JustPearlyThings - May 25, 2023


Why You Should Have Female friends


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

247.12863

Word Count

2,582

Sentence Count

2

Misogynist Sentences

27

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary

In this episode, we discuss the concept of pre-selecting, pre-selection, and make-choice copying, and how to pick up women who are attractive to you. We also discuss the idea that men and women can be friends, and what it means to be a good friend.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 so i'm curious now that you bring that up do you have any uh opinion on the concept of pre-selection
00:00:05.040 or make choice copying do you know i'm talking about um yeah like it like we want guys that
00:00:09.440 other girls want yeah yeah i think that's a real thing yeah yeah do you do you believe in the
00:00:14.800 concept like if i walk up in a club and i have a beautiful woman with me who introduces me to
00:00:19.200 another woman i have a better chance on the intro yeah um i think so because like it's kind of like
00:00:26.080 because they would kind of use me too like you know because they called you a pivot i don't know
00:00:31.680 but yeah but which is funny because you played in the post in basketball yeah i don't i don't know
00:00:36.480 which i mean i'm a bit awkward so i was like i don't know if i'm the best one to be here but
00:00:41.440 you're still but here's the thing you're still a woman who is showing um what's the compliance
00:00:46.000 towards the men yeah right if the guy says hey let's walk over here you don't have to like hold
00:00:49.680 his hand it's just when he walked to the right you walked to the right also other women seeing even
00:00:54.160 that level of compliance and the other thing i talk about is your is your hips if your pelvis
00:00:58.000 is turned in towards a man and his is not turned in towards yours and other women see it that is a
00:01:03.440 there's this evolutionary hard wiring that causes them to be like just take notice yeah well actually
00:01:09.200 i when i think about a guy friend in college um that i was like like super like platonic or what i
00:01:14.880 know men and women can't be friends but we they can be friends we're going to talk about it but but
00:01:19.360 i would we kind of have this funny thing where we would just make up stories at the bar or whatever
00:01:25.360 like going out and i would and so the one story we would always say is i'd always say he was my
00:01:29.760 brother you know he was italian yeah so i would just be like yeah he's my brother he like helps take
00:01:35.280 care of my grandma like he's the sweetest god let me tell you know just or what sometimes we would
00:01:41.600 do outlandish stories that like didn't even make him look like i don't know i just think it's funny
00:01:46.800 um but yeah that would help like he definitely would pick up women so so you do you think men
00:01:52.240 and women can be friends at all i mean i think they uh i do and i don't i i think they can that
00:02:00.000 is the right answer but i think they do and they don't i i think they can but i do think that most
00:02:04.960 men will always like kind of want to sleep with you so that kind of changes the like dynamic of the
00:02:12.880 friendship okay um i know you have your thing where you you have you have so many women lined
00:02:18.240 up to sleep with you that you can be their friend right yeah i mean that's that's it sorry baby i
00:02:24.560 don't know what she's saying i don't know why she's saying that that's what you that's he kind
00:02:27.600 of said or i thought anyways what the actual word is a man who has enough abundance yeah you what
00:02:33.200 you get to a point where it's like uh i have my girlfriend right or let's say i've dated a couple
00:02:38.560 of girls yeah there's like 12 other girls like when i went to bolzerian's last party i was with
00:02:42.720 114 girls wow at some point there's a girl who brought 30 other girls that's my friend right
00:02:48.560 there you better believe that's my friend you want an uber i'll buy you an uber yeah you understand
00:02:52.560 like there's some people um two of my close friends kylie myers and cj sparks i have no interest
00:02:57.280 in sleeping with them they're both really pretty and they both helped me build my business that sounds
00:03:02.880 like a friend to me oh my gosh that was the exception i was gonna say i do think it can
00:03:06.480 happen in business a bit more um because like you're useful to them it's not just like but
00:03:13.360 i still do think i'm like an evolutionary level they still want yeah yeah the answer that i give is
00:03:18.720 that 99 of men cannot be friends with women they're attracted to yeah which sounds crazy coming from me
00:03:24.480 but in the course that i teach i teach you how to like throw these events where you're just surrounded
00:03:28.880 by attractive women all the time to the point where you don't act weird you've seen guys
00:03:32.720 act weird when they approach attractive women yeah voice inflection goes up palms start getting
00:03:36.880 sweaty you started seeing the dilation of the pupil they start they talk to they'll talk to me like
00:03:41.200 yo man i'm gonna go over there and talk to that girl then they go walk over to the girl like hey
00:03:43.680 guys what are you guys doing you guys want to drink that's the word you guys want to drink and like
00:03:48.000 and i say hey bro bro bro you were talking to me like we're about to fight it was like prison yard
00:03:53.040 over here and now you go talk to this girl and it's lollipop what's going on here dude yeah keep the
00:03:59.040 and it's literal constriction of the vocal cords because you you think that this woman is high
00:04:04.320 status and so your vocal cords constrict you don't want to come off as a threat you'll notice the
00:04:08.160 same thing happens when men see other men that they look up to like famous athletes or whatever
00:04:14.240 voice inflection goes up because of constriction the vocal cords so you're giving high status people
00:04:18.240 who are used to being approached by those lower status people they're like oh higher vocal cords okay
00:04:23.040 this is a lower status process can you i'll tell you the weirdest thing like now that i've been
00:04:27.360 because it's crazy the last couple months i just get recognized like everywhere and it's so weird
00:04:32.560 when people come up to me and like talk to me like that you know what i mean like what they're so
00:04:36.320 nervous i'm like it's just me like i'm you know isn't it crazy yeah it's just weird but i know i know
00:04:41.200 what you're talking about when they come yeah yeah yeah and so you'll see you understand the the high
00:04:46.560 status person is getting approached more than the lowest low status person is approaching yeah so the high
00:04:51.040 status person is more you you could even go like 22 year old hot girl she's being approached more than the
00:04:56.320 guys a 22 year old hot girl has been approached more from the time she went through puberty to the
00:05:00.960 time she's 22 than i will be approaching my entire life correct so she's more used to the low status
00:05:05.360 approaching of her so she's more quick to see those signs which is something that pickup artistry doesn't
00:05:10.960 do a good job of fixing what i what i tell men to do is you need to be immersed it's funny when i talk
00:05:16.320 about can men and women be friends you know why i never have this argument with guys who manage strip
00:05:20.000 clubs guys who worked as vip hosts male strippers dudes who are like club promoters or dudes who are
00:05:25.680 bartenders whenever i talk to them or male nurses whenever i talk to them can men and women be
00:05:29.120 friends are like yeah of course yeah why because they're they're never worried about women today
00:05:33.040 they're constantly surrounded by beautiful women if you're talking about a e3 at fort hood in in
00:05:38.880 colleen texas who hasn't seen a woman in 15 months because he just deployed to iraq and got back
00:05:43.920 no he cannot be friends with women yes can you again uh the best best example i ever heard was justin
00:05:49.840 waller he says i'm not afraid of a bad man i'm afraid of a desperate man right so it's desperation that
00:05:55.360 causes that yeah like when i was talking to jededi abelia the other time day i was like man i would
00:05:58.800 be this girl would be my best friend if we were hanging i would love to hang out jededi yeah because
00:06:02.400 we can be so cool we can make content together yeah she's got really cool ideas we would disagree
00:06:07.120 about and it would be funny and and what justin waller says is if we can't make money together i
00:06:11.760 don't want to be your friend that's what justin and that comes off as really shallow but i only have
00:06:16.000 so many friend slots in my life and if i'm trying to turn my business into an eight-figure business
00:06:20.880 my friend slots are filled by people who can get me to eight figures men or women you see what i'm
00:06:26.080 saying so so that was one of the things that i thought was like i think it's very reductive to
00:06:30.240 just say men and women can't be friends men of scarcity cannot be friends correct men of abundance
00:06:35.680 can easily be friends with women so you would say that but 99 of the time they can't be friends
00:06:41.120 because most men are simps yeah yeah absolutely okay okay fair there's 50 million men on uh only fans and
00:06:46.080 1 million content creators yeah no i was just thinking that's probably like more of the exception than the rule
00:06:50.400 yes yeah but the thing is if you just did a couple of things fix your social media started
00:06:54.880 like getting involved with big charity events inviting hundreds of girls at these different
00:06:58.160 events like started having container events you're just a dude who has a boat you just have a
00:07:03.360 big boat that you can take girls out every weekend you're gonna have female friends you're gonna have
00:07:07.040 the two girls you're sleeping with and then sally who brings three other girls every time and you're
00:07:11.200 not sleeping with sally because you know sally's boyfriend but you still bring sally on the thing and
00:07:14.960 when sally's birthday comes around you throw a big birthday party because sally keeps bringing four girls on
00:07:18.800 your boat every time when you're a club promoter you know you have to have female friends because
00:07:22.720 you said about being useful but it's not just women being useful my friends are useful period
00:07:27.440 unless you're somebody i grew up with in high school my friends are all useful i relate to that
00:07:32.000 you know what i'm saying yeah my friends are all useful that's so true right that's so true
00:07:37.360 the way you got to look at it is not can men and women be friends it's like who is competent and
00:07:40.640 useful in your life those are your friends right let me there's something else about cj the reason why cj
00:07:45.360 sparks kindly myers and caitlin runker like or uh uh caitlin frank are like my three closest female
00:07:50.560 friends there was a situation where all three of them had a very easy would have a very easy time
00:07:56.560 turning their back on me and instead they gave me some information about some people who were doing
00:08:01.520 some nefarious behind my back when they didn't have to and two of those girls are like million plus
00:08:06.880 followers blue check mark before you could buy a blue check mark they were they were pretty famous they
00:08:11.200 went out of their way to help me and show me a level of loyalty when they didn't have to and we
00:08:15.520 weren't sleeping together that's why they're my friends wow a friend is somebody who's going to go
00:08:19.920 out of their way when a friend is not a friend when it's convenient a friend is a friend when it's
00:08:23.520 inconvenient right when it was inconvenient for those three girls they didn't turn their back
00:08:27.120 they actually helped me out that's why they're my friend and so a lot of dudes will be like well that's
00:08:31.040 not you know most women are like that you're correct most women are not like that i agree that's why
00:08:35.360 it's so unique in those situations i look at people loyal people are loyal intelligent people are intelligent
00:08:40.400 doesn't matter if they're men or women on average do i find that most men uh keep their word more
00:08:45.120 than women yeah i do i do but it but you can find different things that's why when the question is
00:08:49.920 can men and women be friends the answer is yes are most of women capable men and women capable of being
00:08:54.320 friends the answer is no that's that's what i believe there's at least that's what the stats
00:08:57.840 have shown me right david buss talks about um it's called kinship theory basically the idea of men
00:09:04.000 and women like women trying to acquire as many male female male friends as they can to help them
00:09:08.560 with survivability but only sleeping with like one of them right it's a theory and you see this
00:09:12.800 women often will try to get attention from multiple men uh sometimes right okay so it's it's kinship
00:09:18.640 theory and evolutionary psychology um and the other thing is i'll just say for men out there who are
00:09:23.120 listening to this and maybe you've never heard this before women will acclimate you to being around
00:09:27.280 beautiful women you don't get the constriction of the voice and the sweaty palms and all that kind of
00:09:30.320 stuff you get used to it we in the u.s military they they fire live bullets at you when you let you get
00:09:35.200 behind a berm and they fire live bullets over your head and you get used to hearing what that
00:09:38.800 sounds like the first time you hear live bullets over your head your heart rate's like 140 then the
00:09:42.960 next time it's like at 90 then the next time you're just your heart is like oh it's just bullets going
00:09:46.880 over my head i know not to stand up but i'm not freaking out anymore the first time you see the
00:09:50.480 hottest women in your life you come to vegas the first time you see her you're freaking out by the
00:09:53.920 10th time you come down here it's just not that big of a deal anymore which is why i encourage men to get
00:09:58.880 used to being around women who are attractive like what they like so that when you meet that dream girl that you
00:10:03.280 want to marry and she's stunning you're not acting like a weirdo you see what i'm saying uh number
00:10:08.480 two women give you access uh like i get invited to every party because i have a ton of female girls
00:10:12.800 that i have a ton of girls with me and number three women introduce you to more women that's true yeah
00:10:17.200 yeah that's true and so that's why i've said i've set up so many people i really help people find love
00:10:21.200 on the pregame you know i'm i'm a setupper oh we're gonna try to find someone for you actually