JustPearlyThings - March 21, 2023


Women Are BAD DECISION Makers

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Length

11 minutes

Words per minute

187.07

Word count

2,066

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Harmful content

Misogyny

22

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Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss the challenges of being in a traditional and modern relationship, the pros and cons of traditional vs. modern relationships, and what it means to be a woman in a modern relationship. We also discuss the impact of social media and social media on women in modern relationships.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 ever had a conversation with your parents about marriage no go ahead yeah yeah what'd they tell
00:00:06.720 you oh my i mean my mom has been married once she wasn't married to my dad actually
00:00:16.160 um but she had three kids from him so that automatically showed me that you don't have
00:00:20.400 to be married in order to build a life right um are they still together no no they're not
00:00:28.160 um my mom ultimately doesn't really believe in love at the moment oh wow it's like yeah so you
00:00:33.280 really didn't have like an example to look up to well what is like who do you who do you go to
00:00:38.320 about relationship questions um no one not really i don't really i don't really um talk to i'm very
00:00:51.680 like to myself i keep to myself because i feel like that's where i find my peace and um
00:00:58.160 i feel like not everybody can relate to my mindset so i don't necessarily go to anyone
00:01:04.720 i don't know yeah that makes sense um my parents i grew up in quite a toxic household so i wouldn't
00:01:12.480 say that i've gone to my parents for any relationship marriage advice but my friends my best friend's
00:01:17.920 parents have been married for 20 plus years and i really look up to their marriage i see how they
00:01:22.560 are with each other and it also showed me what to like accept and like my like what i expect from
00:01:30.800 a relationship kind of like i don't know like when you see like a a successful like marriage and a
00:01:36.720 successful relationship it kind of was like okay like i strive to have that in the future but have
00:01:42.800 you ever asked them about how they stayed married and like what advice they would have for you
00:01:46.960 communication is that what they said yeah communication is so important okay what about
00:01:52.640 you never um where do i go for advice i thought for relationship advice i don't go anywhere for
00:01:59.360 relationship advice i've never actually thought about doing such thing actually are your parents
00:02:04.640 still married yeah yeah yeah what do you think they would say does your mom listen to your dad
00:02:09.360 dad for the most part yeah yeah so you think that might be a good way to go about it it has its ups
00:02:17.760 and downs coming from an african household so i can't really like touching that too tough where are your
00:02:24.240 parents from nigeria nigeria yeah what are what are some of the cons of submission not having your own
00:02:34.000 mind and somewhat being manipulative you you think that um women are manipulated they're manipulated yeah 1.00
00:02:42.240 yeah how so being controlled she's right yeah there's a potential for that yeah like they have their own
00:02:51.600 mind they know what is right they know what is good but just because that's what the man wants that's
00:02:57.600 what's gonna go because of what they've said even though within them they know no when did your mind
00:03:03.920 start to because i'd imagine it wasn't your whole life that you thought this way no no so when when
00:03:11.120 did you start to think that was bad um properly
00:03:18.800 last year when i realized it and you're 22 yeah 22 so around 21 so you're in school right yeah yeah and
00:03:27.920 when i started realizing it was when i was like 14 15 okay yeah who do you think has better outcomes
00:03:37.360 traditional relationships or modern that's a hard one because the reason why i said that because it
00:03:44.320 all stands from culture as well so it's like it all depends like for example muslims and christians you
00:03:51.200 can't really like put them in the same conversation because there's times when they have arranged
00:03:57.440 marriages and they have to go with what their family says or what the husband says and they're
00:04:03.520 not allowed to have like maybe like businesses of their own is that right is that wrong i don't i
00:04:08.880 don't think that i think a lot of them work in like family businesses yeah but i'm talking about having
00:04:13.840 their own businesses do women don't want to work with do women typically want their own businesses 1.00
00:04:19.680 are women typically good at business yes yes there's a lot of successful no black and white women 1.00
00:04:25.600 who are having successful businesses but you know what i'll actually like stop you there for a second
00:04:30.720 because like i think it's modern day society that has pushed women to want their own businesses and to 0.99
00:04:36.080 become like ceos and stuff because traditionally a lot of women like they stay at home the man is the 1.00
00:04:41.840 breadwinner you know they look after the kids they they do whatever they do but like modern day
00:04:46.880 society is like like oh women should be bosses too and women should go for this i think there is 0.98
00:04:50.880 definitely added pressure for that i think every single one can be a business woman and be a boss 1.00
00:04:56.000 but there is that added pressure with the media that definitely is that is that you can scroll on
00:05:00.480 tick tock and then it's not it's not a good or a bad thing i guess it just kind of depends what
00:05:06.240 so that goes back to when women didn't have the rights to vote is that i think we should go back to
00:05:10.880 that i decided that yeah is that good or bad like that was good pardon it's good yeah it's good yeah
00:05:16.880 yeah okay cool thank you yeah i'm done i think that women are bad at business you think there's 1.00
00:05:27.120 certain aspects depending on what it is you can't say no they're not good at hair business or eyelash
00:05:32.640 businesses because i got what i think that men make more logical decisions and women make a lot of
00:05:38.080 decisions based off emotion yeah no because men have had more time yeah because we do know we do
00:05:43.920 know that females are more emotionally wired than men yeah yeah 100 100 and i do feel like women make 0.98
00:05:50.000 a lot of decisions based off emotion a lot of the time yeah they do they do and that's why that's why
00:05:55.120 they may not necessarily be as if i get in an argument i literally like if i'm dating someone i get in a
00:06:00.080 fight an argument i'm really heated i literally have to give myself like a three hour four hour break
00:06:06.080 just to like control my emotions then go back on it on a calm head because i was i would say some
00:06:11.360 rash things out of emotion like i said emotion is you know women us females all about like the feeling 1.00
00:06:17.680 and emotions but men just don't really care you know what i just looked up i was just curious
00:06:21.920 founder i i just did the first big beauty brand i could think of l'oreal who founded it guy
00:06:28.320 oh it's a guy yeah actually that's a lot with fashion designers
00:06:34.160 if you look at women i just don't think women manage people well and to get a really really big 1.00
00:06:38.720 business business is about money and men are all about their money their income and they're all 0.97
00:06:43.520 about the numbers they don't care about feeling they care about emotions which is good and which is
00:06:47.840 which is good yeah like which is why they're very driven in okay money numbers like pretty little
00:06:53.840 fingers own bad guy knife it is it is and they're all about you know driving that and they'll and
00:06:58.480 they get rid of people that like are bad immediately yeah where it's like women we're like oh we'll keep 1.00
00:07:03.280 them on yeah and i say this i say this are all about good customer service but i say this as someone
00:07:10.480 that's like doing it i'm like 90 percent of women couldn't do what i do and i don't and i couldn't 1.00
00:07:14.880 do it without men like i could i couldn't if i didn't have the structure of guys around like i couldn't
00:07:19.840 do it 100 even with me when i'm filming my music videos and doing all these shows and like tools
00:07:24.800 or whatever like a lot of them are men actually that's the reason why a lot of women yeah that's 0.96
00:07:30.640 the reason why a lot of women go to men for advice because they're not like what's that word they're 0.99
00:07:35.920 just logical they're just straight up yeah yeah yeah and also like to be a ceo or like an owner of a
00:07:43.760 business you have to be ruthless like yeah you have to be ruthless like not a lot of women have that in 1.00
00:07:48.720 them to have that stern like control you know what phrase do you know what phrase i think is
00:07:53.200 reversed when they say behind every successful man is a successful woman i think it's the other 0.99
00:07:57.760 way around behind every successful woman is a successful man i agree because if you if you look 1.00
00:08:02.800 at even like pop stars like a lot of times there's always a mentor isn't there someone mentoring them
00:08:07.760 that is so true yeah that is true and if you look at it i think like even from my personal experience
00:08:13.600 as well yeah i look up to like a lot of guys who are like big in the music industry who i'm close
00:08:18.640 with and who are like famous famous and i've learned a lot like so much even even yeah i talked to i talked
00:08:26.640 to someone in the freaking um i forgot who someone that worked in the music industry and they said the
00:08:31.920 reason that record labels are like slow to sign girls is because they'll meet a boy and then just
00:08:39.440 yeah just like stop yeah yeah but then that's because they haven't got control over their emotions
00:08:44.480 you've got a lot of women yeah they get into a relationship and they just forget about everything 1.00
00:08:48.480 else so yeah again like they make their relationship their whole life and then we keep saying about how
00:08:54.560 you need to love yourself and have con self-control boundaries and like yeah don't just drop everything
00:09:00.240 for this i think i mean it just it depends what outcome you want yeah so it depends if if you want to
00:09:07.280 make a bunch of money and that's your number one priority then sure but i mean i know girls that 1.00
00:09:12.880 want 13 kids yeah so how old do you want how old do you want a baby so for a girl that wants 13 kids 1.00
00:09:20.160 what's the best in the blink of an eye yeah what's the best outcome for her oh there's a guy that'll pay
00:09:24.960 the bills he wants a lot of kids drop everything that's why they'll stay because it's what they want 0.75
00:09:31.040 that's why that's why so the girls that like oftentimes if you see like the girls that say 1.00
00:09:35.680 don't drop everything you know they don't usually have better outcomes than the girls that do 0.99
00:09:41.920 um i mean when it comes to relationships yeah what i would say as well though like behind
00:09:46.480 every like that phrase behind every man there is a successful woman i wouldn't necessarily say 1.00
00:09:50.880 like successful in like the financial like sector or something but a woman that's supportive and pushes
00:09:56.800 him to do better like maybe she's there to help him emotionally like he comes home and he's been
00:10:01.840 working a really long day and he knows that he's going to come home to a cooked meal and he's going
00:10:05.760 to come home to love and support no matter no matter what i think that's really motivating for him
00:10:11.680 i'm going to name i'm going to name three billionaires bill gates jeff bezos elon musk
00:10:16.720 he's divorced divorced single what he's single he's got like he's got like six baby mama
00:10:30.320 he's a jamaican at all he breeds them he's a jamaican at all 0.91
00:10:35.040 yeah jamaican guys they always they breed anything 1.00
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