JustPearlyThings - July 27, 2023


Woman Does The Unthinkable On Pearl's Show


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Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

181.17043

Word count

2,068

Sentence count

1

Harmful content

Misogyny

1

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about divorce and what it means to be in a bad situation and how to deal with it. We also talk about why it s better to separate than stay in the same situation and what to look out for in a marriage.

Transcript

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00:00:00.720 why would you not put time into the outcome that you would prefer
00:00:05.120 because at the end of the day a relationship is not going to last longer than my career
00:00:09.920 right now so i don't want to like i've put time and energy into relationships about a marriage
00:00:13.920 no in a marriage but i want to be solidified your husband i could you know you could meet
00:00:18.800 your husband that could last 50 years that's longer than any career but let's be serious who's
00:00:23.280 who's doing that now it's very unlikely it's based on what though like just looking at your
00:00:30.720 parents no i mean like what what what are the outcomes of your relationships based on
00:00:36.720 who determines the outcomes of your relationships like yeah you'll set yourself and that yeah it's
00:00:41.760 like an equal party you know what percent chance are you do you have a college degree uh university
00:00:47.120 yeah did you know are you are you in it or no no okay what percent chance do you think you have
00:00:52.560 of being left if you got married left yeah like he would leave he would divorce you
00:00:58.160 i have no idea 20 percent women leave 80 percent of the time roughly roughly is does that not say
00:01:05.200 something about how men are in marriages there i think it says something about women we're quitters
00:01:10.400 i don't think we're quitters like at what point is it enough because it's like would you like why
00:01:16.320 keep yourself in a bad situation that's just like excruciating like it's like having a bad friend
00:01:20.720 like if your friend is just like a complete awesome not giving you weight people accept more
00:01:24.640 from their friends who they know for years than their like boyfriend you know do you know what i
00:01:28.640 can think of a really good reason children okay kids yeah because okay when kids are involved it's
00:01:35.120 a bit different assuming it's not abuse or assuming it's not abuse or cheating right is there what what
00:01:40.640 good reason would there be to leave but you're not you're not contributing anything to the woman's life
00:01:45.920 like you're just there if what if he has a job right most most guys are working somewhere he's
00:01:51.920 contributing in the second income so then you're like great roommates and but it's like okay you can
00:01:56.880 have a roommate what about what about protection from what the crackheads down the street it's like
00:02:05.120 i've been living this to crackers my whole life i haven't had a man come to fed me for but it's like
00:02:09.120 this whole thing about like protection i'm like what like but i could hear it in your voice you
00:02:14.240 really don't see any value like it doesn't seem like you you see the value of like just having a
00:02:18.800 man around i don't think like direction leadership um but in certain areas i think men can teach you
00:02:26.400 certain things and it's nice but again because i'm young i haven't experienced every man in this world so
00:02:31.440 i can't like say for sure but it's just if you're just wasting time i don't see why stay in a bad situation
00:02:37.600 are your parents still together no no who did you who did you stay with your mom or your dad well
00:02:43.120 yeah my mom because my dad's in the states in this oh okay when did they get divorced they weren't
00:02:48.000 married oh they were never married yeah that says something no because i've just it's just a thing of
00:02:53.520 like but i've seen their relationship and that's why i have a certain outlook outlook on how things are
00:03:00.800 and i'm just like do you think your childhood would have been easier if they were together 100 and i
00:03:06.560 tell them all the time i'm like you guys every time they fight because they still fight to this
00:03:09.920 day i'm like guys you're grown adults like let's be so serious now mom you could have done this because
00:03:15.600 i even like i agree with you there's certain things that women do and like sometimes you know they do 1.00
00:03:19.760 play victim and i'm like you need to say responsibility you did this thing wrong that is why dad reacted in
00:03:24.880 this way dad you did this that's why mom added that why like there's a lot of issues that can be solved
00:03:31.920 in marriages but one person when it's like the stubbornness and so it's just like do you even
00:03:36.800 want to be happy it's like it's so interesting because it's like you see the value that you would
00:03:42.240 have had if you had both parents in the house about happy parents there's no that i would have hated to
00:03:47.040 be in a household where the way my mom and dad shout on the phone if that was in real life
00:03:53.200 bruh that would have been the hell most people like who i think like who have parents who have done
00:03:58.480 divorce it is better separated than just fighting in the household do you think it's a better plan
00:04:03.840 to just figure out how to get along do you think that's a choice if you can try but if you've tried
00:04:08.080 multiple times and again you're not seeing a result then how many times like then you're not you're not
00:04:14.240 choosing to have the the piece that you want because how are you trying if if it's not working do you
00:04:22.560 get like if you if both if you genuinely want peace and you're trying it should work like okay if me and
00:04:29.040 you were living together right and we were arguing every day it's a choice to argue back yeah someone
00:04:34.480 can't argue if you're not if you're saying like responding you know what sweetie you're right like
00:04:38.960 you know it's like it like sometimes i feel like if people just got married and just stayed married
00:04:46.160 thick and thin other than divorce adultery and what's the third addiction that's it you don't
00:04:53.360 think like i feel like people wouldn't have as bad of fights because they would know there's no getting
00:04:58.000 out of this i mean that's what marriage should be it's supposed to be but unfortunately marriage has
00:05:03.120 been misconstrued in the new age and it's like do we even know what proper marriage is supposed to look
00:05:09.920 like anymore i don't think and i feel like self-awareness is really important because if you're not
00:05:15.120 aware of how you could react if someone says something if you like then things would be so
00:05:21.600 much easier like if you know that you can control yourself in certain situations with your partner
00:05:26.160 or your husband being in the room it would be so much easier do you think it's important to have
00:05:30.800 examples of married couples you can look up to 100 every all the romantic guys i've met who are my
00:05:36.880 friends their parents are married and i'm like when i hear them talk about their parents like why don't
00:05:41.680 you date them the romantic guys that are your friends because they're because they're my friends
00:05:45.280 that's i'm not i'm physically attracted to them and it's it's annoying because you're not you're not
00:05:49.520 physically attracted to them no because i'm like i love you so much as a person but like i just can't
00:05:54.400 i wouldn't be able to go there with you that makes me feel like you're the one yeah but it's like your
00:05:57.840 your friends like having friends like that is great because like you know your friends will always be
00:06:01.360 there for you and i probably like if you have great friends i think they won't they won't well be
00:06:06.640 there yeah that's good just wait the guys wait till they get a girlfriend poof that they genuinely love
00:06:17.600 that they genuinely love yeah i mean when you it's like your age and you're in school yeah men and women
00:06:23.360 can be friends a bit but it's like honestly when people start getting into serious relationships that
00:06:29.120 the guys are going to go away they're not really your friends i mean call them right now ask them
00:06:32.960 to sleep with you see what they say yeah they will definitely say it will no do it do it i could not
00:06:38.640 call that one because you know they'd say what no would they say yes or no i it depends which one
00:06:44.640 i called what what out of how many how many because you know which one's kind of how many guy friends
00:06:50.080 do you have um a few like a few two five no more well it depends because like friend friend or like
00:06:58.400 because that's what industry friend friend friend like
00:07:04.400 i would say like four or five four okay let's let's take five out of the five how many do you
00:07:08.560 think would sleep with you undoubtedly one one can you call one of the four now and ask that would be
00:07:17.280 so awkward come on you could it's on stream so you could you could send it to them after and just say
00:07:22.400 that i said to do it you could send it to them after and you know you know it'll be cool like you could
00:07:27.920 show them this you big youtuber bullied me into doing it oh my god if i did and so just say just
00:07:35.360 say hey can i text them or do i have to because they're probably see if they want to like do something
00:07:41.840 tonight see if they want to do something right gosh that's crazy sorry what do you pay your time
00:07:50.240 mm-hmm uh a couple years
00:07:55.840 wait what should i even text them um say guys put in the chat what she should text them yeah
00:08:01.760 um say
00:08:09.120 you should call them call them and say
00:08:14.560 where do you live do you live by yourself you live with my mom with your mom that's why i get
00:08:19.440 caught look so hard i'm moving out there you should say you should say your mom's not home
00:08:23.520 i'm a little tipsy do you want to have some fun
00:08:32.560 probably be like what and then they're going to think you're kidding and you have to be like no
00:08:35.680 no i'm serious like did us or why haven't we ever dated something like that okay phone speaker
00:08:42.240 phone speaker jesus christ i don't even know you'll pick up
00:08:53.520 hey adrian um hey um i'm basically like gonna be home alone later did you want to come over
00:09:11.840 i mean i would i would love to but i actually got things to do on a cart now
00:09:18.000 really tomorrow are you busy tomorrow tomorrow is saturday yes yes no i can link up with you tomorrow
00:09:27.920 but like link up link up
00:09:36.320 no like like back in the day
00:09:38.560 no not like that
00:09:44.400 but how come
00:09:48.640 why why
00:09:57.360 is it because we're friends
00:10:00.720 it's because we're friends
00:10:02.800 how do you do
00:10:03.280 but you don't want to do anything with me
00:10:09.440 or you do
00:10:10.880 how how am i going to do anything with you
00:10:13.920 if it's like i want to
00:10:18.720 but i want to
00:10:24.160 okay all right thank you
00:10:26.720 but if if you win the new car you're going to do something that's friends and shit
00:10:31.280 okay
00:10:31.600 100%
00:10:32.560 oh okay
00:10:33.120 100% i'll be more than happy to go out with you any other time
00:10:37.040 okay
00:10:37.440 whatever you want
00:10:38.160 i appreciate you
00:10:40.480 yeah i appreciate you but i agree
00:10:42.080 oh all right well go enjoy your evening
00:10:46.320 all right bye
00:10:48.160 take care bye
00:10:48.960 yeah see i told you
00:10:51.200 that's the first one we've ever had
00:10:53.120 my friends are good i have good guys but people don't believe me like i know
00:10:57.600 i know
00:10:59.280 that's what i'm saying like
00:11:00.160 that's so good
00:11:00.880 yeah when you oh my god i walked in at the right time
00:11:04.320 i need to even be like what does the chat say what does the chat say
00:11:07.120 oh they can't what they can't believe it's about what a mandy clyde said that did you know
00:11:12.560 you're coming on or no no no no no no okay i want to see
00:11:16.960 i've been thinking let's go because otherwise he would have been like oh how
00:11:19.920 he curved her so hard you can send her you can send him the stream if you want