JustPearlyThings - May 15, 2023


Why Women Are On INSTAGRAM


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

207.85245

Word count

1,897

Sentence count

181

Harmful content

Misogyny

32

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Hate speech

16

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In this episode, we discuss cheating in relationships and the difference between cheating and non-cheating when it comes to social media. Do you think it's cheating when a woman posts pictures on social media while in a relationship? Is it cheating when she posts pictures of herself in a bikini? Does it really matter if she does or doesn't post them?

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00:00:00.000 Do you guys think it's cheating as a girl to be posting pictures on Instagram while you're in a relationship?
00:00:05.880 Hell no. What kind of picture? What?
00:00:08.100 Really any pictures that... What sort of pictures? What, like a selfie? Advertising the book. A selfie, I would include a selfie. Really?
00:00:13.840 Because, okay, okay, do you think attention is to women as to sex is to men?
00:00:18.520 No. No, you don't.
00:00:20.640 Similar, but it's not the same currency. You know, I mean, I think that because we live in such a PC world at the moment
00:00:26.600 If a lady throws up some pictures of herself in a bikini, she knows what the purpose of it is. You know what I mean? 0.99
00:00:32.780 It's to gain the attention. However, men don't need to be as sensitive to think that that is cheating.
00:00:37.600 I don't think that's cheating. It's just unrespectful.
00:00:39.440 Okay, but this is why I think it is. Because, like, women's mating strategy from a biological perspective is to get attention from the highest value guy. 1.00
00:00:46.780 So what is Instagram? That is getting attention from the... Wait, wait, wait.
00:00:50.840 So that is getting attention from the highest value guy.
00:00:53.560 Where on the other hand, men's mating strategy is to screw as many people as possible. 0.99
00:00:57.440 But when they get into a relationship, the men are expected to stop screwing as many people as possible.
00:01:02.400 But the women are not expected to compromise on their mating strategy, which is seeking attention from high value men.
00:01:07.760 And which is posting pictures on Instagram.
00:01:10.360 Because you know damn well, even if it's just your face, if you're a pretty girl, there are going to be, you know, high value men interested.
00:01:18.440 To your point, I've had an experience where I had a girl, like one of my photographs, slid in the DM, said hello.
00:01:26.840 And immediately her boyfriend, the pressure that was on him in that relationship went up 10 times.
00:01:33.380 Because a man who superseded his earning, his different ways, not going to go anywhere because, you know, nothing against the guy.
00:01:40.080 But she said afterwards, when I met her, because she dumped him, the pressure was on immediately.
00:01:46.920 And when women are doing that, it is a for sale sign to a degree. 1.00
00:01:50.720 Not a proper, you know, but it is advertising, isn't it?
00:01:54.400 And men are flooding the DM.
00:01:57.340 But especially if it's a naked or semi-naked photograph, sorry.
00:02:01.360 But even, like, even just a selfie.
00:02:03.620 And the other thing women don't think about is, like, women will still go out to bars and clubs where all of the guys are trying to screw you. 1.00
00:02:11.220 Men are, again, men, that's seeking attention from high value men.
00:02:15.460 The best guy that you can get.
00:02:16.700 Where the men are still, like, the men are, this is why I come back so hard on cheating.
00:02:21.000 Because we cheat in different ways.
00:02:22.540 Women still do it all the time. 1.00
00:02:23.900 And it's accepted in society.
00:02:25.600 And so when men cheat, it's, like, we do the same thing.
00:02:30.500 Like, we do the same things just in a different way.
00:02:32.520 That's why I asked at the very beginning, what do we mean by cheating?
00:02:35.980 I think if we come up with a better definition that everyone's in agreement with.
00:02:39.980 But she's right.
00:02:40.540 When you break it down like that, you are right.
00:02:42.260 People are only as faithful as their options.
00:02:44.180 And women are, like, women are under the guise of, like, hey, I'm just posting a photograph. 1.00
00:02:49.500 Under the guise of that, allowing them to explore their options.
00:02:52.760 Whereas when men explore their options, we have to be a lot more deliberate.
00:02:56.440 We're messaging.
00:02:57.380 We're putting the fishing rod out and going, are you available?
00:03:00.800 And if we get caught doing that, then we're caught red-handed.
00:03:03.880 Whereas with women, it's, hey, he slid in my DMs. 1.00
00:03:06.500 I didn't slid in his DMs.
00:03:07.120 That's what women do. 1.00
00:03:07.980 It's a totally different scenario.
00:03:09.320 You see, like, on the internet, what they do is they put the pictures up all on Instagram.
00:03:12.740 Yeah, and they just leave them to sit there.
00:03:14.220 It's like they're just casting their net and then going off for the day.
00:03:17.180 And then they'll come back and see what's being on.
00:03:19.240 You know what I mean?
00:03:19.720 Yeah, but it's like a girl will literally be going out with ass pictures on Instagram and she'll cry. 1.00
00:03:26.540 Oh, he cheated on me.
00:03:28.060 And I'm like, bitch, look at your profile. 1.00
00:03:30.900 And if a man has a problem, he's controlling.
00:03:32.740 Yeah, and the women act like we act like we're so much better than the men. 1.00
00:03:36.760 We would never do that.
00:03:38.280 But it's like, okay, you go out twice a week.
00:03:41.060 You get all this attention from guys.
00:03:43.020 You have guys trying to screw you all the time.
00:03:44.700 How are you better than him?
00:03:45.820 And that's the thing, like, I just don't like, as women, like, we're just on our high horse, like, oh, it's the worst thing in the world that he cheated.
00:03:52.060 He's such a horrible person.
00:03:53.140 When we do it in a different way every single day.
00:03:55.660 I didn't think of it.
00:03:56.380 I mean, that's what I said before.
00:03:57.520 Like, what is the actual thing that hurts with cheating for women? 0.95
00:04:01.460 Because what I tend to hear, I say it like I've heard it a million times.
00:04:06.720 Serial cheater.
00:04:07.440 What I've heard before is, what did she have that I didn't have?
00:04:11.860 Yeah, of course you had that.
00:04:12.620 I think that's the sort of thing which women say. 1.00
00:04:16.580 And sometimes it's not actually about that, you know what I mean?
00:04:18.880 It's not about what the woman has from what you don't have.
00:04:22.200 Because Jay-Z cheated on Beyonce.
00:04:24.500 You know what I mean?
00:04:25.940 And she's supposed to be the baddest in the game, right? 0.98
00:04:27.740 She is the baddest in the game. 1.00
00:04:29.060 But she's still got two kids. 0.99
00:04:30.240 But that was after two kids or whatever.
00:04:31.820 And all of a sudden, all the attention is on the kids.
00:04:34.740 I'm not saying that this makes anything okay.
00:04:37.960 I'm not.
00:04:38.480 I'm just saying, like, when Beyonce and whoever,
00:04:41.100 all these women are focusing in on the children, 1.00
00:04:43.460 and the man all of a sudden becomes,
00:04:45.360 yeah, you're the last thing I'm thinking about today.
00:04:48.920 You know?
00:04:49.320 Whereas before, when you met each other, I was priority number one.
00:04:52.880 And for men, especially if you're one of these high-value men
00:04:56.680 who is earning all this money and changing this woman's life, 1.00
00:04:59.140 that needs to continue.
00:05:01.120 Or if you let your standards slip,
00:05:03.440 there will be someone ready and waiting to replace you.
00:05:06.080 But women don't realize that. 1.00
00:05:07.700 Because we're not going to tell you because what we're going to say.
00:05:10.220 Like, we can't say that.
00:05:11.360 Oh, by the way, fucking she was sliding into my DMs. 1.00
00:05:14.700 No, I can't do that.
00:05:16.160 And a lot of times the girls, like, Beyonce,
00:05:18.100 you think Beyonce didn't know? 0.98
00:05:19.880 Like, you think Beyonce didn't know she was getting cheated on? 0.60
00:05:22.340 Like, a lot of the girls in these arrangements, they already know. 0.98
00:05:25.280 And then the women will come in and say they're doing the right thing 1.00
00:05:27.660 by telling them or posting it online
00:05:29.380 when it's like a lot of these girls just don't want to be in. 0.99
00:05:31.420 Well, she stayed with Jay-Z.
00:05:32.340 So, like, all of these single ladies and independent women bullshit, 1.00
00:05:36.320 she stayed with Jay-Z.
00:05:37.880 And Jay-Z isn't the most handsome man ever.
00:05:40.580 And this is why I go back to saying, like,
00:05:42.140 a lot of men don't realize women are actually willing to work it out.
00:05:45.000 If you have.
00:05:46.840 A purpose, isn't it?
00:05:48.080 If you have.
00:05:48.720 All the time.
00:05:49.520 If you're a brokie, as Andrew says, 1.00
00:05:51.620 and you're cheating.
00:05:52.760 Girl, it's like, Cap, if he's a brokie, 1.00
00:05:54.080 you're only staying for so long.
00:05:55.400 Come on, man.
00:05:55.880 You're only staying for so long.
00:05:56.700 He's got to bring something else to the table.
00:05:58.300 That I agree with her.
00:05:59.060 I have to.
00:05:59.960 You might deal with it a little bit.
00:06:01.920 I mean, you're 25, so maybe at your age,
00:06:04.360 like, because there's a future, right?
00:06:06.360 So if you meet a guy and he maybe doesn't have a shit figured out,
00:06:09.340 he could start an OF at 31 and then, you know,
00:06:11.520 make millions and then take care of you, you know?
00:06:13.400 Yeah, you see?
00:06:14.440 She's setting us up.
00:06:15.540 I guarantee you.
00:06:16.100 We're going to see the light.
00:06:16.860 She's Tom from ASDA, yeah?
00:06:18.300 Tom, who works for that.
00:06:19.080 Could I be with a guy where I'm still, like,
00:06:20.460 trying to grow with him as well?
00:06:21.660 Right, right, but if he was, but let's say he's 45.
00:06:24.320 I don't know how old you date.
00:06:25.480 That's different.
00:06:26.160 Yeah, but you wouldn't date a broke guy at 45.
00:06:28.260 No.
00:06:28.560 No, he'd have to figure it out.
00:06:30.340 Yeah, what I was saying is,
00:06:31.460 see, like, if you've got Tom that works in ASDA, yeah?
00:06:34.500 Tom, who works in ASDA, will cheat on you one time, yeah?
00:06:37.980 See you later, Tom.
00:06:39.220 But if you've got, you know,
00:06:40.720 Kieran, who works up in the city
00:06:42.480 and the banking district and whatnot,
00:06:44.700 and he cheats on you,
00:06:45.680 you might give him one or two more chances.
00:06:48.640 But generally speaking.
00:06:49.480 Men are the same, by the way.
00:06:50.460 So, like, we, but not in cheating,
00:06:52.300 but we alter our standards to the other things
00:06:54.960 depending on how good the sex is.
00:06:56.960 If your sex is amazing, I'll look. 0.99
00:06:58.880 You'll tolerate a lot more stuff.
00:06:59.940 I'll overlook the fact that you're a slob 0.99
00:07:01.420 or that you, you know, you're disorganized
00:07:03.460 or you're not actually, you can't cook for shit. 0.84
00:07:06.160 You eat pot noodles.
00:07:06.920 Like, yeah.
00:07:07.600 I can tolerate.
00:07:08.180 I've been there where I've been like,
00:07:09.620 but you know.
00:07:10.420 He's telling you.
00:07:11.900 It does make you,
00:07:13.080 and women do the same thing, 1.00
00:07:14.120 but in different ways.
00:07:14.920 Yeah.
00:07:15.420 Thanks.
00:07:15.700 I have a question for the girls.
00:07:17.820 Okay.
00:07:18.080 Would you rather...
00:07:19.620 How many kids do you guys...
00:07:21.120 I know some of you have kids.
00:07:22.640 I have just one.
00:07:23.420 Do you want more?
00:07:24.580 I do, yeah.
00:07:25.340 Okay.
00:07:25.580 How many do you want total?
00:07:27.500 Maybe, like, three in total.
00:07:29.120 Three.
00:07:29.520 How many kids do you want? 1.00
00:07:30.720 How many kids do I want? 1.00
00:07:31.600 Yeah.
00:07:32.620 Probably about four.
00:07:34.060 Okay.
00:07:34.360 Four kids.
00:07:35.060 Yeah.
00:07:35.560 Better get moving, girl. 1.00
00:07:37.880 I've got some already, though.
00:07:39.300 Oh, you have some?
00:07:40.340 I've got two, yeah.
00:07:40.860 Okay, so now you want two more.
00:07:42.120 Okay, what about you?
00:07:45.280 I always want each more than five.
00:07:49.720 Okay.
00:07:51.840 I'd be happy with two.
00:07:53.160 One boy, one girl.
00:07:54.160 Okay.
00:07:54.860 So, how much do you guys think it costs a year
00:07:57.580 to raise the amount of kids you want? 0.99
00:08:01.720 A lot.
00:08:02.100 A lot.
00:08:02.400 Especially if you're a single mom, a lot.
00:08:04.820 Okay.
00:08:06.540 So, if you have two choices,
00:08:08.660 guy A, you have to work until you're 65.
00:08:13.040 70.
00:08:13.720 We're going to up it to 70.
00:08:15.020 And you have to work 30 hours a week
00:08:16.820 while being a mom.
00:08:18.540 Okay.
00:08:19.220 Guy B takes care of everything,
00:08:21.300 but he steps up.
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