

Word count

2,071

Sentence count

194

Harmful content

Misogyny

22

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Hate speech

18

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In this episode, the guys talk about how a woman should or shouldn t split the bill when it comes to paying for things. They also talk about what a traditional woman should and shouldn t do with her money and how a modern woman should treat her money.

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00:00:00.000 Do you guys care about a girl's money? 0.70
00:00:03.340 I wouldn't care about it, but if she had money, then it's all mine.
00:00:06.660 And my money's mine. Easy as.
00:00:09.280 Do you understand?
00:00:10.200 Yeah.
00:00:10.860 So, like, if she needed something and she has my kids,
00:00:13.560 do you know what I'm saying?
00:00:14.140 Then I'll obviously offer it to her.
00:00:16.340 But my money's my money.
00:00:17.960 I'll obviously give it to you if you need it.
00:00:19.360 And your money's my money. Easy as.
00:00:21.700 That's how it works. Do you understand?
00:00:23.300 Yeah, in a marriage, yeah, because you come together, don't you?
00:00:25.460 Because, like, the girl's money's my money, 0.52
00:00:27.400 and my money's my money.
00:00:28.800 Do you understand?
00:00:29.200 But when she needs something, I'll obviously provide it for her.
00:00:31.580 Do you understand?
00:00:32.160 Yeah.
00:00:32.860 Yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying.
00:00:34.220 I would still see it as my money,
00:00:36.640 but I'm not going to not allow you to have it
00:00:38.920 because we're married.
00:00:39.780 We're a partnership.
00:00:40.800 Do you know what I mean?
00:00:41.400 Exactly.
00:00:41.780 Let's say your man needs it.
00:00:44.140 That money takes it from you.
00:00:44.960 It's not even a question you could have it today.
00:00:46.240 That's good, Ashton.
00:00:47.020 That's very good.
00:00:47.660 I respect that about you.
00:00:48.600 Thank you very much.
00:00:50.060 Thanks.
00:00:51.180 Do you care?
00:00:52.000 I don't care at all.
00:00:53.140 And any woman that's ever, like, done anything with me, 0.99
00:00:55.880 I pay for everything.
00:00:57.020 Five-star hotels, restaurants.
00:00:58.240 I'm flying to Poland tomorrow.
00:01:01.420 Her and her friend are supposed to meet up with me.
00:01:02.880 She said, we're not rich like that.
00:01:05.300 I said, whenever I ever had you pay for anything.
00:01:08.020 I find it offensive when a girl offers a pay. 1.00
00:01:10.480 Yeah, money doesn't matter.
00:01:11.040 I find it offensive when a girl offers a pay. 1.00
00:01:12.100 You find it offensive?
00:01:13.220 Yeah, I find it offensive, bro.
00:01:14.900 But isn't it rude if they don't, though?
00:01:17.160 Would you not be rude?
00:01:17.780 No, it's not.
00:01:18.240 Because you know who splits the bill?
00:01:19.160 Why do you think it's offensive?
00:01:20.180 You know who splits the bill?
00:01:21.720 Friends split the bill.
00:01:23.140 They're like, oh, my friend.
00:01:24.360 Let me split the bill with you.
00:01:24.980 But the offer, though, would you rather a girl offer than not? 0.78
00:01:26.780 It's not the offer.
00:01:27.440 That's offensive.
00:01:28.140 That's offensive, end of.
00:01:29.520 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:29.880 So then she could be used when I own my back in. 1.00
00:01:31.540 Girls need to get used to the fact that the car's on me, 1.00
00:01:35.340 the cash is on me, tap it, end of.
00:01:37.240 Go.
00:01:38.000 It's not a way to go.
00:01:38.840 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:39.680 Can I split this with you?
00:01:41.960 That's embarrassing for the man.
00:01:42.960 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:43.800 The man knows he has to pay.
00:01:45.300 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:45.760 And the girl should know to stand back, 1.00
00:01:47.560 let him handle the finances.
00:01:49.100 Easy as.
00:01:49.980 You can't just say to your own man,
00:01:51.700 oh, can I split the bill with you?
00:01:53.480 That's offensive.
00:01:54.660 That's the thing I'm saying, I'm friends with you.
00:01:56.680 So I'll offer to split the bill.
00:01:58.100 If you know he was truly a man,
00:01:59.880 you would just leave it to him.
00:02:01.140 Go pay it, this and that.
00:02:02.480 You don't think about it.
00:02:03.260 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:03.700 Do you think if a guy accepts splitting the bill,
00:02:05.660 he doesn't like her that much?
00:02:06.960 Then he's a bitch, bro. 1.00
00:02:07.820 Easy as, end of.
00:02:09.320 Okay.
00:02:10.120 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:02:10.960 Yeah.
00:02:11.360 Because he'll be like, oh, let me split the bill.
00:02:13.320 Do you think women that are not traditional
00:02:16.140 deserve traditional treatment?
00:02:18.160 No.
00:02:19.440 Because most, I don't think traditional women exist in 2023. 1.00
00:02:22.520 I think some do.
00:02:24.260 I think some do.
00:02:24.880 I know a few virgins, to be fair. 0.99
00:02:26.660 I don't think, I think even a traditional woman 1.00
00:02:29.000 can't be traditional because she's still 0.99
00:02:30.640 too influenced by the culture.
00:02:32.100 She doesn't live in a rat sack in the middle of nowhere.
00:02:34.500 You know what it is?
00:02:35.340 It's TikTok, Instagram.
00:02:36.800 Right.
00:02:37.120 Because girls follow trends, right? 1.00
00:02:38.160 It changes everyone.
00:02:39.200 Girls follow trends. 1.00
00:02:40.100 Like, what percent of girls have their own cookbook 1.00
00:02:42.360 of recipes from scratch?
00:02:44.160 What percent of girls, like, what percent of girls, 1.00
00:02:46.700 like, genuinely, the skills that her grandmothers had?
00:02:49.220 Like, that they could, you know, my grandma had nine kids,
00:02:53.000 and she managed the household of nine kids. 0.86
00:02:54.840 She could sew, she could cook, she could clean.
00:02:57.200 And I'll just say, I can't do half of that.
00:02:59.100 I can't sew.
00:03:00.180 It is amazing.
00:03:01.120 Who here knows how to sew?
00:03:02.220 I do, but not very well.
00:03:03.140 I do.
00:03:04.780 I sew my clothes back together when they have a hole in it.
00:03:11.020 Okay, right.
00:03:12.180 But you see what I'm saying?
00:03:13.840 Like, what percent of girls really have those skills? 1.00
00:03:15.980 So, like, one argument I've heard from guys is, like,
00:03:18.300 why would I treat her like a traditional woman when, like, 1.00
00:03:21.120 they're not?
00:03:21.660 You shouldn't.
00:03:22.960 The thing is, trust me, the thing is,
00:03:24.940 you have to train your girl with, like, I'm not even being rude.
00:03:27.820 I'm not trying to say, like, she's something bad.
00:03:29.340 But training her girl, like, even if you don't like the way she is,
00:03:32.520 you can train her, you can mold her.
00:03:34.100 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:34.860 Mold her? 0.94
00:03:35.800 Not mold, but, like, train her.
00:03:37.280 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:03:37.660 Right.
00:03:38.020 No, I agree with you.
00:03:39.660 Like, I don't disagree.
00:03:40.440 I've just heard, I heard them, I think Brian talk about it on whatever,
00:03:43.780 and he's like, why would I split the bill when half the time I meet these girls
00:03:47.340 and they're going to sleep with another dude after the date? 1.00
00:03:50.120 Yes, please.
00:03:50.600 So, and so he's saying, like, why would I do that?
00:03:53.620 And she has to prove to me that she's not like that before I'm really going to treat her. 0.91
00:03:57.060 Even if she does sleep with guys,
00:03:58.620 let's say you're out of her, yeah?
00:03:59.600 Yeah.
00:04:00.200 Cool, you don't know that she's a skeptic yet.
00:04:01.680 You still pay the bill.
00:04:02.540 That's your instinct as a man.
00:04:03.980 Even if she's a skeptic with 100 guys, you still pay the bill.
00:04:06.700 Don't look at it like, oh, split the bill, you can have the bill.
00:04:08.740 Shut up. 0.95
00:04:09.540 Just pay the bill, get on with it, bruv, no matter what.
00:04:11.700 Then don't speak to her afterwards.
00:04:12.880 Easy as.
00:04:13.660 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:14.560 I agree with him because I think when you want to date,
00:04:16.920 you should be dating with intent, first off.
00:04:19.440 Right.
00:04:19.740 You should be asking questions that are meaningful and purposeful
00:04:22.000 and beneficial to your long-term commitment.
00:04:24.280 Right?
00:04:24.720 So if you realize that that girl's not a modern mentality woman,
00:04:28.620 you said, as a man, pay the bill, you enjoy your night, I'm out.
00:04:34.100 Why am I going to waste my time with a girl that I know 1.00
00:04:35.840 is not going to give me what I need?
00:04:37.060 Unless you want to have fun with her for like one, two times, three times.
00:04:40.420 That's what you want to do.
00:04:42.780 You go to the club, pay the club bill, go to the house and then pay the drinks
00:04:47.260 and then have sex with her and then send her home, have sex with her again. 1.00
00:04:50.920 If that's the lane you want to take.
00:04:52.520 But I mean, if you're looking for more than just fun, right?
00:04:55.460 You meet a girl, you realize she's not really that modern mentality.
00:04:58.760 She's a modern mentality woman. 1.00
00:05:00.240 She's not like more traditional values and morals.
00:05:02.720 Why am I going to waste my time?
00:05:04.280 I don't got no issue with you.
00:05:05.240 I'm just going to pay the bill.
00:05:06.100 You have a drink.
00:05:06.960 Well, I think his thing is like he just doesn't want to waste his money
00:05:10.360 on someone that is modern or like a modern mentality because he's like,
00:05:14.480 I mean, that's my mistake.
00:05:15.480 Right, right.
00:05:15.680 Because she's most likely talking to like 10 dudes, sleeping with another dude. 1.00
00:05:19.440 You know, I'm not, I'm not saying you do or you don't.
00:05:21.140 I was just curious what you think of that.
00:05:22.460 It's just the cost of taking risk, right?
00:05:24.860 Yeah.
00:05:25.060 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:25.460 Because you don't really know until you meet the person.
00:05:27.140 So if I invited her out, I mean, I got to take that L, right? 0.95
00:05:30.820 Would you guys go on another date with a guy if he didn't pay the bill?
00:05:36.020 Yeah.
00:05:36.700 To be fair, I've been on dates where I've paid for.
00:05:40.680 Yeah, so have I.
00:05:41.520 Yeah.
00:05:41.940 And it hasn't bothered me though.
00:05:43.360 Did you sleep with him?
00:05:43.900 It never.
00:05:45.700 No.
00:05:46.040 Yeah, no, I did.
00:05:46.900 No.
00:05:47.480 Oh, you did.
00:05:48.160 Okay.
00:05:48.560 I did.
00:05:49.160 You did?
00:05:49.660 Because it doesn't, stuff like that doesn't get to me.
00:05:52.420 I'm not that kind of person.
00:05:55.820 Yeah.
00:05:56.940 Yeah, no, it doesn't bother me.
00:05:58.000 But was it at one time then?
00:05:59.840 I never saw him again, no.
00:06:00.940 There you go.
00:06:01.680 But it wasn't, it wasn't just because, it wasn't because of that.
00:06:03.940 I just didn't really like him like that, but.
00:06:06.080 Only in a relationship I will.
00:06:07.480 You only sleep with a guy in a relationship.
00:06:12.060 Oh, no, wait.
00:06:12.860 Well, we're talking about two different things.
00:06:14.800 Oh, no, you're talking about paying.
00:06:15.800 Yeah, I'm talking about paying, yeah.
00:06:16.860 What about, what about you, if you had to go back, would you stay a virgin until you're
00:06:21.640 married?
00:06:23.140 No.
00:06:25.980 You would never change me.
00:06:27.320 No, no, it's just, it's crazy to me because you know it caused you trauma.
00:06:31.240 Like, you said that.
00:06:32.400 And you see how it's damaging.
00:06:34.240 Like, why wouldn't you?
00:06:35.260 Because to me, if I, like, if I know, if I know a relationship, like, you know, because
00:06:40.260 people are like, oh, I wouldn't change anything.
00:06:41.880 And I think, I would absolutely, like, you know it didn't work.
00:06:46.980 Yeah, I see where you're coming from, but, I don't know, I just don't like being bored.
00:06:51.740 I feel like I'd have too much temptation.
00:06:54.380 I'm not patient.
00:06:55.680 I'm not a patient person, so I feel like I'm.
00:06:57.580 Layla, have you ever been in love?
00:06:58.740 Proper in love?
00:06:59.200 I'd know.
00:06:59.960 Never.
00:07:00.360 That's why, then.
00:07:00.960 That's probably why.
00:07:01.340 You have to find a guy that you properly love, and that you're going to stay loyal to
00:07:04.660 him for the rest of your life.
00:07:05.900 You have to find a guy that you proper love.
00:07:07.460 Proper.
00:07:07.940 Yeah, maybe I just haven't had them emotions yet.
00:07:09.760 What do you think love is?
00:07:10.680 I think love is, I believe in love, I can't lie.
00:07:14.600 Yeah, what do you think it is?
00:07:15.620 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:16.160 Is it more than just a feeling?
00:07:17.400 It's when, I think it's different for boys than girls, I can't lie.
00:07:19.800 Yeah, I think so too.
00:07:21.040 So, for girls, it's a feeling, obviously.
00:07:23.240 It's not a physical thing, is it?
00:07:25.160 So, when a girl, as she only thinks about him, she sees her future with him only, thinks 0.80
00:07:31.340 in her head, I can't replace this guy, so I can't get anything better than him.
00:07:35.140 I'm going to stick with him.
00:07:36.460 He's the love of my life.
00:07:37.400 I respect him.
00:07:38.620 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:39.060 And for the man, like, that's a beautiful thing for a woman.
00:07:42.700 Yeah.
00:07:43.160 Like, and, but, the guy has to be high value, do you know what I'm saying?
00:07:46.240 A girl can't just be head over heels in love with a guy. 0.88
00:07:49.260 That's not high value.
00:07:50.420 I can't be a homeless guy that speaks words, like you were saying, and poems and that.
00:07:54.600 She won't fall head over heels in love with him.
00:07:56.740 That's in fairy tales.
00:07:58.080 It has to be high value for the value to matter, for the love to matter.
00:08:00.940 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:08:01.280 I think that's what I go through, like, I feel like it's just a lust all the time.
00:08:04.700 Yeah, it's just a feeling.
00:08:05.500 It's not a love.
00:08:06.200 You know, you know what I did the other day?
00:08:09.140 You can be in love more than once.
00:08:12.560 What, men? 0.56
00:08:13.380 Yeah, yeah, anyone really.
00:08:15.180 I mean, I don't know about men, but I can speak for women on behalf.
00:08:19.080 Like, how come, how come, like, we have exes, right?
00:08:22.700 There must have been something there to spend that time with.
00:08:24.680 You clearly was in love with them, and then you, like, that didn't work out,
00:08:28.420 and now you're in love with someone else.
00:08:29.980 So it's just a feeling, so you can have it with anyone.
00:08:32.400 Okay.