JustPearlyThings - October 21, 2023


Will Smith Gets HUMILIATED Again !!!


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12 minutes

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2,352

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223

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Misogyny

6

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Hate speech

3

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Jada Smith and Will Smith's relationship has been in the news lately and people are questioning the validity of their marriage. Is she a tyrant? Is she trying to keep her husband at a distance? Or is she just trying to be a loving and caring wife?

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00:00:00.000 I'm sure you've heard of the whole Jada Smith and Will Smith nonsense.
00:00:04.040 Yeah, I've heard of small things, but I don't really know the full story.
00:00:08.600 Neither do I.
00:00:09.500 I don't think anyone does.
00:00:10.880 I actually saw a meme the other day.
00:00:13.320 Someone sent me a meme and it was like,
00:00:15.120 Jada Smith says she's actually never met Will Smith,
00:00:17.880 which really tickled me because it wouldn't surprise me
00:00:20.820 if that hit the news the next day.
00:00:22.700 But from what I know, that whole thing happened with Will Smith punched him.
00:00:27.320 Chris Rock.
00:00:27.880 And kind of since then, I think all of this stuff has come out about their relationship.
00:00:31.960 A lot of people on the internet are calling Will Smith a simp.
00:00:34.540 It does seem like he's really trying his best to make this relationship work.
00:00:39.680 And she just seems to be this kind of tyrannical dictator that's standing above him 1.00
00:00:44.100 and just keeping him very much at a distance.
00:00:47.120 But yeah, we have a video of Jada Smith in an interview discussing this relationship.
00:00:53.200 So let's take a look.
00:00:53.940 If you find another great love or if Will finds another great love.
00:00:58.500 There's no finding another great love.
00:01:00.320 And I think that's the point.
00:01:01.860 It's like we are in a place now that we are in a deep healing space.
00:01:06.540 And we are really concentrating on healing the relationship between us.
00:01:11.200 So it may not be the divorce on paper anymore?
00:01:13.640 There's no divorce on paper.
00:01:14.860 I mean, not on paper.
00:01:15.660 There might not be a divorce in theory anymore. 0.97
00:01:17.520 Yeah, no.
00:01:18.480 We really have been working hard.
00:01:21.860 Oh, okay.
00:01:22.920 So wait, just so I'm 100% clear.
00:01:32.900 You were divorced, not on paper, but now we might be a point where we're back together.
00:01:38.420 We are working very hard at bringing our relationship, yes, bringing our relationship together.
00:01:46.440 Back to a marriage again.
00:01:48.200 Back to a life partnership.
00:01:50.220 Your ship.
00:01:51.160 Yes.
00:01:51.840 Because here's the thing about husband-wife marriage for me, for my healing process.
00:01:57.820 I came into that with very specific ideas, very specific ideas that were blocks to me
00:02:05.860 just seeing Will as who he is.
00:02:08.560 He can't be this perfect, idealized husband.
00:02:12.440 Yes, of course not.
00:02:12.900 I have to be able to accept him for the human that he is.
00:02:16.400 He accepts me for the human that I am.
00:02:18.640 And we want to love each other there.
00:02:20.520 Okay.
00:02:20.920 So you might like live in the same house and have the same...
00:02:23.880 Yeah.
00:02:25.180 Okay.
00:02:26.020 Oh, Will.
00:02:26.540 And those poor kids.
00:02:29.340 I just really want to point out how she's all about her and her expectations of the marriage.
00:02:38.260 And it seems like she's indicating that he fell short of her expectations.
00:02:44.000 But she doesn't seem to have any concern for what his expectations were.
00:02:47.480 And maybe not to be cheated on.
00:02:49.500 Yeah, exactly.
00:02:51.340 Because I heard she's been around.
00:02:53.240 Yeah, I think that's true.
00:02:54.740 And it wouldn't really surprise me just going off of this.
00:02:57.500 It wouldn't surprise me if she's the kind of woman that's been around.
00:02:59.480 Because she definitely seems like the kind of woman that is not hair bonded to her partner.
00:03:03.000 So that would suggest that she's been around the block a few times.
00:03:06.360 But I really have a problem with people who air out their dirty laundry.
00:03:09.940 I really, really don't like it when people, as I said, they air out their dirty laundry.
00:03:15.980 They put all of their problems in the public eye.
00:03:19.280 I just think it's bad taste.
00:03:20.880 I think it's tacky.
00:03:21.820 It makes me cringe.
00:03:22.780 And even if someone close to me did it, I would just have to act like I didn't see it.
00:03:28.500 Because I'm not going to get involved in that.
00:03:30.680 I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon of, say, a friend posts something about her boyfriend.
00:03:35.100 She's slagging him off or whatever.
00:03:37.180 I'm not going to then jump on that bandwagon and pop up and be like, can't believe he did this.
00:03:42.120 Because you're just fueling the fire.
00:03:43.880 And really, relationship problems should be within the relationship.
00:03:48.780 It should be the couple versus the problem.
00:03:51.860 And especially in a marriage because, you know, that's the whole thing.
00:03:55.560 Sanctity of marriage.
00:03:56.600 It's between two people.
00:03:58.820 And all problems should be resolved between you two.
00:04:02.800 Within the context of that.
00:04:04.140 Yeah, and sometimes when you actually go to other people and go against your partner or husband in this case,
00:04:10.040 it can actually have a bad effect because some people don't have your best interests at heart.
00:04:14.060 And then they can advise you the wrong things and lead you to make bad decisions and ruin your marriage.
00:04:21.140 So definitely not the right way to go about it.
00:04:24.680 I mean, I agree with what she's saying about, you know, you can't have unrealistic expectations of your husband.
00:04:30.080 And you need to love him for who he is because, you know, in a marriage, you're both sinners.
00:04:34.960 You're not perfect.
00:04:36.300 No one's perfect.
00:04:37.020 We're all imperfect.
00:04:38.120 So you have to accept that.
00:04:39.400 But, you know, she hasn't actually treated her marriage with that same attitude.
00:04:45.020 Because if you believe that, you shouldn't be cheating on your partner.
00:04:48.120 I don't understand that.
00:04:49.280 Like a marriage isn't for that.
00:04:51.020 Yeah, I mean, I think it's all very hypocritical.
00:04:53.180 And I think it's really important what you said.
00:04:55.380 You know, when you take problems outside of the relationship, you're really running a real risk.
00:04:59.340 Because the truth is, not everyone does have your best interests at heart.
00:05:02.440 And I think especially with the fact that what we're seeing is the half of this relationship that is outsourcing the problems
00:05:08.320 is the female half. 0.94
00:05:09.660 And I think it's especially dangerous in this day and age when women go to their friends about relationship problems. 0.99
00:05:16.240 Because the truth is, we've seen already with the other topics on today's agenda, you know, a lot of women out there are messed up right now. 1.00
00:05:24.400 They've been fed so much bullshit by the mainstream media, by social media, and even with the way that we're raising kids today.
00:05:31.620 A lot of women actually don't like it when their friend is in a relationship. 1.00
00:05:35.960 Especially if they're part of today's culture of things like going out clubbing and everything's for the Instagram pictures.
00:05:42.360 They don't want their friends to be in a relationship because that means, oh, well, I'm not going to be able to go out and get drunk with you as much.
00:05:50.580 Of course, they're going to encourage you to bin off a relationship because they don't actually care about your happiness.
00:05:58.120 They care about what you mean in relation to them.
00:06:00.680 Yeah.
00:06:01.300 So, yeah, I think that's a really important point.
00:06:03.800 Jealousy, exactly.
00:06:04.960 Jealousy as well.
00:06:05.200 They want it.
00:06:06.560 They pretend they don't want it.
00:06:07.920 That's it.
00:06:08.260 But they do want it because they know, they can see how happy you are.
00:06:11.240 And they don't seem to understand that because maybe they've never had that before.
00:06:14.800 Yeah.
00:06:15.240 So they try and discourage you from pursuing something meaningful.
00:06:19.660 Yeah.
00:06:20.680 And they try and make you trade it for something which is, you know.
00:06:24.580 Less meaningful.
00:06:25.460 Definitely.
00:06:26.260 Because they know that they can't attain that for themselves.
00:06:28.860 But I know there's a continuation from this interview.
00:06:33.140 So let's see what else it has.
00:06:34.560 So in the comments, we've got their relationship sounds like a trauma bond.
00:06:38.500 Oh, this term.
00:06:39.880 This term is driving me nuts.
00:06:41.960 I like to say that trauma bond is the excuse that people use for being with someone who doesn't make them happy.
00:06:52.860 I've never heard of this before.
00:06:54.220 So a trauma bond is this idea that, so say you get with a gentleman and this gentleman starts breaking your heart.
00:07:04.780 Maybe you unfortunately go through some kind of abuse.
00:07:07.840 It's not working.
00:07:08.960 The relationship is dysfunctional.
00:07:10.380 The idea of a trauma bond is that the reason you stay is because psychologically you're kind of addicted to the stress of it.
00:07:19.940 So it's this whole idea of like chasing the highs and lows, the roller coaster of a relationship and how, you know, movies and everything will tell young girls to go after the toxic guy because that's where the roller coaster is.
00:07:29.860 Yeah, more exciting.
00:07:31.540 Yeah, but, you know, and we've told kids that having a healthy relationship is boring and that it's better to have a toxic relationship because at least then it's thrilling.
00:07:40.520 But yeah, I think it's just an excuse.
00:07:42.680 Trauma bond is just a way to go.
00:07:44.300 I don't like my circumstances, but I'm too addicted to it to change them.
00:07:48.620 I actually used to believe that myself, but I've woken up to that as well.
00:07:54.540 And I now know that you can always remove yourself from something.
00:07:58.820 Like if you always have that choice, like you're in complete control of your actions and yeah, making excuses isn't going to get you out of anything and it's just going to make you more unhappy and yeah, definitely don't agree with that.
00:08:12.000 I'm not even denying the psychology behind it because, you know, when you look at things like addiction, why do people get addicted?
00:08:20.280 It is because of things like a release of oxytocin, a release of dopamine.
00:08:24.460 And I think when you are in a toxic relationship, that definitely can be the case that you kind of get, maybe it's similar to addiction.
00:08:31.660 Maybe it is an addiction, but you can very, you can very much get lost in the ordeal of it all.
00:08:37.780 You can get lost in the rollercoaster.
00:08:39.300 I think also you get addicted to the good parts and you keep wanting the good parts to come.
00:08:43.140 And you chase the highs.
00:08:44.380 Yeah.
00:08:44.980 No matter how low the lows are.
00:08:47.240 However, like you say, whether or not we can always set ourselves free, you know, because some people may argue, well, what about crackheads and heroin addicts?
00:08:58.840 You know, I just think it's better to at least perhaps it's delusional.
00:09:04.160 But if you can tell yourself that no matter what, you can always change your circumstances, chances are you're going to be better off in life.
00:09:10.700 Because even when the odds are completely against you, if you have that mindset of I can always change my circumstances, you're going to try harder to do that.
00:09:18.480 So it's just a better mindset to have in general.
00:09:22.200 But yeah, another comment says, I saw a TikTok of a therapist who dissects how narcissistic people speak and how they speak on both sides so that they are never wrong, right, or can be caught in a,
00:09:34.160 lie.
00:09:35.340 I dismissed the TikTok until I saw this video.
00:09:38.820 She is choosing her words.
00:09:41.240 So very delicately.
00:09:42.780 So very delicately.
00:09:44.280 Yeah.
00:09:44.980 I can kind of see that.
00:09:46.080 She just looks a bit psychopathic.
00:09:47.940 I mean, I just think it's, you're obviously chasing something if you have to constantly go on TV and talk about your relationship.
00:09:57.340 And she just constantly seems to be slandering Will.
00:10:00.720 Like, it just seems like all the time she's just shitting on him.
00:10:04.160 And sometimes she disguises it as she's trying to say, oh, we're like this one.
00:10:09.160 We're healing and we're working together.
00:10:10.860 It's like, but don't act like you haven't done all of these other interviews previously where you've been making him look like a weak man.
00:10:19.220 Like, you've really damaged his reputation.
00:10:21.060 But it probably helps her because then she feels stronger.
00:10:24.360 She feels stronger because of it.
00:10:25.680 You can tell she's very masculine.
00:10:27.660 Yeah.
00:10:28.240 The way that she presents herself, the way that she speaks, the way that she talks even, you can tell that she has full control in that relationship.
00:10:35.960 And he's just, like, hopelessly in love with her and, like, trailing behind her like a little dog.
00:10:43.320 And, yeah, sadly, he hasn't realized that he can break himself through from that.
00:10:47.360 I 100% agree with you.
00:10:48.380 I do also think that because of marriage and, like, the sanctity of it, I do believe that, you know, once you marry someone, you've made that choice.
00:10:57.060 You stick by them.
00:10:57.700 Yeah.
00:10:58.520 I think Will is keeping up with that.
00:11:00.520 Yeah.
00:11:00.680 I think Will is keeping his side of the agreement.
00:11:04.760 I don't know if Will is a religious man, but maybe that comes into it.
00:11:08.840 Maybe that's why he's...
00:11:09.360 It probably isn't.
00:11:10.280 I mean, I think they're quite the opposite of religious. 0.94
00:11:13.300 I think they worship something else.
00:11:20.400 We've got to do an episode on that.
00:11:23.280 Yeah.
00:11:25.960 I agree with you there.
00:11:27.580 But, look, something's keeping him there, whether it be, you know, the sanctity of marriage or maybe just pure embarrassment.
00:11:35.360 Something's keeping him around and I can't help but feel bad for the guy.
00:11:38.880 Perhaps that's because I'm a woman, so I'm empathetic and emotional about it.
00:11:43.040 Yeah, I feel bad.
00:11:43.380 I'm sure a lot of guys would sit here and say he needs to leave her.
00:11:47.640 And I agree, but I can't help but feel bad for him because he's just, like you say, trailing along like a lost puppy.
00:11:54.640 Another comment says,
00:11:55.420 Why is she always speaking in riddles and avoiding the truth? 0.98
00:11:58.640 Entanglement, working hard to bring our relationship together.
00:12:01.880 Divorced but not divorced.
00:12:03.080 I'm tired.
00:12:04.060 Honestly, she reminds me of Boris.
00:12:09.560 We're on YouTube, so we'll say no more.
00:12:11.540 Boris.
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