JustPearlyThings - Women are not GOOD LISTENERS

00:00:00.000 I see your logic, but where it's flawed is that,

00:00:03.480 and this is from, you can read,

00:00:05.040 you know, have you heard the book Sapiens by Yovano Harari?

00:00:07.440 This is out of Sapiens.

00:00:08.480 So in that book, he talks about why female-led societies 1.00

00:00:13.420 didn't do as well as they should have done

00:00:15.720 if your examples were correct.

00:00:17.760 And he said that when it comes to organising groups,

00:00:21.580 men are better when it comes to large scale,

00:00:23.540 whilst women are better when it comes to small. 1.00

00:00:25.020 So small social factions, where it's like mothers and the children,

00:00:30.000 when it's large scale, you need to be able to unite people.

00:00:36.320 And men are much better at providing that myth than women are. 0.99

00:00:38.500 So by that same logic, men are still better at leadership

00:00:42.380 than women will, because women are better in small scales, 1.00

00:00:44.600 not large scales.

00:00:45.100 I understand what you're saying.

00:00:46.300 One second, let me move this down.

00:00:48.580 But I feel like what you're saying applies to all genders.

00:00:52.480 So when you're with a large group of people,

00:00:55.460 you need a common myth.

00:00:56.880 And I don't think that's like,

00:00:58.000 I don't think that's dependent on gender.

00:01:00.420 And like Pearl said before,

00:01:01.620 History tells us it is, though.

00:01:02.960 Because again,

00:01:04.080 what that book depicts is that

00:01:05.660 what the best, the most optimal function in society

00:01:08.160 is what lives the tell-to-tale.

00:01:09.560 So if women were just as good at providing myth, 0.90

00:01:12.280 then there would be massive female-led societies 1.00

00:01:14.040 that had their own, let's just say,

00:01:15.920 had their own continent

00:01:16.720 that would be doing their thing,

00:01:17.880 but they don't.

00:01:18.700 And they had the opportunity to do so.

00:01:20.440 I'm quoting the same book as you.

00:01:22.360 I'm quoting the same example,

00:01:24.060 a similar example from this book.

00:01:25.440 And it says there's a cognitive dissonance

00:01:27.300 where women have the skills to lead, 1.00

00:01:30.560 but they're just not put in that leadership role.

00:01:33.100 And men have the typical still.

00:01:34.940 But then wouldn't you say they're not good at it?

00:01:37.600 I didn't say they weren't good at it.

00:01:38.900 I'm just saying that women also have the quality. 1.00

00:01:41.000 No, but I'm saying like,

00:01:42.960 okay,

00:01:44.160 I could say,

00:01:45.440 oh, I'm really good at volleyball.

00:01:47.200 But if I never played

00:01:48.440 and never did it well,

00:01:50.000 then like,

00:01:50.420 okay,

00:01:50.820 I could say redheads are better at volleyball. 1.00

00:01:53.800 But then if redheads never play volleyball 1.00

00:01:55.920 and never do it well,

00:01:57.300 you can't say redheads are better at volleyball. 1.00

00:01:59.100 So saying like women are better leaders, 1.00

00:02:00.680 but if they don't.

00:02:01.640 If you use the example,

00:02:03.500 okay,

00:02:04.400 I'm going to be good at volleyball,

00:02:07.540 but you've never played.

00:02:08.760 And I say,

00:02:09.160 but Pearl's a good athlete. 0.98

00:02:10.440 She'd probably be good at volleyball. 1.00

00:02:11.820 That's probably what I'm trying to say

00:02:13.460 is that women have the capacity 1.00

00:02:15.820 to do these things

00:02:16.720 because they have these skills

00:02:18.780 from other places.

00:02:20.180 So they have people skills.

00:02:21.340 They have listening skills.

00:02:22.460 They can be quite organized.

00:02:23.660 They have a lot of stamina for certain things.

00:02:24.760 I don't know

00:02:25.100 because I think the best leaders are better.

00:02:26.860 They're not really the best listeners.

00:02:28.460 They tell you what to do.

00:02:30.240 I think the best leader

00:02:31.440 is someone that can,

00:02:32.860 is that respected by other people

00:02:34.320 but can also understand

00:02:35.440 what needs to be done now.

00:02:36.820 They can prioritize.

00:02:37.780 This is a super chat.

00:02:38.780 It says,

00:02:39.020 the best leaders are those

00:02:40.180 who are not only good with people,

00:02:42.560 but they must be able

00:02:44.360 to have an arbitrary

00:02:46.840 or an impartial view

00:02:48.060 on any given topic in conflict

00:02:49.800 which best facilitates

00:02:51.400 the larger good.

00:02:52.280 Men are more logical

00:02:53.120 and empirical versus women.

00:02:55.640 So it's just like,

00:02:56.740 yeah.

00:02:56.940 I feel like women can prioritize 1.00

00:02:58.220 as well.

00:03:00.000 And I feel like that's a key.

00:03:01.120 Nah.

00:03:01.280 You keep feeling it.

00:03:02.060 Nah.

00:03:02.280 You keep feeling it.

00:03:03.320 I feel like,

00:03:03.900 I feel like,

00:03:04.360 I feel like,

00:03:04.800 it's all feelings.

00:03:05.220 Because it's a subjective opinion.

00:03:07.160 It's my opinion.

00:03:07.720 Well, I know,

00:03:08.200 but I just think like every,

00:03:09.700 I've always preferred like male bosses

00:03:11.400 because we get emotional.

00:03:12.540 We get in our feelings with stuff.

00:03:14.040 You know,

00:03:14.200 yeah,

00:03:14.540 women and women, 0.81

00:03:15.580 women. 0.81

00:03:16.100 Okay,

00:03:16.380 that is true.

00:03:17.160 That is true.

00:03:17.900 I don't really get on

00:03:18.700 with the women bosses. 1.00

00:03:20.020 But you know what?

00:03:20.980 When things are hard,

00:03:25.040 you want a man beside you

00:03:27.180 that can make

00:03:27.900 all the hard decisions.

00:03:29.320 Obviously,

00:03:29.820 women can as well. 1.00

00:03:31.040 Both,

00:03:31.440 both can do whatever.

00:03:32.820 It just depends on you.

00:03:33.900 But,

00:03:34.420 large scale.

00:03:35.820 Yeah.

00:03:36.400 I feel like what you're saying

00:03:37.240 is like really correlational.

00:03:38.320 But it's been studies to prove it.

00:03:40.940 They didn't do the Scandinavian study

00:03:42.560 on what women do 0.99

00:03:43.880 when given more opportunity

00:03:45.360 to pick what they want.

00:03:46.760 And it turns out that

00:03:47.360 when women are given opportunity

00:03:48.460 to become...

00:03:48.860 They don't really pick stamps.

00:03:49.740 I've seen those studies.

00:03:50.860 I'm just saying that women 1.00

00:03:51.700 have the capacity to...

00:03:52.320 They also did a TV show

00:03:55.680 where they put like 15 men

00:03:57.160 and 15 women 0.98

00:03:57.980 on like two islands

00:03:59.140 and they had to like figure out

00:04:00.180 how to survive.

00:04:01.460 And like by the first day,

00:04:02.560 like the men had figured out

00:04:03.440 how to get water,

00:04:04.140 how to hunt for food.

00:04:04.920 They'd given everybody roles

00:04:05.980 and like the women

00:04:06.840 almost died three times

00:04:08.060 and the producers

00:04:08.680 had to come in and help them.

00:04:11.220 The women are probably 1.00

00:04:12.140 just talking about

00:04:12.800 what they're going to do.

00:04:13.680 Yeah.

00:04:14.040 The men are probably just like,

00:04:15.440 right, I'm going to do this.

00:04:16.440 Stacey keeps telling me

00:04:17.580 what to do, that bitch. 1.00

00:04:19.720 No, but it shows

00:04:20.560 that the more primitive

00:04:21.740 the society,

00:04:22.820 the more gender roles 1.00

00:04:23.740 that they are.

00:04:24.860 It's easily assigned.

00:04:25.860 So the more primitive

00:04:26.420 the society,

00:04:27.140 men do this

00:04:27.720 and women do that. 1.00

00:04:28.560 It's plain and simple.

00:04:29.140 But like we're talking

00:04:29.780 about society like

00:04:30.760 you've read the book Sapiens

00:04:32.040 after the agriculture revolution.

00:04:34.120 So let's talk like

00:04:34.800 if we were hunter-gatherers

00:04:36.520 right now,

00:04:37.200 do you really think

00:04:37.940 we'd be so gender? 0.87

00:04:39.760 100%.

00:04:40.320 You really think so?

00:04:41.300 We'd go back to that

00:04:41.820 because we'd go for

00:04:42.580 what's most optimal

00:04:43.300 for survival.

00:04:44.080 And it's not for you

00:04:44.660 to go out and hunt,

00:04:45.300 it's me.

00:04:45.840 No, but like

00:04:46.360 wouldn't it be optimal

00:04:47.120 that we're both

00:04:47.760 huntering and gathering?

00:04:49.020 It's most optimal

00:04:49.740 that you're at home

00:04:50.840 pregnant with the babies

00:04:52.080 preparing the new generation

00:04:53.860 whilst I'm out there

00:04:55.360 being expendable

00:04:56.020 bringing home the bacon.

00:04:57.340 Yeah, like listen,

00:04:58.220 when I'm going to bed

00:05:00.160 my man has to go on

00:05:01.880 I would naturally expect him

00:05:03.100 to sleep on the side

00:05:03.920 of the door

00:05:04.420 and me closest to the room.

00:05:05.960 That doesn't mean

00:05:06.560 something's going to happen

00:05:07.580 or even just things like

00:05:09.300 putting me to the side

00:05:11.180 of the pavement

00:05:11.700 and him walking

00:05:13.200 on the side of the road.

00:05:14.980 It's not like

00:05:15.580 men are not important 0.99

00:05:17.980 but I don't know

00:05:18.920 as a gentleman

00:05:19.720 It's the first line

00:05:21.360 of protection.

00:05:22.120 Yeah, I would just expect

00:05:23.160 that anyway naturally

00:05:24.000 things like that

00:05:24.820 just seem appealing to me

00:05:26.100 because it's just like

00:05:26.700 if somebody breaks in

00:05:29.220 at 3am

00:05:30.040 who would naturally go

00:05:31.460 and who would

00:05:32.040 naturally cower away?

00:05:33.540 Not that it's a bad thing.

00:05:34.720 I'm going to hide in the bed

00:05:35.520 and expect a woman

00:05:36.280 to come and say

00:05:37.940 babes go get that. 1.00

00:05:38.960 But the thing is

00:05:39.580 my point is

00:05:40.480 usually

00:05:40.800 usually in a time of crisis

00:05:43.420 that's when

00:05:44.120 our natural selves

00:05:45.360 come out

00:05:45.740 because when it's

00:05:46.580 everything stable

00:05:47.180 and calm

00:05:47.580 or whatever

00:05:47.880 we can have the privilege

00:05:49.160 of saying hypothetically

00:05:50.080 I would do this

00:05:50.800 or this or this

00:05:51.200 or this.

00:05:51.480 I could take on a man

00:05:52.300 sure

00:05:52.600 and when it actually happens

00:05:53.920 but Ukraine's a perfect example 1.00

00:05:55.380 Ukraine is a perfect 1.00

00:05:56.380 we live in the modern age

00:05:57.660 people saw Ukraine

00:05:58.760 and if you saw TikTok

00:05:59.540 when that was going off

00:06:00.480 every single feminist 1.00

00:06:02.060 was like

00:06:02.500 listen

00:06:02.960 I'm in the kitchen

00:06:04.060 I do not want to go to war

00:06:05.640 literally

00:06:06.980 No, I agree with you

00:06:09.220 I would never want to

00:06:10.480 actually engage in a fight

00:06:11.860 on purpose

00:06:12.360 even if I was trained

00:06:14.060 to the top level

00:06:15.160 or martial arts

00:06:16.160 because I do train martial arts

00:06:17.200 I still wouldn't want

00:06:18.560 to pick a fight

00:06:19.240 I would still always go

00:06:20.600 because why would I choose

00:06:22.020 to put myself in danger

00:06:23.000 well that's like a martial art

00:06:24.580 like principle

00:06:25.200 wouldn't it

00:06:25.680 like to not deliberately

00:06:27.240 go out

00:06:27.800 exactly

00:06:28.340 but the average woman 1.00

00:06:29.580 just minding your own business

00:06:30.960 I wish I could find this video

00:06:32.360 but it was a video

00:06:33.020 that they showed

00:06:34.060 they just went around

00:06:35.360 recording random people

00:06:36.320 and they asked the men

00:06:37.800 they asked the women first 0.99

00:06:39.600 if you had to pick

00:06:40.620 between you

00:06:41.620 or your husband to die

00:06:42.460 who would you pick

00:06:43.300 and all the women said him

00:06:45.160 and then they asked all the men

00:06:46.660 and all the men said me

00:06:47.920 is this husband and wife?

00:06:50.300 the husband and wife

00:06:51.020 yeah

00:06:51.300 ouch

00:06:52.000 so that's just the perfect example

00:06:53.880 of society

00:06:54.380 and like how women think 1.00

00:06:55.620 because it was their

00:06:56.600 random selection

00:06:57.360 not everyone though

00:06:59.180 I mean

00:06:59.600 I don't think everyone

00:07:00.240 there's some women 1.00

00:07:00.800 that would be like

00:07:01.220 no like take me

00:07:02.520 not you

00:07:03.440 my mum would say

00:07:04.520 that my mum would say

00:07:05.520 rather her than me

00:07:06.520 yeah but you're her child 1.00

00:07:07.740 I've got any mother

00:07:08.760 but most women are saying 0.96

00:07:10.180 take the guy

00:07:11.580 I mean it's the same thing

00:07:13.260 in the Titanic

00:07:13.940 it was women and children 0.90

00:07:15.140 but I think that's like

00:07:16.480 a premise that they used

00:07:17.420 to have in the past

00:07:18.200 that they wanted to say

00:07:19.160 I think that's natural

00:07:20.960 like I think

00:07:21.660 I think men feel 0.66

00:07:23.080 the innate instinct

00:07:24.380 to protect women

00:07:25.280 the same way women 0.99

00:07:26.080 have the innate instinct

00:07:27.160 to protect children

00:07:28.180 when

00:07:28.780 why is there violence

00:07:29.860 towards women 0.70

00:07:30.560 what?

00:07:31.260 if they have an innate instinct

00:07:32.480 to protect them

00:07:32.800 it's actually

00:07:33.520 one-sided domestic abuse

00:07:36.060 is more common

00:07:36.940 for the woman

00:07:37.460 to be hitting the man

00:07:38.360 than the man

00:07:38.800 to be hitting the woman 1.00

00:07:39.540 most domestic abuse situations

00:07:41.240 they're hitting each other

00:07:42.160 so you can't

00:07:42.920 yeah like

00:07:43.240 because a lot of girls do that 1.00

00:07:44.240 they'll say

00:07:44.580 I was abused

00:07:45.240 I was hit

00:07:45.740 I was whatever

00:07:46.260 but they

00:07:47.080 wait hold on

00:07:47.720 let me finish

00:07:48.420 but they'll forget about

00:07:49.260 the part where they're

00:07:50.060 like they're hitting back

00:07:51.200 and so

00:07:52.080 like

00:07:52.720 like there is

00:07:53.720 violence against women

00:07:54.840 but it's not

00:07:55.500 it's not the norm

00:07:56.360 but doesn't that go against

00:07:58.540 like the intrinsic

00:07:59.300 thing to protect women 0.94

00:08:00.880 wouldn't that

00:08:01.640 I don't know

00:08:02.640 go against the laws

00:08:03.500 of evolution

00:08:04.060 for them to want to do that

00:08:05.240 I would say yeah

00:08:06.960 it probably does

00:08:07.840 but that's why

00:08:09.200 it's not normal

00:08:09.980 even when

00:08:11.920 even when

00:08:13.240 you know

00:08:13.600 from

00:08:14.320 holy books

00:08:16.440 they say

00:08:17.200 you know

00:08:17.560 a woman was made 0.98

00:08:18.560 from Adam's

00:08:19.800 Eve was made

00:08:20.340 from Adam's rib

00:08:21.540 that's literally

00:08:22.240 it's not literal

00:08:23.300 it literally means

00:08:24.200 a man needs to keep

00:08:26.140 a woman 0.57

00:08:26.600 under his arm

00:08:27.800 for protection

00:08:28.460 and close to his heart

00:08:29.860 like it's not literal

00:08:31.320 so this is from

00:08:32.920 way back

00:08:33.660 as many of you know

00:08:35.200 I was just banned

00:08:36.440 on TikTok

00:08:37.340 and we are demonetized

00:08:39.060 on a daily basis

00:08:40.280 on this platform

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JustPearlyThings - April 07, 2023

Women are not GOOD LISTENERS

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