JustPearlyThings - Woman On Birth Control Does This To Her Man

00:00:00.560 have any of you ever told a guy you were on birth control when you weren't

00:00:06.240 isn't that like kind of grapey

00:00:10.560 yeah do you know what i mean no yeah everyone like i think that you have to be transparent about that

00:00:17.360 have you ever heard of anyone doing that yeah yeah yeah first hand yeah yeah yeah tell me what

00:00:24.320 what did she do um yeah she she told him that she was on and she wasn't and she got what she wanted

00:00:33.120 she got pregnant off of it yeah do you do you think that in that situation since she lied that 1.00

00:00:40.960 he shouldn't have any rights to the or that he should be able to get rid of his rights to the kid

00:00:47.840 i mean no because she lied so he was he was performing off of something that you know

00:00:53.920 off of the security that she was on it and she wasn't so that kind of no but i mean so when he

00:00:59.120 has the kid or when she had i'm assuming she had the kid right so did um do you think that in that

00:01:07.120 case that he should be able to sign off all rights because he didn't want the kid to begin with i mean

00:01:12.480 when you say it like that because it's it's it's in a way where it wasn't his choice because had he

00:01:19.120 known he wouldn't have made that choice um so when you say it like that absolutely i mean rightfully

00:01:25.600 the kid's there at the end of the day so i mean whether he wants it or not unfortunately that's

00:01:30.400 his seed that's his future um but yeah it is in his hands to make that decision um but then it comes

00:01:38.240 into do you want to be a father what type of father do you want to be to that kid that you weren't ready

00:01:42.800 before but now you are a father now so yeah what do you who who who do you know that lied

00:01:50.080 oh i i know someone that got into a bad situation because they um well they didn't like their own

00:01:55.840 birth control but they lied that they were bulimic um so they didn't disclose their bulimia so they're

00:02:01.280 making themselves sick while taking birth control um which obviously makes it ill effective um and she

00:02:07.520 she did get pregnant energy keep it yeah yeah they worked things out and like they're a happy couple 0.68

00:02:14.560 now but um it was a big i live with them it was a big point of contention at the time do you do you

00:02:19.200 guys think that should be punishable as a crime i think lying to a guy about birth control definitely

00:02:26.960 a hundred percent yeah you take accountability that's so sorry i feel quite passionate yeah it's so

00:02:33.520 unfair on the man if if you lie about it like obviously if an accident happens as an accident

00:02:38.880 right it's both both parties fault but yeah if you lie about it then yeah a hundred percent if

00:02:44.960 it was like premeditated yeah exactly it's like coercion in a way it's similar to like

00:02:50.080 essay of a woman if you lie about having an scd it's i would say that's like a similar thing

00:02:54.800 but i don't think that means you should sign away all rights to the baby it's not it's not the baby's

00:02:57.760 fault you know what i mean yeah but you don't think if the woman has the right to get an 1.00

00:03:02.640 abortion he should have the right to sign off his rights no because like you don't think if the

00:03:07.200 woman has a right not to be a mother he should have the right not to be a father especially if 0.95

00:03:10.800 he was coerced into doing it no because i was like if a woman an abortion is different sorry like so if

00:03:16.560 um if a woman's great i have to say great do you think she should be able to get an abortion 0.99

00:03:21.280 yeah but i think abortion is different to when the baby is at the point of a baby in your arms i think

00:03:26.640 that that is your life responsibility and when you have sex in general you take the risk whether

00:03:31.600 someone's lied to you about the risk or not isn't that that's a terrible thing to happen

00:03:34.400 but you still take the risk of that one percent of um oh this woman could get pregnant even if you 0.97

00:03:38.800 think she is on birth but what if the woman wants to give up the kid for adoption should she have 1.00

00:03:42.480 that right uh not if the father wants to keep it no yeah if the father wants the baby the father

00:03:48.480 should be able to have full custody and the woman should pay chance for no but i'm saying i'm saying if 1.00

00:03:51.680 she wants to give up the kid for adoption she should be able to right yes but not if the father 1.00

00:03:56.880 wants yeah but so i'm saying if he didn't sign up to be a father like why should he be forced to

00:04:01.680 because isn't it like rewarding bad behavior no i think that when every single time you have every

00:04:06.720 time i have sex with my boyfriend there is a small percent chance that i could get pregnant and we both

00:04:11.840 have sex knowing that that can happen when you do it with a stranger you know that that's yeah but the

00:04:16.320 women but the women are the we're the only ones that can have all the information up front that's 1.00

00:04:19.680 because so yeah but that's that's my point my point is like there's no male birth control

00:04:24.160 no so women we we can when we have sex like we have all the information we know if we're ovulating 1.00

00:04:28.560 we know if we're going to take a plan b we know if we're on birth control where the men it's like 0.90

00:04:32.320 they they have the they have the option condom or no condom but even with like plan b that's not that

00:04:37.760 effective because if you are plan b only works to delay ovulation so if you're ovulating at the

00:04:43.360 time that you have sex yeah but it does nothing yeah but there's 41 forms of birth control

00:04:47.920 for you and you only can get pregnant like three days a month there's still people do all the time 0.98

00:04:51.920 that's why 16 year olds are pregnant you know it's never deliberate is it

00:04:58.240 sometimes but i would beg to differ but i'm saying in this case it was deliberate yeah so it's just

00:05:04.080 interesting because i i feel like if he's not able to sign off his rights when she does something wrong

00:05:09.120 like why wouldn't she just keep doing it why wouldn't women just keep doing it i just i don't think that 0.98

00:05:13.360 that's a real problem i don't think women are actually doing that oh my gosh you you haven't seen 1.00

00:05:17.120 the nba the nba issued statements telling the men to wear condoms because all these models were 0.99

00:05:23.360 lying to the men about being on birth good it's a real issue i mean you think drake wanted to get 0.57

00:05:27.600 pregnant a corn star pregnant that's like a very specific issue based on very very wealthy men like

00:05:34.080 when you have a lot of wealth and you have a lot of like fame you are obviously at more risk of people

00:05:38.480 taking you to court of people abusing you in every single way so like that's a very specific thing to

00:05:42.240 nba stars that like your average joe but it happens to a lot of men that aren't nba stars and i think

00:05:47.760 there's a lot of men that are in i'd say comfortable positions that women would want to be in that

00:05:52.880 situation with them and see an opportunity i think you know there's a lot of women out there that 1.00

00:05:57.600 sometimes even just get to a state where they become selfish because they might receive news that

00:06:03.120 they might not be able to ovulate as much in the next two years or whatever the situation may be

00:06:08.400 i think on both behalves it is kind of selfish in a sense where i think it's wrong when

00:06:12.800 a woman does that anyway because that's unfair on the child forget about even the man's rights the 1.00

00:06:17.200 rights as a child to be able to be accessible and my parents to both be accessible i think is so

00:06:22.480 important so me taking away the opportunity of my child having their father in their life before they're

00:06:28.240 even here is selfish so before we even get to a point of the man's rights what about that that that

00:06:33.920 child's rights 100 you know you said you're you said you're passionate about it why yeah i just i

00:06:42.720 just don't know do you know someone that's happened to um heard stories yeah i think it's happened to a

00:06:49.680 couple of the boys actually um but yeah it's just something that is just so unfair and i just feel that

00:06:57.600 um yeah men just literally have no right at all they have no say and if it is something that's deliberate for

00:07:03.360 me i just don't think a baby deserves to be brought up in that type of world um especially

00:07:09.360 if the father's not ready and it's coming from a lie so i think the baby so i think the dad should

00:07:15.360 have a decision on you know what happens to unfortunately the baby especially if you're both

00:07:19.760 young but the dad has had a decision to put a condom on in the first place right he made that

00:07:24.560 she could put calls on that's what i mean i mean that's gonna be pretty obvious she's gonna lie 1.00

00:07:29.840 if she's gonna lie about being on birth control then you know that does happen people do put pins 0.96

00:07:34.560 through i know it's a rarity but they steal condoms and like you know in that case though

00:07:42.960 even if like a man is coerced into um having that child i still think he's taking the risks anyway even if

00:07:50.080 he thought it was a much slimmer chance than it was um and that woman should be treated as if she'd 1.00

00:07:54.800 street but then don't you think in the case of abortion like that she took that risk like i'm

00:08:00.560 just it's just interesting because i this sounds like equality when it benefits that's not real

00:08:04.080 equality because it's like okay what do you mean by like when abortions involved so a woman has the

00:08:10.400 right not to be a mother so if i if i have an accidental pregnancy i can terminate it up to six months in the

00:08:15.840 uk but men don't have the right not to be fathers true so it's like why why do we call the man a

00:08:20.880 deadbeat dad but we don't call the woman a deadbeat mom when she gets an abortion and so i'm saying if

00:08:25.920 we really want equality like why wouldn't we make it equal where the men can sign off but i think that's

00:08:30.560 like how again we'd want an ideal world to be do you know what i mean in the sense where i would but

00:08:36.640 she's saying no fair enough but i think that's just society like that's the way society is and unfortunately

00:08:42.320 that's uh how can i put it like unfortunate on the men's behalf in the world because that's something

00:08:48.560 that they're out of control of there's a lot of things i'd say like in a relationship or in other

00:08:53.040 situations us women are out of control of and i think like what oh sometimes i think women chase 1.00

00:09:00.640 we want a man to be with us and it's not until a man decides to commit that we get that relationship

00:09:07.040 i'd say we're more prepared for them than they are so right but we can always pick who we go after 0.74

00:09:11.440 so if we go after the top 20 of men you have to compete for then then it's the balls in their

00:09:16.560 court but for the average guy there's men at tesco down the street that would date you tomorrow

00:09:20.880 that is so true but i guess so so it's really in our control because we pick who who we go after

00:09:26.640 and if you want to go after someone more competitive it's going to be harder true but

00:09:30.160 then i feel like them men sometimes take advantage the fact of the fact that they are part of that 20

00:09:35.680 and then sell women dreams instead of allowing a woman to actually make that decision for 0.95

00:09:39.360 themselves like for example you might meet a guy like you said nba player or football or whatever

00:09:43.680 he's not the guy down the road at tesco's however he could have children that no one knows about i

00:09:48.880 mean look at chloe kardashian poor her you know ready to have her next child she didn't even know 1.00

00:09:53.040 i don't have an ounce of sympathy for chloe kardashian you're telling me oh stop it she dated lamar 1.00

00:09:59.760 and she right right that was her first husband's name lamar yeah right so she dated lamar and she said 0.88

00:10:04.960 hmm nba player this ended with him in a whore house let me try another nba player and another 0.99

00:10:11.680 nba player yeah but then they do the same thing and then they're like maybe she's gonna play victim 0.99

00:10:16.480 later but then men then come off with but why are you judging me because you went with an nba player

00:10:21.440 just because i am an nba player why does it mean i'm like him so i guess you just can't win i guess

00:10:26.080 it's just the luck of the draw to be honest no i don't think it's the luck of the draw i think if you

00:10:30.480 get if you get with an nba player you're probably gonna be cheated on miracles happen but you know

00:10:35.520 you know what i just learned um there's a guy he like works um i interviewed him he makes like very

00:10:39.920 high-end suits right yeah and so he some of his clients are professional athletes and those those

00:10:45.920 men um he said he was in like box seats or whatever whatever it was the ones next to the it was ice

00:10:51.760 hockey i think i don't know what they're called but but he um he said the two of the most beautiful women

00:10:57.600 he's seen in his life are sitting by the by the box seats basically motioning to the guys that

00:11:02.720 they'll have a threesome with them these women buy hotels next to the do the court and like chase after 1.00

JustPearlyThings - June 30, 2023

Woman On Birth Control Does This To Her Man

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