JustPearlyThings - Why You Should Have Female friends

00:00:00.000 so i'm curious now that you bring that up do you have any uh opinion on the concept of pre-selection

00:00:05.040 or make choice copying do you know i'm talking about um yeah like it like we want guys that

00:00:09.440 other girls want yeah yeah i think that's a real thing yeah yeah do you do you believe in the

00:00:14.800 concept like if i walk up in a club and i have a beautiful woman with me who introduces me to

00:00:19.200 another woman i have a better chance on the intro yeah um i think so because like it's kind of like 1.00

00:00:26.080 because they would kind of use me too like you know because they called you a pivot i don't know

00:00:31.680 but yeah but which is funny because you played in the post in basketball yeah i don't i don't know

00:00:36.480 which i mean i'm a bit awkward so i was like i don't know if i'm the best one to be here but

00:00:41.440 you're still but here's the thing you're still a woman who is showing um what's the compliance 0.99

00:00:46.000 towards the men yeah right if the guy says hey let's walk over here you don't have to like hold

00:00:49.680 his hand it's just when he walked to the right you walked to the right also other women seeing even

00:00:54.160 that level of compliance and the other thing i talk about is your is your hips if your pelvis 0.96

00:00:58.000 is turned in towards a man and his is not turned in towards yours and other women see it that is a 0.76

00:01:03.440 there's this evolutionary hard wiring that causes them to be like just take notice yeah well actually

00:01:09.200 i when i think about a guy friend in college um that i was like like super like platonic or what i

00:01:14.880 know men and women can't be friends but we they can be friends we're going to talk about it but but

00:01:19.360 i would we kind of have this funny thing where we would just make up stories at the bar or whatever

00:01:25.360 like going out and i would and so the one story we would always say is i'd always say he was my

00:01:29.760 brother you know he was italian yeah so i would just be like yeah he's my brother he like helps take

00:01:35.280 care of my grandma like he's the sweetest god let me tell you know just or what sometimes we would 0.98

00:01:41.600 do outlandish stories that like didn't even make him look like i don't know i just think it's funny

00:01:46.800 um but yeah that would help like he definitely would pick up women so so you do you think men 0.85

00:01:52.240 and women can be friends at all i mean i think they uh i do and i don't i i think they can that 1.00

00:02:00.000 is the right answer but i think they do and they don't i i think they can but i do think that most

00:02:04.960 men will always like kind of want to sleep with you so that kind of changes the like dynamic of the

00:02:12.880 friendship okay um i know you have your thing where you you have you have so many women lined

00:02:18.240 up to sleep with you that you can be their friend right yeah i mean that's that's it sorry baby i

00:02:24.560 don't know what she's saying i don't know why she's saying that that's what you that's he kind

00:02:27.600 of said or i thought anyways what the actual word is a man who has enough abundance yeah you what

00:02:33.200 you get to a point where it's like uh i have my girlfriend right or let's say i've dated a couple

00:02:38.560 of girls yeah there's like 12 other girls like when i went to bolzerian's last party i was with

00:02:42.720 114 girls wow at some point there's a girl who brought 30 other girls that's my friend right

00:02:48.560 there you better believe that's my friend you want an uber i'll buy you an uber yeah you understand

00:02:52.560 like there's some people um two of my close friends kylie myers and cj sparks i have no interest

00:02:57.280 in sleeping with them they're both really pretty and they both helped me build my business that sounds

00:03:02.880 like a friend to me oh my gosh that was the exception i was gonna say i do think it can

00:03:06.480 happen in business a bit more um because like you're useful to them it's not just like but

00:03:13.360 i still do think i'm like an evolutionary level they still want yeah yeah the answer that i give is

00:03:18.720 that 99 of men cannot be friends with women they're attracted to yeah which sounds crazy coming from me

00:03:24.480 but in the course that i teach i teach you how to like throw these events where you're just surrounded

00:03:28.880 by attractive women all the time to the point where you don't act weird you've seen guys

00:03:32.720 act weird when they approach attractive women yeah voice inflection goes up palms start getting

00:03:36.880 sweaty you started seeing the dilation of the pupil they start they talk to they'll talk to me like

00:03:41.200 yo man i'm gonna go over there and talk to that girl then they go walk over to the girl like hey 1.00

00:03:43.680 guys what are you guys doing you guys want to drink that's the word you guys want to drink and like

00:03:48.000 and i say hey bro bro bro you were talking to me like we're about to fight it was like prison yard

00:03:53.040 over here and now you go talk to this girl and it's lollipop what's going on here dude yeah keep the

00:03:59.040 and it's literal constriction of the vocal cords because you you think that this woman is high

00:04:04.320 status and so your vocal cords constrict you don't want to come off as a threat you'll notice the

00:04:08.160 same thing happens when men see other men that they look up to like famous athletes or whatever

00:04:14.240 voice inflection goes up because of constriction the vocal cords so you're giving high status people

00:04:18.240 who are used to being approached by those lower status people they're like oh higher vocal cords okay

00:04:23.040 this is a lower status process can you i'll tell you the weirdest thing like now that i've been

00:04:27.360 because it's crazy the last couple months i just get recognized like everywhere and it's so weird

00:04:32.560 when people come up to me and like talk to me like that you know what i mean like what they're so

00:04:36.320 nervous i'm like it's just me like i'm you know isn't it crazy yeah it's just weird but i know i know

00:04:41.200 what you're talking about when they come yeah yeah yeah and so you'll see you understand the the high

00:04:46.560 status person is getting approached more than the lowest low status person is approaching yeah so the high

00:04:51.040 status person is more you you could even go like 22 year old hot girl she's being approached more than the 0.98

00:04:56.320 guys a 22 year old hot girl has been approached more from the time she went through puberty to the 0.99

00:05:00.960 time she's 22 than i will be approaching my entire life correct so she's more used to the low status 0.97

00:05:05.360 approaching of her so she's more quick to see those signs which is something that pickup artistry doesn't 1.00

00:05:10.960 do a good job of fixing what i what i tell men to do is you need to be immersed it's funny when i talk

00:05:16.320 about can men and women be friends you know why i never have this argument with guys who manage strip

00:05:20.000 clubs guys who worked as vip hosts male strippers dudes who are like club promoters or dudes who are

00:05:25.680 bartenders whenever i talk to them or male nurses whenever i talk to them can men and women be 0.99

00:05:29.120 friends are like yeah of course yeah why because they're they're never worried about women today

00:05:33.040 they're constantly surrounded by beautiful women if you're talking about a e3 at fort hood in in 1.00

00:05:38.880 colleen texas who hasn't seen a woman in 15 months because he just deployed to iraq and got back

00:05:43.920 no he cannot be friends with women yes can you again uh the best best example i ever heard was justin

00:05:49.840 waller he says i'm not afraid of a bad man i'm afraid of a desperate man right so it's desperation that

00:05:55.360 causes that yeah like when i was talking to jededi abelia the other time day i was like man i would

00:05:58.800 be this girl would be my best friend if we were hanging i would love to hang out jededi yeah because

00:06:02.400 we can be so cool we can make content together yeah she's got really cool ideas we would disagree

00:06:07.120 about and it would be funny and and what justin waller says is if we can't make money together i

00:06:11.760 don't want to be your friend that's what justin and that comes off as really shallow but i only have

00:06:16.000 so many friend slots in my life and if i'm trying to turn my business into an eight-figure business

00:06:20.880 my friend slots are filled by people who can get me to eight figures men or women you see what i'm

00:06:26.080 saying so so that was one of the things that i thought was like i think it's very reductive to

00:06:30.240 just say men and women can't be friends men of scarcity cannot be friends correct men of abundance

00:06:35.680 can easily be friends with women so you would say that but 99 of the time they can't be friends 1.00

00:06:41.120 because most men are simps yeah yeah absolutely okay okay fair there's 50 million men on uh only fans and

00:06:46.080 1 million content creators yeah no i was just thinking that's probably like more of the exception than the rule

00:06:50.400 yes yeah but the thing is if you just did a couple of things fix your social media started

00:06:54.880 like getting involved with big charity events inviting hundreds of girls at these different 0.95

00:06:58.160 events like started having container events you're just a dude who has a boat you just have a

00:07:03.360 big boat that you can take girls out every weekend you're gonna have female friends you're gonna have 1.00

00:07:07.040 the two girls you're sleeping with and then sally who brings three other girls every time and you're

00:07:11.200 not sleeping with sally because you know sally's boyfriend but you still bring sally on the thing and

00:07:14.960 when sally's birthday comes around you throw a big birthday party because sally keeps bringing four girls on

00:07:18.800 your boat every time when you're a club promoter you know you have to have female friends because 1.00

00:07:22.720 you said about being useful but it's not just women being useful my friends are useful period 1.00

00:07:27.440 unless you're somebody i grew up with in high school my friends are all useful i relate to that

00:07:32.000 you know what i'm saying yeah my friends are all useful that's so true right that's so true

00:07:37.360 the way you got to look at it is not can men and women be friends it's like who is competent and

00:07:40.640 useful in your life those are your friends right let me there's something else about cj the reason why cj

00:07:45.360 sparks kindly myers and caitlin runker like or uh uh caitlin frank are like my three closest female 0.98

00:07:50.560 friends there was a situation where all three of them had a very easy would have a very easy time

00:07:56.560 turning their back on me and instead they gave me some information about some people who were doing

00:08:01.520 some nefarious behind my back when they didn't have to and two of those girls are like million plus 1.00

00:08:06.880 followers blue check mark before you could buy a blue check mark they were they were pretty famous they

00:08:11.200 went out of their way to help me and show me a level of loyalty when they didn't have to and we

00:08:15.520 weren't sleeping together that's why they're my friends wow a friend is somebody who's going to go

00:08:19.920 out of their way when a friend is not a friend when it's convenient a friend is a friend when it's

00:08:23.520 inconvenient right when it was inconvenient for those three girls they didn't turn their back

00:08:27.120 they actually helped me out that's why they're my friend and so a lot of dudes will be like well that's

00:08:31.040 not you know most women are like that you're correct most women are not like that i agree that's why 0.99

00:08:35.360 it's so unique in those situations i look at people loyal people are loyal intelligent people are intelligent

00:08:40.400 doesn't matter if they're men or women on average do i find that most men uh keep their word more

00:08:45.120 than women yeah i do i do but it but you can find different things that's why when the question is 0.89

00:08:49.920 can men and women be friends the answer is yes are most of women capable men and women capable of being

00:08:54.320 friends the answer is no that's that's what i believe there's at least that's what the stats

00:08:57.840 have shown me right david buss talks about um it's called kinship theory basically the idea of men

00:09:04.000 and women like women trying to acquire as many male female male friends as they can to help them 0.99

00:09:08.560 with survivability but only sleeping with like one of them right it's a theory and you see this

00:09:12.800 women often will try to get attention from multiple men uh sometimes right okay so it's it's kinship 1.00

00:09:18.640 theory and evolutionary psychology um and the other thing is i'll just say for men out there who are

00:09:23.120 listening to this and maybe you've never heard this before women will acclimate you to being around

00:09:27.280 beautiful women you don't get the constriction of the voice and the sweaty palms and all that kind of 1.00

00:09:30.320 stuff you get used to it we in the u.s military they they fire live bullets at you when you let you get

00:09:35.200 behind a berm and they fire live bullets over your head and you get used to hearing what that

00:09:38.800 sounds like the first time you hear live bullets over your head your heart rate's like 140 then the

00:09:42.960 next time it's like at 90 then the next time you're just your heart is like oh it's just bullets going

00:09:46.880 over my head i know not to stand up but i'm not freaking out anymore the first time you see the

00:09:50.480 hottest women in your life you come to vegas the first time you see her you're freaking out by the 1.00

00:09:53.920 10th time you come down here it's just not that big of a deal anymore which is why i encourage men to get

00:09:58.880 used to being around women who are attractive like what they like so that when you meet that dream girl that you

00:10:03.280 want to marry and she's stunning you're not acting like a weirdo you see what i'm saying uh number

00:10:08.480 two women give you access uh like i get invited to every party because i have a ton of female girls 1.00

00:10:12.800 that i have a ton of girls with me and number three women introduce you to more women that's true yeah 0.99

00:10:17.200 yeah that's true and so that's why i've said i've set up so many people i really help people find love

00:10:21.200 on the pregame you know i'm i'm a setupper oh we're gonna try to find someone for you actually

JustPearlyThings - May 25, 2023

Why You Should Have Female friends

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